K-Pop stans when they can’t send a fancam during a real life argument.

Here’s some tips for when you get angry at someone on the internet: 1) turn off the computer 2) turn off the computer 3) TURN OF THE DAMN THE COMPUTER

Raid be having a budget bigger than the whole population of India Edit: it has been confirmed, Raid does have a budget bigger than the entire population of India

Sometimes I hate the term stans because it makes grunkle Stan seem like one of these weirdos. He didn't deserve any of this

Tip: don’t go to social media that starts with T.

I remember watching your videos back in 2017. Cool to see you’re still making videos.

I don't think I'm a toxic stan. I really hope I'm not at least. I get really into the things I like though, and just pour over them again and again. I talk at length about them with friends and family and often think about the characters and plot in my spare time. I don't do it for a sense of identity, but because it makes me happy. I love becoming devoted to each new fandom because it fills me with happiness to be a part of. I try my best to avoid toxicity and I can get pretty annoying, but it consistently makes me haply

"READ FANFICTION" *has a picture of a glass of milk...* NOOOOOO

I grew out my beard during quarantine, and afterwards, I met up with an old high school friend who said, "You watch NateIsLame? Because you look exactly like him with that beard!" THAT is what fandoms are for

*"My name is Stan. And I'm offended."*

As a Kpop fan I can admit that yes there are Kpop stans and yes they can be jerks or just flat-out creepy, but I also think Kpop gets a bad rep and people assume everyone in the fandom acts that way. That’s just a part of the fandom that makes itself more well-known.

Ugh you really hit the nail on the head with this one. I discovered BTS when they debuted and for years it was an incredibly small community. When they started gaining popularity it made me INCREDIBLY happy because it meant they were getting recognized for their talent and I could finally talk about them without being seen as weird. But it also became immediately toxic. And because they were massive, their first concert around my area wasn't as intimate or kind as I have experienced with previous bands. (A Day to Remember & MCR concert goers were much nicer) I never made anyone feel bad, but it did rub me the wrong way when the same people who bullied me for my music taste were claiming to "not be like other girls". I haven't really followed BTS for over a year now, but I still wish them growth and success.

I’m a part of the raccoon tour fandom and I recommend joining it. They got some good tunes

*"We don't stan with raid Shadow Legends. Me and my homies hate Raid Shadow Legends"*

There are many people that claim TØP and BTS saved their lives. They touched them in a way that made them realise life is worth living and inspired them. So its understandable how when someone insults these bands, Stans get very emotional about it. I love your honesty in this video, I'd imagine your 'Stan' days aren't something ur too proud of haha.

Star wars purged most of it's stans with the sequels...

I've been a kpop stan for 3 years and I constantly feel like shit when people put us together with the toxic vocal minority and make us all look bad. I know it's the same with other fandoms as well. Everything would be so much better if we all learned to differentiate them and respect everyone's interests. As long as you're not hurting anyone then stan what you wanna stan man (and also pick up a hobby related to your interests :3 I love doing fanart and making my own artworks and writing stories :D)

It sucks for me as a neurodivergent person who tends to become stan-like for at least one thing at a time because that's just how my brain works. I'm self-aware enough to not be toxic, thank god, but it can be really socially isolating to be interested in something so much that it kind of scares others away from you and hinders your ability to relate to others. So in my case, my stan-like behavior isn't a result of social isolation, but rather the other way around.

I’d love to see Nate on the Official Podcast

It’s definitely okay to be apart of something. But don’t let something consume who you’re as a individual person.

I think nowadays every pre teen to teen has a „toxic stan“ phase. I‘m just happy once we all grow out of it and transition to the normal stan that’s chill about their stuff because they’re mentally over it :)

No idea how this guy doesn’t have at least 1 million subs

omg anathema at the end of the video i haven’t listened to that song in forever

6:12 The fact I know what that means scares me

I understand where the posessiveness and like the entitlement come from, when you love something you want to protect it and you want it to be your thing, and when it becomes main stream it can feel upsetting but we need to learn not to be gatekeepers

So true what you said. If it wasn’t for kpop, i would never get the courage to dance(join a dance team) , edit, write story or learn another language

i stopped listening to Mother Mother for this notification, i hope you're proud of yourself

