My mom was still in ICU when I had to tell her that a drunk driver killed her 3 youngest children.

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Simmons3

Simmons3

2 жыл бұрын

My mom was in ICU after a drunk driver crashed into them and killer her 3 youngest children. After 2 days, she was medically cleared for us to break the news to her. This is one of the hardest moments of my life. I will never stop sharing my story to spread awareness on just how devastating getting behind the wheel intoxicated can be.
#grief
#griefandloss
#griefjourney
#dontdrinkanddrive
#stopdrunkdrivers

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@queenshanee4083
@queenshanee4083 2 жыл бұрын
I'm praying for you all. Sept 4th 2021 a 17 yr old hit me with my 2 daughters t- bone. My two daughters are 5 and 7. My 5 yr old Kaylin did not survive because her side of the car took so much of the impact. My 7 yr old had brain surgery and I had face surgery. It was the worst ever. I am constantly trying everyday to make it through the days but it's super hard. I'm glad you shared your story.
@simmons3
@simmons3 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my, I am SO SORRY momma! 💔😢
@karlamandrell3954
@karlamandrell3954 Жыл бұрын
My deepest sympathy for the loss of your child, the trauma is one I can't imagine. 🙏 Pray you have someone to talk to when needed..
@ahoward3819
@ahoward3819 Жыл бұрын
So very sorry for your loss. Sending you love and hoping you find peace.
@crystalinabacteria3430
@crystalinabacteria3430 Жыл бұрын
Praying for you & your family ❤️🙏
@connielea1896
@connielea1896 Жыл бұрын
I pray that God will give you peace and help your heart heal. I lost my oldest son I. 2016. I know he is with the Lord, that is what gets me through.
@judyjenna-pilot553
@judyjenna-pilot553 6 ай бұрын
I lost my husband who was killed by a drunk driver at 900 in the morning. He was only 26years young 😢 he left me a widow and single mom of a two year old and three year old. My little boy cried for his daddy everynight for almost a seven months. PEOPLE STOP DRIVING IMPAIRED ITS SO SELFISH 😢
@LioraSorrel
@LioraSorrel 21 күн бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss! I’m so sorry for the pain your little ones had to endure. May God comfort you. I pray for you and your little ones ❤
@taylorgarton6983
@taylorgarton6983 10 күн бұрын
I have personally held and comforted a child who lost a parent during the night and it was so painful I cannot even describe, I cannot imagine going through months of this nightly while also grieving and trying to adjust. I am so sorry. You are a warrior.
@belladonnared
@belladonnared Күн бұрын
Omg I am so sorry. My deepest condolences
@Biwabik223
@Biwabik223 Жыл бұрын
This is so sad and so preventable. I'm a former police officer from the 1970's era, I am not ashamed to admit I was out to get drunk drivers. Back then our courts would not prosecute anybody for DUI that registered below .12 (Back then the legal limit was .10) The small towns I worked hated me for this very reason, and they rejoiced when I was asked to leave by city councils because the bar owners were constantly complaining that the drunks were afraid of getting arrested. After seeing this I hope I saved at least one family from this trauma.
@longwhitemane
@longwhitemane Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU for your service in trying to keep our citizens safe.
@kelliea7451
@kelliea7451 Жыл бұрын
I have no doubt that you have saved lives! Thank you for doing such a good job.
@Soulshine4JesusChrist
@Soulshine4JesusChrist Жыл бұрын
@Biwabik223, thank you sir for everything you did. I pray you saved more than 1 life. I pray you saved many. It's such a tragedy that people get behind the wheel so intoxicated they can barely stand. If they do survive, if they're in an accident, and take other people's lives, they instantly become mad and refuse to take responsibility. I am glad that people finally figured out that even if you have 1 drink, everyone is different. 1 drink may not affect you like it would someone else. Regardless, it slows your response down. People need to take responsibility and not get behind a steering wheel and drive 1 foot if they have had any alcohol or substance. This is the tragedy they create by not being responsible for their actions. May God Bless You for all you have done to prevent this as much as you possibly could. These families shouldn't have to go through such terrible tragedies caused by selfish people.
@BarbetteKjostad
@BarbetteKjostad Жыл бұрын
Thank you for trying as you did. ❤
@faithbasedliving9391
@faithbasedliving9391 Жыл бұрын
That was truly God’s purpose for you. Thank you so much
@lizacampbell2183
@lizacampbell2183 7 ай бұрын
"they in good hands ma" 💔 prayers for this family's healing. The sister in the video, strong beautiful woman. ❤️
@Patjuhhe
@Patjuhhe Жыл бұрын
Do you have any idea how strong you are for taking care of all those horrible things? Identify your siblings, telling your dad they passed away and telling your mom 3 of her angels were gone. You, girl, are strong! I can only imagine how awfully depressed and sad you are feeling some days. But I truly believe you can get through it 🙏❤❤ God bless you and your family
@Miss_Boho
@Miss_Boho 2 жыл бұрын
I follow you on TikTok and have kept up with your story since it happened. Two months after you lost your siblings, I lost my parents in a similar way. A 19 year old male was driving under the influence of drugs, suspended license, no insurance, dead/false tags. He lived 2 minutes up the road from my parents. As they were pulling out of their home onto a country road that led into town, the male passed a police officer. He thought the officer was going to pull him over because he had a bench warrant for a minor traffic violation so he reached speeds of 70+ in a 15mph zone. The male then decided to make an illegal pass in a blind curve, striking my parents head on. The witnesses immediately called 911 and went to be with my parents and the male. He hit them so hard that my mom's entire driver side was crumpled back in on her and it sent her car flying backwards through a field and slammed into a tree. We are not sure weather the impact caused our dad's heart to rupture or the impact of the tree from the end of the car. They were both unconscious and my dad's heart bled out while he was unconscious so they said he was alive for about 10 to 15 minutes before the witnesses watched as he took his last breath. My mom came to a couple of times and whispered her sisters name to the witnesses. Her sister passed away suddenly from a heart attack 2 years prior. So we believe my Aunt was there waiting to take her home. As paramedics arrived they called out that our dad was DOA so they went to our mom who was still unconscious and yelled out that she was still alive but her pulse was very weak. Life-flight landed as the paramedics were still working on her. My brother happened to pull up on the scene at this point and