How To Get Your Shit Together and Take Back Control

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Talking points: gratitude, fitness, social media, mindset
If you knew me in my 20s, you would NOT have expected much of me. I was aimless, hated myself, and was not coping well at all. And I'll won't mince words, it was a long, bumpy road to where I am now.
But these 8 practices didn't just help, they radically changed my life. Seriously. This is the mini-episode for you if you're feeling stuck or frustrated with where you're at in life.
(00:00:00) - Intro and where I started
(00:07:03) - Create an internal environment of appreciation and gratitude
(00:11:31) - Use your body. Really. Use. Your. Body.
(00:16:17) - Meditate or journal every single day. One or the other
(00:21:46) - Consume better content
(00:26:30) - Replace coping mechanisms with generative habits
(00:27:59) - Work on your purpose, mission, or business every single day
(00:30:02) - Don’t know your purpose? Let your quest to find it BE the purpose
(00:32:45) - Start to socialize with more people outside your comfort zone
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@Cookedfrfrfr 6 ай бұрын

You are one of the only KZfaqrs whose self-help content is actually transformative and makes you think.

@Q12FundMDesign 5 ай бұрын

True! What other Channels do you watch?

@SemiPerfectDark 2 ай бұрын

I'm over 50. I found this video because I still don't feel like I have my shit together. This was great advice. Thank you. 🙂🙏

@Takeiteasymybrothercharles 8 ай бұрын

I’m 23 years old and I’m my own worst enemy. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Nothing I’ve done has ever felt quite good enough, and I won’t even take action to change that. I’ve been binge watching self help content for far too long to know I don’t want to continue living the life I’m living. This is the first video that really resonated with me and I’m not even fully sure why that is. I’ve never even commented on a video, but felt compelled to do so now. Just typing this makes me feel a little insane, but also a little excited that I’m actually doing something that isn’t just laying down and watching. I’m going to practice these 8 recommendations starting now. Thank you so much for your wisdom.

@bjmaynard01 6 ай бұрын

Never too late to start taking ownership of your life man. Good on you for seeing the change is needed, owning up to it is the hardest part of the fight.

@joesommer6271 6 ай бұрын

You got this bro! Each day is a new day!

@ashishbhatta5839 5 ай бұрын

How are you doing now? Still doing these practices?

@daver1161 7 ай бұрын

I went down the fresh and fit rabbit hole for the last three years. I was in a 10 year relationship and slowly I began to believe all aspects of “the red pill” which essentially is an echo chamber of talking points of disaffected men. My relationship suffered as a result as I began to look at my own significant other differently than I did before.

@merlinparache1681 8 ай бұрын

This doesn’t have enough views. I’ve been listening to a lot of your content lately. Thank you for keeping and motivating me to stay on a path I’ll be proud of when I grow old.

@ismailshamhoodh2120 3 ай бұрын

Not everyone is suppose to be on the right path. That's how our small percentage can acquire the most out of life.

@CptCoitus 6 ай бұрын

Victor Davis Hanson who has grown up working a family farm in Central California has often spoke of the benefit of combining the muscular with the mental. There's a bond that is formed that helps cement both and helps you become a fuller person.

@wesleycooper6775 6 ай бұрын

I think the consuming better content is such a game changer for me. Personally, I’ve endlessly watched just brain rot content on instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, etc. to control those aspects and consume what’s better for myself, drastically changes your life and how you see things; seriously

@fredsystra7584 10 ай бұрын

There’s so much I could say but I’ll say this Thank you.

@GregtheGrey6969 8 ай бұрын

Only 2 words needed for this wisdom.

@albaquoiqui 8 ай бұрын

This is the most underrated content on KZfaq.

@marcoantoniomejiamedina8539 28 күн бұрын

Thank you so much. I needed to know someone who knew me better or even better someone who maybe knows me better than I know myself. The brutal self talking I was doing is the key.

@ladyjei 2 ай бұрын

So many gems in this. Thank you. I totally agree that it’s very attractive to others when a man isn’t all socially awkward/avoidant and is actually capable of having convo with many kinds of people. Don’t go overboard and be a schmoozer that tells people what they want to hear, but at least read and expose yourself to a variety of life adventures so you HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT.

@lastnamefirst650 7 ай бұрын

Thanks for what you do man. I listen to a lot of your content. The world needs more creators like yourself!

@drewladner2265 10 ай бұрын

Great video! Been watching a bunch of your videos the last couple days and you are awesome!

