Life is a Game of Bullshit. This is How You Win | Genevieve Gregorich

Life is a Game of Bullshit. This is How You Win | Genevieve Gregorich | TEDxColumbiaUniversity

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5 ай бұрын

Social scientist Genevieve Gregorich shares how learning how to win at the card game Bullshit helped her succeed in life. In both the card game and life, winning involves the same strategy. And, like any good strategy, it’s not what you expect. Learn the power of truth in a game of deception to unlock your true potential. Genevieve (Vivi) Gregorich is a PhD candidate in Management at Columbia Business School with a focus on Strategy. Her research examines the role of business in society, the interaction between social movements and organizations, organizational reputation management, nonmarket strategy, and zero- sum thinking. She has authored cases on personal strategy and innovation with a focus on the psychological conditions that generate innovative ideas and the political processes that push ideas through corporate and bureaucratic labyrinths. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@jasonfascio5837 5 ай бұрын

I'm reminded of a quote: "honesty is a privilege for the strong".

@danielhall67 3 ай бұрын

Being honest is what gives us strength. However, just like going to the gym, it requires ‘good form’ or else we risk injury. Right words. Right timing. Right intention.

@AwiCreates Ай бұрын

Life is not a zero-sum game. When we are all honest and authentic, we are all better off. Don't be afraid to be different. Your unique perspective is what makes you irreplaceable. The most important thing is to find your own treasure. What lights you up? What gives your life meaning? Don't be afraid to take risks and step outside of your comfort zone. That's where the real growth happens.

@ricodias673 5 ай бұрын

I was put on the "b" team. They chose the "a" team based on physical attributes. Us kids on the "b" team all became good friends. We ended up playing against the "a" team in a tournament and crushed them, and went on to win the tournament. We had a common ground which was being looked down on and used that to our advantage. We become the better team 😊

@susiefairfield7218 5 ай бұрын

Sometimes glass glitters more than diamonds because it has more to prove.- Terry Pratchett

@jimg398 5 ай бұрын

Great story there. I like to hear stories about underdogs overcoming obstacles and succeeding

@robocombo 5 ай бұрын

We're you the mighty ducks?

@jimg398 5 ай бұрын

@@robocombo Hah!

@keisesan 2 ай бұрын

@@jimg398misfits or underdogs banding together to overcome the opposition is borderline cliché nowadays....

@waelhussein4606 5 ай бұрын

“When you do what lights you up, that’s treasure!” Epic! One of the best talks I ever listened to. Authentic and inspiring! Thank you!

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

You ARE joking right?

@CesarGamezT 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcriticBS!

@TangoWhiskyBravoYoutube 5 ай бұрын

This spoke directly to me and made me cry. Ever had a moment you know you'll remember for the rest of your life? This was one of mine. 🙏

@BonnieBenford 5 ай бұрын

Wow That’s incredible

@mwillwhite 5 ай бұрын

I was lucky enough to see this talk live - and it’s just as good the second time. It motivates, affirms, and offers a great guide for navigating life. Thank you!!

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

Lol Dave Chappelle...I knew you were here!

@CesarGamezT 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcriticBS!

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

@@CesarGamezT you’ve scanned through the comments and called “BS” on every one of my comments. It’s done nothing for you except make you validate the notion that you’ve adapted to this girl’s strategy and rubbed in it my (critical) face as some sort of brilliant slam dunk. You psychologically are rewarding yourself in ignorance instead of being introspective to determine what you and this girl could have actually done better. You will never “call BS” to anyone outside the confines of this short lived gimmick for the rest of your natural life, meaning that although you’re outwardly displaying a varying support for the girl, your future actions support her message less and less as time passes. Why? Because you’re intellectually lazy, a follower, and because the message is so bad there is nothing to take away from it but just that: a short lived trendy gimmick you can use on intellectually-based critics in the comment sections so that you don’t have understand anything that people who work hard are actually trying to tell you.