he ran from his truck to the ambulance were they began to load our mom. He got to grab her foot that didn't have a shoe on it and said mom I'm here. She never responded to his voice. The officers, paramedics and Coroner kept holding my brother back from getting into the ambulance. They asked him if he knew the male passenger and of course he didn't know for sure so he said no. They began to tell him the passenger was a Hispanic male and he was DOA. My brother fell to his knees but heard our mom start screaming at the paramedics to let her up. So my brother turned his focus back to her since he knew he couldn't do anything for our dad. They refused to let him get in the ambulance to calm her down so he fought them off to get close enough to see her trying to sit up. She was still yelling and he was yelling at her to get her attention, saying that he was there and to remain calm. They forcefully made my brother leave the scene and told him to go to the hospital that they had to work on her and Life-flight her. After he left she flatlined multiple times. They got her into the air and she flatlined again. They continued to work on her while circling the hospital. They had her heart rate around 40bmp when they rushed her into the trauma center. A doctor had came out to tell my brother he could see her before they took her back into surgery. As soon as he walked in, he leaned over, kissed her forehead, said I love you mom, I'm here and you need to fight! As soon as he started saying those words, the alarm went off and he watched as she flatlined and passed away. They pushed him out of the room and a few minutes later the doctor stepped out to confirm she had expired. Both of us has taken this whole situation terribly. I never leave my house unless to attend court hearings over the male. He was indicted on 11 charges, including 2 murder charges. Hearing you say not to call it an accident is exactly what I refuse to do. It was a murder. Plain and simple. We have been attacked online by random people, his friends and family saying that we are overreacting like he is some kind of horrible murderer that was on a lot of drugs. They keep saying he is just a kid and it was an accident. I absolutely refuse to call it an accident and just because he was 19 doesn't make what he done any less severe than a person who sets out to kill someone. He knew the consequences before he got behind the wheel and without hesitation, he drove carelessly and recklessly until he hit my parents head on, killing them both. So yes, it is a murder and yes, he is an adult that knew better than to drive on drugs and without the proper required documentation stating he could drive. He murdered them on 2/15/22 and was arrested on 3/8/22. He remains in jail on a million dollar CASH ONLY bond. I don't feel sorry for him because he took everything from us in a split second. Our world is dark and cold without our parents. They had so much life left to live, grandchildren to watch grow. I don't think I will ever get through this but I will tell you that seeing your strength, your courage to share your story helps in a way. You keep going and I know I need to keep going even though I don't want to. I just want to go and lay beside my mommy. I'm tired of fighting this feeling of grief.
@someonebeautiful485
@someonebeautiful485 Жыл бұрын
I'm genuinely saddened about reading this. It breaks my spirit to say the least. I'm sending healing energy and positivity to you and all who are affected by the loss of your parents. 🙏
@MegglesEST1983
@MegglesEST1983 Жыл бұрын
This sounds like a unbelievable story. How do you know so much
@doriswashington9708
@doriswashington9708 Жыл бұрын
@@MegglesEST1983 It was op's parents so of course they know everything. Did you read the whole post???
@deniseblackburn33
@deniseblackburn33 Жыл бұрын
So sorry
@kimberleyoliver8335
@kimberleyoliver8335 Жыл бұрын
So sorry this happened to your family. There is a campaign by MADD in Canada to stop calling drunk driving deaths and injuries ‘accidents’. 😢I hope and pray that the male who did this is fully charged so you can begin with heal. 😢
@01mbates
@01mbates 2 ай бұрын
I’m so glad she has you. What a beautiful daughter inside and out. ❤
@followerofyahushaoctaviadm
@followerofyahushaoctaviadm Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss! I used to be a prosecutor and I absolutely had zero patience for drunk drivers. I didn’t understand why people treated these crimes so leniently when I would always tell defense attorneys and judges the risks of driving drunks so I didn’t agree with being lenient for DUI cases. I typically pushed for the harshest penalties I could try because I think DUI is such a stupid and selfish crime!
@rayleentupou8333
@rayleentupou8333 Жыл бұрын
I wish I had hired you as our defense attorney to fight my daughter’s case in 2017. My daughter is a survivor of a drunk driver who was under the influence of alcohol and illegal drugs, as well as prescription drugs. The lawyer that was hired and represented my daughter just did the bare minimum. Declaring that his family had no money nor insurance, but will pay the minimum of what can be paid accordingly. No money could help my daughter at the time and that was not our focus. We wanted justice, and we wanted him to face the repercussions of his actions. My daughter suffers everyday with an anoxic brain injury/traumatic brain injury, severe epilepsy, impaired memory, and spasticity in her whole left side of her body. she struggles with walking every day; was informed that she may never even walk no reason on her own, but she survived the hardest part of being able to move and feeling the pain of doing just that. His punishment, a slap on his wrists and months of probation as well as enjoying his life making many more mistakes with the law and drugs…maybe even worse. His punishment doesn’t fit the crime! Sorry for the novel and I just wanted to share that.
@markseal1074
@markseal1074 Жыл бұрын
I actually did leave a message about this before,I totally agree,the driver took 3 lives, got in the car with no thought for anyone except himself,so that is 3 murders committed in my mind,so that's 3 life sentences, looking at some of these messages and the total destruction and injuries, and the drivers get a few years a slap on the wrist,where is the justice in the world,I personally don't know any of you,but I feel so angry for you all 😢
@YeshuaKingMessiah
@YeshuaKingMessiah Жыл бұрын
Becuz drunkenness is considered an illness now, society thinks they can’t not drink. Not being selfish. My family is full of drunks. That viewpoint did not help them. It’s an age old sin, period.
@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad
@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad Жыл бұрын
The driver did not see them in the car & actively say “oh, a family of tiktokers! I’m going to ram into them & try to kill all of them!”. It was an extremely tragic *accident* yes, but not intentional/1st degree murder.
