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How To Save My Marriage - Coach Lee

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Coach Lee

Coach Lee

Күн бұрын

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Are you asking, “How to save my marriage?” If so, Coach Lee shares with you how to save a marriage from divorce, even if you are the only one trying or wanting to save it.
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When it comes to saving a marriage from separation and divorce, it's important to have a strategy instead of just emotion or advice from well-meaning family members who don't have the knowledge that experience brinks.
In relationships, especially when two people are married, perception and direction are vital. What that means is that what your spouse perceives you are doing for or against the marriage can impact whether or not they choose to keep trying to save your marriage.
If your spouse believes that you are making an effort and the relationship is moving in a good direction, a spouse who wants to leave could change his or her mind.
If, however, things seem to stay the same and your spouse sees themselves as trapped in a marriage that they honestly don't even want to save, there is no motivation for your spouse to put in the work to try.
That is especially true if this is a second or third attempt at improving or salvaging a marriage.
If your marriage needs help, this video can be a powerful resource to prevent a divorce and save it.
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@bdafaholmes
@bdafaholmes 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee help save my marriage. And when I was in the midst of a separation totally alone and depressed at my moms house his videos helped get me through a couple of the longest nights of my life. Thank you Coach Lee.
@efthimios
@efthimios 4 жыл бұрын
I’m in same boat
@bdafaholmes
@bdafaholmes 4 жыл бұрын
Herakles I feel for you my friend you’re not alone..
@b.services9851
@b.services9851 4 жыл бұрын
TheButcherSF Hey how long did it take for everything to start getting better ?
@bdafaholmes
@bdafaholmes 4 жыл бұрын
I enrolled in couples therapy with my wife with a psychologist who specializes and emotion focused therapy and EMDR Getting couples therapy has really been the key to healing our relationship
@lukecaddy4203
@lukecaddy4203 4 жыл бұрын
I'm going through the same help!!!!
@datingcoachryanpatrick
@datingcoachryanpatrick 4 жыл бұрын
I agree, Coach Lee. How to behave during a separation can be counter-intuitive. Once we realize our partner wants to leave, we try and flood them with affection and attention when it's essentially too late. What we don't do is really listen to and respect the wishes of our partners and give them the space and time they need. We don't control them; we only control ourselves.
@Ladyraedior
@Ladyraedior 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!!! This is amazing I’m accepting this now!!!! I didn’t take the time to listen to my husband hurt i just tried to cover it with love and affection.
@BillCollins0707
@BillCollins0707 3 жыл бұрын
I've done a combination of both: I def have given her lots of affection. But more so, I have drastically changed my behavior for the better: I improved myself. I too am giving her "space" and acting like her desire and wishes are priority, without being a SIMP. I'm being kind, without being a doormat. I can't say 100% she'll comeback, I'm thinking more 60/40 day to day. I have transferred into: indifference, with a positive attitude. Like sales: we can't win them all, but we can exhibit the correct "activity" which leads to the "customer buying." Always Be Closing doesn't work in relationships. Not every customer "buys" that's just reality.
@remyd1984
@remyd1984 2 жыл бұрын
@@BillCollins0707 how did it work out for you?
@efthimios
@efthimios 4 жыл бұрын
The panic and anxiety is the worst.
@BillCollins0707
@BillCollins0707 3 жыл бұрын
Yes: 10:57
@donmeyers2631
@donmeyers2631 Жыл бұрын
Truth!
@lazzoyup2809
@lazzoyup2809 4 жыл бұрын
Meeting this guy is one of the best part of my breakup ! Thank u coach lee
@Juggler920
@Juggler920 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you coach Lee you've been very helpful for me in my marriage me and my wife hasnt divorce yet but we are both are sarapated at the moment she moved back with her parents a state away and been feeling down alot but been watching your videos have helped me alot in bettering myself i've hit the gym more often now i lost 20ibs in 2months always been shy around people at work and in public but for some reason i broke out of that shell and been very talkative and outgoing alot of my co workers and new friends i'd made have been very attractive and asking me for help lately never thought that I'll changed to be someone that even I can loved lol
@demetrisross17
@demetrisross17 4 жыл бұрын
Man, I’ve pretty much reached the finish line with my relationship. In two days I’m meeting her to sign papers. I’m going to try and put these into practice, but anyway these videos are GOLD. Thank you again for having the mind to help others with this!
@Taran532
@Taran532 4 жыл бұрын
Demetris Ross update?
@BunnyMaester
@BunnyMaester 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@DividingLineBand
@DividingLineBand 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you coach Lee for this video! Me and my wife are separated due to her wanting a divorce. Coach Lee's video's have helped me through so much during these hard times. Also the Emergency Breakup Kit was very helpful with my anxiety and not making the wrong moves. I know this all takes time.. I'm hoping in the end I'll be able to save my marriage!! Thank You Coach Lee! I'm so happy i found you.
