The world can be so cruel... No one deserves to be treated this way.
@Renjun2399 ай бұрын
Ifkr
@amarolinda299 ай бұрын
That is so true
@coolman45479 ай бұрын
Yeah u r right and also u r so beautiful ❤️
@fadedxd699 ай бұрын
Yeah may Allah punish those type of people who treat others like trash
@Spideyhwa9 ай бұрын
For real it’s so sad ☹️
@priscilla80689 ай бұрын
It's disgusting to think that people justify being rude and disrespectful towards fat people because it will encourage them to lose weight. This doesn't work and if anything it will only make the situation worse. I'm a fat person and in the process of losing weight and being around people who aren't negative and mean really helped me start the journey. Fat people know they are fat and they know the weight has to go, being mean to us isn't helpful. I really loved the interaction between these two ladies❤.
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
Thank you for your comment ❤❤ I agree
@anna50849 ай бұрын
If these people really wanted to help fat people losing weight, they would become doctors or participe in campaign that help people having a healthier relationship with food but guess what? They don't, because they don't really care actually
@beatriza.74479 ай бұрын
yesss... shaming people for their weight will do more harm. just think about it: if you shame and offend someone bc theyre fat, they will most likely fall into a unhealthy mindset, they will also seek unhealthy ways to lose weight. people actually care more about whats "aesthetic pleasing/beautiful" than about mental health
@peleber96789 ай бұрын
Good luck on your jurney, loosing exess weight fees so good afterwards, it's really worh it
@stef9879 ай бұрын
Yes, thanks for that comment! People in my family were rude and disrespectful about it since my childhood (it kind of changed when I started to "actively" and successfully lose some weight, even though I've always wanted to lose weight before and hated how I looked. I had never really learned to love myself back then). Now my eating habits are pretty messed up. I have times when I eat too much and other times when I don't eat enough - that's the times when I lose weight or that at least enable me to hold my weight (which is still too much/"obese") in a certain area. During the past years I managed to lose and regain 10-25kg repeatedly. Not sure if I even need to mention that the eating behaviour of certain family members (who used to "bully" me about my weight) is fairly messed up, too. With times of unhealthy eating being followed by another diet and the other way around. The sad thing is, that some doctors will also go as far as "mocking" their patients about their weight, or aren't getting tired of mentioning it along with certain assumptions ("do you eat sweets a lot?" umm, well... no, actually. "You need to get more excercise, but you know that yourself. Why don't you start walking a bit?" Well, I walk about 4-7km each morning, thanks). When I told my GP that I had lost about 12kg over only a couple of weeks (= too much in too short a time) because of ANXIETY, she was actually pleased. I guess all she heard was "I lost 12kg"... Luckily, I was able to stop hating the way I look, or being ashamed of it. This doesn't exclude wanting to change and mangage my weight. It's just when I look at old photos I think "Why didn't I like myself back then? I was pretty!" and I don't want to think the same when I look at old photos in the future. Even though I still very much dislike my photo being taken...
@Gurlhmong9 ай бұрын
Wow! The girl in beige vest is just amazing to speak Korean so fluently.
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
thank you so much! ❤
@softpinkmoonlight9 ай бұрын
so is the Korean girl for her level of English
@boodledemic64309 ай бұрын
@@softpinkmoonlightyes but it’s more common for people to know some English because it’s a National language essential, korean is not. Props to Ashleigh for learning Korean so well
@SpringNotes9 ай бұрын
@@absolutelyashleigh May I ask, how did you become so fluent in Korean ?
@Sunny-ot1vo8 ай бұрын
@@absolutelyashleigh Someone already asked but I am curious how you learned Korean so fluently too. I've struggled a lot to learn. I really want to. I was adopted as a baby and would like to read, write, and speak my native language
@roxndroid9 ай бұрын
Ashleigh’s story is very inspiring because even if she’s been bullied a lot in America, she decided to move to Korea because it was her dream. She still faces fatphobia, but she builds the life she wants.
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
I appreciate that! Just gotta keep moving forward! ❤❤ Thank you for your comment!
@davidshirz43519 ай бұрын
Fatphobia xD This is sucha ignorant comment. Why when someone is being told to stop smoking it's not called cigarettephobia ? Being obese is just very dangerous for health, it's just ALL ABOUT the way you encourage someone to take action. You can be very nice and supportive ( as friend or even best friend) but you can also be a d**k for someone and bully him. I think they are both amazing and they don't deserve to be treated like that, but at the sime time when you care about someone you want them to live as long as possible with good physical condition- you don't wanna your best friend to can't move at age 40 because of obesity or have a myocardial infarction. The thing is the approach. Imagine how great it would feel if you look at your friend the end of your journey and be able to say '' thank you - you supported me whole time, helped me losing weight, motivated me. Now I feel great phicically, My health is great and my looks also improved'' INSTEAD of fake friend telling you look amazing, they all fatphobic, don't change, your health is not important'' and then waking up at 40 y.o with multiple health problems ect ...
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
just wait until you see our video about fat positivity taken too far in America and beauty being taken too far in Korea! i think you'll see that we share some of our views. i don't promote unhealthy behaviors; however, i was obese due to a hormonal disorder that i'm receiving treatment for (i've lost 50 pounds so far). my point is that fat people don't deserve to be ridiculed; smokers aren't ridiculed in every possible circumstance nor are their health concerns ignored with a simple "quit smoking" comment. even if someone gained weight due to food addiction, addiction is also a disease that requires support, not verbal abuse. thank you for your comment and have a good day!
@roxndroid9 ай бұрын
@@davidshirz4351 i hope you can archive whatever is your goal ❤️
@uglymolecule9 ай бұрын
There is no such thing as fat phobia…
@iconoclastic-fantastic9 ай бұрын
When they both realized they were both former dance captains & went through the same struggles specifically in that situation- that was so precious & wholesome & lovely. I can sense a potential long lasting friendship here. They were both lighting up the whole time despite the topic of conversation
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much! i enjoyed our conversation so much!