@13thFatima
@13thFatima Жыл бұрын
It fell on me to tell my brother his 19 year old son died in a car accident. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. But my burden was nothing compared to his as he buried his first born child. May God continue to give you and your family strength to persevere. Amen.
@TheFrogfeeder
@TheFrogfeeder Жыл бұрын
Man. I’m not an overly emotional kinda guy, I’ve dealt with a lot of tragedy and death in my 45 years… and good times too. But watching you tell this story just about knocked that lump in my throat loose. I am very sorry for your loss, and I am happy you still have your mom. You have the most beautiful and soulful eyes I have ever seen, like windows right into you…
@ashleygarner.23
@ashleygarner.23 Жыл бұрын
I agree her eyes and also her accent are so beautiful and unique ❤
@cynthiaavila3006
@cynthiaavila3006 Жыл бұрын
❤❤
@cyndimorris4820
@cyndimorris4820 Жыл бұрын
I've only seen a couple of your videos, and you, beautiful girl, are amazing. These responsibilities you had, were the kind no one ever wants to endure, yet you handled everything with grace. Bless you and your family. I'm so proud you're involved in getting the story told from the heart. I don't know you, but darlin' I love you ❤️.
@kcluckystars
@kcluckystars 7 ай бұрын
​@cyndimorris4820 You said this perfectly.
@lulabell79_31
@lulabell79_31 6 ай бұрын
Her eyes were the first thing I noticed, too. She is a beautiful soul and you can see it in her eyes.
@donnatamburelli3106
@donnatamburelli3106 Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had an 11 yr old brother ,along with 5 others killed by a drunk driver in 1986. 36yrs later and it still affects me.
@sashacardenas377
@sashacardenas377 Жыл бұрын
God be with you❤
@MsChefMIMI
@MsChefMIMI Жыл бұрын
That’s the year I was born. Sorry for your loss🫶🏾
@user-bo1rj2xu2s
@user-bo1rj2xu2s Жыл бұрын
Of course it does, yet, you've struggled through. I'm glad you didn't allow the drunk driver to steal the rest of your life. Peace.
@bsoz9759
@bsoz9759 Ай бұрын
Donna, I am so sad that this happened to you and your family. He was so young and had so much life ahead of him. I had just completed my first year of college at that time of his death. That was so long ago, but still remains fresh in my mind. I am sad to think how that long ago time is still a big part of your life. I lost the first cousin I remember being born (I have 24 cousins on my dad's side, there are 27 grandchildren) when I was in elementary school. I am the 4th oldest of the group and I was overwhelmingly devastated. I had seen him in my parents' home asleep in his car seat. I remember loving him so much because I knew him from the start of his life. He was killed in a car accident the next day.
@donnakoch502
@donnakoch502 7 ай бұрын
My dad was killed by a drunk driver on December 14th on my mom's birthday. They went out to dinner and never made it home. This was 1979; driver got community service...doesn't seem much has changed in over 40 years. I was 19 and I miss my daddy every single day!
@shazcon71
@shazcon71 Ай бұрын
In 36 years of driving I’ve never driven after having a drink. Not even one drink. I’ve had people say oh one won’t hurt, but this gives me reason to believe that any amount can impair you & any amount does hurt. I’m glad I have this mentality, I only hope that your mission to raise awareness encourages more people to completely abstain from drink driving. The horrendous aftermath is just not worth it. You’re in my thoughts ❤
@angelaedwards5124
@angelaedwards5124 Жыл бұрын
Bless your heart. It's ok to cry. Do not apologize for your tears.
@kelly-k-dub
@kelly-k-dub Жыл бұрын
My brother struggles with addiction to prescription medication’s, he gets behind the wheel sometimes when I’m not paying attention to him, his level of intoxication from these medications is unbelievable.Your story gave me the strength to call his doctor and let her know what was going on. He went to this doctor yesterday for his monthly appointment and she removed him from the medication!!! So thank you for telling your story!!! Lots of love from Indiana!!! 💜💜💜💜
@neen2660
@neen2660 Жыл бұрын
Please still keep an eye out. He could switch
@sharigraff871
@sharigraff871 10 ай бұрын
Good for you! You probably saved your brothers life also! Yes of course- keep an eye out for him to switch- but good job for making that call!
@aquilasteckel2533
@aquilasteckel2533 4 ай бұрын
I'm an ex addict, and I want to say that you did a wonderful thing most family members enable to a degree. But please still watch him. It's so so hard to stop taking prescription medication that was my addiction. It is the worst thing to go thru so without medical help some people who are highly addicted to those medications try but don't make it without medical help.
@Blake-no7ec
@Blake-no7ec 4 ай бұрын
How is he doing now?
@cathyshirley8541
@cathyshirley8541 2 ай бұрын
Be careful. He may doctor shop or find pill mill doctors.
@danasorrells2358
@danasorrells2358 Жыл бұрын
Four days after your family's accident, my best friend lost her sister and brother-in-law in Las Vegas due to a drunk driver. That woman was sentenced to prison and cried a river of tears in court, but it will never bring back the people she killed. I'm so incredibly sorry for your family's loss.
@brianwaller7383
@brianwaller7383 Жыл бұрын
I lived in Vegas for 21 years. There’s at least 3 dui fatalities a week. I’m not exaggerating in the 21 years I’d say conservatively 3000 people have died in the streets of Vegas.
@AKA-Nana
@AKA-Nana Жыл бұрын
You may never see this because I just found your channel but I’m so sorry for your tremendous loss at the hands of a selfish person with no regard for others. My Mother was killed by a drunken driver when I was 4 years old. There were three of us children and we never called anyone Mom again. She was only 24. Her murderer was a neighbor of ours and he killed her just a few blocks from home…they almost made it. My life has never been the same and I have made it my life’s mission to try and prevent drunk driving by even offering rides on major holidays, my family and neighbors all know they can call me at any hour for a ride. I HATE alcohol to this day.