@h.hickenanaduk8622 4 ай бұрын

Hey, if denial gets you through the night, then so be it; but you might want to listen very carefully to make sure the ice isn't breaking under your feet. One day you might fall out of your depths and out of your mind with your fear flowing out behind you as you claw the thin ice.

@jonr6680 5 ай бұрын

Good TEDX, good insight, good presentation, good philosophy, good media. Scratch good, GREAT.

@angelinasouren 5 ай бұрын

Yes! Haven't heard a TED Talk this great in a long time! ❤

@ramman347 3 ай бұрын

Wonderful talk. Im 62 and wonder after seeing all kinds of peoples stories I can only imagine if every 8th grader on revisits your take on honestly living our own life. So glad your team mate called BS. Enjoy the new year. I could not find any more of your talks.

@johndoe4073 2 ай бұрын

Wonderful! It reminds me of a poem called The Garden: Roll up your Sleeves Pull the Weeds Plant the Seeds See them Grow Water the Seeds Clip the Leaves Trim the Trees Let them Grow Hear the Bees Touch the Trees Feel the Breeze Enjoy the Show -

@mfenaughty 5 ай бұрын

In addition to all adults - and all parents - I think a lot of students in middle schools, high schools, and colleges need to hear these messages as part of their required curricula. It's what I think.

@MegaSnail1 5 ай бұрын

Insightful. Let's celebrate divergent thinking and diversity so we can learn something from everyone. That's my treasure. Be well.

@MichaelRyanEpley 5 ай бұрын

This is one of the most powerful presentations I have ever seen. The choice of subject matter shows real genius. People lie because they are scared. They are scared of themselves, either what they have done or what they might do. This irrational fear is a form of shame, which is the root cause of every lie ever told.

@h.hickenanaduk8622 4 ай бұрын

Really? People never lie out of greed. Seems I've heard a few.

@hannahmitchell87 3 ай бұрын

I don't think shame is the root of every lie either. Greed, as the other commenter said, arrogance, compassion, hurt, anger all fuel lies too. I think you're closer with fear than shame & don't really see how they're linked? But I'd be intereested to hear your take on it if you want to discuss?

@cragjones1799 3 ай бұрын

thats why trump lies. hardly fear is the motivator

@authentic_tone 5 ай бұрын

BIG TALK! 🗣️ overcoming the Ego that religion, parenting and schooling brought upon us. The CROSS is for us to bear now🙏🏾💪🏾

@laurellloyd3009 5 ай бұрын

This talk is absolutely brilliant! This is coming from a 61 year old female. I’m sending to my 20 some thing daughter. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

If you love your "20 something daughter" and want her to succeed...don't send her this.

@CesarGamezT 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcriticBS!

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

@frankcb11 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcriticwhy?

@eviljigglypuff2254 5 ай бұрын

20 something? Tsk tsk...

@bartsears8338 4 ай бұрын

Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing your journey. You have definitely played a part in mine.

@flesrouytsacdaorb 5 ай бұрын

16 minute definition of integrity

@canonicalcritic Ай бұрын

For the coach maybe…

@jimg398 5 ай бұрын

Awesome presentation. Left me wanting to hear more of your life work. Thank you for sharing your life experiences

@LittleTimmyO 5 ай бұрын

Good talk. Wish more people could focus just on themselves and be truthful in their experience. Surely they would get farther, but if not further, they would land in a more peaceful place. And peace is more valuable than any amount of material or monetary belonging.

@mari0c0leman 5 ай бұрын

Hey, hey, now. That’s reserved for those of us that aren’t living to impress other people. 😂

@RecycledSoul 4 ай бұрын

The problem is too many people focusing on nothing BUT themselves, and having to moral line in the sand they won't cross to get their petty, selfish wants and twisted desires. They'll run the people who love and trust them most over like speed bumps to get it too.

