Thanks for sharing. I think many people do the same thing.

I believe we need as society to make acts and laws against narcissists and psychopaths. We do not allow pedophiles to work with children or criminally insane prisoners. In the same manner, evil people really need to be in institutions or ought to be banned to work with people. Narcissism and psychopathy can be detected with brain scan with today's technology. So they cannot lie on psychological tests or by wearing a mask when presenting to authorities. In the same way, politicians need to go through the same screening. . Quotes: I started studying political science, and I was studying rigged elections and political violence. I did field research around the world where I met former heads of state in authoritarian regimes, accused of war crimes. When I came back to talk about this to people, some of them recognized these sort of personality traits in their bosses Is it possible that these traits are universal in power seek 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas Big Think You're basically hoping that somebody who's community service-minded will put themselves forward for that job - put garbage out, trimmed trees to your right specifications. Instead what very often happens is that people who actually like the idea of policing their neighbors, patrolling them, controlling them, those people are the ones who seek the power in those communities the most. Because for them,the power is the goal, not the means. Want power for himself 🟥 Big Think The story is how the systems of power can dictate who ends up in them. You just roll the red carpet to people who are power-hungry. There are sometimes broken systems that don't do a very effective job at screening out and blocking the Martin McFifes (abusers) of the world from ending up as your boss or as a politician or even sports coach. When those systems break down, when we roll carpet to wrong people, that's when abuse of power become more likely. 🟥 Big Think Power is something that draws in the wrong kinds of people like moths to a flame. That's why recruitment is so important. You're always going to have power-hungry people show up and try to take power. What you need to do is dilute them and block them. That's where the system design is crucial. We assume we can advertise for position and wait for right people to come. It doesn't work like that. We have to actively counteract this impulse of power-hungry people 🟥 Big Think The people who end up in power are not representative of the rest of us. They are not average, and they're not normal. Once you accept that, then you can start to counteract those problems. Self-selection bias is one of the most crucial things to understand if you want to crack the case of how to make power function better. Survivorship bias - we see only people who make it into power. We look at the wrong kinds of data, because we look only at what survived. 🟥 Big Think We need to accept that some of these biases are lurking inside our heads. We can't control them. They're the product of 10,000 of years of evolution. They're maladaptive now. They're not good for us. But only by accepting and recognizing them can we start to counteract them. Data shows these biases exist when we select leaders. 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas Big Think Fundamental point: appearances unfortunately do matter, and this means that our evaluation of leaders needs to be scrutinized heavily because we have stupid voices in our heads that are telling us information that we should not process as though it actually matters, and yet we do process as though it actually matter, based on face, height, race, gender. 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas Big Think That superficial charm blinds us to psychopaths. Ted Bundy seemed so charming, he seemed so nice. He was able to lure his victims into his car precisely because he was superficially charming. People lie and especially psychopaths who are trying to blend in as ordinary people, so they can get away with it. Psychopaths is not just somebody who is mean or immoral or a bad person. It's much deeper. 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas Big Think The dark triad and psychopathy in particular, are a neurological disorder. Your brain does not function normally. MRI scanner showed psychopaths were able to switch on empathy by choice. For the rest of us we have to make a conscious decision to down-regulate our empathy. I have to harm somebody - fire them/break up with them, and consciously try to make myself feel less bad for them. 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas Big Think Psychopaths are actually really good at mimicking a normal brain if and when they need to. This is origin of superficial charm. For small and short interactions psychopaths are very good not just at passing, but at actually making us like them more than many other people.This is why job interview is a terrible way of sorting out people it's short performance. Psychos good at making people like em 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas Big Think Rotten systems turn people worse much faster than good systems. Environment that you're in, if you're in a corrupt police department, corrupt bureaucracy, everybody around you is skirting the rules. A lot of the people around you are breaking the rules, abusing them and inflicting harm. But it's normal. It's what's done. The effect is amplified in a bad system. You have to make worse choices. 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas A lot of people were behaving badly underneath the surface. We just couldn't see it. There was no scrutiny. And indeed, when you see lots of abusive power scandals, this is exactly what's happening. Bernie Madoff was bad from the start. Investments fund was always crooked Ponzi scheme. But only when he started making so much money did people start looking into this. So it was question: was he under microscope 🟥 The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | B, Klaas

I cant deal with the stuff either. I actually freak out when having to deal with a narcissist, after being abused by a malignant narcissist who i think had both pschopathy and sociopathy. His psychologist when he was incarcerated labeled him as "detrimental to others" When you find someone so evil you think they cant possibly be human, that's the kind of monster im talking about, and i get so scared when others display any of the same qualities or behaviors. Im a borderline too. Its like i only attract Ns, but when youre raised by one you see it as normal. I want to find ppl who treat me as I treat others. Thats my rule of thumb of letting ppl into my life now. Its very lonely lol, but its safe, and i NEED that.