@ATumblelinaTruth7777
@ATumblelinaTruth7777 Жыл бұрын
😢💙🙏
@danil.9083
@danil.9083 Жыл бұрын
Sadly, this could happen to ANYONE. ... Not just losing someone we love from a drunk driver, but killing someone because we drove drunk... The real statistics of how many people that have taken the wheel after having a drink is easily in the 80-90%... So it's easy to judge people by saying "Everybody knows not to drink and drive" , until something like THIS happens to THEM...
@shelleywright7474
@shelleywright7474 Ай бұрын
I’m am so sorry that your family experienced this tragedy, I’m in Philly, and I just wanted to let you know that there are a lot of people here, continuously praying for your family 🙏🙏🙏
@jorgeannelabou874
@jorgeannelabou874 Ай бұрын
My cousin was killed by drunk driver and left 6 children behind. I have zero tolerance for drunk driving. I am so sorry that happened to your family. Thank God your Mother has you.
@donnatracy9762
@donnatracy9762 6 ай бұрын
Im so heartbroken for you and your family. Im a retired funeral director and helping families go through losing their family members to drunk driving murders or suicide is the hardest thing of life, and i cried many tears, but i also had to keep it together to help them get through the worst time of their lives. God bless you all.
@janetpartyka5968
@janetpartyka5968 Жыл бұрын
You are a blessing from God. To have to identify your siblings, tell your mom the horrible news about her kids........ I have so much respect for you. What I see in you is this down-to-earth young lady doing God's work. Thank you so much for being there for your mom and family. I saw a video where your mom talks about the crash, shows photos of caskets, funeral and other things, for your momma to stand up in front of people to talk about her children passing away due to a drunk driver is down right COURAGEOUS. You are good people. Congratulations for starting the Simmons3 Foundation. God Bless you.
@suzymagan7575
@suzymagan7575 Жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to you and your mom. My 8yr old cousin was killed by a drunk driver. My brother of another mother was killed by a drunk driver. You are so right, it was no accident someone chose to risk and take your loved ones lives. I am so sorry for your losses.
@venombanefo7615
@venombanefo7615 Жыл бұрын
To lose three children/siblings in one go is beyond heartbreaking. May the Lord continue to wrap His arms around you and your family, in Jesus' Name. Big hugs.
@susiespearing6165
@susiespearing6165 Жыл бұрын
Where was "the lord" when those children died .He sure wasn't wrapping his arms around them then .Hes a cruel despicable god who allows children to die in agony😠
@childofgod269
@childofgod269 Жыл бұрын
@@susiespearing6165 Where was God? Whispering into the heart of the alcoholic pleading him to surrender his addiction and to turn his will and his life over to Him. This is what happens when we refuse to listen to God.
@childofgod269
@childofgod269 Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏽
@420athena
@420athena Жыл бұрын
​​@@childofgod269i wish God would come and whisper in my ear to comfort me when I'm relapsing and on the verge of svicide lol im not against believing God but this shits ridiculous
@ComicRaptor8850
@ComicRaptor8850 Жыл бұрын
@@susiespearing6165what’s so awful about children dying?
@deannacarpenter6283
@deannacarpenter6283 13 күн бұрын
I lost my grandma to a drunk driver in 1966. Still makes me so sad to this day. She was the passenger front seat. His passenger in front seat also. Head in collision killed both upon impact. My grandpa was in a coma for 3 months. My aunt seated behind my grandma was stuffed under the front seat. She had a long recovery with plates in her head, face, and both legs. She just recently passed 58 yrs after the wreck. The neighbor seated behind grandpa only had a broken arm. The drunk driver had no injuries. State trooper clocked him at 125mph. Before he could hit lights & sirens, headon occurred. Only got a speeding ticket!!!. Trooper stated one car full of bibles & church programs & the other full of empty beer bottles. My grandparents were retuning home after Sunday evening services. How one person's poor judgement affected so many lives. I pray for your family. I admire the grace & strength of you, Katie & your mother. God bless your mission.
@kenzie9200
@kenzie9200 2 жыл бұрын
I've never been so heart broken for a family in my life and one thing that really breaks my heart is I know that momma is so broken on the inside but she does a great job putting on a strong front but to imagine the survivors guilt she probably deals with on a daily basis really gets to me because she's already going through enough.
@danielleelias685
@danielleelias685 Жыл бұрын
And the person that did this should have survivor's guilt. And hopefully never drink and drivr again.
@nancycurtis488
@nancycurtis488 Жыл бұрын
The person that did this should have gotten life in prison with no chance of parole!
@kenzie9200
@kenzie9200 Жыл бұрын
​@@danielleelias685 he died in the crash as well
@kenzie9200
@kenzie9200 Жыл бұрын
​@@nancycurtis488 he died that night too
@MargoIndigo
@MargoIndigo 5 ай бұрын
as far as i’m concerned, driving drunk is inherently attempted murder of any and everyone on the road. and should be treated and charged as much. end of. 👏🏼
@Spirit-8
@Spirit-8 Жыл бұрын
Every school college and university should show this to their students, it would make them grow up thinking no way would I ever drink and drive, this could save hundreds of lives, god bless you all.x
@DeeDee40ful
@DeeDee40ful Жыл бұрын
I could barely breath listening to you describe the moment you told your mom. The amount of strength you possess is amazing. You held your entire family up and took care of the things that needed to be done. No one should have to go through what your family went through. I pray your story prevents others from making the choice to drink and drive. God Bless you and your family.
@roxannereitmann5142
@roxannereitmann5142 Ай бұрын
Sweetheart, don’t ever apologize for crying, that only shows the depth of your and the pain you have experienced. Praying for you and your family.
@AshleeDeVillierNguyen
@AshleeDeVillierNguyen Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry for y'all's loss. I lost my brother on May 28 in Lafayette and I had to call my daddy in the middle of the night and tell him. Absolutely the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Sending so much peace, love, & light to your family.
@barbtries
@barbtries Жыл бұрын
My daughter was killed by a drunk driver. Your tragedy is infinitely worse. Hugs to you, and give your mother a hug from Bekah's mom.
@joinjen3854
@joinjen3854 Жыл бұрын
Barbtries: yours is just as bad. Losing a child is different than losing a sibling. Condolences and healing for you.
