Lol the first word out of his mouth being “females”…. He already lost me🤣

If my husband only posted pictures of his coworker who's a woman, and not me, then screamed about not being mid when accused of cheating - immediate divorce.

"why would I cheat? If I wanted to cheat I would have cheated!" Oh he 100% cheated

"The thing is? I'm autistic" My guy. Same. That's an explanation, not an excuse???

That guy is SO annoying. Narcissism is such a turn off, it honestly puts him below mid.

The fact he used the “females” IMMEDIATELY says all you need to know about this guy

This guy completely creeps me out. ugh. He thinks WAY too highly of himself.

He looks like if Nev & Max from Catfish had a 50 year old son together.

wOmEn ArE sO eMoTiOnAl yet we’re simultaneously so cold and emotionless that we “immediately go for the killshot” 😂 make up your damn mind dudes

thought LDR meant Lana Del Rey lmaoo

Dude gets called out for bad behaviour, gets offended. Tale as old as tiiiiime 🎶

Ugh him using autism as a defence as well is so gross. I, as an autistic person myself, say he can get in the bin. I don’t care if his exterior is ugly or not - his condescending attitude and smug tone certainly are ugly traits for a person to have in the face of a relationship breakdown.

The way he jumpscared that stitch with "femaallleess" like a Ferengi 😂😂

Lol he said he's not mid? Honey, I'm afraid YOU don't get to decide that 😂

My ex did this. I wasn't surprised to get shocked faces from women he'd cheated with bc they didn't know he was engaged

You have to wonder why people like this would get married in the first place. Don't we think things through, research, and vet each other like normal people before we make commitments?

I automatically didn’t believe him when he immediately went into gaslighting lmaooo. Just imagine how he talks to her when he’s not trying to convince people.

Honestly anyone who starts referring to people as females or males is an immediate red flag to me because you just KNOW they're about to say something off-putting. And dude.... being autistic is not an excuse to be a jerk lmao And the whole "you'll cheat because you're a man" is just as off-putting and a red flag.

The way i thought LDR was for lana del rey

11:37 He understands what she needs, he just doesn't think the thing she wants and needs has value because he doesn't value her or the need.

Men calling women "females" is such a red flag for me.

You can explain something without using it as an excuse. I'm ND too, and I miss some social cues etc, but once I realize that I've done something wrong, I take accountability. It's seriously not that hard. "Oh, my bad. I'll look out for that in the future." There you go, easy. Also, saying that he'll cheat just because he's a man is hilarious. These two are a trainwreck.

This guy has that vibe of arrogance that I despise. Basically him acting like he's above it all. This guy is a walking red flag.

This need to have an audience to your argument is so weird

I'm gonna be honest...the husband made the situation public first, by posting what he did....you're completely right that it seems like he either isn't taking the situation serious or just isn't understanding. Also on the topic of explanation vs excuse, I've never once used my neurodivergent brain, the ptsd and Cptsd, nor my depression as an excuse to willingly make dumb decisions that impact my husband negatively. He knows how I am, so he works with me and lets me know if I did something that I didn't realize, and it affected him negatively. He makes me aware, and I do the inner work to make sure it doesn't happen again, or if it starts to, I recognize it, apologize, reset, and then continue with what I was saying or doing, with the modification of being aware. I do the same for him as he is also neurodivergent. We also both grew up with moms who had narcissistic tendencies, so we are both unlearning those toxic behaviors and toxic coping mechanisms.

Lol I was so excited for mormon drama 😂

NoThInG mId AbOuT mE lmfao 😂

If he understood well enough to do the justification dance, then he knew well enough to not do the thing.

Mid is higher than I would rate him, but that's because I value care, grace, good manners, intellect, and other high value personality traits more than, well, whatever it is he values. The overall package of looks and personality is a fluttering 3.5.

I don't think I've ever clicked on a video 36 seconds after upload 😅

He has short-guy voice. DGMW I love a short king. And the fact that he says females immediately immediately put him in the zero section in my own personal opinion; I can have an opinion but it doesn’t mean I’m right. Then he adds “I’m autistic;” I know people have been using all diagnoses to scam but autistic? That’s just beyond low.

Yep, all he had to say was "females" and just like that he lost all respect from me.

Been really enjoying your content lately (not like I haven’t been lol) just wanted to say you’re doing a great job - blessings to you and yours 💛

I rarely take photos with my husband and never post him on social media, so my social media does tend to be friends and sometimes coworkers. That in itself shouldn’t be a concern. I think the issue here is the way he reacted

I think this relationship is not gonna last. Clearly he doesn't care about understanding her concerns. And being his wife, she should be a priority. Also this is something to talk to your therapist about, not the whole internet.

yesss I love the commentary in this, so far everything you said was 100% valid and foolproof

This dude is super mid though...