As an edgy 14 year old, can confirm, I love your band and vividly remember the two times you talked to me on Amino like two years ago

you have hit the milestone. the raid shadow legends has chosen you.

this is such a good and well spoken video, we sTaN-

I honestly hardly even realized that I was unhealthily obsessed with some “emo” bands in middle school because I had such a hard time trying to fit in back then and I felt like constantly listening to these bands and attaching myself to the members kind of made up for that in a way. I was always so lonely and didn’t feel like I could possibly fit in anywhere (which I still feel like today, honestly), but loving these bands so much made me feel like I had a sense of purpose that I couldn’t find anywhere else. I definitely regret being an annoying “fangirl” back then, but thankfully I mellowed out before high school and I’m still able to appreciate those bands for getting me into music and just the fact that I still like them today. Whenever I see these obsessive stans on the internet, I just kind of feel bad for them because it’s definitely possible that they feel like I did back then, with most of their happiness coming from listening to their favorite band’s entire discography in one day or watching interviews with the members for three hours straight, and the reason these kids get into heated arguments with so many people online is probably because of the various internal struggles they’re facing in real life. I don’t wish those feelings on anyone, but they’re unfortunately all too common for 11-17 year-old kids who don’t have much else going on for them, resulting in part of the reason they love bands or other fandoms so much being that they act as a coping mechanism or a distraction from everything else.

Man this video hit hard. I used to be a pretty hardcore TOP fan and a big weeb, and looking back, I've grown a lot over the last few years. I still enjoy both TOP and anime stuff, but it's not my personality. Thank you for this, I think anyone who's in any kind of fandom should absolutely watch this.

Damn Nate you got sponsored by Raid? When's the book coming out lol

this video makes me very happy :)

Damn this was amazing. I agree with everything you said in this video. Sadly all fandoms will have a bad side, but we can’t let the overpower anything. Just look at my literal profile pic. Sometimes I realize that it might not exactly be accepted spending so much time in a fandom, but it has inspired my to expand my art creativity. Now I’m looking forward to creating new paintings and drawings in the future because of the inspiration that lead me here. Really love this video, keep up the great work :)

I love how the term Stan originated from the Eminem song and describes a crazy toxic and misguided fan experience. So no wonder so many “stans” act the same , yet somehow we are surprised by their behaviors

damn, i feel like i really needed to hear that... all this stan stuff happening on twitter got some of us including me hella confused so thanks for clearing the air nate

Really thoughtful video about stan culture, and the way you discussed it really encourages me to look at snobbish gatekeepers in a more empathetic way.

i dunno if you already liked them but i have a band to recommend, i stalked your spotify and you weren’t following them so i don’t think you do but i’m really into Bright Eyes right now and think you’d like them :)

It means so much to me to hear someone talking about this. I've been a toxic stan before, and it's a difficult thing to break out of. Thanks for the video!!

YES!!! i’m so glad to see a youtuber talk about this!! i feel like a lot of these youtubers who make vids about stans but never were one themselves.

Bro, this brought me full circle- You introduced me to MCR and so many bands with your emo phase video, I became kind of a toxic stan, got out of it and I'm now watching this video with a lot more knowledge in how to act in fandoms :)

Honestly, great video, wouldn't have gotten an interest to storytelling and lesser known bands without this channel. Thank you :)

This is a really good video. I wish everyone could watch this cause I feel like everyone around me needs it. Good job dude

God u are so genuine and have such knowledge, I cant believe I JUST found out about u

I have been a fan of this channel for a while now. I think a couple years or something now, maybe more. It feels like yesterday but I don't think it could have been more then 10th grade so it has to be at least two years. What even is time anymore? I'm getting off topic. Point is I only wish I'd found this channel sooner. This channel helped me a lot and I only wish I'd found it a little earlier so it could have helped the younger me sooner. She was really having a rough time. This channel was there when I felt alone and helped me pick up the pieces. Nate you've done a lot of good. I'm probably not the only one you've helped feel less alone and who's learned a few lessons along the way.

Raid? They grow up so fast...

I will. Thanks for the video. All this you spoke of relates to me quite a bit, even though I don't do the things you described. Making your own dreams come true, doing the things you are passionate about and taking risks can be worth it. I will start making my dreams come true. Thanks again for this. Be seeing you.

that anathema instrumental. man. Great vid Nate! and, once more, cannot wait for the dentonweaver!

