Sometimes, you don’t recognize the gaslighting until the relationship is over!

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Sometimes, you don’t recognize the gaslighting until the relationship is over!

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Kojo Sarfo, DNP

2 жыл бұрын

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@V0idFace 2 жыл бұрын

That’s not gaslighting, it’s just insulting.

@dolphinman9896 2 жыл бұрын

@tinaturner247 2 жыл бұрын

Right! I hope this dude isn't in mental health.

@spartans7748 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 so true

@gangstalkingsimulation1319 Жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I said b 4 I saw your comment

@pawonpawon7662 Жыл бұрын

And manipilation...

@Elfieee13 Жыл бұрын

Gas lighting is way more subtle this is just straight up bullying

@criticality8522 Жыл бұрын

I don't know, I don't really think gaslighting is a thing, I think you're just trying to make me look stupid.

@SReginaSmallo-0 Жыл бұрын

@TheMatrixofMeaning Жыл бұрын

@@criticality8522that's gaslighting 😅

@criticality8522 Жыл бұрын

@TheMatrixofMeaning i don't think that's what it means, please stop manipulating me into thinking that's what it means

@MCognettaable 11 ай бұрын

Exactly! Really good manipulators and abusers are very subtle, it’s hidden and insidious, because then when you even start to catch on it has so much plausible deniability baked in that you will question yourself..and duh, that’s the goal! If someone just calls you useless it will be much easier and quicker for you to see and leave 🤦🏻‍♀️

@US1151 8 ай бұрын

He’s gaslighting us with this video 😂💀

@jessenceq3250 4 ай бұрын

Haha I just wrote that before I saw this comment. Wit ftw!

@lydiarouse8241 4 ай бұрын

Exactly lol

@jemmaab3383 4 ай бұрын

I think so too 😂😂

@BeautyLoves88 4 ай бұрын

HONESTLY!!! lolllll!!!

@Doctor.Dentista 3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@aninatalia 9 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is far more manipulative and less straightforward than this ‘by far’…

@gangstalkingsimulation1319 Жыл бұрын

Somebody need to do some more homework on gaslighting

@angelac.2384 9 ай бұрын

😂

@yltnaillirb4438 9 ай бұрын

A LOT more homework.

@thecornucopiasystem 8 ай бұрын

Yeah, this is just staight up devaluation. Gaslighting would be denying the devaluation ever occurred

@conversationswithadrianne 8 ай бұрын

Right. Anything for views. They just took a word and ran with it.

@Enlight-the-burbs 8 ай бұрын

The content isn’t gaslighting but the entire post is…

@pabloescobarschanclas 10 ай бұрын

this isn’t gaslighting, this is just straight up degrading behavior.

@renepcj4017 4 ай бұрын

Actually, it’s not he’s calling her out because she made excuses she’s not that busy. She’d either still have been busy or should be too tired to be that happy and you’re excusing it because enabling that kind of behavior gives you a reason not to be a better person.

@natela_mk 4 ай бұрын

@@renepcj4017you need help 😂

@DC5-DRO 4 ай бұрын

Naw he’s right .. hoes are to emotional got to be blunt and tell them .. otherwise they will tear you apart

@Skinny_Pimp 4 ай бұрын

Wrong it's the truth. She home and not doing Her job

@renepcj4017 3 ай бұрын

@@natela_mk well if true then you need to be in a mental hospital for engaging with me

@WolfgangDoW 9 ай бұрын

Gaslighting would be more you tell her not to cook dinner then when you get home yell at her for not cooking "But you said not to" "i never said that!"

@user-jp5ou6jx5l 3 ай бұрын

Exactly!! 💯 Perfect example.

@nattie911 8 күн бұрын

Bingo!

@jujumama 5 күн бұрын

No its not. @user-jp5ou6jx5l

@jujumama 5 күн бұрын

Gaslighting is more like youve cooked dinner many times and didnt one day, and then he tells everyone in your family you dont cook everyday when you only missed one day, and tries to dramatize how hungry he was to them to make them gain irritation towards you. Now everyone thinks you dont feed your man right

@user-jp5ou6jx5l 5 күн бұрын

@@jujumama I think that also falls under #victimcomplex and if u yell back it's #reactiveabuse ! I hate ittttt bc most of the time when peopleee #reactiveabuse and then narc plays dumb/innocent so it's like now youuuu LOOK like the problem but still not

@zzalmond 6 ай бұрын

“You’re useless” is a wild statement to make 😂

@Liberalcali 3 күн бұрын

Does she stay at home all day? How hard is it to heat up a can of vegetables and make mashed potatoes from a box and put something frozen in the oven

@btavz14 Жыл бұрын

Not even close to gaslighting. Gaslighting is more like leaving the victim question their reality and what they did wrong, and when the victim tries to confront the abuser, he'll just avoid or deny he said that. Maybe if the clip had a follow-up like this and the abuser says "Wtf are you talking I never said" or "I never meant that it was just a joke" then it would be more accurate.

