Let’s be honest, we ALL leave management and not the job itself!

In my honest opinion, toxic workplaces are a bigger health hazard in the United States than obesity, smoking and alcoholism.

My gut was telling me to quit my job for the last 2 months. Yesterday I quit my call center job. It destroyed my mental and physical health.

Every single job I’ve been in has been this way. There will always be at least one person to cause drama in the workplace or micromanage you…

Wow how many black women have the same story, I know this too well working in the office, so glad I left. My mental health thanked me dearly.

Micromanaging is the absolute WORST! I'm so glad you're out of that toxic environment.

My job is DEMONIC. I'm exhausted from just thinking about it

Your story reminds me so much of when I worked at the bank. That was the point when I knew I hated micromanagement. I left with no back up job but my mental health was through the roof. I got a new job back in my field in less than 2 weeks. Life is too short to be stressed at a job u hate for 40 hours. So much happier now. Also new subbie!

July 2022 I stepped out on faith and left my job of 27 years to pursue my side hustle which is stand up comedy, my best decision ever.

When I once left a toxic workplace I took three months off, and used the time to hone my skills to regain my sense of personal efficacy. After that I started working as a freelancer in my field, and ended up making significantly more money. That said I am lucky to be in a field for which there is extraordinary demand.

I was in the same situation as you. No one was supportive or appreciative. They also make me stupid when im asking questions it’s as if i have to know automatically 😅 They also talk about work life balance which is totally fake. People are also very toxic and discriminative. I also was stressed even through the weekends, i cannot enjoy them at all. Work calls and texts keeps on ringing continuously. Everybody was overworked and the resignation rate is sky rocketing as i am typing this. No team work whatsoever too. I’m happy that i left that place asap. Thank you next!

Why does this sound EXACTLY like my most recent workplace 🤦🏾‍♀️😩 I’m sorry that you went through this ordeal. My mental health was in a blunder, I absolutely had to quit just before lockdown! Thank you for sharing 💕

A toxic work environment is not okay! Thanks for sharing. Subscribed!

This sounds exactly like my current workplace! 🤦🏾‍♀️ 100%. It’s been 1 year and 3 months and honestly I cannot wait to leave this job for my own mental sanity! Thank you for sharing ❤️

I believe you 100%. I am about to quit my toxic job because my boss went crazy because I want to take Thanksgiving off. I can't even believe this is happening.

One of the good things that came out of the pandemic is working from home. At least you no longer have to sit in an office where you can clearly sense the aggression.

Micromanagement is real! You stated it correctly! It is so annoying for someone to undermine you and question the emails you type and want to throw you under the bus. It does makes u scared to send emails. Don't worry girl! That woman is paying for that behavior with her miserable life! Just be relieved you are away from that. I'm so glad you're away from that. You will regain your confidence. Be strong. I'm sending you hugs and support.

That's me right now. I dread going to work every single day. I'm super happy on Fridays at 5 p.m. and I get anxious from Sunday evening and my mood just drops as the evening progresses.

I am the only black in my department, too. I've been there for 7 years and am still working in an entry position. My boss, when I told him I want to learn every aspect of the mailroom, he told me "basically everyone is set in their ways and wouldn't want to slow their pace to train anyone". Not long after that he placed someone who got hired after me in an area to get trained. Everyone who started after me has literally moved on while I am still in entry position. The job itself isn't stressful but the microaggression in that room is overbearing.

I was in a similar situation a few jobs back. I got written up the first time in my life for failing to respond to an email Which by the way all my emails were also cc'd to my boss. If she felt I took too long to respond she would reply that I need to answer faster or she would just reply herself. She would stand behind me during phone conversations with clients, telling me what to say. I was always watched and corrected over minor things. I had so much anxiety and would literally cry in the office bathroom. Thankfully I am in a much better company now.

Hey Lizzie, I can relate to this so much because this was my EXACT same experience with microaggressions and micromanagement in the job that I worked at right before the whole COVID situation. My anxiety had heightened so much that I just kept on getting (physically) sick. Even being at home in self-isolation right now, my experience there still frustrates me and pains me. Thank you for sharing, I feel less alone :)

I feel you and I sympathesise with the toxic culture that pervades so many workplaces. The only 2 things that I look forward to are 1. working on my business idea daily and early in the morning before work and 2. The realisation that in the next 10 years it will be us late millenials and generation z who will be in charge as managers and will clean up this toxic mess for good!

I quit my job because my ex boss was verbally putting me down in front of patients, making me doubt myself. After I quit I was depressed and had low self worth. I lost good jobs because of my low self esteem.

