How to outsmart a Narcissist 1) NO CONTACT 2) NO CONTACT 3) NO CONTACT As long as the NO contact is 100% "Watertight" ... Texting or reading the Narcissist's texts is a breach of "No Contact" ..Looking at the Narcissist's social media is a breach of "No Contact" ..Talking to the Narcissist if they turn up at your home or work is a breach of "No Contact" Your SILENCE kills them.

They win if we stay. We win when we leave them. Just break free. Just do it. Stop the immature torture. Peace and love to all those who fell victim.

Walk away, without a word, and keep walking.

A preface: I was raised by a narcissistic mother. At 16, I was raped by a schoolmate, who threatened to kill my family if I told anyone. At 19, I married a narcissist man. After the birth of our first child, I became a stay at home wife, and became his verbal and emotional punching bag. How did I cope? I started having affairs- lots of them, because this was the only place I had any say in what happened. Much later, I learned this was typical rape victim behavior, but at the time, it was my only way to maintain my personality, and worth. I finally got away from my husband, but had emotional scars that can still surface if triggered. I also distanced myself from my mother. Took a long time, but I have recovered, and am very happy with my life as it is now.

The ONLY way to win a no-win situation is not to play!😎

It's much harder when the narcissist has your small children and neglect them to upset you. It's very sickening. They are extremely unwell people. I applaud those who can easily step away.

If you're a child who grew up with narcissist parents, then, it's difficult to say we had a part in as a victim when we had no power as a child.

I think the narcissist either targets another narcissist or a very good person who is naive. The good person is not flawed, they are loving, giving people who can't fathom anyone being evil. It doesn't cross their mind. And the narcissist gets them to commit by love bombing, stories of trauma, getting the victim to make promises to them (playing on integrity).

I LOVE the way he IMMEDIATELY starts giving you answers WITHOUT a boring conversation at the beginning! I subscribed immediately for this reason! Refreshing! I wish ALL podcasts would do this! I cannot thank you enough!🙏✨💜✨👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Actually told my ex, "I'm not fighting about reality anymore."

I'm in the very early stages of a marriage separation from a clinically diagnosed NPD/BPD husband. This is one of the most helpful videos I have watched on this topic. I have been doing a lot of self-reflection as to how I ended up here, knowing I have a lot to answer for to myself. I really appreciate how blunt you are about taking responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Being a with a narcissist truly has to be one of life's greatest gifts for personal growth and development!

"We aren't some empathic angel.. we are easy prey." Amen! I always felt saying the narcissist wants you because you're so extra wow, was stroking our egos ( ironic no?) and not getting to the core issue. Being so nice to get people to like us, because of childhood traumas, to the point of suppressing a person's own wants and needs, isn't angelic, it's a perfect situation for a narcissist to exploit.

If you think you can change a narcissist you will get stuck in their web of empty conversation.

Depriving a narcissist of attention is like depriving them of oxygen, eventually they seek oxygen supply elsewhere.

Once when a narcissist pretended to be interested in my current life, she loudly asked me at a party in front of her new fiancé, “What are you up to these days? My answer was, “the same usual stuff” … I knew she was faking her interest in me. Although she was a menace family member, she never paid any attention to me before that day, so it was impossible for her to recall what my “usual stuff” was. I wasn’t about to share my business with this narcissist scheming trouble maker.

"We are re-living the unhealed trauma from our childhood when we are in a relationship with a narcissist."

Someone once told me.,. A narcissist worst fear is to be insignificant and when we don't engage with them, it brings that right up to the surface. I've found this to be 100% true

I know this to be true. I am alone and put narcissistic people out of my life. I have been threatened, and harassed not giving them what they want. They have no power over you unless you give it to them. You may be alone, but you will have more peace

Sometimes agreeing with them doesn't work because they are so ready for a debate they change their story !!

Reaction control is the first step in dealing with narcissists. Because they will take advantage of every reaction you have and attack you.

