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Going to trauma therapy was the best thing I ever did for myself. I went from being a raging alcoholic that cried all the time to a functioning alcoholic that only cries when I watch Lord of The Rings.

How to be a metalhead: listen to metal and like it and... yep that's pretty much it I guess.

I've been into metal, punk, and hardcore since I was a kid in the nineties and one of the FIRST things that sets off my cringe radar is to see people box themselves up in a nice little subcultural package.

Finding myself a good therapist is the best decision I have ever made. If only more metalheads would get one then maybe the community would be pleasant for once.

I didn't expect for this to turn into the Finn McKenty therapy hour, but I'm kinda glad it did. Just recently, I've begun to come to grips with my own depression and social ineptitude, and I've begun seeking help through antidepressants and therapy. Hearing Finn talk about how he's overcome his own mental hurdles is reassuring.

That “don’t talk to the cute normie girl” bit fucking SLAUGHTERED ME 😂

Watching this was like telling ur parents a story and them making it into a lecture 💀

I like how he contradicts himself, "like whatever metal band you like", then next clip "can't believe you listen to something so entry like ride the lightning" 😂

I appreciate how much Finn covers soft skills in this video.

The only real experience I have with meeting other metalheads is that when I wore an Infant Annihilator shirt was a random dude saying "cool shirt" and I said "thanks" and we went our separate way.

As someone who suffers from waking up everyday and thinking that I should kill myself also, I'm very happy to hear you talk about your struggles. It really helps. I went through the worst depression in my life earlier this year, and everyday that I was going through that depression, I would wake up and want to die. Didn't want to get up and do anything. But with help from a therapist and friends and family, I got through it

This ended up way more serious than I expected, but it's a good topic. The extreme metal scene has some real mental health issues running rampant in it. I mean, look at the lyrics to some of the bands we listen to. There's something inherently unhealthy about liking a band called, say, Suicide Silence (and I say that as a fan of the band)

You are 100% spot on with the social anxiety stuff. I am always blown away when anyone wants to talk to me and can never initiate a single conversation. And it's only gotten worse with age because I'm so out of practice with socializing.

I have Manic Bipolar disorder, ADD, and substance abuse issues. Hearing something like this gives me a little hope that the terrible stigma about mental health issues being something you just have to live with is reassuring that my attempts at trying to change aren't for nothing. I needed that .

I only recently got out of my pop hating phase. I started a pop rock band to "sell out" and started listening to top 40s pop for research. I ended up loving a lot of it. Now music is the most fun it's been years and I'm all in on the pop rock!

You nailed it when it came to so many of the stereotypes us metal heads have when it comes to mental health and social skills. I was that depressed awkward Metal elitist in high school and luckily over the years managed to break free of so many of these issues. I’m almost 30 and am way happier, more socially confident and more open to other music including pop. Still a metal guy at my core but in a much healthier place, thanks Finn for relating your own experiences and calling out the issues with the Metal community.

I love when Finn leans forward and talks distinctly and soft in the 🎙🤣

Finn: You shouldn’t be afraid to talk to new people. Just walk up and introduce yourself. Chances are they will be relieved! Also Finn: I actively take steps to avoid talking to new people in public. I do not want to talk to you about music. Please do not approach me.

This is what I like with the whole PRMBA community: we're all aware that at some point, we're one of those cringey people. But good thing we are getting our shit sorted and not giving up. And we don't want the new kids to go through what we've been through, that's why we make fun of them served with some life pro tips on the side.

My favorites are the comments on any genre outside of metal.. you know the ones. They preface their comment with '' I'm a huge metalhead. but I love this song''. Essentially saying, '' Us metalheads are known for being close-minded, so I should get extra credit for liking this''

Not just a great guy at Podcasts or Reviews on the music scene or music history but also a subtle Dating Coach nice one Finn you're such a genuine guy🙂😉.

Hey Finn. I know you had to deal with some shit from some people on your last stream. Just wanted to let you know that I look forward to all of your videos on both channels. Keep up the good work, and don't let any of the nasty and toxic people on social media get to you. You're more honest, sincere, and real than they will ever be. Nothing but love.