@iconoclastic-fantastic8 ай бұрын
@@absolutelyashleigh Hey! I'm honored that you took the time to comment back. I'm super impressed by your Korean language skills, and truly found this to be a beautiful & timeless example of human connection. This conversation was a beautiful thing to witness & I really wish nothing but the best for both you & Jiahn. Y'all both seem like lovely, empathetic people, and I'm sending both of y'all all the love
@sarashibu57179 ай бұрын
bruhh they both look so pretty and if i get a chance to meet them i m pretty sure it will be so fun like they r so fun to hangout and obv love their personalities
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
aww thank you! ❤
@Tofunaga5 ай бұрын
that was also my first thought. "They're both so pretty!" and "Wow they're both so articulate!"
@ItsJustAdam29 ай бұрын
As a medical student I don’t think some doctors realize that weight alone cannot be a sole factor in determining someone’s health there are other important things as-well, While weight maybe important someone who is slightly overweight should not be dismissed or misdiagnosed just solely because of their weight. I have seen so many patients who had visited a doctor who were slightly on the heavier side be misdiagnosed and doctors only recommend them to “lose some extra weight” i think more health care professionals should actually look at the patients overall condition instead of just that factor. And this is also why some people hesitate to visit the doctors which is really upsetting to see because they can’t get the right diagnosis and treatment as professionals we all need to work around this problem.
@ijustneedmyself9 ай бұрын
Thank you for recognizing this. I have had negative/not great experiences with far too many doctors. For the record, I'm not talking about extreme things, but mostly just doctors not showing they actually hear/are listening to what I'm saying. The worst was a doctor asking if I was a worrier. I said no because, well, I'm not. Later on I brought up a new pain near my hip. She then proceeded to say, "Oh yeah you're a worrier" and suggested that my score on the mental health assessment might be the reason for the pain 🤦🏽♀️ I bet if I had private insurance she would've taken me seriously. Please don't ever become so jaded that you dismiss your patients' concerns and be sure to treat all of your patients equally despite their income. It took me another 4 years to actually get diagnosed by a doctor who actually wanted to help me. Turns out the pain was being caused by an ovarian cyst. AND in that same process of trying to learn what the cause of the pain was I also was tested for IBS (neg) and celiac disease (pos). Your comment gives me confidence you'll be a great doctor! Take care of yourself the best you can so you can take care of your patients. Best of luck going forward 🙏🏽
@ItsJustAdam29 ай бұрын
@@ijustneedmyself I’m sorry to hear about your experience with your previous doctor while stress/anxiety can affect your body in different ways, the pain you described was specific which should have been looked at more clearly in the first place. Glad to hear that you finally got your proper diagnosis i have had conversations with my senior residents before, specially women tend to be more misdiagnosed and overlooked than men because there is explicit gender bias and deep beliefs although it might not be the case here but just a lack of understanding for the patient’s condition.I hope you’re doing well now. Thank you for your kind comment and encouragement I’ll try my best to do what’s good for my future patients!
@kirbu27479 ай бұрын
common kaworu pfp W
@ItsJustAdam29 ай бұрын
@@courtneyprice4217 I understand what you’re talking about in the comment above i wrote someone who is slightly overweight. Weight is a significant factor in determining someone’s health but most doctors overlook the fact that it’s not just the main issue, misdiagnosis happens a lot of in this field due to this exact reason.Doctors can determine in a case if someone is morbidly obese or someone who is above the average weight. We have to look at each cases differently but what I described was people being overlooked due to just the “weight” reasons which can cause the actual problem to be dismissed. In a case you described the problem would not have been dismissed as the patient’s overall condition is carefully observed.Hope this clears your doubts!
@ItsJustAdam29 ай бұрын
@@kirbu2747 we love kaworu indeed :) ❤️
@mellusina88086 ай бұрын
악의가 없더라도 남의 외모 평가하는 문화 좀 한국에서 없어졌으면 좋겠다. 어느 나라든지 외모로 사람 평가하는 사람들이 있겠지만 한국은 너무 심해ㅠㅠ 학생들 상처 받지 말고 당당하게 지금처럼 씩씩하게 자라줘요. 지금 그대로의 내 모습을 사랑하고 인정해 주는 좋은 사람들만 만나서 행복하세요!
@Zhsks20075 ай бұрын
그런게 없어질거같음? 당장 님도 잘생기거나 이쁜사람 좋아하지 못생긴사람 좋아함? ㅋㅋㅋ
@hernom20235 ай бұрын
@@Zhsks2007 그렇게 삐딱한 생각을 들고 살면 널 좋아해주는 사람은 평생 너의 부모님밖에 없을거다.
@user-sb1xz5dn2x5 ай бұрын
윗댓들 무례함을 정당화 하네…머릿속으로 생각하는걸 뭐라하냐? 사람이면 겉으로 티내지말라고
@honeybomb5 ай бұрын
@@user-sb1xz5dn2x익명뒤에서 남을 헐뜯어서 자존감 채우는 인간들인지라 상대하지않는게 정신건강에 좋습니다
@user-es3if7kq5e5 ай бұрын
한국이 심하다 생각하는구나 음 우물안 개구리
@SolC19899 ай бұрын
I loved these two together. They get on so well, personality wise and shared experiences
@boodledemic64309 ай бұрын
They were so fun to watch conversing ❤ agree
@ozuitsberna6 ай бұрын
Yeah I like to see both having a great time and feeling comfortable with each other, I would like to see more videos of them more often!
@chimeyoon609 ай бұрын
Poor babies no one deserves to be bullied they're super cute
@fu4realtalk9529 ай бұрын
Totally agree! They’re both lovely girls, those bullies clearly didn’t develop an ounce of empathy…
@jihoonkang84336 ай бұрын
자신이 존중 받으려면 타인을 존중할 줄 아는 마음부터 가져야 한다고 생각합니다. 사회의 편견과 편협한 시선에 맞선 두 분 그리고 지금도 비슷한 상황에 놓인 분들 항상 응원하겠습니다.
@songsmusichappy5 ай бұрын
아픈 얘기를 카메라 앞에서 아무렇지 않게 얘기하는 모습들이 멋있네요. 내면이 단단한 대화들 들으며 많은 걸 느끼고 갑니다.
@absolutelyashleigh5 ай бұрын
감사합니다!!!
