The way you consistently post the full thread, u should not be apologizing, currently Braiding my hair, great pass time 😂

This is one of the best reddit stories everrrrrr! Glad that the OP finally has some peace.

Update us for Dan!

This was the very first Reddit video I watch, you started an obsession, thank you!

Dude how your can speak so much!? I cant even speak correct

lol yeah when you think about it always took the insults and kept helping the shunned and when the very same people that insulted it needed it it selflessly allowed them hospice

​@@fanunitmk8dx177that camper is the jesus of campers.

Real ​@@khaleesireyna731

Maybe the actual camper is the friends we made along the way

Ngl, this would make a very good short film commercial for a camper van (Thai movie style)

Being on call when he desperately needed money and was bored out of his mind beforehand is pretty good

@Louis_2568 I wasn't saying it wasn't a good deal, I was just pointing out that small almost catch to the agreement. I would have happily taken the deal to had I been in OPs situation. A safe space to sleep, all the hours I want and the ability to save for a permanent house. It's just some people may not see being on call 24/7 would be worth it

@@carebear-fox I was agreeing with you

@@Louis_2568that actually sounds amazing when u put it that way

He's the true MVP of this entire story.

Truly, the hero we deserved.

i bursted out laughing and farted at that lmaoo

What’s funny is if they weren’t so obvious in that they broke in, the cops would have potentially had to tell him that he’d need to sue them out, as squatters are a civil matter. But with how obvious it was they broke in to do that, and how they right in front of the cops (who likely had bodycams) showed how fraudulent they were, yeah, B&E and no chance of ever trying it again better convincingly

i unironicly said destruction of evidence thats another charge

@@fitkamgummy 😂😂

sil means sister in law lol

sil means sister in law lmao

@@AuloraRavenno they mean like bitch or hoe egero “bad name”

@@youshould4509they mean like bitch or hoe ergo “bad name”

Sil means sister in law lol lmao

I disowned my father 20 years ago because he moved me and his gold digger girlfriend and her two kids in together. He gave me a room just big enough to fit a twin size bed in and a dresser. I still treated her two boys, who were only 10, 11 and me being 20 my father's youngest, like they were my little brothers. I took them out to play baseball, football, rollerblading and so on. But their mother bad mouthed me being a bad influence because all I did was sit on my computer all day (despite working 40 hours and having paid off one of my father's cars, paid it's insurance and installed remote starters in both) but all she did was lounge around all day drinking and popping pills. The last straw was when he threatened to kick me out if I didn't buy "the car" off him for the remaining 8,000$ of my inheritance from my grandmother. I had thought he meant the car I had paid off and signed the pink slip in anger and paid him as I started looking for a new place. It wasn't till the next day when I couldn't find my keys that I noticed he had left the keys for her beater of a town car. Looked at the title I had signed and it was for that pos. I told him to go fuck himself and his gold digging girlfriend and took my computer and few things and drove down from near the Maine boarder to Boston were a friend lived... found out how much the car was because it was sputtering and having issues. Pulled into a mechanic shop and the guy did a quick look and showed me the cracked engine block, it needed a whole new engine. It thankfully got me to my friend's place. (still ended up homeless because his roommate tried blackmailing me into paying his rent.)

😂😂😂😂

​@@SilvaDreamshope all is well with you family can be the worst

It's more like: you still haven't disowned me yet?

@@SilvaDreams, what happened to your step brothers?

People can be so stupid!

Yep. Mckinney-Vento Act would count them as homeless.

lol

Imagine giving this story to chat gpt and then having it draw all the characters!

So true

and he did it with a king

​@@Nezumi_YasuI thought the kings couldn't be 1 next to another they have to be 1 square apart

@@storm3940 you can. if the ither person messes up. And that's what Dan did. he put his king next to Ops

@@Nezumi_Yasu Oh

And redemption arc of OPs family

@@djtrac3r935yup

It's bullshit too. He was treated like shit before SIL came into the picture. They would still be treating him like shit if he hadn't destroyed their reputation. They're still shit people, but now it makes more sense to suck up to OP rather than shit on him, and if they didn't have a SIL scapecoat.