@dusttkicka
@dusttkicka 4 жыл бұрын
Hope it worked out
@RealwithAida
@RealwithAida 4 жыл бұрын
Any updates??
@michaelhakes5845
@michaelhakes5845 4 жыл бұрын
Me too. Wife told me a week after our anniversary while I was deployed. I got back and now Iv been in a hotel with the kids while she goes off with probably my replacement. I’m gonna wait it out and hope for the best
@sonnysamra8733
@sonnysamra8733 4 жыл бұрын
Any update?
@michaelhakes5845
@michaelhakes5845 4 жыл бұрын
Sonny Samra nope still confused. But I almost died few weeks ago and it helped me put everything in perspective... best thing that ever happened
@clairelees6718
@clairelees6718 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is lovely and calming and helps you to get your power back . Speaks logic when you’re not feeling like acting logically .
@Ladyraedior
@Ladyraedior 4 жыл бұрын
Going through a separation right now, I’m two days no contact and it hurts so much, and i miss him so much and he just make our relationship sound so bad but it really wasn’t smh I’m so hurt
@yuliyaboitsova2611
@yuliyaboitsova2611 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate. I’m on day three
@marvinramos3030
@marvinramos3030 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is my Idol ! I listen to you Sir every day ❤️ I’m still on my journey to get my ex wife back. You been a blessing in my life enlightening me day by day especially during the hard times and about to give up .. You touched many lives out there you touched my heart to keep fighting to get my family back. God bless you, pls keep up the good humanity work ! We appreciate you so much !
@justinclark1182
@justinclark1182 Жыл бұрын
How did it work out for you???
@LieutenantCaine9
@LieutenantCaine9 4 жыл бұрын
As always thank you for your wisdom coach Lee. You have impacted so many peoples lives positively :)
@jenniperkins4260
@jenniperkins4260 4 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what happened - still in shock after 28 years of marriage
@atheistinalabama4206
@atheistinalabama4206 4 жыл бұрын
Same here🙋‍♀️ After 20yrs of marriage & it really sucks💯
@michaelhakes5845
@michaelhakes5845 4 жыл бұрын
9 for me... I was gone on deployment and was not very nice to her when I was gone. Came back and now I’m in a hotel with the kids
@atheistinalabama4206
@atheistinalabama4206 4 жыл бұрын
@@michaelhakes5845 I'm sorry this happened to you. It always make me feel weak for a minute when someone says this to me. Almost as though I didn't deserve it & it's okay to feel bitter & cheated. I would never wish this kind of hurt on anyone & I hope you're doing alright 🙋‍♀️
@jamesg2609
@jamesg2609 4 жыл бұрын
Me too 17 years...she left 7 months ago. She has BPD. It's been a roller coaster. Still in depression.
@atheistinalabama4206
@atheistinalabama4206 4 жыл бұрын
@@jamesg2609 When this first happened to me I felt like I was the only person in the world dealing with this unjust bull💩!!! Makes me really sad that so many people are going through the same thing 😢 Apparently no one knows how to be faithful or honest anymore!!! I hope you're doing well & wish the best, no one deserves this 💩!!!!!!
@asmallbitchybanana
@asmallbitchybanana 4 жыл бұрын
Finally a video from you coach lee!
@gta369live
@gta369live 4 жыл бұрын
Hi, I've been dumped 3 weeks ago. she said she doesn't love me anymore. And after a lot of conversation with her she said that she was seeing someone else when we were together. She dumped me after 6 years with her. But she says that she still want to see me and do things and enjoy moments with me on the other hand. I've been in no contact for 6 days. She contact me every 2-3 days. I don't understand what's really happening to me but i try my best for the No contact rule. I just want to say thank you very much Coach Lee for Everything that you make for all people like us. You give me a lot of hope and strenght in this really intense moment of my life. I'll give you an update in a month or two for what happened. Keep up everyone, and keep ya head up. One love
@gta369live
@gta369live 4 жыл бұрын
@@alexandrineb7752 yeah it is exactly that..
@remyd1984
@remyd1984 2 жыл бұрын
How did it work out for you
@MrJames-dk3my
@MrJames-dk3my 3 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is one of the few people I know that is at the very top of there game with what they do. You are extremely good at what you do sir. Thanks.
@brianv7180
@brianv7180 3 жыл бұрын
Well Coach you have been my constant companion through some tough times. Seems like divorce is inevitable at this point, I had thought things were turning around but either way I'm feeling better. Thank you for what you do. Sometimes there is no changing another person's heart but ill end up with someone who actually wants to be with me.
