My Husband Cheated And Has A Secret Child!
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@brownbaggen 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, my problems got really small this morning 😭 this poor poor woman. My heart goes out to her!
@adamtate2559 4 жыл бұрын
thinking the same
@candacedawn357 4 жыл бұрын
Mine too, & things aren't great for me now.
@robindouglas5721 4 жыл бұрын
I feel so sad for her!!😭😭
@threexladi 4 жыл бұрын
Mine goes out to the youngest child.
@vitorfernandes651 4 жыл бұрын
Poor? She kept the house. The car. The kids. Bonus money that she didn't even work for. She's not poor she just needs to realize that now things have changed and she can't afford to continue living the rich life she had. Example. I could never afford a 2000 dollar mortgage. So I don't. Easy. And why did they plan kids if they had debt besides the house? People need to plan their lives better. Everyone wants to live like a king.
@SvPVids 4 жыл бұрын
when a marriage counselor tells you to divorce you know its bad.
@ecclairmayo4153 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! They typically do all they can to keep you together
@SvPVids 4 жыл бұрын
@Traveling Guy Amen
@ucherichardegbu5739 4 жыл бұрын
those marriage counsellor don't know anything... about marriage.. if u have a marriage problem what one should do it to go to the originator
@funstuff9153 4 жыл бұрын
You know you need a new counselor
@myytchannel6632 4 жыл бұрын
That's when the marriage counselor wants your man.
@Mermaidhaze 4 жыл бұрын
When she said her son wanted to suicide bc his dad left 😭why would you want to put your children through that. No side chick comes above your child’s happiness. The husband is a traitor.
@shentino 3 жыл бұрын
He betrayed not only his wife, but also his daughter by using the kid as a pawn to manipulate the situation. I would definitely make a CPS report.
@traditionalgirl3943 3 жыл бұрын
Raymond Jennings, NEVER involve CPS; they are, too often, a very evil entity. Research it. They destroy families and worse.
@discorabbit 3 жыл бұрын
The power of the ring overcame him. (The ring is balls)
@georgemendez6760 3 жыл бұрын
@Bestgirl
@owenb8636 3 жыл бұрын
For real. It's such an incredibly selfish thing to do. I don't know how cheaters sleep well at night, especially when they are leaving behind people who depend on them.
@aarongray133 3 жыл бұрын
Man. When she said “I’m actually pretty lucky” I about lost it. People that can appreciate the good in their life in a situation like that are really inspiring.
@debbecker5456 3 жыл бұрын
She’s also lucky he no longer lives in the home, at least she doesn’t have to deal with him constantly.
@marudoethiopia 3 жыл бұрын
@Arwyn That's true. A lot of women in this situation have a broke ex-husband.
@tiffanygarthwaite702 2 жыл бұрын
Wow😭😭😭
@VioletEmerald 6 ай бұрын
It's more like a human coping mechanism. And it's healthier than not feeling that way.
@tpeopleway 5 ай бұрын
Sometimes these comments are about an inability that people have to feel their own pain and sit with it. They don’t have the emotional bandwidth to admit their own suffering!
@TheGearShots 4 жыл бұрын
It’s amazing how easily some people hide things. I can’t even hide my Oreos in the cupboard above the fridge without someone finding them.
@elmagnificodep 4 жыл бұрын
Hide them in the underwear drawer.
@The3rdGunman 4 жыл бұрын
I know that's right!!! My son was just spelunking in the cabinet for the Captain Crunch yesterday morning. I'm like baby boy, we don't do that sugary stuff on school days. He just gettin' his Indiana Jones on.
@araceli4381 4 жыл бұрын
😂 lol
@equinsuocha8905 4 жыл бұрын
Well, when you give up all your hiding spots then of course everyone will find them. Now we all know where you hide your Oreo cookies! LOL
@missjewells5063 4 жыл бұрын
GearShots lol. 💀
@hitchjack 4 жыл бұрын
Husband is on the alternative “baby” steps
@klintous 4 жыл бұрын
Haha, that's a good one!
@greenAbbot 4 жыл бұрын
You win.
@CaseyBurnsInvesting 4 жыл бұрын
Alternative facts right here
@JoyofRVing 4 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@osnn8156 4 жыл бұрын
Jack, you're a savage 😂😂
@pamelacantrell2080 4 жыл бұрын
What kind of woman wants a man who left his wife with the kids and had a mystery kid on the side? Girlfriend can have him.
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
He probably left claire because of how crazy and unstable she is.
@llallogen7380 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 Possibly, but what indicates to you that Claire is that way at all. We don't know the whole truth, of course, but she didn't sound like she twisted facts at all. She's grateful for what she has and is dealing with a wild amount of betrayal.
@dc4me44 4 жыл бұрын
Pamela Cantrell she'll cheat on the gf as well when she's on the second or third kid. These people never change. Never get together with a cheater. They'll cheat on you as well
@UnknownUnknown-tu3be 4 жыл бұрын
Ya never know the whole story
@LG123ABC 4 жыл бұрын
Maybe the girlfriend is the person he had the other kid with.
@roxaneadams6723 4 жыл бұрын
You can hear the pain in her voice. 💔 Provide strength,Lord.
@Cobra_Khan 3 жыл бұрын
Ameen
@ir7209 4 жыл бұрын
Stay strong sister, I was in your position 4 years ago with 7 kids,now paid off my house, credit card and by next month paying off my car. I paid off my car and saved 40k.
@susansauls8902 4 жыл бұрын
💪
@ChipZilla69 4 жыл бұрын
Who did you get to pay for all that stuff?