It’s kinda good how he tried to grow and change as a person, possibly for the sake of his kids

The Dan Redemption Arc was my favorite. I kinda liked Dan (or at least who he could've been) from the beginning because it seemed like he was gaslit into bullying OP by the parents and then he married The Main Villian and got manipulated even more and I was just hoping he saw the light and turned to OPs side bro. Like he seemed more of the conduit of OP's trauma and less the Master Mind behind it.

I didn't even realise it was an hour long...

Same

Fr but if it is true then he can give me their address and I'll take my violin to play a sad song🤣

Exactly, sometimes a good story is better than a true one

true

There was many moments where I thought he would make them feel even worse or do anything to make their situations worse as a measure of revenge, but he really didn't or did at all

Those kids been through the ringer bro. Definitely the 7 yo cause damn imagine seeing how unhinged your mother actually is and that the mom you adored turned out to be a MONSTER!

I feel glad the three children aren't approached by their mother anymore, though I do feel bad for the fourth.... (I mean, it wasn't a baby's fault for being born between a messed-up narcissist and a guy that dumped her)

bright side, the others probably too young to really remember much of this

​@@ethanpowell2725 No. You remember things way, waay younger with that kind of abuse. At 7yo, you could remember how it's an ongoing thing that fucks you up inside and outside.

Certain things you genuinely cannot forget, what those kids went through? They'll remember for years. Hell this whole story is (supposedly) being told by a guy that was neglected as a kid and vividly remembers what he went through​@@ethanpowell2725

What ended up happening to him and the truth that came to light was arguably worse.

After getting to the end of this video, I'd say he's been punished enough and came out as a much better person.

Link??​@@KilroyWasHere83

The only ones that compare are the"Crazy Aunt," "Faux HOA Lady," and the "My Sister Kelly" sagas. The HOA lady one was so long I'd been using it for background noise until it finally caught my attention and Holy Cow! That ended up being a Federal case and when the FED DA asked the OP what started all this, he said, "She yelled at my wife." OP said DA laughed uproariously for 5 minutes straight.

True DO IT FOR DAN !!

But idiots are people who act dumber than they actually are

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"Some people might not believe." this I'm watching this because I'm bored 💀 💀 💀

This. Idc if this is true or not, as long as it's a good story, it's worth watching already.

you might not believe it bu I'm watching this to waste time💀💀💀💀 🗿🗿

@@reipriezacanoneo1722 fr 💀

He would be a billionaire.

@@NancyNanavati Trillionaire.

if he simply got a small coin made of plastic that is hollow worth 0.0024678 cents he would be a quintillionare

He would have enough money to buy a whole universe

He would have enough money to create his own universe

Hello and I agree I just finished this

Prince Vegeta

Hilarious!!!

Hilariously crazy

That’s not a roast, that’s a Volcano Eruption!

Thats rather a legit concern and could be filed as child abuse. Alcohol during pregnancy leads to poor brain development and I don't think that in infancy this issue is any less concerning.

Typical behavior of a woman like SIL, wants to be treated like the virgin Mary because she's a MOMMMMMY, but drops those kids like a bag of snakes as soon as she "finds something better." I've seen this happen too many times.

Nah 💀

😭😭

“get him into office (because he deserves it more than the other guy)”

Get him to office cos he needs work 😂

Get him into the white house for him and his kids

I feel it was in large part that he didn't want to feel responsible for a drunk hit&run, + that he had realized he weren't using the camper and just letting it sit and go derelict while also actually still caring for those kids. Don't think it was much for dan's sake.

​@@feha92on the off chance i sound insane i went through some crazy shit with family myself i am legitimately surprised how op did not feel the literal urge to kill him then and there, not saying there should have been any chance of it happening but i myself would be so done with these people i would have jailed all of them on the basis of assault battery harassment breaking and entering and sue for emotional damages and wasting my damn time, i feel very strongly that "family" are people that make you feel safe and cared for, not whatever troglodyte raised you. i wholeheartedly believe op would have been significantly happier had he distanced himself completely from his family emotionally and chalked it up to it literally being their fault.

