She’s obviously dealing with a lot of emotional pain, which doesn’t heal like physical pain does.

She did

That's all I could focus on. Poor baby

And the judge with her slick comments ugh 😑 let her talk pls

@@GangstaBoo7 I actually think she gave her tough love. She said 2 main things I think she tried teaching her. People will test her for the rest of her life, she needs to be able to react in a way that doesn’t affect you negatively. And also the fact about planning better and thinking things thoroughly. How will I get there ? How will I get back? Do I have money? Time? Etc etc. I felt bad for her the whole time but she’s soon to be a mom she needs this.

Love that expression "grow up with a Dad who isn't a Father...excellent comment.

Right! I had to stop watching for a moment because I got emotional.

I feel your pain dear… I’m so sorry for the disrespect he put you through. Hoping you can work though your rough past. Best of wishes to you 😢

My heart goes out to her because my father was the greatest man to me because he would pick up or drop off myself and my friends he is deceased and i still miss him.

That's exactly what she was trying to do she was manipulative she thinks that if she said he was antagonizing her that it's okay that she destroyed property and people actually allow her to get away with that because they feel sorry for her instead of correcting her and actually doing her good by exactly what the judge did making her pay holding her accountable that's how she learns that's how she grows

Yes.

Amen amen amen!

And this is the problem in the black community too many black fathers are not stepping up and taking care of their family but we're quick to blame white people for everything

Easy enough to say, but do you really think someone who can’t afford an Uber, can afford therapy? That’s the sad part

@@alexrydercarter The government will help with free counseling, and churches/community centers can help with free counseling and therapy. Just have to research and ask for help.

Yeeesssss all of this!

Love this❤️❤️❤️

Very insightful and so well put.

I agree. Well said

Very well said.

So that excuses what she did to that woman’s car? That woman had nothing to do with their relationship.

No excuse at all for what she did to her car. She should be in control of her actions and behavior if she's not she was not taught well and that's on her mother. She actually thinks it's okay to vandalize property because her feelings were hurt. Even if he was the person she says and he isn't and I know that because he picked her up at Walmart but even if he was still doesn't give her a right to vandalize the car. What is going on in our country that makes people think this is an okay thing to do

If he is that abusive why is she calling him for a lift? He drops everything to go and get her and she throws a tantrum when he isn’t fast enough

@@jaynehogue2459pom

No one said she was lying…

Or she could just like older men.

@@letsjustdirtbikenoooo I would white guys look much older for their age im always stunned when they say their 25 and I’m thinking their going on 34

No shit. Classic daddy issues

@@sheenaperez1882 bitch, she’s 20. Older men is not a normal preference at that age. It’s something deeper there and it’s CLEARLY her daddy issues

​@@grassfedcharlieAnd that says more about the father than her. Why we blame ppl because of their parents is beyond asinine.

I feel for the child she’s having ! She used their past as an excuse for her bad behavior. She’s dead ass wrong ! Why couldn’t her baby father Uber her ? Foh

That's ridiculous. She is immature and selfish and now she is going to raise a child with that same stupidity.

No way. Did you forget the point where she destroyed someone else's car because she was mad at her dad? Did you miss the point where she got out of the vehicle and went into the store to confront and argue with him? Did you forget the point where she decided to go and get groceries before work, and then once the blame her dad and get angry at him because she dropped the ball on her responsibilities? I don't feel bad for her at all. How old is that woman? Did you catch that? How old is she?

And this is the problem when it comes to the black community black fathers are not stepping it up like they should we blame white people for our problems

Oh yeah, she's not responsible for anything. It's deadbeat daddy's fault and maybe the pregnancy as well.

My thoughts exactly. Especially now that she's pregnant.

While pregnant

Yes, she held it together as much as she could!

This isn’t hard for me to watch. She should’ve found another way, planned better or not went to the store.

She's so young I understand as she grows older I hope she learns how childhood affects adult hood so she doesn't repeat the cycle of violence with her own children. my heart goes out to her and her healing from her traumatic childhood

True... But at the same time, it's not a therapy session so it's not her job to discuss her traumas with her but to offer a logical solution for the case that is happening in the PRESENT moment

Nah she choose to be destructive to the vehicle. She is at fault 100%. She is an adult and didnt have to call the dad.

Yet she still called him for a ride....not her mom....not her "baby daddy"....she needs to take accountability.

