I almost had a full-blown panic attack just listening to your story. The fact that you were able to travel while under that distress is admirable. And I really hope you're feeling better and fully recovered soon.

What a nightmare! I'm glad you are improving. Also, an insured person should never need to worry about paying for medical attention merely because they are in a different state. America needs universal health care.

Oh my!! That sounds like a nightmare. I'm glad you're feeling better. We love you!

I am so glad you’re feeling better! I felt sooooooo sorry for you during the retelling! What an ordeal for such a sweet guy

So sorry this happened. This is a great indicator of the US medical system.

Joe This is the time when you don't care who sees your junk or touches it just bring everybody in.... The catheter is the worst thing ever for us guys. Pain is an understatement. Having 3 or 4 goes at it OMG what could be worse. I know what you went through. Happy you can even talk about it. Make sure you treat that early so it does not come back again.

So sorry u had to go through this, I am sending love and prayers for your quick recovery.

So glad things are getting better. Been through many painful moments, and they're no fun. Blessings, Joseph! Always glad to see one of videos!

Glad to hear you're doing better. Have been through a very similar problem and treatment course and I can definitely sympathize with you. Wonderful of your parents to be there and take care of their baby once again.

So glad you are better. Really hope everything gets where it should be for you. You are WONDERFUL and when you share it makes me a better person. ❤️

Thank God you got this resolved! Years ago I had to have my gallbladder removed and I remember being in the emergency room with so much pain. I'm so glad you're okay.

Thank you so much for sharing this very personal and painful story, Joseph! The moral is that you can never put off taking care of your health because of work or travel. I am so glad that your prostate is settling down!

Wow! I hope you're feeling better. My husband also suffers from occasional bouts of Prostatitis, so I know the pain you must be in with the onset of symptoms. In addition to the meds, a Urologist advised my husband to take warm baths. Sorry that you missed your friends, but given the circumstances I'm certain they'll understand. As always, thanks so much for sharing...

Thanks for sharing and educating. Hope you are on the mend and keep taking care of you! It’s important to listen to your body and reach out for help. Sharing reminds us of that. Be well Joesph and keep taking care of you

Joseph have been down the catheter road, can empathize. What a tough time for you, but glad you are on the road to recovery. Stay well, health is important.

I am so sorry you had to go through all of that, especially when you were on a trip back home. It's awful that you had to worry about your insurance coverage while going through such a painful situation. Hopefully when you go back everything will go well. Take care of yourself.

When you can’t pee, you need the emergency room. Please do in the future .

Wishing you a speedy recovery, and good health. I’ve dealt with kidney failure and now undergone a transplant(so grateful). The catheter pain is “Real”!! Best of health to you…

Sorry to hear all of this health trauma. Wishing (and a prayer) for full healing and wellness! John

You are a real trooper - first for getting on an airplane to Utah when you were not well. Then, flying back to Texas - via Florida nonetheless. Thanks for sharing your story. There is a good lesson here about delaying seeking medical attention in hopes an issue will go away on its own. Hope you are 100% soon!

I'm sorry to hear this... hoping for your speedy recovery.

Oh nohs and that is quite the ordeal also I hqve spent way too much time in the ER for someone our age! Blessings for your improved health Joseph hope you continue to get better!

Omg I went through almost the same experience! But, I was at work when this happened. And imagine my shock when I tried to go pee and NOTHING would come out! Well shock turned to fear as my bladder was filling up but I wasn’t able to relieve myself! So I had to call for an ambulance to take me to the ER. And it felt like I was waiting at the ER for literally hours before I was finally seen by the nurse and then a doctor. I was also given a painkiller and a catheter to finally relieve the pressure on my bladder. So I had to keep my catheter in for like a week along with the urinal bag. Turns out I had UTI along with an enlarged prostate. So an important lesson I learned from that experience is that I’m drinking more water than before. Thanks for sharing your story and Happy Pride!

Oh my goodness. Hope your well soon & I’m so thankful for the NHS in the UK. Hope all goes well 🏥🤞🏻🌈

I hope you get better !all the best !

Oh yeah I’ve had that. But the relief is amazing.