I was just having a conversation with my brother about this topic yesterday. If your entire identity revolves around a certain thing that someone else made, are you really *you* anymore?

Glad to hear someone talk about this. Especially someone who's been through it themselves. I came across a toxic super fan over a year ago for a marvel character. But they are in their 40s. And used their love of the character ("from 10 years of age" - but it's not a competition if someone else has known the character longer), mixed with their past traumas, as a form of manipulation and excuse to bully. Trying to disguise it as just being "passionate". I tried to support their love of the character, while also trying to reason with them and help them be a bit more kind to others. But they weren't having it. Slowly, they started accusing me of gaslighting, chastising, admonishing, and censoring them. They even felt they got to decide if they were upsetting other fans or not (spoiler: they decided no fan was ever upset by them). I did my best, but I could see things would only get worse as they showed they felt they could do no wrong, they were always the victim, and others were to blame. So I had to end the friendship.

Congrats on getting sponsored! It great to see content creators get their due!

Yo, this feels so good listening to this.

A few years a go I was an annoying Musical Stan and this video really resonated with me, Amazing job as always Nate

I think fandoms are really important for children (especially for neurodivergent ones) They also create a great start for arts (writing, art, animation, and editing) but it is important to seperate reality and fiction

You deadass describe Corpsetwt in a nutshell. Congratulations on the sponsorship ❤️❤️❤️🎊🎊🎊🎊 Love the video, you low key called us out 😅

Your videos always pull me out of whatever hole I'm stuck in, this was great man

the reason that i love my fandoms so much is that they give me comfort and joy. yeah, i know a lot about the members of my group, but i'm not gonna bully people if they don't know as much as me. if you like the music and it helps you, that's all you need

I relate to this a lot I really like the mcyt fandom and I was never a toxic stans trust me but I finally am setting up my own accounts and aiming to do stuff like that myself. I’m taking it slow and think that at the age I am that’s what is best but this video is very reassuring with what I just said and am glad to have seen it

Hit close to home for me. I would consider me from 8 months ago a fanboy of sorts, but I've been doing my best to make something for myself that I can enjoy. I find that one issue that comes with this is that the internet can easily make you feel as if your work isn't adequate or you'll never succeed because it makes you compare yourself to others, but I suppose that's a whole different topic itself. I can honestly confirm that your video is great advice for anyone stuck in the Stan loop. While I think it's great to enjoy the work of others, I am 100% behind the idea of making something yourself. Thanks for the video Nate.

You have more subs then the population in my hometown! Congrats! Big fan.

This might be unrelated but I just made the coolest bass fill with the g sharp major pentatonic scale congrats on the sponsor btw

WOOOOO YEAH BABY THATS WHAT WE'VE BEEN WAITING FOR 0:20

You’re the only guy who’s so good and relatable I watched you since 2017! Yay! Especially this video I haven’t started this but I had this thought so much and broken so friendship because they would be so toxic with it

Ahhh omg as a kpop stan, you like really touched my heart. I thought I was the only one who saw the world this way. You really inspire me bro :). And thank you alot!

This is amazing. I had heard some of my favorite things all in one video from one of my favorite youtubers.

Every time I watch your videos I feel inspired to get up and do something so thanks for that 👊😳

Ok Lowkey kinda glad I’ve been here since like 7th grade , 3 years and going strong also congrats on the sponsorship!

hiya nate, your insights and explanations for how the world works are absolutely fascinating to listen to. as a 14 year old this hit hard, and I really needed to hear it. thanks!

Holy heck I forgot your channel, I'm happy the algorithm brought us together once again. Ngl your video on great albums heavily influenced my music taste so thanks man :)

I really REALLY wish that stans weren't so prickly towards other people, and other people were able to recognize that there's so much more that hides behind the stan barrier... Also, the ads were placed in the perfect spots... I'm not sure if you did that because I don't know how youtube creator stuff works, but for me the ad placement just built on the comedy.

