People don’t quit jobs… they quit bosses !

I'm literally in my car taking deep breaths . I'm preparing for what might be an ambush meetings. I have secured an attorney. I have documentation. HR and the boss are both gaslighters. I'm preparing my exit plan. Please send me some positive vibes and prayers for a good resolution (if you believe in prayer). Thanks Dr. Romani . I feel seen. I going to take a power walk before the meeting.

Last night I had a work nightmare. I retired 10 years ago.

Some workplaces are simply just like dysfunctional family systems. There are golden children, scapegoats, enablers, narcissists, flying monkeys, etc. Watch out if you are doing your job well. You are a threat to many.

I'm currently working for a narcissistic boss and the entire atmosphere feels like a heavy weight on me when I'm at work. Prayer and daily Bible reading is the only thing getting me through it. I don't know what I'd do if Jesus wasn't in my corner.

The WORST boss I ever had in my 40 yr career showed up on Day 1, slammed the glass door behind her, walked into her office and kicked her metal trashcan across the room. I KNEW I WAS GOING TO HAVE TROUBLE. I was her secretary. I pulled out my notebook and pen on Day 1. I knew I had to document everything.

Narcissistic boss destroyed my 28 yr nursing career with lies when I stood up to her( I wrote to her boss about an incident that she was blaming me for, but she never spoke to the person who admitted she actually did it, not me- it wasn't even a complaint, just " this is what actually happened , just so you know"- her boss did not even acknowledge my letter),after years of her bullying me.

One boss made sure to make “friends” with the heads of competing corporations. So if his victims attempted to leave/apply he would be alerted and punish their bravery

Here's a tip about narcissistic bosses and coworkers for everyone: they do warn you, but in a very subtle way. A narcissistic boss will tell you that they had difficulty with a previous employee, and that the employee refused to work with them, or tried to avoid them, or some such thing. But that narcissistic boss will still be be polite, cooperative and agreeable while they're telling you this, so you won't notice the flashing red light. I think this warning behavior is the workplace equivalent of the romantic partner who tells you at the very beginning of a relationship that he/she is a bad person, breaks hearts, is a scumbag, etc., but because that partner is being so nice, you don't believe him. The boss is also on his/her best behavior, so when they talk about this previous employee, you'll think the employee was at fault. The fact is, that boss has just told you that she's an abuser. Narcissistic bosses also want to get chummy really quickly, like wanting to go out to eat. It'll happen within a month of meeting you, or less than a month. This also is the workplace equivalent of the romantic partner who wants to marry you within a month of meeting you. Narcissists like to rush all their relationships because they have a goal in mind. Other than that, they are incapable of relationships. You don't actually have any friends in the workplace anyway. A workplace isn't the right place to make friends.

I've definitely had a narcissistic boss or two. It's awful. I ended up quitting a job because of how badly I was treated. There was lying, gaslighting, and gossiping going on by the head boss, who was a principal!!! I documented everything! Documentation is a MUST!!!

This describes my university perfectly. If the harm of toxic workplaces is so well known, public institutions allowed to operate this way must be held to account.

OMG, thank you so much for addressing narcissism in the workplace. I have been subjected to this for years at different companies. I am excited to view this video! ❤

I have a covert narc boss. They're the worst because their superiors think they're just a hard working nice guy. I started taking screen shots of our chat for WHEN he throws me under the bus or sets me up. They triangulate and monkey-branch with overt narc coworkers that are not direct reports. They're also very friendly for long periods of time while you're in their full control. They act like they're a "company guy" trying to "save money" while manipulating and dumping an unrealistic amount of work on fewer and fewer people.

This is depressing. I’ve left toxic jobs with gaslighting narcissists and had to fight hard to get my career back, only to find I may be in another work situation with a narcissist. It seems pretty hard to get away from. Hoping and praying for a better different job. Doing what I can for now as I have to work and don’t know what else to do. It’s exhausting. 😢

Some people can't help who they actually are. Because this person has no real control outside of the job, they have to manipulate what they can. It's quite sad that instead of making things functional, they want chaos.