The biggest problem between parents and kids is perception. She says he never did anything. Could he not done enough instead. Hey dad can you buy these Jordan’s? Sorry I can only afford these adidas. If he never done anything why would she feel comfortable asking for a random ride. Whatever short comings he may have had as a provider or father she expects him to make up for it the rest of his life. Grow up “young lady”!

I mean I had a very rough childhood with a similar story to her fathers but I think my dad was worse and he was in and out of jail and he was extremely abusive. The difference is me at 20 years old I definitely know someone who has a car and if I normally take the bus I’m going to make sure I can take the bus back and I would never call my father especially for a favor if I hate him. And the other thing is she has to have money because she gets TANF. I just don’t think she’s the most educated with what she saying about how she doesn’t have money or really a job and she’s eight months pregnant and her baby daddy doesn’t really do anything and then she has to ask her abusive father for favors because she decided that she wanted too many groceries and couldn’t take the bus. I don’t understand how she lives with her mother and they don’t know anyone with a car except the father. Also if I have a job like babysitting and I know I need to get home by a certain time I’m going to make sure I get home at a certain time not do what I want and hope that it works out. I’m telling you this situation has more problems of a lack of education or common sense

Yes and why didn't the judge press her on that. That was a lie to start. But the defendant is holding a lot of pain 😣

@@patsajak7809 TBH, it was irrelevant to the case. The defendant clearly vandalized the car. It was open and shut case.

@@MelancholicAwesomnes TBH preying into the young lady past was irrelevant but there it went. My point is since it went there let's ask why not be truthful about the relationship no one cares but since we are being are being noisy. 👂

@@patsajak7809 The defendant volunteered her past with her father as a part of her defense. I'm not saying that they weren't in a relationship they clearly were (unless this lady is just buying cars for all of her friends to use) but there was no point in the judge to question that seriously because ultimately it had no bearing on the case.

@@MelancholicAwesomnes you're right

I also hated the plantiffs attitude. No spite, but she wanted to teach her a lesson. Ugh. Women like that give me a headache. If you're not her momma, there's no "lesson" you need to teach her. Especially if she was involved with the dad. 🤦‍♀️ I've lived with narcissistic men before, and I stood up to them when the folks I loved couldn't.

FACTS

@@OfficiallyKateandFree the girl messed up her car. Would you not be upset as well?

The judge said nothing about her lying

@@boujaydon6718 It wasn't irrelevant to the case.

I would NEVER forgive someone who molested me, then on top of that try to form a relationship with them? You sound as though you still don't love YOURSELF.

@@Childfree334 it’s not your place to comment on someone who is trying to heal. Your condescending comment is hurtful and not helpful.

@@Childfree334 Wtf is wrong with you?

My father did the same thing to me and I left home at 15 because I couldn’t deal with the abuse now I’m 23 and he has tried to reach out it’s very hard to forget the things that have happened to me So you can’t judge

​@@shrutefarms4741Absolutely

She playing u with that act😂

Why not just have the person that you are babysitting for pick you up, simple solution⁉️

I feel bad for the defendant having a bad relationship with her dad but that’s no excuse for her trashing the car especially using government money to do it, If I heard her correctly she used WIC to pay for her groceries, WIC is a government program.

@@krullfamily5 her utilizing WIC has NOTHING to do with this. Her NEED for government assistance has nothing to do with. Maybe if she had a decent upbringing and father, even now, she wouldn’t NEED government assistance… see how that works. Taking in information given it wouldn’t be surprising if that father was on government assistance to this day and the children he has neglected are too. As a taxpayer I think most would be OK with destructing his property for being such a deadbeat jerk of a person. I’ll throw an extra five dollars for that because he should be in jail for creating such disasters for his offspring and the rest of the community. This young girl needs someone to lean on. She does NOT need more freaking criticism. I was on WIC once too. Helped me and my daughter get and stay on our feet as we freed ourselves from a rotten situation with rotten adults. The program is to help. And that’s what it did. I hope nothing but the best for this young lady. Please move on, heal and be happy. She deserves THAT.

I'm not saying that she isn't an abused child and I ,also, an abused child have all the sympathy in the world for her I do. That still does not give her license to vandalize someone else's property. Just because I've been abused doesn't give me the reason to destroy someone else's property or hurt them.

They’re…..not their.

