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She teaches with so much joy, it was a joy to listen to her words.

To be successful we need a mixture of competence and charisma. To be charismatic:(trustable +reliable) 1. Not standing too close to someone. 2.Use your hands to express your words (not jazz hands) 3. Gift people success words 4. Point out similarities between you and the person 5. Don’t do up talk. (Important how you say words not just what you say)

She’s just a perfect blend of competence and warmth. She’s adorable and we are fortunate to learn from her. ❤

She's a live example of every point she's making. Top tier content

This whole interview was absolutely AMAZING. I turned 51 yesterday and learned something new today. Wow. We are NEVER too old to learn🤩

This is easily your best episode Lewis. The chemistry between you two is amazing and the learning content is high quality. I'm 100% going to buy the book.

Omg as an introvert I feel like this has so many answers to my questions! She's amazing! I've bought the book and I'll watch this video every week for a while since there is an abundance of treasure in here!

This is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. 1hr 40 minutes went in a flash.

This talk held me until the very end. Every sentence mattered. Grateful for this. I especially learned how to be authentic with someone toxic in the work place.

It helps to be feeling good about yourself - and life. I never feel vulnerable socially because I love life and people from all walks of life. I don’t “separate” myself from others. I enjoy meeting strangers because I don’t see anyone as a stranger. I believe that we are all One, from every place, culture, race, religion and every walk of life. Everyone is my friend until they prove otherwise and if they aren’t I might feel sad or down for a few moments but then quickly accept it and walk away. Also: humor is your best friend in making friends and connecting with others. Yes, warmth and confidence - and giving.

5:23 when you express your vulnerability, you acknowledge then you are less afraid 21:20 use gestures

When someone isn't to sure and question themselves I find that being encourageing to empower them to find their confidence in themselves is such a great thing

This was so amazing to do! Thank you for allowing me to share

I never comment... I just came to say THIS LADY IS AWESOME. Like wow! I learned a TON and I 100% agree with EVERYTHING she said! That does NOT happen often. Very grateful for her sharing her wisdom and virtues with us

I love that she is generous with acknowledgments, gives credit where it’s due, and appreciates the work people do to support her presentations

She is the queen of body language education 👑

Once I became more comfortable in my own skin and started living for me the easier it is is to engage others. I was watching this and thinking, I haven't experienced social rejection in the longest. Probably because I surround myself with others that care about self-love, self-development and are focused on being their best version. When I was blaming the world for my problems and being self-absorbed, i did experience many of the social rejection cues she mentioned.

As a teacher, when I started watching you here, right away I thought “smart man!” Asking great questions to his guests…the right questions, questions I would ask, questions that make sense…bringing awareness and clarification to your audience. Thank you Lewis…YOU ARE GREATNESS!!!☀️📚💕☀️

this interview was so enthralling that i actually was excited with anticipation to hear every next word from the both of their mouths. not only was it exuding such a comfortable, wonderful energy, but it was also packed full of absolute GEMS. i even feel better after watching this because the energy was just that refreshing. such a beautiful and genuine chemistry between two intellectually stimulating human beings.

I am so great full I stumbled across this video and just in time. My work environment is very toxic. The women I work with have given up and r very toxic. On Monday morning I go back to work and change this. I will no longer work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. I absolutely love what I do. I am filled with all this new confidence and knowledge from this inspirational and powerful video. Thank you from the tips of my toes to the palms of my hands and Thank u for reminding me that life is to short.🙏🏻💁

'If you show authentic happiness, you are more likely to infect happiness.' -- love this quote!

I have a low attention span. I'm 23min in and you guys have still got me completely engaged. The topic and content are really interesting but they way you're presenting is everything. I'm learning so much - thank you!

i think that these skills are very useful in relationships though. very single expereince is useful and in my opinion you're doing great job . and also my man is doing great job :-) he's a lawyer but i mean that he's great w spanish drops

Around minute 11( charisma): perfect blend of competence and warmth

She’s incredibly likable and captivating, beyond her obvious beauty. She’s really selling her product. Great episode

There is so much information she is presenting it seems almost overwhelming to try and incorporate it all in daily interactions, some of the greatest liars and con artists have mastered many of these techniques, I've found that honesty, caring and true sincerity goes a long way when it comes to being charming and charismatic, Vanessa is a fascinating person and much of her charm comes from her enthusiasm of her work, she has an incredible amount of knowledge.