@kathyamweg8742
@kathyamweg8742 3 жыл бұрын
I came accross these videos a tad late. Broke all coach lees rules off the bat. (Husband left 2 almost 3 months ago) i was feeling desperate & was doing what i thought was trying to show him i loved him & show him i was fighting for the marriage & he needed to fight to for our 19yrs. Now, he blocked me in fb, filed for divorce & is "dating" his limerent "friend!" I dont contact now unless it has to do with finances or the house. There still is 20% rite coach lee?! I can only hope. Just packing & praying alot
@marthamasden7573
@marthamasden7573 2 жыл бұрын
My husband is in process of moving out while I'm watching this video he said he's not attracted to me anymore and I'm a beautiful woman I just don't get it and we have an autistic son and he's moving an hour away. Two weeks ago he told me he loved me all the time and was all over me and we were fixing our house to sell it because we are getting ready to retire in Florida then out of the blue he said he's going to move closer to his job which he said he hated that's why we were moving to Florida and left us. I'm so heartbroken I was blindsided by this our son is heart broken and he wants nothing to do with him now. Please pray for us
@cpisarek4284
@cpisarek4284 5 ай бұрын
Any updates on this?
@lochan8180
@lochan8180 3 жыл бұрын
The feeling that you get in an affair can NEVER be love. Love comes from God, the same God who designed marriage and commanded us to honor it. I truly believe that God will not contradict Himself and put love in your heart for someone else other than your spouse. The feeling you have for the other person can be LUST, ATTRACTION, ADMIRATION, or any other feeling that satan will USE to destroy your marriage. The devil will make you believe that what you feel for this other person is love when in fact it really ISN'T. This is how satan pushes you to commit a SIN... by breaking the VOW that you made before God. That's the reason he's called a LIAR and a DESTROYER.
@skyd1702
@skyd1702 2 жыл бұрын
@@BillCollins0707 why did she leave? Most women will let you know when they’re unhappy… did you do your part as a husband? Did you lead? Did you make her that unhappy?
@atheistinalabama4206
@atheistinalabama4206 4 жыл бұрын
I've been in no contact for 3 weeks, moved out a month ago & we have 2 kids (20yrs old & 12yrs old, 20yrs of marriage). Can't explain why but I have the strongest gut feeling that nothing is going to change this inevitable divorce!!! I'm working on myself, physically & mentally, accepting that I must move forward but something feels truly off!!! Is there any way for me to know if I'm overreacting or that my intuition is absolutely right in preparing me for the end???
@deniset6450
@deniset6450 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee- My husband has pushed me away. He has suffered alot of loss lately. 3 family members have died in the past year. He moved out and says he is done. But, he says he still loves me. I want to support him through his hurt. But, he doesn't want me around
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
Abby, how long has he been gone? Does he still have contact with you?
@deniset6450
@deniset6450 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee- 2 weeks and yes. He is doing the "I love you, but I am not in love you" thing.
@cpisarek4284
@cpisarek4284 5 ай бұрын
Any updates on this?
@leooliveros3147
@leooliveros3147 4 жыл бұрын
Guine advice from someone who dont me but most situation. Hoping or not, i will do best to be polite. Thanks coach lee
@maizeandbluenation
@maizeandbluenation 3 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is the best
@jmoo72
@jmoo72 10 ай бұрын
Wow bro! This is the best video
@aishaazizi5507
@aishaazizi5507 4 жыл бұрын
God bless you coach Lee ❤
@lildrummerboy80
@lildrummerboy80 4 жыл бұрын
I’m sure this advice works the majority of the time but I’ve been separated from my wife for eight months and I did this for the better part of six months and she occasionally would reach out and start conversations and as soon as this conversation started she would retreat back to the way things were and today we discussed finally getting a divorce.
@lildrummerboy80
@lildrummerboy80 4 жыл бұрын
How did he help?
@lildrummerboy80
@lildrummerboy80 4 жыл бұрын
Jimmy Alex Lol nope. Divorce as soon as courts open back up.
@pycefinai3571
@pycefinai3571 3 жыл бұрын
So I did everything you said and it worked... my wife i feels wants to reconcile and sit down to talk about us.... messed up thing is the same day I found out about her seeing someone we both were friends with... I don’t think I want her back now, maybe because it’s brand new. Do I still sit down with her face to face? She knows I know about him. She kind of let it slip. But my question with that all laid out, do I sit down that soon or take time away from her?