1. Use a Wall of Pleasantness, Maturity, and Moderation. 2. Hire a coach or therapist to help us. We need an outside place to go for support when we want to go back to them. 3. Don't defend, explain, engage, or correct them. They will NOT see the truth. Don't call them out or shrink or feed them. 4. Agree with them even if what they say is ridiculous. Don't argue with them. Whenever someone criticizes us, they don't realize they are criticizing themselves too. Whenever someone judges me they are actually telling me about themselves. 5. Get into your own life. Show them how insignificant they are. Find your interests that have nothing to do with them. They filled a hole in you that you need to fill for yourself. Recognize your own mistakes in not pursuing your own needs and wants and by getting into the relationship with them in the first place. Don't stay the manipulating, disempowered victim. Don't give yourself away, and stop saying yes to things you know are wrong. 6. Mirror their behavior and act just like them. Trick them. But if you start hating yourself for treating them badly, it's not really worth it. Pay attention to your feelings. See the part you're playing in the Narcissism dynamic. We are responsible for our actions. 7. Heal yourself. Own that you chose the narcissist because of childhood dysfunction. Make healing that childhood trauma a priority. Then you can stop reliving it. Take responsibility for the part you (unconsciously) played in choosing them. You can forgive yourself for being perfectly imperfect. Let yourself off the hook. Discover what your needs and wants are. Realize that you were manipulative too. 8. Just don't do it---don't become a narcissist.

Put them aside as soon as you know who they are and what they do. Don't "offer" your life to them. Life is too short.

"when we argue with someone... [who is saying] something that isn't true, we're being codependent." Such a clear signal to be aware of!

Mirroring his behavior results in him telling me I'm rude and vile

You said, don't do it alone. Too late. I left my narcissist 3 years ago. Walked out with 2 suitcases. Everything else was just STUFF. I never went back. No contact. I was with him for 38 years. It was hard to be myself, but everyday I get better. The break started when I refused to engage. I started taking back my power. BTW, at the time, I didn't know what a narcissist was. But now that I watch these videos, I see the dynamic. And, yes, I slowly gave away my power until one day I snapped. Glad I got out alive. Thanks for sharing 👍 😊 your knowledge. Great video. Love the purple 💜 (which is a power color).

You can love people from afar!!! Peace, Love and stability in your life is important.

*I feel like i’m listening to Jesus😂🙏🏻 this man is preaching the truth. I felt insane for so long because the narcissist would get a reaction over something so insignificant and it would end up going into history from 20 years ago. Thank you for this content💕*

I think you may be missing the dangerous rage we're going to get, as soon as they know we're disengaging. They'll strike!

I look back on my behaviour and laugh at myself. I allowed it all to happen. My intuition told me something was wrong but I still kept going back because of my early trauma. The day things changed for me was when I practised dropping into my body into the hurt and it just faded away. I had a couple of slips after that but felt much stronger overall. It’s a journey.

Empath here, who's in process of finding self.

A lot of self proclaimed “empath”s are not empaths. They are simply elevating themselves in a narcissistic fashion.

I thought I attracted the verbal abuse bc I was fat and ugly and could not do better. But actually it was years of altering my personality to be accepted by the “world” that I didn’t know who I was and what I needed and wanted. I have healed myself and gain my power back. What a roller coaster of a life of lessons. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏

A word of caution; be careful agreeing to something that's illegal. They might be recording and play it for others. That's dangerous

Wow! I am glad I left my mean & narcissistic husband after 25 years of marriage. It saved me in so many ways

Amazing advice! If I fight with him , he wins every time! He’s much louder, much taller, much stronger, and he has a lot more money. When I called the police , I just made a fool of myself by crying , acting confused and shaking ,while he’s standing there calm and collected , rolling his eyes. Never a good idea to bring narcissist’s wrath upon yourself , better to let them save their face and proceed out of there with caution. Far , far away...

One thing that my special narcissist hates is the silent treatment. They feel that they MUST be acknowledged; because they truly feel that they are the center of the universe.

As someone who is a narcissist, it was getting professional help and therapy that helped me so much. I have been able to build very strong relationships with my family and more. If you are involved with someone that has narcissistic tendencies, I recommend getting the same treatment. If they flat out refuse. Leave and give them absolutely no attention.

I’m watching this video as a codependent who actually took responsibility, went to therapy, healed, and is not miserable any more. This video is my life the last twenty years, married a narcissist, had a son with him, suffered chaos, blamed him for everything UNTIL I decided that I need to get my life back. It was am easy process after taking responsibility. I can now have a totally peaceful coexistence with him, because I don’t engage. Even though there are moments that I am tempted to fall back into that pattern, those moments only serve to remind me that I can’t ever be complacent. Trauma does not leave. Healing is just learning to leave with it. I am a self sufficient woman now, not even on the look out for another relationship to fill any void. Thank you for this video. I subscribed because you are so on point

I cried during this whole video! Of all the videos I have watched about narcissists, this one hit me more than all of them put together. Especially my part in playing the victim which I now realize I do so well. I am so glad I found you. Thank you!!!!