Lewis you are such a gift to the entire word. You are stunning inside and out. We are blessed that you found yourself. Thank you for giving us so much. Sending you love and support ❤❤❤

This just helped me figure out why my senior manager is amazing, and why I look up to her so much -- she sincerely has the perfect blend of warmth and competence. I really hope I can morph into this!

My biggest takeaway is smiling at the sides of my eyes. I just used that during my performance, and I experienced better connection with my audience.

And this is why Italian people are so good at expressing their thoughts! They always use their hands and colorful language

I enjoy being at the stage of my life (late twenties) where I can truly listen to discussions like this, still liking the speaker, while being actively conscious of the statements I disagree with.

Great reference to Dr. Ramani. She says often that she just doesn’t trust charismatic people because in her experience, they are almost always insincere and narcissistic. I’ve been told that I have good presence…and I strive for that balance of warmth and competence…but I am trying to make others comfortable and not necessarily to advance my own agenda. So respecting Dr. Ramani as I do, I’ve really been questioning this approach. Should I not be striving for charisma, but just for an appropriate level of warmth? But being a (small) woman in a logical male field, I worry about being “too warm.” I have been told, too, by other women and even warmer men, that I am too expressive and personal and “hand-gesturey.” I am concerned about being perceived as too smooth and manipulative or as “outside of my integrity.”

Really good. She actually advances the body language and charisma subjects.

Vanessa is such a lovely and competent person. I am so happy Lewis you invited her again ❤😀 I am so glad to have the opportunity to listen to your highly insightful talk. I learn so much from it. Thank you so much!!! I 'd be so happy to meet you one day insha'Allah

She is such a good charmer, Lewis was blushing the whole podcast ❤

Hey Lewis your content is better than a college can ever teach. I listen to these podcasts and walk away with knowledge wisdom and an overall well-being. I'm so happy that I found this channel. I have recommended it to others and they all say the same thing. They say wow why isn't this taught in high schools why isn't this taught in colleges it's amazing I want to thank you for bringing this content to the masses. Keep doing what you are doing it is awesome.

I don’t know what it is Vanessa, but whenever I listen to you just resets my nervous system to calm and content. Thx Lewis for this amazing platform.🙏🏽

Beautiful Interview. One of the BEST 'Take Aways' for me was a WONDERFUL REMINDER. When WE receive A QUE from another... Wether it be Verbal, or subtle Body Language.... The KEY TO TRUE DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATION is in ASKING OURSELVES: I See, Hear, and or FEEL that.... Now ' How can I HONOR IT' ? 😘💖🙏🌎✌🏼

When I took exams in college, I would think in terms of mastering the material and winning the top grade, rocking the class, LOVING the material, feeling like I won the prize just by being able to go to this college and study what I had ALWAYS wanted to do all my life. I saw exams as a joy. I rewarded myself instantly by first answering all the ones where I knew the answers. That got my confidence racing. Once all those were done, I did the ones I wasn't sure about. It always worked.

What a great podcast that was! I am an introvert and work in communication. I was literally taking notes, along. Thank you Lewis, thank you Vanessa ❤

So practical. She has a perfect balance of warmth and confidence.

I love listening to Vanessa - she’s so charismatic,both warm and competent Thank you for this great video.

I love everything about this episode, but MAINLY how she expresses her gratitude and acknowledgement to Lewis. The world would be such a better place if we could simply share how appreciative we are!

Thank-you Lewis & Vanessa for the great interview!! Love the quote "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care" Love it!!! Super Power

This was lovely and powerful! Loved Vanessa’s response on handling toxic people in a work environment that response was magnificent!!! 💥💥💥

Idk about everyone else but I love this chick, I’m so fascinated with her research and expert knowledge on these topics. She’s so interesting and I love the passion you can see on her face.. 😍

To the person reading this: THANK YOU for being here and adding value to our world 💖 Hope you have a blessed day filled with joy, happiness, health and love! 💖

Lewis is amazing presenter with smart mind and magnetic charisma.

Words are Energy. Be impeccable. Great tools, and stay authentic!

Hey Lewis (Hand wave, Full Face Smile) Lots of Gems in this interview. She says she is an introvert, but what comes through is nothing short of explosive charisma and confidence. Obviously practicing EVERYTHING that she preaches - total alignment. - Kudos Wil be reviewing the Transcript as well. Great job bringing her back to the Shark Tank Research findings, love your focus.