But she’s 20 a young adult and not a child. She is grown

@@ChuChan009 yes, she’s 20. But let’s be honest, do you think she’s had the best role models. It’s not just about her, it’s also about what she’s been taught. What’s she’s witnessed as the norm during her upbringing. Those factors will affect how you mature. She’s still very much a kid.

@@kellyannr4171 the way you worded your original response confused me. Yes people can get emotionally stunted from trauma

@@kellyannr4171 Depends on the person, I didn’t have great parents but it matured me in many ways because I had to grow up fast because I was forced to by being put in situations I had no control over.

Morally the father should’ve paid for the car detailing

@@Nevaeh1 How do you figure morally the father is responsible? How much of her story do you believe?

@@Nevaeh1 not even morally .. she could've come after him for the money as he was responsible for the care of the care. Im very inclined to believe she asked him for the money and he cursed her out and told her to get it from the daughter.

@@mexicanspec he was responsible for returning the vehicle in the condition in which he got it. Ex. If he had a accident. Doesn't even matter if it wasn't his fault he is still responsible.. she let can sue him for the money or sue the person responsible. No way im dating a guy and he returns my car this way and he refuses to pay for it? I'm sueing him

@@TheZogie OK, but if he had an accident, the person that caused the accident would be responsible for the damage done. The court would not have ruled in your favor in that case. The person that causes the damage is liable for the payment.

Right. Old man. With this young girl, he should’ve been there to help her.

He’s one of these old men that want young fertile women.. he looks like her father and got her out her carrying groceries pregnant. Young women don’t fall for it. Live your life get you a career don’t let these old men trap you and control you

@@tjneverdefeated4394 He was in a different state as she stated. I hope they're both in the same state together.

Cuz he was definitely over 30 😒 Poor gal.

@@jennross6466 cool but as a grown ass man he could’ve wired his unborn child’s mother some money to make sure she’s good. He even could’ve ordered an Uber for her

I definitely agree ! Very pathetic! I always call Uber but didn’t have it at the moment so the bus was my ride back ….I called my “father” hoping he can make things easier this one time .I have a real savings account that’s full of money from my two jobs I worked my whole pregnancy.I could of transfered the money but it takes hours to reach my bank . It was a bad day bad planning as she said, I was hungry ash... I expected everything else from the judge besides her rudeness.lessened learned 🤷‍♀️

@@nicki9185 some of us truly understand. I hope things are going well for you and your baby.

@@nicki9185i can’t stand when people compare bc you don’t know

Considering I've been riding with Lyft and Uber for over 5 years, I didn't know this was a feature

He looks 109 years.. smh.. she may have engaged in a relationship with a version of her father.

@@TheZogie I said the SAME thing! I thought he was her dad at 1st

@@Bih1stOfAll its annoying me.. that neither the father who should of just gave his girlfriend the money , nor the new baby father who is probably the same age as her daddy had 278 to just pay for the detailing... smh

Not so sure. I think his presence is enough. She's an adult, she damaged the property, she's only one who's in the hot seat. Even he knows she's was stupid and childish to do that. Probably told her so. But he did show up to show his support when he didn't actually need to be there. also he hasn't dumped her yet, that has to count for something.

Exactly smh married her Father

Yep - I have a broken relationship with my parents. I left home at 18 and have always used the bus for grocery shopping. I am now 51 and have never had to defend myself in court against my parents or their life partners.

Yeah she is out of touch

You buy what you can carry to avoid dad is all

NOPE. She shouldn't have put herself in that position, namely open legs and dead ass brain.

You are right. The judge gave her the greatest gift - real-life advice. It’s clear the defendant doesn’t understand how to maneuver through life wisely. Your focus should have been on work, not shopping. If your father is unreliable and aggressive, don’t look to him for support. She is going to be raising a baby soon. I fear these mistakes will continue to the next generation. (Father living in a different state than she does is not a good start for her or the baby.)

And her baby’s father should make sure she has the things she needs to feed their growing child. Children raising children!

@@TheAray6 I point less blame at whoever the father is because as women we make the conscious decision to accept whatever outcome when we open our legs and if we don't take any measures to prevent it (Plan B, birth control, condoms, whatever) then that's just poor decision-making on us. Going out and letting some horny knucklehead dude get her pregnant when she can't even afford to take care of herself is not the guy's fault unless it was rape. I just find it sad that alot of these young girls nowadays seem to feel like becoming a mother is some type of first right of adulthood or something smh.

