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My take from this conversation is; There’s nothing wrong with a woman being career oriented. A man needs to be moulded into strong man with authority and confidence. When the right woman comes into his life, she will naturally submit. She will naturally feel safe and protected. She will naturally feel at peace and loved. So the society needs to invest in raising strong willed men who will not be trumped upon and diminished.

Man this guy is our Kenyan top G 🎉 Stoic to the core

Best conversation I have seen on KZfaq this year… Do more of such Lynn. The men in this generation need to hear men who they can relate to talk about things they can relate to.

This man is telling us what reality is.....I need the book

‘You cannot negotiate genuine desire’. ~Jacob Aliet ~

Guys! Please know your mate, know who you are marrying and why. Just don't take generalization as gospel truth. Seek marriages that have lasted and you will find out, some of the things you are being fed are not the full truth. Truth sometimes is not glamorized or romanticized. If you base your whole marriage around finances and that's the only thing that counts remember money comes, money goes. Dear Lord!

“A man’s cheating doesn’t destroy a home” was a saying a heard and resented all through my growing up years in Zambia, it made me decide, I would never stay with a man who has no discipline on who and where he takes his clothes off.

I've never been treated like a queen. In fact I'm usually the one treating a man like a king and contributing the most financially, emotionally, etc. I don't know why I attract men who need help, I always wanted a man like my dad, hardworking, reliable, a great provider, protector, etc. After dealing with needy, selfish men for many years, I decided never to date again. I've been single and celibate for 14 years. I'll never look back.

He should come back and teach us how to raise the young boys so that they don't end up in this mess. I have listened to the entire conversation and its quite thought provoking and kaukweli flani hapo 😊

He is making very valuable points....My own uncle educated a certain lady and was left now turned drunkard....People will never understand some things until it hits home

This man is speaking the truth but this needs maturity to understand.

At least once in this show we have a man that speaks sense to the young men in this country. Men should guard their frame.

The last time I was this glued to the Screen was in 2007 December when watching election results. The conversation was Powerful and very interesting. I loved how he was giving supporting evidence in each case. I hope all men will get this link. Kudos LNN and Aliet

Jacob need to be protected 24/7 by the government,he's full of blessings to men in society,he says what many fear to say,we celebrate you Sir,spread the word

@ Jacob....Respecting and honoring women as equals isn't about spoiling or complimenting them-it's about recognizing their inherent worth and value in society. The era of viewing women as mere complements to men is outdated. Treating women like queens means acknowledging their autonomy, capabilities, and contributions.

Someone explain to me why men want traditional women but do not want to be traditional men. They want us to be traditional in doing chores and serving them, but still we become modern by paying part of the bills. If they are told to be 100% providers and care for a woman, they would not. So, they want a traditional wife taking on modern responsibilities, while they only stay only modern in their paying of bills.

His talking the truth if you listen very carefully to him you will understand that his talking what is absolutely right kabisa I agree with him,my gal Lynn uko juu tu Sana

We are complicating Marriage. Marriage is basically getting a life partner who is coming to make your life bearable.

He’s a living example of his father how he treated his 3 wives.

This man is making sense...just try thinking with logic not emotions and at least be above 30yrs ....you will see his point

Lynn, I appreciate your approach to interviewing individuals who may challenge conventional norms, actively engaging with them while maintaining an open mind. It’s essential to embrace diverse perspectives and discern what resonates with us. These discussions offer valuable learning opportunities. Regarding the evolution of gender dynamics, understanding historical behaviors is important, but we must acknowledge the changing times. Women today are educated and financially independent, shaping new societal norms. Rather than longing for the past, it’s crucial for men to adapt and foster successful relationships with these empowered women. Ignoring this reality is counterproductive. I agree that women are attracted to men with a sense of purpose, but balance is key. When one’s purpose consumes them, neglecting their family, relationships suffer. Treating an independent woman with respect involves investing time and building emotional connections, not just financial gestures.

He is telling bits and pieces of truth that are interspersed with lots of generalization and stereotypes but it is wise to note his ideas.

I like the way Lynn just laughs at the absurdity of some of these arguments. He has a daughter thank God. He will see.

Kindly Lynn bring Benjamin Zulu on this show

I agree 100% 50 50 has never been the way.. women want someone who is above them in everything

I feel sorry for his wife. Just imagine what will happen when she hits 40. According to him, she's not worthy. The masculine framework got him in a chokehold. When I hear men like this, I think they can't be experiencing a happy life because their concern is bondage.

