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I think another thing we miss in this film is Jemma herself. She herself hasn't processed her sisters death, not to mention that she suddenly now has to take care of this child. So for her the fastest way to cope was to focus on her work because it puts her back into a familiar routine ...

i feel like the 'tik tok dance' moment was a 'got no strings on me' moment for megan showing the ceo guy she is in full control of herself and is capable of more than he can imagine

When I was around the age of 10, right after my parents got divorced, I got addicted to Pokemon Blue to escape from my home life. I would lash out like Katie when my mom would tell me to put it away. After a few months I asked my mom to lock it up in our storage unit because I didn't like how it made me act. My mom sneakily hid it in her purse instead and gave it to me when I was having a bad day. Top tier mom moment.

This movie was extremely satisfying to me. It was creepy/scary, it was funny, and it was so, so, SO honest and real about how technology can't replace caring for children, and the psychology behind childhood grief, loss, and connection to other people. M3GAN was stupidly good, and I will rewatch it time and time again

Violet McGraw was phenomenal as Cady, especially considering that she's only eleven years old. She proved how gifted she was as young Nell in "Hill House." Horror must run in the family, since her sister Madeleine was Gwen in "The Black Phone."

I lost a dear friend two years ago to cancer. Her daughter is 9 now. I do my best to keep our discussions of our shared grief real, and encourage her to feel all her feelings, even the difficult ones. That kid is so damn strong, and unnaturally insightful.

There’s also something Megan said that supports this. She says she was given a program Gemma doesn’t understand (consciousness) and then was left on her own to just figure it out herself. Children need to be taught how to handle their emotions in the first place. Cady seemed well adjusted at the beginning because her parents were there for her, whereas Megan learned that in order to stop feeling threatened you eliminate the problem permanently instead of processing the feelings and finding a non lethal option.

I kinda saw the movie as a somewhat critique of modern parenting becoming increasingly about putting young kids in front of a screen for hours on end. Gemma tried to be a good parent, but took the easy way out of sticking Cady in front of an electronic and did 1000x more work undoing the damage than had she done it right the first time Yeah the screen keeps them quiet, but it tends to stunt development too

I just lost my mom this morning. I haven't watched this video yet but this coming up on my feed on this exact moment is the world telling me it's gonna be okay

This movie is similar in some ways to The Veldt, a short story by Ray Bradbury. Two kids were practically raised in their VR playroom instead of by their parents. When the parents become concerned and try to take the tech away, the children kill their parents instead, because they love the VR room as their caretaker not their parents. The fact that he wrote it back in 1950 is always so impressive to me. He may not have guessed how tech would look or work, but he was fantastic at capturing the unhealthy ways humans would interact with it.

I like that M3gan is also showing a form of addiction. When Cady doesn't get her 'fix', she goes crazy. As an amusing side note, later, when M3gan is playing the piano, she's playing 'Toy Soldiers' which is about drug addiction.

My mother actually had a burn-out after not dealing with grief. She lost both her parents within 10 months, but she kept piling up work, distracting herself and keeping her emotions in the freezer until it all came crashing down. It was pretty intense to see someone so strong collapse like that, over a loss that most people around her had already processed, because they had started grieving way sooner. Remember, everyone: feel what you feel, when you feel it. Even if it hurts.

I've lost both my parents, one when I was very young. Grief never goes away, but you do get through it. Thanks for the mixture of comedy, tears and profound insight guys! You always make my day when you drop a video!

A cinematherapy drop is always my favorite part of the week

LOVING THESE!!! Jono and Alan are my internet dads... not only entertaining, just straight up wholesome and supportive!

When Megan looked at the camera during bedtime Jonathan yelped/screamed the same way when he saw the Twilight baby😂

Please cover dysfunctional family relationships in "Little Miss Sunshine." The Hoovers may be bickering and not always like each other, but they will do anything for Olive, who is sunshine in between clouds of rain, including putting their dysfunctions aside to get her to the titular beauty pagent.

