I feel the same exact way

BESTIE SAMEEE

Two X chromosomes AHHAH

imagine your gender being your favorite thing about you lmao. That's sad

​@prehistoriccreature1800 why sad? I mean, its a part of you at the end of the day, is because you accept yourself, regardless or your sex or gender.

thise are friends that had nothing to do with being a women

This girl talking about men sound like a nazi talking about jews is insane how misandry is normal in a woman life and how a male life is far more difficult.

That's how I feel for in rare cases Men, it's there but other men it's not like that, and I can understand why this happens, I think so anyways because some men can annoy me as much as women. I'm a man, and I tend to gravitate more towards women mostly, I'm masculine but not the masculine most may know of or assume, it has doses of feminine that comes out in other ways. If there was one thing I missed was girl friend circles, and my guy friend circles they both were balanced, no toxicity really, but life is life and things change and paths go to other areas of life. It was balanced, but with the girl circles the standards were very high I felt it clouded things, like I was always held accountable to the core is how I felt, but that's people in general but I'll never forget the 1 night a problem happened, and I felt harshly judged that they saw it skewed and never took accountability for their own choices and accountability is a big thing for me but it doesn't mean I'm always serious, but I accepted it anyways because well if they can't handle it, at least I can until I find it starts being very unreasonable. I actually never saw room in general t speak about these, it ended up blaming, and blaming creates more problems. I've experienced the most extreme side of life to the best of life (I know what unsafe feels like, but I can also feel safe in those environments but myself only), most of them never knew this side of me, they probably assumed I respected women and men, just because of whatever it was in their mind and I related for some magical reason of DNA lottery, but I don't think life works all to that chance. They also probably assumed I'm very secure and confident, but it's a balancing act, a fine art. Like a human standing one feet can be very artistic and a reflection of what they are then and there. That feeling of safety and support is probably what people gravitate towards me, actually I know why but I play dumb because it gives me room to not be bound by making people happy (people don't like truth too much or being told direct that gives them a sense of responsibility), it takes breaking limits to understand people and self. I can make myself happy and safe, and it's something that bugs when place this high value and expectation on to other people who vibrate safety and support. We all have needs, and it's a reality people need to see both ways in order to understand something. I grew up with sisters who treated me because of how men treated women, like I was to blame, and its how I should feel, I never was a victim, that's the difference between someone getting up after being assaulted by violence or sexual, or staying down and crawling all their life. But to this day they don't know the full story and I think in time they realized some things, because well they speak to me now, and life shows things when one chooses to accept things individually. I still love them, but the energy they pushed on to me was unreasonable, and well at times I prided myself on this, because it's not the definition of man that makes man, or woman but spirit and their own spiritual choices. The one thing I love about one of my sisters kids, is her daughter, she saw through all the shit, and somehow still understands something at a young age, that even though we're far apart, she still finds the security in herself to reach out to me and speak freely, and that means more then I'll ever let on to people. She supports, and still see's and understands what it means to grow as a man, and I think she observed more then judging, because she learns and doesn't berate her brothers, but attempts to support and tells me rather then hides it. Which means she learned things. Hence this reply, because I understand the sacred sides to both sides, I grew up with it all, I embraced it all, but I like meeting new people also, yet I still solo life because that's where it's at the moment. My overall humor is based off all my happening in life but it's obscured by people not accepting something and taking it all personally or just laughing out of being very uncomfortable or just because it makes them happy too. Why am I here? For the same reason this and you and every other person watch these videos, it's a choice and personal interest and it's a good dose of reality checks here and there.

Same with men, with nerds, with goths, with vets. That’s the basis of the “hierarchy of needs” but being comfortable around men for men gets old and eventually they’ll want to meet people with higher reflexivity, or people who share their interests at the individual and personal level. The challenge is not looking for what’s comfortable and finding people in general that are eye level with you as an individual.

The sexes have always been quite segregated (e.g., look at all the secret societies or labour segregation). But they were increasingly pushed together in the 20th century against their wishes (e.g., being constantly exposed to each other at work, having mixed hierarchies). In reality, we don't really want to be around each other, except perhaps as couples.

100%

yes i agree which is why i think biology comes into play massively

true but also the caring for each other

@@fennew yeah ur right, but i also think a large majority, but not all, of the caring for each other involves soothing the wounds and traumas caused by being a woman and knowing that when you are with another women you’re safe

Also the constant danger your in due to cough cough the other gender

is that a book ? ❤

@@paulina4414 idk it’s just a quote that I’ve heard on tiktok recently :’))))

What does this mean?