Omg I go through this with my partner. He absolutely will not post me, it’s been YEARS since he posted me. If he uses a meme I made he tags me in a way where no one can see it on the story, if I tag him on a story he won’t share it. But he posts himself with his friends and he has also posted another woman (when he thought I didn’t know he had IG) on his story and not only visibly tagged her but put the song “21 Questions” on it. She was a model. But he will never post me, he would rather argue with me about it and call me “sensitive”. We live together, have a child, and are engaged. Writing this out makes me want to leave, yeah it’s “just social media” but it doesn’t seem good.

because of my autism, i had no idea when i was being flirted with when i was in my teens/very early 20s. but after a certain point, many ppl gain enough life experience to learn awareness of some cues and behavior patterns. i’d be hard pressed to believe this guy can be old enough to have grey hair and still unable to figure out boundaries especially when they involve his marriage and interactions with other women

as an autistic person, it makes me cringe when people use it as an excuse to do horrible shit. he definitely cheated too.

5:53 As someone who is on the spectrum, admitting that you have it means that you don't have it and are using it as an excuse for your shortcomings. Knowing you have it is one thing, but point it out to justify what you've done means you're faking it. Those to tend to have it don't usual divulge that they have it. Because that's how their thought-meats work. Derp.

Long distance marriage? I love it. ❤🌏❤ i have zero pictures of my significant other on social media. My preference....not suspicious. We are private people. Thanks ❤

the way i didn’t realise LDR stood for long distance relationship and i was waiting to find out what Lana del rey had to do with this

Starting out with “females” is immediately so damn ick you’re so right 😂

If a man calls a woman a female in a non-scientific conversation then I automatically stop listening, I stop the conversation because I already know what he thinks of women, and I don’t want to be around a person who thinks so low of a person to talk like that.

Me quaking in my boots thinking it was about Lana del rey and was like...HUSBAND????? Since when??? Whew, boy was I shook

Hi you probably don’t read the first few comments but I love you

LDR - lord of da rings

Crushed that this isn’t about Lana Del Rey 😂

They do not seem like a good match tbh, it seems to me that their relationship is just going to go further downhill and get worse. I personally don’t see it getting any better and they most likely would be better off breaking up

I feel like you're right about the problem not being the pictures themselves, but what they mean. I would be upset too in her situation, and I think it makes it worse BECAUSE their relationship is long distance. The digital proof of your relationship would give some more security, but he didn't acknowledge that she existed by not having any proof of their relationship. So yeah, for all she knows, he could be doing anything, and people wouldn't know he's in a relationship.

There is absolutely no reason for any one to put their relationship woes on the internet for everyone to judge. I have never seen one situation that improved once one or the other chose to have the entire world weigh in.

oh hes mid for sure though 😭 only heard him speak for ten seconds and im good

I heard of "bf" hiding their partner from social media but a husband doing the same thing is wild?! This man went through all the trouble of proposing and paying for a whole wedding to a woman, he isnt proud of calling his own?! The bar was already on the floor but this man pushed it down to hell. 😐

For a man who has a decent amount of grey hair, he talks as if he's a college frat boy

Do people even like their partners these days?

Oh my god this video brought back so many things from my LDR He walked a coworker home and called me crazy when I said it made me uncomfortable. Anytime id call him out on flirting with other people hed say hes autistic and doesnt knoe any better and its not his fault

Your hair is absolutely slaying. Love the color on you

As an autistic guy him using it as an excuse is so fucking gross

Though LDR was like LDS lol

this is equivalent to telling your bf to try something and he just brushes you off til jessica from work tells him to try then he comes raving to you about how great it and jessica is oR giving him information and him not believing it til jessica says the same damn thing

6:42 I feel like she is exactly describing me. Lmfao 💀

People blasting their relationship woes publicly makes them unattractive tbh

the way he reacted to being called something is making him act like a “female”

Love you're videos 🖤🖤

it's so ridiculous it almost seems like some elaborate joke 💀

He's just using autism as an excuse, some one who doesn't even have basic empathy should not be in a relationship

Not me thinking LDR was a new cult/religion... 😬😂

The title made me go and check if Lana was married 😭

The fact that he uses his autism as an excuse is seriously offensive. This is a tad off topic. However I know so many people, both men and women, who use autism as an excuse for piss poor behavior. Of course this ties into the recent TikTok trend of many people self-diagnosing themselves as having autism when they may not be autistic. There are several people I know in real life who claim to have autism without a diagnosis from a professional. Often times these folks use their supposed autism as an excuse for bad behavior.

You're glowing ✨️

Am I the only one that thinks they're both faking it? They both seem too self-involved for reality.

