I love myself. Even if I look like a *burnt chicken nugget* I still love myself

I feel like I'm bullshiting myself when I try to tell myself something positive about me. Edit: this was a long time ago I now understand what self love is and its only found in our Lord and saviour being born again allows us to see ourselves the way Jesus sees us he loved us so much he died for us thats the only real way you can learn to love yourself and others is through the love of Christ!

This is very important Ted talk. I recommend it to everyone. If you don't love yourself consciously, then you subconsciously start taking decision to self harm yourself even without knowing it. I have been there and can totally understand.

100% agree - Loving ourselves is the foundation to EVERYTHING that we achieve.

I don't get it. I believe I can love and appreciate and care for others but I don't understand how to apply it on myself. There is nothing I like about myself.

Using food as a drug. Or not eating at all. Or exercising profusely. Or not taking care of myself at all. I've never had a TED Talk speak so directly to me...

I love me. I will love me. I will love me passionately and completely. I will fall in love with myself. And if I meet someone special, they will love me with me, and I will love them with them.

What a tragic story of life until she was 37. I wish l could have been a friend to her. What a beautiful, confident woman she is. 💗💕🌸

I love you. Finally, REAL talk: human, vulnerable and resilient.

Summary: Learn to love yourself is the foundation of everything, of all relationships, the entire life. the better you care for yourself the better you care for everything which is going on in your life. Confidence, self-esteem, how we perceive ourselves, the foundation of our life. A cement foundation. When things happen to us we get chips and cracks in the foundation. As a kid I would run up at kids and say lets be friends and go on the slide. Father left at 6 month: Devastating effect, are self-absorbed, is there something wrong with us? What did I do wrong, was there something I did? School bullying, no one played with me except one. Fear of abandonment. Shaming. Set on fire in front of the school. The catalyst for change: I am a girl trapped in a boy’s body, I need to be that girl, please understand, please help me. Please don’t be mad. Do everything to help through. Trans youth: high depression, self-harm, anxiety, bullying, low self-esteem, body image. I need to do more for this child. My daughter, who I love unconditionally, made me learn to love myself unconditionally. 1. Redefine my ideals of beauty. Often from magazine covers, 1 body type and look. I will never meet that. I had to change my criteria for beauty. Beauty is perspective based. To show her . It’s not just that the package, it comes from deep inside and flows outside. HOw i treat people when they need help. Do I smile at people, reach out. How I present myself, carry myself. Better care of myself. Do things that should my self-love. I would do that for me, what I was doing for others (partner, child, friends). Put aside negative self-talk. This made my cracked wall stronger and healed them. I exercise, shopping. It made me stand taller, feel confident, stronger. Protect my body from injuries. Peace with my addictions, for nurturing and self-pleasing, balanced. My daughter taught me love me. I did it for her. Until one day I realized I did a lot for me and I really do love myself. I gave her love and support and she gave me so much back. We are both doing so much better and we are growing and learning together. My job is to convince society to accept people exactly how they are. My instagram: sutercarlo

I was breaking down earlier. And i found this video. Thank you so much.

I felt so down- I got bad scores and well my breakouts started to appear and I was very disappointed with me and my looks. My dad and mom tried making me feel better saying "no matter how bad you look, or whatever you do you're our little princess as usual." But I still feel bad- this sort of helped and I am alright- for now

I am like that too. I avoid mirrors and after my heart got broken. I started going to gym

This was so inspiring and motivating🥺💞 time to begin my self love journey❤️!

One of the purest form of love is to always Love yourself❤️

What a terrible beginning to life you had, but I’m so glad you have managed to turn things around for you and your daughter. God bless

Idk how old this video is, but last year, I started to try and love myself and it's been hard, but at least I'm trying. This video helps, so thank you for uploading it. -I

Oh hey, Mom.

People are so cruel.. you actually look beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing your story. It really resonated with me at: why would you take care of someone you don't care about.. hm.. good one.

