@@hansb.jaeyni8230 You think that's a realistic option?

@@POOKIE5592 yes, you can always sprint away from women. *sarcasm

Absolutely and they should get the same punishment the accused would’ve got. This goes for any crime.

There is writing a false police report. That's a crime.

OP YTJ bridezilla never learned how to rise above petty behavior and if she did not have a dress code in the contract with the aaterer that is OPs fault and threatening to call the cops was even worse behavior.

i am also a victim of sa and like its no joke that stuff ruins you mentally :(

100% agree. I am a victim of SA as well. And the dude walked because the jury didn't want to take it to supreme judicial court. So it got dismissed. Despite him doing it to a 15 year old boy that year before me. All he got from that case was that he had to take some classes and register as a sex offender. (Despite his parents literally catching him in the act) Wow such a great job those "don't sexually assault someone again" classes did, huh? (sarcasm) A year in the court wasted just for it to go nowhere. So hearing these people make false accusations really pisses me off. I agree he didn't do enough. She deserved worse.

@@zuzu8345 jesus so sorry to hear this

I sense immense anger in your comment. This shows me that you are telling the truth.

@@sugarplums885 If only you could have seen the Jury's face. They looked bored and could honestly have cared less. They simply just did not want to deal with a long drawn out case. Gotta love the American "justice" system. And then people wonder why women just don't bother reporting it.

Hardly just his reputation but also his current and future freedom, potentially rights and potentially loss of future earnings on top of the reputation damage and social stigma. False accusations like that can bleed into every aspect of your life, they can completely destroy your life. False accusers are using a different type of violence than physical but it should be viewed as just as bad and penalties to reflect that. Psychological, financial, and social damage can be a lot harder to overcome than a physical injury. She should be happy he didn’t actually pummel her face when someone less disciplined might have done just that in anger.

@@jmfeathersword oh yeah, absolutely, her being outed on Facebook is something you can easily get away from, and she did. But what she accused him of doing might’ve actually killed him. There are some inmates in prison who target other inmates if they committed crimes like this, and he could’ve been sent to jail if her plan had worked. It actually wasn’t fair game at the end of it, he still didn’t get all the retribution he deserved.

Absolutely true. Facts right there😊

This type of stuff scares me. They can ruin your life with one sentence.

it's not even just about reputation. she was going to ruin his LIFE. false SA accusations against men in particular, even if they're later proven false.... that stigma follows you for the rest of your life. from job to job, community to community... a lot of men who are falsely accused, regardless of if they are proven innocent, end up committing self-unalive to get away from all the pain and abuse. this culture of "believe all women" is so damaging, in a way to both sides. smh.

they deserve the same sentence of the crime they accused the person of along with years for slander

@@Bamba06 Personally, I say they deserve more; not only for ruining innocent lives: but also wasting judicial resources.

I can't disagree on false accusers needing to be punished harshly; but obviously the accusation would need to be proven false, not just a not guilty verdict against the accused. You can't in good concious make people afraid to report actual crimes. These type of crimes are under reported as is.

@@khiljaz9245 if it is the truth then there should be no fear or guilt and the numbers of false accusations almost are comparable in numbers

SA charges if found false do result in a sentence, for how long I do not know.

well she wanted to kill her pregancy so you cant make dna test and it could destroy his life

paternity tests are illegal in many countries such as france without a court order (good luck getting one).

A false accusation will do damage. By the time it comes out to be false the damage is already done.

@@ilyarepin7750 this is absolutely insane. but hey! you can "accidentally" spend a family vacation in a country where paternity tests are on demand.

@@ilyarepin7750That's stupid. DNA is evidence, making paternity tests illegal is like making it illegal to check for fingerprints in a crime scene. At least have it be legal in court investigations.

Imagine your wife being that insecure at her own wedding. She will be a total control freak over his life and lose it every time he comes near a woman.

911 dispatcher: 911. What’s your emergency? Bridezilla: A girl has too much make up on. *Dispatcher hangs up* Bridezilla: Hello? Hellooooooo!

Ok this story seems over exaggerated to me. But if this is true than bridezilla is an understatement.

