Thanks to Charles for sharing his wisdom! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again KZfaq.com/lewishowes

Oh man that part about not giving solutions to people when they just want to be understood is something I’m working on. I’m very good at making friends but when we get to the point where they start to become deeper with me and telling me their problems, I will relate to a degree but then I give solutions and it can get to a point where I start to slowly polarize from the person because I’m the kind of person who wants to fix their problem and not feel like I’m dwelling in their problems with them, but I realize that it’s not about dwelling with them but just hearing them and showing I hear them, and if they ask for advice/a solution, then I will give it. Thanks so much lewis, I swear your videos make me a more high quality person, they’re just phenomenal.

Been alone can increase your risk, been around the wrong people can be even worse

My assumption is that those of us that listen to these interviews have a desire to learn something new or to learn how to better ourselves. Relationships are a key component to our happiness longevity and we would like to communicate and experience life with likeminded people. How can we go about our lives and find those likeminded individuals and have a real legitimate relationship with them? I find myself learning all these things and yet I don’t have an established circle of people outside of our immediate family that I can call, go to or experience life with. It’s just me my spouse and my kids in a bubble and for the longest time I’ve desired more meaningful relationships to experience and educate myself more.

When you cannot connect with yourself, you will always feel lonely even in the presence of others

Do you need me to Hear you, help you or hug you? Game Changer for me!!!!! Thankyou!!! ❤

Such a great episode , I will never forget that " The journey is more important than the destination , the destination is half an hour , but the journey is years" .

People no longer know how to distinguish between friends and acquaintances. Emotional diarrhea at inopportune moments is not welcome. We need to get back to reading classics to re learn what friendships are, and start practising the art of friendship. It takes time to build a friendship, and in order to have good friends, one must be a good friend. But skipping steps in building friendship is like skipping steps in courtship. Miss a step, and the whole relationship falls apart like a house of cards that it's built on. Sharing too much too soon is like expecting someone to sleep with you when all you've said is hi 10 times at the gym, or shared a cup of coffee. Maybe there's been a friendship expert on this show, but I'd surely like to see more friendship experts talk about how to build friendships; this would eliminate a lot of loneliness. It would also eliminate a lot of toxicity in relationships, including the one we have with ourselves. I'd also like to see a list of good books that illustrate what true friendship is, and how it was created. I'd love role play; conversations that illustrate what is inappropriate and how it could be corrected. I blame movies for showing incorrectly what friendship is.

"You cannot be lonely when you like the man you're alone with" Dr Wayne Dyer. Quote from: What Am I Here For?: Discover meaning, joy and steps to success in the human experience. Valuable read.

Lewis is such a great interviewer! Charles has been on a few of my favorite podcasts recently, but nobody could make it as engaging, meaningful and tactical as you!!!! ❤

Ok, but He had the BEST answers to the famous last questions!! And he’s the only one who has asked Lewis what his are 🤯👏🏾

“Recovering from success”. WOW. I heard that. His story was incredibly vulnerable and the loudest “cautionary tale” I’ve ever heard. Excellent interview from both sides! ❤

I learnt this in med school 20 years ago. Use it all the time and love it! ❤️

The insights from Charles Duhigg are always mind-opening. For entrepreneurs looking to leverage communication, remember that active listening is key. It's not just about talking; it's about understanding the needs and pain points of your audience to truly connect and provide value.

Was searching for an interview with Charles, and was over the moon that Lewis got him on the pod. I knew it would actually be deep. Wild, but human, to hear about Lewis being checked by a recent guest for "interrupting" as any interjection from him is quite obviously enthusiasm based not ego serving. Still, appreciated his ability to give us this insight into a less than perfect moment. Proof hat humility keeps us in the game. Congrats on 11 years!!!