Exactly and bad attitude. Just cause someone make you mad doesn’t excuse bad behavior.

Things can change for her... just like you can have it today and it be gone tomorrow. Also, it's not just the young girl, seem like the dad don't have much to offer either.

​@@sheenaperez1882 I point less blame at whoever the father is because as women we make the conscious decision to accept whatever outcome when we open our legs and if we don't take any measures to prevent it (Plan B, birth control, condoms, whatever) then that's just poor decision-making on us. Going out and letting some horny knucklehead dude get her pregnant when she can't even afford to take care of herself is not the guy's fault unless it was rape. I just find it sad that alot of these young girls nowadays seem to feel like becoming a mother is some type of first right of adulthood or something smh.

Me also!!!!

Unfortunately for some people when you haven’t lived that lifestyle you don’t know how to gain empathy for those who have struggling relationships. I pray this young lady finding healing and understanding

@@kerrywhite5253 and normally I agree with MM. She's tough and we have a lot of people that live in thr excuse world which does nothing for them in the long run but I would have at least been a little gentle and compassionate to her that although the law is the law, I understand her, I hear her, and she could have used some words of encouragement to let that young lady hear some positive things about herself before she goes into motherhood! I just expected her to use that as a learning opportunity for some good!

You are assuming that she is telling the truth. I know from experience that these women lie about this all the time. She is your typical black woman, angry, vindictive, lacks accountability, pregnant for a man who lives in another state etc etc. I bet everything that she will end up a single mum. Guys; nearly all there women are like this; it you deal with them; you will get this behaviour everyday. Just leave the plantation.

Agree, she’s(JM) been turning me off lately.

Ikr !! His old butt.

She did tell the judge the baby father lived in a different state

@@ImWorthy4Real he could’ve cash apped her, venmo, wore her money, send her an Uber/lyft. If he wanted to, he would’ve.

Your point? I’m embarrassed as to HOW is that ALL U TOOK FROM THE ENTIRE CASE???

@@KatrinaMartinezStoutmireDamn, calm down.

As a man who sees this ratchet behaviour all the time; I am getting tired of the excuses and the passes women get. All the women are say; oh she she has a bad relationship with her father and needs healing; but what a man sees, is a woman who has money to spend on her hair, but has no money to pay for a ride, another 20 year old who is pregnant and unmarried, and on the way to becoming a single mother. A woman who shows no remorse, a lack of respect for other people's property, is angry, vindictive, lacks accountability and this is what black men are expected to out up with. We have normalize ratchet behaviour in our community; no thank you. I hope all you women who are giving her a pass; can also give the dad a pass; because he is who he is because he was poorly brought up by a single mother. I see this behaviour in black women regardless if they are educated or not; and yes; 95% of the black women I know are single or single mothers because no man can cope with them. It might not be a problem when you are young, but when you get older; none of these dogooder women who encouraged your ratchet behaviour will be there to help you. I sometimes get calls from the old, single women who were unable to hold down a man; some are having financial probkems, some are having problems with neighbors etc; I refuse to help them because these are the women who claim that they did not need a man or refused to cooperate with a man; do I don't get involved in their business. In fact I try not to deal with them at all

@Anon_E_Mouse : Women are the only ones who can prevent themselves from getting pregnant. They have 30+ forms of birth control. they choose the man to have unprotected sex with, they can take the morning after pill, they can abstain altogether blah, blah. All I can say is this; I have taken responsibility; I know very few black women whom are in long term, meaningful, loving respectful relationships. so I have taken a leaf out of your book; I prefer not to deal with them at all. They are all single mothers, single women, overweight, have bad attitudes and all seem to be wearing weaves or have a stupid wig on their heads. One this I have learnt over the years; nothing is ever a black woman's fault. Somehow they will find a man to blame for everything.

I wish there was a little more sympathy for her here. She understands what she did she just flewoff the handle which happens to everyone from time to time.,...... Can we at least cut out the snickering and eye rolling? Wow.