She talks with so much excitement I love it

Vanessa Van Edwards is AMAZING! Thank you Lewis Howes for the insightful interview!

I found this interview full of easily accessible & impactful information. Giving examples of each idea physically and verbally was so helpful and fun to watch. Thank you for shining your light to illuminate the darkness and for helping others to shine theirs.

This was so helpful. I'm an introvert and always look at extroverts with envy; wishing I could be like them. I hope these tips will help me to be seen and heard differently. Thank you! Also, the point at the end of this was so important. Gratitude.

The way she does the intervieuw makes me fall in love with her. She is so enthusiastic in her talking/performance. She is amazing.

In all her brilliance, it’s hard to pick a favorite moment, but for me the true highlight of the interview is when Vanessa addresses the “question inflection,” something that has driven me crazy for such a long time, but I never really understood why until now. So insightful…I love this interview!

Thank you Lewis. I am grateful for you and the amazing guests you bring to the masses. I learn soo much about emotional intelligence and how to be a better human being.

I have listened to many videos of all kinds of things and I hv to say this is the most important and powerful video I hv ever seen/listened to. I hv forwarded this video to so many people. Everything about this video is amazing. Just hearing Vanessa’s voice is a joy. You can feel in her voice that she’s upbeat and happy since u feel ever cue we send out. Body language does not lie. The only thing about this video I don’t agree on is it’s very easy to detect a narcissist bc the truth will always come out. There are many signs coming out from a liar…no one can keep up with lies long term.

The slightest opportunity to go into anger and then the quickness with which they intend to apologize indicates all I need to know. An opportunity to see their ability to exercise responsibility and respect for their effects on others.

I loved Vanessa and Lewis' interaction! They have a lot of chemistry and can really delve into the topics with examples. Great job!

Lewis Howes, I find your vides really really helpful. I have studied psychology, and I always learn so much new and interesting content from watching your interviews :) Thank you

I watched the entire show and I was all smiles afterwards. What have you done to me.

Fantastic information. I have taught the power of words for over 30 years. New words changed my life. I am grateful for this information you shared.

so excited for our kids to start learning this stuff in school 🙌🏼

Knowledge is power, understanding is wisdom. This is an educational video on the different cues of charisma. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Charismatic leaders utilize a wide range of nonverbal warmth and likeability cues. They display genuine smiles, maintain positive eye contact, use a variety of gestures, orient their torsos toward those with whom they are engaging, touch others during conversations, and so forth.

What an Amazing Person!! She is incredibly intelligent and a fantastic teacher. A wonderful presentation.

Waow waow. Incredible talk. Thanks Lewis for hosting Vanessa. I have been interviewing for the past 3 months. I cleared all interviews with the communication i acquired over the years but this is next level. There is so much to improve. Thank you both so so much. I am sure i will do much better in future communications, team collaboration, video talks and interviews. ❤👏👏👌👌

Awesome interview. This is the first time I ever heard Vanessa Van Edwards speak!! I just bought her book thank you!!!

❤️💕💜 Vanessa, you are amazing and I absolutely love your energy!! 😀 Vanessa , you even acknowledged your team! How awesome is that! Spread that energy everywhere!! We need more people like Vanessa and Lewis in the world 🌎!!! #LewisHowesForPresident !! 🙏 😁

Vannesa is so energetic, I am really want to know more

It was perfect timing for me to come across such an informative and inspiring video. I’m gathering a new group of creatives who I picked based on their positive moral character. Your insight and research on effective communication will be extremely helpful in my goals with this group. Thank you!

Confidence is saying I am amazing… but not better than another, I recommend looking in the mirror daily until you can truly say you are amazing without ego 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️

What fantastic, easy-to-understand, clearly communicated insights. She is amazing. And Lewis I love how, in your interviews in general, you always make sure to ask questions to make sure that you - and the audience at the same time - understand what the guest is saying. It's rare that I watch a video and really feel like I'm easily going to implement the lessons in my daily life, but that's how I feel with this one. I am only a fraction of the way through and am already amazed. Thank you!

Some great stuff. As far as hand gestures, yeah, I do audiobook narration and while reading to a mic all alone in a booth, using your hands is essential. It keeps it alive and communicative.

