I acctually live in the philippines and i promised my mom i will stay with her and take care of her when she gets old.

Yeah but you shouldnt live off your parents in any case and have a job as well or help them around the house with some chores... like even in countries where its acceptable to live together (wich is like in the entire world)

Yay I'm one of the first to comment :D You guys are awesome!

This is absurd to me. Most people in Sweden move out when they start uni. But you also have the opportunity to move out even if you don't go to uni or even have a job. My mom moved out when she was 16 as an example. I'd also say that since Sweden is such a small country it's becoming more and more usual that you live in an other part of Sweden than your parents (because it's becoming faster to travel between cities an such). However most families still live pretty close to each other, like in the same community but not necessarily on the same street or really close by.

My mom gave me her credit card cause i'm dorming at college but i feel guilty whenever i use it, so i try no to use it. Also the my house, my rules thing applies to most of the western hemisphere if not you get your ass kicked out.

I'm 23 and I still live with my parents. I lived alone for two years but my parents wanted me to come back home. That way we ( they) had less money to spend. Unfortunately, my parents OFTEN use my money to do things, they even owned my credit card for a few months ! I'm 23 but they are still moments where I will ask my parents for money :( money that I won't get. So when I'm not going to university I work to be able to buy my own things, I live with my parents but can't count on them to do things for me. I'm french-german, my grand-parents were from the Ivory Coast and there, it is common to live for a long time with your parents, even after marrying and having kids;

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***** It's getting worse nowadays though with the economy and job placement compared to 10-20 years ago. Young people and couples could find jobs and get houses and so on. Now it's a real fight. At least in north america.

WaterspoutsOfTheDeep Don't I know it!

"a bit longer" not until your 30 though lol

key crum yeah, 30 is the general cut-off for sympathy

FinN HotS Yeah, if you're in college and you can stay home to save money, for your 4 years of college it's fine. After that you should get a job and live away from home, even if you want to support yourself to finish 3 more years of college for higher degree. And your parents should NOT ever have to pay for your college, you should be a responsible adult and earn money to pursue your career /degree dreams.

key crum Is it really shameful to live with your parents? Over here in Singapore, if we continue to live with our parents after we started working, people will think we're good kids.

EVG 1 I see, after we receive our first pay, we would take over all of the expenses for the utility and the loan for our apartments. We also need to give our parents some "pocket money". I guess its an Asian thing but one of our responsibilities is to take care of our parents. Children usually don't leave before marriage and some still live with their parents after that but in no way are they living off of their parents

+triad6425 Really late reply since you made this comment a year ago, but American culture is basically like "Well, you sink or swim" and again, it's that whole independent individual thing. You're not making your way in the world as your own person, even though like you said, having family helping you is *super* important and vital. We Americans have this horrible habit of acknowledging our parents yet at the same time pretending that everything we do is a result of *our* personal hard work and not our parents', despite the fact that so many successful people could realistically be that successful because their parents paved the way. Not saying they didn't work hard for their success (well, some realistically don't LOL), but there's this illusion we like to hold up that every success story starts with "Well, I bought a piece of property and I built this business out of plywood and nails into the big corporation you see today."

Talyn has time the american dream

I am the same way. I stay at home and do nothing. I can't get a job or go to college.

It would be nice if I could have my own spending money or go to college so I can get started on my career but it's just impossible right now. It's like nobody understands that LOL.

Exactly.

I completely understand. I'm 28, jobless, living with my mother. I get so frustrated. I'm actually back in college, but I can't get aid so I may have to leave for a semester or two, since I don't want to keep asking my grandfather for tuition money. I apply and apply for jobs, yet I haven't had a stable job since 2011 (not even walmart or goodwill would give me an interview). I'm always afraid people think I'm a lazy freeloader and I'm constantly stressed out since I'm completely broke with no income and relying entirely on family. Heck, my dad just had to spend $460 to replace the worn out tires on my car, gas, and an over-due oil change....

I'm jobless too, though I've been going to a community college for 5 years right out of high school and only had one real job (it was seasonal). Since I don't have money I'm going to have to take the next semester off to work, if I can get a job. And then I don't even know if I can go back because it gets more and more expensive every semester. It's really ridiculous how hard it is to get a job if you don't have connections. And then going to school makes it a lot harder. Even though I go to school people still judge me really badly for not also having a job. I'm not looking forward to what they'll say when they find out I won't be going next semester. I've been told that if I apply to a job I'll automatically get it. How unrealistic! And that people will work with a school schedule, I've learned the hard way that that's a lie. I hope you find a good job that you love soon! It's hard out there.

Yes indeed....that was one of my fav. things about Middle Eastern culture.

is it really being blessed though, to never learn independency?

i agree with you

I have similar experience. I'm Asian American and I feel pressure from my parents and other Asian in my community about the fact that I'm fully independent and not living with my parents.