I worked for a manager for years who checked every box that Dr. R mentioned. It took me a long time to realize how toxic this person is, and I now see how working for a narc boss has limited my career growth. They don't train you to move into the next position. They coach you on how to be their best puppet. I see that pattern with a person that I am working with now, so it's time to go.

My boss is something else. A coworker was diagnosed with breast cancer on Halloween. And when we told her she said her Halloween plans have been ruined cause the employee with breast cancer had to leave early. And the boss cried "she ruined my plans, and that's how I feel 😪

Working in a toxic environment is like walking on broken glass with bare feet. There is absolutely no amount of bonus or severance that is worth the mental gymnastics that you have to endure in these situations. If you're in one, I would highly recommend that you get out as soon as you can. Make the plan, update your skills and exploit whatever you can from the toxic work place until you can get out. Continue to document, document, document especially if you are under contract.

Hi Dr Ramani. Where I worked my final job, before retirement, EVERY boss was a narcissist! I kid you not! I completely IGNORED them, did my job, obeyed them, of course, and down deep inside, I felt like kicking them in the ass with a POINTED shoe...

They don't have any rules, laws or filters. My ex boss expected me to read her mind and do my work according to it. She also liked and spoke to only good looking employees

Please talk about narcissistic PhD advisors. My PhD advisor blamed me, criticized me, belittled me for not being good enough, not bringing new ideas, etc. and I worked very hard for her, later at nights, weekends, holidays. She was never satisfied. She never thanked or appreciated me. She took all the credits about what was going right with the project and blamed me for everything she thought was not as good as she expected. She created a smear campaign against me among other professors. They dismissed me from the program for not having enough progress even if I had published papers. She prevented me from necessary resources that I needed to be successful. I recently found out that she has stolen my research idea and is using extensively in her research. She dismissed and belittled before my dismissal.

It's awful when the narc boss is also the owner of the business, so you have no recourse. I lived a nightmare like this for five years. Loved the job, but eventually the abuse became too much. He delighted in destroying his employees. It's been almost 30 years since I quit, and I am still scarred from what I experienced and saw in this toxic workplace. Unbelievably, he is still in business, and continually needs to find new victims to work for him because a normal person can't survive it.

These narcissistic bosses put themselves in a position where there’s very little accountability. They know how much they can get away with, stay protected and who they can use. She knew how to feed coworkers just enough information to get them on her side - faux friendly. Future faking…an expert at it. I loved my job and I was hired because of my expertise but nothing was ever followed up on and she would gladly throw you under the bus to protect herself through official sounding emails contradicting what she had said earlier. Getting nowhere! Like you say, Dr Ramani, get everything in writing including what is offered during the hiring process. Thank you!

My horrible female narc boss got up in front of an awards assembly and presented me with an award for employee of the quarter and MISPRONOUNCED my name on purpose. I was her secretary, she KNEW my name! They are EVIL!

I've got a boss who's a bit of a bully, I'm not sure he's 100% a narcissist. When he and I are driving in his vehicle he talks to me like a normal person, but when we're in front of the others on the team, he talks down to me or talks to me like I'm stupid, if I make even the most minor mistake or misstep, he amplifies it as if it were the dumbest thing in the world and tries to use it as a joke. I don't react to it, cause I know if I did that would make things escalate and I could lose my job, so it's very much a DEEP technique situation. Still waiting to hear about a great job I interviewed for in NYC, if I get it I could make enough to get out of my narcissistic family situation.

If you ever have the courage to confront your narcissistic boss about the mistreatment that they are subjecting you to, he or she will likely say something like “I’m doing this to you because I want you to be good/succeed.” Do not buy into it. A caring and compassionate supervisor would never mistreat an employee, even the worst ones. They will give ample opportunities for improvement and search for ways to address deficiencies effectively before resorting to extreme disciplinary actions. Narcissists will just gaslight you into thinking everything is okay. They will mistreat you one day and be friendly and supportive the next. Eventually, they will blindside you with a harsh disciplinary action like termination.

In my 40 year career I probably had 7 or 8 female bosses. ALL NARCISSISTS! High strung, high anxiety, pushy, indecisive bullies. None of the males were like that.