You are 100% correct! While studying your narcissistic partner one cannot help but take on those traits studied. Drags an empath to a dark place.

We are already smarter than they are. The key is to not allow what makes us more evolved, our emotional maturity, cause for us to have so much empathy for them that we allow for them to abuse us. Most times, it is this empathy that gets us in trouble. We don’t respond the way we should at the first sign of misconduct because we assume that we are incorrect in our judgment. We are smart enough to know that if someone is damaged they are going to act out and mistreat others. So, we are more patient with them. This is where the problem comes in. Our caring and ability to identify with a person’s pain causes for us to fall victim to their callous behavior. We move the boundary for them because we believe if we do, we can help them. We believe that all they need is love. The problem is, they don’t really want it. They just wanted us to move the boundary. They literally want to see if they can continue to make us do things we not wish to do. They want to see if they can cause a reaction that is out of character. They want to watch us unravel. It makes them feel powerful. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,

I know it's a projection and probably unhealthy but while listening to your videos I felt like I found a loving parent that I never had. Every single word is very important and valuable. Thank you!

My ex narc is not deeply hurting … he takes care of himself and always will. His comfort is top priority, it’s not covering his pain. At 65, still the same

Regarding agreeing with the narc, my narc called me crazy. I agreed with him and said, "Yep, I'm crazy." He couldn't say anything else after that.

Isn’t it the strangest thing? I am still amazed that I lived obliviously not knowing about narcissists until I was 56. Unfortunately I had the displeasure of learning. I was able to put a name to it 3 years in but it has taken me 3 years and counting of getting free. I am slowly healing and learning my part in it. I am trauma bonded. Between the Covid lockdown and allowing myself to stay in a relationship that my entire self was screaming “your mental health is in danger” nearly killed me. I don’t like who I am now but I am getting there. And I agree that a big step is accepting responsibility.

As an Empath myself and 67 yrs old and as an Awakened Soul on my journey, you can darn bet there was emotional damage when I was young. I had abusive relationships back to back and came to the realization I was attracting them somehow. Last thing I wanted! Lol. It took a wise person like yourself to encourage me to search my past for every hurtful comment or action done to me to scar me. To react, to relive, to feel sorry for my inner child, to hug myself, to tell myself it's okay and I love you(me) and everything I did or said in anger or acting out I forgave. My reward was asking myself what did I learn? Was I stronger, more sympathetic, did I learn a lesson? Can I recognize the same pain in others, can I commiserate maybe offer support and know exactly how they feel? Yes. People are drawn to me and spill their problems all the time. I've learned my boundaries, give my needs priority, stay grounded, be more of an observer and never give away my own power. We are responsible for our thoughts, feelings and actions.

Thank you. I have a neighbor a couple of doors up with shocking narcissistic behavior to everyone in the complex. Needless to say she has no visitors. Since I said to her, " Live your life, and I will live mine, there is no need for more than that." From that time she has done her best to provoke me. It hasn't worked, it is best to ignore her, she hates that, but my life is calm with out her in it. She still throws nasty comments at me from time to time. Two years of no contact, perfect.

Ouch! That hurt Kenny. You just made me open my eyes. I kept thinking I was the victim. I am addicted to these severely twisted men, because I have never dealt with my own messed up childhood. Thank you!

I did this with my older sister, not realizing that she was a narcissist at the time, but knowing that our conversations were unhealthy and causing me a lot of anxiety. She would call me and gossip about other people in our family, and I’d get emotionally involved, then she’d hang up the phone and go about her business and sometimes claim that the conversation hasn’t occurred at all. I’d get all worked up over something crazy she told me, not be able to sleep for days, think about nothing else, and then when I’d follow up with her she’d pretend like she didn’t know what I was talking about. So after a few YEARS of this (yeah, I’m slow I guess, plus she’s 8 years older than me,) I decided to just be pleasant instead of getting sucked into the drama and allowing myself to get upset. So she’d tell me something shocking that supposedly happened, and I’d just say “Oh wow that sounds really crazy.” And she started to realize that I wasn’t buying it anymore. That’s when she got ANGRY and started talking about me to other people in our family. I only figured this out because people started treating me like a social pariah, and even cousins I hadn’t seen in years would act really weird around me. I thought I was doing something to deserve this, was laying awake wracking my brain to figure out what I possibly did or said to cause people I was perfectly pleasant to to behave like I was a persona non grata. It was only when another sister started talking to me about all of these things she’d “heard” about other family members that I realized that this other sister had become her flying monkey, and I was now a target of rumors. But you know what? I’m still glad I got away from that role, because I actually feel so much better on a daily basis having gotten away from being the flying monkey. I have way less stress. I can’t seem to get my other family members to realize that she’s spreading hateful lies and rumors constantly, and that the minute they stop helping her spread these lies she’ll turn on them too. But I can save myself

You're right. We have to take responsibility for putting ourselves in a relationship with a Narc. However, as a child I had no choice but to survive my narcissistic parents as best I could. That's the thing.