@joshuafoubert8474 9 ай бұрын

I still have ptsd from my narcissistic mother who would do this all the time. She gaslights everyone and doesn’t care about anyone’s feelings. She will make your life a living hell and know it’s her causing the hell but gaslight you so hard you are left thinking maybe she isn’t doing anything wrong and she really loves you

@cannabistalk4164 7 ай бұрын

Busy all day lies and crap

@galaxyqueen8835 6 ай бұрын

@@joshuafoubert8474 she will never change! Save yourself and leave her. Don’t even call her back or buy her presents. She probably won’t even appreciate them anyway. Run as far as you can from her. Life won’t get any easier for you if you stick around. She’ll manipulate you and try to make it out that everything in her life that went wrong is because of you. Believe me, I lived it for 36years with my mom. 😢I’m now in my 40’s. Still can’t get over that witch.

@languagemitrasyedalveera8471 5 ай бұрын

@@galaxyqueen8835i understand.... But sometimes she acts like she cares... Making tea & then usual stuff goes " u see, no one can be like mother... "

@BeautyLoves88 4 ай бұрын

🎯

@ReconstructMe-sp9qo 9 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is when they play dumb to make you question your reality. This is just being verbally abusive. Gaslighting is a lot more confusing and passive aggressive.

@rommellynmariano4271 3 ай бұрын

😢

@mentallysic 9 ай бұрын

babes, this isn't gaslighting... this is arson 💀

@datdudedeonte9424 6 ай бұрын

Somebody didn’t read the definition to gaslighting 😂

@lambchop6856 10 ай бұрын

Her: Sorry. I'm so useless. I'm at work all day and didn't have time to cook you a 5 course gourmet meal. You deserve a proper wife who will work, make 6 figures, look like a supermodel, cook, clean, do your laundry, iron your shirts, carry your slippers for you. Let's get a divorce so you can find that perfect wife. 😂

@misbahailia3345 8 ай бұрын

Now when did she say that?

@RodTheAce 3 ай бұрын

REDRUM😈

@margueritedrya9807 Ай бұрын

This is an ideal answer for an abuser, after which you get out and leave forever...

@IllisiaAdams Жыл бұрын

That's not gaslighting. It's just abusive.

@Unbekannt_187 Жыл бұрын

Insulting not abusive

@bananamawnyt6307 Жыл бұрын

abusive cause he called her useless lmfao

@TheSweetie223 Жыл бұрын

@@bananamawnyt6307yes verbal & emotional abuse.

@bananamawnyt6307 Жыл бұрын

@@TheSweetie223 if she called him useless is that abuse?

@Bojannna44 Жыл бұрын

But gaslighting is abusive as well tho..

@pamelagarrett3754 9 ай бұрын

That’s just straight up abuse. When you have a partner that is gaslighting you, it’s so subtle that you start questioning yourself because they turn everything on you. Gaslighters play the victim and no matter how you try to explain that they are in the wrong, they will argue in a circle until you feel like you’re crazy. It is usually slow and can go on for years because it’s so difficult to recognize.

@Shante112XO 9 ай бұрын

Usually men like that learned from Their dads or they have underlying hate for women and maybe even themselves. They want to lower your self esteem so you never leave them and can continue to feel in control. A vicious cycle that rarely ever gets better. Once they’re done with you because you start putting up boundaries or once you leave they just look for the next supply/victim.

@nickjones3860 25 күн бұрын

You don’t understand men at all

@Shante112XO 25 күн бұрын

@@nickjones3860 tell me at one point in my claim was there a fallacy in my assertion and professional opinion? Just because you’re a man does not mean you understand psychology. However, maybe you can shed light on the egregious behavior of the actor in the original post from a masculine perspective?

@yadavkomal 10 ай бұрын

That's not gaslighting. Its bullying and verbal abuse with projection of negative labels onto other people!