It's very painful been there had it done i been through worst 4 year's ago i almost died i know exactly what you went through glad your doing better looking good my friend💝

So scary. I am glad you are better. I hope you stay well. Best wishes Joesph.

I’m so sorry to hear this. Hope you get better soon.

Just stumbled on your video. I sympathise with you. I have prostatitis now and have had a catheter in for the past week with another week to go 😩 it impacts on all aspects of your life.

My friend asked me to watch this. I had the same symptoms in April. I lost 20 lbs. Doctors couldn't figure it out after 2 negative covid tests. It passed over 3 months. byw, I love Utah. Stay well!

Holy Cow! Praying for your health and don’t mess around in the future!

You just triggered some memories of when I had to have a catheter after surgery for a kidney stone. I also couldn't pee after the surgery and it got real painful until they got the catheter in and I had to wear that for a week so I understand what you went through and I'm glad you're OK now. And I also remember when they took the catheter out after the week I just stayed at the hospital waiting room for hours to make sure I could pee on my own. It was hella scary.

Awful. Poor guy. I have felt this same symptom (but as a 60 something). Good you shared your story, because so many of us--including more than a few docs see a young guy and don't think prostate, but it's indeed possible for this to happen at any age. Congrats on getting to the bottom---pardon the pun, of the problem. Be well!

That is super scary! I'm so happy that everything worked out for you but, that must have been so distressful.

So sorry to hear you went through such a painful ordeal. Like you, when I lived in the U.S., if I got sick my first concern was navigating where I had insurance coverage and avoiding crippling medical expenses. Thank God for universal healthcare in Canada!🙏🏽 👍🏽🍁 Since I started living here about a decade ago, I have more peace of mind that when I get sick, I can focus on the care that I need instead of worrying about the expenses. I have been to the hospital emergency room a few times here, and didn't pay a cent (it's covered through our taxes, and I'm okay with that).

Ahh Joseph you have been through the mill,thoughts and prayers,good wishes to you

Hopefully you will be fully recovered soon enough. Just think about the great time you will spend with your friends and family in a few months!

I’m so sorry to hear about your experience ❤️ I had surgery and I also couldn’t pee after from the anesthesia. They had to cath me and it was NOT fun! I hope you feel better soon!

Thank you for the video. Im sorry you had to go through that.. I had to have a catheter for a week and hated it. And like you I didn't want to be around alot of people with a urine bag strapped to me. Stay strong Brother.

Glad you are doing better Joseph. Always a fun time when the body decides to do weird things to you :)

So sorry that this happened. The only good thing was that you had your family to help you & take care of you.

I go away for a few months (well, several months...sorry😥) and this is what happens!😉 OMG, Joe! I was wondering why you looked so thin. I am so glad you are healing and feeling better! Happened to me 4 years ago; but luckily antibiotics were able to clear it up. No catheter.👏🏽 Oh, the pain, though!😣

Glad you're doing better, hope you found a good Dr in TX to monitor your recovery! Was that a normal backslide after your catheter came out? I would have thought they'd have warned you if it was.

Oh dang! That's scary. I'm glad you're going better. I had a kind of similar experience when I went to Hawaii for the first time earlier this month. At one point I genuinely thought I was going to die I felt so ill. So that first night/day was miserable.

"I'll just drink lots of fluids and force it out". Kind of like priming a pump. LOL. Glad your better. I too was in the ER this weekend for the first time in my adult life. Similar problems. Thank God for pain meds.

great to see you, you got a glimpse of getting old

Glad you're feeling better!

Oh dear, you sweet baby boy…. I wish I could give you a huge hug!!!

So glad you are better !!!

glad that you are on the mend.

Wow - what a rough time. I am sorry you had to go through that, and I trust it doesn't happen again. I've not experienced such, but I remember my last visit to the ER - I was so sick, but not in pain. Turns out, I had a heart defect and had to have surgery to fix it.