This really hit home about a previous job i had. I wondered why some coworkers would not speak up ... always thought the boss had something on them to hold them in their place. They will be in that job until the day they die because they couldn't trust the boss to give them a good reference. On my exit interview with an HR employee, I said I would never be alone in a room with the boss to limit conversations - even lunch. Very happy to have left.

Promises made by a narcissist, are like making babies. Easy to make but hell to deliver.

Doctor, like always, YOU ROCK. This can be applied to any narcissist who think they’re a boss. THANK YOU. 😊😊

Oh my Gosh. 8 years I worked for a narcissistic boss. And he was the owner. Terrible. I felt like a failure for not being able to handle it. When I finally quit, I thought it was because I was weak. In fact, I was finally educated and strong enough to leave. My cognitive dissonance- I kept projecting on him kindness. “He really can’t be that mean, that hurtful, that manipulative. No one can behave that badly. I must be misunderstanding.” Nope, he was that mean. Took me a LONG time to realize that. I like to give myself credit, if I couldn’t believe he was that bad, that’s because the good in me couldn’t fathom it.

Lies, more lies, character assassination, lies,lies. I wish I knew this sooner. Vile, malicious but put on a face of care to reel folks in b4 they strike. Thanks for addressing this. Your content is always so helpful and informative.

Such a boss once ended up pushing me to the point where I ended up on an anti-anxiety/depressant combo for years… a zombie-like state with few highs and few lows that really ended up with long term consequences that I’m still dealing with today. I can’t say this prick caused all my problems, but he certainly exacerbated them and pushed them to extremes they didn’t need to go.

Mysterious policies that I was never given a copy of or told where I could find them!

After 11 years, my supervisor arranged a meeting on the second-to-last hour of my last day and yelled at me for an hour. I apologized sincerely, despite being unsure of the reason. The meeting concluded with them wishing me good luck in my new job.

They lack integrity and if someone compliments you, they get vindictive. It is crazy - they will do things to attack you that hurt the business - as long as it harms you. You are also punished for succeeding - if they feel threatened by. your success. When you figure out that they future fake, then they start using threats instead.

A couple of them really stand out. I wish I could say they were at least particularly competent at their work, rather than seeking to compensate for inadequacies they couldn't cop to at any level. 🙄 I can't say that I've outlasted any such person, but I once did file a report that flagged an investigation. It wasn't enough to keep me at that job any longer, but I do know my supervisor was also gone soon, and good riddance to her on behalf of everyone who stayed.

I've really struggled with toxic workplaces. It has led to a lot of job turnover, and it's not easy to explain to potential employers. Some places have been so bad I had to question why I was even hired in the first place. Now that I understand narcissism better I realize that these workplaces look for employees they can control, exploit and abuse. Speaking up or even asking for HELP is stifled and frowned upon. It can have serious effects on you physically and mentally. It's terrible to have to endure abuse just to earn a paycheck.

I find myself making excuses for my boss (in my head) just to get through the work day. To some degree I'm an enabler in a toxic environment. If I stood up for myself, I would need to quit my job that day!!

The majority of people I have been working for are narcissists. And I can confidently say, it's never worth it. Usually, you are underpaid, undervalued, there is no advancement and you won't even get a good reference out of them. They do however in the beginning might give you chances nobody else would have given you. Like narcissistic directors who like to hire unknown actors, to make and break them.

The "Boss" can also be an athletic coach. Many dismiss how many kids and young adults are exposed to narcs that are flying under the radar for literally decades before they are exposed if ever.

Thank you! Workplace narcissists can cause so much anxiety too. I would love for you to do a video on narcissist co-workers. Especially in the care sectors. They're not the boss, but they think they are. They are more sophisticated than gossips because they will gossip to someone they know will spread the gossip for them, things they say aren't consistent, they make mistakes too, they twist things people say, act differently in front of the management, be more emotional, create a tense atmosphere, moan to alter the happy atmosphere, dominate conversations, rarely say anything positive. Document document document to deal with them.

Mr. Potter in the "It's a Wonderful Life" is a good example.

Most workplaces in this country😢

It could not have been said better...they don't want the responsibility, just the power. My late husband always told me what I wanted to hear and reneged. Honorable and ethical too....not... Once I realized he was an inherently unhappy person who would never be content I quit trying and focused on as many things as possible to distract me from my reality and his perceived reality. He always said no one could fire him because he knew too much and he was an attorney so....

