I’m a 26 year old guy who’s been lonely since basically the day I graduated high school, losing people you thought would be in your life forever is so hard to get over for me, some people handle it differently, but with personal failures, and losing friends I sank into a deep depression for over 3 years, I’m finally starting to get on with my personal life (exercising, working on my career) but still I think everyday “is it even worth it” since you know I’m so lonely, have no friends, family, or girlfriend to share experiences with anyway.

Hey girl, I'm totally with you. It doesn't help that I'm an introvert which makes it hard to keep up with new friendships. In the past year or two I moved and made two good friends...both moved away :( My old school friends I keep in touch with and I still consider them my good friends but it feels like they have other closer friends now... and I don't. It's hard and you're not alone!

Thanks for opening up on this video. Incredibly relatable. I’m turning 25 soon, and it’s quite difficult to meet people in person. If you say hi to someone in public, generally they are nice but then they begin to ask “what do you want?” Like it’s such a weird thing to try and socialize.

I just turned 21, took a long break from school, work full time and I also live alone. I feel this exact way I have for over a year now. So difficult making friends…

This hurts so bad. I did not have deep friendships in school, and now at university I feel so lonely. But thank you for providing understanding. 😥

This has really touched my heart, I completely understand how you are feeling and I can relate to everything you said. My best friends are my school friends, but they have gone to university and met new friends and I didn’t. I’ve been occupied with solo travelling until now and I can’t help but feel quite lonely recently, and I am so nostalgic looking back at pictures I just cry because I want my school life back! You are not alone and I really appreciate this video so thank you! I have just followed your insta 🥰xx

God bless you. I think that could be the root cause of 20's depression - losing friendships abruptly after school. It's such a nice thing you did here, though. Thank you.

I came to your channel looking up this topic and your video really hit home. I had to come to terms with school friends being just that when I got older. Making new friends sucks as an adult, honestly, because you don't have the time like when you were a kid. But it's nice to know I'm not the only one who's trying to figure life out. I know this video was hard to make, but thank you for making it!

I am 23 years old and very lonely. I wish i could have friends, especially during the pandemic. I tried looking everywhere for friends, but so far haven't found any.. I am having such bad luck finding people, even online. I tried looking for friends online and nobody even bothers with me. None of the meetup groups i've attended were fun at all. The people in these groups were very boring and rude. Same with other communities and platforms. I tried befriending various people whom I would be intrested in having as a friend, and all these people would do is act negatively towards me. Nobody in these groups were nice to me at all. Everybody was just so toxic, fake, and negative towards each other, so i left these communities and never went back to them. A lot of meetup groups online had the same exact kind of people, with toxic and fake ones, and not real people at all. Due to this, i am unable to find real people to connect with online, and left in the dust without a single friend in sight. I wish i could meet real people, but its seems impossible at this point. .

Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼. It’s so refreshing to hear someone else resonates with this struggle as well. Trying my best to stay positive and hopeful!

i really relate to this video and im so glad you took the time to be real and raw with your emotions. i think that you’re so right, finding friends is so difficult these days because everyone is already so content with the friends they already have. ive felt so out of place in groups that are close and plans always fall through with girls that do say they want to be friends. let’s just keep manifesting i suppose.🧡

I think personally all that happens in our lives is with a reason. Girl I’m totally with you, you aren’t lonely, you just feel lonely but that’s different than being really lonely. So my sister had been single until she was almost 29 and it was even worse because she couldn’t really find her “one and only” after several dates, but It’s cool just stay open, BELIEVE you’ll find yours you’re going to have a partner which will make you double as happy for the gap you’re experiencing/or was experiencing life is going to be much lovelier after you’ve found your partner. and I am sure you’re such a lovely woman that you’ll find your partner, even through I am a 22 year old man, and still single I can relate to you 100%. Life just has some different stages in every year or period of your life you’ll experience different kind of “problems” or even blessings, such as having a house & etc... so keep going on your video’s are awesome, your accent is lovely the Netherlands appreciates you and you’re becoming a succesful KZfaqr that’s something a lot of couples would want nowadays... 😂 anyway I’m glad I found this video thanks a lot ♥️

