Im from Jamaica living in Jamaica, and I've been watching for years even though im only 18. You're so right. I dont want to be average. The average Jamaican girl is working a low paying job with one or multiple kids and is taking care of men who want to be rappers or scammers. I believe im luck. I believe im blessed even though people around me are saying i MUST be realistic. I might not be the richest, and to some, im not even middle class, but i believe im privileged and lucky. Im not a victim. I have so much to be grateful for, and im happy to be alive. I know I'll live a life that im proud of and that i consider successful. LOVE YA SM KELLY!!!

“I can’t be obese, unhappy, and unmarried!” I totally agree!!! 👍🏾 Stay in your feminine energy and continue to attract the happiness you deserve! 💍💍💍

I moved to NY in my early twenties with only $200 and a smile. Manhattan to be exact. Black girl/ big city. Now I’m twice your age , Kelly Stamps, living my best life in Hawaii. Gotta take life by the balls!

"it's normal to not have a friend group" holy crap that hit me

What I`ve learned by age 27 is to *Trust nobody*

I’m overweight, not married and miserable and i have to agree with you. This is a life to run away from. That’s why I watch you.

From a young and awkward black girl, girl please transmit your high self esteem and self concept to me by osmosis 😭 I'm going to grad school in a few months, yet I really want to be happily married and rest in my femininity and you're making me rethink my whole life

At 29 I've learned to avoid onsided interactions. And best of all to never feel ashamed of any advantages I have. 🙏🙏🙏

Something I learned at 20, not every one deserves a reaction. I defended myself when necessary but overall people who I can tell are looking for a response or are used to ppl falling into their antics, I don’t engage at all and let them sit with their actions. I’m young and thriving and personally, don’t want to give my energy to throwaways like that .💕💕

“Struggling isn’t a flex.” Amen

TLDL: Be quiet and listen more, we get one good week to not be in pain so look cute and go out, get a *soft* pretzel and a *soft* life. Second spicy rant: There are alternatives to college debt and a 9 to 5 before becoming a mother. Learn a trade or get a job and learn to live below your means. You will have time to take care of yourself and be kinder to your body, subsequently becoming the best version of yourself sooner. That is my experience.

Not me tearing up for you when you spoke about how much he told u he loved you and wanted to take care of you.I wish you all the best and staying private is the way to go.Go for your heart,and everyone take Kelly as an example that God can give u what u want if you ask him,work for it and remain patient.❤❤

"Dont let losers second guess you" and "shut up" are KEY to happiness. Best bday wishes 🎈✨

The 'jealousy is okay to have. turn it to inspiration' is so true! I'm also 28 and I had friends younger than me and I couldn't understand how they still had a certain type of view of the world. We were just 2 years apart but they were much more childish and I ended up cutting them off from my life.

Yes men can be providers but a woman should have a solid foundation and should be able to be independent. She should be able to take care of herself in the event that something happens to their spouse and can no longer Provide for her. Plus you should never solely rely on one person, should always have a backup.

Going to miss your videos when you start doing less but reallyyyyy happy for you that you’ve found someone who knows how to allow you to be the classy and valuable woman you are ❤❤❤ continue to enjoy life. Thanks for the laughs and inspiration.

The car dealership one is such a crucial one! 😅

Number 19 cracked me up! “The food in the United States is killing us!” * Hides Pretzel 🥨 🤣😂

I'm 28 and have reached the same conclusion. As I get older, I'm realizing it's going to take a lot more for me than most people to be truly fulfilled. I'm grateful for my blessings (and realize I am ahead of most people my age in terms of career/finances) but I want A LOT out of life and I'm going to get it. One step at a time but I WILL get all of it.