Ya know, I looked up "Ted talks about how to love myself" and this came up. I knew that I didnt really love myself, and that's why I looked it up. This video really made me realize that the fact though that I looked it up period shows that I do care about myself to some extent. I'm going to look even deeper into that feeling. Thank you! 💖🤗

I’m so proud of you I’m in tears

Amazing story, you've overcome so much. Finding self love is a real struggle, thanks for sharing your story

I started to think of myself as my own son and what I would push my son to do or learn if I were my own kid.

Thank you! Social media makes us so sick..

I cried so much watching this because i could relate so much to her childhood.. even tho it wasnt as extreme i just broke up with someone i really loved and I’m struggling to genuinely love myself

What is that noise in the back? It's there someone building something?

It makes me smile to see that people are actually trying to love themselves because when you set a goal to do something and try to do it than you can surely achieve it. Sitting their and complaining that you already tried to love yourself isnt gonna do you any better. Hard work pays off and if you want to love yourself than you have to try and dont give up. I went through the same I really hated myself. I slowly but surely started to love myself and to this day, im still learning but I can tell you that I am much better than before. If I learned how to love myself than I am 100% sure you can too. You are beautiful the way you are and you shouldnt change yourself for anything, love yourself.

My God what a brave strong incredible woman!! I'm on the journey of loving myself. Thanks for this!!

beauty is self love and honesty. It can be kindness and feeling happy. I noticed your dress right away, great.

Its beautiful that you realized you needed to see your own worth in order to show your daughter how to love herself. Growing confidence is harder than it seems and it is pure love to share that with someone else. Thanks for your story. All the love in the world to you and your family. xo

Everybody's journey is unique and their own 🙏

🦋love is the greatest thing a person can achieve- heck it’s a commandment after all

Sending all my love to you and your daughter, you truly inspire:)

Amen to this. Trying to work on myself and love myself because no one will love me quite like me.

Thank you for giving and sharing this Ted talk. It’s so uplifting for those who have been bullied and abused. Much respect to you and you are such a beautiful human in and out. I love the way you speak. Know that you are appreciated.

loving yourself is giving yourself the best treatment ever and achieving our own goal what we want with all of our might.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve been feeling insecure and have forgotten to love myself in all ways that I am. Beautiful message. Thank you so much.

Thank you Amanda 💚💗💚 ( Also don't listen to this while doing your makeup, your tears will ruin it. )

I feel like this all the time. I don't buy stuff to myself, or i feel guilty if i do, because i feel like i don't deserve it. I feel that i'm being selfish and i should stop. I have few friends at school but they are all transferring to another school next year. I don't know what i'll do. I'll be all alone. I get anxiety attacks and regret everything i say. I came here searching help, and stumbled across to this. It was helpful, very important message. But even after this if i try to think differently, i feel like lying and it feels worse. I'm really lost.

im telling you kids and teens can be cruel to each other too

No one likes you No one loves you No one is there for you No one cares about you Don’t worry I’m no one❤️ For everyone reading this love yourself before you love someone else. I am here for you, You are not alone. Do not think no one likes or loves you, because someone in this world loves you like there world❤️

Thank you for posting this talk. I hear ones like this often but have a hard time relating to someone's story. However, I relate to yours in many ways. If you can do it, then there is a lot of hope for me. I am 25 and finally realizing that everything that I have gone through, is not my fault...which is really hard to accept but I know that when I fully accept that, it will set me free. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for helping me along the way. This is the first thing I woke up to this morning.

Thank you to everyone who is willing to love them selves no matter what, because if you love yourself love follows you everywhere you go

Your dress looks beautiful on you x

Something is up with this family!

I love every single moment of this speech I love her a lot.

you are an amazing mother & woman. thank you for this

Is someone playing ping pong in the background? 🤦🏻‍♀️ The sound is super distracting.

Loving yourself-what exactly does it mean is confusing, yet I can sense when people are insecure

Such beautiful words. Thank you for sharing your precious experiences with us!

you are such a beautiful person..

Wow. I’m speechless. This was nothing less than amazing.

Tnank you so much to everyone who has a role in the making of this video.That video was all i needed and it was so powerful and important for me to hear it out 🤍🤍🤍

Thanks for the message, this is exactly what I need right now x

We can't help but love you upon hearing your story.