​​@@Arxgxmii guess some people are different than others. OP feels like someone who values attachment more than others, as he said in the story about not being able to easily leave their town. He may have a subconscious feeling that cutting them off completely is not good for his mental health.

@@supesulgi yeah i don't think i can ever understand that, everyone has their limits and this should be past most people's IMO, even if you value attachment a lot you can just form new bonds decently fast, as opposed to trying to make something work with people that made it impossible to work things out for well over a decade. i just really don't get how burdening yourself with a family that never valued you like this could lead to any amount of fulfillment or happiness.

W boss

W boss

W boss

W boss (Continue the chain!!!)

W boss

OP knows the most Divine of Knowledge: Being an ass to people wanting to change just makes you an even bigger ass. He was also thinking of Dan's kid.

It was satisfying to hear Dan go through a Thorfinn level arc and do a complete 180 to the person he was. 11/10 story, even if it’s probably fake

@@Chadius_Thundercock I actually believe it. The very disparate (in time) updates, alongside nothing going exactly in his favour as a matter of course when OP had been relying on that being the case (like some stories have revenge-plots that _need_ components of them to go _just_ right), does make it rather plausible. Add to that how OP was mainly reactionary and the story felt consistent, too. Granted, there were portions that felt somewhat embellished/biased (like his accounts of how horrid they had been to him as a kid), but that is honestly to be expected (and kinda made it seem more likely someone's actual account of events). And even those things are stuff I have knowledge actually _do_ happen irl at times, so might not [biased]. The main issue I have making it seem like it might be fake, is the extreme the family went to when they broke into his house and such (even forging fake documents - which btw any competent cop would bag as possible evidence). Hard to see how they could think they would get away with it, what they actually hoped to achieve, and how parents able to try and do that could then expect him to ever reconciliate. But ppl do do stupid shit irl, and making attempts/hoping is free

@@feha92 what makes it sound super fake is the multiple times posts of people on the story or accounts are private, deleted, “oh I don’t have cameras to show the video” then later on he says he got cameras but doesn’t upload the videos, doesn’t specify what state he lives in, no photos, there’s way too many coincidences for it to be real

​@@Chadius_Thundercockvideos and pictures weren't shown for privacy reasons, same with no description of state.

Yeah, this story is not only believable but also common too. And the most common "character" in the whole story is SIL. The girl that finishes college but then realizes she never wanted to work, tries getting a traditional role but then off shores all of her work load to older generation around kids while still spending money, and especially popping out kids every few years to keep out of work is so common. It's actually so common that it's basically an archetype of a character, instead of "one off", and I personally know few of them. It's really sad when people don't know what they want in life and then end up pulling everyone down with them. If she honestly strived for being a good stay at home mom and used all those years she wasted on college to acquire cooking/cleaning skills and then set out to find a guy who wanted 4-5 kids and such wife, she could've had happy life and make someone's life equally happy. Instead she spent those years acquiring worthless degree she won't use and more horrendously, a lot of ego about it. A lot of people do this and it always results in overall unhappiness around them.

One of the most relieving and depressing things I found out thanks to the internet was the shit I went through wasn't unique and was actually disgustingly common.

because reddit "true stories" are creative writing exercises for ragebaiting at this point, and writing believable fiction is the goal for such a purpose. Characters are archetypal, story follows a perfect arc, with character development and plot twists, happy endings, and most importantly regular updates. The story even opens by addressing the veracity of itself, and keeps insisting it isn't 10 copypasta reddit posts glued together. It could even be inspired by real world events, but it doesn't take Sherlock Holmes to figure this out.