At first I thought it was fair to comment. It was probably communicated to the catering company beforehand as the aesthetic was so important to this bride. The more the story progressed it felt like the bride was looking for this poor girl and was trying to get her fired.

Yeah, that's Meghan Markle-level Bridezilla.

Good to hear you were not coerced into anything.

It's terrible that people end up like that, threatening to ruin other people's lives just to get what they want

The guy was just trying to defend himself, he already has had it rough.

If I was the judge I send her to prison.

Its incredibly stupid too, in my family I'm looked at as a monster and misogynist simply because I don't immediatley trust the women.

That’s what I was thinking

She was a literal bridezilla

Guilt. He didn't fight over custody and the house because he feels guilty, same reason he told her.

One, two, three Turn it up Big wheels keep on turnin' Carry me home to see my kin Singin' songs about the south-land I miss Alabamy once again and I think it's a sin, yes Well I heard Mister Young sing about her Well I heard ol' Neil put her down Well I hope Neil Young will remember A southern man don't need him around anyhow Sweet home Alabama Where the skies are so blue Sweet home Alabama Lord I'm comin' home to you In Birmingham they love the governor (boo-hoo-hoo) Now we all did what we could do Now Watergate does not bother me Does your conscience bother you? Tell the truth Sweet home Alabama Where the skies are so blue Sweet home Alabama (oh yeah) Lord I'm comin' home to you Here I come, Alabama Now Muscle Shoals has got the Swampers And they've been known to pick a song or two (yes they do) Lord they get me off so much They pick me up when I'm feelin' blue Now how about you? Sweet home Alabama Where the skies are so blue Sweet home Alabama Lord I'm comin' home to you Sweet home Alabama (oh, sweet home) Where the skies are so blue And the governor's true Sweet home Alabama (lordy) Lord I'm comin' home to you, yeah, yeah Montgomery's got the answer

The guy wants out. With the cousin dead nobody would have known about the affair. But the man is clearly not interested in continuing his marriage. He didn't even put up any kind of fight when the wife demanded full custody, the house, and other stuff. He just agreed with everything she asked. I agree with you that this seems like suicidal behaviour. And the way the wife wants everything gives some insight too on what their married life was like. 4 years into the marriage if the guy was happy, his cousin wouldn't even have a chance.

Um... sweet home alabama??

@@ferdinanddiaz7021 I've never said it's OK to bang your cousin, I'm saying this guy acts self-destructive...

What I don't understand is why there isn't more retaliation against the false SA accusers. Take everything away from someone, why wouldn't they return the favor? They're better people than me, for sure.

Thats sort of the stereotype of french people, stuck-up, assholeish, and snooty, the stereotype goes that if you're not french they see you as a lesser being.

Sweet Home Alabama

@@alpatraxel Rick: WOOOO!

@@alpatraxel I'm thinking Kansas and Arkansas

Alaska

Sweet Jome alabama

Specifically, the bridezilla variant of karen.

@@ShadeSlayer1911 Krakaren Bridezilla?

@@teddychu1177 Karenus bridezillus

@@ShadeSlayer1911 That also sounds like an evil Harry Potter Spell

@@teddychu1177 I wouldn't wish to use it on my worst enemy. Truly, too horrific.

Thats an incredibly privedged thing to say. False accusation of Sexual Assault is undoubtedly very very bad, still it is not worse than the act itself.

@@asthajindal5275 maybe it is but a man who hasn’t harmed a woman being accused will break them and make them into monsters who believe women are always like that.

@@Morpheusdarkson or they off themselves over being accused...which is usually seen as an admission of guilt and never really looked deeper into after...that is also another possible outcome for men

@@Morpheusdarkson You are right, you are absolutely right. It is a terrible, terrible thing to do, to falsely accuse someone of SA. It has horrendous consequences for the accused. Loss of reputation is not just loss of standing in society(although that's plenty bad enough, what with disgust and hostility pouring in from all sides), but it also encompasses loss of job, housing, family, legal action. Strips a person of everything that makes them who they are. I am not trying to underestimate that. I am only trying to point out, that victims of SA also go through ALL of that social stuff, In Addition to being violently physically and sexually injured, loss of modesty and personal dignity. I understand the OP's sentiments, and agree with the premise wholeheartedly, I just want to point out that a statement like that "If there is something worse than raping, it is falsely accuse someone of raping" can be very easily misused. Society is not very kind to either the accused or the accuser.