This is my third comment under anything on youtube or any social media, but I just had to because you're telling THE truth! I'm a Polish girl with 2 BA's, MA and in the first year of my PhD program. None of these achievements gave me the sense of fulfillment or being good enough. In fact, it's the opposite. I've realized recently that I'm happiest not writing another article or sweating over my dissertation or preparing a conference speech (my current pain), but being in the kitchen, in the garden, in the fresh air, and being rested! I've invested too much time and effort in my "career", but as soon as I get that degree I intend to find a light teaching job, let go of large-scale research and live my feminine energy life too! I've never identified with the various Western cultural nonsense that has unfortunately found fertile ground in my country as well, but I myself have fallen into the mindset of your career equals your worth, which equals your chance of creating a family with someone of values and normal! Wishing you all the best:)! Miami looks good on you:) Maybe someday I'll be able to see the American coast myself, for now I'm left with the Baltic Sea (it may be colder but it's beautiful too!) ;)

Doctor Professor Stamps!!! Your skin is glowing!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.

It was the “Focus on yourself and pray for everyone” for me. That’s been the hardest thing for me to do In life when you have no choice but to just watch all the bad choices your loved ones made/make. I’ve always been an empath and I’m really starting to resent that about myself. Living in the same environment together makes it even harder. It’s difficult to try to create a life in which you can be happy living with all these things going on around you right in front of you and there’s nothing you can do. Taking your advice, I’m determined to continue trying to make life easier and enjoyable for myself and pray for the others who are staying stagnant. I can’t help them if I don’t have an overflow to give. That’s really the mentality you need these days.

those that get it, get it!! i have always had people around me who are jealous.. and some have gotten cut off but im looking around like… i need to find new people who can be happy for me

it's really refreshing to hear what is essentially the dialogue going through my head at all times from you. i don't want an average life - i don't want to slave away at a job that i don't connect with, i want the best body i can have, i want a deep control over my emotions and i seek awareness (in the spiritual sense) at all times, i want to live adventurously and to have my love story with life as a whole. i don't often meet people who feel the same, so i just wanted to say thank you for sharing this with the world, and for being brave enough to do what you think is right despite what our environment tells us we can do.

Im 20, and Ive literally cut off all of my toxic friends and have been living in solitude for literally months Its so exhausting but also so rewarding

I love how unapologetically yourself you are!!!

Kelly continues to inspire me😭💕 please never change for the sake of the future stampede university students

I really needed to hear number 10 about friends cause I’ve never really found that group and I’ve always felt that made me inferior. Especially since everything else in my life is pretty good but I’ve realised now that 1) it’s honestly hard out here to find good, reliable friends as an adult, 2) All I really need is God, my family and future partner. Plus there’s so much jealousy and backstabbing in friend groups nowadays that perhaps I should accept it as divine protection lol. I see some stories on TikTok and Twitter and I know I’d be traumatised by some of these stories of supposed friends plotting on one another.

I told my TikTok, Instagram and FB that I’ll be returning April 1 and now it’s May 17 and I haven’t posted an update. Honestly I don’t wanna. I had so much peace being off social media. I’ve been more present for my family and I can watch movies without missing a scene. It’s been awesome.

Kelly Stamps, one of the only GIRLS WHO GET IT. I feel very understood by this video

honestly probably the best "things I've learned " vid I've watched like I'm re-thinking everything in the best way!!!!!

At 25, I learned not to trust people, and work is work

Posting for engagement! Kelly you are really killing this ! Everything you mentioned about being average is true! I want to follow and not be average as well and I’m glad you are starting to want to be more private! Hopefully if you get some pets you show us them someday!

I’ve loved watching all your transformations. You’re an actual person we are always growing and changing! You’re the best💗💗

If you don’t like your life, change it 👏

" Somebody didn't get a birthday today " Oh! 😭

Love this vid.. I moved from Los Angeles to Austin, TX a year ago and I could go on and on about the differences in my lifestyle between the two places, but one big thing has been connecting with more women who want marriage and a family or at least admit they want that. In LA it felt like we were all just drifting around with the wind… wanting things but never getting them.

THIS CONVERSATION IS BADLY NEEDED. Thank you so much Kelly! ily

The hard part about being average is that no one wants to be average, working their whole lives. Being middle/upper class allows you opportunities to improve your life or give yourself a life of excitement. I don’t want to be average but it seems like the only way to break out of this working 9-5 cycle (or looking for a job in the meantime) is to start a side hustle on KZfaq or do anything online. It seems like many people are doing this now. I watch people who opens brand new tech products, go travel to cool places, live in beautiful homes by themselves, I want to be like them one day so it’s like I live through these videos.