I’m 45 with 3 mindful relationships plus family, don’t suffer from any physical ailments. Everyone thing I am about 28 , work have kids and prefer love people from the distance that have toxic people around me, I have a lot of people that I now but don’t have them in the day to day

I can express the value I have gained for listening to the conversation! I plan to listen to it daily for a while, then return to it monthly. Ty🙏🙏🙏🙏

Im a new subsciber Lewis. The first video of yours Ive actually watched. I mostly see your shorts. This was particularly interesting to me. My husband and I moved from our home state about 5 yrs ago to be closer to his siblings whom I have very little in common with. 2yrs later he became ill and passed away in 2022. So here I am living alone very ruraly seperated from long term friends that are concerned that Im lonely. I personally think its a perseption thing. Some people need to be around people all the time others don't. I keep myself busy and actually enjoy the time and peaceful environment to decompress after a busy day. I may not stay here forever but for now until I decide my next life chapter being alone has been a good thing.

Oh, you're interested in communication! That's awesome. Being a communication expert involves understanding the different aspects of effective communication, such as verbal and nonverbal cues, active listening, and clear expression of ideas. It's all about helping people connect and understand each other better. If you have any specific questions or topics you'd like to explore within communication, feel free to ask!Absolutely! Communication is such a fascinating topic. It's all about how we exchange information, ideas, and emotions with others. Effective communication involves not just speaking, but also listening actively and being aware of nonverbal cues like body language and facial expressions. It's about finding common ground and understanding each other's perspectives. Good communication skills can help build stronger relationships, resolve conflicts, and foster collaboration. It's a skill that can be developed and honed over time. So, what aspect of communication interests you the most

Just when I thought it couldn't get better, he shares the 3 things he'd want to leave behind and there's so much wisdom in those words. Make sure you listen to the end!

❤Thank you for explaining...I am a helping hand and a good listener. However, I am learning to just listen and be present... a good reminder... I usually have the loop going on.. repeating back what I think I heard. ..so awesome for clarity!! I believe that the cellphones / computers /TVS are an important part of our lives...however less phone calls are made....(texts happen) emails instead of hand written letters and greeting cards...and watching television (being programmed) instead of reading a book or playing a game which supports conversations...and connections.. Something personal about talking or writing directly to another human...❤

Yep..here for it... I used to say being alone doesn't mean you're lonely..well.. 😢

Wouldn't it be great if all doctors learned how to really listen to their patients?! 😊

I'm feeling emotional while writing this comment. This video is the best video I've ever seen in youtube about communication skills. You guys are the definition of greatness. We need more human beings like you frankly. ❤️🌸

Thank you dear Lewis for inviting the great brains to 'The School of Greatness' and making an impact in people's lives. It is a pleasure in reading the finest books produced by them and listening to their conversations. I read best selling books by Robin Sharma, James Clear & Charles Duhigg and I was wondering if I could meet these legends in person. You show make it really possible. Much love and best wishes to you Lewis from Bhutan-Himalayan country 😊. Truest me, this is my favorite show now.

I’m a super communicator naturally. Those who share this trait know this internally. That does not mean I talk a lot, it means to care and have a natural way of being mutable and empathetic to the person I’m engaging with. This discussion here is from a therapist point of view which is beneficial to a larger audience of people so seeing it here on KZfaq makes sense. What is missing, in my opinion, is how we do not acknowledge someone else’s code. What is a persons code? Look up your astrological chart, numerological life path, enneagram number, destiny card, etc.. through this you will map out an individuals code and you can look at one another through what they are gifted or challenged with in life. We are all truly unique and not all are here to do good in the world. Understanding is a main ingredient to bond people. Small talk is pointless in the modern age of communication. Be fearless in communication.

A big YES! Yes, very validating and empowering. I have been studying and obviously practicing mindful communication and have found this topic fascinating. Hard to pinpoint what stood out for me because everything you have talked is interconnected. I really like the idea of reflecting back what the speaker said in my own words and asking if I am getting it. It works! It really does. For me, recognizing where I am coming from, which is my genuine intention, has become key. Self-connection is a premise here and the ability to really listen to the other’s feelings and needs creates a powerful potential. I also enjoyed those three types of conversations. It helps recognizing where we are at and when we should wisely switch in order to match the speaker’s intention. Thank you, Lewis, for this fundamental topic so needed these days. I believe we are all truly longing for conversations like this: emotional, educational, rich and vulnerable. Information is important yet validation has to come first, otherwise the information may not register. I felt validated! My bow of gratitude, Lewis.