@sierrairick1704 4 жыл бұрын
✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽👏🏽
@nme.00104 4 жыл бұрын
💯👌👍👏🙏
@ir7209 4 жыл бұрын
ChipZilla69 just living less than a make.
@natalierose6572 4 жыл бұрын
What a husband... instead of just getting a divorce years ago and doing the right thing, he destroyed multiple lives. What a piece of work.
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
It takes 2 to tango. I guarantee the wife is equally to blame.
@jimmyvaught 4 жыл бұрын
I’d love to hear his side.
@roncur 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 i got my eye on you buddy
@wkdravenna 4 жыл бұрын
I'm sure neither are saints.
@rumblebeast08 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 He might have every reason to leave her, but he was a coward not to do it before cheating. Cheating is never ok.
@CurtMortis 4 жыл бұрын
Listening to her speak makes me feel like this woman is going to be OK
@ianfitchett2768 4 жыл бұрын
Really? Because I got a pretty strong feeling of the exact opposite
@realiti773 4 жыл бұрын
It is temporary. Every situation stays for awhile.
@I_am_milan 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah.
@Celery459 4 жыл бұрын
Yes it seems like she is fighting for her kids. That is keeping her going.
@allisonwaters716 4 жыл бұрын
@@ianfitchett2768 Her husband sounds rich. Shell be ok
@ES92- 4 жыл бұрын
He's never been this quiet.
@jayrider2726 4 жыл бұрын
Very true
@ThePracticaltravelers 3 жыл бұрын
He’s probably thinking what he would do to that guy.
@nmc1859 3 жыл бұрын
There are no words for this really 💔
@95lamp 3 жыл бұрын
I think that what she needed ...
@jbcfamily4802 2 жыл бұрын
Yea and he said don't pay off your debt right now.
@garyodriscoll7988 4 жыл бұрын
I’m convinced that 90% of the worlds problems could be solved by choosing the right partner to procreate with at the right time.
@dialac1 4 жыл бұрын
Preach. I agree too. 99% is the number
@nebulonv6015 4 жыл бұрын
Or choosing NONE. This whole call made me glad I still do not have children OR a wife at age 42. If there's one thing that's certain, it's that you can be certain you have NO IDEA when someone is going to have a midlife crisis and take his/her own path... AT YOUR EXPENSE.
@Elizabeth-yg2mg 4 жыл бұрын
Yes but you need a crystal ball.
@candacedawn357 4 жыл бұрын
She said he was a different man at the beginning.
@tarawalton6778 4 жыл бұрын
@@nebulonv6015 I concur, me as well at 41 yrs old. I'm happily SANE & single with savings.
@oliviaraeboyd 4 жыл бұрын
This is so sad. Hearing the pain in her voice is heartbreaking. God bless this woman. ❤️
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately you're only getting her story. You don't know the whole truth.
@roncur 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 u sound like a man that knows the whole truth
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
@@roncur I am open minded. I'm not an emotional baboon. I wait until I've seen all the facts. You might want to try it sometimes.
@roncur 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 I was really hoping that you were the husband and you were going to reveal some bombshell you really let me down here buddy.
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
@@roncur even if a bombshell was revealed, you're probably not mature enough to understand. You really should go back to coloring with your crayons.
@larrye 4 жыл бұрын
I can't imagine being a Dad that did something that made my child try to commit suicide. I'd want to die if that happened to me.
@blackpinkslave9969 4 жыл бұрын
Yea, what a piece of work. Hope that young Homewreker Woman doesn't rob him of all his money lol.
@queenbee3647 Жыл бұрын
Have no clue how that father would EVER be able to look that child in the face and tell him I love him. Im a mom and my child comes FIRST.
@pfeiffdog0811 4 жыл бұрын
I wasn’t ready for this kind of call. Wow.
@raymeester7883 4 жыл бұрын
Real rough.
@fireengine77 4 жыл бұрын
There are calls that make me more thankful for my simple life. This is one of them...
@PrincessTiana83 4 жыл бұрын
Was just thinking the same thing...😩😩
@Simon-oy7kf 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@MiguelHernandez-rw4xu 4 жыл бұрын
No doubt
@philos_theos 3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@ChristSaves88 3 жыл бұрын
I agree ! Praying for her tho.🙏🏾
@CamdenMcInnis 4 жыл бұрын
Jokes on him! His new girl controls his income. That won't work out very well when they fight and break up someday
@dialac1 4 жыл бұрын
I was thinking that. He’s a stupid man
@charles0322mrsdani 4 жыл бұрын
She is pretty stupid too. If he cheated on his wife he will cheat on the mistress...if he doesn't already have other girlfriends these two women don't know about
@TheWaggishAmerican 4 жыл бұрын
@@randallN-sw6ee Just means he was better at hiding it then. People don't change like that.
@nme.00104 4 жыл бұрын
💯👌👍👏 agree, if he end's things with her he'll be on real hard times. no job, place to stay, car etc. sounds like his bonus was set-up because of how things are going with his daughter.
@fnordiumendures138 4 жыл бұрын
@@randallN-sw6ee I think the point was the new chick absolute knows he cheated on the old wife, and so, she is the stupid one.
@user-vv5ro6vf5c 3 жыл бұрын
This has me in tears 😢 the pain of an outside baby, divorce, and a suicidal child. Hope she’s doing much better now
@kokoskokso Жыл бұрын
Leaving his kids for fear of living on the street and eating rice & beans while he's f#&ing around is infuriating. I sure hope she feathered him of every penny possible in child support and alimony and if not, she sure should do so.