Very good info. I just got into a relationship a few months ago with a borderline narcissist. I am a very independent woman and have a decent self-esteem and am not a co-dependent so when he recently sent me a shocking long text, trying to degrade me, after having a great time together, I could see right through him trying to control me such as: insisting on me putting him on my car insurance, investing into a business HE wants and he mentioned all my control and power I am not giving to him. ….I would never support a man! That long text woke me up to his real agenda. This video just confirms it. Thanks, I’m out.

Good advice. I’m not miserable because I have found my way out of the narcissist misery years ago, and learned to create my own peaceful reality by trial and error. I agree that while it may be gratifying temporarily to give the narcissist a dose of their own medicine, I could see that I was becoming more unhealthy and dark by doing that. Detachment with love has been the answer for me. Can take a lot of pain to get to the point to wear one chooses that route, but it’s wonderful. I wish all the narcissists wellness and health on their own journey. They are great teachers to those of us who need to learn the lessons from them.

Very true. Until we recognise our own role in the dance it will be difficult to stop the dance 🙏

As a victim of narcissistic abuse......I can now many years of healing later...see that I gave all my power away to EARN the illusion of security. I either bowed down or was threatened to be hurt worse and or abandoned and left to die. I was a child and didn't know any better, and my number 1 value is to avoid pain...feel safe.

I love how he points out that you’re also responsible and not just a victim. I have learned to take accountability for my part of every situation that I was manipulated in. Did he steal my kids bc he lied to me about not having to go to court.. yes, BUT ultimately it’s my fault bc I should have called my atty and verified what he told me. In every situation, I am partially to blame and I had to take accountability for that. For about the first three, four years, he had everyone tricked. Looking back, there were red flags, but I chose to stay, hoping that it would go back to how it was in the beginning. In the end, I found out that was also a lie.

I dated a female narcissist for 10 months and the irony is she wanted us to go into therapy to work out our problems -that puzzled me, wouldn’t they just get exposed?? I was not educated on the illness until after the relationship was over. I was so burnt out from her I just logically thought stay away from her and let the candle burn out little did I know that was the best remedy to counter attack their grip on you

That bit about empaths elevating themselves as angels and nothing but victims of the evil narcissists is so true. I’ve done this for so long in my life. We have to realize that none of us is all good or all bad. We are a mixed bag, and human nature is complicated. It’s freeing to take responsibility for your part and make the changes necessary to stop the addiction of co-dependency. It’s hard work though, because it literally is an addiction. But at some point you get tired of blaming and your own crap and realize it’s on you to change.

This guy gets it. Empaths, listen & warp speed yourself ahead to healing!

I burst out laughing when you said, “you’re watching this video because you’re miserable”. Omg! Let’s get real, right? Seriously, I’m well past the midway point of healing, AND😁 I would like to make it all the way before I die. Thanks for the references to your videos and books and healing monthly club. I like your depth of understanding and your concise, articulate & thought provoking/affirming videos. There are some hard truths we battle-scarred codependents must internalize before we can truly become healthy, strong, independent human beings.

My fingers hurt from writing so much of this video. I've been trying to figure out my son's girlfriend for 1 1/2 years & could never "get" to her. Now I see that she's just been playing a sick game with our whole family... and I've played my part in it all. She's not my daughter, they dated for a very short time, then became pregnant. I didn't even really know her but thought we had a cordial relationship. Soooo, I've held my tongue in hopes that I can have a relationship with my granddaughter, but in the process, I've totally lost myself, my mind & my marriage is even suffering from all the constant stress & drama. I have to find my way out of this. I hope listening to more of your videos can get me there because I just can't keep seeing this beautiful little toddler running around who doesn't even know or feel that I'm her grandmother who loves her dearly.

Thank you! Spot on. I'm 17 years out the door from a sociopath and what you say is so true. I've stayed single because I'm afraid I'll repeat my poor choices. I'm happy though.