@Rosemary46840 9 ай бұрын

Not that deep lol

@TheBigblumonkey 3 ай бұрын

Thats not abuse, you're just weak minded

@TheLarryj18 Жыл бұрын

That escalated quickly lol

@sladegaming6625 6 ай бұрын

Ong🤣🤣🤣

@EnriquetheSquirrel 4 ай бұрын

It jumped up a notch.

@d1nonlybaby36 4 ай бұрын

That's not gaslighting thats just straight up bullying

@jadesheppard7703 4 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is making someone feel crazy, not verbal abuse like this video depicts

@wingedinfinity6715 Жыл бұрын

This is not gaslighting. Please research what the definition really is. This is just verbally abusive.

@LTD538 4 ай бұрын

Womp womp

@simplysaiige 11 ай бұрын

Gaslighting would be if he claims you had promise him a 5 course meal upon his return home and you never did. 😅

@UPThoney4Life 9 ай бұрын

Another example would be if she actually did promise him a 5 course meal, in front of a group of people that also chimed in on the conversation, he then comes ready to dig in and everyone apart of the initial conversation all relentlessly deny the conversation ever happened to begin with but they all know it did. That’s a more elaborate type of gaslighting but the purpose is to make the target question their sanity and reality.

@Chironhealing 8 ай бұрын

This isn’t gaslighting, he’s just insulting her. People throw around terms like gas lighting or narcissistic abuse before doing their homework.

@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR 8 ай бұрын

Spoken like a person who has never been gaslit 😂😂😂😂

@Mindyourbusiness48 Жыл бұрын

Definitely abuse and not gaslighting.

@debradela-nougerede7104 Жыл бұрын

My ex husband was in the merchant navy on oil tankers. He'd be away months on end. When he returned home (to a spotless house) ,before even asking how I was, he would run his finger along our mantle piece, and check it for dust. Mind you, I saw him for what he was and asked him if he thought I was some kind of a retainer. This was the VERY least of his abuse. I won't depress everyone by listing his faults and abuse. Suffice to say, I left him within 3 years and 2 babies later. He's now a multi millionaire, but a sad and unloved by anyone old sod. Contacts me often from the other side of the world wanting to see me (as if! 😂). Whereas I'm certainly not wealthy, but I AM loved and needed, and know that people care about me for ME, not my money. I enjoy reminding him of what he lost. Revenge is best served cold 😊

@Ghost_ed1823 11 ай бұрын

Sounds like you were indeed the problem , if you know how a man likes things why not just do it to pls him , thats right because most of you women are selfish af.

@sunset2.00 9 ай бұрын

What the worst did he do?...

@candy8465 7 ай бұрын

Sounds similar to me... when my 2nd child was a baby and I was SAHM He came home and picked up the kettle to check for dust underneath and said "oh you've been cleaning all day? this says different" All while yelling it at me. I was heartbroken, my daughter stopped day naps real quick and I struggled as she cried alot and wanted to be fed alot and was just so demanding, complete opposite to my son yet I still kept the house beautiful and had cooked meals etc This was one of thousands of incidents.

@patriciaevans5906 5 ай бұрын

Job well done….

@wadehigh7908 5 ай бұрын

Sounds like a perfectionist, or a mysophobic. Sometimes such people actually mean no harm. No matter what, if it makes you uncomfortable, leaving him is the right thing to do.

@Ginger11111 8 ай бұрын

That’s not gaslighting. That’s flat out rude and disrespectful.

@user-yu1wi1mb4p 17 күн бұрын

That's what narcissists usually say

@martiffanyfeatherstone3704 9 ай бұрын

That's when you heat up the grits, but those aren't for dinner 👀 😂.

@richiestarks6163 Жыл бұрын

There is a gas stove, that’s it.

@motherhoodsbeauty9279 Жыл бұрын

“I’m useless?!”😂😂😂

@TtrellstheElephant 9 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is when someone makes you think that your reality is a lie. They try to change the truth. Then they play like you’re crazy because you rather believe the truth.

@natevic1867 9 ай бұрын

Don’t even question it. And certainly don’t laugh it off. The minute an insult comes out his mouth you simply tell him to leave.

@Soldruid 8 ай бұрын

Unfortunately in most circumstances she lives with him and can't leave or has no where to go lol. It's a sad ordeal but it happens

@DD-ry4mm 10 ай бұрын

Some guys does this and laugh and you say WHAT? The cowards say "I didnt say antyhing".Dont let them create WINGS cut them out QUICKLY and SHARPLY.Thats a real RED FLAG right there.