I’m in the same boat. Left in March. Worked at a bank in the climate team. Micromanagement, passive aggressive behaviour, personal insults and infantilising me in front of my coworkers wrecked me. I even had dreams about them plotting on me which was crazy. People on that team were weird. Karma struck because my workplace ended up on the news because of a debanking scandal a few months back. Didn’t apply to jobs for months because it sapped all my energy. Much better now.

Awwwr I’m so sorry you went through all that sis. I’m glad you left, i live in Wales in a small town, so I know very well that some companies just throw a really few black people for a fake representation of “diversity” & “inclusion”. Concerning the micromanaging manager, that’s narcissistic personality disorder & the Jezebel spirit, you were actually getting subtly emotional & psychologically abused. You should have done spiritual warfare & bind them demons. People possessed with that spirit are very controlling, manipulative & insecure, but pretend to be confident & will strip you of all your confidence too if you are not careful. I got so angry watching this, I dislike bullies. But don’t worry, God is a fair judge.

I was foolish to think being the only black man in my healthcare team wouldn't come with racism and bs , it sucks because so many people are awesome and I love the job part. But we have this anonymous writing up system and people can say anything. I've been written up recently for not doing my work having others do it for me, not responding to emergencies and not helping teammates. These are all lies. So I went to HR because last time I went to my boss about coworkers yelling at me undermining me ect and they admitted to it, they stop the behavior, but now I feel like there's retaliation

God bless u Sister... The same experience I had.. We were only 2 blacks in my workplace and the other guy was not a a permanent staff... So in other words, I was the only black.. I felt out of place..... Guess what??? I quit today.... I'm haaaaaaapy

Your job sounds like my last job! They talked a lot about diversity but there were almost no people of color in upper management positions! The working environment was very stressful and degrading. The only black guy in my group was called lazy and he quit the first week!

being made to feel less than and devaluing every work that i do was the final straw for me

Thank you Lizzi for sharing. I can soo relate to your videos. My field is dental. I was away for 6 months. I recently came back I was offered 2 dental assistant roles. 1 in Tooting and 1 in Finchley. I loved the staff in the Tooting practice very friendly. The Finchley practice was a lot more modern and a much bigger company. I decided to go for the Finchley dentist I thought I could learn more from them. On my first day the dentist and receptionist were back stabbing each other to me and I was stuck in the middle. This should’ve been a red flag. My 2nd week I realised my manager was constantly micro managing me. She would say ohh don’t worry we understand your training. That was a lie they were putting soo much pressure on me to learn everything. Bare in mind I’ve only been there for under 2 weeks. Today when I went into work I found out my manager was discussing my personal business to colleagues that was the last straw. At 12.30pm on my lunch break I walk out I had enough of this toxic workplace. Last Sunday I woke up with bad anxiety like omg I have to go back to work on Monday. I was totally dreading it. I’m soo happy I decided to leave. My mental health is more important than money.

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZfaq channel 7 months ago about self development. Now I have 696 subs and > 200 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place. This channel also inspired me to upload my recent videos to share my opinions about the main things that truly impacted the way I live. They're a couple of my most vulnerable videos that I've been hesitant to post for many months because of the fear of being misunderstood but I finally decided to overcome that fear so others can learn from my experience so we can all grow together. They're packed with valuable information about the relationship between a job and happiness.

I am planning to exit a toxic environment. Nothing but deceit, manipulation, lies , gas lighting and fake people. It was nothing like the ‘job description’ that was presented to me. One week it was told to me this is a ‘Pilot’ position- it hasn’t been done before so we’re still figuring it out” Haha! As if!… the person who trained me was doing it for a year before me! Lies! Lesson learned. Will be very particular with what I ask in an interview and have very clear direction and boundaries.

oh GOD this sounds like my toxic san francisco startup that i just quit after only 2.5 months after being surprise backstabbed by my only other team member/"mentor". im asian but everyone else were white guys and there was literally only ONE black guy. i was one of two asians. an extreme lack of diversity. despite our clientele being mostly immigrants, refugees, and overwhelming women of color. not to mention no one clocked out EVER. we worked (entry level or not) NONSTOP. 8am-8pm at least every single day

thank you for sharing your story! i’m watching these toxic workplace videos to hear i’m not alone in this as i’m awake at 4am feeling sick with anxiety because of a job that’s been chipping away at my mental and physical health for 11 months. i handed in my 4 week notice and didn’t even last the first week as it seems i’m now being targeted, and my manager refuses to hear my side of issues. so i’ve decided to take these last 3 weeks as mental health sick leave - they have specifically told me i was unwelcome in the setting and i refuse to destroy my mental health any more for people who don’t value me and acknowledge that i have been trying my best despite everything.