@Ashley-xu1lk9 ай бұрын
Fatphobia is unfortunately a problem in the US. I hate it when beauty and health are used interchangeably. Yes being overweight/obese is bad for your health but that shouldn't deny women to see themselves as beautiful and should not be used as a reason to bully people for their weight. Equating health with beauty is like saying being skinny is healthy when that's not always the case. There are some girls and women that are too skinny to the point they get sick easily. There are also women at a healthy weight but their lifestyle choices are unhealthy (e.g. smoker, alcoholic) and get sick from that but because on the outside they're not considered fat, people will still think of them as healthy.
@lillycamp88929 ай бұрын
You worded all my thoughts perfectly
@sg.strangegamers69749 ай бұрын
bro but i have seen many obese ppl in youtube viedo of America so like for country like Korea and japan where you not see not that much fat ppl it is discrimination but in us too damn
@travis12719 ай бұрын
being skinny is beautiful it just doesn’t work when you compare it to someone severely skinny that’s like saying some people can’t help being fat as a comeback when majority of people don’t have complications that make them fat
@hotsexyangel9 ай бұрын
Preach
@travis12719 ай бұрын
@@mangamaniac7432 being overweight is a product of environment what your getting confused with is big boned
@casskuru719 ай бұрын
So grateful for you both, sharing your stories and bringing all the systemic untruths and toxic discrimination that our societies continue to tolerate... I've struggled with my own appearance & have had an eating disorder (people compliment me back then, even when I was almost hospitalised)... now I'm bigger and finally starting to accept myself 💗
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
I also struggled with an ED in middle school. I am now beginning to accept myself too! I wish you happiness and good health!!
@Chevalier445679 ай бұрын
Imagine just bullying someone, being on someone's back, laughing at someone about something they don't control and stuff in this kind. What a shame. just look at these dumb"ss fighting in my comments section bro
@zombie21839 ай бұрын
they can control it tho lol
@riyav30899 ай бұрын
@@zombie2183Do you have PCOS... No weight loss is very hard.
@riyav30899 ай бұрын
@@zombie2183looks like you are the bully.
@CharlesWawa9 ай бұрын
@@zombie2183 Not everyone can, and even if they are able to they still don't deserve to be bullied and harassed.
@zombie21839 ай бұрын
im not bullying anyone 💀I'm just saying that they can work on it, because like being overweight isn't like the end of the world but it definetely does come with health issues if you're severely overweight and a lot of people just try to push away trying to better themselves and look for pity after years of not putting effort into themselves when they had time to work on it. I'm not saying it's easy, and I do have pcos lol but I managed to find a way to get into a healthier shape while being on birth control for it and cutting out carbs and actually exercising lol
@shannonberp9 ай бұрын
I know this had a lot of difficult subjects, but I couldn't stop smiling because they both radiated so much joy. Meeting someone else with similar experiences as you can be so validating. I'm really happy for these young ladies~
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!! I really enjoyed meeting someone who really got what I felt!!
@michelleler75779 ай бұрын
Ashleigh looks like one of those types of people who you just wanna be friends with because she's so kind and gentle. I have no idea how some people can be so cruel to others. As someone who was overweight and has lost weight in these few years, the snide comments, the judgy looks, the so-called "jokes", they never truly go away. Even now that I am deemed more "pretty" and get a bit more attention than I do before, I am still so self-conscious about how I present myself because I don't ever want to experience what I did in the past. I hope for everyone struggling out there with their own body image, that you come to a point where you truly love and care for your own body. Whether it's through losing weight, maintaining a healthier diet and lifestyle, or just wearing cute clothes because you want to, I hope that you look in the mirror one day and love what you see.
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much!! i hope your relationship with your body image continues to grow healthier and your comment made my day!!
@Necksliceforyou6 ай бұрын
사랑스런 두 친구... 저도 혐오와 편견을 없애기 위해서 열심히 살게요 가르침을 주셔서 너무 감사해요.
@absolutelyashleigh5 ай бұрын
감사합니다
@mochimochi829 ай бұрын
When I was a freshman in college there was a couple on my floor in my dorm who were extremely attractive. Together and individually they were such sweet, kind, and genuine people. (We weren’t even close but the boy took me to see a group he knew he and I both liked.) This was MANY years ago and I still remember how unusual I thought they were, because people just aren’t like that. Isn’t it sad that to this I think of them as being so different than other ‘popular’ people? (One of my roommates, who was fairly pretty, was a witch.)
@necobubbles9 ай бұрын
lol something similar happened to me too in middle-high school where this white girl i thought was super pretty but always treated me with kindness and still sometimes to this day i think i look like a frog. it was hard to believe her kindness was genuine sometimes bc i have experienced being friends with people who only wanted me as a friend to be their compliment or vent box and basically just proclaimed i’m inferior to them in looks or something and back then i did believe it but that girl was so sincere in everything she did and might’ve been my actual first true love
@mochimochi829 ай бұрын
@@necobubbles I think people like the ones we knew don’t need other people finding them physically attractive for their sense of self worth. They want to be valued for something meaningful, like a good mind and heart. I think that must have something to do with how they were raised.
@g5rearea8 ай бұрын
It took me a second to realize you meant your roommate was mean because I'm a practicing witch and I couldn't figure out what witchcraft had to do with the rest of the comment.
@mochimochi828 ай бұрын
@@g5rearea Sorry! I meant no disrespect. I was trying to avoid the B word for all the sensitive souls on this app (lol)
@g5rearea8 ай бұрын
@@mochimochi82 No worries! I had a good laugh at myself.
@ai-shq9 ай бұрын
Whether you are the most popular or least popular in your school you need to treat people the same as your popularity can increase or decrease at any time so don't ever think highly or lowly of yourself.