Well done for sharing this - good for young men to know about this. Some years ago, I had an incident that sounded like yours to start with. My GP, after a rectal exam, sent me to the emergency department straight away, and they immediately put a catheter in, and so much came out they thought that was the issue. The Emergency doctor said I could go home or if I had any concerns stay in the emergency department for the night, which I decided to do. The following day, when the morning shift doctor did his rounds, I was still in pain in the #2 area; they did another examination. They discovered a fistular tear, and I ended up having surgery that afternoon. Before I went into surgery in the afternoon, the emergency doctor from the day before came to see me, and I think he was concerned he had missed it. Over the last year, I have had many surgeries on my shoulder, and each time I wake up with a catheter (great, it was put in when I was asleep!), but each time it was taken out, for the next couple of pees, the nurses had to use an ultrasound to make sure the bladder was emptying correctly.

Liked the video Joseph. I too have had an experience with catheters. Several tim got to a point where I just wanted to tell the medical personnel, just leave the damn catheter in! I have a small bladder and frequent urination has always been a problem for me. Anyway, suffice it to say I'm okay, but have never been happy all this. Glad you're okay. Take care.

I so sorry to hear of your health scare and of your visit to the ER. I am glad to hear that you are doing better and on the road to recovery. I want to apologize to you for I have not watched your videos since Last December but in that month I was diagnosed with a disease that forced me to undergo chemotherapy treatments during the months of January and February 2021 and the recovery process was quite rough and by God's grace he saved my life. God did give me a great birthday present because I was able to celebrate a my 60Th birthday last May. I did receive a clean bill of bill of health some weeks ago and I can completely identify with you when all of your bodily do not work for it can be painful and very depressing. I am so sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend broke up for you made a wonderful couple I am heartbroken for you. My prayers and best wishes to you, your friend Bryan from San Lorenzo California.

You poor guy, so sorry you had to go through this. Hope you get better soon, check with medical people, may be some things you can do to prevent a recurrence. Bill

I’m so sorry you went through that

I sympathize having been treated for prostate cancer 15 years ago followed by external beam radiation which subsequently led to some radiation burns that were extremely painful. Subsequently the prostate shrank to such a degree that I could not pass urine and a catheter couldn't get through meaning they had to put on a super pubic tube through my abdomen directly into the bladder which empties into a bag which I hang from shirt buttons and works quite well.

Oh my, that doesn’t sound like fun at all! Glad your doing better! I had my first emergency room visit earlier this year, what ended up being one kidney stone, that very luckily passed that day, but it was excruciating, as it was passing from my kidney into the bladder. Not fun at all!

Pleased you are feeling better all the best and continued good health

Glad you’re feeling better

sending you love today 💗💗

I feel your pain! I had surgery in 2005, and they put a catheter in while I was in the OR. I was in my room later, and the catheter bag was empty. They realized there was a kink in the line, so they had to partially pull it out and put it back in. OUCH!

Glad yur getting better! U and yur sis are adorable!

I am new to Joe’s site! Wow 😮 first video!

My first ER and ambulance ride was due to a kidney stone. Your ordeal sounds worse. Hope it continues to improve and I second an appt with urologist.

Glad you are doing better.

Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story especially as a guy. We don't tend to talk about stuff like this.

hope you are getting better all the best

I'm glad your feeling better!...

I'm learning a lot watching your videos!!!!! I've been living in the Portland, Oregon area now living in Vancouver, Washington. I am currently talking to Mormon Missionaries. There still coming over after I told them up front that I'm gay and it will never change. Sorry about your emergency room experience.

I can relate. I didn’t have a Cather but when I had kidney stones, they put a string in my euretha and it “tickled” my bladder and made me think I had to pee every couple minutes! It was awful. And I had a flight the next day to California and I had to ask for a seat next to restroom. People thought I was crazy getting up a million times to go pee!! An awful experience! I survived the trip but super uncomfortable! When I got home, they had to pull out the string and OUCH!!!! (When they put it in, I was under!). Luckily they’re days they don’t have to do this anymore!

So sorry :( What an ordeal. I knew most of this, but not all of it. I sure hope you're all back to normal really soon.

Glad you're well

I feel for you. I have had lifelong kidney problems and have had catheters many times; and once had a hard plastic temporary ureter inserted from my bladder to my kidney. A passing kidney stone had ripped the ureter from end to end. My kidneys shut down after my second covid shot. I am fine now and sure hope you are doing as well as I did, as this is a very painful experience. Cranberry juice works well when you are having any urinary tract problems. It is the old home remedy and has eased this process for me on many occasions. I won't swear by cranberry juice as helpful, but, it always helps me. As always, It is great to see you.

the reason they wasted no time at the ER is because that situation can be very dangerous, depending how much fluid you are retaining due to the blockage. Worst case, it could result in kidney damage or a ruptured bladder. Very glad you didn't wait any longer. Hope you're doing better after this ordeal.