@leeboriack8054 8 ай бұрын

This couple is unqualified to demonstrate this issue.

@tinaterry1280 9 ай бұрын

That was literally straight to the point. I wish i had that honesty instead of wonder for the wasted years. With passive aggressive abuses.

@donthatemeforbeinghonest296 9 ай бұрын

I see a lot of folks don't know the actual definition of gaslighting.

@commiezombie2477 10 ай бұрын

Usually its the woman that would calling the man useless. Doesnt even sound natural comming from him. 😂

@Fandomsoffffffffffffff 9 ай бұрын

This man is playing 4D chess trying to gaslight us into thinking this is gaslighting 😂

@GregSkinner 8 ай бұрын

the way he keep lookin at that imaginary pot on the stove

@UhuruMaat 9 ай бұрын

It’s often waaaaay more subtle than that

@turtlej0nes Жыл бұрын

Man…he’s about to lose a real one.

@yxj5204 9 ай бұрын

Just break up with them, calling them anything and there’s a whole ass term that says that’s not okay. Just BREAK UP if they are actually just straight up useless.

@angelac.2384 9 ай бұрын

😂right

@sigmawolfvlog 8 ай бұрын

they won't say it directly. they will make you feel it.

@faithledbetter5664 8 ай бұрын

My husband says i had a feeling this would happen when i tell him every day im going to be able to leave him one day bc of his abuse but he turns it around on me like im the villian for wanting to dump him😂

@YahLotus Жыл бұрын

It is so frustrating being apart of the culture that creates new meanings to already defined words. 😫 This is not gaslighting! It's insulting.

@Mom.3 Жыл бұрын

Literally just went through this. Even though I am fussed at for touching anything in his home. And if he misplaces anything it’s my fault and announcements are made saying “I’m not CRAZY! I know you do stuff! When I found out who somebody getting their ass beat” But in my home.. we’ll it’s ok to break everything, holler until the cops are called bc he’s saying things like he will “kill” me, I’ve never put him out my home however he enjoys pleasure in now throwing me out his home after conning me to come over and giving me a key. For this very reason , tonight 2am, myself and my to little a were thrown out like trash during a thunderstorm. I have ruined his life, I offer nothing, and I’m a bum. Despite the fact up until now he stayed with me rent free, took care of his kids when he felt like it, and despite whatever I’ve never called the police, and when the police come I never say anything that would get him in trouble bc I would never want to do that to him.

@yakeishaallen5343 Жыл бұрын

Please please dear sis, you HAVE to care more about your well being and that of your children than this low life man who has no right to abuse you and treat you like this. You are valuable in the sight of the Lord, but must reframe your focus on Him and seek Him to lead your path and give you an understanding of your identity and worth. From the bottom of my heart, I implore you to muster the courage to GET OUT and DONT LOOK BACK! This will end in total destruction…seek the Heavenly Father while He May be found and pray on your knees for His wisdom and help and He will hear from heaven.

@debradela-nougerede7104 Жыл бұрын

LEAVE HIM AND TAKE YOUR KIDS.

@lovelyloner 9 ай бұрын

It’s been four months. Please tell me you have moved on or at least held this man responsible for his actions. If not, I hope my comment is a reminder , just incase he love bombed you into staying, or you lost your strength. You deserve better and it’s not okay. ❤️‍🩹

@AnovaLisaDragonfly 9 ай бұрын

There really is no reason to stay with him. Not one. You can do this. One day it will click and you’ll realize this, and you’ll leave.

@margueritedrya9807 Ай бұрын

Hello, ma'am. I read your comment, and I couldn't refrain from answering. I have gotten myself into a very similar situation as yourself, with a very abusive and manipulative deceptive man who treated me exactly like you' re describing, and more... He took pleasure of getting me to tears with severe bullying, gaslighting, and nervous breakdowns... I couldn't figure out what is wrong, and thought he was genuinely sorry every time, but his aggressive outbursts became unbearable. I found the strength to leave, even though feeling like a shell of my former self. And I hope you leave too... It is a not ok, you and me, we deserve better. They'll never change... Peace be with you, sister. I hope you get away from this dangerous man.

@corcat8608 9 ай бұрын

It’s worse when they act like they are joking after they say it.