What a brave girl you are to talk about this. I feel in a similar weird way moving back to the UK after 3 years too. Just the other day I was talking to my other friends about weird time in life we are experiencing in our 20's! We definitely have jelled and bonded and formed a close friendship group; how lucky we are to have one another. Just know you're never alone! Very proud of you and all you have achieved you amazing strong lady. Love you forever x x x

This is honestly how I'm feeling right now. I feel like I have no one to really go to when it comes to friends. I hope one day I can finally have a friend or my friend is a dog/cat

I'm 26 years old and my story is quite similar. My life forced me to move from my home in Dubai for work and education. Like you, my best friends were (and remain) the ones I made at school and I'm still in regular touch with them, albeit online. They have their own lives, routines, and hang out among themselves often; i really miss them and feel left out. I made some more friends at university but had to move away from them as well. I'm in Germany now, I don't speak the local language and I'm at the loneliest point I've ever been. The pandemic has made things doubly difficult and I feel my spirit weakening everyday. I never really needed to learn how to make friends before and now as an adult, I don't know how. Everyone is so absorbed and content in their bubble, it seems like there just isn't any room for me. Your video helped to ease the pain. Thank you.

Hey, Charlotte, I'm glad you made this video! I'm 24 and I've struggled to make friends my whole life. I grew up as an only child so this has always been a worry of mine. I have had social anxiety and still experience this today, but, it has improved. In school, I had a best friend sadly that friendship ended when I was 19 and since then I had one other close friend when I was at University but we are no longer in contact. I regret not making more of an effort to make friends when I was younger and at University. Since leaving Uni, I have made friends through women's communities on Facebook. I am still seeking close friendships and I would prefer to meet people in person, but, I am working unsociable hours so it's difficult to find groups to join.

I got emotional when watching this no matter what your friends or people around you are doing, carry on doing your own thing and life has a funny way of sorting things out great video trust me you will be ok Xx

I hope everything’s well with you! It’s almost 2022 but still same ol’ situation with friends, have almost no close friends. But I guess that’s just how life is for some people, especially COVID has made it hard to interact with people as well, since we see a lot less people around and when we see people they’re wearing masks which makes it difficult to interact and make genuine connections. Anyways, stay happy and stay strong! Merry Christmas :) ❤️

I was always quite popular and even when I moved away to a new city I made loads of new friends in work that became my best friends. But then when the pandemic hit we all started working from home and I've basically been a loner ever since. My dog keeps me company now and she's my best friend. But I miss meeting up with people the odd time now. I've no idea how we make friends now when we never see other people physically.

Thank you for making this! It's way more difficult than one may think especially when your friends are so far away.

Aww, you're so lovely. I'm sure everything will work itself out.

Really relate to this right now, I’m 26 and my long term relationship ended fairly recently and I’ve been realising since that I lost contact with too many friends over the years so am feeling pretty lonely all of a suddenly. Working from home at my current job also makes forming any friendships there pretty difficult. Trying to make a big effort to meet new people but it’s not as easy in your 20s as it was in my teens.

believe in you,and always be you ,the best you can ever give ,peace love n light to you hun x

Hey dear! I found your video as I was searching for this topic since guess what...I am lonely and depressed! As a 29yo female that always valued friendship so much, it's very disappointing to see that things and people change as they grow older. Tbh, it makes me angry as I don't understand why it has to be like that...I mean, many people just repeat that 'life is like that' but I always thought that life is how you make it and that if you want you can still find a balance to include people in your life. I also believe it's a girls thing especially when they find a partner, whereas many boys still keep in touch with each other. I don't know what to say...but I know that it's great that you and other people have started talking about it!! We are humans and there's no need to hide our feelings, so I applaud you for that 🙏 We are brave and thoughtful, so don't stop trying to meet like-minded people..there are many like us! A big hug 🤍

Thank you for being so open and honest. I totally relate to this :(

I had many friends after graduating high school but many of them were not genuine. Now I’m here facing so much loneliness. I’m very sociable. I am proactively try to make more friends, but thing has stuck. The few friends i do have, moved away. I try to keep myself busy with school, errand, spending time with family and my boyfriend or anything. I can tell My spirit is down. I just know if it’s me, like am i the problem? I’m going to still try to be positive and look for to great things but it’s hard. I needed to vent. Thank you for making this video and allowing people like me to express themselves.