Yep My life improve dramatically when I refused to fight with the ex any more.20 years later we actually get along ok in family social situations. Result is I'm a much happier person and he has been forced to deal with his own issues.

Thankyou for pointing out that we must take responsability for our choices, that is trueiy what seperates us from them.

I want to control everything and everyone around me because I am a superior person and deserve to be in charge. I just hate it when other people can be better at narcissism than me. Thank you for this advice. I’m not ready to grow up and act in a mature way. Being a victim gets me so much more attention. And makes ME the center of attention.

From my experience, the narcissist will also always try to play the victim card. They will never admit they are the villain, as they are incapable of self reflection. They don't feel shame or guilt from acting the way they do, but when you mirror them, it is a drain on you, as you are actually a caring person. That is why, ultimately the best thing you can do with a narcissist is leave and never look back. You will never have a relationship with them where love goes both ways, because with a narcissist, it isn't about who you are. It's about what you have to offer, and how much they can take from you.

You are right...10 years ago I removed myself from an narcicissist because I felt the relationship distroyed me and I wanted to survive:I felt like I was spit out a tumbler,depressed for 15months,filled with anger and revange,learning to let go,taking responsibility for myself and the codependent part I played,it was the biggest lesson I ever faced,seeing myself as empath(angel),becoming aware of being responsable for my own life!I emigrated to avoid him and the pain,best decision ever

Hate to admit it but I think you’re spot on with the empath assessment.

I love you explained that the empath plays a role in the narcissistic relationship. Growing up with a narcissist father and working 10 years with a covert narcissist boss and an office bully, I had to take a hard look at myself as to why I stayed as long as I did. From videos like yours, I now have the skills to recognize narcissism and stand up for myself and walk away. Thank you so much! ❤

Never lose your temper they love to fight, be polite , calm , it infuriates the life out of them because your not biting. They want you to be subservient under their control. It’s kind of smothering you in anger. If their pushing you into a conflict, it means she wants out and is only their for the cash when you fall into the “I have had enough trap”, either that or she is having an affair and you are toast classic narcissistic behaviour. She will make out as though she is the victim when really it’s you !!

Wall of pleasantness reply 😊 that’s exactly how I engage with narcissists. The moment it goes toxic I exit.

I'm so relieved to know I've done everything right..disengaging...

The trap of trying to manage another’s emotions in my life came from an anxious attachment to my mother who was still in deep grief over the still-birth of her full term first born child. I came less than 12 months later and felt it was my job to make her happy. I hope that revelation helps someone here. My stbx was cruel but he saw my capability to overfunction in friendships carrying most of the emotional responsibility and it made me a target for him to be lazy in his own emotional growth. What I did not realise is how deeply some people can hide and pretend to be someone else. And I did not think any human being would want to stay unhappy instead of looking inside.

After 40 years I learned that my husband is a narcissist this video and schools help me a lot to understand he does not have the power anymore he has so much power over me I have to step up and walk away and now I am at peace thank you so much 57 living my best life

Thank you ❤❤❤ I made the mistake to tell my narcissistic parent that I remove myself from our relationship, and of course he comes after me stronger than ever. Full blown attacks, and I get weird blaming comments from relatives. Just as predicted I suppose, and it just proves to me even more that I need to simply remove myself from the relationship and live my life happy and surrounded with good people. Yet, despite this I feel more free than ever, and I have even started to laugh and feel calm.

I'm so grateful for finding this video . Thank You . We all have a part in every relationship.

Kenny, thank you for helping me to accept my responsibility as an empath for the difference between what I perceive about myself as an empath and what’s really going on. I work each day on being the best version of myself but the aha moment is what role I play in my experience & interaction w/narcs that I tend to encounter bc of my unhealed self. Thank you very much for this epiphany. I recognize there’s another layer I need & want to work on. Powerful stuff man! 💯🎁❤️🎉😎

Wow now I know why my son exhibits the behavior toward me and why I have allowed it since he became an adult. I worked 2 jobs 16 hrs a day so he could go to college etc. He is a spoiled brat!! For 25-30 years and 2 wives later I have blamed myself. My grandkids are even allowed to treat me with rudeness and disrespect. After he reduces me to tears etc he will leave and I will not hear from him for weeks, months. Guess he was using me to get his "fix". That over. Your video have been remarkable in describing his behavior....A burden has been lifted, I have been praying for "why" he treats me the way he does, what do I need to change, now I know...Thank you and God bless.