@ukrd94 4 жыл бұрын
Regret and guilt are real. My father abandoned us when we were little and left my mom with five kids, mortage, bills, etc. It was a struggle. Later on, he tried to talk to us and I talked to him just because my mom taught me better. Needless to say, when he got sick, no one really cared. He died and I didn't even shed a tear.
@queenbee3647 Жыл бұрын
Im so sorry you didnt know the full love of a caring father. You had the person but he couldnt do the job. Mines gone and I miss him so much. Take care.
@meritabuff741 6 ай бұрын
Mine to gone I really miss him in a better place He with the Father Jesus Christ. Amen 💯🙌 ⏫️
@richardgnyc 17 сағат бұрын
yeah, no care for men like that.
@Erika2 4 жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to Claire, she's going through so much! I just know she's come out of it as a strong woman!
@Erika2 4 жыл бұрын
Harry Smith Thanks!
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
@@Erika2 you don't know the whole story. You only heard her side of it. You don't know the whole truth or what he's going through.
@roncur 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 whats up dude what's your angle??
@CareerCraft56 4 жыл бұрын
Poor woman always have your own never know with man theses days
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
@@roncur There is no angle. My statement was worded quite clearly. What's the matter, don't know how to read at an elementary school level?
@yayyareaa2997 4 жыл бұрын
Caller: “Dave I do rice, beans, eggs and spaghetti” Dave: “Cut out the eggs and spaghetti”
@natalierene1 4 жыл бұрын
Yayy Areaa 🤣 ROFL
@Ayl-bw1iq 4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂👍
@CaseyBurnsInvesting 4 жыл бұрын
Ish beans and rice is not enough. Uncle Ben’s or perish.
@isidroarias3864 4 жыл бұрын
Lol hes like pun intended
@nme.00104 4 жыл бұрын
😭😭😅😂🤣💀💀💀💀💯👏👍👌
@ThinkMoneyBenny 4 жыл бұрын
the truth is.. you can’t depend on anyone else besides yourself.
@bres9977 4 жыл бұрын
Think Money It’s unfortunate but true.
@AmayzinOne 4 жыл бұрын
I strongly disagree with that statement because it’s proves untrue all the time.
@whitneyw.7919 4 жыл бұрын
Say that again for all the stay at home parents w/ little career skills and background
@ThinkMoneyBenny 4 жыл бұрын
Whitney W. Lol!
@dogan6070 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@lionelluva 4 жыл бұрын
Father God, I pray for restoration for Claire and her children right now. I pray that finances and miracles flow to her immediately in Jesus Name. I pray she and the kids rely on you for everything, because you are her God. Thank you Lord!
@user-wx1ji5ot5u 4 жыл бұрын
67k a year tax free sounds like she has plenty of finances flowing to her. She's bad with money. Shes in a house she cant afford is main issue
@lovingme1st973 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@BenevolantBusinessBeauty 4 жыл бұрын
Amen! 🙏🏽
@TheMint20 4 жыл бұрын
Not a Christian, but I'll pray for her too. May the gods guide her and her family, and may they punish her faithless husband. May his family turn their faces away from him and towards his victim and her family. May she find warmth in the embrace of her god, and may her family reach new heights in the years to come.
@phatnigerianchic 4 жыл бұрын
Amen!!
@Tammohawk1 4 жыл бұрын
At her kids ages, I would consider after school programs for child care instead of trying to give the creep more custody. Just my opinion.
@Nan-59 4 жыл бұрын
Tammohawk ABSOLUTELY!!!!
@teebone2157 4 жыл бұрын
They aren't free anymore
@daniellecoffey8451 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@sobc2737 4 жыл бұрын
Why be vindictive? Despite his wrong doings, no one deserves not to see their kids.
@SpfySpaceJam 4 жыл бұрын
@@teebone2157 nope but boys and girls club is pretty affordable and some public schools have free after school tutoring ect
@Nolaperu 4 жыл бұрын
If you can't handle being with one person for the rest of your life, don't get married!!
@sixteen.candles.4644 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@Nolaperu 4 жыл бұрын
@Anne Day I agree, if you're not happy in your marriage, seek counseling. If all else fails, get out.
@fabulouslifeinchrist1349 4 жыл бұрын
Some people get married and cheat before marriage and continue cheating. I don't think you should marry anyone who cheats on you before marriage...ever...because they know you are the desperate kind and will stay no matter what they do and forgive them.
@Nolaperu 4 жыл бұрын
@@fabulouslifeinchrist1349 I totally agree and I have met people who married anyway. But I've also met people who didn't know until after marriage, which totally sucks!
@threexladi 4 жыл бұрын
They always find excuses for cheating.
@BrianaBudgets 6 ай бұрын
Committing adultery should be a crime because he ruined this woman and children’s lives.
@williamfranklin5152 15 күн бұрын
while i agree with the sentiment he is essentially paying her 50k a year and she makes 19k and judging on the mortgage calculation the house value is somewhere north of 500,000 she will be fine she just needs to accept a lower lifestyle
@sierra7534 3 күн бұрын
It used to be and needs to be
@ctcamara 4 жыл бұрын
My heart is broken... The desperation in her voice is raw... May God bless her with strength to pass through this painful situation.
@FourSeasons04 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, he was "that guy" when you married him, you just didn't see it and/or he hid it very well. Hope the caller is in a much better place today.
@chrissy1448 3 жыл бұрын
Yep... their are always red flags...
@msjay5337 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly why women need to focus on their own career as well. You never know what can happen. Pray for the best but be prepared for the worst when marrying someone because some people change.