These were genuinely good life lessons, I actually feel called out but in a way that makes me want to change it Thanks, didn't expect to find this in a TikTok reaction video lol

The dude who drums to the huskies also does "blast beats in songs that shouldn't have blast beats" and it cracks me up, because he is way too good at it. I think the most cringe to me is the use of metal for thirst trap videos, it's just trying way too hard.

I was diagnosed with schizophrenia 9 years ago, and it's amazing how many people will listen to you if you say you have depression or anxiety but when I start talking about psychosis people leave the room, because they don't relate.

"C-tier grindcore band from Indonesia" made me laugh way harder than it should have

This first one was a surprisingly tender take on something that could be so cringey. Really dig your uplifting attitude!

You are totally correct about social anxiety. I've lived with it for as long as I can remember and it really harms my ability to form basic friendships. But I'm not getting better by being a opinionated alpha online and just hiding myself in a proverbial hole IRL. I am my worst self when I'm in those head spaces. I've been improving because I force myself into uncomfortable situations. As a result I've gotten to be closer with my coworkers who are cool as shit and I'm much further away from suicide than I was a year and a half ago. You don't need therapy to start your road to getting better. You just have to try even when it sucks.

Arguing with kids in slayer comments is lame, real men argue with djent kids and deftones/soad fans online 💪

Say what you will about the metalhead community but Ride the Lightning is still one of the greatest metal albums of all time.

It makes me happy to see you talking about some of the people I really enjoy on TikTok. Stoked to see more of this content 🤘🏻

This channel is quickly overtaking PRMBA for me.

The expectations vs reality one is so accurate and what you say about that 💯

On the last day of school last year, I passed this kid I didn't know in the hall. We were the only ones around and we were both wearing different Knocked Loose shirts. We made a solid five seconds of eye contact and then just looked away super awkwardly without saying a word to each other

Problem with depression is that, if you have it long enough it becomes ever harder to get out of it. I know that, thanks to the stigma and just general disbelief of people around me when I started to get really depressed, I went around with suicidal thoughts and whatnot for years without treatment. And thanks to depression and anxiety being the norm for so long, it is now the default setting of my brain. The neural pathways are built in such a way that actually changing it is hard fucking work, and every step forwards can easily be met with two steps backwards due to circumstances completely out of my control. Depression brain is weird...

The bandlogo with the straight lines is from an NSBM band. You can see that some lines are thicker, forming a svastika.

Big props to that guys mom for being able discern lyrics from her first listen 🤷‍♀️

I love how this type of videos always and up in Finn parenting metalheads and giving them actual decent advice

I love how you are spitting out truth after truth in this video. Great life lessons man!

"show your scars, not your open wounds" I'm not into inspirationnal quotes but this line is pretty rad.

I’ve always considered myself a “metalhead” because I mostly listen to stuff like WASP, Lizzy Borden, and Dokken, but feel so disconnected when I see these tik toks from actual “metalhead culture”. I guess I’m just a poser, and if that means I don’t fall in line with these people, that’s fine lmao

When it comes to say "I'm going to blast this mainstream metal band that annoys, or scares my neighbors", it really shows their age. I don't correct my dad because of how small it is in the scope of thing, but he and others in his generation are convinced that like Iron Maiden, The big four or even like guns and roses are underground because most radio stations wouldn't play them.