@LittleTimmyO 4 ай бұрын

@@RecycledSoul there is a way to focus on your own issues that don’t involve others while still being caring to those around us. But I agree in the way that you stated it. Many people focus on themselves in a very self involved fashion too which isolates people around them

@katrinacozadd7908 5 ай бұрын

This was absolutely brilliant! So many creative connections to help us understand our own treasures & purpose as well as all of the nuance that life holds. Thank you for sharing your creativity with the world!

@timbraun3716 5 ай бұрын

Those in power do not like people calling BS on them. It has cost me a couple jobs. It has been a very hard path ... for me.

@Sekir80 5 ай бұрын

I feel you!

@arcticgoddess 2 ай бұрын

Ha, me too. Remember that other people do build success on a foundation of deception, and many don't want that pointed out. Be diplomatic.

@penelopenukem 5 ай бұрын

This was one of the most validating and motivating talks I've heard in years. Thank you for sharing.

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

It was absolutely terrible.

@tonibojones 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcriticare you this speaker's coach, by any chance?

@canonicalcritic 5 ай бұрын

@@tonibojones no. I’m a highly accredited academic scholar with 3 academic books published, a minority stake in a fortune 2000 company, 5 degrees, and a successful career. This Ted Talk was worth a half cent coin being divided into thirds.

@jimg398 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcritic seems like he didn’t pass the audition.

@katrinacozadd7908 5 ай бұрын

@@canonicalcriticwhat books?

@michaltrneny1208 2 ай бұрын

This talk reminds me book called Why greatness cannot be planned: The myth of the objective (authors K.O.Stanley, J.Lehman). So i would like to recommend it to Genevieve Gregorich and also to you as a stepping stone to even greater discoveries.

@ancy3114 5 ай бұрын

That was an amazing talk. Loved every second of it. It is never easy to shade yourself to prove that the old you was wrong, but you did that. Honest and Humble- it really made me rethink what I stand for in this world, rather than what I contribute. Cheers for a wonderful life ahead Gene.

@danetaylor5876 4 ай бұрын

😊😊

@sarahk802 5 ай бұрын

This is a great Ted Talk! Definitely a favorite. The presenter has great public speaking skills and is very inspiring.

@paulanatvig8840 5 ай бұрын

Vivi! You are Awesome! Such a great talk. So proud of you!

@MrZ4speed 5 ай бұрын

Simply brilliant! Wonderful and inspiring talk!

@stacyjamesnear 5 ай бұрын

The econ god story is a classic of example of fixed mindset verse growth mindset. You were labeled econ God, praised by how smart you were, and so anything that exposed yourself as less than that was a risk you weren't willing to take. So it meant you stopped growing. Classic example of fixed mindset. But of course you broke through to the growth mindset. Great talk

@BraveHelios 5 ай бұрын

I love this TED Talk. What a beautiful soul!

@craigmerkey8518 5 ай бұрын

Really great! This is exactly why I refused and continue to refuse to attend any class reunion ever! The same Highschool mentality was still present, reminding me why I was disgusted then and now!

@untalked.dreams 4 ай бұрын

my higschool reunion is great, my people are just.. open minded now.... thankfully

@KoriMiller 5 ай бұрын

Well done! Thank you for sharing your treasures with us.

@johndoe4073 2 ай бұрын

Thank you! You eloquently expressed absolute Truth! 🙏 Aim for the highest good, choose to cultivate good values, let go of the outcome, put actions to words, trust the process, and enjoy the ride. 😊

@katiehoang4247 5 ай бұрын

this is such a unique ted talk! i definitely related to this all the way. knowing the cheat codes of life i.e the persona you have to put on to get what you want, does put you fiercely ahead. But, it sets you back eventually. I think what she is speaking to means finding mentors in all sorts of your life to enhance your hand of cards.