@lavonnealexander6936 4 жыл бұрын
MS JAY Yes! People Change.
@vwalker58 4 жыл бұрын
You right on that!
@nonamebae5722 4 жыл бұрын
Yes! And always save money independent of your partner because you never know when they will leave you high and dry
@wowso4 4 жыл бұрын
Ty so true also have some money saved away don’t tell him just keep with away just in case things turn badly.
@glorymanheretosleep 4 жыл бұрын
The thing is people show you who they are long before. Some just choose to continue on the road for some reason....
@hankfuchs8405 4 жыл бұрын
This is why I have taught my three daughters to never depend on a man for financial support
@gessrinky9129 3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@puppy3908 3 жыл бұрын
you'll raise three women who dislike men... Why? because you have told them men will abuse them if given the opportunity. Hope your three harpies get therapy
@strawberribubbletea 3 жыл бұрын
That’s sound advice. If you depend on other people for food, water, and shelter, some people will feel like they own you. But I guess some insecure men want that.
@hankfuchs8405 3 жыл бұрын
@@puppy3908 where did you read in my msg that I said for them to dislike men and men will abuse them?? Are you really that stupid?? I tough my daughters to have their own careers, own transportation ect... they were tought to never depend on a man to be their only financial support to be self supportive if it ever needed to come to that.
@crazytrain7721 3 жыл бұрын
That's probably a bit of a mistake.
@neneshubby 4 жыл бұрын
Nice job Dad. Way to set a great example for your kids, especially your sons. My supervisor just found out something very similar with her husband of 12 years and now they’re in the middle of a divorce. If you can’t stay faithful, don’t get married
@ecclairmayo4153 4 жыл бұрын
I agree it sets a terrible example for the kids and uproots them for no reason. I'm sorry about your supervisor
@bres9977 4 жыл бұрын
This is why I would NEVER be upset at women who have personal security funds and assets because when something like this happens, the man just picks up, leaves and starts over while she deals with the heavy load. Forget that. Women, ALWAYS be prepared and sleep with one eye that opens every once in a while so you can rest.
@bres9977 4 жыл бұрын
Abwj1002 w I’m not talking about hiding assets during a divorce. I’m talking about stashing away during marriage.
@bres9977 4 жыл бұрын
Abwj1002 w I hear what you’re saying. The person who cheats deserves nothing so it’s going to be a fight.
@jellybeans9283 4 жыл бұрын
Always have a prenup that protects his and hers assets equally. Don't get stuck paying someone to be your ex.
@mikenelson8377 4 жыл бұрын
It’s a two-way street, by the way. Women are perfectly capable of doing this to men. In marriage, he/she not yours. It’s just your turn.
@manniem2488 4 жыл бұрын
BreS THIS!! Thank you for this message
@clair3kee432 4 жыл бұрын
This is my worst nightmare. Some people are horrible people and great liars.
@raulgolfs 4 жыл бұрын
Man heard this one on the podcast this morning and Jesus. That’s got to be rough.
@AdaEstherGJ 4 жыл бұрын
What a terrible experience.
@raulgolfs 4 жыл бұрын
Ada Esther Argueta right.
@kirbierose2589 3 жыл бұрын
How could he do that to her? She birthed and raised four of his children. Some people have no heart.
@malgrosskreuz01 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah. I can't even imagine going through something like that
@kirbierose2589 3 жыл бұрын
@krvnjrcbs nothing makes what he did ok. He isn't even thinking about his kids. F him
@CaseyBurnsInvesting 4 жыл бұрын
I felt like I was being flushed down a long toilet for the first 2 minutes of this call. I’m glad I found Dave at a young age.
@raymeester7883 4 жыл бұрын
Look for a divorce lawyer.
@jean-paulfaye7794 4 жыл бұрын
Lol I keep seeing you everywhere 👀
@SansAziza 4 жыл бұрын
A long toilet? 😂
@Scorpiomaj27889 4 жыл бұрын
Someone tells me to choose financial responsibility or them, bye. It's not like buying a Toyota vs a Lexus, it's the attitude... we all have to retire one day and I don't plan on eating Ramen noodles 3 times a day.
@Kelaine72 4 жыл бұрын
Right. What kind of choice is that? Most of these men complain about money hungry wives and he has one that is trying to make sure yall have some money for the future.
@angelikalaser7778 4 жыл бұрын
So true!!!
@NeededGR13F 4 жыл бұрын
@@Kelaine72 it probably had nothing to do with money. Those weird ultimatums are usually the person trying to hold control over their spouse. She was pushing for something that would give her independence, so he had to step in.
@ineedhoez 4 жыл бұрын
Not even about the choice that she was given. It was the fact that he gave her an ultimatum in the first place. Total freaking narcissist
@james_crook 4 жыл бұрын
I get what you mean. Although part of it is you can be somewhat mentally unstable in this situation and just have someone to talk to helps a lot.
@BrokeMillionaire1 4 жыл бұрын
This is exactly why I will teach my daughter and 2 sons not to depend on ANYONE else.
@ChRiyad 4 жыл бұрын
@MissZoey007 they were married for 20 buckoes, what does birth control has to do with anything? this is about having a financial safety net if someone screws you over.
@Blaiyan 4 жыл бұрын
Except for to bring your food to the grocer, clean your water, fix your streets, make sure gas is at a pump, etc. Hmmm I guess we all rely on other people everyday. I hope they get use to living in the wilderness somewhere. Rough.
