****Thank you for your kind words. I welcome edifying comments toward me but please refrain from any negative or disparaging statements about my recent love interest. She's a Godly woman and has the utmost character. It's because of her phenomenal character and heart to please God, that propelled her to make the difficult decision to release me. It was her love for me and the care she has for my heart that forced her to make the wise decision to let go and let God. She is healing from heartbreak as well. Any comments I find to be counterproductive to my journey will be deleted. Respectfully, Laterras.

I respect this woman for admitting she has things to deal with instead of getting into a relationship knowing she wasn't ready and breaking him because she's broken. I wish more people would have that level of honesty and self awareness.

"Men should pursue and not persuade and women should present and not pursue" This!!!!🙌

If I may offer a different opinion: First flag - Fell Deeply in Love with someone in 2 months. You didn’t know enough about this woman in the relationship. You are in your “newness” and you are feeling dopamine that gets released in your brain. Don’t confuse that with love. It’s new. Enjoy the newness. You haven’t seen her in her other seasons to determine if she is really the one. Second Flag - You introduced too much too fast. That pre-pre marriage counseling is way too soon, and could be considered too much when you’re just getting to know someone. Y’all bringing up triggers within 8 weeks of knowing each other in therapy. Call it what you want… that was pre-marriage counseling. That can deflate the relationship really fast when you don’t have a solid foundation that’s needed from BOTH parties. You clearly was there, but it doesn’t appear she was (even though she went with you) That’s a really heavy place to be in 8 weeks of dating each other. Third flag - Speaking finality of marriage within 8 weeks of meeting. Again, really heavy to be at in 8 weeks. You are within your right to feel those feelings, but there is SO much that you must establish with her (ex. trust, loyalty, confidence in your leadership abilities, etc.) BEFORE acting on this feeling. Once you’ve established these things, then she’d be at a place to welcome this conversation. It was only 61-62 days… you didn’t even scratch the surface my friend. My point: Slow down and enjoy the ride. She clearly had some things to work on, but you were so ready to marry her she felt her back was against the wall. Slow down and enjoy each other, allow her to reveal her struggles, and slowly do the work is how you will get her. It takes WORK & TIME. You can’t bake a wedding cake in 1 min

I’m new to Dear Future Wifey podcast and truly enjoy the episodes. Laterres, please be encouraged. I dealt with the same situation, had my heart broken after the person I thought was my forever, walked away. When I wasn’t looking, God sent my husband to me. I almost passed him by because I thought he was too good to be true and I believed I didn’t deserve him. I’m happy to report we celebrated 20 years of marriage in 2023. Keep on your journey, your forever is out there.

“It feels empty to be seen by millions but not seen by the one.” What a profound statement!

I experienced this. I saw the guy in a dream before I even met him. We were so in sync but he had things in him that he had not addressed. I learned that there is no One... Only the obedient. Everyone has free will. Some folks can choose to walk into destiny or walk away from it. But God is going to make sure His will is done in the earth. My ❤ was broken when this happened to me. But him saying he didn't feel like he was the one helped me to break that tie so that months later when God sent someone who did want me and sought God for someone like me I was free to love. 10 yrs later we are still married.

I believe she was truly scared. We self-sabotage so much that we truly push away someone who had the best intentions for us. I pray she receives the healing and peace she truly desires. Thank you for being transperent.

Even at 120 years old, I will still believe in love period

Please be encouraged! My testimony is similar... I prayed about a relationship and everything pointed to this person. Then he suddenly chose to walk away. God used that heartbreak to prepare me for my husband. I was so hurt, but God spoke to me and told me to stop crying and get up. I was obedient and I started putting myself our there again. Two months later, my husband found me and we got married within 6 months of meeting each other. We just celebrated our one year anniversary and its so much more than I could have imagined godly love would be! This podcast was a major part of my journey to finding love and preparing myself for marriage. If he can do it for me, I am believing the same thing for you!