@veronicaa.68509 ай бұрын
Popularity in school is such a bs concept once they leave school none of that will matter
@bingbong63239 ай бұрын
@@veronicaa.6850 exactlyyy i felt this recently tooo i just graduated and started college 2 weeks ago, and it's so true. nobody cares who you are. its wayyy more refreshing in college/uni than high school, everyone has clearly matured over graduation and their attitudes are way better. basically became adults as we are lol but u get what i mean. to everyone who is 1-2 years away from graduating, seriously drop the care about popularity and who likes you/who doesn't !!! it doesn't matter at alllll
@user-ds8tg9mh9v6 ай бұрын
살집 있는 편은 아니지만 외모에 대한 이야기가 많이 공감 되네요. 오히려 저는 체중 문제가 아니라 그냥 생김새 자체로 멸시를 당하고 있어서 어떻게 해야 될 지 모르겠음.. 성형 하기엔 총체적인 골격 문제라 건드리기도 무섭고 뾰족한 수도 없어요. 저도 외모 때문에 따돌림 많이 당했어요. 중학생 때 애들이 교무실에서 제 증명사진 보면서 사람이 어떻게 이렇게 생겼냐고 욕하던 거, 그리고 그거랑 비슷한 여러 가지 일들 아직도 기억나요.
@user-bg9se7fv5j6 ай бұрын
아이고..저도 그런거 봤어요.. 못생긴 사람일 수록 더욱 꾸미지 않으면 외면당하는게 현실이죠..내면을 잘 갈고 닦읍시다
@user-zl8no1sg7i5 ай бұрын
ㅠㅠ
@Yu-kt6wy5 ай бұрын
저도 골격이 문제여서 결국 외모지상주의에 눈이 멀어서 성형 했는데 부작용 장난 아니네요. 평생을 재수술 걱정에 살아가야 하고. 중요한건 멘탈과 좋은사람들 만나는 것입니다. 어차피 학교 졸업하면 아무도 그런 말 안함.. 어릴때 괜히 군중심리 때문에 그랫던 거임
@user-zp3yk6nb1c5 ай бұрын
저도 외모때문에 남자애들한테 비난 많이 받았어요 자기들딴에는 장난이랍시고 얘기하지만 진짜 큰 상처가 돼서 돌아오는.. 저도 골격이 문제라 성형한다고해도 크게 바뀌는 거 없어서 성형도 포기했습니다.. 진짜 공감되네요
@user-gf9xz9dh8j5 ай бұрын
좀 못생기면 어때요 지들이 뭘 할 수 있는데 ㅋㅋ 외모로 사람 차별하는게 얼마나 유치한 짓인지도 모르는 인간들일걸요
@MehebubaSultana-ys2jc25 күн бұрын
They made those unpopular girls really popular....
@scentedcandles687925 күн бұрын
is that a bad thing?
@MehebubaSultana-ys2jc24 күн бұрын
@@scentedcandles6879 Obviously not, it's a good thing....i didn't mean that way..
@aurora89649 ай бұрын
I feel their stories so much, I'm from a small city in Italy. my city is literally my nightmare, I always been fat and chubby, but I always tried my best with diets, my first diet was around 11 years old. and since then, I tried to do sports, and eating better, but I can't. I would probably come to Korea next year, and I'm scared but at the same time exited for that, I hearing these stories makes me feel good, confortate, it's a good feeling. thank you girls, thank you for sharing your story.
@JefferyAbicus9 ай бұрын
tony soprano?
@TrixSounds7 ай бұрын
ti capisco tantissimo, amo la Corea ma ho davvero paura di andarci per paura di non essere accettata...
@Vegetarianbull5 ай бұрын
In italy people also does discriminate big people….
@i.like.onepiece.9 ай бұрын
I liked their chemistry
@carmenwilcox74789 ай бұрын
I commend both of these strong young women, on their ability to speak two languages, you go Ashleigh, and on feeling an optimism that can be hard to find in this world of obsessed and unrealistic beauty standards!❤️
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
thank you so much!
@user-op3du7ms8e6 ай бұрын
여기 두분 왜 이렇게 말을 잘하신대요~? 와 보는 내내 감탄하면서 봤어요. 진짜 티인의 외모에 대ㅐ해 칭찬하거나 조언하거나 평가하는 모든 행위들이 다 무례하다는 걸 다들 알았음 좋겠어요. 그냥 생각만하고 추스려야죠. 생각하는 대로 내뱉는 건 성숙한 인간의 자세가 아니니까요,,, 상처가 될 수도 있는데.
@rossfamily11849 ай бұрын
I really hope these two girls stay in touch and became friends as they both understand what they have been through, how they were bullied and treated in their countries because they are larger than the average person. They seem to have got comfortable with each other really quickly and are chatting like they have known one another for years rather than minutes. It’s so sad that anyone who is different has to go through all of this. Kids (and adults) can be really cruel. Being larger, having red hair, being too skinny, having black skin etc etc is no reason for other people to put you down and make you feel inferior to other people. This world is made up of such wonderful differences which should be celebrated. I love how these two girls have bonded so beautifully. They are beautiful inside and out. ❤xx
@Alina456109 ай бұрын
Looking at these two beautiful personalities, I really wanna be friends with them. I always thought that I was the only one who felt left out but I am glad there are other people out there just like me. I really feel what they went through cuz once upon a time, I was just like them (the one who always left out and the ugly fat friend). Just because you are obese or skinny, no one is gonna be happy. School had always been hard for me. I would always get bullied just because I was fat. They called me ugly and that is how I lost my self confidence. I was hurt. I would always cry while coming from school. And the worst part is that it still hurts to think about that sometimes. But the years passed, I was healing for awhile. And one day, I stopped eating completely. Still, I am struggling to maintain an image in front of the society. It just hurtful when someone passes an awful comment. I am 24 now.