What do you think about “masculinity controls society, but femininity controls life

Maybe cause we’re not women

Great advice!

Stfu she doesnt5even know what a women is even though she is one how she know what a man is

@@lesleyolemgbe please explain what makes you so sure of your gender

@@constipatedfrog5578I’ll answer for them. I was born with a penis. That’s how I know I’m physically a man and my gender is male. However, emotionally, spiritually, logically, etc. i have tendencies and beliefs that society would consider “masculine” and others that would be considered “feminine”. I think I have more “feminine” traits than most men. That’s just me. But society labels certain ways of being as “masculine” or “feminine” because certain tendencies are more common in men, and others are more common in women. For example in general women are more emotional and men are more action oriented. Those aren’t stereotypes, they’re empirically proven truths that stem from human evolution. Make sense? It makes me wonder why gender transformations are necessary. Not hating, genuinely curious. Why not just be yourself without feeling the need to alter your physical body? I obviously don’t understand it. Happy to hear anyone else’s POV I’ll also ask, how are you sure you’re a human? How do you know you’re alive? How do you know you’re on planet earth? Love your name btw

⁠@@spanklestorm8717well that’s the issue, is that I don’t think your reproductive organs determine your gender. That would be a bit confusing for intersex people, especially if you think gender is binary as well. And I don’t know how much you can relate to this but I’m wasian, and it was kinda shocking when I fully realized I was a whole 50% white. I have just always connected with my Asian side so much more, and if I had to pick my ethnicity on a questionnaire, I’d undoubtedly pick Asian. Anyways that was just to say that I am as much white as I am Asian, and yet that’s not how I would describe myself. I know that barely answered any of your questions (if any at all actually) but I hope you see what I was trying to say.

@@UnruleLeeGaming ridiculous thing to say to call all women victims

​@UnruleLee Gaming I'm kinda confused, why is it bad to complain about the fact that abuse is so common? How does that often mean you must be an abuser if you talk badly about abusers??

Personally I guess it's kinda like us constantly being told we're the bad guys, the misogynists, the discriminators, before we can even figure out what we are. I don't believe men get defensive about women being outspoken because it poses a threat to them, moreso it villainizes us a lot. Even though we don't have any milicious intent. Sometimes I would say it almost deprives us of the right to be outspoken about certain topics, because we are generally seen as the perpetrators of certain actions. Idk if this makes sense tho

@@kaigeselle9755 I know ur not replying to my comment but I read this and honestly I understand where ur coming from, but I think guys dont understand if a woman is expressing her frustrations with men, and she sounds frustrated, shes not frustrated necessarily with that man, but the fact that woman experience stuff so commonly and constantly. men just dont understand that yes while they may be a great guy, never hurt a woman or said anything offensive, they're still a cause of fear on the street while they're walking alone and there's a woman near. they still cause discomfort when they're staring at a gym, even if theyre only looking to applaud the strength of a girl and not to approach or cause her discomfort. this isn't because all men are bad, its because almost all woman have been given a reason to believe so many men are out to get her based on real life past experiences. woman aren't attacking individuals when explaining experiences or expressing emotions. just dont take it personally, and listen to woman and ask what would make a girl feel safe or what the right thing to do may be in a situation.

@@sarahhdaniellle that's a good point you're making. I would say a lot of men are aware of this to some degree. Idk it just kind of sucks that it almost feels like men vs women or women vs men. I guess both parties victimize themselves and villainize each other to a certain degree. This stuff kinda makes open dialogue a hard thing to accomplish. Thanks for the comment by the way. I can totally see how I came across just now.

You cant even define what a real women is stop the cap

how would you be part of the problem if you're trying to stop it from happening? or do you mean you stop yourself from acting shitty towards women?

As a dude that went through a similar situation too, it's not your fault and you not a part of the problem but rather is that some men never experience the same things that i and you did where we understand the women's perspectives because we saw those experience through our families and friends. They didn't and if they did then they would understand what was wrong with their behaviour when they were acting around their female friends and families.

Are you gay

You have been brainwashed by the feminist ideology. You need to deprogram yourself asap.