Nice, not complaining, but telling the truth. Thanks for your honesty.

Thanks for your story. My mental health and stress levels are through the roof because of my job. I am starting to lose my hair now too. I have to get out....but the money is so good😔.

With my workplace in the UK I got dismissed for unfair reason. But the thing is the company was not good due to favouritism and management was very poor

God the escalating thing and microaggression is so true, relate with everything you said. Had a micromanager as well.

Most of my jobs have been this way. I am now out of a job but 'living very simply'. UK.

Really well put together and excellent delivery throughout the video. Hope life is better now and that you're on the path you want to be on.

So many things hit home! Esp the point of "everything is blown out of proportion" is very very very evident at my current job... they instill fear in you and give you so much anxiety whenever you do ANYTHING (writing a simple email, trying to set boundaries, asking for your basic rights). I have seen people break down at work and start crying from how much stressful the job is and the fear management instills in the employees. Everyone works overtime there... this happens on a daily basis to the point where this is what management expects from you.. if you refuse to work overtime you are labeled as "lazy" "unproductive" "hates the job" etc. And many many other toxic things. I am only staying in this job to gain experience then bolting out the door the moment I find a new better job :)

Thanks for sharing your experience Lizzie! I have recently left a toxic job and couldn't be more relieved! Same thing happened to me, it knocked my confidence and filled me with dread just at the thought of going in. The company was huge - about 400 staff with only two black people and they both left. I was the only ethnic minority and I feel like I stuck out. So sorry you had to go through that but it sounds like you have learned a lot going forward! I also know what to ask now in my next interview. As much as they are there to interview us, it is our right to make sure that they are a good fit for us. Well done you should be proud for not only surviving that but also having enough confidence to leave!

I think everyone can relate with your experience. For me personally I found myself suddenly about a mile beyond my breaking point when a manager said something that was not only unprofessional but he deserved to have his teeth smashed out. My wife had died a month prior and he began to tell me how he needed me to work more (already working 12hrs a day) and including the weekend. He finished it off with you're the natural choice to work these extra hours since your wife passed away and you have less of a home life. Won't go into detail as to how my employment ended due to an NDA but I doubt he'll pull that BS ever again.

I was in a similar situation. My boss was like a strict principal. She would check our phones . She demanded our passwords. Very micromanaged! She would reprimand people in public. I hear you! She was an awful horrendous boss!

This is so relatable on so many levels. I’ve experienced some of the things you spoke about in previous roles and also provided counselling to individuals who have been in toxic environments. You’re 💯 right about the cliche diversity training that ticks the boxes but isn’t authentic.

I am a white minority in an all black field. Everyone is black in nursing homes even the management. . I’ve had a lot of hostility towards me and snarky comments about me being white. So I agree with you there should be more diversity in management. These white managers she had we’re probably prejudiced towards her but did so on the down low that it would be hard for her to bring legal action unfortunately. In my case my coworkers were being obvious about the prejudice but I can’t seek any ramifications because I’m not in a legally protected class. Fuck these people making lives miserable for us all being prejudiced when we need to put food in the table and pay bills.

Thank-you I just got out of a toxic work situation. Like your there was micromanagement. All upper management was involved. Best day of my life when I left. 😁

Thank you for sharing your story, insights and tips - I am, like many, so sorry you had to experience this in order to share your story with us. I came across your video because I am in a toxic workplace. Two months in and my anxiety is through the roof! I can feel the stress in my body (lower back & shoulders) and my mind is occupied every minute of every day with "how do I Respond and not React to her and her nonsense?" (my co-worker who is not my boss but has taken it upon herself to supervise the rest of us on the team because we have poor higher management - they say "she's good at her job - good help is hard to find - I just ignore her pot-shots - she's mean to every new hire, I've spoken to her but she cries, so what do I do? - you try talking to her - she's caused a lot of people to quit." If I'd known ANY of that, I would have not taken the job! The ironic part, is she is not special. Her tactics are text-book passive-aggressive bullying, creating a toxic work environment. Everyone else in the business (small business) is lovely. But in the end, she's been allowed to have all the power and there is nothing I can do about it but find another job - which I have. Not a great job. Not a high paying job. Just something that will buy me sometime until I can gather myself again and find something better. But it sucks!! I love my job. It's in a new industry that I've been exploring and researching for over a year now (pharmaceutical). I proactively put an oar out to a local business to ask if they'd entertain the idea of me coming on board, starting at the bottom and they did. They hired me. BUT I didn't ask any questions. It didn't occur to me to find out how long people have worked in each position (longest employee is four years - most are under a year - that's telling for a business that's been around for decades!!). And, looking around the company, there is zero diversity. I'm white but I prefer to work in a diverse team which better reflects society and is far more creative and intellectual. Anyway, I thank you for your inspiring videos and I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavours - You are absolutely helping others and I commend your courage. Cheers!