@ChRiyad 4 жыл бұрын
@MissZoey007 first of all, you're correct, my english still needs some work. secondly, what does africans and orientals have to do with this, it's not our fault you people aren't having children, and if you do have em, you end up abandoning them and having the government force you to pay for your own children's upbringing.
@Zeb1245 4 жыл бұрын
MissZoey007 your racism is showing. Orientals shouldn’t be used for Asians. Your English grammar is not the best - you forgot your commas.
@sjaykay9884 4 жыл бұрын
ZeB 8 more than her word choice was racist about that entire comment.
@dayseyeintuition 3 жыл бұрын
The part where her voice broke when she asked about giving up more custody of her kids 😭 the pain you feel when you’re facing giving up time with your own children is heartbreaking
@ours2697 Жыл бұрын
😢😢😢😢
@JakeStewart1343 Жыл бұрын
I felt sadder when she said her 14 year old tried to commit suicide after they divorced. 😢
@xoxoJGWS 4 жыл бұрын
Just want to hug this woman. Stay strong, you can do it.
@shannonsmith5421 4 жыл бұрын
Dr.Dave Ramsey is what it should be called .
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
No because Dave is always so one sided in these situations. He doesn't even know the full story. He never heard the husband's side of it.
@shannonsmith5421 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 He can only deal with the person requesting the help and from my hundreds views to Uncle Dave's show. He don't look at WHO is Right but he focus on WHAT is Right .
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
@@shannonsmith5421 that's exactly my point. Dave can't know who's right because he doesn't have all the facts. He's only getting one side of the story. It's ok for him to offer advice to the caller. It's not ok to pass judgement against another person when you don't have a clue what's the whole situation.
@shannonsmith5421 4 жыл бұрын
@@artz9643 Amen .
@Jen.E 3 жыл бұрын
Ha, I thought she called him Uncle Dave.
@bigtheo03 4 жыл бұрын
Father needs to worry about his kids mental health above everything else.
@johnmiller6403 4 жыл бұрын
That probably means getting sole custody. That Claire sounds very unstable.
@bigtheo03 4 жыл бұрын
@@johnmiller6403 You can tell how hurt women are when they keep mentioning the other woman. That woman is not your concern your child is.
@threexladi 4 жыл бұрын
Including that of the youngest child.
@excelrange4246 4 жыл бұрын
What a horrible (ex) husband. This woman & children are reaping the devastation of his conduct. This poor lady has to keep her head above water & NOT have a breakdown in order to move toward a better financial future. That is NOT easy. I wish for this lady & her children all the happiness their heart & arms can hold.
@ZoomerAdvice 4 жыл бұрын
A father like that cares only about himself and will only ever care about himself
@camille29099 4 ай бұрын
4 years later I’m wondering how she‘s doing. Yes, she was devastated, but she sounded intelligent and capable. Really hope she and her kids are ok now.
@clair233 4 жыл бұрын
Claire, it gets easier, I know it's tough now, but don't sacrifice the time with your children to make more money. If they need you around. Wait till they're older. Love from London 💓💓💓
@whitneyw.7919 4 жыл бұрын
Is it better to be homeless?
@whitneyw.7919 4 жыл бұрын
@Far Above Rubies Are you against men not working to stay home with the children? Do you value children in that way?
@traceycancio1795 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@Kingsdaughter68 4 жыл бұрын
Clare Hill I’m sure she doesn’t mean it. She’s in a confused state and thinking aloud. It’s a tough situation she’s in. I pray God delivers her 🙏🏽
@kazbar7611 4 жыл бұрын
@The KZfaq Critic parents pay for everything you have listed over here too. You get a certain amount of help from the government if you are on a low income. And you would hopefully get paid child maintenance from your ex.
@XxhimynameiscynxX 4 жыл бұрын
Aaaannd that's why I'm single and work hard. This kind of betrayal I wish on no one!
@CerronPritchett 4 жыл бұрын
himynameiscyn yep you never know when it will happen to you when you get in a relationship the way to not go through this is to stay single.
@ayecarumba4928 4 жыл бұрын
I am here for you when u need a man.
@johnf1577 4 жыл бұрын
Lol ^ 😂
@glorymanheretosleep 4 жыл бұрын
The worst part is that it is common. Men and women are not that good individuals and not sure why they get into relationships for?
@BaccaratCoach 4 жыл бұрын
himynameiscyn i wish there was a middle ground between having someone in your life to be close 2 but just don't belong 2 them. Ride the waves when things are good. When goes south save yourself and be done... I wish that was easier DONE than SAID
@Arincota 4 жыл бұрын
This is the first call where I just started balling.... Dave hasn’t even said word yet and I’m in tears. Hugs and prayers for this mama and her babies 😭❤️
@threexladi 4 жыл бұрын
None for the other child!? And why is that?
@Arincota 4 жыл бұрын
Ruby Parchment I’m sorry... what?
@Pallanos7 4 жыл бұрын
@@threexladi All of them honey, she has a heart big enough for everybody. Including you.
@AntiUgg 4 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry for this woman. My aunt went through a similar situation and she is happier than ever before at the moment. Stay strong.
@colin1818 3 жыл бұрын
My heart breaks for this woman. You can just hear in her voice the resolve, the dedication and the determination to soldier through this. But she's shattered.
@lpillar5401 4 жыл бұрын
I am praying for Claire that God will give her daily bread, and renewed strengthen along with peace. Lord comfort her heart and the childrens and supply all of their needs according to your riches and glory Amen. (Prayer changes things )
@deborahmcginnis8307 4 жыл бұрын
I'm agreeing with you in Jesus name. 🙏
@thisisnotok2100 4 жыл бұрын
You're sweet
@valeriavagapova 4 жыл бұрын
Could you please also pray for all the children starting to death in Africa? I think they've been needing some daily bread for quite a while. Would be great to see it change!