8:40 it's from the movie Waiting... Alana Ubach is the aggro waitress that got pissed at the dishwasher trying to psychoanalyze her. 9:40 is from a 2018 twitter video of a guy at an MMA fight

I really felt what you were saying about depression. About a year ago I also had very severe depression, to the point where I was considering suicide on a daily basis. While I did use humour as a coping mechanism I’ve never understood why my generation (Gen Z) act like it’s completely normal. It wasn’t until I opened up to some close friends about it that I realised how harmful it is to bottle it all up & pretend everything’s ok when it’s not

the song "want somebody to love" was jefferson airplane not janis. good vid , love the channel

I wear band tees from bands that were popular 15 years ago, but still kinda obscure (Secret and Whisper for example), so almost no one ever comes up to me and talks to me about my taste in music, but when they do (once every 2 - 5 years) it's always nice 😅

The song is OG Loko by Of mice and Men, the meme in question comes from some amateur wrestling match and I’m not sure if that was a bit or if he’s extremely into the match and giving honest advice lol

I love coming here and getting a metal discussion and seeing one of my favorite rappers popping up giving you bits. Fucking ouija dude is everywhere

I was a depressed metalhead but never accepted that, I fucking hated every second of it. I was absolutely miserable for most of my 20s but my parents and friends helped me out and my ex basically dragged me to therapy.

Whoaaaaa, what's the Ride the Lightning hate? Very interesting take. Basic entry level or not, it's such a perfect album.

Damn Finn, hate to hear about your depression, but also glad that you're good now. I used to make jokes about self-harm and depression too but it really isn't good to joke about. Real people struggle with real emotions and more times than not we really don't know what someone is really dealing with.

Real talk near the 3/4 time stamp. Big respect for talking about it openly.

Ayo that’s me serotonin metalhead appreciate you brotha 🤣🤘🏽

I don’t like the romanticizing and derrr this is relatable suffering posting of mental illness stuff. Mostly because I legitimately went through hell with mental illness and hard drug addiction and I don’t like making light of it after barely surviving it myself. I literally spent years having so many panic attacks that my life/ family/ future/ friendships were all on the brink of destruction. Then of course I resorted to self medicating and that brought me down to an even lower more depraved place towards the end when I couldn’t find oxy anymore and started mixing meth and heroin. It’s bad news and I don’t like to see it becoming a cutesy internet niche where people identify with their mental illness and “badge of honor” it like you said. Regardless I’m lucky to be alive don’t do drugs kids lol

The band logos 25mins in had me dying 🤣🤣

Lmao you're comment about band merch is so spot on. Never make the mistake of wearing a Lamb of God or Pantera shirt in Texas or the south in general. Ear bearings will continue until morale improves

I wake up just about every day, whether a work day or an off day, depressed af and not wanting to exist, wanting nothing more than to go back to sleep to escape that feeling. The only things that keep me pushing through are my wife, my kids, and metal.

Finn shitting on metallica and the next tiktok he shows the music is, "for who the bell tolls" haha.

Its one thing to say "i have depression" and recognize that its a condition one has to deal with, entirely another to wallow in it.

Finn whispering into the mic is ASMR I never knew I needed.

The band on the far right that is 3rd under the red logo is a dsbm called Xasthur, one my favorite black metal bands

I literally lol’ed cause I’m wearing a Metallica T and ride the lightning is one of my favorites.

I Couldn't imagine someone from the 90s reacting to this shit without hurting themselves or others

As a metal fan I gotta say Metalheads online are HUUUGE HUGE TOOLS They get mad at pop fans for not liking the same shit Its honestly really annoying.

I'm proud you overcame depression man! its a hard dragon to slay! So happy for you. We're both out of the cave. :)

“Once again it’s really brutal.” Video summed up in a sentence 🤘

I didnt expect to have an important life advice from a TikTok react video. This Made me question myself as a metal/hardcore fan and all that im-sociallly-akward thing

Adding memes to metal breakdowns is the greatest thing ever

Sad nobody caught the song at 9:30 - OG Loko Of Mice & Men. Warped tour remix for full effect

The breakdown from the video you were asking about is OG Loko (a reference to the original version of 4 Loko before they took out the energy stuff lol) by Of Mice To Men. And the the video clip is from an MMA fight. And no those guys didn't know each other but the dude in the back was hollering out mad funny crazy shit so dude started recording and even joined in at the end 😂 🤣 .