@ki2476 9 ай бұрын

This was an AWESOME discussion. What does a man body count say about his morals, background, and decision making really stood out to me because women don't seem to ask this question. It has always been on my mind and should be on every woman's mind before sharing themselves with men. Because I consider this when it comes to me taking a man serious and respecting him.

@EYE_GOTCHA Жыл бұрын

“You’re useless” is not gaslighting, it’s a rude insult. Please delete this and make a correct video.

@MCognettaable 11 ай бұрын

Ppl don’t get it 🙄 covert abusers will never be obvious ! Their goal is never so you can blatantly see or understand what is going on…calling someone useless is very obvious! They need to create plausible deniability baked into these interactions so they will make you FEEL useless in subtle ways and gestures etc but there will always be an “out” so that you will second guess yourself that you were over-reacting or misunderstood something…this is why this kind of abuse is insidious and takes years for someone to leave…calling ppl overt names and put downs I’m sure happens but I guarantee most ppl will be out the door or at the very least KNOW what’s going on and happening to them! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@WalkWithGodLikeEnoch 8 ай бұрын

I think he’s letting u know how he feels lol🤧

@AlonzoDuncan-nz9ne 7 ай бұрын

Yes cuz if this is a repeated pattern she obviously doesn't respect her man foh talking bout gas lighting lol

@reisuke_6030 6 ай бұрын

LMFAAOOOO THE CUT OFF IM SO DEAD 🤣🤣🤣 “IM USELESS???😰”

@Hardawayfits 10 ай бұрын

😂 Well damn. I would call my dad and tell him exactly what he said...before I respond 😅

@kingjamesis7830 Жыл бұрын

I thought he was about to communicate. He just crushed her🎉

@sayedabbas5987 Жыл бұрын

That's not Gaslight that's just pure facts

@DodingDagaGaming Жыл бұрын

hahahahahahha

@nataliaramirez1290 Жыл бұрын

Wow you're so edgy being sexist in the year 2023 wow the edge

@gustavusadolphus4344 Жыл бұрын

OH SHIT

@kenesealo7982 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@crucial0072 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@Zzz2x 9 ай бұрын

‘Because you’re useless’ lmao

@BbyAriesASMR 9 ай бұрын

Gaslighting would be like “I thought you loved me? You know i love food so why wouldn’t you make it? I know you were busy all day but I thought you said i was the most important thing in your life? You’re such a liar.”

@mimio008 6 ай бұрын

That's not gaslighting. What you're describing is manipulation, more precisely emotional blackmail. Gaslighting is also manipulation, but you wouldn't come out as strong. The gaslighter never fights. He always makes the victim get angry while he remains calm.

@buchrisss 6 ай бұрын

@@mimio008 Ding ding, emotional blackmail. Thank you - amazes me how many ppl in the world ohhh sooo INCORRECTLY assign personal drama/false examples“gaslighting” Muddying the waters & devalues how incredibly serious, harmful & traumatic gaslighting behavior is.

@mariamimi8497 Жыл бұрын

I didn’t see how it’s gaslighting but now I see it. She said she didn’t Make the food or whatever cause she FORGOT , then when he told her “I knew it would happen” and she asked “why”, he said “cause you’re USELESS”. He changed her words, and he invalidated the actual reason why she didn’t make the food.

@GyanAddict Жыл бұрын

What you're seeing here is like the LEVEL 50 of gaslighting and abuse. The LEVEL 1 was something like... :"I thought you said you're making something I love" :"But you love chicken right?" :"I never said that" :"Okay tell me what you'd like to eat. I'll make it in an hour" :"It's okay I just lost my appetite"

@V0idFace 9 ай бұрын

Nope, this isn’t any level of gaslighting…because this isn’t gaslighting.

@GyanAddict 9 ай бұрын

@@V0idFace Thanks for the demonstration.

@V0idFace 9 ай бұрын

@@GyanAddict except this wasn’t a “demonstration,” because you are objectively incorrect. Telling an incorrect person they are incorrect isn’t gaslighting. If you don’t know what you’re talking about that’s fine, dude, just sit quietly.

@GyanAddict 9 ай бұрын

@@V0idFace Again, thanks for your opinion. The way you're talking, with that arrogance, says a lot about your personality and IQ. There's a fine line between a discussion and just blabbing out words and calling others wrong without any explanation. So, kindly take your own advice. Dude.