Great vlog Kelly! I love that you are telling people average should not be their aspiration. We limit ourselves by our imaginations. If we can see it, and believe it we can achieve it. You are a blessing! Keep up the work you were put here to do.

I’m in my 2nd trimester of being pregnant for the second time and didn’t get sickness ONCE because I don’t eat processed food bs they sell!!

While I agree that if your goals are stay-at-home-wife a career isn't 100% necessary, women should keep in mind that your "provider man"'s provision will always depend on his love for you. Everyone thinks its forever, but %50 of marriages end in divorce, after which the stay-at-home-wife will have no career, a large gap in her resume, and a home to pay rent at on her own. Hope for the best, but have a plan!

i've definitely "grown up" on a similar timeline as i've watched your videos...I've been married for a year and have recently realized that being an adult is something to embrace and not constantly fight and avoid. it took a long time for me to be able to open up to my now husband because I sort of worshiped my own independence in a way that prohibited real intimacy and connection, and now that i've embraced those things life is so much sweeter, and easier!!

I'm very glad I clicked on this video. Life has been tough and I really needed this today. Thank you, Kelly ❤

you are such a genuine breath of positivity

😂😂😂 #24 ... Yes, we are on a floating rock. I thought that I was the only one. So glad that someone else is on my frequency. Love ya !!!

Clap back is the best advice fr lol. I also just turned 28 🎉

I’m so happy you have found love. Enjoy every step of your journey!

Kelly, I simply adore your authenticity and even more, your humor. 🫶🏾

Kelly i love ya! Your videos always get my mind going!!! Sometimes i have to pause just to write something to express a lil thought im riffing off your topics of discussion. But im shutting up! And listening ❤

You are so relatable to me and I've been following you for years, I think it´s because I also never wanted to be average. Completely agree with the job vs. career part, as a twenty yo I choose to focus on getting a job so I can be financially independent from my parents first, then IF needed I will get a professional certification (probably short and online) so I can earn more and upgrade my lifestyle.

A colleague recently asked me "why are you so elegant today" and I just replied "not just today, always!" Just wear whatever makes you feel on top of your game (you can be comfy AND slaying at the same time!)

This video is very much needed, thank you kelly! Im working hard on changing the things about my life that I can no longer accept. In five years when im 28 my life will look and feel completely different because of the work im putting in now.

i’ve been here since your people pleasing days and i’m just LOVING this new era of speaking nothing but hard truths / facts and defending yourself.!! so refreshing, thank you for being you.!

I’m so glad I get to see your videos, and apply your advice to my life as someone who just turned 18! Thank you 💛

Girl you are glowing! Thank you for your words of wisdom❤

Kelly, happy birthday (internet says may 30😱). Thank you for staying & being Authentic, living freely and softly. You inspire me & a whole lot others to do same. I pray this new season ushers in more grace to become all that God designed you to be IJN AMEN. Muah🙏🏽💋

Ms. Stamps never fails to give us her unhinged advice!!! I love it! Ofc you can’t do exactly what she does, you need to take what she says and make it your own by adding your own personality. You also got to know yourself absolutely facts! ❤👏🏾😊

Omg it’s so nice to hear someone who has their own opinion💓 keep it up

Im gonna save this video and show it to my kids once they’re teens or young adults. Sums up what I wish I knew at 16-25 years old. Thanks ❤

Started watching you again and maaaaan from 2020 to now. I still love your content.

The way I needed you to basically yell this in my face. Ty Stamps 💖

Great class! Thank you for sharing this insightful wisdom!!

Hello Kelly! I’m so happy that you are taking so time for yourself. I feel fulfilled hearing that. You are so relateable and you are so very loveable ❤ Whenever I listen to you, I think wow! It is thanks to relateable people like you I feel okay during challenging times. You spoke into my life when I was down, and you continue to breath and most importantly live good advice. So thank you so much! I am so overjoyed that they are women just like you in this world. Have the best month of your life. -Gabby 🎉

yes to creating dream lives ✨ love your insight Kelly, thank you ☺️

I love when you said you discover a new thing everyday.... That filled my heart. Women get one good week out of the month to be pain free ❤❤❤ Clap back I'm here for it . 😩🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I talk about this on my recent podcasts; being mediocre and basic is not wrong but a choice! I do not want to live a mediocre life because we are more than what we've been taught or directed by society's expectations! happy I discovered your videos, I feel on track and relatable in my current transition in life! ly!