These are the podcasts we need from men. To really understand their heart,vulnerability, and compassion for love. Not once did you project negativity towards her and you are commended for that alone! May your heart heal and be restored✝️❤️

She knows something you don't about where she is. She cared enough about you to walk away and hurt you a little now instead of a lot later. I so admire this level of transparency and aspire to it in my own platform. God will redeem the time, heal your heart and make your path straight. I am praying for you where I only yesterday just enjoyed your work.♥

I'm not sure why I happened to come across this episode now. But it spoke to me!! After just 4yrs of marriage, I'm getting divorced. I'm broken, bitter, angry, & confused. I cant help but feel unheard, misunderstood &, abandoned, without the ability to figure out how to go about healing to mend this brokeness. When Laterras said "it feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the one" crushed me! "It won't always be like this" gives me hope! I love this podcast!!

Laterras YOU ARE AMAZING! This is the realest most rawest video on the internet!!! Your vulnerability will set precedent for the remainder of the year. How you spoke your truth whilst being careful to praise and uphold her integrity is truly fascinating. Gods plan is still unfolding, you may be confused but He is not. Love always friend ❤️

Take aways: Heal from a heart break . 💔 Do not self medicate with another man/woman. Keep your heart and hands clean . Do the work ❤. Do not give up or walk in shame . God will give you better than what you lost 🙏🏽💍❤️

Unfortunately lack of personal healing can present as self sabotage. Her transparency is gold. May we all build and grow in transparency and accountability in our relationships.

I appreciate your vulnerability. I’ve never thought about what heartbreak looks like from a man’s point of view. In protecting my own heart, I’ve never considered how walking away affected the other person. My thought process lead me to believe “He’s a man. He doesn’t care. He’ll be fine.” This video is an eye-opener. Thank you. 🙏🏽

Hey Laterras! I had my first heartbreak last year. I was confused, angry, hurt, sad, thought about seeking revenge etc.. During that heartbreak season (because it is a season that will pass) I binged watched your videos. Your videos gave me hope and motivated me to keep going. So I want to return the favor and tell you to keep going. I'm excited for you! God healed and restored my heart. I know he will do the same for you. Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds."

Lateras my name is Ladina Whitfield, no we are not related. Your courage to expose this pain is healing a nation! Intentionality is not inclusively spirituality and rationality. You merely offered too much too soon to someone not ready to receive the wellspring flowing from within you and that is to jer credit to be honest she is not ready for you! Seeing your pain I cried with you as my prayer line role is on marriage and the sacredness of singleness. You are NOT LOST AT SEA, you are walking on water with the faith of God carrying you precious brother! He gave you the miracle of honesty! He has already blessed you in transparency even in your unwillingness to accept it! He sends you who you need not all the things you believed you wanted! You have too much to do to be distracted and deceived no matter how good the packaging and the presentation looks! You know what God want God wants for you and it is not to make it happen but allow it to happen! I pray for you and your healing and that deters your mission! Amen

I know this podcast was recorded over a year ago, but today is my first time seeing it. As I am watching this I am reliving instances of my life in which I thought I was so sure of the will of God for my life, and where I gave it my all with all my intention thinking that all I had to do was that, be intentional, and all the other pieces would fall into place... But God just keeps taking our lives to higher and higher levels. For every heart break I have learned that God is still God, and that love is still love and nothing can separate us from the love of God that is through Christ Jesus. "After you've done all you can, you just stand" (I also cried out this song to God so many times... but the season of beauty for ashes has come). Thank you for sharing your heart, the grain of wheat does not bear fruit until it has died. Your pain then has blessed so many lives, and it is blessing my life now as well. Stay strong, your time is coming!

This hit me. Because almost 10 years ago my now husband came along and was trying to pursue me and although I felt safe and heard the Lord. I was terrified. I was a victim of complex trauma. And I had not dated for 10 years as I went through healing. So as he pursued I backed out of it 5 times saying, “ I’m not sure if this is God… I don’t have peace”. In actuality I was so afraid. I felt 100% sure Jesus would not hurt me but of course this man was not Jesus and I was scared. He was so patient and gentle although secretly wondering if I was crazy.😂😂 He prayed for my heart and finally the Lord spoke firmly to me about him. And now we are approaching our 8th wedding anniversary. So, my brother I pray for you. You never know how the Lord will unfold your story. I am truly sorry for your heart break. I hope this young lady receives the healing she needs and that self sabotaging will not be her portion. Be bless. Healing in all situations. You will not be disappointed with the goodness the Lord has.