@@asthajindal5275 wasn’t there a case where a girl in high school made a false accusation, guy gets in jail for about 5 years until she admits the truth, and she still received a million dollar settlement from the high school? I think the accusers gets off a lot easier than the accused.

Im sorry you were made to feel that way all victums deserve a voice no matter gender. I am curious I always hear about thing empowering people I have never felt "empowered" because of someone else's victory/role in life. Did the AH/JD trial outcome make you feel empowered even though you were shamed watching another man justify himself for being falsely accused?

@MarrisaPlays no it didn't. Because things like false accusations shouldn't happen in the first place. My own experiences have put me in a distrustful frame of mind, and it shouldn't be that way. I find myself always needing to verify. I'm happy for Johnny, he had the money to take it to court tell his side, and when everything came to light he hit back where it hurt. Empowering though? No, a one off win of rich celeb doesn't empower me. It did provide some great comedic moments though, sassiness was off the chart.

Karma tore her to shreds like ducks on a loaf of bread

That's probably one of the reasons men are avoiding women like demons, they can ruin your life because when you're a man you're guilty until the opposite is proven unlike what the law should be...

Holy sh*t that's a level of trauma that I've never thought possible

​@@edenstonneoh it goes far beyond that the onus of even being accused of sa is considered to be so horrible even if it's proven wrong that people will look at you as even worse than someone who actually murdered someone.

r u me?

Also pathetic that most barely get any trouble for the false accusations when proven false. Bullshit part is if a man goes to prison for false accusation but freed once it's found out that it was a false accusation, they are still on list of sexual predators and have to pay to get off it.

I say clear false accusers should get punishment mirrored.

I've seen this story elsewhere and for some reason none of the KZfaqrs seem to catch on to that little nugget as if a sexual relationship between 16 year old and 13 year old isn't gross. It's not necessarily illegal depending on where you live, but it would b e in a lot of places.

@@carlrood4457 we have that situation going on with my cousins kid. The daughter is 12 and the boy is 14. The parents originally thought it was the guy only to find out that their daughter was the one who started everything. Their daughter has lied to everyone about the relationship. She claimed they were just friends and told his parent that her parents were ok with it. Mind you she is only 12 and had this boy wrapped around her finger. They haven’t had sex yet as far as anyone can tell but it scares me. I have a 3 year old daughter and this is not something I would ever want to deal with. The parents only realized something was off when their daughter started getting new very expensive electronics that they didn’t buy her. Most of my family and extended family gives expensive gifts, so stuff like that would have been bought by her parents. Gift giving with us is almost humble bragging. Who can make the most elaborate gift for others. They don’t do store bought anything for birthdays or Christmas. My wife and I don’t do that but we also avoid giving my extended family expensive gifts. No matter how much thought we put into it, it we would look like we are flaunting our wealth.

@@carlrood4457 it doesn't matter whether or not it's illegal, it's still really, really gross

Yeah, totally gross. I bet, if it was the other way round, a thirteen year boy dating a 16 year old girl, would be considered a rockstar. Two kids having a relationship isn't gross, the cousin thing a bit much but not illegal.

@@KaitoKiara no he wouldn't what are you talking about like 90 percent of most of my family and friends have all have lost our v to someone older from 8 to 13. Im king about mom friends, teachers, wife's it seems like that as a teenager but once you get grown you realize even if it fucks you up most if the time nobody gives af lol I am 24 with 25 + and ateast 12 were older than me

Also most French people refuse to speak English. 1 of the reasons I despise them!

I promise most of us is not like that. But we do have a sort of tradition to consider bosses as jerks.

Plus the wife immediately wanting everything kind of tell us what their marriage was like, if he was truly happy, the cousin would never have had a chance (especially 4 years into the relationship). I also could be reading into it too much... But it just feels fishy.

She was ready she just wanted to do something to honor him one last time before she moved on with her husband I hate people like you go somewhere else

Sweet home alabama

The cousin died

His cousin died tho