Wise words Kelly. I'm with you on this ❤❤

love you Kelly! glad god is guiding you !

I’m so proud of your Growth spiritually and wholeheartedly. I’m a 36 year old happily married Afro male Artist who’s never been in agreement with being average. Thanks for sharing and being always funny , encouraging, entertaining and inspiring

1st time watching you girl you had laughing but you keeping it real 💯and I appreciate that ,there’s nothing at being an average person .

I totally resonate with this so bad- I agree ! not everyone will but I totally get it👌 if someone doesn’t get it, that’s okay- I hope they find joy and peace in their lives too

Happiest of birthday! May the Lord continue to bless you and keep you! I’ve watched you since the beginning and it’s been a pleasure to watch you do you. I’ll be 33 this year, and I’ve learned the above as well. Most importantly allow God to continue to shape you. Developing discernment as you continue to age. As a woman of God, it’s important to always desire to live more like Christ. Even in forgiveness! We forgive because God forgave us. But the Lord also says multiple times throughout the Bible that he not only blots out our transgressions but he will not remember our sins. 💫 how wonderful 💫 imagine if he didn’t?! We pray for the offender and we pray for the release of our personal resentment. It’s so important that we strive to be the example to non believers, even thru those hard times.

You are glowing Kelly. 🥺🩷

okay she actually looks extremely pretty in this video

Hi Kelly, I never comment on youtube videos but thank you for sharing your stories and your messages 🙏🏽

Thanks for your knowledge Queen! 💗

I love you and love this. Thank you for these facts!!

Honestly this was spot on.

Going to replay this everyday ❤ Love you Kelly

I went to NYC for first time and i got a eataly tiramisu bc of you! Glad you still create videos!

great video- BTW your skin is looking FABULOUS!

Thank you Kelly ❤❤❤

i love all of this, well said!!

Thank You Kelly. I'm a follower of God and it was refreshing to hear what I've been feeling but not verbalizing it to the extent you did. I live in Florida as well and have noticed in the Church community, there's a mentality of struggling and not desiring to live comfortably. The lie from Hell saying God wants us to be poor or to struggle. Nope. Seek first the Kingdom of God and all his righteousness and all things will be added.

Love watching your videos, will miss you if you post less but you gotta do what's right for you. Also, so glad you are happy with your man 😊. Be well.

26 and I’ll be 27 in December. I spent my early twenties living for everyone else and stressed out. Now Im starting to live for me and do things. Also I hate how a lot of people are ageist. Everyone should be happy that we are aging!

Nahh when I heard you say that you might start posting once a month or even less, I was kinda sad ngl. I've been here for a looonggg time, since you did choreography for different k-pop songs and wig reviews and I've watched how you've come to this moment. It's just amazing. As a black girl who loves anime, drawing, computers, and being soft and feminine the Godly way, it's been so comforting watching your videos. However, the peace and rest you've been telling us about is God-given. Who are we to determine how He shapes your life and that might include, like you've said stepping back or posting less etc. Just wanted to say that lol. You're super awesome Kelly

Girl i needed this

You’re so right! We content creators need to stand up for ourselves.

Struggling is not a flex 💪. Kelly is cooking !!

I love you Kelly!

GOOOO KELLY !!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Say less is good practice. Recover and revent yourself is a necessaries with realistic objectives... Have the courage to find a new state and or new neighborhood.. Gosh, I'll be extra busy work on my new life before I know it. Thank you, Miss. Kelly 💫⚘️✌🏼

Yesss I'm ready for 28 🎉❤

That was beautifully said!

I'm not where you are yet but i can feel it i have been telling myself all the thing you are saying and now i aligned with your channel (spirit angel) I am happy rich and living my best life! I know its coming i can taste it!

Love your videos Kelly! :)

Happy birthday Kelly 💚🤍

The best of birthday wishes love! 💕🫶🏾💕