"I start over as often as is necessary because I’m not starting from scratch, I’m starting from experience. From every experience, I grow healthier and mature."

I identify with your vulnerability. I appreciate your honesty and transparency. Thank you. I never got the closure you did. I was just left with the question marks. Healing is indeed a choice. I chose it intentionally. I leaned into God closer during my process. If I hadn't, I believe I would have succumb to the pain. I had panic attacks, my fight or flight mechanism was stuck in the "on" position, my nervous system went haywire, and it started to affect my immune system. Heartbreak is REAL..But so is GOD 🙌🏾

You went through the hurt to help bring the light of healing to many

So many of us men needed to see this. I am sorry you are hurting and pray for your peace and strength. WE STAND WITH YOU IN FAITH AND PRAYER. I am also dealing with the heartbreak of how my 2 year relationship just ended. You gave me blueprint to help 'deal'. So, thank you brother. Simply, thank you and I pray healing and strength for your wounded heart.

I am currently in the same boat brother. We’re going through this together. God will bring our queens in his perfect timing

50:03 Much respect to you and clarification for me after a divorce of 20 years, which was Half of my life! God sent me MY “perfect”match. After 6 years…God’s promise is coming to you my brother 🙌🏽

When Pastor Eben prayed in the intro. Your wife is being preserved for you, brought tears to my eyes. I prayed to God and ask him why is it taking so long to bring my mate into my life, I can't do anything, no dating, no DM's nothing...now I know why God is preserving me for my husband.❤ I feel so much better.

Hey Laterras, I know how you feel. My husband asked me to let him go back in 2008 so he could do the inner work. I am so glad I let him go because I know for sure he is all in now and have healed. God brought us back together and we got married in 2021 in Hawaii.

I've never seen a man articulate his hurt so eloquently before. So raw. I don't ever want to contribute to a man's heart being broken. Thank You

It's so crazy that I stumbled across this episode today. On the very day that you recorded this podcast, I too was sitting in the seat of heartbreak and devastation. I'd met who I just knew was God's promise to me after widowhood. All for me to be left to grieve yet again. The free will of others can sometimes knock all of the wind out of our sail....but one thing I do know is that God will make good on His promises towards me. And I'm praying that He will do the same for you.

L. This was beautiful. A year later and this is still touching those who have needed to hear it. Thank you for your service to vulnerability

I didn’t know men could ever feel this way. This video was eye opening and almost overwhelming. You are the real deal.

I have NEVER heard a man be this transparent about healing. I've listened to this all day. The authenticity of this was so real. I felt every single word. I'm currently experiencing a divorce and it's like DEATH...I'm not sure how to UN-LOVE someone but I'm trusting God on this one!! Thank you so much although it was tough to watch!!!!! But it's helped me. Be well and may God continue to heal your beautiful heart.🙌🏾❤

I'm just watching this. God has a plan. He wanted you to pause for "this" to help someone else. But you got this! You earned the badge, now go forth. He is preparing her😊

This is how I feel right in this moment. Heartbreak is so real, and I often question myself, why do I keep going back to this. It's like trying to resuscitate a dead body, and there's absolutely no coming back, but I want it so bad.

Right after a major heartbreak, I met my husband. The love of my life. I was extremely confused and disheartened because I was closely following God and even had a prophetic dream. You will look at this video one day soon and realize just how much God loves and protects you as his beloved son. Chin up, shoulders back. Thanking God for your soon to be my brother!

At least she told you she wasn’t ready and that shows how much she cares for you. As corny as it sounds, rejection really is protection. God knows what you need and he saw and heard things you couldn’t. Sorry for your losses. Thank you for your transparency.

I experienced a similar situation. I just knew this man was heaven sent. He accepted me for my flaws and he spoke to my soul in a way I never experienced. People saw us and could feel the love between us. I felt my presence brighten his spirit. I felt at peace with him. I was no longer afraid. Then one day he ended it. He says I did nothing wrong. He said I was perfect. I was his dream girl. I still haven’t recovered. I was so blindsided. You couldn’t tell me this man didn’t love me and that we wouldn’t be together forever. I don’t even feel like I can love again.

