The Roommates Podcast Just watched this. Hafeez you really expounded well about self-love and self-reflection. Very well versed. Mary Jo was so honest and informative! Thanks! This recreational sex topic was soooo necessary! This type of sexual activity is causing mental illness in people. They will need to purge from these activities. Sex needs to be more sacred. 🙏🏽💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽

Why don't you guys contact Dante Nero Beige Phillip. I think his views are the most accurate on romance.

Contact email Dante Nero: beigephillip@gmail.com KZfaq channel: ManSchool 202 I'll tell him to contact you guys.

god damn she's stupid get an introdction to evolutionary psychology pls

This was deep💯 Thank you

Wow! Are you in my head?! We definitely lost the arc of actually dating!

Last night I went to a party where I met quite a few awesome girls. It was a great experience. I got two of their numbers and im so excited to see what's to come.

Amen

Quan MGTOW ong

High Frequency I gotta give it to you man you really got me good there, Holy cow!!

lol facts

only if, your not getting any pussy, then yes

Fr, its more messed up cus you know the people that promote it are mostly in same shoes, they just doing it for ego sake or as a way to heal, but go about it the wrong way.

Unless you have zero problem getting casual sex even if you don't have a job and your guy has to pay all the bills, and your social media does nothing but feed and coddle your ego with relentless support for your toxic world views. Which actually makes succeeding in things like college a lot easier, because again, everyone coddles you. So then you still get the perks and privileges that come with that as you get older.

@@noeaeon well put

100% agree. Men get shit for how they dress too. It matters how you dress regardless of sex.

Feminists in Toronto got outraged and started the whole 'Slut Walk' nonsense when a cop had the temerity to suggest to women that for the sake of safety it would be advisable to not dress like a slut.

Facts!

@@hv3115 yes & spanx if great safety gear! 🙂 I am especially disgusted by women wearing thongs in front of children! Indecent!!

Agreed. And sorry to say this but I find it really annoying how the host keeps saying over and over again “we’re NOT saying it’s right to rape someone based on how they dress, we’re NOT SAYING THAT.” Sure, it’s important to mention that, but he literally repeated it 4-5 times as if he’s scared someone will sue him. Rape is criminal. We know that! And anyone accusing the woman for dressing a certain way is a coward and scum bag. We also know that! But the issue we’re discussing isn’t rape, it’s how when women dress a certain way, it has a certain affect on the opposite sex whether they admit it or not. And I think that’s really important to discuss in this world of political correctness.

Aki Scott for women

Only when it's a guy that is above her sexual market value.

Especially for women

@@chuck1052 So true.

Im 2 min and reading comments while I listen. May I ask you men, what makes sex good for you?

Yeah, wow. That’s so messed up. Even in some relatively conservative circles, I’ve heard women in their 20’s say they don’t even want to *think* about having kids until they’re 30. It’s like-I’m not sure you know what you’re saying...

I agree. Lots of oversimplification and puss boys. Dude in the video is somewhat of a beta simp and he’s underplaying a lot of shit that women do. Definitely blue pilled

I'm a 22 y/o female, so I think its a bit easier for me because I dont have as much testosterone. But I'm a virgin. I do have times when I slip into lustful thoughts , but I just have tried to limit myself to people that share the same values as myself, that way I do not feel that pressure. And exercise, geez exercise keeps me distracted. Also prayer, prayer us key. It's a cross I have to carry as a Christian.

Yeah, I feel the same. I grew up with the mindset of waiting till marriage, and my goal solidified through high school when I saw people use sex and relationships as a meter for their own self worth. Now I'm 19 and in college. I've heard guys stay away from virgins and that kinda scares me. Is it that we don't have more experience or they don't want to bear the "burden"? Either way I've realized that whomever God has for me, he'll be willing to accept my standards that I've set for myself.

I had sex for the first time at 22. I shut off everyone who was peer pressuring me to have sex. Mind you, I had several girlfriends before 22. I decided to have sex specifically with one girl cause I truly cared about her. I had many many opportunities to have sex with hot girls, some of them literally would message me saying "I want to take your virginity"". I am a handsome man and I get tons of attention from both sexes. So they were shocked to hear that I was a virgin at 22. Dont worry about it honestly. Take your time, have sex when you want with whoever you want. Theres a huge difference between having sex with a girl you love and a girl you hooking up with.