@conradcrawford1384 5 ай бұрын

She is brilliant. I’d love to meet her and chat. Her perspective is wonderful and really struck me. Thank you

@user-wv2kn2lz5s 5 ай бұрын

Be better at life! Good Presentation! Another Great Ted Talk! Many. Thanks. MS. Lady!🎈

@vickig6080 5 ай бұрын

Love everything about the message in this talk!😊

@jaakrudov4793 4 ай бұрын

This is the best Ted Talk (for me of course) I have ever heard.

@juanrucker1278 3 ай бұрын

We all aim to be the image accepted by others or hear them at least with clean Ears.... great speech!! (no Bs).

@IhaytFukkingsocialmedia Ай бұрын

as an autistic person this is really true. very helpful talk!!

@alienesse 5 ай бұрын

Great talk. Love how candid and logical the concepts are.

@ImaginerImagines 5 ай бұрын

This was really good. There are some real truths for living life here. It isn't mere platitudes. Thank you.

@danielhall67 3 ай бұрын

I like this talk bc she explains how a game can teach a life lesson. I like doing the same thing. I have this card game called Hanabi. Each player plays with their hand facing outward, and they can’t see their own hand. I want to do a TED talk on Hanbi now 😂

@michaeltfa1592 5 ай бұрын

"...Can't help the hand we're dealt. But we can greatly improve on it...."

@kooale 5 ай бұрын

Nice work G.G., I'm going to send to my 2 nieces in their early twenties, I think they'll be receptive to listen & learn from you. THANKS!

@Duane_Day 5 ай бұрын

That was just great. I didn’t have high expectations from the title. I didn’t know what direction it was going to go. She was both brilliant and captivating. That’s definitely getting forwarded!!

@Magic872x 5 ай бұрын

Agree. Definitely ideas worth sharing!

@kathleen9456 5 ай бұрын

So incredibly insightful for a young person. Loved it!

@angelinasouren 5 ай бұрын

Agreed!!!!

@heidig7773 5 ай бұрын

Headline made me annoyed…but glad I watched! Wise thoughts, easy to relate to. Thank you! ❤😊

@tkomla 5 ай бұрын

❤ Well done! Much admiration for the young folk of today ❤

@dannyaounboxing 5 ай бұрын

Amazing speech great job Vivi!!!! I’m never playing BS against you

@dottnick 5 ай бұрын

Excellent video / talk. More people need this.

@lakeshagadson357 5 ай бұрын

this conversation can help someone whoever is willing to learn

@Venus-gn5oi 5 ай бұрын

I never thrived if I tried to fit into society. I thrive the most and the best doing things my way. Not be wise it’s better because it’s who I’m and as you say it lights me up. It’s like having wings to fly.

@tr1ckster726 5 ай бұрын

Great speech! Always gotta be true to yourself.

@vernessatucker8647 5 ай бұрын

An awesome and very profound speech from a beautifl lady. Thanks for sharing.

@normapadro420 5 ай бұрын

Hello. When I was little I was bullied in school. At home. I didn't know where I could turn to. I learned that I couldn't depend on anyone for anything. I learned to depend on myself for everything. I learned about the games people play. The manipulations of others were so visible. Once you gave attention you were taken for a ride. You get played with. Teased, and mocked. A game not for the weak of heart. Many times I contemplated committing suicide, because life didn't have meaning, or wasn't useful. Many times I wondeted why my mother gave birth to me if I was going to be a burden on to this world. I thought of myself being the lowest. Others told me so, and still do. This game is being played today by many. I learned too late in life that to win this battle it would take me a mental break down that lasted me 4 months in an asylum when I was 15. I learned the power my brain had over me. Also that words had meaning, and could break you. I broke when I was 15. Died, and rose when I was 26. Learned that the struggles of life are just in your head. I learned to be strong.