"Sometimes they know something we don't." I was thinking the same thing concerning her. Seems like she loves you enough to spare you pain. Thank you for sharing. Wellness to you❤

If a woman has never experienced the kind of love and security that you provided for her, especially if she never received that from her father or a father figure during her childhood, it will feel extremely uncomfortable to her because it is foreign to her. Keep your head up. The gift of love and selflessness that you gave her will find its way back to you. My son went through this type of heartbreak recently. My heart goes out to you. God will see you through this.

“May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of a lover.” -that part. I’m so sorry for your heartbreak. Heartbreak almost took me OUT!! But honestly…she sounds like she would be an amazing friend! We will keep hope alive. You are an EXCEPTION to all the relationship games. Press on King. We love you.

I'm recovering from soul crushing unexpected heartbreak. I felt every bit of this. Never thought I'd be in this position. It's one day at a time. Prayers to you on your healing journey.

I cannot explain HOW watching YOU, a strong MAN, opening up about your heartbreak to us in such a deeply descriptive way. I am having my “Month of March Madness” like your “Death of December”, the heartbreak and life’s disappointments with my own son, and still currently fighting for some things now, I feel validated that I’m not goin through this alone AND that it’s not just women going this but STRONG MEN too. I know this may not mean anything to you now, but I KNOW and SEE things turning around for you and for me too! God bless and keep going!

Wow. Let this be a lesson for us to do our work in our single season! God forbid we meet one fashioned for us and have to forfeit it because we haven’t done the work 🙏🏽 Praying for you Laterras ❤

"I can fight for you but I won't persuade you" ~Laterras Whitefield

I hear the depth in this big bro and I see what I should've done before committing to marriage years ago. I was speaking to my wife about it yesterday and I told her the same thing, "The only thing I wish I did different was take more time before committing. I needed to heal and so did you". Year one was wild.

Dearest Brother in Christ, I'm grieving with you. I'm crying with you. Your faith is so beautiful. You are an amazing man of God. He IS using you. His light is shining through your pain. He is using this video, your vulnerability and authenticity to speak straight to my soul. I am in a similar situations as the beautiful women you are talking about. I've been so hurt and broken by narcissistic men that I can't fathom how I could trust my ability to discern true love instead of the love bombing that comes in narcissistic abuse. It hurts to hear that others experience the same thing I am standing in. I'm praying for you both. God loves you Brother!

"I will heal, I will deal ,and God will be revealed." I felt that. I am matching my faith with your faith Laterras for your healing and love in God's will.

Thanks for sharing. I know only to well what you are dealing with. I am 57, married my husband at 47 and felt like God had answered my prayers, only to feel the heartbreak of a break-up and divorce a few years later. I questioned God the same as you did, why would he allow me to go through this after I consulted him in my steps. Well, to make a long story short, we just got remarried in August of 2022 and it confirmed what I felt when my journey began on December 31st of 2012 so many years ago. Please keep believing that God has a plan and you will heal.

My brother let me say I'm sorry for the heartache that you are going through and the transparency that you show. I'm late to your podcast but ive been consuming as much as i can. I believe God has touch you and is pulling you through this journey to help people. I get so much food that fills me through your guest and your words. Your Queen is out there. As much as heartache hurts when it comes to love it's giving us lessons to be ready for the one that is truly God sent. Thnk you my Brother.

Another breakthrough is coming, Laterras!!! Also, note that healing is on-going. Healing takes time, but it shouldn't hinder you from still loving. God has you covered, and He will restore. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. This episode was needed.

Laterras, the intent behind your message is not in vain. This video...Wow! You are inspirational and you are courageous. You are exactly who the Father says you are. You are lovable, you are kind-hearted, you are a King, you are worthy, and you will connect with YOUR RIB in due season. All is not lost my dear brother. The Father is preparing a queen for His beloved son. Your QUEEN! Do not ever forget that you are the apple of His eye. The Father is concerned about all that concerns you and He hears your heart....He has heard your cry. All will be well. Your breakthrough is coming and you will be a great husband to your wife and she will compliment and be everything that you need her to be for you and you alone. Continue trusting and relying on Him as this process is necessary. It is not fun, but it is necessary. Take this time to heal, assess, heal, redirect, heal, connect, and pour into Laterras. I pray the right friends and family are available for you in this season whenever you need them. I pray they allow you space to get it all out and to just listen to your heart and allow a soft landing space for your pain. You have touched so many lives in a positive way and it is our time to hold you up my brother. My prayers are with you.