@@TheCinderellaPrincess That's true. As a 23 year old I can say sex is scared, spiritual and emotional connection. Sex can create soul ties unhealthy ones outside marriage and open yourself to another whole of mess with demons. Sex in ancient times was literally marriage. Now it's a causal thing. I think traditional view is the healthy one and it's for a reason. But media and culture doesn't necessarily have the best interest of us they just want to push narrative.

I could see my father writing this comment. I was present to watch my parents' marriage implode. A few years after the divorce I was having a conversation with him, and he made a comment like yours. I told him that I knew he was going to get divorced 6 years before it happened (I was 15 when I figured this out). His response: "Really?! How did you know?". It was like good grief dude, your 15 year old, borderline autistic son could figure it out, yet you couldn't? You couldn't see the signs that your wife was shutting down and pulling away, and you said and did things to make it worse? He also would make dramatic, violent, but ultimately nonsensical comments like your last sentence. He also wouldn't take accountability for his role in the divorce, and attributed the divorce to other factors, much like you're doing here. He has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Red Pill Rage Dude it’s not your job to fix a woman’s problem you seem insecure and should be a lot stronger then that because you can be. Everyone makes their own choice, every adult is responsible for themselves at the end of the day regardless of how you feel towards them this is life. God gave everyone the power and freedom of choice, she just didn’t choose you.

@@grit7733 You were brainwashed well by your single mother.

You were a beta male provider that's all..dont be butthurt..get on your purpose and you'll find someone 10x way better.. Dont be so simpish next time

@@grit7733 looool so the guy who got cheated on is like a guy with narcissistic personality disorder? I think you don't understand your dad enough to draw any comparisons.

You are not alone.

Thanks for your comment- it's inspiring and motivating me. I, too, have decided to be celibate until I meet "the one". Not easy, but it'll be worth it. Bless :)

SoMoS how do you meet the one?? You go on multiple dates to see who you connect with or??

@@na_ansah9373 Hey- haven't met him yet, he's on the way (somewhere, somehow). But in the meantime, I am working on myself and focusing on my calling (whatever my intuition or voice of God desires), healing past hurts and wounds, and bettering myself as I wait for him. I have consciously chosen to not date after my last break-up, which was a few months ago, but I am open to it once I feel that the guy is worth the wait (as they say, know your worth so that the man knows which price he must pay). No longer do I waste my time on men I don't feel are right or fit for the job, so that philosophy automatically eliminates many candidates. I used to "serial date", but found it uncomfortable to constantly break-up or have to cut things off when I could have avoided the whole situation from the beginning. Intuitively I'll know when the right one has arrived. As I wait, I just pray for strength to keep me on the right path and keep me celibate. For me, creating more soul ties is not a viable option in my healing process, so I am going through a season of soul detox. This is just my journey, I encourage you to do what feels intuitively right for you. If casual dating is your thing, that's cool. I did that, too. I would say, however, if you do casually date, make sure the candidates are willing to pay the price of your worth. Don't settle and/or devalue yourself. It causes too much hurt and pain for both parties in the long run (learned from my experiences). Wishing the best for you on your journey. Blessings

Holla' at me when this phase passes. Because it will.

So you gave it up for the bad boys, but you won't have sex with the guy you're going to marry. That makes no sense.

Looooooool

wow, thats great!

Glad that some weman are waking up

Good for you, Emily. I'm glad for you and your husband 😊

who's the lucky guy

Hook-Ups/fornication messing pair bonding ability for women even more than men. Good, that you keep yourself virgin.

With men, when we fall in love it is serious and deep.

Men and women are different. The more sexual partners women have the more likely they wont be able to pair bond as well. Stats show this. Men however can distance themselves from sex.