What a fantastic Tedx Talk! Amanda, I think that you have hit the nail on the head with so many issues we all tend to have with ourselves and some stage in our lives. I hope you beautiful daughter is doing well and loving her life. Thank you.

Getting better everyday with loving myself it’s hard when we set certain expectations for ourselves and we fail at them, we often get discouraged, and scared to try to again but we must continue to work on ourselves to better ourselves life creates experiences that help us get better

Loving ourselves is one of the hardest thing to do. We seek validation in unlikely places that we forget our first love; Jesus, and with Jesus he will teach us how to love ourselves. God made everything good but we listen to what the world say about our image or about anything Trust God... I know because I was once that person listening to worldly stuff. Reading the word has helped me to love myself and allows time alone with God. Perfect peace.

This is wonderful. Thank you so much. This helped me out sooo much.

It's truths and life like this which inspire us and thrive to love us

Thank you for giving me the strength

Awesome message! I believe everyone should love their self for who they are and embrace their own uniqueness! I'm so proud of your daughter for having the courage to to come forward instead of being scared to be who she is. Props to you for being so accepting! Too bad other parents could not unconditionally accept and love their children for who they are. At 42 years old I've started to love and accept myself for who I am. I'm very sorry for the pain and hurt you endured early on.

Thank you so much for your help and wise words. You’ve really helped the way I think a lot ❤️ made things make sense

What a beautiful person to share such a difficult story! U r such an inspiration! Hugs to u And give your daughter the biggest hug! ❤️ Good luck to u both! I know u found the key is loving yourself because u just glow!!!!! U look fantastic!!!!! Hope I can learn from u! Thank u!!!

My perception of beauty is clarity and strength

Thank you Amanda for your empowering message.

I was set on fire in high school. I was the smartest girl in my chemistry class and they thought to set me on fire with the Bunsen burner. I understand.

One of the best TED talks I've ever seen!

truly ma'am you are such an inspiration may god bless you with success and health

So beautiful and heart touching...thanx for sharing...

this rlly helped me. i’ve been feeling lost lately and have hated my body more than ever.

I really relate to her experience. Unfortunately I still haven't figured out how to love myself even though lord knows I've tried.

Thank you for speaking. Really trying to figure out how to love myself bit by bit.

Beautiful..well said.. You help me. God bless u and ur family. Much love

Your a such a courageous and brave inspirational lady bless you and thank you

God Bless You, thanks for sharing such an amazing story and inspired me

Your story was inspirational. Thank you for sharing!!!

Thank you so much❤ You are beautiful mother of beautiful daughter.

So happy for you that you found love within❤

This is so brave and amazing. Thank you!!

Thank you Amanda. God bless u

Wow thank you for sharing your story with us. I can relate nice to know I was never along. xx

Thank you very much for sharing this with us.

yo i'm balling my eyes out watching this

Beautiful speech. Much love.

very honest, very powerful because of it, and so profound and articulate. thank you.

Very inspirational and motivating! You’re a wonderful person!! Thank you for sharing!

She is such a beautiful person :) Thank you for the talk!

loving the beauty inside ourselves. everyones beauty is different.may be better to focus on the inside than outside.

she is beautiful and I'm learning to love myself

This video came to my life the moment i really needed it ❤️ thank you!

i know that all my live, i lived and i will live with myself. I prefer to be my best friend and love myself

I too have experienced many of the same things (other than being set on fire, that's horrible. I'm sorry you had to go thru that) I trying to learn how to live myself at 37. Unfortunately I really have no idea what love feels like. So i'm guessing.

Beautiful message. God bless you

This was so great! Really touching. This is such a great example of how loving others uncoditionally and seeing their lack of self-love and self-acceptance can break us out of our preconceptions of our own unworthiness.

The amount of time we spend believing we can't is more than enough time to learn how you can. The Forwago program helped me to realize that I can achieve almost everything if I just try it hard enough. Believe in yourself :)

Thank you for your story

She’s so strong truly inspiring

I needed this. Thank you

You could tell a lot of people suddenly rolled their eyes when she said she had a wife. They didn't laugh at her jokes or anything. That's okay though, they're the ones that are going to have to deal with it one day.