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
i’m so sorry you went through that 😔
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
i hope that things have gotten better and you are worthy of love and respect!! ❤❤
@Alina456109 ай бұрын
@@absolutelyashleigh well, it's been years now. I have over come that. The scars are still there. I am still healing slowly. Thank you for your kind words. Means a lot. I just hope that they do not suffer like I did. 😊
@MotherSeonghwasFavChild9 ай бұрын
It’s really sad how shallow the world is that two kind girls would be segregated purely because if their weight. I hope they became friends they had really good vibes in this video
@seoac9 ай бұрын
As someone who experienced bullying, pretty much her entire life, I really appreciate this video. I went through hell and back, and that’s me putting it lightly. From having my hair pulled, causing an injury that if wasn’t treated quickly and professionally, I would of had my leg ambulated due to infection, and so much more. Thank you for making this video :(
@komos37199 ай бұрын
Them relating over dance was really cute! It's quite harsh that there are so many little things that chip away at your confidence even outside of people being mean to you directly like not being able to comfortably go shopping. The kinds of things that others don't think about because it doesn't affect them. This was a good discussion for me to open my eyes some more
@boogalooloo9 ай бұрын
As a person who was always skinny most of their life, at 23 I lost my mother right before graduating and I got so depressed I started to self loath but before I realized it I already gained 25 kgs in a span of 2 years and let me tell you... people are BRUTAL, despite knowing what I have been through, I had to stay with my abusive father for a while too cause I didn't have any income right after graduation and he wouldn't help provide so I literally sold my belongings to get money to eat, there are days where I starved and put my siblings first since I was the eldest, and I did try to reach for family everyone avoided helping despite me telling them I will give them the money back wheb I earn, as soon as I started earning its when it began, trauma of expereicning starvation, mixed with losing my mother.... I started to comfort eat without realizing it, I became so large since I was so short too it didn't help, I didn't realize it until one day, I kinda literally woke up to it, I was rearranging my closet and discovered that my clothes don't even go past my knees, It started to mess with me every single day and to top it off people weren't kind, and just because you are fat, people treat you in ways that you are stupid or have less brain cells because you are fat, at work before gaining the weight no one questioned my judgment, listened to me complain about the most insignificant shit, when I became fat, thats a whole different world, people would question you as you were never trained for the job, get questioned for the smallest simplest things and would get told off about my feelings, always felt invalidated
@bellakamiya56529 ай бұрын
As far as words from strangers go 😭 I’m so sorry you went through that, best of wishes ❤
@boogalooloo9 ай бұрын
@@bellakamiya5652 thank you, I truly appreciate it ❤🙏
@justacarat26388 ай бұрын
It's so sad how cruel people can be...it's like they have some glasses on that make everything in their eyes look ugly. Actually if you really look at it, most things that happen in those people's lives are unfulfilling for them and they complain a lot. Because they lack kindness and compassion. If they were more compassionate, they would respect you for being so brave and strong going through the things you went through. Not just judging you based on what they see. I really hope that you'd become successful and have a lot of sincere loving people by your side❤
@boogalooloo8 ай бұрын
@@justacarat2638 your comment made me cry so hard, thank you kind stranger, you have no idea how your words impacted me ❤
@starlessfae8 ай бұрын
@@boogalooloo i hope life treats you kindly from now on
@hjhong84775 ай бұрын
힘든 일 많았을텐데 두분 다 밝게 자라서 다행이예요!!❤ 앞으로는 세상이 더 좋아져서 행복한 일이 더 많아졌으면 좋겠어요
@imahotmess8729 ай бұрын
as an overweight teen, i appreciate this video. i have been called a whale in person and online and it literally hurts. seeing girls like me going through the same thing helps me have a little strength
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
you didn't and don't deserve that abuse. stay strong! it will get better, i promise (even though it never feels that way in the moment).
@yuki97kira8 ай бұрын
Lmao i had a stranger called me fat..i was a teen, in my school uniform. God i was so pissed, he wasnt a supermodel either (an old 40+ year old skinny dude) to be judging others
@YellaHeRsHeYs19 ай бұрын
change the title to "teenage girls vs the rampant fatphobia and bullying they go through all over the world"
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
so true 😢
@kresspqressie77229 ай бұрын
For unpopular series i think we need unpopular people beside them. I mean as we know here and before these girls experiencing bad moments because people seeing their body. I bet this can be one of best series giggle have to continue. Love u both girl
@user-uw6ww6wp2n6 ай бұрын
정말 유튜브고 뭐고를 떠나서 그 둘이 같이 이야기 한 시간만으로도 각자에게 정말 행복한 시간이었을 것 같다
@PND-ye3hq9 ай бұрын
All I see is two beautiful human beings. I'm sorry you had to go through that... Just know that you are unique the way you are!
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
thank you so much! ❤
@KaylehNicole9 ай бұрын
They both seem so genuine and sweet. It's a shame people are treated so poorly
@user-fw7gm9yd9i5 ай бұрын
한국인 여자분 그 진용진 양파에 나오는 배우분 아니신가…? 그때 연기 진짜 잘해서 감탄하면서 봤었는데 여기서 다보네 대박
@potatowellcox88709 ай бұрын
Fat people are people. They are humans who feel and have experiences. Realize that you’re not making anyone’s life easier by ostracizing them and if you think you are you need to look in the mirror. People can lose weight, but you will always be a nasty, disgusting person regardless of your muscle and skinniness. Be kind. Fat people know they’re fat and many want to change. So, there’s no need to tell them that they need to lose weight or that they’re unhealthy. Either mind your business or provide encouragement when asked for it.
@potatowellcox88709 ай бұрын
Key word: “when asked for” you can’t control anyone’s life and you’re believing you’re this significant figure with so much power to impact someone by insulting and degrading them when you’re just a bully.
@Ashley-xu1lk9 ай бұрын
"Fat people are fat and many want to change" makes me feel icky. I know you mean well OP and I agree with everything else you've said, but that sentence is like saying that the bullies should take it easy on us because us fat people want to conform to societal norms. And fat people feeling pressured to do so is the problem. If you want to lose weight, that's fine if it's for yourself and not for others, that I'm not arguing against. But that sentence just makes it sound as if we know we're a blemish in society or something.
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
thank you for your comment! i agree that the content of one’s character is most important! ❤
@solaris59229 ай бұрын
@@whoandwhyareyouhere um girl…that is scientifically false. 💀
@milkpuddingangel968 ай бұрын
I love them both SO much, as someone who was also bullied (except it was for being ugly and weird/socially awkward rather than fat) i want to hug them both, it's horrible how fat people are treated like subhumans. I think they're both SO cute too, their skin is incredible and they have such bright smiles. I wanna be their friend so bad they sound so chill to hang out with
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much!
@TommyCashLover4206 ай бұрын
@@absolutelyashleighdefinitely, you both are great!