Now, imagine a child, possibly since before being born, emotionally neglected by its parents. They’ve smoked 15 cigarettes a day since birth or longer. In the words of Dr. Robert Block, the former President of the American Academy of Pediatrics, "Adverse childhood experiences are the single greatest unaddressed public health threat facing our nation today." It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. -Frederick Douglass. Please, do a show on ACEs with Dr. Nadine Burke Harris. I believe, it’s the origin of of many if not most of societal ills such as narcissism, addiction, anxiety, depression, domestic violence, poverty, intergenerational trauma, and more.

Wow. This podcast is such a Gem for me since "The Power of Habit" book is my very first self-help book ever! This book has been my gateway to the self-development journey..! Such an inspiration to listen more and more from and get inspiration from its Creator and Author Charles Duhigg! ⭐🌟✨ Thank You, Lewis Howes for your continuous creative content! 👏👏👏

Yes, this came out a perfect time. I am on a journey of self improvement and communication is my key focus point. Thank you Lewis! I love your show!

As I mature, I become better and better at communicating. I'm an instructor at a community college and I'm always improving my technique because everyone hears and learns differently. I know I nailed my lecture when my adult learners do well on assignments. I then look at what can I do better for those who are struggling. I'm still learning after 25 years of adult learning.

@lewishowes I’ve been following you for some time, I love your podcast. I didn’t know you went to TM. I’m in this journey myself. Giving 7 minutes speeches every week, attending different clubs, reviewing the speeches 😅. Kind of exhausting at times 🤪. I relate so much to the way you approach your fears. I do the same😊. You are a great inspiration 🥰. Thanks for sharing you journey.

Yes the internet will keep us home. Smart tv , so much to watch, podcasts documentaries, movies!

Thank you, Lewis, for all the amazing speakers you bring to your podcast, and all the wisdom you seek to disseminate to the public! Your interviews are always so engaging and inspiring; the great rapport you build with everyone is evident and makes for a fantastic listen! I enjoy sharing these with my family and friends 🧡

Yes absolutely! You have to listen to what each other has to say in a respectful way and in a relationship together

Loneliness really is a serious epidemic. I 'm noticing it more and more in people around me and that is worrisome coz it can lead to other mental issues.

Best video ever! So much wisdom in these words 🫶🏻

The best moment for me was when the one being interviewed asked a profound question. Almost never happens. Proves he's the real deal

When my 17 year old son asked me about conversing with people, I told him to get curious. So many people today are stuck in their head. Great interview! I just bought the new book and The Power of Habit, as well as the accompanying planner! Thank you!!

Thank you for sharing, "yes ", enjoyed listening to his wisdom and beliefs. Blessings to you both 🙌. 💫💛🙌🙏

Im at almost an hour in this video. It shares amazing communication techniques and how to really bond with people. But I'm yet to hear something about how to go about fixing the loneliness in our own lives or for others in our own communities. I'm hoping to hear some kind of insight on how to heal this loneliness in our lives and in other's lives by the end of this video.

Wow this is one of my favorite podcast ❤️

Honestly I love all your podcasts Lowis, it helps me a loot in real life to be a good person and find good books.

this person adds really a great value in my life

Lewis Howes , congratulations on the 11 year anniversary of your show🎉 .

This is great. I am very inspired by the conversation. Both the guest and host did a great job of demonstrating the ease and fluidity of that flows when connecting language is shared. Thank you both!

Pure Coaching 💪🏻🔥🧠

Charles seems to be a very considerate person 👍🏻

"The interview was amazing, and I feel fortunate to have watched the video!" Thank you

Lewis please invite Oliver Niño (Spiritual Activator) to your Show. That would be amazing! Thank you for all of your work and dedication 🙏🕊

Conversation is a Lost Art ! 😂

Awesome to hear Lewis's 3 truths

Wow! What a great episode! I learned a lot from this conversation. It inspires me to become a super communicator someday. It flashbacks my conversations with my family and friends. I was able to reflect and assess where should I improve and practice more. Thank you so much for being so authentic. Thanks a lot, Lewis!

