"Why do I crave touch but hate asking for it?" | AKA 188

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Kati Morton

Kati Morton

8 ай бұрын

In this episode we will be talking about why we can crave physical touch yet struggle to ask for it and even feel awkward when it’s happening. I will also talk about asking for things in therapy so that we get our needs met, and how we can forgive ourselves for past suicide attempts. I will then dig into therapy ending and why we can fear it, how people can actually love their life, and finally how to communicate about our mental illness. I hope my answers are helpful! Let’s jump right in!
1. I was wondering what your thoughts or tips are for people who crave physical touch but don’t get it or find it difficult or awkward to try and ask for it. 0:43
2. Is it ok to ask your therapist for more directed sessions? When I go into my appointment, she asks what I want to work on and I don’t really know what I want to do or where I want to go. 14:26
3. I was wondering what advice you would give for how to forgive yourself for a suicide attempt? I’m struggling years later when anyone offers compassion or tries to comfort me. 17:52
4. Is it normal to fear the end of therapy? I have only a certain number of sessions and still have a lot but nevertheless I already fear the end. Of course I hope it will be better by then but still the thought of never seeing my therapist again is very hard. 25:09
5. How can people love life? I'm not jealous or angry, it's just a "concept" I don't understand. For me life was/is always being scared, bullied, traumatized etc. I have dealt with severe mental health problems since I was a kid and now on top I was diagnosed with a brain tumor a few weeks ago. That's just health wise but the world we live in is awful. Humans are cruel and it's getting worse and worse. 31:56
6. Hi Kati! I’m new to your channel but I’ve recently been having an issue with communicating my mental illness with my partner. She has asked me to be more open about my depression and anxiety, which I have been doing for the most part, but I am... 35:55
Timestamps provided by ‪@Lemonady‬ :)
Recap by Tammy AI⁠
⁠0:03⁠: 💆 Craving physical touch is a normal and reasonable need, but it can be difficult to ask for it or feel awkward when receiving it.
⁠4:25⁠: 💆 The video discusses how to heal from harmful touch and develop a healthy relationship with touch.
⁠8:06⁠: 💔 Physical touch is a human need, but some people may struggle with it due to various reasons, such as childhood neglect or abuse.
⁠11:59⁠: 👥 The video discusses trauma processing and finding ways to soothe the nervous system in order to cope with triggers related to childhood sexual abuse and the need for physical touch.
⁠15:52⁠: 🗣️ The therapist encourages being direct in therapy and asking for guidance, as it is the patient's time and process.
⁠19:58⁠: 💡 Therapist discusses the importance of therapy, communication, and connection in dealing with suicidal thoughts and attempts.
⁠23:32⁠: 😊 Katie discusses the importance of understanding why something is a big deal to us and suggests exploring therapy to address emotional neglect and inner child work.
⁠27:22⁠: ✨ Therapy can help, but it's important to do the work outside of sessions as well.
⁠31:07⁠: 😊 Focus on the good in life and choose to love it, despite the bad.
⁠36:29⁠: 💬 The importance of consistent and repetitive communication when discussing mental illness with a partner, especially during medication transitions.
⁠39:33⁠: ✨ The video discusses the importance of recognizing and expressing our own emotions and communicating effectively with our partners.