@chiara_13109 ай бұрын
As a girl who suffered bullying at school and as a person in my 20's I only tell you one thing: school is a very small stage of your life, although now it seems like a world to you, be strong, you are strong, incredible things await you, you I promise, if you manage to overcome this stage of your life, everything you still have to experience will be worth it. You will be like a phoenix, you will be incredible in every way and you will realize that the people who harassed you are simply jealous and losers, try to live your life as happy as you can despite all the shit you are enduring But please, never give up. I promise you that all this ends ❤️
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
thank you so much!! i appreciate your kind words and advice! ❤
@sl33ptilldawn9 ай бұрын
It's so cool that they can both speak to each other's languages. They're both so fluent.
@azraazeez35809 ай бұрын
Everyone is beautiful in their own way..
@morganlegayfay9 ай бұрын
It's sad because both of them are so intelligent and genuine. I'd always pick a friend like that over someone who's shallow.
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much!!
@benoban1376 ай бұрын
생리불순은 스트레스로도 오는 것이고 평소에 괜찮았으면 더더욱 학창시절의 스트레스인경우가 태반인데 다짜고짜 살때문이라니 어이없네요.. 모든 것에 이유로 외형을 댈 이유도 욕해도 되는 이유도 없는데 쟐 살아가다가 이런 경험들이 오히려 오기가 생기게하고 트라우마만 만드는 것 같다는 생각이 드네요
@Your_face_.6 ай бұрын
그러게요 내가 다 화나네
@absolutelyashleigh6 ай бұрын
ㅜㅜㅜㅜ 인정해요 ㅜㅜ 너무 답답해요
@katl88257 ай бұрын
two of the bravest girls I've ever watched... thank you for sharing your experiences
@jessmuartist9 ай бұрын
This is brilliant, I hope more people see these videos and decide to stand up against bullying. Your both BEAUTIFUL ladies ❤️ you didn’t deserve that x God bless you both
@b2thegoodness5 ай бұрын
애쉴리! 한국말 정말정말 잘한다. 한국어 배우기 쉽지 않았을텐데 대단하다 정말
@absolutelyashleigh5 ай бұрын
감사합니다!!!
@btsmochimi792418 күн бұрын
I love the sisterhood energy throughout the end of the video. As the bigger kid too, hitting obese last january was my wakeup call to start changing my life. People who make rude remarks about the body should know that overweight/obese peeps have hidden struggles that they wanted to overcome too. Rubbing it into their faces does not help
@Cr0mvh16 ай бұрын
I love how they come together and have a bonding moment from their experience and can have an understanding with each other.
@crustytoes879 ай бұрын
I am overweight as well and I could relate a lot with them, especially the hospital one, i HATE going to a doctor because as soon as they see me they assume that im sick cause im fat and its very annoying like just because im fat doesnt mean thats the only reason why im sick, honestly doctors should be more accomodating towards different sized patients you guys are just demotivating us to lose our weight, i mentally struggled a lot because of my weight but now im surrounded by nice people who always reminds me that no matter how i look im still beautiful and thank you so much for speaking up about the struggles we face, really appreciate it !
@dannycarranco12149 ай бұрын
I felt so understood watching this video. I'm always scared of going to the hospital every time that I'm sick because I always had to deal with doctors giving you a mean look while commenting about my overweight since I was a teenager. Or some of my parents passive - agressive comments about how i didn't do any exercise when I was a child since all the kids did sports or something more in their free time and I just didn't felt any attraction to other activities more than drawing and music. It's still so hard for me to accept my body because I have many insecurities since I have memory, I really don't like taking pictures of myself and no matter what my family always force me to being in them, it's just so tiring... These girls gave me some hope to one day finally accept myself as I am, thank you so much. 🖤
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
i’m sorry you’ve went through that 😔 you are worthy of love and respect! it’s hard to learn to love oneself despite societal expectations, but mental AND physical health are both super important!! i wish you happiness and i thank you for watching our video! ❤
@annettemoreno62587 ай бұрын
I am so glad they shared their story. I can completely relate to this and feel very relieved that I have someone I can relate to. Some people really do suck. Growing up, I was also tall and on the heavy side. When you’re like that people really do see you or it as manly. To this day it has affect me and never knew why my gender and body dysmorphia got bad whenever I wore “boyish” or unisex. I’m hyperfeminine because I was constantly bullied about how “manly” I looked, spoke, etc. people suck and it does effect people in the long run
@user-vm6ie5xu6o5 ай бұрын
‘장난’이라는 거는 서로가 재밌어하는 거지 일방적으로 ‘난 장난이었어’하는 건 놀리는 거죠..주변 친구들이 너무했네요..ㅡㅡㅜㅜ
@Nh-wb1cl6 ай бұрын
두 분 다 앞으로의 생활에 행운이 가득하기를 바라고 표정이 너무 귀여우시네요!
@absolutelyashleigh6 ай бұрын
감사합니다!
@Grm-sg8ce5 ай бұрын
두분 다 너무나도 사랑스럽고 선하고 유쾌한 분위기를 가지셨는데 사람들 때문에 상처 받으셨던 순간들이 너무 안타깝습니다. 그리고 두분 다 의사소통 능력이 너무나도 뛰어나시네요. Ashleigh 님은 한국에 아주 어릴 때부터 사신 분인줄 알았어요. 전 외모로 왕따를 당해본 적은 없지만 학창시절 작은 체구, 몸에 비해 튼실한 허벅지, 곱슬머리, 하얀 피부색 등으로 무례한 말들 많이 들어봐서 공감 갑니다. 어릴 때 잠깐 해외에 살았고 학창시절 한국에서 보내다가 성인되고 미국으로 가면서 한국과 달리 괜찮을줄 알았는데 여전히 신경 쓰이더라고요. 저에게 무례한 말 했던 사람들은 그저 장난으로 했다고 하지만 제 딴에도 여러번 들어온 말이고 스스로 단점이라 여기던 부분인데 들으니 상처 크게 받더라고요. 친한 사람들에게 그런 상처 있다 얘기 꺼내면 그들도 내 단점만 보게 될까봐 걱정이 되어서 어디에 털어놓지도 못하고 혼자만 생각해왔습니다. 중학생 때 저 놀렸던 남자애 성인 되어 만나 얘기 해보니 ”진짜 별로였으면 그런 말 안 했지! 괜찮으니까 농담으로 한 거지!“ 하던데 상처 치유되진 않고 그냥 더 화만 나더라고요. 그래도 감사한 건 제가 그런 기분을 느껴봤기에 남들에게 상처줄 말은 절대 안 하는 사람으로 성장했습니다. 제가 제일 싫어하는 사람이 본인이 상처 받았다고 공격적으로 남들에게도 상처 주는 사람이거든요.