Just wonderful. And beautifully inspiring. (And I appreciate this great interview not being interrupted with ads 🙏🏽)

I’m so excited for this video I’m about to watch 😊

I like being alone it’s freedom. Sorry I don’t fit in your box of how I should be

“The goal is what you do everyday”

Thank you so much for this podcast, your conversations are stretching me to have to make a change in my life❤❤

Love this. Thanks Charles. Thanks Lewis. ❤️❤️

Another great podcast thank you.

Guest: Show people that you’re hearing them. Lewis; Yeah, yeah, yeah lol

Thank you! This interview was insightful and helpful. Learning how to communicate is essential. ❤

I'm a widow - the loneliness of life without my mate is soul crushing at times.

These are all counseling/ therapy techniques and skills. Communication, specifically listening (not listening to respond, but listening to hear and understand) and empathy are essential.

I look forward to this!

Keywords to live by: Gratitude.Health.Service.

Another great video. Best advice on communication.

a wonderful episode : thank you 😍

This is a top 5 interview :D

Always wondered if this was cultural - when you tell someone, “my aunt died, too,” it’s so they know youve been there. Any day, it’s easier to want to open up to someone who lets me know they’ve been in the difficult space, too, vs some theoretic. I notice my Hispanic female friends and I share by saying, “This is what happened to me and with whom and what I did.” That’s called opening up, not stealing the spotlight . There is also that in Spanish , it is really hard to communicate without rhe word “I” if you’re a simultaneous bilingual (basically speak in Spanglish when in your own element). I have to say, it’s rough when talking to folks outside Hispanic females , because it’s seen like a stealing the thunder event vs the opening up experience that is more natural .

It’s very simple It’s in the practical level not intellectual People live / work around each other for long time will make connections effortlessly The realestate has changed everything/ broken society.

Respected @ Lewis Howes Such an amazing piece I steal from you,I feel like and save in my personal folder.it's a very reflected one , need to listen again and again to reach the bottom layer of the scenario.Thanks again for being a part of this beautiful session...

Blows my mind when top executives use racial slurs or other inappropriate language during important meetings. It just doesn’t match up with who they are with their whole career lol

The 3 buckets analogy was awesome

Hi everyone

Awesome content thanks for the Enlightenment ❤

Excellent share Thanks

I absolutly loved this episod!!! Thank you for a great podcast!! 🙏

I agree with betting on oneself

Broseph, gotta be real. Many of us thrive on solitude.

For a great communicator he sure says 'like' a lot. "Like Master the Art of Like Influence and like Communication (Like Become like MAGNETIC like). Joking aside - good chat!

Amazing!

Incredible interview and information! Thank you both!

I'm not good at listening and comprehending what someone is talking about

I just hit subscribe and added another book to the wish list. I greatly appreciate this one!

Wow , thank you both of you. 🙏

This was a helpful video for me 😊

Excellent contend and valuable gems Thanks Lewis.

Dang Lewis I started dancing salsa last year , I'm not great yet but I'm good. I can actually follow. One day I'm dancing one song with you🎉

I have a friend who says I am her best friend, but I don't feel she is my best friend because I listen to her all the time, and when I try to communicate something to her the conversation ends up being about her so I am a good friend to her because I listen but I would love to have a friend like me.

Would love to see 21 Savage on an episode

A lot of valuable information, thank you. However, I wish as a supercommunicator, Mr. Duhigg could have communicated without the habit of plugging unnecessary "like" into this conversation. It seriously undermined my appreciation of his "super" communication skills.

The easiest way to connect with people is to shut up and let them talk about themselves. People love to hear their own voice. And whether you’re even listening doesn’t really matter. There. Don’t have to watch the whole video.

Amazing conversation!

very educational

Gems of wisdom😮

Great discussion! Thank you

loneliness is " personal separate decision actually " loneliness mean freedom and togetherness mean nazism

Columbus Ohio. Pays to listen ! 🤣🙏 I’m from there myself.

A-MA-ZING!!!!!