Your consciousness is high 👏

Disclosure I am a man. Even if you find partners that are loving and you have an emotional connection with it takes time to be comfortable with yourself in intimate relationships. You will find no matter at what age you explore your needs most of the initial encounters are painful because it is new to you. Everyone goes through this process. If you get married before you find yourself sexually, it won't last. Obviously, this is my opinion. But comes from experience. In a marriage the best way for a man to give you sexual pleasure is that you verbally communicate your needs to him. You tell him how to touch you, what to do and at what pace and in what manner. It is about giving each other pleasure which are physical acts. The emotional connection is what I would describe as feelings of love. There is also a sense of closeness and trust, that no matter what happens the both of you will be comfortable with each other. Both partners have to be emotionally mature and know how to communicate to put their partner at ease and have a sense of patience and warmth. Have you ever had an emotional connection with a man during a conversation? Being a self-aware male I can describe what it is like from my standpoint. Both man and woman have to be emotionally mature (Recognition of Self, Recognition of Others(empathy)) in order to understand their personal feelings and the feelings of their partner. Emotional connection is unspoken, it is a mutual feeling of attraction between man and woman that they understand is within themselves and their partner. It is like each is projecting their wants and desires on the other, and both understand and reciprocate the feeling. One example would be if you look deeply into your partner's eyes and you can feel their attraction, and say to yourself about them, I like you, I need you, I want to be with you, and they receive and understand your message without words. This is an emotional connection. Some describe it as having "chemistry" but I think the word falls way short of what is really happening. I would like to conclude with something that many people will not tell you because they simply do not have experience with relationships or are choosing the wrong partners. The process that leads to sex, has distinct phases. The first is initial mutual attraction between man and woman. Next is forming an emotional connection. Then comes trust and a feelings of desire. Then sex. I have never had sex without an emotional connection with a woman. Sex without a feeling of closeness and trust is so superficial that I don't even consider it.

MALA2243 thank you sir

So true..

It's Scary To Remarry I am Glad to hear a man say that!

Take the ego out and it will be just another vagina.

Thanks so much Christine!

we were here when it was cool before it was cool 😎

This podcast was Awesome, I have 14 year old son and I really loved the idea of asking her if you can hold her hand or not

I totally agree with you!!

Appreciate you a ton!

asianicolexo one of my favorite KZfaq channels

@@TheRoommatesPodcast I just came across your channel I love it even as a gay man!

Hahah thanks so much for all the kind words. Gotta work on that skin care.

@@TheRoommatesPodcast Yep. The melanin is popping!

Yash Yadav 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Studies suggest these new generations are abstaining more and more from sex and relationships, so there is that.

@Yash Yadav look the world is too big to generalize but I am correct in saying that new generations have less sex. Japan is the most obvious, but it is a phenomenon all over the western world at least. Those STDs numbers seem convoluted and perhaps circumscribed to the US, but it says more about lack of use condoms and serial sex addicts that are causing most off the mess.

Thanks for checking out the episode Eric!

Thank you :)

Thanks so much!

Shout out from London!!! Thanks Karen.

Fellow Londoner 🎉

Thanks for your support!

Thanks brother.

You're welcome.

as I've learned more about men from this.

Glad that it can help

Thanks Kim!

There are always exceptions to the rule. Kudos to you in your strength.

I'm like you, old school traditional mindset. The thing I've recently learned is that I have to be careful about not making romance and falling in love the center and goal of a happy long lasting relationship, marriage. Good Feelings are what get the relationship started, but the hard work of sacrifice from both partners are what keep it going to the end. Allain de Botton's videos on romance has really helped me on this. He explains how romanticism was started a few centuries ago and how it has fed books, movies, holidays on what "love" is supposed to be, when it's all just a fantasy not based on reality, socioeconomics, biology, culture.

Erik Serrano I hear what you are sayin, I will most def. keep that in mind. You learn some new each day... appreciate the wisdom and guidance 😇🙏🏾

Don't give up it will be worth it. I am 22 and have been saving myself. Honestly think it is one reason I can reliably say I find the vast majority of woman attractive and happy to date woman as I am able to more easily focus on the person over just the body.

Thnx 4 answering. I'm a woman by the way

@@trendafile6356 hahaha well I think the overall message can still apply to woman. Just be happy and content you are chaste. Embrace it as a symbol of concurring you appetites or maybe an act of love for yourself or future spouse. IDK how woman think about chastity so this is coming from a very male perspective haha.

I'm a 22 y/o female, so I think its a bit easier for women in general because we dont have as much testosterone. But I'm a virgin. I do have times when I slip into lustful thoughts , but I just have tried to limit myself to people that share the same values as myself, that way I do not feel that pressure. And exercise, geez exercise keeps me distracted. And prayer, deep prayer as well. Its a cross I have to carry as a Christian. I wish there was an organisation for vrigins and celibates. I bet you there are way more than people let on or the fake media portrays

@@thegenzcompass2526 Yh its quite hard for we mandem, im 22 as well buh over time and experience i realised, that emotional sex is on a different level so i kept it dah way before i turned 22. So even if i can get as much i dont, because the emotional connection aint there, so you just turn away and do some other thing like buy a tracksuit 😂😂

This is very interesting, one would wonder how you could mess up something that’s meant to be. I don’t think you could’ve missed out on right person wrong time but the ego regretting not settling and being in control of what you think would have made you happy when really if you can go through that many people this disconnect is usually within and it isn’t worthwhile with anyone until your full and whole of yourself 🖤

A-M-E-N!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't do stupid stuff to invite a problem or place yourself in a situation where the chances of a problem happening are tremendously increased.