Seems like Living with only women mad you one you soyboy

i think it might be the accumulation of comments and concepts, perceptions, etc. that society (and media and all of that) has said and we have collected over time since we were kids

YESSSSS I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME. I LOVE WHEN SHE SAYS PODCAST

This idea is devisiveness dressed up as unity. Us against them. You have a victim identity.

My exact mindset, yes, totally agree

It isn't hard to divide you. You guys do it on your own.

@@user-qy6tu9ip9v lmao sure. Whatever makes you sleep at night buddy

@@chameleon28 I'm sleeping well.

That may have been the point of Feminism, at some point. Albeit in a different time. For the most part it certainly isn't at least in today's world. With due respect, it's turned into a shell of its former self. IE, flipping the dynamic completely and being overall rather.... bitter towards men. Simply out of spite and because now, such behaviour is seen as "fighting the patriarchy", or "girl bossing". Rather than being a movement/ force to work towards a genuine co existence of men and women. I'm sure someone will refer to me as a bigot or and that I locked away in a mental asylum.

I was thinking the same and there's always one scene comes to mind, scene from the beginning of the Wonder Woman when they all were living in the island which no man could find. Seems like a very peaceful and joyful life.

@@ana-nimsounds terrible. Also men and women need each other to keep the species alive so your misandrist immature fantasies are childish. Constantly belittling men is childish. Grow up. You are just as toxic as any bad man

That’s really toxic

@@georgedanielsbiz pay attention to the toxic behavior of your peers and keep clean your side of the street thank you bye

I was the same way until i unpacked a lot of my internalized misogyny and that made up for 80% of it. the rest of it is because i think men are often more relaxed/laid back in general because women are brought up to have a perfect outward imagine, always be kind and not a burden and i feel that can make up for a lot of "fakeness" among women. we dont expect men to be overly kind so we accept them being more honest with us but we expect women to be perfectly kind. it doesnt always have to be that way, some women are not people pleasers but this dynamic is what makes up most of it for me

I partly agree but personally I think the difference is that I feel unsafe around men but uncomfortable around women. Though I think that the problem I have with women is rather that I can’t fully identify with them. (I’m non-binary and even though I don’t identify with womanhood, I do somewhat identify with being feminine.) Since I’m still in school, this problem probably also stems from the fact that, apart from my friends, I can’t really choose the women I surround myself with. I just don’t really like the girls that go to my school. They’re all cishet and there’s just something so “girly” about them. It’s not the way they do or don’t come across as feminine but rather how they are so hyper if you know what I mean. Because being a group of women is so powerful, they feel this huge confident boost when it is just them in a room, which I think is also what Madeline meant. The problem is that I don’t really fit in. I do think that they’d “accept” me into their group but in order to do so, I would have to change in ways that I would never want to. This is just so different to being around men. Personally I would say that I’m scared of them (for obvious reasons) but even if I was around those who I genuinely trust I would still not feel as comfortable. Probably because I always sense this type of distance between us. Like there is just no way we could ever fully understand each other. What I love about being around men though, is that they always have this strange confidence about them. They don’t even have to be inherently confident people, they are just confident about their being. They don’t question it because being a man is not one of the first attributes that comes to mind when describing them since being a guy is just sort of seen as the norm. Thirdly I think that being around “feminine” people is the best. By feminine people I mean people with feminine energy. Those could be non-binary people with feminine energy but sometimes also women or even men. I don’t know what it is about these people, but they just don’t care about their gender or sex. There is no toxic masculinity or femininity involved, just pure human essence. I’m not sure if this is just me being biased af or not but I feel like because their energy is the purest, you can form the deepest connections with them. Anyways, idk if that made any sense

I felt the same way in my university years but then I realized two things: 1. I was a pick me and i was addicted to the validation which women couldn't give me so I felt bored hanging out with them 2. Males were behaving nicer with me than women because males always wanted to get something from me when for women there's no point to be "fake nice". I realized that when I looked how those exact males treated other girls who were overweight or already taken, it was so different from the way the treated me. Then my priorities changed, I lost interest in validation and started to seek out safety and authencity and this is when I completely stopped hanging out with males and built "women only" community around me. It improved my mental health sooo much! You probably feel more uncomfortable around women because women don't pretend, at least it was the case for me.