​​​​@@MrMrtvozornik getting angry towards a stereotyped fictional character archetype lol. Good old misoginy ragebait reliable as always. Nothing gets the blood of early 20s incels boiling like the portrayal of evil women. Raging foaming at the mouth so much it's dripping down the neckbeard. *chefs kiss* perfection

1. You're white knighting way too hard, watch your back, they might break under all the pressure. 2. It's not fiction because I even said I saw it far too many times, and one's already too many. 3. Work on your profiling, cause early 20s incel is way off. You got gender right, pretty much nothing else, your profiling sucks ass. And by the way, getting angry at the archetype is precisely what people should do, and normal people do. Hate the sin, not the sinner is also "getting angry towards the archetype". Archetypes is what you build your world view, morals, ideals etc. But you wouldn't know anything about that, since you're parading on the YT defending undefendable people. I could ad hominem you with classic "I hope you grow out of this phase typical for 16-20 year olds" but I won't stoop down to your level of debasement, cause unlike you, when I do talk about a profile or archetype, I don't pull stuff out of my ass. @@professorfrog7181

Yep. I see way too many moral justice keyboard warriors painting everything in such broad black and white strokes here and on Reddit that I have to hazard a guess most of those commenting haven't dealt with many people IRL. Rarely are things as clear cut as we'd hope they'd be and instead we have to play the cards we've been dealt the best way we can. People may despise Dan in perpetuity (because those people actually can't let go of personal grievances for some reason), but I very much like hearing about how a person like Dan can actually take the time to self reflect and learn from his mistakes. They say time heals all wounds, but without putting in any effort to make sure that healing continues what's the point?

I just hope Dan is like: oh wait I’m actually a spoilt favourite child who wants to take my brothers house by legal and illegal means maybeeee this is unfaiirrr

Don’t hold your breath…

I think to a degree there was a redemption arc, just the willingness to go live in a camper like OP in order to do better for his son shows huge strides in his attitude and how he thinks about himself. Granted, it took being humbled by a cheating wife, which is always sad...

It was fun, how at the end, OP was basically just the narrator, while we followed a villain protagonist, it was pretty cool.

He sure was merciful

Idk like 95% of this could have been avoided if OP stopped being a doormat. wouldn't call it inspiring as much as I would call it naive

​@@Hanzo1 Tf kind of perspective is this? He was always silenced by his parents whenever he tried to say something even so as to moving as far away from family to keep up that behavior.

​@@Ratio429fella, that's exactly what a doormat does. Do you even know what a doormat does? Retiring back when faced with opposition instead of confronting it fearlessly

@@seige8621 You do realize they are his parents right? What are you implying what he should have done? What would you have done?

@@Hanzo1 he’s been the opposite of a doormat for the whole story, unless you mean when he was a literal child

It's nice to get both a recap and an update all in one for one cohesive story.

Agreed

Agreed. I knew the story already but there were some gaps that the first half easily refreshed my memory on.

Me too.Op is very kind and a patient man .I could never be that patient

Yes, public shaming is nothing more than a reality check. In a world where we are trying to be more civilized and less violent, shame is a great tool to open the eyes of others and lower the rate of degenerate actions caused by others and ourselves.

to an extend public shaming can do some good but with all things if done in excess it causes more harm than good

I agree, but its important the public have an understanding before judging as well. After all its a powerful thing, and like all powerful things they are ripe for abuse

I havent checked the story yet

Wait

I recognize the story

Ive checked it out

Honestly one of the best sagas out there :D

Yeah, hopefully the baby ends up with a nice foster family or more trustworthy relatives!

Tbh I'd never trust or love them again

That is true, but Im hopeful that words of apology, taking responsibility and repair will come in time. But maybe like his father he also needs to develop new behaviours to connect with his brother in a healthy way. When growing up you learn different patterns and as long as they work all is fine and dandy. Problem begins when it turns out these patterns aren't good in the long run, but without alternatives you will repeat the old patterns out of lack of choice. Therapy is an important part to help people with this no matter if they are the abuser of the abused. I've worked with plenty of people that have experienced abused, helping them finding their own maladaptive behaviors and then learning to break them and create adaptive behaviours. It's not easy, but it is possible. And when it comes to anger management progress can often be surprisingly fast just by getting one or two alternatives to blowing up in anger and getting a basic understanding of where the anger comes from.