This was a great and informative interview! I learned a lot that will help me improve my nonverbal communication with others and pick up on cues they give me.

I’m a realtor and not a salesperson or extroverted by nature. I will definitely be implementing these. Thank you for sharing!

I didn't finish the interview; however, this has to be my favourite yet!. Thank you Lewis and Vanessa💛💛

What i love about you Lewis is you always ask the great questions, which leads to a much more intriguing talk. the questions are just as interesting as the answers. Laura in uk

Is it just me or am I sensing some good chemistry between these two?!

Listening to two of my favorite people geek out over this with such enthusiasm really makes my day. 😁 So much power and inspiration in this talk!! 💙

So so powerful 💗 I absolutely love Vanessa’s enthusiasm. Lewis, you are the best person to interview her, you have fantastic nonverbal cues and are a great example of charisma and power. I’m excited to read this new book. Thank you both for what you are putting into the world.

I could listen to Vanessa all day! She’s such an inspiration! Thanks for this conversation Lewis ❤

As a women working around men 1 out of 50..i have learned the nodding. I never realized i did it until someone pointed it out.

Thank you for this podcast. I found the things you and Ms Van Edwards were discussing to be so interesting that I hopped on an online bookseller and purchased her cues book during the video. As a fellow introvert (an oblivious INTJ), many of the things she said resonated with me. I also saw myself in a few of the negative phrases and cues she was describing. I can't wait to read the book.

I think the way she's describing labeling emotions to disengage is a way of bypassing/numbing the pain. I personally find it's healthier to allow the discomfort to move through you without trying to get rid of it so quickly. It depends on the situation of course: if I'm in an emergency where I need to keep a clear head, doing what she describes can be really helpful.

wow! thank you both. to call that mandatory viewing would be an understatement of extraordinary magnitude. one of the best ways you can spend an hour fourth. unless you have no desire to see the rest of your life and the relationships within it benift. I'll be watching that a few more time . my humble thanks.

Such a well-prepared lady

I am 77yrs old. take no meds, played rugby for 20 yrs, worked in construction since I was 15yrs old, have no arthritis, sleep at least 8hrs a nite and sex at least 2 times a week. I never smoked, stopped drinking alcohol 40 yrs ago, have not had a coke, hamburger, mexican food or that type of rubbish in 50yrs.I go for my annual physical with these expensive doctors here in NB and they say, amazing, keep doing what you doing. But when I point out its all about diet and exercise they actually turn away, don't want to hear it. My contemporaries actually get very angry at me when i point out diet will help them but they would rather be sick and overweight with all their medications than be skinny and active like me. People say all the time, no way you almost 80, My apple watch said I walked 53 miles last month. Hope I don't sound egotistical, just want to point out diet and exercise are the answer at any age.

She is an absolute genius. Always so inspired by her. She was my first motivational speaker I followed. First choice . Best choice. She will make things fall in line just by listening to what she has to say. Her natural no nonsense is it...

Vanessa teaches actually useful tips we can put into practice to achieve charisma. She opens up a door for us and makes our goals tangible. It was a pleasure watching this video.

The chemistry between two of you is awesome. And Vanessa you are soooo intelligent and sooo likeable. Thank you

This is phenomenal. I have severe trauma and OCD, and I think this may be a tiny step in getting my life back. I am OBSESSED with social cues. They can destroy me.

The balance of warmth and competence makes perfect sense considering we have two hemispheres. Objective rational thought is only half your brain(logic, language, arithmetic ) the other deals in recognizing emotions, faces and melody. Basically our culture teaches to use half our brain to ignore the other and we wonder why people are depressed and anxious. Only thinking objectively is how you end up living a life of regrets.

Thank you for bringing up the topic of statements that sound like a question. I didn’t know why this was annoying and now know! Thanks! ♥️

I use my hands so much that I feel self-conscious when I notice people looking at my hands. Good thing to learn that it's a positive way to communicate my point!

You guys made me cry by the end! Gratitude is powerful! ❤️ Great interview, thank you so much, I appreciate you! 🙏🏼

I've learned so much from you all in this video! Thank you so much for sharing!❤

I learned a lot esp for an introvert like me. We have the best intentions but it does not come across. Probably one of your best episode. So authentic. So grateful and appreciative for what you do.

Confidence is the belief in yourself and preparation. The more you practice the more confident you become.