@absolutelyashleigh5 ай бұрын
비슷한 상황 당하셔서 안타깝습니다 ㅜㅜ 댓글을 남겨셔서 감사하고 새해 복 많이 받으세요!!
@thefoolishkat9 ай бұрын
I hope they'll stay friends, they're both so sweet People ❤
@shun15909 ай бұрын
I love them :'( hope people can learn to be nicer and what you do and say will always have some sort of impact.
@naribaerchen9 ай бұрын
I hope those two stay in contact! They get along so well, It’s so sweet to see
@firefl1e9 ай бұрын
they're so cuteeeeeee, i love seeing people realize they aren't alone, it feels so warm
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
yes!! it felt so warm and fuzzy meeting Jiahn!!
@Unan1mouz8 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your stories and experiences girls!
@YoonchiYa9 ай бұрын
I wanna be friends with both of them, they seem so nice and great to talk to! Also I think they're both so pretty in that preppy style. I love Korean fashion~
@blueskyvisions9 ай бұрын
Same! Korean fashion is super cute, always!
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much!!
@0o0_en9 ай бұрын
I can relate to both of them a lot, I used to and still am treated poorly or bullied because of my weight. I'm trying to lose weight, but before trying to achieve that, I should improve my mental health first. People are really mean, they really should just keep their opinion to themselves. Sending all my love to Jiahn, Ashleigh and anyone who has had people treat them badly because of their weight or appearance. ❤❤
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much! i agree on focusing on your mental health first!! i did that and it helps a lot with dealing with all of the struggles that come along with weight loss and overcoming trauma. i wish you good physical and mental health and am sending love right back at you!!
@jingreen57966 ай бұрын
외모 보다 저 언어능력과 공감능력 저 나이에 통찰력에 박수쳐주고 싶어요. You are so beautiful the way you are. It is true that if you are smaller, you might be healthier. At the same time, your weight should never be the one factor to cast a shade on your happiness.
@lilasrose53745 ай бұрын
It’s so cool they could get along and don’t feel lonely makes me feel happy for them ❤️
@heenakudu95129 ай бұрын
Both are such a sweeties.its heartbreaking that they went through this
@kyrilkim6 ай бұрын
순수한 여학생 둘이 밝게 수다떠는 모습이 보기 좋네요. 😄
@nailartguy33639 ай бұрын
OMG @ 4:57 성인병 does not mean “venereal disease”. It means disease in later life. I was like wtf are they saying obese people can have more venereal diseases?!?!? 😂😂😂 PLEASE editors change that caption for these girls sakes!’
@MahumFatima9 ай бұрын
Tbh if I had to be there friend I would!! They are just so humble ! Inner beauty is what we need the mosttt in this world!
@mim0-07 ай бұрын
now I need podcasts of them too I love them 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
@jimmyjib_yay89949 ай бұрын
Seeing this, there are a lot of things that are similar for people who are fat all around the world. I am from India and I have always been "chubby", "healthier than others", "obese" and "fat". It wasn't to a big extent until like 4th grade. For me too things like going to the doctors would result in just one comment that it was due to my weight, going for shopping but being internally scared that the clothes won't fit, getting told by others that if I just lost a little bit weight i would be prettier etc. One of the things that annoyed me the most used to be when people would say that I have a pretty enough face it is just my weight that is the problem. But there are differences too. I don't think in my whole school life there has been an incident where I was discriminated against just for being fat. I used to play sports, dance, play keyboard, got good enough grades, had good friends and have lots of good memories from school. I think i have been blessed in a way that I never had to go through tough situations like bullying or being isolated (I have a very strong character and since I used to learn martial arts, people were just instinctively aware enough to not say anything but no one treated me much differently for it). True I didn't have "male attention" but I did have a solid group of friends who just were always there for me especially my bff (we have known each other for like 13 years). I would say more than any stranger, the people who have ever made me feel conscious of my weight are either my family members( My mom says it for health purpose and my brother and father used to just tease me. Here I mean extended family like grandparents etc) or relatives whom I don't even know properly. Regardless I think I grew up well with a fairly positive mindset and I would say till the time you make yourself useful as in find a purpose, no one can say anything to hurt you. I know this is long but I just wanted to share my story too.
@dont-9dog-me6 ай бұрын
그런일에 대해 말했다는거 자체가 성장하였고 이겨냇다고 생각해요 대단하고 너뮤 밝아보아셔서 조아요! ㅎㅎ
@absolutelyashleigh5 ай бұрын
너무 감사합니다!
@lizziefg109 ай бұрын
Thank you Ashleigh for bravely sharing your experience! I wish you may continue to be successful in your future 😊 Despite the sad circumstances, I loved watching you two bond! It felt like soulmates meeting 💕
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
aww thank you so much!!!
@junminnie9 ай бұрын
I felt so hard when she said ""I only said it once though"", yeah but I hear it EVERY. DAY." This applies to ALL BODY TYPES. I'm severely underweight (pls don't ask me to eat more, I EAT A LOT, no joke.) and I get comments like these every day, it's f.cking annoying
@fascienneskytten54978 ай бұрын
i used to think everyone loves shopping (if they can afford to) but i didnt really realize from their side, it's not as fun. i guess that's why people are glad that more range of sizes has been made.
@user-de7zk8vt5g6 ай бұрын
지안님같은 마인드 진짜 너무 가지고 싶네요ㅠㅠ 지안님 진짜 너무 멋져요!! 앞으로는 지안님 하고 싶은거 모든걸 다 순조롭게 할 수 있음 좋겠어요🩷🩷 그리고 지안님같은 언니 있음 좋을 것 같다는 생각이 들어욧🩷🩷
@user-bl2tq7gm1p5 ай бұрын
님도 돼지?
@Bunnylovecrypto9 ай бұрын
This deserve more views and awareness ❤
@jingruus8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience and story .. ❤
@merelyAriana9 ай бұрын
Exactly what Jiahn said near the end. I have heard too many people make comments about how they are justified to judge someone for their weight, because it reflects poor health choices etc. But not only do you not know their life or health conditions, but making a comment serves no purpose other than bullying them. Of course we are aware of our own weights, and no doubt people make comments. So making unsolicited judgmental comments serves no purpose other than being hurtful.