@LadyTenorJD
@LadyTenorJD 10 ай бұрын
They are all bad and horrible to those going through the experience. Don't lessen your pain and loss by comparing to others. God is with you all.
@barbtries
@barbtries 3 ай бұрын
@@yossarian6799 I don't disagree with anything you said. I"m so sorry for your loss and the denial of justice! I could not possibly diminish in my own mind the suffering that ensued from Bekah's death. But even from the start I found myself looking for ways it could have been worse, and chief among the ways it could have been worse would be if I lost more than one child. Even your situation, not knowing who killed your brother, is another scenario I comforted myself with: at least I know who killed her. We didn't get justice; it would have been better if we had. It's like this to me. Nobody who has never lost a child can truly understand the depth of that pain. these other layers of hurt likewise confound my understanding of what is endured. But I don't see it as a way to diminish my own suffering, which really only time, counseling, weeping and remembering allowed me to arrive at the point of being able to engage in life and experience joy once again. Sudden, youthful death brings on grief that is complicated. Your family's tragedy was especially so; please know I understand that even though I cannot fully understand all the implications of what happened to Nick. hugs to you and your loved ones
@seanabadalich9112
@seanabadalich9112 2 ай бұрын
No ones tragedy trumps another. Sending 😘 to you and peace ❤️
@chandragarcia6116
@chandragarcia6116 2 ай бұрын
As a person in recovery,AA , im so grateful this wasnt a choice for me. And it also never happened to me as a driver. I praise God everyday. Thank you for all the information you give out. So needed. It can happen to any family. And youre right it is NOT an accident!
@theresajohnson1959
@theresajohnson1959 Жыл бұрын
I’ve always said, an accident is something you can’t prevent, killing someone’s because you were sober at some point before you made a conscious decision to drink knowing you would be getting behind the wheel of a car!! That is not an accident, it’s murder. I’m am so sorry this happened, bless you for sharing you’re story💜🙏
@amandastallings1127
@amandastallings1127 2 жыл бұрын
Katie. In my opinion.. You are the epitome of brave and strength. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I am so so sorry it’s one you even have to tell.
@kathykay2010
@kathykay2010 Жыл бұрын
I can't imagine the loss your family has endured. My best friend lost her husband and his best friend to a drunk driver on April 7, 2023. She is devastated to say the least. The crash was his third time being caught driving drunk. This should have never happened.
@MichelleNagir
@MichelleNagir Жыл бұрын
Wow, this is sad and so recent. Hope your best friend is leaning on you for support. A lot of times people want to be alone.
@kathykay2010
@kathykay2010 Жыл бұрын
@@MichelleNagir I've talked to her a few times but she is still so consumed by the grief that it's hard for her to escape her sudden loss and carry on. We're not in the same state so the phone is our only option. Sadly, my niece lost her husband to cancer last month and she's totally heartbroken also. It's so sad that they have to go through such loss. My heart breaks for everyone that has had loved ones taken from them far too soon. The loss of three at the same time is unthinkable. They have turned their pain into a mission for good and that is the best thing that could come out of the loss of their beloved family members. Thanks for caring Michelle, I'm praying that everyone will remain safe and secure wherever they may go. God bless you and yours... 🙏
@aquilasteckel2533
@aquilasteckel2533 4 ай бұрын
Yes I agree, unfortunately alot of DUI drivers continue to get more and more until they do kill innocent people. Here in my town 3 young 17 and 18 yr old girls were going to get snacks at around 11 pm from the store on the way a driver who had gotten 2 or 3 (I don't remember) DUIs was driving beyond drunk going 100 mph and they didn't see him he didn't die nor did his passenger, and all he was concerned about after the accident was his car. He was alot older so he lived a good portion more of his life than those girls and he gets to live( though he is in prison) but still not every person feels remorse or empathy for taking a life/lives. He should have already been in jail or some kind of something should be thought of to stop them from being able to get a car or drive (besides of course the legal way) I don't know something seems like we are smart enough to think of something. I'm so sorry for your family having to go thru any of this bs!! I pray that you receive as much peace as you can in this awful situation.
@kathykay2010
@kathykay2010 4 ай бұрын
@@aquilasteckel2533 There are far too many life altering injuries and deaths caused by totally irresponsible people that are old enough to know better. Their decision to drive while under the influence of any mind-altering substance, pot included, comes with the knowledge that an auto accident can happen to anyone at any time, especially if you are drinking or under another influence. They are also responsible for the catastrophic cost of medical services that come with such horrible injuries that may never be reversed. The monetary cost and the personal cost of a person's mental and physical health can never be calculated. They are never ending and off of the chart destructive to families affected by totally irresponsible people that can never begin to pay for the damages they have caused. Even if they do end up being held responsible by serving prison time, that prison term is also at the expense of every single taxpayer in America because prisons are a for-profit industry. So, no matter what happens the innocent always pay the price for the multitudes that still risk everybody's life so they can indulge their mental and spiritual weaknesses as they worship at the altar of death and destruction caused by the inner demons they refuse to recognize as they rip apart their lives and anybody else that crosses their path at the wrong time. They call alcohol Spirits for a reason. It can and will take over every life that allows them to manipulate and control our spiritual destiny. The social and legal systems are far too easy on these people and as long as that attitude continues, we will all be forced to pay the price that nobody can really afford. Life is fragile and often far too easily taken away. This must not be allowed to continue. God bless you always, take care and stay safe...
@tammiegowin
@tammiegowin Жыл бұрын
I grew up in La. I heard your voice and smiled, then I learned your story. Sweetheart all I can say is that your family are in my prayers. God Bless ya'll!!
@nellieolesonfan
@nellieolesonfan 2 жыл бұрын
I remember the night, my mom and I passed your siblings crosses.. We had gone through LA to get a golden retriever puppy, and I told her all through the state about you and your siblings, and mama, and Marissa... I realized we were going to pass their crosses about the time of night it happened, and i couldn't stop telling her... I was like "THREE, mama, three babies, the youngests, they all left this earth at the same time" and then I saw the crosses, and fell silent. I couldn't talk anymore, just the unbelievable grief that y'all have to go through now. I'm not a religious person, but I know y'all are and I respect that, so I sent up a prayer, asking for your mama's healing, and Marissa's, and everyone else in the family and whoever they touch with their life, and if the kids could, to send y'all signs whenever you need it.... hugs to you Katie, and your family.