What a 🚩nice guy🚩

The first word out of his mouth was "Females," like, bro you just tanked any point you might have possibly made.

He said he was asked to take the picture so he took it..... Did she never ask or explain to him why it's important for her? Math's not mathing.

LDR means Lana del Rey in this household ma’am 😂

My ex's kill shot was when I'd be like "hey yeah that time you hit me still effects me to this day" Boys. Not men. Enough said.

Ghoulia is so sure of all her opinions. Must feel nice to always be sure that you're right.

He wouldn’t be my husband.

there's a modern appeal of being "different" which somehow has led to autism being represented as quirky or something that excuses absolutely everything the person does. i don't wanna gatekeep autism but it's undeniable that tiktok has spread this misconception of what autism actually is.

Saying females isn't odd when they also males. When they say females and men is odd. Males and females or men and women: pick one.

Noticed a comment I posted earlier was deleted due to “bullying and harrassment”. Just wanted to apologise if my comment upset anyone on here or Juilia herself.

Please both divorce and shut up. Stop making a spectacle of that freak of relationship Long Distance without any plans of actually living together is not a real relationship to me. I know sometimes people are forzed into those relationships but the goal is to live together at the end.

As an autistic person, it drives me up the wall when people use autism as an excuse. If you have the social skills to have a whole ass relationship which leads to a whole ass marriage, I’m not buying the autistic naïveté excuse.

He's less than mid LMFAO

Thank you 🌹

If he truly is autistic then that may explain (tho obviously not an excuse) why he might not get why the pictures are such a big deal. Autism primarily affects how a person socializes so unless someone outright explained "Taking and posting pictures with other women more often than your wife may and will come off as ___" it is very possible that he outright does not understand why or how this would be an issue, but assuming that his wife has already tried to explain this to him directly and calmly then he should have no issue asking how he could do thing more appropriately to not make his wife feel devalued, especially when he apparently already know about his diagnosis and how it affects his life.

I didn’t cheat .. ok?!?! you don’t get a cookie for being faithful❤

Hi Glare! 🦾🖕🏽✍️

"Women hit on me all the time!" ...sure they do.

Evil + discount Jeff goldblum

“People hit on me all the time and my wife has to let me know” haha ok so it’s common for you to be hit on by strangers on a regular basis IN FRONT OF YOUR WIFE? Honestly that’s just the dumbest shit I’ve heard. Also “if I wanted to cheat I would have cheated” basically just means that he never ever considers her feelings and don’t respect their relationship. If you wanted to cheat you would have?? What? Dude you lost this battle

People are hitting on him….?

I almost said I've never seen an autistic narcissist, then I remembered Melon Tusk exists 💀

Mid-tier guy + “female” = 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Also he’s right, he’s not mid tier, he’s sub par 🤪🤪🤪

Glare, you should do a video on Vaush! 😲 😲 😲 😲 😲 😊😊😊😊

When you're autistic, chances are you CAN'T be as autonomous as other people. I can't take as much responsibilities as people ask from me, I can't go out alone, I can't properly take care of myself alone, and I understand neurotypical people as much as they understand me (that gets me ostracized, constantly on guard and overly explaining myself when I shouldn't... totally fucks up your social life and gets you harassed every now and then !) For this guy, I don't know his life or whatever is in his head, but if we think in similar ways then it's logical that he doesn't understand what was wrong until someone told him. It's about boundaries. In relationships when one person is autistic and the other isn't, communication can be annoying, which leads to this type of shitty scenario. You do something that you consider "normal", then get scolded for it, then discover that actually it's socially inacceptable. Classic. I think people also mistake explanation with excuse, we don't because we think litteraly. Don't search for implications or subtext in autistic people's words because we usually are as straightforward as possible. If I say "I actually complimented you, it's just that I have a rbf, I'm autistic" that just means that. We're already tired of masking constantly and people pleasing, some of us have difficulties properly communicating, so just saying "I'm autistic" is also a way to tell people to interpret words differently, to avoid conflict Also, autism isn't like depression at all. You're autistic since you're born, that's how your brain is wired, that is literally what you are. But somehow by saying this, people think you just allowed every asshole who's autistic to use this as a trap card... we'll never win anyways. ☠️

This video shows that there is a big misunderstanding of autistic individuals out there. The guy literally tries to explain it and nobody will listen. His brain does not recognize all these layers of social fluff that us neurologically typical people live and deal with everyday. He can't recognize what you are talking about, and the only reason that is "wrong" is because there are more neurologically typical people in the world than there are those with Autism. In fact he is not responsible for recognizing this social fluff in the same way a person in a wheelchair is not responsible for not standing up to walk, even when the physically able individuals feel uncomfortable with their paralysis.

Both people seem insufferable