One way of strengthening yourself is to make a list of 25 things you like about yourself, keep it with you, look at it as often as needed!

THANK YOU for the honest and real advice! It’s so true, the minute I realized my own self abandonment, it was game over. Growth can be so painful, and it’s so worth it!

I genuinely appreciate your honesty, humility and genuinely empathy with which spill hard truth. Thank you so much 🙏🏽

I was fool by a so called friend...She fed on my vulnerability my compassion and finally my money 💰 . Not that I had alot of money but what I did have she took. At least I've kept my pride and walked away from this evil friendship. Anyone reading this, get away while you can. They will take everything they are parasites who not only take your dignity but your sanity too!!

I can stop myself from going back. What I have trouble with is I find myself walking away from everybody, not trusting anybody.

I like your style and honesty. You’re right about taking on our own responsibility without it being our fault.

Your right ! I went to therapy for 12 years to learn this after I had a full Nervous breakdown ! Thank you For this , I have many in my family !

If deflections start getting confusing, you start experience cognitive dissonance due to gaslighting and now you are not sure who is the narc between you and your partner, one of the ways to determine who is who for yourself is to see how you react to your partner’s wins ( promotions, raise, new positive hobby, sport etc.). Empath always cheers for someone’s wins, narc always finds negative or gives you backhanded compliments after any of your wins or something positive in your life.

I wanted to thank you for opening my eyes. I never realized that I was letting myself be a "victim." I had gotten so low that I forgot I am in control of myself. I am responsible and I was also being selfish & I needed to hear that I have to be held accountable for the role I was playing in this relationship. I never had someone explain what I knew deep down but didn't want to hear, because the truth hurts. I feel I can now heal & get out of what I thought was hopeless. I feel relieved having hope & life will get better as long as I do something about it!

This is the most concise, wholesome, informational, and educational video I've come across on youtube. Thank you for your words, wisdom, and dedication to sharing this raw truth. ❤

This is THE most informative and helpful video on this dilemma I have yet to watch. And I will watch it over and over again.

wow the world needs more people like you sir. telling the truth

Ken. You hit a nerve,man. The part about my role in failed relationships and how I can be manipulative too. Thanks.

Ouch. This hurt, but it was exactly what I needed to hear. I have to understand the role I played in allowing this to happen. I have to understand what unresolved, unhealed childhood trauma made me the kind of target who would be a narcs option. I'm going to start here to resolve this issue. Thank you for this insight, because of ALL the information I've found, this one makes it all make sense and gives me hope that one day I can find peace. And I don't have to die to find it.

Wow! This is so refreshing we have to take responsibility for allowing these things to happen to us! We are not victims!

Love the colors of your video! All of them are matching. My dad is a narcisist, now I have 27 years, and I'm depressed because my life is a failure... I let him say no to me for too many years, I lost everything because I grew up a person without social skills, and many emotional problems, so my life passed without achieving anything in life, because I was too insecure and too afraid of the world. My life is really harder now, because I am adult but already lost my best age to accomplish things, and still got emotional problems that gave me depression. Hope one day I'll be able to not only be healthy, but change my life and stop bothering people about my mental health.

I love the ending of this video, the ownership that we have to take and forgiving ourselves, Thanks!

No contact is the only way to deal with these infuriating people. Great suit, by the way.

Absolutely, time to call out the perpetual narc victims. We do have self responsibility in this 💪

Wow, this video really blew me away. This is good stuff. Accountability for your actions and the part you play is so right. Being a victim is weak and easy. There is a valuable lesson to be learned when you are an empath. You will repeat the cycle until you are ready to have the victory.

very enlightening Kenny and 100% correct. Five years ago I would have gotten so mad with you at this video lol but now I can look back and recognise every single thing you say is correct, that's what healing brings us, 20/20 vision and my boundaries are now iron-clad , never been happier.

Thank you Kenny Weiss. I was not angry to hear this. I realize that my own actions and emotions are not caused by other people. I am glad it made sense to me to just cut ties with my narcissist and not have any hate filled feelings toward them once I was wise enough to do so. Feeling sad, as this is a family member that I will always love. This video is THE most insightful video I have ever watched, I believe❤

26:00 #7 Heal yourself (most important!) 30:00 “I’m going to go after them, just the way they went after me”? If you dislike their treatment of you so much, why would you become them? (He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone at her) Take responsibility for yourself and become the example. You do not want to become the same as them! Thank you Kenny 🙏