@oystershucksters4206
@oystershucksters4206 Жыл бұрын
You really stepped up to serve your family. It’s just incredible. Took a lot of strength, and unfathomable courage, to do all that you did.
@dianaray1470
@dianaray1470 Жыл бұрын
You are so well spoken in this heartbreaking story telling. What a saint you were for your mama.
@elissahopson3902
@elissahopson3902 Жыл бұрын
I just found your channel and I am in disbelief…shock…I don’t even have the words - that one family should have to endure so much pain. I’m so, so incredibly sorry. Thank you for sharing your story and spreading awareness about the horrors of drunk driving.
@tiggerinthewoods7996
@tiggerinthewoods7996 Жыл бұрын
I had a driver's Ed teacher in high school that always said, "There are no accidents, they are collisions." So true then, 39 years ago, so true still today.
@lauriepolden6594
@lauriepolden6594 Жыл бұрын
I believe there are accidents if you hit black ice and have no intention of driving into anyone and black ice changes that as it did in my case, it was truly honestly an accident caused by the weather in the fact that I didn’t even know there was black ice there
@michelletrimmer7431
@michelletrimmer7431 Жыл бұрын
I'm a retired paramedic. Spent 26 years in the field running 38,000 calls a year. Part of being a paramedic is learning to write clear and concise reports for each call. The words you chose had to be fact and not opinion. We had many abbreviations but the most important rule was to never ever call a car collision a car accident. It was always MVC= Motor Vehicle Collision not MVA=motor vehicle accident. Of course no one intentionally crash their car into another person.
@jamimcclung7506
@jamimcclung7506 2 жыл бұрын
Honey, I don’t think anyone expects you to not cry when you are telling these stories. I cried when you told this story! Such a tragic event. I just want to say, I lost my mom in Dec. 2019 and at three months I was still a mess. You are doing so well considering everything!! I do have one question, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to. I’m just curious as to how your dad is doing? *Hugs*
@shonna4545
@shonna4545 Жыл бұрын
Awe, honey.....I found your channel today and I have been binge watching. I am so sorry! I lost my sister 14 years ago. I pray you and your whole family find peace. God bless ya'll!!
@chinchilla1956
@chinchilla1956 5 ай бұрын
This is quite possibly the sadest story i've heard in a long time 😪❤️❤️❤️
@addisperez8205
@addisperez8205 Жыл бұрын
My mom's triplet brother was killed by a drunk driver. I saw your story on TikTok & how some people were making rude comments. It's very sad that one person's stupid decision to drive drunk had such a devastating impact on your family & robbed you & your family of time & precious memories. You & your mom should be proud of everything you've been doing to spread awareness while keeping your siblings memories alive by sharing their gifts with the world. You are truly amazing. Sending prayers for peace & strength & sending love & light.🙏💓🌈✨
@emilyl3670
@emilyl3670 Жыл бұрын
I’m laying here with my almost one year old daughter, my only child. Since hearing this story my heart has hurt for you all. It’s something that should NEVER happen. Reading all these comments breaks my heart for everyone that’s went threw something so terrible because of someone’s ignorance that could completely have been prevented
@deniseoplinger4690
@deniseoplinger4690 Жыл бұрын
What a wonderful, brave girl you are. You were raised right, handling all the terribly awfully hard stuff. You are a daughter to be proud of. God bless you all
@ashleygarner.23
@ashleygarner.23 Жыл бұрын
I am so obsessed with you and your mom's accent. It's so unique and beautiful. ❤
@livybearful
@livybearful 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your stories Katie, you have hundreds of thousands of supporters and people praying for you and your family every single day. ❤️
@haileegreen1588
@haileegreen1588 2 жыл бұрын
I've literally sat there for hours watching every video on your tiktok and KZfaq and I pray for you and your family ..
@Gigi_Said_That
@Gigi_Said_That Жыл бұрын
You are an amazing daughter and sister. Your heart is just huge I feel your love, pain and strength through your videos. This man didn’t make a mistake he intentionally risked lives and committed murder. My best friend was killed by an impaired driver. Leaving behind three beautiful boys. I still cry..you give me strength and hope for change.
@shannonrowe777
@shannonrowe777 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing, God bless your mom & your family!
@callistahatten9590
@callistahatten9590 Жыл бұрын
I lost my mother to homicide when I was 14, and It took a while for me to really realize that she was gone. The most heartbreaking feeling 💔. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that you, your family, and parents are feeling. Losing all those precious kids must be so heartbreaking. 😪
@thrivingexjw2061
@thrivingexjw2061 Жыл бұрын
I’m so so sorry😓This is so heartbreaking. Your story should be told in every high school & college! Praying for your family, especially your mom! Hugs & Love 💕
@jennifersherman8838
@jennifersherman8838 Жыл бұрын
I'm sending you a big hug. You were incredibly brave to have told her. Mourning is different for everyone; there is no "right way" to mourn. There is no time limit. I find that it comes and goes, sometimes out of the blue, usually on birthdays and death anniversaries, to varying degrees. I also keep good memories and feelings about loved ones who have died. My mom suddenly died when I was 20 and I am 65 now. Thank you, so much, for sharing your story. I needed to hear it, and your crying, too. Stay safe and take care. Jennifer San Francisco Bay area
@MaBonita
@MaBonita Жыл бұрын
My deepest condolences to the Simmons family. Losing loved ones is the hardest thing to ever have to go through.🤍🙏🏻🤍🙏🏻🤍🙏🏻 ☁️🕊️☁️🕊️☁️🕊️
@patriciastaley5707
@patriciastaley5707 6 ай бұрын
So Sorry, I cry still when I hear of the crash. Bless You Ones Left Behind 😢
@Stacy-pz9rr
@Stacy-pz9rr 11 күн бұрын
Your BRAVERY is more than what I would be capable of , and I’m 55 Y/O . Your FAITH is your strength , and I Pray millions of people see this video ❤fromTX
@JustJenReacts
@JustJenReacts 3 ай бұрын
May God continue to bring you strength through this tragedy. Your family is always in my thoughts and prayers.