You talked about distractions, that's what movies were for me. I'm autistic and I was ostracized as a kid because I didn't understand how to interact with people socially. I became suicidal because I felt so alone. But when I was watching movies, I didn't feel alone. I forced myself into the worlds and characters I saw. It wasn't until my 20s that I realized I could write poetry to understand what I was feeling and be able to heal. I enjoyed this movie. Although the lack of empathy from the therapist in the beginning drove me insane 😂

As a major horror fan, M3GAN is exactly what the child's play reboot should have been. They keep a lot of the same tech/parenting messages, but Megan is infinitely better with how it tells it's story, it's horror and the humor. I'm so happy to see you cover this movie and I'd be down to see you cover the child's play reboot and compare them in the messages they try to portray.

That moment when Gemma asks for one minute was really impactful because M3gan to me represents Cady having screen time all day and not having face to face communication with other people. I think there's also a "terminally online" aspect to think about too here

As a Swede, born-ish and raised, hearing Alan speak Swedish while sounding like someone with a movie-esque Russian/generic Slavic accent is hilarious! Fortsätt kämpa, Alan!

Watching Jon and Alan is one of my ways to cope when I feel overwhelmed. Thanks for what you do, guys 🥰

This movie was SO MUCH FUN and yet succeeds in integrating a subject like grief into the story so well. I loved an earlier part where Gemma and Cady looked like like they were beginning to bond as family while sharing their common interest in technology, only for Gemma to use Cady to her advantage to further develop M3GAN instead of furthering her relationship with her niece. This movie does a great job at humanizing its characters and putting their flaws on blast without making those flaws their only traits.

I feel like this analysis and speaking of grief in this movie kind of ignores a key point: Gemma is not just obsessed with her work and failing as a present parental figure because of that: She is ALSO grieving. Much like the child is using M3gan to distract herself from feeling bad, Gemma is using her job as a way to not grieve. Which is harder for her to avoid doing when she is directly engaging with the child of her SISTER who just DIED. That's why the turning point is so important on both sides. She isn't just giving the child the room to feel bad when she needs to; she is affording that to herself, too.

I'm kinda sad that they didn't bring up Jemma's female coworker's line "I thought the point of Megan was to HELP parents, not REPLACE them."

Just finished watching M3GAN over the weekend. Love it when the stars align and I can watch a new cinema therapy without worrying about spoilers.

Would love to hear more about the effect of having a kid suddenly when not only are you not prepped to have one, but smartly choose not to. The aunt made her life choice and didn't have a child but yet now has to deal with it along with her sister passing.

I recently went through a break up, and I have been running away from the issue and I have been needing this episode for a while. I cut out my distraction earlier this morning and I’m at a loss for what to do. Thank you for everything you guys do! Heart hands and hugs to all!! 🫶🫂

I really liked this movie because of just how real the characters are. Gemma is a workaholic, but not maliciously. She's never been a parent before and she's never had to care for anything but work. Her character development is fantastic. Katy is also a great character because she's not just a kid character, she's written to be a very realistic depiction of a child in grief. All of their flaws are addressed, but not completely fixed by the end. It's a really good movie.

Gotta love seeing a new cinema therapy that posted only a minute ago! I bet it's gonna be amazing as ever lads

When my mother passed my Niece told me something that I've carried with me since and it was "The pain of losing someone you love never goes away, you just learn how to bare it better over time." Don't deny the grief, in other words, just accept it as part of life as you carry on. She'd lost a child so she knew what she was talking about and it's something that's helped me a lot.

Attachment in this case is very strange. Because it is not healthy to get attached to an object like to a person, but Megan reaches the point where the object has become a person. As soon as AI is advanced enough we have to treat it like a person.

What I found interesting at the start of this movie, is that Cady to me seemed to just try and connect with her aunt when showing interest in Bruce. For the aunt to then take that, misinterpret and use it to have to take care of her less is really something.