You are helping me, I watched your Freashman guide so many times in eighth grade that I had a an expectation for it and BOY DID IT DELIVER, Now I'm a sophomore and am probably gonna watch the jr year one when I'm a senior... Thanks so much and you really do connect with alot of us, I'm not special but I did have a toxic stand phase and I'm not anymore I grew out of it and most of what you said is pretty true, it's hard to fit in or feel confident when you grades and friends say you're not as good as us and I'm an aspiring artist that fucking sucks at playing music and drawing compared to my friends and that's okay because at the end of the day, I KNOW HOW TO ALL STAR ON MY GUITAR AND MOST PEOPLE DON'T

this is inspirational, needed this.

Extremely well-said my dude. My obsession with cartoons, fairy tales, Disney, and eventually anime and manga have led me to...becoming an art teacher, a career during which time I will likely spend mentoring a whole ton of weebs with the same problem, and I'm ok with this.

Nate out here with another banger video, well scripted video dude and mighty entertaining, awesome job

I just wanna take a moment to appreciate the animation community on KZfaq. They're all just really nice and respectful, thanks nate.

Everytime nate uploads my heart skips a beat

Nate really gonna make me shed a tear this morning

hi nate i really relate to you in so many ways from "emo" music to religion i found you through the atheism video when i was looking up videos about it ive been atheist my whole life because my mother and father are both atheist but ive always been confused regardless and that video really helped by hearing someone else talk about feeling similar to how i felt im still only 13 so i dunno much about what i think cause it feels like its never consistent haha thank you

last time I was this early mcr was still broken up edit: I rlly got called out for having a tøp pfp hahahah (I promise I'm not a stan anymore I just cant be bothered to change it tbh)

I’m glad that your successful Nate. Someday I plan on doing something creative also. So proud that you got the grand sponsor 🥰

thank you for this video, it really helped me open my mind more :)

Same with me, i had a late 21 pilots phase in 2018-2019. I see my snapchat memories of how fucking cringe i was (i probably still am). But that doesnt really matter to me. My first instrument was also a ukulele, then i went to play guitar. Ive been playing since like 2019 and now im kinda quitting but it was nice while it lasted.

listening to the bands i stan has taught me so much about myself, and i feel like i will always hold a special place in my heart for them because of that.

wow this chanel is realy nice. The comments are so nice and free in a way. Good video keep doing what your doing men

It’s really pleasant and refreshing to see a video where someone’s actually being cool towards these kids and treating them like humans while gently pointing them in the right direction rather than a video where just some dude sits there and bullies children for 10 minutes lol

This is such a great video, I love this channel ❤❤ ^_^

This was really inspiring 😊

i had like the exact same experience i was a cringey stan in middle school and freshman year, then i got a ukulele for xmas and learned house of gold (i feel attacked) and from there started writing songs, joined a band, and am now working on an ep?!? gotta love stan culture wew

being a stan myself, this was a good video nate :]

I can understand the whole stan thing. I mean its an outlet and stuff and it's good to have those things. Heck because of my autism, if I didn't have obsessive interests, I don't think I would be happy or have any way for me to cope with my problems that normal people don't have. I would be truly alone, more than I already am. But sometimes obsessive interests and stan culture goes too far. Like cmon I get it, you find something that is mostly unknown and unique, you fall in love with it, eventually the thing gains popularity and you end up feeling like the more popular it gets, the more you lose it. You get upset and start resenting the new fans because you feel like they are taking one of the only things you have that makes you happy. But at the same time you have to realize that its part of the job. A musical artist can't make money if no one listens to their songs. You never mean to hurt the artist in any way, but by having that mindset, you are only thinking about yourself and how that creator is only there for you and no one else.

DAMN!! So happy to see ur back comrad

yo i was subscribed to this channel when you had like 5k subs and i just came back to see how you were doing!! it’s good to see you’re still making videos and doing well, and it looks like i’m not the only one who’s came back to see :) keep it up!!

You are the 3rd youtuber ever that make me watch an entire sponsorship. First was IceCreamSandwich, then was Noodle.

dawg! dawg! next band recommendations video you should totally put in Bark! they're this spacey garage rock band from my home town, Cincinnati! my favorite song by them is orange jullius

this channel is so underrated

As some wise metalhead once said in the internet "you will die as an poser, or live long enough to become elitist".

Good on the sponsor my man

Can I recommend a video, of what type of girls/guys there are in highschool. Non cliche your pretty blunt and honest so I would love to see a video like that from you

I saw jungkook and then I saw that it was ur channel and I was a lil confused haha.