As bad as narcissists are, it's truly terrifying how many BPD women I see too and in my opinion and from my experiences with them (I'm in a relationship with a diagnosed BPD woman who is ruining my life) BPD people are just as toxic as narcissists if not worse especially if they aren't in treatment which most aren't. That being said, I feel for you and anyone else who is in a workplace situation with a narcissist. I believe I have a narcissistic boss right now too.

BPD is one of the "mental illnesses" that can be 100% cured. This is a fact. It takes being brutally honest with ones self, the ability to i trospext and the ability to catch yourself when it begins to happen. Then the ability to have accountability if and when it engages. You can with 100% overcome BPD with hard work. It's life changing. Start by learning how to deal with poorly behaved people instead of running away from them. This is key.

Thank you. I’m glad you found the video helpful.

Oh yeah!

I'm sorry to hear that you had a rough time, but I'm glad that my channel could provide some relief for you!

Same here, but ignore them, dont value them, they are lowly anyway

Update I walked away and it was the best feeling ever thanks for this video

My exact state but can’t walk away yet to nothing

@@mimaken4848 honestly I said a prayer before I quit, I had no job lined up but the best peace of mind. I kid you not two weeks off I begin to apply and I had the honor declining jobs Bc there was so many opportunities

Probably because there’s not much unless you have access to their boss or another trustworthy person with influence who can help you work around that person

I prayed that both of my narcissistic managers would be fired. Both were fired. I thank God for that!

Great video. I thought I was crazy. Understanding companies love these kind of people explain a lot. And it's why I couldn't make it as a District manager. I care too much about my teams as much as I care about the company. Neither can survive without each other. But, only one understands that.

​@@starrjohnson1327wish He would do that for me.

And people think that the other people will remember then when they go into retirement. As if they all will sit around table and talk about good workers in the company and who gave their best of lives into company. They won't. Any worker is easily replaceable - and we really need to consider corporate America as unsuccessful and detrimental model as it was USSR communism.

Thanks for the support.

A book? Try more encyclopedic editions. One book cannot cover all narcissistic madness and implications on normal and heathy and sane people forced to be inside it.

They careless n their narc bosses r protected.

Yes I confirm.. Any arrogant or insecure person is flagged with narcissistic

@@othmane-mezian I do not understand. Are you both telling that we need to enable toxic people and be passive and people please them and never hold them accountable?

I mean that not every toxic or arrogant person is narc@@ranc1977

That word is way better than what I call them.

People definitely overuse it. I literally thought mine was a demon, and now ppl disregard what im saying when i try to say narcissist, i have to tell them tales of torture normal ppl shouldnt hear for them to understand. I take the label narcissist very seriously though, i know every human has narcissistic traits in them. I know theres a checklist of characteristics to believe someone has anti social personality disorder, but ppl like to project their own problems on others, and sharing misinformation dilutes the truth. I had to google the things he was doing to me to find out this thing called gaslighting and narcissism, on the very few occasions i was allowed out of his sight with internet access. And i was able to read the next abuses that were going to come so it didnt hurt as bad. Still broke me practically catatonic for over 7 yrs. Theres hundreds of thousands of ppl still stuck in that broken, post narcissistic abuse victim syndrome i see in facebook groups. Domestic abuse therapy was what unbroke me, i could stop reliving the horrors and crying every. Single. Day. For hours on end. Ive gone back to tell those ppl to get DV counseling, because they r all stuck and i know how that is.