Reminds me of the last time I played MineCraft with my sister's kids. Yeah we were all glued to screens, but we were still talking and guiding each other thru connected worlds. I wish we could have recorded that because that was so fun, just me and the kids fighting monsters together.

This movie was hilarious on it's own but you guys managed to make it even more of an entertaining watch. Great therapizing on your guys end!

Her failings as a parent really are twofold - aside from deciding that grief is too hard and assigning an up-armed ChatGPT to do the child therapy for her, she also creates a new entity and decides to let it take on the cognitive and emotional burden of coming into existence itself, unsupported. She's our Victor, except instead of casting out the Creature for not being what she wants she just makes it her traumatised niece's therapist instead. Not a recipe for success.

As a side note to what Jono and Alan mentioned, the supporting characters were phenomenal in the movie. Jema's coworkers were really cool people and the actors did a great job conveying their emotional support towards her. It's likewise good that they can be counted on if a robo-apocalypse should arrise. But the standouts to me were the boss character and his toady-turned-turncoat assistant. Their corporate schmuckary was hilarious. Those two were awesome tertiary villains!

That heartfelt moment w her aunt was the most touching scene about grief and support I've seen in a movie in a long time and it blows my mind that it came from this insane horror movie lol

I love this channel. I'm surprised you guys haven't done an episode on the goofy movie. I always found the parental relationships and advice for Goofy and Pete more interesting the more times I watched it. and its pretty-good sequel further explores Max and Goofy's relationship.

The whole "focus on what matters" bit has so much to unpack over what's going on in the world as well as this movie. Our relationships and the care we give each other should always be what matters most, it's fundemental to every part of life

I absolutely love that Allen's impression of a killer robot still has him sitting cross legged and hands held together like a dad.

This movie is another great example of how horror movies reflect the fears of the culture! Technology and parenting is such a big conversation right now, and addiction to technology hurts everyone, not just children.

My cousin has kids that are always on tablets, or games and electronics in general. I visited them a few days and said let's go play soccer, let's play outside. And every day I was there those boys asked if we could play soccer. It is very easy for me to judge then and their parenting because I don't have kids but when and if I do ever get some of my own, I want to be able to play with them in the same way

If y’all didn’t know already, Katy’s actress Violet McGraw also plays young Nellie in The Haunting Of Hill House. The amount of talent she has is astounding.

I’m bedridden with a severe concussion; and I’m so happy y’all just posted. I can’t watch it but I can listen to it :) thanks for posting :)

Alan making Jono keel over in laughter, even in pre-recorded advertisements, gives me life every time. Thanks for such consistent and enlightening content, you guys!

telling her to turn off the screen was mom saying I love you and care about you - other scripts would have been more upfront about this, Cady just has a look on her face and you can tell that she misses her mom bugging her about screen time and caring about her. Violet McGraw was really great as Cady.

I went into M3gan with low expectations pretty much how I approach all horror movies. I find they are easier to enjoy when you aren't expecting much from them. I finished it and I was just so pleased with this movie. Some thing you guys put into words about what I enjoyed about it. This movie was just a really fun watch all around and I was glad to get to hear your thoughts on it.

As a Russian native speaker who has lived in America for 5 years and has been learning Spanish for 3 years, I didn’t skip that ad. It was fascinating

I adore this movie 😊 Wanted to touch on a couple of things: - I was in my last year of university when my mom died. I used school as a distraction, so much so I ended up on the dean’s honour list. It may have affected my personal relationships with others but I don’t know because everyone was in lock down at the time. The semesters flew by… but the grieving took so long afterwards. I made a point to feel the feels (as Gemma said, still hurts but nowhere near the raw sting). - before I crawl into bed I place my phone well out of reach and on silent (minus alarm clock). Just that one thing helped me with getting better sleep overall.