@KayJay79 4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful prayer! God bless you!
@AdaEstherGJ 4 жыл бұрын
Amén
@Free-bt6gn 4 жыл бұрын
Same thing happened to me. I had a divorce in less than 45 days!! I got the house, downsized and me and my son are sitting pretty. I'm so lucky and know most people are destroyed one way or another in divorce. I was emotionally ruined due to the betrayal. I don't know if I will EVER trust again. Cheating ruins lives people.
@williamfranklin5152 15 күн бұрын
45 days and you got the house i wonder who really came out of the situation better
@tman040496tb 3 жыл бұрын
Well I'm a grown man and this almost brought me to tears. All I can think of is my momma. I wish I could tell her how much her kids will love her for what she's going through now.
@SteveRam 4 жыл бұрын
So sorry to hear about your situation. Praying all unfolds well for you and your children. Stay strong, you never know what good God can create from even the worst situations.
@Elizabeth-yg2mg 4 жыл бұрын
The possibility of a situation like this is why I never had an appetite for marriage and kids.
@HamiltonRb 4 жыл бұрын
Well there is always a chance of being in a car accident too, but does that mean you shouldn't drive? I think to get married you really have to know yourself and what makes you happy in life, and for some it is marriage, kids, and others maybe it is a dog or travel. Everyone is different, and you have to know yourself before you get to know a potential husband or wife.
@HamiltonRb 4 жыл бұрын
Ruby Parchment I’m going to have to keep my eyes open the next time I get gas.
@ecclairmayo4153 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Its so hard to trust people anymore
@Elizabeth-yg2mg 4 жыл бұрын
@@HamiltonRb Well duh.
@HamiltonRb 4 жыл бұрын
@@Elizabeth-yg2mg "duh" ? You put a lot of thought into that, maybe best you stay single
@katieanderson8639 3 жыл бұрын
I'd hire a babysitter before I let a man like that around my children.
@JibbsCompilations 4 жыл бұрын
"He wasn't this guy when I married him." Yes, actually he was. As Dave said, he's always been this guy. People don't change. We just ignore the red flags. My heart goes out to this woman, but at the same time, she needs to accept that a mistake was made and move on with her life. Until then, she'll just always use it as an excuse for the situation she's in now. I know, because I was there once too.
@allisonwaters716 4 жыл бұрын
Honestly, some men are good at hiding things. Women dont realize how most men think, thats the issue
@lesterparker1594 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree with Dave on everything. This is one of them. My wife and I lived together for a few years before buying a house and getting married. I couldn’t imagine not living with a person before marrying them. I don’t care what anyone says, you don’t really know a person until you live with them. Maybe that’s just us, but we have a great marriage and it worked for us
@paulagentile3801 Жыл бұрын
Guess Dave doesnt REALLY believe in ghe power of the Lord. People CAN change, if they want to!!
@larose6551 3 ай бұрын
So he has 4 kids with wife and a secret child and now living with a new sugar momma. Whew! This man has always been like this but was slick enough to hide it.
@SpfySpaceJam 4 жыл бұрын
Please just rent a place. Get a 3 bedroom you'll be fine. See if you can work full time and have the dad take the kids to therapy. These children are his responsibility too. Work Monday-Friday and have weekends and holidays off with the kids until your stable then adjust your schedule to how you like it
@chrism7275 4 жыл бұрын
I don’t even believe in god but I’m praying for this woman
@vineyardprophecy5073 4 жыл бұрын
Chris M who are you praying to?
@RicardoATBarbosa 4 жыл бұрын
@@vineyardprophecy5073 Good question!
@nhgriff1 4 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you do believe!
@valeriavagapova 4 жыл бұрын
@@nhgriff1 Chris clearly just made a joke you people lol
@sitcomchristian6886 4 жыл бұрын
@@valeriavagapova ....it didn't sound like a joke 🤔
@iltony21 3 жыл бұрын
Now That's an answer! Get up early...get a cup of coffee and talk to God and see what He wants you to do. Cause God will tell you!
@kellymarie9612 4 жыл бұрын
This has to be the most heartbreaking call I’ve ever heard to Dave 🙁 this poor woman
@expectthabest951 4 жыл бұрын
I’m Praying for you Claire...... 🙌🙌🙌🙌
@artz9643 4 жыл бұрын
I'm praying for the kids. They are the only innocent ones. Claire is probably equally to blame for this mess.
@threexladi 4 жыл бұрын
I'm praying for the hidden child.
@griselleisara3799 4 жыл бұрын
She will do fine. Him on the other hand. He will get his. You reap what u sow. 🥺
@minimalisthealth 4 ай бұрын
Quick question. Why does she say she can't afford the mortgage of 2735 a month when it is the ex-husband who pays it? Is it that he's no longer obliged to pay after the divorce is finalized or something?
@MizzKG6 3 ай бұрын
That is my question
@nothanks71 14 күн бұрын
I'm not sure the reason why but I gathered that he's going to flat out stop paying at some point
@apierre6 3 жыл бұрын
I know that Dave advocates for mothers to stay at home once they have children but situations like this are exactly why it can be a bad idea. For a lot of men, being the sole breadwinner gives them a sense of control and creates a power imbalance in the relationship. They think "she can't leave because she needs me" and that makes think they can do whatever they want. This woman hadn't worked for several years, has four kids and now she's a single mom. Truly sad situation
@paulagentile3801 Жыл бұрын
A man that tjinks like that, wasntbinvested ti begin with, a controller, selfish!