You only understand him at a maturity perspective he makes sense in everything he's saying the problem with our generation they are going down on earth to please ladies and having high expectations in return

Woow im loving this man. A wife and a husband is a role. Very on point

I agree with Aliet 💯. Men need to build their masculine frame if families have to survive. The man must take leadership and give the direction that he wants his home to take. The woman is there to support.

Good conversation. Just because you consult her, it doesn't mean that it takes away from the man as a decision maker.

if men follow what this gentleman is saying ....we will reduce divorce with a very big margin....

Jacob is erudite, very articulate, grounded, and knowledgeable. I like the way he is eclectic

Amerix followers like me see a lot of sense in this man.

Excellent points that every Man needs to hear. Key Take-Aways; 1. Men should take up the burden of performance 2. Everyone should know and understand their role in a Marriage/Relationship 3. Desire cannot be negotiated 4. Women are born with Value. Men have to create their own Value and should spend their time wisely 5. If you treat her like a Queen, she'll treat you like a fan 6. A Woman should complement a man but not be his Focus Let me order the Books now @ Nuria Bookstore.

Am just 23 and I agree with this man 😊I swear......he said it all🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Lynn, the title is giving goosebumps 😂

Woman will mostly gravitate towards an alpha male who handles his business out there and also holds it down in the home. We also understand a man is a human being with real emotions and feelings so no problem if they can be vulnerable at times. Masculine and Feminine energy its like Ying and Yang very complementary to each other. There are no slave and master syndrome in that. Over the years I've become very alive to Narcissisms and Obvert Narcissism by continuous observation of people. This guest today is speaking based off of the example of having grown up in a polygamous home with three mothers and how he watched his father navigate that set up. A woman who is okay with that kind of ideology will naturally agree to his ideologies. For me its a very big NO particularly on how he downplays and even rubbishes the need to view women as equal human beings rather than tools for men to play about with. I believe as a woman know yourself the way Lynn said do the work on you and secure your bag hunny. The man you desire will come along and compliment you. And that will be one beautiful partnership. Ladies just don't settle for a man who views life from this type of Lense when you know your desire is to be with a different type. I also don't understand the bitterness that the men who are pro his ideologies choose to spew on women who disagree with this ideology. Boss, abusing or typing demeaning comments to a woman who doesn't embrace this line of thought only demonstrates your emotional immaturity. It in no way or form changes your desirability to the person you are disrespecting whom you don't even know honestly outside of a comment. Anyway, great job Lynn. I also agreed with some few nuggets from him. Most of his ideologies i don't agree with because they don't align with my value system. I'm also very weary of someone who approaches anything in life with an entitlement attitude and tries to diminish the essence of another human being based off of toxic gendered roles and expectations. Traditional Man was for Traditional woman. Don't be a modern man who marries a modern woman but desiring her to take up traditionally roles. That's hypocrisy on steroids.

I'm a woman but today this man has come out to speak for the boychild kudos.. Women we have become so demanding yet when men demand we don't do as they want. Women have forgotten to be submissive. Let the man lead.. As a man know your purpose and you will glow.. jipende Baba

MASCULINE FRAME!!...This is the key word here.4get about tall, black,,,,bla bla bla.. Been married for 25yrs and we fight like always just bcoz he wants to maintain his masculine frame and this makes me love him more😂

In a Godly marriage, it’s important for a man to maintain his manly frame while showing love and care for his wife. This means balancing assertiveness with understanding, being decisive yet empathetic. It’s also true that certain desires and core values cannot be negotiated, and it’s crucial for both partners to communicate openly and respectfully about their needs and boundaries while honoring each other’s differences. I agree with what the author says.

A man has to know he is a king for him to be confident to treat his wife as a queen. If he is not confident of the title of king, he will think of himself as a subject!!!!!!

Sincerely, I don't know how I feel about this discussion. I agree partly and disagree partly.

I had this type of a man who thinks like him and how he views women guess what i divorced him and he could not believe.

Attraction exist, love is an illusion we subject yourselves into....Attraction is real...sexual tension is real...love is not..

One of the best informative show. The other side of men has been explained and highlighted well. Keep up LNN.

Vuruteni stool I give you a sober balance advise: Human beings are human being, male, female and all…this issue of grouping women as a single entity will drive you straight to divorce or treating men as a single entity will equally drive you straight to divorce. Treat your person as they come….Women are abusive and women cheat but not all women are abusive and cheat, men are abusive and cheat but not all men…

Lynn, I thoroughly enjoyed this interview. Jacob speak a lot of hard truths 💯, has well researched arguments and holds frame the way a man should. Respect Bruv 👊🏾

I would love to read his books! Thanks for the most truthful conversation Lynn!!