Powerful video. I stayed a bit too long but this offered me comfort now that I have left. Thank you. Peace and love from New York💖

No one is quitting willy-nilly in the States until we pass UNIVERSAL BASIC INCOME!! I'm running in 2022 NY21. The future is ours!!

An all white panel should be a red flag. Your story is all too common 🤯

15+ year and counting, totally toxic environment. Management act with a mob mentality. :( Have child that is a sophomore in college so am stuck for at least another 2years ... ugh!

The old ‘we want to make our workforce more diverse! Chestnut, when there is no evidence to support their claims. My company claims to care about mental health and yet looks down on those with mental health needs 👀

Thank you for sharing! This is inspiring and will definitely help others and making the right decision to leave toxic jobs.

I'm at the point in my work where I don't care anymore. After five years of giving the best of myself, I'm burnt out. I remember a student came to me a few weeks ago and said class wasn't fun anymore. I cared for about five seconds, then did not have the feeling to care. On top of that admin always wants you to spoon-feed the students and often bash teachers, even the best of us.

Good for you girl! Know your worth! Unfortunately I know exactly what you are talking about and it's all to common. There needs to be change & pronto! XOXO

My supervisor is so toxic. But I’m 65 and have to work being single. I am miserable. I have seen so many people be escorted to Human Resources by her for termination because of her poor management skills.

This video is literally my situation. Lack of training, support and being proper micro-managed within my first month. Pure stress and it got to a point where they were telling me to take work home because it was so stressful. Started to damage my mental health and literally have started began Therapy. Lack of proper sleep, stopped eating and yeh... anxiety every day

You’re describing my job lol. I need to quit.

Come across this video. Like how you put some helpful questions at end and used examples.

thank you so much for sharing your life. It takes some courage to do that. Glad things are better for you.

OMG. I totally understand it since I'm having the same experiences atm. This is my working environment 1. I am not ALLOWED to make any mistakes. 2.if I ask a colleague directly on msg, she puts up my msg of the screenshot on a group chat. 3. If I ask a question, she said if I can't learn and obey the rule, she is gonna tell the CEO. 4. I don't have any manager who I can rely on or ask questions. I am getting out of this otherwise I am gonna waste my life! I hope everyone can get a healthy working environment! [Including me]

I had same situation! recently last month I quit! after so much damage! omg same story ! -- if I may add "micro management "is way to tell you are "doing better" and this person is trying to stop your growth by their micro manage you. thanks so much for sharing !! I thought it was just me and I was so sad and 15:30 !🥺 what did you do next to move on though?

That's a really interesting take! I totally agree that toxic workplaces can have a huge impact on our health. It's crazy how much stress and a bad work environment can affect us. Do you think companies are starting to recognize this more, or is it still being overlooked?

I feel this so much. Leaving my current job for the reasons you list (except discrimination) and starting a new career later this month

I was denied an emergency day off because too many coworkers called out….shouldnt have been my problem but the boss made it mine. Along with a docs appointment she thought I should have been at work before….because…once again…too many coworkers called out. Again…that wasn’t my problem till she threw it at me. The gossip. The gaslighting. The constant threats. The lack of promotion for me. When I got Covid (not to make light of whose that have suffered) I was happy because I could stay home. Id rather be seriously ill….than go to my job. I’m still there. Working on other options. There’s no work/life boundaries. Group texts goes off after hours and off days.

I admire you for making that decision. My supervisor is just like yours. I’m 65 and worry about finding another job if I leave

They need to make laws in the US against workplace bullying. Here someone can literally be bullied and abused in the workplace and cannot do anything about it.

Thank you for sharing this video

omg i had the same colleague who did micro managing,controlled me and gave me tasks.but i am an event manager and she is marketing manager🤦🏻‍♀️i talked to her and told her that she is doing wrong by thinking that she can control my job,but she didn't change. i was nervous and upset every time when i saw a message from her on my phone screen. she was very toxic and she made me to quit.i did it today , because she wrote me today,ruined my Saturday by checking mu job.i was shaking from anger and i decided that i am done.