@notedvail 5 ай бұрын

Genevieve, you are a treasure. This is gold, and I suspect you have a heart of gold. Your concept here is beyond exceptional, your delivery outstanding, and honestly this talk brought tears to my eyes. I absolutely love this. Search for the treasure. In every move, in every moment, there is treasure. Priceless. Well done 👏 and thank you so much!!! 💎👑❤

@Magic872x 5 ай бұрын

I couldn’t agree more! So young and yet so wise. It should give all of us more hope for the future knowing that young people like her will be stepping up to lead when we need them to.

@GrantBlankenship 5 ай бұрын

Best. Ted Talk. Ever.

@rodgomx 5 ай бұрын

I don’t get it, why can’t people just be honest? People are over thinking life, Just follow your intuition and your heart and you will get there without bs

@SandraMartinez-ko5qx 5 ай бұрын

UCB “If you are not idealistic before 21 years of age your are heartless; if you are idealistic after 21 years of age you don’t have a mind.

@chrisencelan4021 5 ай бұрын

It's the status quo to not do so.

@rodgomx 5 ай бұрын

@@SandraMartinez-ko5qx do you think it’s possible for people to change?

@rodgomx 5 ай бұрын

@@chrisencelan4021 for how long before people wake up ?

@glimpselight4562 5 ай бұрын

Agree, just simplify things n you will find wisdom

@bryanhunter7714 5 ай бұрын

I can tell she was expanding her boundaries in order to give this talk and did a great job! I think she is phenomenal. 👏

@Magic872x 5 ай бұрын

Me too. She obviously gave this a lot of thought and did a great job delivering her message.

@RafikiWorks 5 ай бұрын

Amazing talk! Resonated with me deeply.

@BlitzHitz 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this.

@darbyl3872 5 ай бұрын

This is the best Ted Talk that I can remember. Bravo.

@katrinacozadd7908 5 ай бұрын

Agreed 100%

@mauricebell8912 5 ай бұрын

Amazing session!!! Go after your treasures!!!

@bewellwithdanyel938 5 ай бұрын

Impressive!!!! This was really useful for me to hear! THANK YOU! I have been collecting treasures and it feels good when I finally get to play them. ❤

@HeIsNakedLunch 5 ай бұрын

9:05 while I’d’ve agreed with you well into mid end of 2007, everything since has only shown that bullshitters win as I continuously continually lose.

@Rakisteph 5 ай бұрын

Right

@Bellasie1 5 ай бұрын

You are not alone. There seems to be no decent place for decent people nowadays.

@RecycledSoul 4 ай бұрын

🙌💯❤️@@Bellasie1

@MrPrimoPR 5 ай бұрын

Life’s journey has turned into a chase for success over living in peace with oneself. It’s all about getting ahead , which reminds me of the story of the rabbit and the turtle. No big wonder why there are so many people with mental problems.

@shubhandthewitches 5 ай бұрын

Genius! Thanks for this unique approach.

@RecycledSoul 4 ай бұрын

The moment you come to realize that loving others the way we want to be loved above all other priorities and that what others think of us is not our business, we become successful in our souls. Happiness and success comes frim following your true heart. It has nothing to do with our self doubt or the opinions of others.

@Vivacious.rabbit 5 ай бұрын

This was a great talk. Thank you❤

@robinrusso-tibbetts4549 4 ай бұрын

Thank you! Great video and good message.

@MK-cc5ve 5 ай бұрын

For those of us who have dominated at something, this is an exhilarating message. Not all of us are getting, will ever get top grades on an exam, and that’s normal. Don’t forget to celebrate normal.

@teddyBfunny 5 ай бұрын

Loved that card game who knew I could have applied this to my every day life… I will now

@hmmmwhatever 5 ай бұрын

I kinda cried because this is exactly what my Son and every child needs to hear! Well done!! Brilliant!!!!

@Magic872x 5 ай бұрын

It’s what everyone needs to hear.

@tiaturnbullchampionscoachi9587 5 ай бұрын

Awesome! Such a great talk!!!!❤❤❤❤

@user-mu6dw5sk2i 5 ай бұрын

That was awesome, Vivi!