@allyivy1784
@allyivy1784 Жыл бұрын
I don’t know your family, but I cried with you as you were telling your story. I have kids of my own, I can’t imagine what it’s like for a mother to lose her children so tragically, and I don’t want to imagine. May it never happen. May God heal those wounds, and may there be a grand reunion in heaven one day.
@mmdiane
@mmdiane Жыл бұрын
Katie, I'm just hearing about this story today. I've been listening to your story and just want to send my ❤ and support to your entire family. I found your families story when the video clip of their headstones being cleaned and wiped down on my KZfaq reels. From then on, I had to know who these three beautiful children were. I'm up in Ontario, Canada and just wanted your family to know that sharing your story of family, love and loss means so much. I'm a Mom of two grown children, and I can't imagine how you all feel, especially your Mom and Dad. God Bless. Stay strong. 🙏
@Mianlos
@Mianlos 2 күн бұрын
@mmdiane what drunk driving laws do you 🎉have in Canada? Is it prosecuted ask 13:45 13:45 87 intentional murder? Here in Southern New Mexico these offenders lose their license and I don't know what else but they don't drive vehicles. Some ride bicycles if they have one. Our society must do better. 🎉k🎉t😮😮😢🎉😢 Knowtheir wheels. Daily we can see 13:45 several people, men and women walking home from stores carrying their sacks of groceries all over town not only just in poorer in o
@sandypeters3238
@sandypeters3238 Жыл бұрын
I remember when this happened, it wasn't too far from where I live. Words can not express how sorry I am for your family's loss! Praying for the peace of God for all of y'all!
@MuscularMayhem
@MuscularMayhem Жыл бұрын
YOU are such a wonderful daughter. You had the weight of the world on your shoulders & it sounds like you handled it so bravely. ❤ I lost my Mom in an auto accident Sept. 28, 2021. I cried right along with you because I had to tell my Dad she was gone. That guttural cry is the worst. 😢 He spent time in the ICU & then a rehab facility to get back on his feet. It was such a difficult time & some of it is a complete blur. I was so busy I didn't grieve right away. This past year her death has hit me harder than ever. You never know when those feelings are gonna creep up on you!! Thankfully, my two nieces were able to help me out then & now. If it wasn't for my Dad & my nieces I'd be lost. I will go back & watch more of your videos. This whole story is totally new to me, so I have some catching up to do. However, I had to stop & immediately send you & your family PGLP!! (Peace, Grace, Love, Prayers) Take care! ❤
@taraA1976
@taraA1976 Жыл бұрын
You are an amazing woman! Thank you for your story! My older sister was in a drinking and driving accident when I was 9 and she was 16 and the male driving the car she was in was very drunk. We lost her for 28 seconds and she was in a coma for a week and the hospital for the summer. I understand your passion for spreading the word and wish your outcome was so much better than it was but please keep on your mission and doing such beautiful work for your beautiful siblings! God bless you and your family, Katie! I love your videos! You have a beautiful way about you!
@TheGingerFamily8488
@TheGingerFamily8488 2 жыл бұрын
Katie, I’ve been following you since you first started sharing your major loss on TikTok. I can’t even fathom telling my mother said, let alone as a mother myself find out from my daughter that my 3 children are gone. The strength you showed and continue to show is simply amazing and you can tell you’re a real genuine person. Your upbringing beams through with all of these emotional stories of your life that you’re telling us. I am so sorry.
@anasalgueiro7506
@anasalgueiro7506 Жыл бұрын
You're right, that wasn't an accident, they're murdered! We all have to see the difference between an accident and when someone commits a murder! God bless you all 🙏 🖤🕯🕯🕯
@kalalooney5964
@kalalooney5964 Жыл бұрын
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to fathom what you and your family are going through. Thank you for sharing your story and being so strong. Prayers for you..
@MandaFandaa
@MandaFandaa 2 жыл бұрын
Y’all are such strong people. I’m so glad y’all have each other to lean on and support one another.
@tatianaalvarado7201
@tatianaalvarado7201 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so strong and sharing this and most of the awareness you bring to drunk driving. It’s so important that people know the impact it has on peoples life! I lost my mom 05/17/21 and I was a wreck for the first 3 months, I cried every morning missing her so much! It’s been almost a year and the pain is still so unbearable. I cry any time I talk about her. Your mom is so inspirational and I wish I could give her a hug! I pray healing in her body, mind, and spirit & peace over your entire family! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@kristiambrose6666
@kristiambrose6666 Жыл бұрын
Your strength after what you have been through is beyond amazing. I feel it. Not to many can deal with a situation like this and being their voice. They are lucky to have you as a big sister and such a great daughter.❤ they will always be with you.
@aprylconnolly1063
@aprylconnolly1063 2 ай бұрын
Your strength is unmatched! You're an amazing person and I'm so very sorry that you and your BEAUTIFUL family had to go through this. Always praying for you. Hugs and prayers!❤🙏
@jadabrown6697
@jadabrown6697 2 жыл бұрын
All your family has endured I couldn’t imagine. You and your family are so so so strong. Always praying for y’all. Thank you for sharing these stories, it really sheds light and awareness to the pain and tragedy that happened to your family from a senseless selfish act.
@karlenemikaere1356
@karlenemikaere1356 2 жыл бұрын
Your so brave Katie, thank you for sharing these stories. Its these parts everyone forgets and are so hard. Rest peacefully young souls x ♥
@roses7952
@roses7952 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for considering everyone who wants to know these details to help with their emotional distress. You are a very kind and special person to do this for strangers to ease their emotions. The world is blessed to have you. ❤
@juliec970
@juliec970 Жыл бұрын
Katie, Thank you for sharing this life altering event - the loss of your three beautiful siblings in such a tragic way. I know your sharing is helping so many people including myself. I am praying for your family and that God will mend your family’s broken heart.