@waylonsmith8798 8 ай бұрын

This was an incredible message so powerful, Thanks Connor!

@ClassicalLuvr 2 ай бұрын

Thank you. I’ve needed this advice for decades.

@jackcampo7666 6 ай бұрын

Hey man, just discovered your channel recently and love everything that you talk about. You are straight to the point and give great advice keep the videos coming.

@zachwillason 6 ай бұрын

This is such an amazing video man!! Thank you so much. Resonates so deeply with me right now in my life.

@vailtonbeserra9408 10 ай бұрын

I'm impressed with this so fantastic content! Congrats 👏

@CoWolArc 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for your discussion on sense of purpose. I recently had some major changes of life circumstance that left me realizing how reactive and aimless I have been. I struggled to find any long term goals or sense of purpose, but I have been putting a lot of effort into consciously choosing to improve myself. was incredibly validating to hear someone recognize that level of self improvement as being a purpose in and of itself.

@vacatedarchitecture 10 ай бұрын

Needed to hear this. Thanks, Connor

@TamashiiDoku 7 ай бұрын

I know this video doesn't have a lot of views but that's how I know it's transformative content. Thank you so much for making this! I appreciate everything that is said.

@grayire 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for all you do Connor

@logangutting 4 ай бұрын

Absolutely fantastic advice. thank you so much

@daniellatchem9304 5 ай бұрын

This all makes perfect sense to me so thank you

@SpidaMatt 5 ай бұрын

Awesome material, gonna have to rewatch do fully digest it all and start to engage

@kaizenborntowin 23 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@keithhunt5328 9 ай бұрын

Enjoyed listening to this.

@elijahjavierr0311 3 ай бұрын

Great video, thank you👏🏾

@guitarsRawesome33 2 ай бұрын

Its great to see this content. Bettering ourselves one day at a time

@Beech1900pilot 7 ай бұрын

Great video. Really made me think. Inspired me to think about the content I'm taking in mindlessly throughout the day and to revisit some of those choices. My first step, retrain the KZfaq algorithm to not recommend content which, although entertaining, is not feeding my soul. And is sometimes toxic. Next step, write down some goals with steps I can take daily to work towards them. Thanks for your content.

@FitCamera 9 ай бұрын

Came to this channel because of the Modern Wisdom podcast and I love it

@ChrisWestin 8 ай бұрын

Ditto.

@Mountain_bonker 7 ай бұрын

love the content 💯

@esully1841 2 ай бұрын

This man truly gets it and lives it...other youtubers on this subject make it only to the cul-de-sac before the goldmine.

@jaymclane4814 18 күн бұрын

Great stuff. Just bought your book!

@avi3649 Ай бұрын

“i do muay thai every week” all i needed to hear to validate every piece of advice in the video

@Zeitaluq 5 ай бұрын

Self love is important. As this is for males it is often looked over that self care and gratitude is important and not a taboo aspect.

@DJBILINGUAL 6 ай бұрын

This was amazing

@davidhunter1960 6 ай бұрын

I am commenting as requested... Good stuff

@JuanLopez-zg1ld 6 ай бұрын

Love your content, earned a sub 👍

@Woodsyhikes 8 ай бұрын

Great video!

@nichols15 6 ай бұрын

This is 🔥🔥🔥

@mhb4998 8 ай бұрын

Quality content. Thank you for putting in the time and effort to create videos such as this! 26 (GR)

@jaimedealba9195 4 ай бұрын

Great video

@DominicanLionFanRep 5 ай бұрын

Just forwarded to my teenage sons! I wish someone told me this as a teenager.

@LSDtubing 3 ай бұрын

Subscribed. Good shit right here

@dubzbanx7857 6 ай бұрын

Gm. Thank u

@kevinsmith8245 4 ай бұрын

You said "wildly..domesticated" lol.. well want to say that soeaking of decision making.. watching this content is time well spent.. i feel better about myself just tuning in. Time to put into practice

@dericflairmultiverse4952 8 ай бұрын

Come to Toronto again!

@marinhopaais426 3 ай бұрын

Without that worse period in your life you would not have reach that what you have reached today!

@tileshp3762 10 ай бұрын

Hi - I have your amazing shadow course and really loving it - Do you offer anything on inner child work?

