Why would it be harder if the woman had a higher iq than the man?

Hi @galefray, Generally, a gap of 20-25 IQ points is very significant. Furthermore, your girlfriend's IQ (125-130) is still significantly high compared to the average person (100). An IQ of 150 is at genius level. If you feel that she understands you quite well, you may need to specify in which area of your life. Most women need to respect their romantic partners to be attracted to them. If the male partner's IQ is much lower than hers, she may no longer be sexually attracted to him. It's not necessary the case for a man if he only wants a fling. J.M.

@@practicalspirituality7447 You make an excellent point. I will indeed specify: I think she understands my desire to be alone, to be lost in my work in various moments in my life, as well as the fact that I needn't have attention and people around me as much as she does. I think you're right in saying she's still quite significantly bright (we met at university). I think it's her own ability to reason and to notice my patterns of behaviour that allow her to be so flexible toward my energy overall. Also, yes, to be honest, I'm definitely not a genius; I think that word should be reserved for people with incredible accomplishments. I am a quantum chemist; I don't really consider that to be anything fancy for someone of my "level" if that makes sense. Funnily enough, I think Spearman's Law of Diminishing Returns is an interesting phenomenon as scores reach the higher ranges though I've read a paper that claimed the phenomenon is itself likely to be a statistical artifact more than anything else. I make this point because despite her I.Q. being lower than mine, she still performed the best on Fluid Intelligence which was closer to me than her other subtest scores which makes sense! Lastly, I agree with you that the respect factor comes into play; I think that's why I am quite convinced that it's a bit more likely to workout if the male is a bit smarter than the female!

@@galefray It seems that your girlfriend is more right-brain dominant intelligent than you because she implicitly understands your emotional needs. An IQ of 150 is generally recognized as genius level. Whether a person uses their intelligence to accomplish incredible work is a separate issue. I think that Fluid Intelligence is more indicative of IQ because Crystallized Intelligence is mostly based on long-term memory. I agree that women usually prefer intelligent men - even for a casual romantic relationship. J.M.

on average, this is true. ESFx types have the lowest and the INxx types the highest.

Hi @violet18 Yes, certain brain (or MBTI personality types) have higher IQ than others. For example, NTs (i.e., Albert Einstein, Napoleon Bonaparte) have higher IQ than most MBTI personality types (i.e., ESFJs) especially those who are right-brain dominant. J.M.