Yeey Jacob Aliet unplugged is here let me take my pen and paper ready to take notes

First, I like the calmness of this guy even as he is delivering very debatable statements.

Painfull pill to swallow as a woman but I completely agree with him💯💯

This was the most uncomfortable episode to watch here on LNN. I felt like the guy was telling the men what us women are always told not to tolerate in men so I wonder if it's misleading the next generation of men. Being a boy mom I wouldn't appreciate my son consuming this guys content but again there is talk which is cheap I wanna see him and his wife in action then compare notes. I noticed everytime you asked about bringing it home and asking about his marriage particularly there was some pause🤔 anyway having said that here are my last two things I appreciate that he passed his message across very respectfully and not in a defensive way he was incharge of his emotions and before I drop the mic if this conversation was our first conversation on a date with him I would def text my friend for a fake emergency call and there wouldn't be a subsequent date. But good job Lynn for having this conversation sometimes even the hard ones need to be heard

I feel like giving Lyn a kiss Thank you for bringing a real man on the podcast Listen and be wise

The guy is really a good speaker, he has a strong command in English and incredible stream of thought.

I agree with this man on a most points, he has some insight

“In the midst of deceit, speaking the truth is a revolutionary act” Someone said. The amount of denial out there is extra.

Get Benjamin Zulu next

Unfortunately these concepts are only well understood by guys nearing thirty and those above. Younger boys have to learn the hard way.

Thanks Lynn from bringing the guest. He has actually said it all, know your role as a man. I hate men who depend a lot in their wives and this 50 50 had lead to al lot of divorces. Women love men who understands their roles.

The man's purpose is not the woman. Tell them. The more you consult the more you lose your position as a man. Man must take the lead. If a man starts asking you for money should be a great redflag. He is just saying to you, you will be the bread winner. Please women dont give your boyfriend money. He's reversing roles that you cant subject yourself to such. We women become so desperate we settle for a househusband. A weak man is a turn off and has lost his manhood. I personally cant stand that

We need more of Jacob. He has much to teach both men and women. This is insightful.

This man talks sense it requires alot of maturity to accept the truth.

I've tried so hard to be open-minded while listening to his views / ideology but I still don't agree with him! Glad my hubby treats me like a queen, I thank God daily for Him. To each their own!💃💃😊

The problem is that men have become more concerned with pleasing women at the expense of protecting and leading.

What a thought provoking, Eye opening and Refreshing conversation.🤔 Unpacked, Unplugged and Unshackled! There is definitely need for a paneled comeback of this! Good job LNN. Thank you so much for hosting Mr Jacob Aliet. 👏👌🙏

This is the first show I became attentive and listened to every bit of it. As a psychologist and a reader, I appreciate Jacob bigtime. He must have read UNPLUGGED ALPHA, THE RATIONAL MALE, THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A FUCK, 48 LAWS OF POWER. A lot of wisdom has been spewed and its an inspiration to this generation. Big up Lynn for bringing such talents to us!

Why is he contracting himself by saying that men are attracted to beauty and youth, but also saying that women shouldn't be spending all that money on things that make them look beautiful?

I now believe Men should marry at 32-36 ,after gaining capability and marry women in 22-24, before they become toxic from hurt .

I dont like reading books that are not Christian inspired but i would buy his books. Alll of them. This man need to teach the so called pastors on marriage. Very very insightful. You can fix many marriages.

This man trully learnt how to live as a man and how to treat women from his father. He hasn't even tried to evolve and still lives with his father's generation mind-set. I will always remind any parent who cares to listern that, IT IS NOT SO MUCH WHAT WE TELL OUR CHILDREN TO DO. IT IS RATHER WHAT THEY OBSERVE FROM US. Simple

These generalizations don't make sense. Toxic masculinity exists, and that's why when women are too submissive men think they're stupid and loh and behold, they begin hunting. Times are changing and so are we, both men and women are working and women do double fulltime jobs caring for their children. Treat your woman not necessarily like a queen but with love and respect. Allow the woman to pursue her goals, lead but don't control, you don't own a robot. Cry when you're hurt or when she is, you're a man not a robot, even Jesus the King of the universe wept. Do dishes when you make them dirty, you didn't marry a maid- you married a wife, your rib and support system. Treat her with love.❤😊

Anytime we go out of scripture there can't be a genuine true answer.Movie's are from the enemy the king of this world and they can never give the right perspective of life.