@V0idFace 9 ай бұрын

@@GyanAddict except I’ve already explained. If a toddler says “one plus one is chickens” all I need to say is “no, it isn’t, that isn’t how numbers work.” Whether you think I should explain further is irrelevant. Again: you’re objectively wrong. Then, when called out for being objectively wrong you doubled down on your wrongness. I don’t think you want to talk about the intelligence of anyone else, son lmao

@Autumn-zd9nq 5 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is telling a person that they’re making things up in their head or not recalling an incident correctly to get them to doubt their own judgment and memory.

@DennisWilliams-nf2gn 14 күн бұрын

My guy couldn't stop looking at the bare stove!!!!!😂

@MdMahmudulHasan-vn4ny Жыл бұрын

This is called " Countering", a type of gaslighting

@V0idFace 9 ай бұрын

Wrong, this isn’t gaslighting at all.

@emzzzzz0998 Жыл бұрын

I’ve started recording my husband and in a few months I’m going to let him hear all the recordings…so he can hear how ugly he is to me…and how bipolar he sounds. So maybe he will go get some help. I’ve offered to go to counseling and even help him get help with his anger but he refuses so now everytime he starts having a tantrum…I just turn my recorder on and I’m saving them. This morning he had a meltdown because he left pens in his work uniform and they busted in the dryer. Guess who got up and cleaned the ink stained dryer and found the little baby a new uniform??? Yup me. All while being called an a**hole and my voice being made fun of. If I had the financial backing to leave I would but I don’t and honestly I want him to take anger management and work through this because it can be fixed…it’s just hard being treated this way and having to do this.

@yakeishaallen5343 Жыл бұрын

You absolutely don’t deserve this and I encourage you not to let this man destroy your self-worth or believe any lies spewing from his mouth. You must not expect anyone to change unless they themselves first acknowledge and recognize there’s a problem and seek to get help. He may never change and are you willing to live this abusing and tormenting life that your children are witnessing? I am in a similar boat and I’ll tell you this, enough is enough and financially being in a position to do what you must do for the protection and mental stability of your family , is of the utmost importance. You can do this girl! Find online opportunities, search for ways to build passive income and hustle to find a way out of that is what may need to happen. Above all else, pray and ask the King of Heaven (Yah) to guide and lead your footsteps and open the doors to help you. Trust and seek God as He is our only hope. I highly recommend this video: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/f-CRdcyS3667eZs.html

@ParmyJan Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a narcissist

@juliethomas3523 10 ай бұрын

Don't be surprised, he will probably still deny. Recordings aren't going to help sadly.

@Yaokl 8 ай бұрын

Lmfaooo that’s not gas lighting that pure honesty 😂

@bufficliff8978 3 ай бұрын

That's NOT gaslighting. That's verbal abuse.

@samuelmmmk181 2 жыл бұрын

Bruh no one's going to say their partner is useless unless this happened regularly 😐

@someone3195 2 жыл бұрын

Unless what happened regularly?

@samuelmmmk181 2 жыл бұрын

@@someone3195 Having to work and come home and do the household stuff too. Whoever stays home all day and doesn't work should look after the house.

@someone3195 2 жыл бұрын

@@samuelmmmk181 No dear 1. Either agree on smth or divorce, u don't get to call ppl useless. 2. U don't know whether she is working too or not. 3. Then I guess she can call him useless too if he earns too little.

@V0idFace 2 жыл бұрын

@@someone3195 everything you just said was wrong, and you also completely misrepresented and missed their point. Fail.

@someone3195 2 жыл бұрын

@@V0idFace Sjsjs why dear? Care to explain?😂 Can't call a man useless when he earns too little? Why not?

@valhallabound3938 Жыл бұрын

If she stays home all day and he works...the least she can do is have dinner ready when he gets home. He wasn't gas lighting...he was being honest.

@musicalpicasso 4 ай бұрын

This is not gazlighting, this is funny 😂😂😂

@Ladycreedd 6 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is when someone is invalidating /disregarding your real feelings,responses,or reactions to their or someone else’s bad behavior towards you.

@deezknitz 7 ай бұрын

Gaslighting would be denying he ever said that when faced with the consequences

@bonnymoore8336 4 ай бұрын

WE WOULD BE DONE THERE IS NO COMING BACK FROM THAT!!!

@ameliadeanVA277 Ай бұрын

Change relationships to self esteem and thats what's I go through in a panic attack😂

@alyssahavens9308 2 ай бұрын

Yknow what it’s actually really sweet that you guys can’t act this out realistically. Always remember to appreciate that.