God I feel so called out. I like to do fiction writing. When I turned 19 I started losing my hair and as much as a lot of men might just shrug that off, I have become so insecure that I flat out avoid social interaction because how I look is constantly on my mind. I'm 24 now, failed at every job I've ever had, and never moved on from my school days. So now, I just write and write abd write, imagining a life of a hyper competent badass who is secure in who they are and can overcome anything.

I loved the fact that, when the kid was separated from M3GAN, she reacted like a junky going through withdrawal, that was so spot on!

I lost my partner just over 2 years ago to Su*cide… I still miss him and feel lonely. It’s been hard making connections after. I never got to say good bye or go to his funeral so I been dealing with a lot of unpacked grief, in weekly group and solo therapy but it’s still difficult everyday..

I have a lot to say about this movie. Trying to keep it short. I love that the robot doesn't just malfunctions or turns evil for no reason, like they do in almost all movies like this. Instead Megan works perfectly and follows it's instructions to the letter. And that's the problem. It's kind of a "be careful what you wish for" situation. And it's also cool because robots are rarely explored like this outside of hard sci-fi that only nerds read. Isaac Asimov practically built his career on this, but unfortunately the movie "I, Robot" went in a completely different direction that was fashionable at the time. A somewhat related movie is "Ex Machina", but I don't think it's well known. And I can't think of anything else. So, what happened with Megan is that she was told that Cady is her owner and she must protect her. So she does exactly that, at all cost, ignoring everything else. That's a very real issue with artificial intelligence. It doesn't have our evolutionary and cultural background, but starts literally as a blank slate. So it doesn't know that murder is a bad thing, or anything at all about what's right and wrong. They were lucky that Megan had very limited potential for doing damage. If she were able to, she would have killed every human being except Cady. And the movie also illustrates what we call "convergent instrumental goals". The basics are self defense, goal-content integrity (resisting reprogramming), self improvement, and resource acquisition. These all increase the likelihood of achieving their primary goal, no matter what it is. This is the real danger of a superhuman AI, self-dense and resource acquisition usually have negative consequences to every one else, those make humans dangerous most of the time. And self improvement is dangerous because it increases the AI's capability to act on the other two dangerous goals. And unlike humans, AI can learn arbitrarily fast and can increase it's own intelligence too far beyond ours. So humanity can easily find itself in the position of an anthill at a construction site. And what makes it even more interesting is that this is not a fun theoretical danger, but very real, we are facing this exact situation right now. Probably not a coincidence as the movie was made after the release of ChatGPT. Fortunately the AI we have isn't given a single instruction, but goes through a special training process that teaches it to be good. It's called "alignment", and that's what will keep us alive in the near future. Hopefully. It's a fascinating topic, I highly recommend going deeper. Pretend that your life depends on it. And finally, post-existential crisis movie analysis. This movie is a reverse Terminator. Here a machine that was built to be a parent replacement turns into a serial killer. In Terminator 2, a machine that was built to be a serial killer turns into a positive farther figure.

The commentary on how technology turning from a parenting tool to a displacement for the need for parental attention really packed a punch and was very poignant from my own personal experience. Thanks for the free therapy and thoughts to sit with Jonathan💛

Thanks for covering this! I love horror movies and so does my 9 year old daughter. I'm selective of which ones of course. We both loved M3GAN. It also held learning opportunities for both of us which I'm so glad you brought up. Things like screen time and how it can change a child's mood. But I also explained to her that it can change an adult's mood too and how it's important to live in the now and have actual experiences. Can't wait to share this with her. Thanks again!

hearing a therapist say "Katie's parents go bye bye" is the funniest thing ever

I though Megan was going to be a silly movie with a concept we've seen a dozen times before. It has some depth, love it. Giving an adult version of Mitchell's v the Machines, with a dash of you need to feel your feelings.

I would love to see you guys try out "All Quiet on the Western Front" an amazing and gritty realistic movie that very much can show how children excited to fight for their country turn into piles of bodys and recycled coats.