I’m pretty sure he said “I’m a terrible person with a shitty taste in women” no?

@@h1vezer That's an admission, not an apology. To apologize you have to *at the very least* say "I'm sorry".

@@FlipTheBardyou don’t really have to and i’m not sure sorry would have persuaded OP in any way other than just wanting to hear it.

exactly, they got “nicer” because they realized they couldn’t abuse Op as before. I bet when they see op vulnerable or when he gets a partner, they’ll drop their masks.

Sometimes certain people are a terrible influence on others

​@@SpikastruNo, I was like him, scarey close, but when I grew up , I became the stronger , smarter, and the provider for my wife and kids, I was to strong and confident after awhile to be stepped on or used, so unfortunately they latched on harder. I do love them, but they'll never get a dime from me, or anything else, but they have my reputation to use, being my family can get them far, so being nice to me is needed, because if I dint like them or they do me wrong, and people find out, they'll lose jobs , favor , and 'friendships, which i dount they are anyone's friends , they use people. It's funny, they never thought their ugly, runt, who was always afraid of everything, while my brothers from the second husband were bigger , faster learners and more popular, would turn out to be a handsome , hardworking , respected and loved person lol. Their abuse formed me into what I am, I never wanted anything from anyone, I spent my time learning and working out, learning martail arts , but they didn't knkw I left when I was 14 and figured the world out, and as mean as the world can be , it was never as hard as that home was, and in fact people who had nothing, people the world hated and frowned on, helped me, people with no homes, drug problems and criminal records raused me, looked out for me, taught me skills and to be better then them! Now thats where I find my workers , my loyal and trusted friends. My business started with nothing but me and a shovel, broom, and a push cart, now I have 20 employees, many trucks and tons of equipment, and part timers at many points of the year, I have cots set up for the guys , and lady, still working to get a place in the shop, my family is the bottom of the world, because the heavy hearts sink the farthest down, I'm just smart enough to go pull them back up, like those who did it for me.

@@SpikastruI’m really disappointed with op. After the house shenanigan, he should have blocked their numbers and done one or both of these things, A) take a self defense class like BJJ or MMA and B) Sell the house and move to a lower cost state with a higher paying job.

​@@CriticalPopulistAnarchisti get why you'd feel that way but it's clear op is sticking around for the kiddos who def don't deserve the parents or dan...

ONG

@@Zombieninja131 no fr i was supposed to join my Minecraft smp yo help with a redstone build since im the only one who gave a shit to learn redstone but i just said. “Hold on y’all im gonna be an hour late” when they asked why i just sent them the video and we watched it together, was a bonding experience

@@koolbrayden21 legend hgahaha

@@Joriszx lol

Facts!!!

He already explained he didn't do it because of Dan's kids.

Previously if he had SIL and Dan were a package deal. If he pressed charges against Dan he'd lose his job and probably never get one as good again. That would ruin the future of the 4 kids. As soon as they're apart though? Nothing stopping OP.

​@@kittikats the grandparents could have always taken care of the kids. That is what happens when their children are failures - they get to try again.

@@TJackson736 taken care of, sure. But they all live in the same house. Dan in jail = far less money for the household. Dan in jail = grandpa working until death and hope he isn't forced into retirement.

Normally I would NEVER say this but...are those kids actually okay being raised by parents like that? Because yeah you feel bad for the kids but whatever fall out that happens were conscious decisions made by the parents because of their own arrogance and not because of the kids. Not once we're those kids actually thought about.

Exactly! Pity to narcisist thieves? Nah, not even kids would save from the court cases lol

Nah SIL is not just far off the deep end she’s in the Mariana trench.

@@joaop4585 I get your point, but at the same time, they are technically innocent and still young. If Dan and SIL had gone to jail that day, those kids would be in the foster system or at best with the grandparents. It's a no-win scenario for them, and to be honest the way the story went with Dan actually getting his act together really shows how much people can change if given the right push.

Like Dan could be salvaged to a degree because being the golden child isn't his fault, he was basically groomed to be a piece of shit by his parents, and at least he shows remorse now to a degree and admits he's terrible. It's the parents who should never be forgiven as they fully chose to be awful to the point they chose to move away from the family because everyone was calling them on being awful parents.