@anunsashtray8244 8 ай бұрын

+option 1 “Im tryna see what you made for dinner” “you told me not to make dinner, that you were bringing some home” “No I thought you were making dinner” Later on…. *checks text to confirm he asked what she wanted for dinner earlier, after she asked how his day was going* +option 2 “My day was good, my coworkers and I were talking about how only useless women don’t cook dinner for their man today” “Oh, that’s interesting, I’ve been busy all day working too, my coworker and I-“ *he cuts in* “Let’s talk about it over dinner” “Where are you taking us out to dinner?” “I knew this would happen” “What?, you’re the one who brought it up.” “Yup, and this is what I was talking about” *leaves room without finishing conversation//gets on game//the phone and talks about you* = here I fixed it, choose your option

@TrishAngel3 8 ай бұрын

Gaslighting can look like this and it can look like gifts or gestures of love but none is sincere. Narcissist don’t have empathy so they don’t feel anything except for your energy! Self-Love LOVE GOD TRUST ❤❤

@Hope-ou3mv 5 ай бұрын

That took me off guard 😂

@MyName123. 2 ай бұрын

He better be paying 100% of your expenses girl if he's asking for cooking.

@WhichTheChickenOrTheEgg 2 күн бұрын

That's not gaslighting. He told her like it is 😂

@BIGMatt-uu9kh 8 ай бұрын

But here me out 😅..how many times has that man came home to hear "I totally forgot" a good man work hard he deserve a meal prepared when he get home. If he doin his part an you not your Useless 👀

@ashleybellerose7104 5 ай бұрын

Then when you get mad they called you useless all the sudden youre the bad guy

@Somali_pirate 7 ай бұрын

To these experts commentators below me, he pays the bills she’s home all day, can’t even make food for him?

@norzae.5260 9 ай бұрын

"i'm useless?" * punches him in the face *

@tyardovdabulldht2340 8 ай бұрын

Ladies...RUN! ✌🏿

@user-dc7iw3fu4e 2 ай бұрын

With Gaslighting you don't know you're being insulted until you've had a chance to process what was said or done

@josephrogers5711 7 ай бұрын

What if it was dirty dishes and a dirty home. And the husband works away for two weeks at a time. Supports his wife and children, but has to come home to a filthy house. So if he says after walking into the house, “ hmmm I already knew the sink would be full of dishes and the house filthy” and this hurts the woman’s feelings. This makes the man a Gaslighting abusive partner?

@OzmaOfOzz 3 ай бұрын

I have a friend thats in an abusive relationship. Each time we meet, I tell her all the signs, everything she needs to know!!! And she won't leave. She won't change. Nothing is helping. I feel like all of our conversations are super repetitive at this point. And I feel like the 2nd victim in this story because each time she tells me new abusive stories, i feel mentally abused. It's like watching a friend self harm in front of your eyes, yet you can't do anything to help. At this point, im going to distance myself from this friendship because it's become painful to hear what she consciously puts herself through, and my own mental health is being harmed 😢

@carolyncoppola974 2 ай бұрын

This was my marriage but it felt more like verbal and emotional abuse.

@SassyST 8 күн бұрын

Add in him chuckling and saying, “Oh, quit getting so defensive. You take everything so serious.”

@EOd-is8dm 9 ай бұрын

To be fair, if you're sitting there all day. And he's out working . You are useless not to have dinner for him

@sweett8214 19 күн бұрын

Gaslighting is subtle and makes you question things about yourself.

@Teams-ex7rd 8 ай бұрын

He coming in with sarcasm staring at the stove seeing nothing is there. But asking what was made for dinner. Not giving her eye contact but staring at the stove.

@danabrown276 19 күн бұрын

This is why it’s so important to know your worth and value and not rely on someone to affirm your worth and value.,

@annt7384 22 күн бұрын

My brother said I was useless. He never said why. I don’t recall ever asking him for anything, except a ride to church once.

@anitadadal4325 4 ай бұрын

Gaslighting is using like this at times but it is more subtle. It’s making you believe you are not good enough and lowers your self worth over time.

@lisakukla459 9 ай бұрын

That's not gaslighting at all. It's a dick thing to say, but it's not gaslighting.

@sbjclasses-bq3xs 8 ай бұрын

That is not gasighting. Gaslighting is where the gaslighter lies to the victim to make them question their own sanity. Here in this case, the man insulted the women, but it did not make her question her sanity.