@brynmagee8865 5 ай бұрын

Well spoken. 🎉

@jesseskellington9427 5 ай бұрын

Very eloquent, informative and focused topic speaker! :-)

@Alan_Duval 5 ай бұрын

Brilliant metaphor.

@terryrustad1800 3 ай бұрын

Brilliant! 💫

@eazlai 2 ай бұрын

What a great talk!

@mamaisalwaysright2935 5 ай бұрын

This was freaking awesome!

@dr4g0n76 5 ай бұрын

Seems like nowadays part of the template for how to starting a TED Talk is: 1. Start with: So... 2. Insert rest of text 😉

@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou 5 ай бұрын

@maggiemaynard6199 2 ай бұрын

I agree about using So - it's a crutch word. Still and all, she gave an insightful speech- good points.

@URIncharge 5 ай бұрын

Amazing talk!!!!

@IdeasThatHeal 5 ай бұрын

Great mind, great talk!

@rsriram95 5 ай бұрын

fantastic talk. interesting perspective

@staciocasio9440 5 ай бұрын

You are wise beyond your years! Great talk can’t wait for more as I figure out how to play these cards…. Lol!

@forctis4672 5 ай бұрын

Everything she said had a point. Besides the joke on “it’s a poodle a show dog” everything she said if u listened carefully will benefit u tremendously. What she was ultimately saying “ is how can I ask for directions for a path that’s only destined for u” pick ur cards wisely in this game of life.

@jaxonboys3366 5 ай бұрын

Not really. You just pick your cards. Whether or not you lay them down or keep them, and have the same attitude about either, is the game.

@mitcheasterhouse1867 3 ай бұрын

She referenced the Show Poodle dog due to her acknowledging that people are trying to be a copy and pasted version of what we believe is the most ideal type of person we can be according to society.

@lorenzodossantos1111 5 ай бұрын

a life of worth has gems and jewels leading you onwards.

@MemorablePopCulture 4 ай бұрын

Everyone lives a unique life. Live it. Love it. Embrace it.

@MrBudaguda 5 ай бұрын

Good job I didnt know you'd make that connection Thanks!

@morphinngus 5 ай бұрын

I don't know how this is possible but I feel as if I'm listening to a carbon copy of myself speak. I know that's an absurd statement but just listening to her, sorry I forgot her name, And her experience in school it's almost as if her and I have been living a parallel life. I just turned 36 and my mind is fractured into fragments which I'm trying to piece together. I'm not broken I'm just a bit wobbly. I'm so grateful that people share their experiences because now I know for a fact that it's not just me.

@LUCY-ki5yj 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely right

@mikemccarville6705 5 ай бұрын

You can not control the hand you are dealt, you are correct.... but yo "Can" make the best of what is dealt to you and still come out better than what what you expect. ....look up to yourself, there is no one more important ❤

@donnacook2531 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@user-gl2fm4xy2l 5 ай бұрын

Well said.

@jimg398 4 ай бұрын

Agreed

@bradleythomas5350 5 ай бұрын

Great talk!

@user-fe8xe5kp6e 5 ай бұрын

Amazing of planning for the games

@NathanHarrison7 5 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@ChrisWard64658 4 ай бұрын

Good insight. Thank you.

@MattINFP 5 ай бұрын

Wow, the intelligence she embodies, the manner of speaking, her passionate delivery, and those amazingly curious eyes of hers are all clear indicators that she's definitely all about knowledge, expanding understanding, and spiraling into any given direction seeking out new possibilities. If nothing is gained from this video, I hope her curiosity and love for information, understanding, and sharing these concepts are adopted at least partially by viewers. Love how she was called econ-god and realized the pitfalls of allowing ego to stand in our way, this woman is truly remarkable and will surely have much more to offer the world as the days and years pass by, her understanding and passion being stoked with each breath.

@BonnieBenford 5 ай бұрын

Well said Matt