​@@NinjaTyler A fair point. It's not 100% Dan's fault, but at the same time, he's still got a lot to make up for, so I think if Dan hadn't changed, yeah I would say something has to give one way or another. And I agree. If the parents really can't change, let them sort their own problems out. The father especially. He was such a dick to OP that he doesn't even know how to treat the poor guy since he can't enable Dan's BS anymore.

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I know right 😂

Cringe way to phrase that tho, I feel attached to op and would Ve killed for him, I expected some shady legal action somehow creeping in and him losing his house somehow and I was losing my mind while listening

Not the way I'd phrase it but yeah you're right.

That last part doesn’t make sense, “vaguely believable”? There are many people who are exactly like who the stories are about, some people are trapped with them by relationship or by being the child of said people and have to deal with it until they’re old enough to get the hell out of there

Parents are the gods of our lives and create who we become. Once you hit a certain age you realize how the smallest of things done and not done can DRASTICALLY alter one's life. [ small looking back, and objectively small incidents not just subjective. Yet for some reason they are magnified from small actualities into huge life changing phenomenon. It is indeed wierd ! ]

saaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmmmmmee!!!

Am I The A-Hole: The Movie

You guys are missing the obvious choice: Do It For Dan

@@sonamy5000 Damn

Thats a good one ​@@sonamy5000

​@@gtdc4685 *Dan

Especially with the fact that she’s not working. She loves being pampered I wouldn’t be shocked if one of those kids is not dans

*Narcissist is the correct grammar. People who throw that word around recklessly without understanding the definition always spell it wrong. 😊

I agree, but at least it shows their effort if they truly believe so. It seems that their behavior is getting better so theres no harm in going 🤷‍♀️

The act itself no. But depending on the person it could help them take a look at themselves and try to change for the better. They have to make an effort though.

I view the infant/early stages of going back to church as some form of seeking redemption. I also view the routine of habitually attending as a way to judge of whether one wants to be truly redeemed, or to claim moral superiority.

There are two types of people that go to church. Those who are genuinely good people, know that they sin through simply being human and aspire to be better than they were the day before. They help everyone around them and try to make everyone around them be as comfortable as possible. Then there are people like OP's family. They know they are wicked people and are unrepentant. They know where they are going when they die and they are hoping keeping up appearances will earn them a spot. I'm more like a combination of OP and the former. I don't like going to church because I'm surrounded by protestants and they freak me out. That said, I try to treat everyone around me with kindness and if I can help, I will. I don't have very much, but that will never stop me from offering someone a place to stay, literally offer the shirt off my back or offer someone something to eat or drink. I'm not looking for validation or praise, just offering my two cents. God will ultimately judge me in the end.

Some people do it like that, and as others said for some people it can be the first step of introspection. In this case it seems to be the latter since they seem to make efforts to change behaviours and take responsibility. Just talking about these things with people from the outside is important in situations like these, both for the ones doing the abusing and the ones being abused. Without an external frame of reference just about anything could be considered normal. Which is why I can see the progress of wakeup that OP describes. It rarely happens fast and all at once, often there is a build up and then it can come a tipping point where things suddenly happen fast. Kinda like bending a piece of twig where there's a lot of nothing happening on the surface but tension is building up inside until it finally snaps.

Same in the US

Some of the gym memberships are cheap and have shower facilities. Your milage may vary.

No they do. They've given him so much trauma and disappointment.

People only treat you how you allow them to. his childhood cant be helped but as an adult if he just put his foot down, pressed charges and went no contact most of this could have been avoided. at a certain point you are responsible for how others treat you

@@Hanzo1 Considering that they showed up at his house, drilled through his lock to replace it with their own, then barricaded themselves in his house until the police arrived, I don't think merely pressing charges would've helped much.

I want to watch them can you tell me the podcast?

@@liamdell6319let’s see, trespassing and destruction of property. Another charge is distributing the peace.