I'm so sorry for this. :(

I do not understand how economy in the West is producing narcissists? In the poor Balkans - workers do not have choice at all. If they are in toxic job - finding another job is the same as winning jack pot lottery. Nobody can leave toxic employers and this is enabling toxic atmosphere and it is the cause and result of poor countries being poor - because managers are destructive mentally ill evil people. In the West - if some organization is toxic - it is easy to find another job due to low unemployment and it is easy to start your own business or re-locate. This way, toxic mentally ill evil people in managerial positions whither and dry up - since competent people would leave them - and without competent workers - any organizational unit or business is doomed to fail over time. This means - narcissistic toxic job employers are like Ebola virus - it terminates itself too quickly in blood and pain than its ability in being spread around over massive territory like common flu or plague. It is only in poor countries where evil can thrive - since workers are basically slaves.

I hope you recover, and I hope the boss causes enough damage to be held personally accountable for their damages.

@@solar_genesis Due to pathocracy, the system is rewarding toxic people, sociopaths and narcissists and psychopaths.

It's unfortunate that you had to experience this for 22 years, but it's great that you have finally figured it out.

Otto F. Kernberg suggested that narcissistic disorders of character are foundation of most mental health problems. If we understand disturbances in narcissism we would probably find a theory of everything YT Richard Grannon & Prof. Sam Vaknin about Fantasy

@@ranc1977 childhood trauma and mal-adaptive defensive mechanisms.

@@normanleach5427 Escape attempt from pain creates more pain. We get addicted to it. Dr. Gabor Maté "I have to be strong" The core belief in having to be strong enough, characteristic of many people who develop chronic illness, is a defense. When the Body Says No - The Cost of Hidden Stress Book by Gabor Maté Many of us live, if not alone, then in emotionally inadequate relationships that do not recognize or honour our deepest needs. Isolation and stress affect many who may believe their lives are quite satisfactory. "When the Body Says No", Dr. Gabor Maté For anger to be deployed appropriately, the organism has to distinguish between threat and non-threat. If I don’t know where my own boundaries begin and end, I cannot know when something potentially dangerous is intruding on them. "When the Body Says No", Dr. Gabor Maté See that anxiety is normal response on their part to what actually happened to them. And it can be relieved and recovered if they look at its sources. YT What Causes Your Anxiety? | Dr. Gabor Mate

Power is something that draws in the wrong kinds of people like moths to a flame. That's why recruitment is so important. You're always going to have power-hungry people show up and try to take power. What you need to do is dilute them and block them. That's where the system design is crucial. We assume we can advertise for position and wait for right people to come. It doesn't work like that. We have to actively counteract this impulse of power-hungry people 🟥 Big Think

Me too! Keep watching bc it’s so spot on.

DSM is dangerous - it is misleading. For example, BPD has 4 sub-types. DSM itself is form of narcissistic abuse due to amount of false data and hence gaslighting.

Narcissism in the workplace when I was in my twenties hindered me getting the necessary job experience in the field of carpentry/cabinet-making!! Wasted 7-8 years of my life & my narcissistic father was not helpful at all!!

That sounds like a really tough situation. I hope everything works out for you with the HR meeting tomorrow.

Sound close to my story with jealous frog at work...

​​@@puabi666I have a jealous frog that works right beside me. Always keeping tabs on me. Upset if I get any praise for my hard work.

Exactly - this is my situation : ( tfs

Glad it helped!

Narcissists want to control everything on the job & dictate & micro-manage everything!! They are also bad teachers & have an attitude, "common-sense" should have taught you!!

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

You're so welcome and thank you for your kind support of the channel. It means a lot when people help support the cause of putting out honest and research based information. Thank you and be well.

I'm glad to hear that the book helped you regain some control in dealing with narcissists at work. It's always empowering to have effective tools in challenging situations.

That makes for a hard working environment

It is interesting that most you tube videos and books talk about romantic narcissistic abuse scenarios. Almost all of them disregard workplace bullying. And there is a reason for that - there is no solution to mobbing - because toxic society is built that way to support and worship psychopaths. Another reason is that no author or speaker about workplace narcissism cannot go into Crusades and every law court sessions in order to protect all of the victims and targets of narcissistic abuse.

Thank you for sharing your experience and for your kind words about the video.

It's important to focus on your goals and not let negative people bring you down.

It can be challenging when your boss prefers face-to-face meetings over emails. One suggestion could be to take detailed notes during the meeting and send a summary afterwards, just to make sure everyone is on the same page.

@@DrDanielFox Thank you for your suggestion, but he does not want this, mail would not ne read, only F2F counts for him. What a psychopath

I think it is at least 15% - 20%.

You mean the democratic business model

No

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

Good insight. Hard to grow when you can breathe.