Relating! I was supposed to graduate in 2020 however due to the pandemic we all had to stay at home and I feel like that was a turning point given that it was a new decade, new possibilities and the worlds current situation, it was also a time when I became the most out of touch with my friends. 2 years on in my early 20s and still experiencing a strange level loneliness. I got a job but I work with people who are alot older and I can't relate to their life experiences. Social media makes it so much worse because you see all these people socialising and you're just stuck at home while they're on a huge expensive holiday. I have friends but they live far away. I have no brothers and sisters, my cousins never call so it makes it so much worse.

I watched your video and cried with you 🥺 because I feel the same way. Hopefully this year will bring many new happy friendships for us both.

This is one of my favourite videos 😀 you're so lovely and sweet. I love my loneliness I think that's the first step. The best thing in life are people we love, the places we've been, and unforgettable memories we've made along the way.!!

can't stop crying til last breathe... this life is tough for me:(

Hi Charlotte, I'm a new subscriber and relate so much to you! Been binging through some of your old content and just found this video. I want to give you a big squeeze, you are definitely not alone. I'm a couple of years older but have been in a very similar situation. I rented a flat by myself for several years straight after uni. Although its now been 6 years since I graduated I don't feel like I've made any new friendships. None of my friends live close by and I struggle so much to put myself out there and meet people. I moved to a new town last Sep and made a 2020 resolution to join some local social groups or fitness classes this year... Thanks corona. Anyway, thank you for sharing this and for being so honest and raw. I hope you're doing well x

Your so beautiful. Thank you for opening up. We all feel like this at one point 💕

Beautiful, so emotional listening to you xx

Just come across this video- just want to say this is a very important topic! So true everyone being at different stages

Aww I am 23 and I really try making new friends but full time work, balancing relationship with boyfriend and making new friends is hard. I will be your friend tho!!

Appreciated this. My 20s have been a massive struggle in terms of fitting in but I’ve always put that down to being a ‘little bit autistic’ Never quite found what my level is socially

I'm always lonely and depressed since graduated high school 2 years later I really want more new friends to be around me after missing my old friends so much and not even having a girlfriend but I wish someday new people the same age as me 20 years old will be my new friends throughout the church, gym, clubs, jobs and no college or university that I went one time for me but somewhere that I can meet more people that I waited so long and trying to get back on track and I will find someone who would be my new friend forever as I watched this video. Thank you.

I totally agree with you! I moves 200 miles away from home, got married, and now I'm pregnant, and covid all since 2020. Getting married still isn't like having a girls day out with your friends. I don't have many friends up here. It is lonely

Just come across this. I'm 34 and i know exactly how you feel. It's so hard these day to make friends. I think it's also because most people have their heads in their phones and making conversations is a process. Making friends takes time and people simply don't have the patience these days. I mean people go mad over a 15 second advert before a KZfaq video...😂

I think everyone who this video resignates with, i crying with you. It is so hard and am so thankful for this because I've never heard anyone talk about it and felt so weird, I am 24 and was bullied by my best friends in school so moved city and dont have friends :(

I'm just 20 years old but feel like I can relate already. I moved to another city to study, made new friends, took risks and gained great oppurtunities and learned a lot. Now I moved back to my parents place and I feel so out of place. It feels like nothing has changed here, but I have. I still have a lot of friends here, but I feel like the friendsips don't work anymore, because I've changed too much. They still work at the same place and stopped with school. In the meantime I worked at 7 different places and now I'm starting the end phase of my study. It is so hard to connect with them.