C. I

@Chris S That's one of the most real analogies I've heard on this subject. Bravo Chris S.!! I will incorporate this into my analogies when dealing with this topic going forward.

correction. The first time it ain't your fault...... the FIRST TIME ONLY THO 🤣

This comment assumes that most rape occurs when women dress promiscuously. That's actually untrue.

Thanks Morgan!

The Roommates Podcast thank you!!

Facts

Men do it too except with looks. They trade the fat ugly woman for the pretty slim woman 🤷🏽‍♀️

@@NYCBJP Why would a man want to be with a fat ugly woman.....

@@chuck1052 I need something to hold on to 😂 Skinny Minnie doesn't do it for me...

Chuck people pursue land whales for lack of money or interest in high maintenance high value gorgeous right sized women

SiriusAspirations Do you even understand what you are saying? What do you mean “they are entitled?”, If you’re saying men believe they are entitled to sex, men could say when believe they are entitled to love. So wouldn’t that be fair?

@Michael David Very intelligently put. Most impressive, sir.

God bless u and I hope u heal.thanks for sharing xxxxxx

Over 95% of the time its someone a woman knows who attacks her,

Now let me tell you something ain't man close to you that just wants to be friends. The thing is you probably already know this.

Sorry that happened to you 😔

Thanks :)

No she is wrong. Women are never up front with what they want and they want guys to take their nice actions as "hints". Women will never say up front that they like you. They display hints and it's up to the guy to act one them

@Shadi older woman do that

I agree @sour airhead . We'd all be a lot better off if everyone was a little more honest.

They want their prince in shining armor to save them. Thanks hallmark.

You're conflating need with urges, and part of both a happy individual life and a stable society involves regulating urges. Regarding promiscuity, studies suggest that the more sex partners a person has, the less likely they are to be happy, to have long-lasting relationships, to have happy marriages, to not be unfaithful etc. In the area of philosophy and religion, which, putting the supernatural claims aside, combines the wisdom of thousands of life observations over millenia, we can see that almost none recommend promiscuity and the overwhelming majority see it as a negative practice.

@@tomemery7890 He doesn't seem to be prescribing it, he is just justifying why it's prevalent. And I think you underestimate urges. You can't regulate urges. Ultimately you have to attend to them one way or another because your tension will build up invevitably and your thoughts will orient towards sex uncontrollably. Only absense of hormones can make you less susceptible to be pulled by that influence. Humans are obsessed with sex, everything we do is to guarantee with have food so we can have sex. Everything else is noise compared to that background basis that's setting up your way of life.

@@brain0nfire I think he is prescribing it because he says 'sex still works, but relationships don't'. Mary's point is that recreational sex doesn't work. Regarding urges, you can most definitely regulate your response to them. For example, this is a normal part of growing up. Children learn not to hit, not to say whatever comes into their head, not to steal what they want. Also, therapy has been shown to successfully help people control their responses to urges. And you can not only control your responses to urges but actually reduce their intensity by adopting certain mindsets or lifestyle habits. For example, if someone masturbates and watches porn everyday their mind will get used to it and the person will feel horny regularly, whereas if they reduce their masturbation and porn viewing significantly or cut it out altogether they will find their horniness reducing over time. The book 'Willpower' by Baumeister and Tierney presents a great deal of evidence that shows that not only is it possible to control our responses to urges, but that this ability is possibly the most significant determiner of a person's health, wealth and happiness.

Sem Nome the arguement is the same as being over weight. You can argue that eatting is a necessary action, but the level of moderation is simply defined by ones own control of the impulse. For some, it just doesn’t exist so you start to see the rampant onslaught of casual sex, just like casual snacking. Sex, like eating, historically was a burden to obtain but now has become convenient and streamlined for some and for those with regular access, ruin themselves on it.

Relationships are a human need too not just a social thing. Children who don’t have connection with their mothers suffer immense emotional and mental consequences. In order to be a happy complete person you have good healthy relationships with family friends and your partner.

Blessings to you in Australia. Thanks for all the support.