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@outdoorsman426
@outdoorsman426
Unfortunately we live in a world where the minute you tell somebody your needs they use it against you as leverage, or punish you saying you’re too needy, people tell you to just grow up and get over it, etc, etc, etc The things I have seen and experienced growing up and working with children and adults for 17 years would make a grown man vomit. Finding Pure love, compassion, empathy and trust in this current day and age, is next to winning the lottery.
@whitneylee5993
@whitneylee5993
These videos make me feel less bad about myself. Knowing this information makes me understand why I am the way I am. Thanks for being in this space. Hearing you say it does get better is healing. ❤
@jeremymcneill5239
@jeremymcneill5239
I have started seeing cuddle therapists this year. It has helped. In a way, I feel ashamed to pay to be cuddled or touched, but I don't tell anyone what I do. I see doing cuddle therapy as a form of self care.
@petraharwin9670
@petraharwin9670
My positive moment from the day: My team at work all get along so well and always make each other laugh. It’s great being a part of such a lovely team.
@samanthar6172
@samanthar6172
I encourage anyone who is discouraged by the state of the world to go out and be the change you want to see. Volunteer, help your neighbor, pick up some litter....anything that improves things just a little bit is worth the effort. And while doing good things you won't be focused on the negative aspects of life!
@elyaequestus1409
@elyaequestus1409
Wauw, the physical touch one is a great topic. I know I struggle with physical touch and I know that my parents struggle with not knowing how to touch me. I am autistic and touch feels very overwhelming to me. But also, touch felt like it was used in a way to get something done or to confirm. It is a greeting, a custom, a tease but not something that is associated with intimicy or comfort. If anything, the moment my mom gets her PTSD attacks, she completely physically withdraws. Considering she has a 'long and rich' history with SA, it makes sense. Touch just didnt feel save and/or consistant.
@MrsLadyLiberty
@MrsLadyLiberty
I got touch as a child, however it would be withheld as a punishment. They'd say things like "don't come to me now, you're just trying to get out of being bad". It was treated as if I was manipulating my parents and grandparents with my need to be soothed.
@MentalHealthandWellness-dr6by
@MentalHealthandWellness-dr6by
It is sooo hard when someone needs physical touch but does not feel comfortable with touch. I agree that it has a lot to do with trauma, abuse, and neglect.
@sarabooen96
@sarabooen96
my positive for the day was in my appointment with my dietician. i pushed myself to go and she was so kind and understanding. and at today one of the residents at the place i work opened the door for me. and i had a funny conversation with my colleague. life is really tough right now. but it also has these good things:)
@covert_warrior
@covert_warrior
Perfect timing finding this video right now. I was actually crying most of the day due to craving physical touch. I left my husband less than 2 weeks ago and I'm staying at a friend's house. Logically, I know all I have to do is ask or just walk up and steal a hug. But it makes me very uncomfortable. I'm sure it doesn't help that I was brainwashed for the past 12yrs.
@Authentistic-ism
@Authentistic-ism
For me touch was not withheld and there was no physical abuse. However I was emotionally punished and shamed if I didn't what physical affection with family members. My family would request that I hug or kiss them and if I didn't feel like it and said know there was just this huge dramatic reaction from all the adults and I just learned the lesson that it wasn't working because they will make me suffer one way or the other.
@kujmous
@kujmous
There was an incident with my child where they felt like they were being soothed so that their feelings were being ignored and that they were being silenced and dismissed instead of being addressed. This caused them to distrust a soothing touch for several years.
@Lemonady
@Lemonady
Timestamps!
@AmandaMBooks
@AmandaMBooks
I have experience being sexually abused in my teenage and young adult years but on the other hand my childhood experience with touch before that was loving. So I’m thankful for that because even when touch scared me, I can tell myself that safe touch exists. So I’ve found a loving partner and I practice asking for loving touch and affection.
@eloisemarie5219
@eloisemarie5219
Thank you Kati. Your podcasts are so helpful.
@nancyliawoods
@nancyliawoods
I value your content so much, thanks ❤
@pandabytes4991
@pandabytes4991
Hello! I recently rediscovered you channel and have been trying to find help in your videos.
@tonya5915
@tonya5915
You have a great way to keep things simple yet not minimalistic or not cover the topic well. Thank you so much.
@WisconsinWanderer
@WisconsinWanderer
I was hoping that you could talk about skin disease and the devastating impact of chronic acne it has on teenager and even into adulthood. It really messed with my mental health since I was rejected and made fun of as a kid. I didn’t have much or any support back then. I fought suicidal thoughts for decades because I felt so gross and defective. Any thoughts would be welcomed. Thanks Katie 😊
@laurenl720
@laurenl720
❤ your channel. I didn’t/haven’t asked any questions, but these are some I must’ve asked myself, cause I got emotional while listening.
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