@springnightss9 ай бұрын
I want to be friends with them. They seem so nice and funny!
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
❤
@KatBlaque9 ай бұрын
This video was fascinating.
@KatBlaque9 ай бұрын
Also I wanna be fluent like her!!
@absolutelyashleigh9 ай бұрын
thank you so much! ❤❤❤
@jjayjazz9 ай бұрын
They got along so well! I kind of understand though, my sister and mother had many similar experiences especially with the doctor stuff.
@quirkyt_T9 ай бұрын
They are both so incredibly sweet and gentle. I have experienced their pain. I hope they stay longtime friends.
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
thank you so much!
@gjalwiej-wz2fo5 ай бұрын
뚱뚱한건 죄가 아니지만 생활패턴과 먹는 음식들을 보면 뭔가 잘못된 생활을 하고 있을 경우가 대부분입니다. 저 미국분도 어린데 무슨 다이어트냐? 어려도 소아비만이면 다이어트 해야죠. 식단 조절해야죠. 미국서 지내보면 애들인데 너무도 쉽게 엄청난 당을 섭취하고 엄청단 탄수화물을 섭취하는것들을 많이 볼수 있는데 보통 부모가 비만이면 자식도 비만인 경우가 많고 본인들이 먹던 식습관을 애들한테 가르치는 경우가 많으니;; 애들이니까 크느라 먹는다는 말도 안되는 이야기에 자기들끼리 빠져서 애들을 그냥 소아비만으로 만들어 버립니다. 그런 아이들이 성인이 되면 더 살뺴기가 힘들고 결국 또 그건 건강악화 비만으로 인한 스트레스로 이어지는 악순환이라는 겁니다. 비만인 분들을 욕하면 안되죠 그리고 솔직히 내몸도 아니고 상관 할 필요도 없습니다. 근데 본인 자신들도 비만에 대해선 관대해지면 안됩니다. 내몸이니까 내가 알아서해 그럼 그렇게 하세요. 하지만 그로인해 본인도 주변인들도 건강문제로 슬퍼질 수 있다는것만 꼭 염두해두세요.
@confident90565 ай бұрын
맞는말씀이십니다. 저도 살 많이 빼고나서 자존감도 올라가고 자신감이 많이 생겼어요 힘들더라도 포기하지않으면 인생에서 좋은 결과 올거라고 믿어요
@DanielaQuadros9 ай бұрын
You 2 seems sooo sweet! I wish people will stop being rude and cruel like this, you don't deserve it. Cheering from Brazil
@zsalman38bssaddict39 ай бұрын
i love that they had many similar situations it's sad but i think they now can be friends
@stanstraykids46108 ай бұрын
It's so cute hearing the other speak in the latter's language. They both sound very confident (especially JiAhn speaking English). Also, it's crazy how they have the same look in each other's eyes. It's a quiet strength, but also really good listener skill in their eyes. It's hard to explain. They both seem comfortable in their bodies, but I hope they can continue to be strengths for each other and just be close friends. They have great chemistry.
@absolutelyashleigh6 ай бұрын
thank you so much!
@eduardafernandes79307 ай бұрын
I gained over 30 kg at a time I was severely depressed, because I had to start taking antipsychotics and they increase your hunger and weight a LOT. I was never particularly skinny, but never overweight either, so when I reached 95 kg it was shocking how people would treat me, and mind you, I’ve had already been bullied before that at school. So you might guess how it went. It’s as if people don’t see you as human, even my parents said awful things to me. Only my sister, even being really skinny, was kind to me at home. I lost a lot of that weight now, and everyone who changed their behaviour to me do not impress me, because I know it’s not genuine. I’m thankful for my best friends, they never mentioned my weight once, and my boyfriend always made me feel beautiful, even at my heaviest weight. I’m glad you two found each other and hope you treasure each other’s friendship. The friends I value the most are mostly the ones who’ve felt my pain in some depth. I have awesome friends and an awesome boyfriend, also a few awesome family members. So I know you both will not only be happy, but offer happiness to others, and all the love you were not allowed to give or take. Step away from shallow people, they are truly the worst and only care about image/appearance, not deep bonds. Got inspired by this video, thank you girls!
@O2life7 ай бұрын
I love that these two lovely dance captains got to meet!
@KuR587 ай бұрын
I feel like I want to be friends with both of them. They seem like such sweet, honest people.
@annavk76729 ай бұрын
Bruh this is insanely relatable-I got worked up watching this video and cycling through memories. I pulled up a bunch of old photos, and honestly, I wasn't even overweight when the harrassment started, I was literally always just bigger and taller (like a 4 year old who looks 6). But then I started binge eating...
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
i'm so sorry you went through that. i hope that this representation of our stories can help you feel even a little more comforted and heard. no child deserves what you or i went through. i hope you're doing okay now and thank you so much for watching our video! you are worthy of respect and kindness!
@jooyean1146 ай бұрын
외모로 차별하는 건 한국이나 미국이나 에휴ㅠㅠ 어릴 때 상처 많이 받았네요. 누구나 모델같은 몸매를 가질 수는 없는데 가슴이 아프네요.
@michime78608 ай бұрын
We always have those "friends" who love to tear our confidence down. It's best to be alone and enjoy your own company❤
@uoxoudollTV9 ай бұрын
I really like the videos with this “unpopular girl”, she reminds me a lot of what I went through in school 🥺
@Kiritazu89 ай бұрын
Ashleigh’s Korean is so good! And she’s so pretty!! I loved this conversation!
@absolutelyashleigh8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@user-zj4mn3kd7g5 ай бұрын
지안? 학생 얘기도 너무 잘 들어주고 리액션 너무 좋고 유쾌하시네요! 항상 당당하게 사시길
@AarenYASS8 ай бұрын
these girls are so cute, they remind me of my old friends from school. i love how expressive they get especially, its so funny and nostalgic. 😊-
@mila63869 ай бұрын
I really think that this type of content is the one we need the most on KZfaq so thanks 💜