@wendymelville2960
@wendymelville2960 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your stories, Katie! I have been so heart broken for you and your family since the crash. i continue to pray for each of you that God continues to wrap his arms around each of you and gives you all the strength to make it through each day. Ya'll babies will never be forgotten! Continued prayers and hugs!
@lifeaffirmingvideos6421
@lifeaffirmingvideos6421 2 жыл бұрын
You are very articulate Katie. I hope your message saves lives. Your family is amazing and put on this Earth to spread knowledge and love.
@NY-cg6fd
@NY-cg6fd Жыл бұрын
You are so brave to share your family’s story. God bless you. Wishing you true healing. No words can express my condolences.
@debraholman1811
@debraholman1811 Жыл бұрын
God bless you girl. You are one of the strongest people I've encountered. My heart aches for you, imagining bringing that news to your momma. I can't begin to imagine the heartache, pain, sorrow, and grief you and your family feel. You all are in my prayers.
@meghancormier3625
@meghancormier3625 Жыл бұрын
I just came across this story. You are so incredibly strong 💔💔💔 hearing the first video and then this one. I woke up my kids sobbing for your loss. Unimaginable! Thank you so much for what you are doing to spread this message and please God hopefully save others from ever having to go through this 😭💔
@cindyzuniga2078
@cindyzuniga2078 2 жыл бұрын
I have been following your story since it happened. You are a brave brave young lady. The strength you have shown is mighty.
@jfraserfisher
@jfraserfisher Жыл бұрын
So strong, loving, respectful, resilient young lady, I can only imagine how special your precious siblings were if your parents raised you all❤ your one special person to conduct yourself the way you do through everything. Prayers, strength and love to you and your family, may the youngsters Rest In Gods Arms
@cazsmith2358
@cazsmith2358 Жыл бұрын
What an incredibly strong young woman. To go through what they went through and for her to handle things with such grace and bravery is unbelievable. My heart breaks for all of them, what a truly horrendous thing to happen 😢
@bw5576
@bw5576 2 жыл бұрын
Katie you are such a strong woman. I am so sorry your family has had to endure such heartache. It’s just not fair. I have cried watching every one of your videos about this crash. My heart breaks for you and your mom, your whole family really. I’ll never understand why God would take such precious souls. Sending lots of hugs and love.
@krissyxoxo3769
@krissyxoxo3769 2 жыл бұрын
Your voice is heard by so many and I am glad. What happened to your family was extremely tragic and they were murdered, it was definitely not an accident the guy knew what he was doing when he got behind the wheel that night! Prayers for you all! Continue to try to get justice!
@michaeljulien4274
@michaeljulien4274 Жыл бұрын
I wish you many many blessings, Katie. 🙂 You're incredibly valiant, courageous, compassionate and tough! Oh, and a sweetheart like your Mom.❤ Thank you for opening up and being, brave, vulnerable and honest to share this very painful experience with us. Lots of love to all your Simmons' and DeRouen's clans as well.
@Ljm-hp9pu
@Ljm-hp9pu Жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful for the people who learn from your story and all of the lives saved.
@ShoShoW82
@ShoShoW82 2 жыл бұрын
My goodness. I could not imagine having to deal with this awful tragedy that your family is going through. God bless you all. 💔
@ArcherBowman
@ArcherBowman Жыл бұрын
You are so strong. Your strength and leadership helped your family in so many ways. God bless you.
@jennyferrios245
@jennyferrios245 5 ай бұрын
You are a strong woman and so kind to take time to tell the story of your loving family. Thank you😔
@DodaDoda0864
@DodaDoda0864 Жыл бұрын
Bless you and your siblings for being the strength your mom and dad needed in the moment.
@kaitlincocker1915
@kaitlincocker1915 2 жыл бұрын
i admire your strength so so much. you and your family are the strongest people ever, no one should ever be in the position you guys were put in. i really want to advocate against drunk driving in my life after hearing such a heartbreaking story. i just hope you know the videos you post change lives and are so impactful. always sending love ❤️
@briarthaud23
@briarthaud23 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so so so sorry for your loss and sending my condolences and prayers you’re way. I can’t imagine the grief you and your family are going through
@kenacarl6246
@kenacarl6246 Жыл бұрын
Parents must be so proud and grateful for this strong woman..
@deborahfragiorgi6791
@deborahfragiorgi6791 6 ай бұрын
You are such an amazing, strong woman. I will pray for you and your family every day
@elizabethkirkham1001
@elizabethkirkham1001 2 жыл бұрын
An unimaginable tragedy. Your family has touched so many people. You are so strong. I don’t think anyone can fully heal from something like this but I hope that sharing this story helps a little. May your beautiful siblings Rest In Peace.
@alexisk3804
@alexisk3804 2 жыл бұрын
God bless your family. I’m so sorry for your loss. There’s no doubt in my mind your siblings spirits is what kept marissa and your mom alive🤍🤍 praying for your healing love
@brookstevick3051
@brookstevick3051 Жыл бұрын
You made me think so much deeper on this subject, you are so right it's murder, and should be treated as such. Bless you and your family, y'all are taking this tragic event, and educating people, not an easy thing to do I'm sure!! Thanks for sharing with us❤
@sherlytle1057
@sherlytle1057 Жыл бұрын
My heart breaks for y'all. U are one amazing daughter & big sis. I pray God continues to give y'all strength. Thank u 4 sharing. ❤❤
@pmw123100
@pmw123100 Жыл бұрын
This life altering event that has happened to your family radiates it’s reality around the world. No matter when we out here in KZfaq land see your videos and hear your story love, empathy and sadness on your behalf is emitted. It is unbelievable to most of us that these terrible events can happen. On the other side of it we see you! Carrying out duties you didn’t ask for and couldn’t have imagined happening and doing it with incredible strength and dignity. Thank you from Australia for sharing this event story. Your family is in our hearts and prayers and will not be forgotten. ❤️
@crystalinabacteria3430
@crystalinabacteria3430 Жыл бұрын
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