@@gkh2515 : why? She is your typical black women. Can't have an argument without keying a man's car, bleaching his clothes, breaking his car window or preventing the guy from seeing his kids. I have seen them do this many times and have experienced it myself. As a result, I no longer engage with black women; neither do many of my friends. And of course; she will be understood by all the other black women who have done it themselves. So when we decide to disengage and leave the plantation for better women; the same women who abuse us and damage our property call us trash and weak. Well; so be it. They never brought much to the table in the first place. Someone who brings a lot if debt, other men's children, obesity, a very bad attitude and chaos to the table, should know that they can be replaced at any time. I am pleased that black men are getting their passports and leaving. In good times, 80% of black women are single. In the future, all that will be left are Chads and Tyrones. Good luck with that.

@@gkh2515 : and the funny thing is that the men might not even be her father. I have seen these women kicking up dust and calling the man a deadbeat; but when the man gets a paternity test; it is not even his kid. This is the sh** that black men have to put up with on a regular basis

Everything you said is true and facts , same with me . Father emotionally unavailable and I’ve always dated older. Things like this does affect a woman and how she handles intimate relationships.

Judge Mathis is not better when people are fully in the wrong he lets them have it, so she might have got it even worse with him... Judge milian was sympathetic at the very end when she awarded the plaintiff the money you can tell that she was hurt for the young woman but she had to do what she had to do because it's right... Honestly I think the defendant full of shit...

Life is precious.

She wasnt harsh. She was straight with her. She needed to hear that. Aint no babying around here foh. The girl was wrong. Straight up. I would of been much more harder on her if i were the judge. I think the judge was fairly firmed.

@@mannygomez5213Exactly. She’s having a child of her own for goodness sake. She’s immature and reacted the way kids do. It’s time to grow up and regardless of how annoyed people make you, you cannot react that way.

@@mannygomez5213 Um no. Fuck that shit. You don’t scream at a trauma victim who’s been abused their entire lives. Stop making excuses.

🙂 and you have people thinking she would have did better if she went to Judge Mathis as well, he is not better when people are fully in the wrong he lets them have it, so she might have got it even worse with him... Judge milian was sympathetic at the very end when she awarded the plaintiff the money you can tell that she was hurt for the young woman but she had to do what she had to do because it's right... Honestly I think the defendant full of shit...lol

Yeah, that’s why judge Judy is a joke and half of her rulings are immediately overturned. Newsflash: having no empathy for AN ABUSE VICTIM just makes you a piece of shit.

I agree, if you're going to pry at least show some compassion to the young lady. This was sad and she seemed so alone. I pray she gets the support she needs

What do you know??nothing.

@@janellewilliams7908 you must be sleeping with her cause you too emotionally attached get done help . I know a lot

@@smoothwill obviously not bc it made you mad when your knowledge was questioned. you don’t know these people personally and you’re judging a 20 y/o seek help

@@joshlynguzman8369 go kick rocks ya dig

literally!!! they said “being annoying” like he wasn’t full on abusive

Every action has consequences! Judges are supposed to be unemotional and unbiased. He wasn't holding her against her will or harming her so her excuse was illegal!

Emotions don't have any bearing, only thing that matters is did she damage the car.

@@Black_and_Green she’s clearly not fucking unbiased when she’s SCREAMING AT HER. Stop coping.

I agree. I think she wasn’t comprehending the history that both the defendants and plaintiffs have. The defendant said she’s known this lady to live with her father since she was young, with the dad always driving her car for as long as she can remember. They are for sure more than “roommates” and honestly he shoulda payed for the cheap ass detail on that car

I agree I mean normally if you loan someone a car, the person driving is responsible. She could have easily lied too like the plantiff did about her relationship to the father. The defendant coulve said she was never in the car and the man who took the car becomes responsible... I would think if she really didn't know the father that well and he borrowed the car she would sue the person she let borrow it .... But it seems she had some secret animosity towards the daughter or just plain nasty for "teaching" her a lesson... The lesson would be to stay away from toxic people and work hard to gain your own independence for you, and I don't see how she was right to teach the lesson if she lets the "ROOMMATE" DRIVE the car more than her..... Sue the person you had an agreement with .. when you loan a car out the driver is responsible... I wouldn't have taken the time out to hear the story just fix it you drove it you fix it .. the father could've then sued his daughter... But to each their own ideas I guess.

The load was so heavy …

Yes

😁I don't fully believe that stuff she said about her dad...she's full of shit and a spoiled brat... I can't believe there are actually people in the comment section that believe the dad should pay for the damage to the vehicle when he had nothing to do with it...