This is the story of my life. The irony is that people are willing to take very dirt poor pay to be a "boss". So many narc people I have worked with were not really rich, but rich enough to psychologically damage me

Yup! The rules were vague, there was no formal orientation. She tried to enforce rules that were not written and then wrote the rule after the fact.

Reason why I left early and relied o. GOD TO SUPPLY my needs. It was difficult financially at first bit today, I can look back and say it was perfect timing...

Some years ago I had to go on extended sick leave for back surgery; my surgeon recommended a 6 month leave and gave me a letter to submit to HR and my boss. But since she was a super narcissist, she called me and stated she needed “more information “ about my surgery. My surgeon then gave me a second letter which included much more detail about my surgery. She THEN called his office and hounded this very busy, nationally renowned doctor even more. He screamed at her on the phone and informed her that he has admitting rights not only at the hospital where she (and I worked, as a pharmacist), but other hospitals around the city as well. He said he also knew the Chief Medical Officer well. Only then- she backed off and approved my sick leave.

Impeccable timing. Excellent content. I've preordered your new book. Its definitely not me!

Thank you so much for this insightful video. Listening to this has made me feel better today and realize it wasn't my fault. An Amazon manager fired me a few days ago. The write ups and gaslighting started happening after I wrote a complaint to someone over HR. HR would not transfer me to another warehouse. Yet my coworkers were getting transfers. My last day at Amazon was my one year anniversary. Another manager that is close to my manager came over to me and said " Congratulations, you're getting your yearly raise today." knowing that I was going to be fired at 3:00 p.m.. ( that sounds psychopathic to me) My manager told me last week they were going to transfer me. which was a lie. They had been gaslighting me for weeks. I felt so bullied when they took me to HR to tell me I had four writeups ( which I never saw) I was fired because of productivity. . . which is a LIE. I acted like I did'nt care. Guess what, I'm allowed to work at another Amazon in 90 days. I will lose my pay increases and start from the bottom if I do. In order to work for Amazon as a manager, etc., you definitely have to have little to no empathy. The company is viciously vindictive. It's one big circus. They are hiring new people everyday. The employees get angry about that. Amazon has a 126% turnover. I read on google that all this gaslighting is done by design. The idea started with Jeff Bezos's old HR employee.

They call the employees of wherever they work for “their” employees. 🙄

OMG Yes, I totally believe every boss I have had was a narcissist. Including currently. I have to be very careful to stay out of target mode.

Me: *actually raised my hand* Dr. R: "that's a lot of hands" 😂😂😂

One interesting thing about narcissistic bosses is, that they usually attract a bunch of other narcissist who thrive in that environment. Sometimes undetected, because, if the boss is bad, their mimic the roles of victims or helpers.

I made the mistake of being the truth teller.

I ended up getting duped into working for my narc parents. They treated everyone better than me to mess with my head but they treated most other employees badly as well.

Not sure if my boss was a narcissist but definitely narcissistic. She hired her kids and praised how well they did in front of everyone else, which I admit, they did work hard, but they were only seasonal and worked less than 3 months. "My kids go to college full time in the fall" she bragged, while to us regular employees she'd say "I want to see you working harder!" I then once saw her walk out of the back room and into the store. She then started dancing to the music like she was at a club. I thought it was completely inappropriate for work, but she seemed to not even notice the awkward/weird stares. If I did that, she would probably say "We don't have time for dancing, we need to sell, sell, sell!" Then a few months later I got laid off because the Christmas season was over. Her excuse was "we just have too many employees", even though I was the one that had been there the longest (except for her of course). I burst into tears because I had been there a long time and worked hard. Really hard. It just didn't seem like anything I did was ever good enough for her. She just watched me while I cried. Then she said in a smug tone, "Maybe you shouldn't work in retail. It's not your thing." She knew I couldn't say a thing to that, so, humiliated, I just got up and left.

Ha. Healthcare is FULL of these folks.

I had a narcissistic boss made me go to the office during the pandemic and didn't follow the rules by HR . Did not give a bonus while the rest of the staff got their bonus and they got ti stay home

Lack of integrity - got it in one Dr Ramani!