I just stumbled upon your video. I feel the same. I'm a 29 year old female and I feel so depressed and lonely. I have tried to make irl friends and it never worked out so I've tried for years to find online friends and I keep getting ghosted before the 2nd day. They don't give me a chance and it's really hurtful. I only talk to two people but their almost always busy and I understand. Being older is so hard and feels like such an awkward stage in my life. I can really relate to all you said. If you ever wanna talk I'm just a DM away, hugs💜

Love you Char ♥️ x x x

I WOULD LOVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND CHARLOTTE !!! 💗💗💗 I'm also longing that authentic friendship bond with others #FeelingLonelySucks #DepressionIsReal #AdultingSucksSometimes

I’m 22, I moved away for 2 and a half years and when I moved back we went into a 6 month lockdown and now that we are finally out, I have realised that I lost all of my old friendships. I don’t have any friends, not even 1. The area that I live in is in their own bubble so it’s impossible to find new friends, I’m just so stuck on where to start

thank you

thanks for your share hon, that was lovely

my girlfriend and I are so lonely. We have each other and it's great but we have no friends. There is no sense of camaraderie or that ego boost you get only from your friends. We both are struggling right now we have each other but its rough not to have friends only because my gf doesnt like everything I do and vice versa so you just miss out on those conversations that youd get from your friend groups.

Nice of you to share.

I lost most of my friends right after high school, and now I moved to another country and I'm 100% alone and it sucks. I have my dream job and I love the city that I live in, but I have literally no one to share my life with, and if I'm being honest, I don't see the point on following my dreams if that means being alone forever.

i am lucky to have a good group of friends BUT I rarely ever get to see them. i try to be conscious that most people are working full time and have chores/boyfriends/hobbies/ things to do. so I try not to bug them. but its so hard because all I want to do is see them and have fun, but I'm trying to get used to the idea that maybe this is just what adult life is like.

I never had many friends. I had 3 in high school, and they didn’t like each other. I always hung out with them one by one. I moved over the summer between 11 and 12th grade. I kept real good friends with my one best friend. 2 years ago he got into a relationship. Now we are like strangers. It’s so sad. I keep thinking about him today. I look at our old texts, which is easy to scroll to, because we barely talk now. Looking at the old messages it made me realize we are not close at all anymore. I made 0 new friends in the new state I moved to. I tried to in college, and my jobs, the friendships never held. I’ll be 25 in a couple months with no friends. It’s so sad and lonely. This is supposed to be the prime of our friendships, and I have no one to experience that with.

Nice one

I’ll support you. I’ve subbed :).

I’m a guy and I can relate to you a lot. Not all guys have that huge circle of friends. Honestly until you said that, I thought that was more of a girl thing. Probably just a personal thing. Loved the video :) I’m also 26 (I guess you’re 29 now, how are things going?) and getting through the same exact boat. We got this!

I love meeting new people and in same situation I bought my flat back in 2014 I love alone time but my universal friend now lives in Malta so I go every year 10 days a time for vacations im 32 and you definitely have to work harder to make new friends/snap out of routine. Why don't you come play fifa or watch netflix,also got ice cream here Charlotte👍

This honestly was helpful. I'm turning 21 and don't really have new friends besides the ones I mad win high school. I stayed in community College instead of going out of the city for university and I feel like I missed out making friends when I transferred to a 4 year university for my bachelor's. I'm an introvert and I just can't deal with the fake small talk in the beginning of meeting new people so it's hard for me to find and make new friends.

Lonely since birth followed with abuse bullying etc

My city shut everything down still cuz covid, I mainly use discord 💀

Hello everyone I just want make a friend I'm 27 years of age I don't have your friend what I love I love my work and I love to write I love music little but I want to free that can chat with only

Hi every one I am very pleased to listen your info. Introduce me to many friends. I am friendly and reliable.

Hello Jessica I am happy if I can make friend with you. You are amazing and beautiful.

having no friends and being an only child is even harder and more lonely.. ❤️‍🩹