You will look back at this hurtful time in your journey and be grateful for her honesty and that she loved you enough to surrender your relationship so you would not be hurt even deeper than you are now! She displays maturity in this. This honesty and transparency is so needed in those who are called by Christ Jesus’ Name in relationship and not religioun

Honestly, I had all the confirmations too but he still didn’t see it. I saw him in a dream years before I even met him. Even after I met him, I saw more dreams, even went in an actual trance about it. I spent years believing that he was the one God had for me. So much so, I gave up a sure thing because I knew within he was the one. I didn’t want to push him or come off crazy so I waited almost patiently. Finally God woke me up and said to me that it wasn’t that guy’s will and so he couldn’t force it. Even though I understood what the Lord meant, I was truly devastated because I put my faith towards the situation and my anxiety kicked in when I felt like my faith had failed me. The weight of it all consumed my life for years until I finally truly let it go. Now I just rest in who I am in Christ and trust when that time comes it will all work together instead of me trying to work it.

Your story is a great example of why it’s important to heal before dating. We must do the work!

I've been told that there's always a counterfeit that comes before the real comes. God showed you the best is yet to come. Prayers and comfort during this time🥰

WOW! I’m not sure why I stumbled on this episode but God wanted me to see this. This is probably the most powerful episode I’ve listened to since I committed to this podcast series. Thank for showing that it is okay to be vulnerable and raw about your hurt and deteriorating not to hurt others because you were hurt. I pray that by the time you read this, God has healed you and this young lady. You’re both amazing children of God. Take care and continue to be blessed!🙏

I can go in worship after listening to this one. It’s so spiritual! This is God’s love. He gives us perfect love! Forgives our mistakes and yet we say no God, I don’t want you! Im not ready! Lord forgive us!

Tears are cleansing, Laterras. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak even though you weren't feeling up to it. Your followers love you. We stand with you. ❤️

For me, It was when you told the enemy thru your tears that no matter what you would NOT settle for a woman who was not a kingdom woman. That was powerful and you made me make up my mind that I wouldn't settle for less than what I've been asking the Lord for either. Thank you Laterras! This won't last forever. Like the song says trouble don't last always. Thank you that even though you're hurting others are being healed, helped and set free through your testimony and transparency.

I wished I had prayed my way through my heart break. Instead, I did the opposite and i regretted it. I went on shut down, shut out, almost lost my job for missing to many days. I stop going to church because I was very active in church. I was over the youth department, writing plays and skits. I taught Sunday school, Bible Study for teens when I (thought) I heard God say, this was my husband. I was mad at myself that I allowed this man in my life. That was 6 years ago. Praise God I made it with the help of God and therapy. I forgave myself and him and hallelujah I am headed. God told me I would have made him my God because I’m a giver and he would have took my love from him because i wanted so bad. I actually understood that. I know now that if that is not the person God has for me and I am not listening, he will make the pain greater now before we make the wrong decision and regret it later. Love your podcast. I’m new and I stay up late watching and learning. Playing catch up. God bless you and God has someone for us and it won’t hurt. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I thank God that he did not give up on me and excepted me back with open arms. I tell my testimony in church and to anyone who will listen. The break up was to help me not to hurt me.

Laterras, watching this broke me… My heart so hurts for you.. I am one of the ones who has literally given up hope. Birthday was Dec 30th, turned 49, never married, no children.. I’ve had several false starts from ghosting, talking stages, “I don’t know what I want” etc…. it’s too much… But watching this episode gave me a boost to not give up…Your plea and prayer to God was so sincere and heartfelt.. I know he is setting you up for the greatest love story ever.. I can’t wait to see what unfolds for your future. You will be saying “God Remembered” ❤🙌🏾🙏🏿

Laterras, thank you for baring your scars so that others may heal. My prayer for you is that the Lord changes your memory of the month of December, and it will become your most favorite time of the year. 🙏🏾 May your December 2023 be “THE ONE” to remember! ❤️

They overcame the enemy by the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony. This testimony spoke the Word of God to me as I recover from heartbreak as well. Thank you for your transparency. I pray strength and healing to you my brother. Please pray for me too.