DAAAMN! That's a great price!

I disagree. My parents are almost 50 and still are helped out by their parents sometimes but we are working class so adults in the middle and upper classes probably don't have to do that. Paying parents rent, helping out with groceries and chores is reasonable but refusing to help your kids when they face destitution bc you've "paid your dues" is cruel.

belleofacadia The "paid his dues" was in reference to if I were irresponsible enough to get pregnant, he was not going to help me raise my kids(which I never did have), which is understandable. Sure there have been times that I could have used a helping hand, but most of those times came after he passed away. Define working class, I consider a man who stands on his feet 40+ hours a week working with machines that make tools and parts for other men who work standing on their feet for 40+ hours a week, working class.

Really? I think the dream has changed a bit maybe mid 20's then its kinda like a 'wtf why do you live with my parents?' when your 20-21 or 22 your just getting out of college and your pretty much broke and need to find a job. It's expected that their childs gona move back into the parents house for awhile until they get a nice steady job and start earning money. And even that is hard with how the economy is right now.

It also depends on the parents and the region you live in :). Of course mindsets change since then, but I feel like it's still ingrained in our society. I grew up in the south and many of my peers were staunchly conservative, so they believed the myth that if you tried hard enough you would be rich and blah blah blah.

Oh ok I live in maryland pretty much parents already expect their kids to move back home with them for a good period of time because of the economy, some kids may have loans to pay back. It's like expected they wont be out until possibly 22 maybe 23

I don't fully agree with you. I see the American dream aspect but the whole parents expect thing is slightly off. As someone who's getting ready for college my parents and other parents around me don't expect anything. With how much money my college is (64,000) my parents are amazed I have been able to get the scholarships I've gotten. And I mean they want you to go to college but don't expect it. Besides its their money that pays for my tuition anyway

dayum!! i live in CA one of the most expensive states to live in and I'm doing just fine after i graduated. i don't have cable though :( my dad didn't want me to move out haha i had to convince him i was doing just fine.

Yeah even in Israel everything is expensive especially nowadays and housing is alot mor expensive then in Singapore or South Korea... and most jobs aren't paying so well and we need to be in the army for like two and half years and then go to study somthing in university plus pepole are getting married alot later so your mostly stay at home until you get married and alot of pepole here live near they're parents...

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*gasp* Eat Your Kimchi replied to my comment! Haha, but seriously, it's a great segment. The Eat Your Kimchi community has a lot of interesting things to say and offers diverse perspectives. It's really cool to see you guys interacting with the comments on camera, as well as on the blog.

jajajaja LOL that is soo trueeee XD what mine tells me is: "I cant wait for you to financially support me!!" ("No puedo esperar a que me mantengas!!") :3

I think in your situation then the idea of using a parents credit card is acceptable. I live in Australia and living with your parents until your mid-twenties and late-twenties is very acceptable considering the high costs of buying your own house or renting an apartment. However, with Korea, it seems the situation is more of a freeloading type than anything else. My oldest sister is 22 and she still lives at home and she says she will probably move out when she's in her late twenties. It's nice to hear that your grandma helps out your mom. She must have a tough time having to look after three children by herself. Your mother seems like a very strong women to have to do all of that

Yeah, the cost of houses are definitely a huge factor as to when it is acceptable to move out, and in a lot of places here in America there is just tons of family that are below the poverty line and really people have just stopped saying that you can't live with your parents (unless you're like, 45... then you're a lazy freeloader which seems to be the case for some Koreans). Thank you, my mom has been through a lot and has shown me how to be strong in a world full of slaps to the face and punches to the gut. She is definitely one of the strongest women I know.

Yeah I definately agree. I'm from Perth, and I think moving out is a casual thing over time. Student housing or dorms is really only for people who can't live at home, rather then won't (i.e studying interstate or coming from a really far suburb/the country)

I hope EYK talks about this in another video!

I'm actually curious about that too! Is it normal to have seniors become like another "child" to their children, and which one if they have many? The eldest?

I bet you're from malaysia.

Indian??

is there any difference between boys and girls in that situation? I mean, are boys expected to move out more than girls, or it doesn't matter?

it doesn't matter. well, i'm sure there are some people who are more comfortable letting boys live alone than girls (which is dumb but that's a different topic), but from my experience, both genders are equally expected to stay with their parents until marriage.

Wow that's really early

In Finland it's pretty much the same - probably in the other Nordic countries as well and maybe some other parts of Europe too? The education is free and students can get a monthly study grant and a housing supplement to help with the costs. Our ''key money'' is usually not worth more than two months rent and a lot of young people live with roommates or in student apartments. You really don't have any excuses to live with your parents for too long here.