@ZFKATNBADGER40 6 ай бұрын
Both my parents had full time jobs, and both did their fatherly and motherly duties and my siblings and I turned out well. I hate the one size fits all metric that some people live by
@williamfranklin5152 15 күн бұрын
yeah but judging by the calculation on the mortgage he was paying 2735 a month thats easily a house that costs north of 500k yeah shes a single mom who is going to be getting a sizeable paycheck from the sale of that house and an additional 16800 from the father AT least there are plenty of single mothers who have it far far worse she has to work and spend less time with the kids better than not eating she needs to forget her old lifestyle and come to terms with things
@IntrustGames 4 жыл бұрын
Ohh boy this is a complete disaster of a situation hopefully she works everything out.
@jackcoleman5955 4 жыл бұрын
Dave possesses so much kindness, wisdom and practical guidance in this one clip. Great approach to decouple all the crazy into a manageable action plan!
@simonehadeen5883 3 жыл бұрын
This was so sad. It says a year ago I hope she’s doing better now!
@chrissy1448 3 жыл бұрын
A woman like this is probably doing amazing... her situation is dire but she is still focusing on the positives.
@a-a-ronbrowser1486 3 жыл бұрын
I have been wondering how some of these people have handled corona. They are Barely hanging on with normal conditions.
@naomit.s7152 4 жыл бұрын
You can hear how she can't even allow herself to get too emotional. She's so in control of what's going on because if she even let's up, everything might unravel. She's holding on so tight. She's so strong in crisis. Be strong Mama.
@ENCwwe 4 жыл бұрын
Dave's right God saw this coming and already has a way out planned.
@KayJay79 4 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@simonbelmont5801 4 жыл бұрын
Which god?
@luminous6969 4 жыл бұрын
Probably one of the 4,000. Then again, there could be a god that no one knows about.
@PositivelyBrainwashed 4 жыл бұрын
If there's a God, what makes you think he has a way out planned? Lots of people don't have happy endings, and many of them believe and pray to God.
@ENCwwe 4 жыл бұрын
@@PositivelyBrainwashed We don't always know his reasons
@Simon-oy7kf 4 жыл бұрын
"Hi uncle Dave"😂😂 If I ever see this guy on the street, that's what I'm gonna call him!
@steveng9921 3 жыл бұрын
This is so sad. Cheaters are evil.
@esonon5210 3 жыл бұрын
Isn't dating your boss a conflict of interest? That's really unethical and both of them can be fired for that.
@cptfreeman8966 3 жыл бұрын
Happens in a lot of work places
@itsallperfectlynormal9805 Ай бұрын
Depends whose interest you're talking about.
@Mack.of.all.trades 4 жыл бұрын
Sell the house, take your half, rent the cheapest (safest) apartment you can find and live off the house money/ savings money while you get a better paying job. Dont be afraid to “downsize”.
@sunshinelawfan7693 4 жыл бұрын
If she lowers her overhead - the ex will petition the court to lower his contribution. Plus the kids will have more upheaval. Try to stay till younger doesn't need a sitter after school...
@Mack.of.all.trades 4 жыл бұрын
SunshineLaw Fan very true, but, I would rather live a simple/ low cost life to get on my feet again rather than milk my ex and continue to squeeze by.
@rebeccashields9626 4 жыл бұрын
SunshineLaw Fan better to live more simply and not be dependent on that POS ex anymore. Requiring his money to get by is not a good answer to anything. Making her bills small and manageable is the best way forward.
@ecclairmayo4153 4 жыл бұрын
@Coffee AtMidnight - right! People act like HE didnt create this mess to begin with and he isnt responsible for the family he created
@donniep.1513 4 жыл бұрын
Saw the caption and clicked with the quickness!
@Tyler-sq4lt 4 жыл бұрын
Same reason women watch Lifetime and As the World Turns.
@zeebee972 4 жыл бұрын
That's nice to hoard all the cash u can. But dont let it ruin your relationship with ur sister and brother in law. Pay them
@suziedeschene5069 4 жыл бұрын
This woman is a warrior, dear God please see her and her babies through this!
@Nan-59 4 жыл бұрын
Dear girl, please DO NOT give your horrible ex any more time with your children!! I’d Eat beans and rice 🍚 before I’d let my looser ex have them more. You can do this!! Take help when extended to you, for sure! ❤️♥️❤️♥️😘. Hang in there, and praying for you your kids, especially your older son!!!
@fabulouslifeinchrist1349 4 жыл бұрын
Or get her family to help with sitting...he is not a role model.
@varg8696 4 жыл бұрын
LOL! You think taking that kid away from daddy is a good thing you're sorely mistaken. That's an amazing way to ruin your kids lift
@threexladi 4 жыл бұрын
Nan - you care not about the hidden child, do you?
@mixedmamiiD 4 жыл бұрын
@David H So you and @VARG Just missed the part where the 14 year old wanted to kill their self because of the dad breaking up his home... This isnt the type if dad the kids need.
@GamingTaylor 4 жыл бұрын
7:11 that drum scarred me
@Zichqec 4 жыл бұрын
It's been a while since one of these clips has really pulled me in and made me feel emotional like this. I'd like to give Claire a hug and sock that cheating ex of hers right in the face. "It's Dave or me" made my blood boil. What a garbage human being. Your spouse comes to you wanting to turn your finances around and get on the right track so you can have hope for the future, and you just tell them that if they do that you're going to leave. Ugh. You've got this Claire, just keep going forward a step at a time and you'll walk through this, and once you're out on the other side you'll feel much better.