6 months. I could only stand this evil for about 6 months and I had to resign and I am STILL recovering and trying to find another job at the same time. Zero integrity, such a complete fraud, liar...... I witnessed it all and so did his poor clients. But he is such a smooth talker, that some just don't see this act being played out right in front of them. I witnessed him treat another manager so poorly for NO reason, and I made certain that manager knew that I had zero problems with him. He tried to set me up at the end and I saw it coming, plus had my documentation game ON POINT, in various formats all legally acceptable. The carnage these evil creeps create should have laws established against it, where they are held accountable instead of being allowed to terrorize others.

I have dealt with this for 12 years currently however I work for a great company that is actually standing beside me to fight this. The stats prove I have been under rewarded compared to the others that get the high performance rating I get all the time. I also spent ALOT of time in prayer to Jesus Christ asking for direction and protection. He has covered me. I refuse to let this boss continue. They are finally watching the boss and I praise God my Heavenly Father above. I also retire in the next 5-7 years so the boss will have to “behave” now! Prayer always works as long as your willing to do what you need to do also. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤

This is wonderful content. I just left a job where I was bullied day in and day out by my female narcissistic manager. I was so happy to leave, a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. ❤️

My narcissistic boss ruined my health more then my narc mother ever did. She literally drew me to the point of contemplating dying then going back to work and I needed a job in wake of my brother death. I have to endure mothers jab, but I can do it. She got me fired lying to the core and gas-lighting everyone in HR about my work. If there was justice and I had documents I could have sued her and company to kingdom come. Sadly, I had no idea the type of company I was walking into. She literally left me traumatized for work too. Ugh. I have PTSD from it.

Sounds exactly like my old boss. I asked him a few times for a written contract for my job but there was never any sign of it. Also it turned out he was recording all conversations in the office using the CCTV which my colleagues said were illegal, and explained his strange behaviour. I don't think my colleagues were too happy with him either after that. Other stuff happened too. The more I learn about narcissism the more it validates what I experienced in the past. I'm focusing on healing now. Thanks, DoctorRamini!

The last thing I ever asked that boss was, "What does integrity mean to you?" I never received an answer. I don't think I need one. I'm pretty sure integrity means something very specific to herself that leaves her forever absolved of responsibility for her fuck ups. Then again this is a person that conflated respect with absolute submission to authority.

I had a narcissistic office manager once and boy did she lose her s**t one time when I refused to go in on a celebration of her on Boss's Day. I explained to her that the person who signed my paycheck was my boss and she got flowers with the rest of the staff on Secretary's Day. She threw such a fit over it that the bosses sent her flowers to shut her up.

My work from hell which was real made every project an emergency priority. I worked as a Test Engineer in the R&D Laboratory so the customer wasn't domaining for these projects to be done all the same time. My supervisor wanted the lab to produce more output because he thought that metric was more important than quality of the testing. During his time as supervisor, there were so many test had to be redone because the testing was done incorrectly. I fought him on this this whole time, and I won because I never had to redo any of my tests. However, I had to redo other people's testing because the data didn't make sense. I was able to go against him because I was by the R&D Director as an expert for a product. They really needed me for that product. I was involved from the production to the design of the product. I was the person that came to for help on the product. I'm pretty sure that they ended the production of the product not long after I left.

That is super true 👍 ❤love you and you are always in my prayers and blessings ❤

I wish I had known this 15 years ago. I worked for a large insurance company which ticked all these boxes. I ended up leaving after 13 years. I left without another job but just wanted to get out with my life. The problem with organizations like this is that the toxic leader surrounds himself with others like him. It becomes a very dangerous, scary and stressful environment. Looking back I can't believe how stupid I was to allow myself to be lied to for so many years. The broken promises and opportunities being withheld despite working yourself into the ground and being a top performer. The advancement of mediocre people who pander to them. And yes...my career was destroyed. I can't agree more - you can't outlast them. They end up destroying you.