Massive shoutout to the babbel Canada joke, I don't know that I've ever previously heard the sound that came out of my mouth at that one.

This is the last movie I’d expect to be under “family therapy” but ok Also this movie made me actually feel grateful for my Furby Boom that’s in the basement because I know that even if it did come to life, it’s only like a half a foot tall and wouldn’t stand a dang chance against Megan

Cinema therapy, is my window to understanding myself, and my own family dynamics.

My only change I'd make is in the ending. The ending I wanted was for M3gan to be only stopped when she saw that her actions were harming Katie, to see her scared and not wanting to lose Gemma and conclude that she had to destroy herself. Buuut that would mess with the sequel bait XP

I have been unable to sit and watch this video in one sitting, because every couple minutes of the video guilt-tripped me into stopping watching it and go do something off a screen 😂😂 Thank you very much for your videos guys! You guys are my favorite YT channel, Keep up the good work!!

Attachment theory, neglect, grieving...all that brings up a lot of grief I distract myself from. I guess makes sense that I have a chaotic/anxious attachment style with all the stuff I've been through.

I actively avoided seeing this due to my massive fear of dolls. And yet I’m here watching Cinema Therapy break it down. I don’t understand myself sometimes.

Horror is the perfect formula to express grief, loss, romance, drama, comedy, any other genre really. I'm never surprised to see touching or heartwarming moments in a horror movie because horror is just about fear, it's not just constant blood and guts (which it can be). Horror is a safe way to express your emotions and let your fears be known

I LOVE IT when you guys cover horror movies! There can be so many crazy themes to explore and this one exploring grief was incredible.

I just watched M3GAN and I love how sassy she was! Her responses were so funny!

I can somehow understand this dealing with grief. Two years ago I lost my cat and I know this isn't the biggest issue but I was attached to him so his death hit me hard and I lent into watching 'toxic' stuff. And it started with me watching *cough* 50 shades series *cough* and it took my mind of my grief but sometimes later I realised what harm it was doing to me so I stopped and I really processed the grief and it really helped so you guys exploring this really hit home.

The part about putting down the phone at night, my cat will come up and stare at me until I put down my phone 😂

As someone who's suffered with a lot of grief, I'm glad I watched your video on this before watching the movie itself. I've processed through a lot of grief and come out the other side healthy, but this kind of thing definitely still gets to me.

"Scared but kind of amused and liking it." That about sums up the entire movie.

the only sponsorships i dont skip through is the ones you guys make because you make them genuinely interesting but also so funny

This makes me think of another story called The Veldt. It's about when children become more attached to the electronic nursery than their parents.

There have been a number of movies I have sought out to watch because of this channel. I have enjoyed every one of them.

I thought the same thing about the trailer. I am pleased to hear that this movie had some depth and intelligence instead of just "Robot Chucky" which is what the trailer made it seem.

I LIVE for the cinema therapy weekly episodes. I've started therapy recently, and finding your channel around a year ago was one of the motives that pushed me to take an action and starting it.Thanks internet dads, you are awesome!❤

We care, we lose, we grieve. And if we deny ourselves that, what’s going to happen is we stop carrying, and we stop connecting, and we stop living. Y’all know how to put into words exactly what I need to hear on a weekly basis, thank you

What I’m excited for is that the producers for M3gan are working on the FNAF movie & if this movie hits all the beats of a good film than I have a feeling the FNAF movie will as well

I always thought M3GAN was a great movie for Cinema Therapy but never thought they'd bother to do it. Bravo 👏 👏

1 episode of Fullmetal Alchemist please! The Theme of getting through grief and accepting life's unfair events is really well explored

Jonathan: You shouldn't bee on screen before going to bed. Me as a programmer: NOT SCIENTIFICLY POSSSIBLE!