I literally needed to see this 10 years ago,dang lol

hahaha thank you for the advice bro. i’ve calm down with my drinking now so i’m doing better. that whole video was a joke tho so no stress. thank you my dude 🖤

Im always impressed by how much Finn detests the metalhead community and black metal xD I understand its filled with cringy people (everything is honestly) but the extent of Finns hatred is so entertaining

battle vests' are still a thing? Brings me back to the 80s. I thought jean jackets went out back in the 20th century.

24:51 no truer statement has ever been said, I’m still a collector but I have bigger things to worry about like buying clothes and shit like that, I used to be an addict about it. When I wasn’t collecting or talking about figures I was so unhappy. Even my friends knew it at the time. Finn you are a god!

5 min into the video & you’re alr giving me advice I didn’t know i needed

This video pushed me to join your discord. Amazing content 👏

Where I live, when people know I listen to metal, they always ask the same two questions.... "You listen to loud music? But you don't dress like it?" "So, you are a metalhead? Metallica and stuff like that, right?"

Honestly, the best nights I have out are always the ones where I find a guy with band merch on that I cant read and we start talking about all the different nuances of metal music. But I also live in Montana where metalheads have to find each other and stick close. We're forced to be extroverted lol

proud googler of "Grease Theme Song heavy metal version"

I’d say it’s not that we can’t talk about anything other than metal, it’s just coming across other people that actually love metal too is so rare that it’s refreshing to nerd out on it for a bit. Solid advice for initiating conversations though, we all could afford to get out of our comfort zones now and again

I would never assume it affects us all but if social anxiety is that common in the Metal community but it wouldn’t be the biggest of surprises either. I love getting the chance to see bands live but also embarrassingly admit to dreading the spaces of time in between sets.

That’s why I only wear hardcore band merch because no one else ever knows the band also what you said about your depression is so spot on , I would constantly think about killing myself in the same way you would untill my friends and family finally told me that i need to get help for it because my mood was always terrible due to the fact I was depressed and wanted to kill myself , so I went to the doctor and got on anti depressants and had someone to talk to and it made my life livable again , I hope that kids these days know that if they really are feeling real depression that there is help , also a lot of my ex straight edge friends gave me Terrible advice because they were scared of any prescription drugs but I needed anti depressants idk what else yo say about that but I hope everyone gets the help they need

12:23 super true, there is literally like 1 metalhead in my whole school of 2k kids that i know. hes also a shoprite cashier and was ringing me up when he awkwardly complimented the napalm death logo in my phone case. that was like a month ago and i still think about it daily lololololol

I like to confuse people by wearing a metal shirt to a show like Thrice. Or a New Found Glory shirt to a metal show.

I’m so glad to hear someone else praise Alex Shellnut the way I do. One of my all time favorite drummers

“tHeYRe nOT t0Yz! There Figurines!”

That whole bit about power metal had me dying lol

Okay hearing that you feel similar things, like that repetitive SI, to what I have experienced is really cool and validating.

I'm so glad there are other people that do the caveman voice for typos like that lol

Being a wild and crazy kid and somehow surviving the late 80s and early 90s plus a lot of horrible questionable choices made me normal lol \m/

My first job where I interacted with someone in a position of authority who was into a more extreme music genre was the chef at the first bussing job I ever had. He realized I was interested in hardcore punk and immediately took me to the restaurant in the lower level of the hotel below us and introduced me to the chef there, Jimmy Gestapo from Murphy's Law. NYC is simultaneously a huge and really tiny city. I remember sitting in the coffee and espresso prep area gossiping about the Harley Flanagan stabbing incident while sneaking hotel happy hour sangria.

Great advice Finn thank you so much

“He doesn’t wanna talk about Carcass anymore” 🤣🤣

Tax accountant who listens to metal here - I also talk about taxes 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

the twist the dick part reminded me of that guy who yelled mash potatoes at a golf event.

Somebody to love is most definitely a Jefferson Airplane song

The fact that there is a disclaimer to use your own name killed me 😂

I got super into metal cause it felt like I was finding new bands all the time and that made me feel special, until I discovered every genre is just a search away now a day's.