I endured a narc supervisor for 3 years in a contracted position and it's been 4 yrs at this point that I've been out. I started documenting and ended up with 20 pages, single spaced and that was at 2.5 years into the job. It was a nightmare and because i needed the job so badly, i stayed. Never had a work situation like that. She ultimately was fired because of the chaos she created. At least two people in the 12 person department had been diagnosed with work stress related depression. The whistleblower was in a junior positioand knew her days there were numbered so she went to a higher level management committee and informed them of all the chaos in the department the regular management tried to cover up. The narc was fired and told she could have no contact with the others in the department. Work became a relatively peaceful place. I am still recovering.

OMG! Wish I would have seen this years ago. My narcissistic boss love-bombed me from the beginning but no matter how many times she told me she loved me (and yes, in those words) I never repeated them back to her. And yes, she did give me signs but I didn't recognize them. She would tell me how horrible previous employees were and made me feel I was different. I'm sure she's talking about me now. I didn't document anything because I was unaware I should but when I resigned my coordinator told me to "destroy her Thanksgiving holiday" and that I should "give it to her" in an email, which I did. Her responses were all the documentation I needed. She countered my resignation and basically offered me the keys to the kingdom. Like a fool, I decided to give her a second chance and accepted her terms. The highest-ranking account manager worked with me for over 4 hours on my response. Two days later she fired me. It took her a week to even tell anyone I was gone but the senior people were already on to her.

Working 10 years in the public sector I used to face every morning a very arrogant, selfish, cocky, superficial boss. He used to intimidate all of his employees with evil ways. He was so uncultured and sneaky and he used openly to confess in front of us that he had won this position by bribery ! ! ! … So nasty and despicable was he … Apparently he was the reason for me to abandon this toxic workplace, once and for all, to regain my health and dignity away from this sucker and miserable crook for ever.

My past 3 bosses were narcissistic bullies. The 4th one might have been but I quit the FIRST TIME I saw the signs. The other 3, I didn't have that luxury (didn't have another job) and had to hang in til I got fired. I already had PTSD and it made it exponentially worse. We're talking lies, aggressive bullying, gaslighting, zero training, refusals on my most basic requests to FIX THEIR MESSES, and they just couldn't stand someone noticing the problems they were causing. "Problem solving" is just a catch phrase in the interview. I could go on and on. I just applied for disability and included my PTSD. I hope I can get accomodations to work from home at all future jobs. I've had it!

Oh yes, been in that situation where the person's problem behaviours are known about and documented and the emphasis is all about helping them.

Dr. RAMNI YOU ARE SO SMART AND CORRECT IN THIS VIDEO THANK YOU!

I am a senior employee in a big corporation and I was just all of the sudden pushed out of a job where I dealt for 2,5 years with a narcissistic manager who up to a couple of weeks ago was promising me a promotion. She manipulated people and information without any shame. This is the 3rd narcissistic person I dealt with in my last 3 jobs. Regardless of whether you document or not, they will have their way with you and convince everyone that you are the one at fault. I had plenty of proof. No one in HR was interested in looking at it. And normally one does not have the time or resources or energy to start a law suit against the big corporation that manager represents. It is so disheartening, especially because no one stands up for you.

Years ago, I had a boss who displayed sociopathic tendencies and was also a meth addict. He tried to use the "we're family" excuse to guilt me into working overtime for free. I also worked for a manager who liked to micromanage but never provided adequate training or constructive feedback even though she claimed to be committed to employee professional development and growth. If she didn't outright say she was an honorable leader with integrity, she certainly carried herself as such and made everyone who wasn't in executive roles incompetent. Sadly, some people are hired or promoted to leadership positions when they shouldn't be. Being competent at your job and making sure things get done doesn't always mean you have the soft skills to manage a team. One of my friend's filed a sexual harassment complaint to HR against her supervisor. Despite his track record of aggressive behavior which the entire company knew about, she got fired instead. A lot of these workplaces felt like closed social cliques enmeshed in a cult of personality.

You excellently described my old work venue, which sadly, was the family business run by my mom, the 'boss'.

My narcissistic ex-boss handpicked folks to occupy leadership positions if and only if these folks were beneath her own. The process of selection: she had to "like" the person, a person that would never say "no" and still feel intimidated by her. This gave her more "credibility" as how "great" of a leader she is/was...