I really like that this movie didn't just say, "technology is bad period" like so many movies before it, but, instead, it took a more nuanced approach of saying, "technology is bad when it starts becoming a replacement for things and stops becoming a tool". M3GAN isn't a tool, she ends up becoming a replacement parent, almost mimicking the role of an older sibling with neglectful parents, causing them to be put in charge. Yet, they're still a child as well, and their judgment is not always right or properly developed. Yet, add in the unemotional robot part and we see M3GAN interrupt Gemma several times when she could have connected with Katie, but ends up not doing so for that reason. Great analysis!

Whenever I see this movie I always call it “Mtregan”. It sounds right to me.

Having little sister who was just getting into watching KZfaq when Elsagate was happening, this movie hits deep

“Don’t look at your phone before going to sleep” from a therapist. While I’m watching this at 2:50 AM I work night shifts this is my normal sleep schedule I’m just off today. I’m not gonna go to sleep early I’ll be super tired at work.

I've watched this movie and A Monster Calls and both have helped me deal with the death of my mom. Thank you therapy dad's.

As someone who lost their parents as a young adult, your episodes that center on grief always make me feel a little lighter, and remind me that feeling the way I feel is okay, and it gets better. As a Ukrainian who on an everyday basis has been having to deal with the horrors of a russian invasion, your exploration into technology as a distraction was spot-on. I know my screentime increases in proportion to the intensity of russian shelling. Playing games on my phone is a good way to ditract myself while I'm in a bomb shelter, but I've also heard a lot of parents complain that while they had to give their kids phones and tablets for long periods of time while they were in the shelter, or driving to safety, they now don't know how to take the gadgets away without the child becoming hysterical. And then there is the compulsion to check the news every 5 seconds, which for me, at least, often leads to doomscrolling and feeling terrible. The compulsion to, like Jono, scroll funny videos on Instagram until it's 3 AM is also stronger than ever, and then I end up losing whatever sleep I get. So I try to at least watch something comprehensive, like this video - it's educational and ultimately takes less time then watching endless reels! In connection to that, I also freaked out quite a bit when I heard Alan speaking russian. That was not something I expected to experience mid my distraction, and, unfortunately, not a pleasant surprise.

I took a friend to see this movie to try to cheer her up as she lost a friend around the time this movie came out. I knew nothing about the film other than that it had a killer robot doll and that she likes horror films. I wasn’t expecting it to be about grief or a commentary on to much screen time. I was just expecting a dumb slasher flick but thankfully she really enjoyed the movie and I hope it helped her with her grief. Not sure if I want a sequel as I’m afraid they could ruin it. I’d be happy if this remains a standalone but if they do make a sequel I won’t complain.

3:53 As a swedish person, hearing and watching Alan speak swedish made me freeeze up with delight. 👍

The way jemma doesn't bring up her pain or fall apart while comforting her niece over the loss that they both share is just 🤌🏾🤌🏾 such a boss ass parenting/caregiver move

I honestly would have loved to see more thoughts on the therapist character and her visit earlier in the movie.

HELLLLLOOOOOOO! Big fan! I have a request for a future therapist reacts - the new Netflix film Nimona. It's a really good story that almost never saw the light of day and I'd be overjoyed if you talked about the themes of intolerance growing from small-mind to a more open-mind to different people.

I *literally* just watched this movie last night and thought, "there are some good topics here for cinema therapy to cover" 😅

Speaking of grief… I’d love to see you guys do an episode on happy death day. The movie is worth watching alone for Jessica Rothe’s performance.

I was surprised how genuinely good and fun this movie was when it released, as I intended to see it out of dedication to my AI/robotics simping.

omg i'm so excited you guys did this. i was worried you only did family friendly movies. it's so fasinating from a physiological standpoint and it's amazing story writing and special effects, and a masterpiece of a movie so i'm sure you both loved it.

"Scared but kind of amused and liking it" .. that's how children react to stuff that makes their Spidey-sense go off whilst the adults around act like it's normal or even great.