Oh Joe, I'm truly sorry for all you've endured. I wish you only love and wellness, and perhaps some magnesium citrate. 🌻☀

You poor thing, I was sat here crossing my legs the entire time you were telling that story. Ouch! Also, I really don't understand how there's still debate about the health care system over there in the USA. That sounds like a whole other nightmare. Here in the UK there would be no question, you'd just go to the emergency room, and beyond maybe $20 for prescriptions there would be no cost.

I hope, at this point, you are Well and Happy.

sitting on a heating pad will help. I use a Thermophore wet heating pad which gives you moist heat without having to add water to the heating pad. Speaking from someone who's had it worse, chronic prostatitis I feel your pain! I've also had kidney stones and bouts with UTI's.

Hope your feeling better ♥️💛🧡💚💙💜

i know the feeling glad your well xx

It's so sad that while you were in pain, you had to think about costs/insurance. No one should have to do that. So glad you're doing better now.

U have a lovely carming voice also the clock in the background is cool 💛

The crazy part is that you have a sort of insurance but still have to worry.

get well soon ❣️

Oh poor boy. Hope yr feeling better.

Was at Emergency few days ago.... the most horrific experience ever! Over 9 hours, and still no answer to my problem. No staff, long waits. Complete humiliation..... no respect to me as a person! Heaven help anyone with a real emergency! Didn't eat or drink anything the entire day! And yet they wanted ANOTHER urine sample? From where? Won't try that again in the future! No matter how sick I am!

Wishing you the best

Hope you feel better soon

Yep. Been down that road before. My dear mother said “ ahhh your just have a bladder infection, I’ll bring you over cranberry juice.” After drinking gallons of that and blowing up like a pregnant man with unbearable pain. Can’t sit, stand lay down. Oh my god the pain!!! off the the hospital I went. After 4 attempts getting catheter inserted I just watched my stomach decompress. I was like I took off to heaven. Rah the two weeks after with a pee bag attached to my leg wasn’t all that grand. But it is what it is. Never want to repeat that for sure. Hope your back to 100% soon.

Thanks for sharing.

I hope you get well very soon.

Joseph, You take such extraordinary pains to care for others, their emotions, their well bing, and fearful that they have an adverse reaction to your distress, you keep it all to yourself: bad, bad, bad. Joseph you need to begin to care for yourself a lot better than you are now capable of doing. Given your intelligence, self-awareness, and introspection, ignoring your own needs (not wants) will complicate your life, but it will compromise any relationship you desire to have. Unless you learn to take better care of yourself there is no way you will be able to reasonably care for the guy you love. At your age prostates is rare, hence, the cause is important or you will have chronic prostatic problems lifelong. You certainly are a sweetheart to all others, but you do not need to be a sweetheart to love and be loved: you must learn to be more selfish in caring for yourself so you will be able to care for the guy you love.

I really hope you are fine now❤

It is very dramatic I would have been freaking out, Glad you're okay

Sorry you were in so much pain. I hope you can get better health insurance.

P.S. Joseph, the probability of facing a life of chronic prostatitis is scary h hence you need to take precaution. You are responding to the Flomax (Tamsulosine 0.4 mg, available as a generic, much cheaper) which is a good sign, hence always keep a supply in your care and at home and in your gym locker: the problem with urinary retention is damage to the kidneys which you MUST avoid. You might suggest to your urologist the addition of Tadalafil 5 mg, along with the Flomax, to synergise the effect. You are a bit too gracious, too kind, too responsive to others needs, which gets you very much loved, but may not allow you to act in your best interest when you need to.

I've had a catheter put in....what they do is to get a syringe ...one w/o a needle....they put in some gel like stuff that's a numbing agent.....they squish that into the urethra first....and after a few minutes, they insert the catheter and it doesn't hurt since it's numb......

As a older gay man, what you went through is what you need to prepare yourself for for when you age! Not to make lite of your current illness! I wish the best for you!