So lucky

Similar in Switzerland, usually parents kick you out after 18-20

Its kinda sad honestly

hahaha i remember when we all thought this was hella good quality!haha

soundxcrash Omgosh HAHA ikr! :P

Yeah same with middle eastern (and isreal as well) there's no much of a stigma of living with your parents...

I know this is a really old comment but I really find what you said interesting! I live in the US and I am black. I moved out of my parents house when I was 21. I think what you said about it being socially exceptable to only see your parents a few times a year really has more to do with the individual and their relationship. I visit my parents at least twice a week! lol. I have a good relationship with them. however I don't think this is the overall case for other people.i also have a Co worker who is white who visits her parents,just as often as me lol. plus there are other things that i feel factor in such and how they were treated, distance,living situation and relationship. I do agree with you about other cultures living together however I have a wonderful freind whose Mexican and she's still living with her parents however there is from what I've noticed and what she's told me herself. there is a great deal of frustration when It comes to the sharing of things. the pressure that families can have on one another to do what the family or at least some members of the family might want you to do versus what you yourself might actually want! this I hear is very common in alot of cultures with this sense of tradition. my question to you is do you or have you ever felt this kind of pressure from family especially when it come to the exchange of goods/money. I know this might sound a little invasive. so I apologize if it does. this isn't the first time I've heard this so I'm quite curious about this. thank you

Soweto Brightmon No, this is not invasive. I do find this kind of thing very interesting because it not only depends on culture but also on the individual family. I would say that yes, if you live with your parents, regardless of age, there is always some kind of pressure. However, there are different kinds of pressure. For instance, I am 20 and I live with my parents (which I suppose is still a relatively normal age to live with ones parents) but I do contribute with things like food, cleaning, bills, etc which is fair. Since I am still in college, my parents of course want to know how I am doing and if they think I'm slacking off or something they will encourage me to stop that. I suppose a lot of people would find that very annoying and would prefer moving out but as for me I think that living with my parents has prevented me from making some really bad decisions that I have seen others that live out of home do. I have friends who think they are so independent and mature just because they have moved out when they are literally the same person they were at 16. Like I said, this really depends on the individual family situation. If you live with very oppressive parents everything is of course going to be very uncomfortable. It also really depends on what type of person you are. I am willing to support the household because, well, I can and because I don't want to be a freeloader but I know some people expect to live with their parents for nothing while also expecting to come and go as they please with no notice or explanation as if it was a hotel. If you live with your parents, expect to follow their rules (as long as it is nothing too oppressive), contribute with food, bills, etc, and talk to them about issues you have. After all, that is what a mature family is supposed to be like.

+adriana12995 I completely agree! I have a little sister well baby sister who is 2 years older than I was when I moved out. I have no problem with her living with our parents I do have a problem with her not contributing to our family's house hold! she pays no bills until she is forced makes no effort to do anything and my parents are older so they depend on me quite a bit for certain things. so it's really frustrating and i don't live there so it makes things a little difficult . it's nice to see that other people understand the concept of taking care of your parents as they have done you. also thank you for replying it's provided some much needed insite. :)

Holy fuck you too?! I swear to you I'm not lying, like I give you my WORD the exact same thing happened to me not long ago. She was like "you;re not moving out until you're 30 and MARRIED"

whyquestionit moms lol can't live without em…. still can't live without em ^_^

Leaning financial responsibility WHILE living with your parents I think is best. Remember when we did know how much our parents made? I think that is the key. We need love hotels in USA!

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Having a close relationship and being in contact with your family in Islam is really important, that's why it is maybe.

well that's also true .. but we have a lot of Christians also and they have the same tradition .. maybe it's something common in Asia in general (or in the east)

Maisa AR It may be.

+Maisa AR You made this comment 3 years ago but I thought I'd ask anyway: Is there a limit to how many "generations" they allow to stack up? Like, does it just keep going and going or do they stop at like, 4 or 5 floors and build a new house next door?

the same happens in Brazil

The same in Saudi Arabia too

Yeah, Norway is awesome. I'm a bit jealous. -.-

Where are you from?

gaybaconstrips13 Vietnam :D So I think living with parents is a part of the Asian Culture, maybe.

Nah I think it's everywhere, whether people are ashamed of it or not. I live in the South of the United States, and I still live with mine and I'm 24.

My olderest brother from my dad's first wife still live with his mom and he is almost 30. Also my 25 year-old brother and 19 year-old sister still lives with my mom, 3 younger brothers and I.

gaybaconstrips13 it's being more accepted now, worldwide, cuz it's getting each time more difficult to live. Our parents generation had the world to conquest. Today, you need a really good job to have an AVERAGE life. In Canada it's kinda different, such it is a more stabilized country, so there is not a great different of wages. But in countries with much difference it's more natural. Also, many people like to be in family, and its good because people can take care of their parents. My cousins life (almost all) with their parents; to my generation (20+), in Brazil, it's common to don't have your independence, since you're trying to have a better life.