Hello laterras I want to thank you for being authentic and transparent and setting the example for all men to follow

"Empty to be seen by millions but not seen by the one"...my God, what a powerful message in itself🙏🙏🙏

Laterras, I lift you up in prayer right now🙏🏻. I truly feel as you were sharing this that this heartbreak may not be solely about your pain but for the growth in the partner you were dating. Praise God that you were able to show her that there are good men out there, you’ve helped her get one step closer to her healing! And God used you in this way because he knew the pain you could bear and the next door that opens up will be so unexpected and on time that your praise report is going to break the internet!!! I thank you for sharing your vulnerability & your ministry didn’t just heal her but it’s helping us all heal too. May God bless you, may God continue to smile on you, and may he continue to open a window to pour out blessings in your life.

Had to come back to this video. At 34:20 where you said sometimes it can take 2-3 years to heal from only a month or two situation of opening yourself up to someone, I feel that. I fall way too hard

I am a new follower and I am watching this literally in tears. My heart breaks for you! I recently went through a situation where the man I thought was the one had a massive heart attack on New Year’s Day and passed away. My situation is much different than yours yet the heartbreak is almost unbearable. Praying for you!!!

Praying for you both. You loved her well. In return, it led her to seek out healing so that there would be reciprocity. This love story only confirms for me that we want love, but many of us don't know how to receive true authentic love. It just goes to show how powerful love really is. God's blessings on you both and prayerfully God can reconnect you when it's right for the both of you. Stay strong - God's got you 🙏🏾❤💙

As a brother in Christ, this truly broke my heart and brought me to tears. Thank you for your transparency and being true to your words. I will pray for you and look forward to celebrating that wedding when God reveals the ONE. Many blessings upon you and much love.

I didn't know Mr. Whitfield could sing! This episode brought tears to my eyes. That powerful prayer was not just for him, but it was for those of us who've been watching. This relationship sounds as though it was beautiful and meaningful. And perhaps it was meant to set the bar in a concrete way. I wonder more about the panic attack and if it was the weight of his message through the podcast, the experience of a potential wife slipping through his fingers and uncertainty that caused it. I wonder about his son and if he has returned. I have poured myself into my children, and this has helped me heal tremendously.

And to see a man that open and vulnerable. That's a great thing

I experienced the exact same thing this December. He broke things off on Christmas day for the same reason. Too good to be true. Man how I cried but I realized really quickly that God's planning for what he wanted me to experience in that relationship wasn't happening. He spoke to me about this man, about this year and I did my own thing any way. I really thought he was/is my person. Praying for your healing because I know exactly what you're feeling.

I still believe she’s the one just have to heal from her past hurts but I love that you are so transparent just making me cry 😢 never heard a man talk about their pain before. Much respect and God bless you 💜

I cried, Prayed, laughed and felt hurt for you, her, myself and all of our unknown Love we're looking for. May God give us STRENGTH through this journey... Amen n Asé...💚🙏🏾💛🙌🏾❤

I just wanna give you a hug, I pray I can parent my sons to be this transparent with their feelings as they grow.

This is the most beautiful display of a human man reaching out to our God for a miracle. You’ll never know how much this video helped me as I’m sure it is helping others. Thank you for this message even though it was painful and raw. We “stand” with you in community holding you through this moment of heartbreak. Let those tears flow; they are your healing rain. We humbly dry them with you in this sacred space. ❤🙏

This happened to my wonderful son, the woman, because of her past traumas, she could not believe he was such a wonderful guy. She kept expecting the other shoe to drop. She finally ran him off because she felt he was too good to be true. My heart hurt for her. I wish she knew how it feels to be loved by a really good man.

I did a similar thing to guy once. I had not finished healed from my broken marriage. I broke up with him and he was hurt. I move to another city and he persued me but I just was not ready. He respected my decision but couldn't deal with the hurt so he quick went into another relationship hardly know this woman. Years later he regrets being with her. While we were dating we had a beautiful connection but something deep down was not right. He would have given me the world but I just wasn't ready. I am happy you've decided to not pursue her but allow her to do what she wanted. That is truely love. Nuff respect

Thank you for your genuineness Laterras. Praying for you big time.