@@ana-nim I can actually understand what you’re saying. That does make sense. It’s good to get different perspectives from other people. I personally don’t feel comfortable around women because for me personally they seem to be more manipulative. They tend to be more rude repetitively than the men I hang out with do. Like there’s manipulation for your own benefit and then the other for the benefit off others. I’ve had women say “Just tell her to do this she usually just does it” kinda thing. They take kindness for stupidity and I’ve only started noticing it as I’ve gotten older. Ive never had a man that’s been that manipulative and controlling in my whole life. I’m a woman and I’ve never manipulated anyone or even thought off it because it’s a very selfish and disgusting thing to do. I really don’t understand why people do it. So that’s personally why I don’t like hanging around woman. 🕺

@@royalfantasy9090 i perfectly understand your point of view, the thing i dont get tho is - if these are the women you know, why do you say ALL women are like that? if you even say you yourself aren't like that

This like I call myself a lesbian bc I could never choose a man over sapphic love. Women are just elite

@@serenacappello8806 Recognise this is just my opinion but this seems quite a gendered 1 dimensional view of the world. There's 7 billion individuals in the world.

Maybe you're bi-romantic

Does the whole another level include the highest domestic abuse rates lmao

@@serenacappello8806 who built the world?

I agree although want and need are two completely different things! There are people who want men and people who need them.

Yet you call us misogynists and incels all the damn time for the dumbest of things like idk, disagreeing with a woman.

@Allah_Loves_Forgives_and_Saves you’re in the phase she described at the beginning of the vid 💕 you really should try to watch the things you say because they do affect others in real ways

Is it? When you all take those experiences and then quite literally, repeatedly say you’re afraid of men and hate them?

This has just given me such food for thought! It wasn’t until about 2018/2019 that I really began engaging in feminism and decolonisation. I would’ve been better of learning in my own space but instead I fought my mum about these things sadly. I also cut off family who were just straight up misogynists. Eventually I stopped trying to be a hero and explain myself and just kept company I knew understood and cared about these issues. But god it’s so hard to navigate!

Also put this on a t shirt: “every need I have is met by women”

@@melissamaykin6407 Every need is met by women? Roads (mostly) built by men. Most farmers are men. You would die without men.

You’d be mostly wither without the validation of the male gaze. First witness to the stand. Instagram.

Maybe sociology but most definitely not philosophy

shutup

i know she said "if i comment on this she will hate me and that it does have something to do with me personaly"... but im not here to hate or defend men....im not saying shes wrong by feeling the way she feels... it makes sense. Even as a man i can understand how someone walking behind you makes you uncomfortable. Because it even makes me feel uncomfortable.

Knowing that there's someone out there who isn't a woman but understands the quite deep and.. complicated? feeling that things like this bring us is really comforting to know :)

yeah its sad there's such an issue with men's behaviour towards women, to the point where women have to assume, rightfully, that any man they encounter could be dangerous, all in order to protect themselves. Like so many women have to live their lives taking into account of men in order to be safe, and it's sad that this issue is not taken seriously by the vast majority of men. I'm also a man but I do hope one day women can feel safe from men.

@@nojusdidziokas1591 Stop talking to girls! You’re a bad person

@@nojusdidziokas1591 Its crime stats

@@crazyrichmilfsorry to be the bearer of bad news but if someone tells you to “just agree” with someone on a topic you don’t personally understand, that’s… bad news. If they can’t explain their thoughts or give the advice you’re asking for then they are speaking purely from a place of emotion or worse, prejudice. Not logic. Always think for yourself. Trust but verify. That’ll keep you from falling prey to false ideologies or narcissism

So she can end up in therapy like this lunatic ?

Seriously. Get a life.@@B..P..

@@MattNormanFilms I do have one....calling you weirdos out is part of it.

You do you friend. Some people find Madeline's discussions worthy of a listen. You obviously don't so maybe instead of throwing judgement you let other people enjoy her rantings and move your trolling somewhere else. Those that have opinions like yours usually have the same thing in common, jealousy of someone's success. It makes me laugh that you even give a shit. Is she hurting you? Is she hurting anyone else? Nope. SO move on and find peace elsewhere. @@B..P..

@@MattNormanFilms She has mental issues and she needs helps. She needs divine intervention.

That feeling is false because as soon as you leave those women are talking about you behind your back .

The amount of hate towards men in this comment section is genuinely sickening.

Duolingoowl920, I wouldn't necessarily say misandry is what is dominating this thread, but there is definitely a lot of gender essentialism. Gender essentialism is the bane of us all.