@biankisocampo 4 жыл бұрын
2:36 Dave: "He has always been this guy" I remember Dave giving a millionaire guy advice on how to avoid gold diggers. He said to have your family be a filter. This should be the same for your significant other. If your parents, family, and friends do not like your significant others LISTEN, give them the benefit of the dought. Then take a step back and observe.
@MyNameIsCorey 4 жыл бұрын
First things first This guy is a straight up and down D bag however what in the world does he do for a living that earns a 40 grand bonus asking for a friend of course...
@RedTop-yo4ds 4 жыл бұрын
His boss, apparently.
@Sylvershade 4 жыл бұрын
@@RedTop-yo4ds well played....
@waynekerr2472 4 жыл бұрын
@@RedTop-yo4ds he must be good at it
@meizhen2265 4 жыл бұрын
used his sweet talking powers on his boss somehow 😏🤭
@HamiltonRb 4 жыл бұрын
@wayne kerr Maybe not. Guy's that cheat on their wife, will also cheat on their gf, and if it happens it will probably cost him his job as well as money. Some guys think with the little head instead of the big head.
@KrystalToddCPA 4 жыл бұрын
This is messy! My heart breaks hearing her voice. I think selling the house would be a great idea because home prices are astronomical in most markets. I don't know about buying another house though. That is the same thing I'm trying to decide.
@Aidualc68 4 жыл бұрын
People hide things really well. My devoted ex a hard working man working over time man. Came home smelling like work and sweat man had time to cheat on me between gym sessions at 430 am in the morning. I have no faith in relationships and been single for 4 years now and I can’t be happier.
@jseriesjay Ай бұрын
This husband literally robbed his children of a normal upbringing by his idiotic & selfish actions. With no father present and the mother gone working, they’ll face the school of Hard Knocks. Sad.
@dreamingfool2 4 жыл бұрын
Look into work you can do from home, a side hustle.
@kittykat5204 4 жыл бұрын
Wow everyone is talking about the husband but in the call, she mentioned her 14 year old kid is suicidal? Gosh an affair, money problems, family relationships, more debt with her sibling. She’s living in stress. I can feel the pain just hearing this, I really wish her the best.
@gilson618 4 жыл бұрын
I love how compassionate Dave is with these types of calls! God bless this woman and her children. Praying especially for her oldest son.
@yosemite735 4 жыл бұрын
My dad did that to his wife and my half-sisters. I ended up in an orphanage though.
@ecclairmayo4153 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you had to experience that because of an extremely selfish person
@nmc1859 3 жыл бұрын
He ruined his whole legacy!! His children! His wife! If someone be dammed should it not be him??! My goodness this story gave me chills.
@EllysaE 4 жыл бұрын
Divorce him right away. Right now. RIGHT NOW.
@susannangwale6148 2 ай бұрын
Claire needs so much more than financial advice ❤ Thanks Dave for empathy and wholistic advice
@oldmanwinter3597 3 жыл бұрын
Why is there a custody battle? Any competent lawyer would destroy this man in a heartbeat.
@terristerris4071 4 жыл бұрын
Wow...That’s a lot. I wouldn’t give up custody though. The father isn’t in a good place apparently because he’s causing drama for himself and he’s living with this woman that isn’t his wife. Putting the kids in that environment would probably be toxic and cause further problems. Can family and friends help her with the children while she work and put the kids in an activity to keep their minds busy especially that 14 year old. I feel for this woman. I can hear the hurt in her voice. She needs support right now ( family and friends). 🙏
@susansauls8902 4 жыл бұрын
Great comment. I had these same thoughts, and you laid it all out!
@emsea1658 4 жыл бұрын
When those drums started I was like wait wut?
@strongblackliquor 4 жыл бұрын
Caller: I've got a doozy. Me: yeah right *2 minutes later* Me: 😲😨😬 you ain't lying!
@vilenationgaming 4 жыл бұрын
This is why you don’t become a housewife or marry for money. When one person has all the money they also have all the power. When the relationship ends (which most do) the person with no money loses.
@jellybeans9283 4 жыл бұрын
💯 always have your own money. Money is power.
@cconroy1677 4 жыл бұрын
Ridiculous. Know who you are marrying. PS She isn't a housewife. She has a part time job. It prob took away from time with hubby. You don't know.
@lorim2000 4 жыл бұрын
This is a terrible line of thought and way to live.
@mrgilmore6953 4 жыл бұрын
But she has all his money
@ecclairmayo4153 4 жыл бұрын
@@mrgilmore6953 - not according to the call..!
@American_Liberty 4 жыл бұрын
I wish some of these people had a gofundme. :( My heart just aches for her & her child that is suicidal.
@hotandsoursoup2664 3 жыл бұрын
Once the child does the hard work & mom cries & yells so much to herself it will be better after a few months. Her child will say they can't do it, they do it. You're gonna make it. My daughter is about 8 months free of suicidal thoughts & cutting.
@GenExDividendInvestor 4 жыл бұрын
I am so appreciative that I have a great marriage and don't have to deal with insanity like this lady is dealing with.
@GenExDividendInvestor 4 жыл бұрын
@liveyourbestlife That's true.. anything could happen.. At any point... I never thought of an exit plan though.. I think if something ever happened I would go to counseling first...
@shawnreed4859 4 жыл бұрын
This is something else. Sad this happens a lot these days.
@bigbossjc4117 4 жыл бұрын
Pretty sure this is not what Dave meant, when he was talking about baby steps.
@fpfp1111 4 жыл бұрын
Lol
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