This broke my heart. It's rough out here. Finding love and someone to have a healthy marriage with almost seems impossible nowadays. I appreciate Laterras for being vulnerable and sharing his life experiences with the world. Laterras is a great guy and would be a great husband to a blessed woman. I pray that this period of heartbreak doesn't last long and God sends him the right wifey when he has healed from this.

The most challenging thing an artist can achieve is a self portrait. That’s because of the natural urge to edit what we see into what we want to see. Thank you for sharing so many of your “self-portraits”.

Wow. Tough. I'm Goin' thru it now. At 58 the Lord sent the one, in only 6 weeks with so many signs and confirmations, but our triggers were there. A big test, I got the growth and healing but I don't know if he's ready for it himself. We might not make it. Rips your heart out. What you read at 28 min, so straight. Still crushing when God has called it, set it up, set it apart, for His purpose and Glory. But I will heal, I will deal and God will be revealed. Amen. Blessings brother for your vulnerability. So healing. ❣🙏

Boy oh boy!! "In Love" can be a scary place to be. "Fear and peace can't co-exsist" how powerful..it should be a crime to allow your past to destroy your future. Know that so many people love you and you are in our prayers..

One thing I took away from this, as I am also in the midst of a “breakup”/divorce, is we have to stop playing spouse for people who aren’t our spouse. We can’t save someone from their work nor can we force them through it. We often times try to attach ourselves to mess thinking we can make it better. When sometimes loving that person despite is just PART of the journey i yet we make it the final destination. It is hard in the midst to see it as a blessing. But it truly is. It shows you that you have the capacity to love. But it also shows where you can still mature. Thank God she was mature enough to stop it in its tracks. I wish I had spoken up before marriage when I didn’t have peace. Yet he was persistent about it being God ordained and everyone else supported it; so I took that as what I was feeling must not be factual. It was! God was trying to protect me and I blatantly ignored him. Maybe that’s not what’s happening here. Maybe this will just be a part of y’all’s love story. Or maybe God has EVEN BETTER than you perceived as his best work. Keep praying and seeking Him and doing what he tells you to do. And stay accountable to someone.

As an empath, this was so heavy. I was almost in tears. I had to take breaks. I will pray for the healing of both of you. She may have been right to step away. Before I began my healing 2022, I was a completely different person. I used 2022 to be with myself, go to therapy, be with my loved ones. I was at my lowest at one point. It would have been wrong of me to date someone. It's actually possible that you may not be compatible with her healed self. Out of the 4 men I have dated in previous years, current me would have only dated maybe 1 of them. But I learned alot about myself and what I need in a partner from each one. In time, the lesson will reveal itself. Unfortunately, everyone that comes into our lives isn't meant to be forever. God may have used you to help her start her healing journey and to show her what true love looks like. Though you are rightfully sad at this loss, this was a blessing. God's timing is everything. You will once again meet a woman that God calls you to pursue and she will not run. God will affirm it for her too and she will present. I've been there. Felt in love for the first time ever. Only took 3 months, but I later realized it was out of order from the beginning. I felt such a great emotional and spiritual connection, but that was not enough. He had to see it too. He was not pursuing and it was as if I was persuading. He finally told me God told him no. I was devastated, but I quickly thanked God because I now had an answer. I told God that I would do it right next time and pray for discernment along the way. I deserve to be loved like Christ loved His church...by a man that sees me as his wife. In the process, I have recommitted myself to learning the Word and investing in my own self care and goals (healing traumas, mental/physical health, my physical appearance, career, etc). In the last few months alone, I have never been approached by this many men in my life. I haven't even used an app in 1.5 yrs. So take the lesson for what it is. God's time is the right time. Your good thing is out there. I actually say a prayer for my future husband a few times a week. Among other things, I pray for his health, any healing he may need, his relationship with God, success (whatever that means to him), and that he is growing wiser and more humble every day to be able to lead himself and our future family. Hopefully, the next wonderful woman you meet will be an answer to that prayer. Blessings to you. 🙏

