Thank you for sharing and making a platform for understanding limerance. It is like living in a haunted house, but in our own minds... very unusual and lonely experience.
@michaelk62210 ай бұрын
Limerence is so incredibly painful 😢. Mine is finally getting better after 3-4 years
@j.r.1823 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for being brave enough to talk openly about this subject! It's great to see a grown, intelligent man like you could also develop limerence like I did (I'm a woman in my forties). I'm also married, so a very similar situation, I'm glad I'm not alone with this! At this point, I think I'm already almost over those strong feelings towards my "crush", or at least the limerence isn't as strong and ever present anymore. It lasted for several years though and I was wondering why this was so strong - thanks for explaining it really is an addiction, that makes a lot of sense to me. The feelings still come back sometimes, mainly when I feel stressed or when there are changes in my environment, I go back to day dreaming about this person. But I can catch myself now and I'm always trying to give myself lots of compassion for the hurt child in me- it helps. I will check out your other videos to find out more about limerence and how to deal with it. It truly is difficult to talk openly about this, so thanks again! What you do is very valuable and helpful for many people! 💗
@Frank1life2live3 жыл бұрын
Like you said, Limerence is a condition. It wont just go away on it's own.
@khadi74542 жыл бұрын
Finding out about this really took all the subjectivity and pining I was experiencing. Thank yoouu!
@lanceaugust2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your work and attention to this condition.
@AG-ej7wm Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video.
@alekss73732 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@Frank1life2live3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your comments.
@IsqbelleVillani-mc5pn2 ай бұрын
Yes I have been limerant for 3.5 years for a guy I hardly know. It almost drove me crazy my mental health suffered. I feel ashamed. He has blocked me.
@user-lk1qx7gb5o2 жыл бұрын
Interestingly enough one can be limerent with one LO but not another? I think the LO has to have that particular trigger, the abandonment, deprived trigger that comes from emotionally unavailable LOs
@bagyalakshmi5973 Жыл бұрын
True.
@juanmaldonado32883 жыл бұрын
The shame from a cheater comes from the urge to safe face before society.
@KandyKoatedKrafts3 жыл бұрын
As a “LO” it was a very unsettling experience to have someone disclose their feelings to me. I have a different perspective being on the receiving end of limerence, it’s nuts! Lol!
@limerence.net13 жыл бұрын
yes, I dont think we fully appreciate the impact we have on our LO's until we have been an LO ourselves.
@user-lk1qx7gb5o2 жыл бұрын
A person disclosing their feelings to you was nuts? Can you please clarify? Thank you
@samia6888 Жыл бұрын
@@user-lk1qx7gb5o this is why people are scared to disclose their feelings for someone, to get told “it’s nuts” and be laughed at.
@j.r.1823 Жыл бұрын
I can understand that. After I was able to get a bit more of an "outside" perspective on the whole thing- I can imagine it seems totally strange, exaggerated, maybe even scary for the person on the receiving end. In a way I think it crosses the personal boundaries of that person, to be idealized and objectified from the person who has the limerence. It probably also comes across as quite immature behavior, at least that's what I thought for myself - why am I behaving like a teenager towards this person? Anyways, it's so good there are videos about this, so both sides can understand better what's actually going on and what's behind this all!
@angelae.campos1793 жыл бұрын
thank you dr. for the interesting subject matter. could you talk about the causes of limerience ? i know it stems from attachment styles but do you feel it comes from ocd or another path disease?
@crisisguy213 жыл бұрын
You will find more detailed information on limerence and its origins here limerence.net/what-causes-limerence I have made a video on the topic however its part of a paid course that im releasing in a months time.