My HoD/Supervisor/Professor used to kick my office door instead of knocking and then burst in because he knew I had anxiety. He liked to wear rubber soled shoes and appear suddenly. Thank goodness he's retired.

I'm also the Lord of the Rings fan! :) And I love the comparison with Sauron. Upon reading Tolkien's supplementary writings, I found this particular character being a remarkably accurate depiction of a grandiose narcissist. In fact, all Tolkien's villains have a good deal of traits of this or that type of narcissism, but Sauron is pure classic)) As if Tolkien had a very good perception of narcissism and its effects, even though he preferred a more poetic language for describing it...

Mediocrity rules wherever narcisists come to the power positions. They are devoid of life and slowly get rid of any life and creativity signs in anyone who is their subordinate. Narcisists are life and love and truth assassinates. Thank you so much dr Ramani 😊 God bless you ❤

I think mine is a covert…she calls us contractors but treats us like employees! And of course the finances of this business that “we’re all a part of” are dictated by her and the odds are always on her favor! Massages are $108 and I get $50…bring our own oils…she also charges way more for her “special massage” $140 per hour! All her bs of course disguised with new age positivity mumbo jumbo! She even makes us take a hit on discounts!

Yes!

Ugh just coming out of a narcissistic manger and flying monkeys co workers and narcissistic company. Very insidious and manipulative lying on a whole nother level I have never seen in life before

Triggered by this one. So thankful I've been able to retire

This is 💯 I just escaped my covert Narc boss-she was only established in November and already 6 people have resigned! Her new staff is young, with no experience (nurses) and as sweet as they are, believe ALL of her lies! I was the empath she focused all of her vitriol on…meanwhile, I’m now with an amazing University at a brand new pay level and ample room for advancement! Be inspired, my friends: get out and move up!!!

I just quit my narcissistic boss today 😊

you're the greatest at what you do Dr. Ramani. Much love!

Wow again you’re right on Dr Ramani! Listen to this woman she’s truthful! Thank you again Dr Ramani.

I knew it! I knew that a former boss was trying to turn me against other co-workers. People have thought I was talking out of my ass when I told them that she was dragging me into the drama, but I was right. I always came into work then, kept to myself, for the most part, and focused on doing my job until she embellished what people had said about me, which made me feel extremely uncomfortable while at work because I was worried that people hated me for no good reason, trying to get me fired. Thank you for validating that for me. I'm so glad I'm out of that hellhole now!

Dealing with this right now! Already applied for 6 new jobs!

I had one boss who was moreover the grandiose type than covert or self righteous ect, and he would always just annoy me to the ends of the earth. I eventually, like 1st week or less, just completely stone walled him to the best of my ability besides outside of the minimum amount i had to communicate with him.

I’ve had a raging maniac narco-boss and a few covert sneaky-slimey narco-bosses. Horrible work environments, there. I never stayed very long in those jobs.

I feel like I attract narcissists bosses. How do I break the cycle? Initially I am a golden child- but at some point I am a truth teller and eventually face the rage of the narcissist and end up leaving the organization.

I have this right now. I am home sick today from listening to this video. Everyone in my office can work from home when sick because we do not get sick pay. I got a message this morning that I either need to take PTO or unpaid leave. This changed even since last Nov when I got COVID-19, and I was allowed to work from home then. So, the policy literally changed today. I immediately went to the Dr to get a note stating that I was sick so I could cover myself legally should he choose to fire me upon my return. I am pretty well versed in this personality disorder, so I knew what I was dealing with since my second day of work, and I have been trying to get another job since. My boss does EVERYTHING that you stated in this video as you were talking about the different characters I was putting names to them. It just sucks that I can't just leave, I want to quit so badly but unfortunately I have to wait until I get a new job. It's horrible that people like this get roles that control your lifeline and there is no legal recourse or help for workers so they continue to get away with it. Wish me luck with that other job this week... I really hope this will be my escape!

I once got placed on a CAP for saying “the department looks messy”. I proceeded to clean for two hours. I was told these negative comments were not tolerated and as punishment I was told that cleaning was now part of my job. I quit soon after.

“Can we put that in writing” turns into “you’re trouble and I can’t trust you” then they or the flying monkeys will finish you off.