Wooow. We need men like him in society. Talking the truth.

Leadership is about influence not command and control. This guy sees Women like children who need to be controlled or else they will take over . That just shows you how powerful men think women are . But what he fails to understand is that Men and Women are EQUAL IN VALUE BUT DIFFERENT IN PURPOSE..thank you lynn for this conversation ❤, but wueh sema kuwa triggered i honestly think this guy is a perfect example of Toxic masculinity.

Lynn this topic was long overdue. Men must never show weakness.. so insightful!!! Bring him again

My Papa treated my Mother As QUEEN ! My Dad Purposed ! You Purpose How To Treat People, Not Just Opposite Sex ! Its Beautiful When Men Humble To Be Vulnerable To Women !

This guy I love his analogy … men and women need to understand their role .. I see where we are loosing when it come to relationship

This man has dropped some hard truths!! 💯

Works perfect in my home...i clean..cook ..do dishes... laundry....and that does not make me a less man and yet i know my roll. Making dinner or helping out in the house is out care and respect.

❤only the mature ones will understand this,personally, I like it

I have to say this loud.. This man is intelligent. I love his ideologies and how he is putting out his massage. The use of words and vile amejieeka congrats to his wife

Weuh! This guy oozes knowledge, wisdom and experience. He sounds so well read, real and yes love the controversies which in actuality are practical.

I love this conversation. Lynn you are really representing the girl child very well. Much love from Uganda.

I felt like i watching Rollo Tomasi. This guy is speaking nothing but the raw truth.

This is insightful. His craft is just legit. I loved this discussion. One of the best episodes so far...

young men are very luck to access this kind of talk freely.. great talk

I dont know if I am misjudging him but no. I couldn't even finish watching. No matter how many truths he might have said,he seems to be seeing women in a certain way

The hardest pill for Aliet to swallow is he can't control all women as he wish he would. Out here every human being will do as they please however much noise you make😂😂.

1. We've had so many people giving us different theories that probably won't even work when you try to apply in your life ,Apply the theory that works in your life, people love ❤️ differently people live differently, just know the role to play as a man and just know the role to play as a woman ,Be a Man,Be a Woman.. 2. The only Problem is people don't know their roles that is what is making things so complicated we are twisting and complicating things because people don't know how to play their roles... The moment we solve that, things will start to become better,until then...✌️

THANK YOU Lynn Ngugi for an alternative view. This is my favorite episode to date. The guest is very right in his opinion. We need to hear the other side of the coin sometimes. Not every woman who comes here and plays victim is a victim. Many times, the women are very cruel and toxic women who played a part in the downfall of their relationships.

He claims that women “ have been taught” does it also mean that “ men have been taught” ama atasema now I’m seeking ‘equality’. My take ..he has no tangible content.. Ana-ji- contradict some parts. Lakini wueh.. people have diverse ways of thinking.

22.49 I'm already tired.Who will tell people that men and women are human beings and if they take time to know each other,value each other as human beings and have mutual respect ,that's it. General rules,gender roles and norms cannot and will not work anymore. There is nothing like women this,men that.Taking care of ones health is a must for all.Both men and women need to know themselves,have boundaries. And every human being has a purpose. Hizo story ni za jaba

The Expression on Lynn face tells it all 😂

The problem today is that we want to generalize everything,,we witness one case and want to conclude all the 7 + billion people operate like that...Instead of saying women cheat,,say the women I attract are unfaithful, instead of saying men are dogs,say the men I attract are untrustworthy.

The only point I agree with is that Men should focus on building their frame and purpose as men , I think if you stay true to your purpose the right person will find you .

This makes a lot of sense. l fell in love with superman and now l want Batman. l am a woman living in western europe. This man is a genius he has hit the nail on the head. Men need to be men- Boy child has become weak because of issues he has discussed. After 20 years with this one man l find it frustrating/ pathetic when he cries for stupid things- it switches me off.

I am currently reading the book, and I love it so much. Everyone, both men and women, should read Unplugged. I must also give credit to Lynn. You are a gem. Keep up.

Aki Lynn, kindly bring men who are okay with empowering women, accept career oriented women who have dreams, ambitious and understand that women have been fighting for sooo long to be heard, be regarded as human beings with their own individuality and perceptions and people with rights. I didn't watch the video, but it's caption just said enough of what I was about to listen to. Allow me to say, nobody has any obligation to say how another human being should be treated or when they should decide to marry. This is a low blow for you, as a woman too and I won't apologize for saying it.