Wow!!!! Tears fell from my eyes like a stream, listening to you pour out your heart to the world. Even with your broken heart you continued to give our God all the Glory, Honour and deserving Praise. Your podcast popped up on my feed immediately after my morning prayer and me asking (for the first time in my life) a husband. After listening to you, I’m now going to be listening to God’s voice in a more intentional way. My dear young man, tears are a language that God understands. I felt every word coming from your heart and thank God for talking to you through this and more importantly for your obedience to God. Thank you for your honesty, your openness, your insight, your learning, your Love. I know you won’t give up the search for your ‘future wifey’ and it may well turn out to be the lady who broke your heart, but simply the wrong time. So keep listening to God. Like a diamond in the rough, I believe God is preparing your wife for you. Thank you for showing me what to expect from a man and not compromising on my values. I thank God for you. May God richly bless and keep you, in His perfect peace ❤

Laterras, I see that I’m nearly 7 months behind, but this episode right here has compelled me to…as you say, “Stop shacking with the DearFutureWifey podcast ”. I have just subscribed AND hit the notification 🔔 so that I’ll never miss another one! Thank you so much for your raw, intentional transparency as you moved through the real-time moments of your heartbreak. Having recently gone through a breakup myself, the spiritual alignment you experienced in your relationship has confirmed to me that it is 100% possible. I refuse to compromise that ever again. Also your closing prayer of gratitude and surrender to God in spite of your hurt brought tears of the same to my eyes. Be blessed, and thank you for allowing our Lord God to use your life to help so many others.

"Keep your hands and heart clean." This was the perfect advice given to you Laterras. I'm praying for both of your hearts 💕. I respect this young lady because she recognized that she could harm your emotions and heart. But that was love! I pray for this young lady's healing so that she doesn't miss any blessings in hee life. I also felt your heart Laterras. I praying that you feel all of the pain at once so that you can overcome. As this young lady stated, if you 2 were meant to be, then GOD will bring you 2 back together. Only after healing takes place from both. I still felt that you experienced a miracle because you said that the LORD spoke to both of your hearts concerning one another, affirming what you both have prayed for. That is a blessing to have experienced. Not many can say that they have. You both are in my prayers. Keep on loving Laterras!

I cried when you cried. You’ve become a consistent part of my life. Each and every post and video are not missed and I pray for your heart to heal from this. If the eyes are the window to the soul then you just poured your soul out. And that’s completely okay. I love you Laterras and I only know you from your platform but it has been a blessing to watch you. I know EXACTLY what you’re feeling because the same thing happened to me 2 years ago. I didn’t want to ever love again but your episodes have given myself and many others hope. Don’t give up on your love journey. I’m definitely not giving up on mine. God bless you ❤

My initial thought was, "she just not that into you, or she just doesn't love you". I stand corrected. Love is selfless. The most wonderful thing a person that loves you can do is leave you whole. Although it may not have felt that way, you were whole. Bent but whole. Heartbroken but whole.

L.R.W do you know how much of an impact you've had, how much of an encouragement your testimony is?? I am watching this a year later. A close family friend shared this podcast with me and I came across this episode after watching others...I have been soo blessed and encouraged. As I watched you be honest, open, and transparent, I prayed that the joy that you feel when God brings along your person will be greater than the pain and loss you felt in this episode 🙏 God is using in a mighty way L.R.W. God bless you and at the right time God will work everything out for you .

"I can deal with the wishy-washyness...but if you ever say that I'm not the one, I have nothing to fight for." 22:05 Whew! That sat right there in my ribcage. Praying for you, brother.

"It feels empty to be seen by millions if you're not seen by the ONE" Whewww how I felt this

"Women, Men also hurt", thanks for your transparency and truthfulness. God bless you,with love from Nigeria

I think when we hear and get confirmation from God it makes it SUPER difficult because we heard it and they heard it also but wasn’t ready. I pray God restore hope and our heart that wants to obey God even though it hurts so much🙏🏾🙏🏾

I was where you are 17 years ago. I wanted a relationship but the guy didn’t so it ended. Months later God made me aware of who I would marry. Scary thing is I married my best friend not knowing he was who God wanted for me the whole time. ❤ 15years and we still going strong! Jesus is faithful even if what he has doesn’t line up with what we want. 💕

This is the definition of strenghth. Thanks for being vulnerable with us. Nothing catches God by surprise. He has Got you covered and we will witness a turnaround. Your podcasts never disappoint.