This was my last job I needed up getting a new one but it’s not a good fit either so I will be giving my notice tomorrow. 😮

Lizzie, Here's my situation. I am also stressed out. I needed to request a transfer. I could not handle the site anymore. Waiting for my boss to find me a new site. I had to leave the lawfirm account. Too much drama, too much politics. Putting a dead mouse inside my security blazer with an attached threatening post-it message is the straw that broke the camel's back. It is a toxic environment. I worked there for almost 2.5 years. The silent treatment became unbearable but the dead mouse and threatening note did it for me. Monday night was my last day. I am now a man without a site anxiously waiting to start working at a new location. People are really mean which is the main reason why I love to be alone. Thank God I have enough sense to save money for a rainy day. I hope to be at a site in the next few days. You say?

Omg I have a bully in my workplace now…. I’m seriously thinking of quitting but I don’t want to see him win. But my mental health is losing

I handed in my resignation on Tuesday due to micromanagement and moments of disrespect that had built up and snowballed overtime. I'm young, black, free. Cannot be controlled, cannot be subdued. And yes, I felt out of place being the only black guy so I agree with you there, but the deal breaker was an unhealthy manager who controlled any and everything that I did. Long story short, I am free now :)

So proud of you for leaving, Im going through this too, don't gaslight yourself that girl was very racist. Now I'm calling it out and making them uncomfortable and lose sleep in return

I know the people who overwork when again it is necessary but work for free just because of your image is completely stupid since nobody pays you for that. Remote job is the best solution in my opinion since the amount of toxicity is statistically much lower that at office job.

I am absolutely miserable in my line of work I am a Nurse the work load and pressure micro managing and discrimination regarding my age I now feel which I never felt before and I feel stuck as a 56 year old woman how do I start over? Where do I begin with 28 years in the field I feel stuck and miserable.

Yes girl ❤️

What type of work did you do? Thank you for your support and sharing.

For me everyone else was mexican...I felt so out of place it was awful. They also spoke Spanosh in front of me and the white residents. So uprofessional...unbelievable. yep and only one black person worked at the company.

I’m here because I want to leave my toxic job. The last four have been terrible. I’m a woman and can honestly say there needs to be a balance of males and females in the workplace because all female dominated workplaces are toxic and we left high school twenty years ago. Or so I thought!

First, I watched all your ads. Second, this was insightful

Listening from America 🇺🇸 we have the same issues with the lack of diversity in companies.

For me the biggest things are reasonable hrs and respectful coworkers/managers/bosses. If customers are annoying sometimes, or if I can’t relate to my coworkers, not ideal but I can handle that. But no matter how great the job, if I’m working 10+ hrs a day 5 days a week, ima lose my mind. And if the managers & leaders don’t have your back-throwing blame/unfair expectations, life can quickly become a hell-hole 😄

I work seven days a week, with 3 micromanaging individuals who started before me who are in hind side luciferic. I have to be on call 24 hours a day, one time I was sick and put my phone on flight mode got yelled for keeping my phone off I should always be on call.

can totally relate. Did you mean ptsd or pstd? good on you for leaving! thats inner strength.

Watched the first 5 mins and find myself relation. Only black person on my team. And we are consumed by the work. It’s just normal.

I'm the only black in our department but I don't really know why I don't give a sht

I feel bad for wanting to quit my job because i feel like people's toxic work experience is worst.But my gut feeling is tell me to quit.

I’m working at a job right now that micromanages.

What was strange to is that God always kept me away from her. I’d say hi if I saw her but I’d never go to her for anything. I can usually tell when people are toxic

I am in the exact situation and I am planning to leave in December 😢😢😢

Yes yes yes. So true. I am going through the same thing right now. Only black person and I am bullied. Toxic work place is so bad.

Thank you so much for this video. I feel understood.

I am the only Asian person in a lot of organizations I worked for. I am having a terrible time and need the strength to leave.

I feel like my current job is toxic and it is diverse. It feels very performative.

Its not skin color , its lack of respect or love. If youre the only black person _but_ everyone loves you there, then it doesnt make a difference. Respect across the board is the *determining* factor.

I quit my former “Christian” organization because one of the reasons was because I was a diversity hire (when I started in 2018, there were 3 African Americans; by the time I quit, I was the only one in my department). I was overworked, severely underpaid, and unappreciated.

Wow, this is so me. Thanks for sharing.

I’m in this exact situation