@YouTubehndl 4 ай бұрын

On the subject of dating/RP channels a lot of them are perpetuating the bad stuff that happens in relationships by being part of the problematic behavior on the male side and not living by the principles they preach. Take for example the Whatever Podcast. If you look on their clips channel Brian called Madyson “babe” (the helmet girl) when she was getting him water. The way she was looking at him when he was talking about how he styles his hair was really sus as well. The video is called “Brian Challenges Them to REMOVE Their Makeup!” and the interesting part starts at 5:10 in that video. If there’s anything going on between Brian and Madyson (she’s married) it really makes everything Brian says about loyalty and dating principles a moot point

@akxtreme2 2 ай бұрын

David Goggins enters chat

@col1244 2 ай бұрын

Do you have a top ten book recommendation video?

@JarrettC70 5 ай бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏

@iammotanz 2 ай бұрын

I keep watching these videos but then I just freeze, feels like I'm trapped in my own mind. How to get out?

@brianclasby4945 6 ай бұрын

If only I had this advice 20 years ago . . . perhaps 30 . . .

@jonnemopola7245 3 ай бұрын

For a second I thought you were Vsauce in the thumbnail 😂

@poser_disposer 7 ай бұрын

Am i also in central AB, trippy.

@somebody7070 5 ай бұрын

I don't know why you felt this would resonate with men audience only but I'm a female and it prob applies to girls too

@christopherhilliard3681 4 ай бұрын

Some personal recommendations of good books to read. Henry David Thoreau complete works , meditations Marcus Aurelius . the book of 5 rings miyamoto musashi , the art of war sun tzu

@LorenzoMasterConnector 10 ай бұрын

Watching fresh and fit 😂😂😂 I feel personally attacked

@Stratton218 2 ай бұрын

19:30

@RomanEstradaCaldera 3 ай бұрын

I'm 31 and I'm trying to check back in after i checked out at 28....

@Khaospice10 28 күн бұрын

Same What are y doing to help ?

@RomanEstradaCaldera 17 күн бұрын

@@Khaospice10 im trying not to repeat same mistakes ive done. And I just moved out into a room. So I can find my routine..

@RoninMartialArtsOrientalMeds 5 ай бұрын

How can I communicate with you? Thank you . I'm 49 yo M . Perhaps email or schedule a small consult however it could be done. Going through some things resolved. Thank you ,be well stay safe and may I hear from you .

@gtaplayerkidsenack3429 4 ай бұрын

This the first video that litterly talk poop

@user-fk3qe6zt5k 2 күн бұрын

Sadly this video isn't suitable to listen to around children. Cursing words are totally unnecesary in this context. Dislike

@coldavenue2325 6 ай бұрын

Meditation is nonsense. Talking with yourself is insane. Instead, talk to Jesus. This way you have an upper bro who you can hand over all your worries. Men need someone you can open up to when you have no one or are not comfortable to. And faith gives your life that calmness to face the daily stress.

@trash3570 6 ай бұрын

yea talking with the “entity in the sky” is much more normal than talking to yourself 😭

@coldavenue2325 6 ай бұрын

@@trash3570 When matters are that bad that you can not get yourself out, and you call for help and find healing in gods love it is completely sane. When you build up your broken self with values from the the bible to make you a human being again it is completely sane. But when life hits you, and it will certainly at some time, where are you gonna go? Where will that place of love, hope be, if you have no faith? What is gonna pull yo out off sinking deeper and deeper in chaos? Believers have the best coping mechanism against chaos.

@samuelwnovak 6 ай бұрын

As a fellow lover of God, I encourage you to look into the large-and-continuously-growing body of legitimate psychological research about the proven benefits of meditation 🤝 of course I don’t know you or how you do it, but the way you talk with Jesus (and most acts of prayer, really) is almost certainly a form of meditation.

@jahall257 6 ай бұрын

I chat to or mediate - to think deeply about Holy Spirit and He directs my path. Thinking deep with breathing meditation is helpful but being led by God is my life. It is wonderful to have a friend in Jesus. I will die one day and go to hell or heaven I am not worried I am good friends with the judge and Jesus paid for all my stupid and gave me his perfect record, very cool.

@robertessex6833 6 ай бұрын

Whether you think you are talking to God (Jesus - Heaven etc) or not. Heaven/God/Jesus/Angels etc are ALWAYS LISTENING. The call always compels the answer. I love this channel and am grateful for everyone who is listening. More men listening to this is what is going to change yourself, your relationships and the world

@lexibaby4679 4 ай бұрын

Typical youtube fake

@JohnRhodes-lv3rg 2 ай бұрын

I left professional work to get into trades (think Office Space.). I make more money, I’m much more physically capable, and sleep like I did as a kid.