@BossTilly
@BossTilly 4 жыл бұрын
Me and my ex were together for 4 years I'm 26 he's 28, no kids but we did move in together. I'm the only woman he's dated, we moved faster then what I like but the feeling was always mutual.i never told him he couldn't do anything just wanted to know what was going on when he did go out... He never went out unless something was going on. It wasn't out of the blue, he became distance, couldn't talk about what he wanted in the future, never wanted to go out just play video games. We got into after we got off work and he ended it. He said he wanted to do things that I was trying to help him do to better his life, so I know he wasn't telling the truth. Then said he doesn't wanna be with me anymore cause he doesn't see a future with me... it killed me but I didn't get angry just did what I had to do to get out and give him what he wants. He's always had communication problems when it came to telling me how he feels. It's been 2 weeks going on 3 and I'm packed and ready to go. He says he wants to still be friends but I don't ever wanna see him as just a friend if he's in my life. Please help I plan on doing no contact right away... Would of sooner but we have to see each other every day
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@paradiseliving271
@paradiseliving271 3 жыл бұрын
Its been almost three months 😞i was with her for three years shy of out four year anniversary. I love her and my kids so much. Finding out shes dating someone eles hurt me to the point of no compare. But i will never give up on her she hasn't asked for divorce she still loves me and i know it. No man is me in her life and i hope she realizes that i love her. I have been watching every video i will be buying your kit sir. I really need more help and guidance otherwise i will lose everything i have always wanted.
@paradiseliving271
@paradiseliving271 3 жыл бұрын
@@ada4ohio427 i will when i have money rn i cant even afford lees break up kit
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 8 ай бұрын
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@seankanter4572
@seankanter4572 4 жыл бұрын
I've been in NC with my separated wife for 34 days. My mother just told me this morning that she texted my wife to ask to have lunch with her. My wife ignored her text, just like I told my mother that would happen. She did this against my wishes and she completely betrayed and disrespected me. No doubt, my wife probably thinks I put her up to it. Did my mother just reset the NC clock?!!
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
To some degree. Your mom meant well I’m sure. Marriage situations can be complex. Was there bickering? Did she leave angry? Is there someone else she is wanting to be with?
@seankanter4572
@seankanter4572 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee It would be a long explanation but I was pretty controlling, manipulative, threatened divorce. I said it was over the day she left but it was more manipulation. She called my bluff. Bad feelings happend in the last 24 hours prior to her leaving including our first marriage counseling session the day before that didn't go well. No yelling or arguments the week she left. Just too much resentment built up. Her decision feels impulsive but she filed for divorce on Sept 17th. This situation is tricky because my wife can think I put my mother up to it, which is manipulation (my forte). This is why I'm worried the NC rule could have been reset indirectly. BTW, I'm fixing myself and making great progress. Thank you for the videos. They have been very helpful.
@seankanter4572
@seankanter4572 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee I appreciate your taking the time to reply to my original post. Do you have a follow-up comment to my reply? Would my mother's action indirectly break the NC rule especially when my wife knows me to be manipulative? Am I now starting over?
@clairelees6718
@clairelees6718 4 жыл бұрын
Sean Kanter - hope you don’t mind me replying to you . From an outside pint of view- I don’t think it will ruin it but will just take longer which isn’t a bad thing and you didn’t contact your ex yourself which is a great thing , I had an ex who ended it and I was devastated . I did no contact mostly but on the occasions I did get in touch it set me back . However, when I did full mc he regularly contacted me . I would be polite but casual . I met someone else who I’m still with but he was still trying to talk to me 3 years after we broke up which is crazy considering he ended it. You can just continue nc and you will be fine either way cos you won’t be feeling like you are the victim.
@seankanter4572
@seankanter4572 4 жыл бұрын
@@clairelees6718 It's fine. I appreciate it. I've gotten nothing from her so far on day 41. I feel like this person I've known for almost 4 years is treating me like a Tinder match she dated for just 2 months. It's ridiculous. She doesn't deserve me, especially after all the changes I'm making fo myself.
@stanfifiuk3975
@stanfifiuk3975 2 жыл бұрын
He says he wants to be friends. Should I become his friend or will that make him want me less
@user-bj9yt5pb4i
@user-bj9yt5pb4i 8 ай бұрын
You are guru, Lee.
@deondavis344
@deondavis344 3 жыл бұрын
I am trying to deal with my wife wanting to leave, it is the hardest time of my life.
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 3 жыл бұрын
I’m very sorry to hear that.
@ruthierams3913
@ruthierams3913 2 жыл бұрын
Why are they always angry and trying to bait me?
@dusttkicka
@dusttkicka 4 жыл бұрын
Pls Like the video y’all, this coach deserves the exposure
@theechothief5594
@theechothief5594 3 жыл бұрын
Great video coach. I've been watching your videos over the past few months while my wife and I have been separated. Told her today that I'm moving into an apartment soon. She seemed ok with me moving forward (she's the one who doesn't want to work on it) and is still in a position of wanting the divorce. At the beginning of December I told her I wouldn't sign anything until March 1st, giving us both time to be alone and think. She was receptive to the idea and we've maintained a very civil relationship, though I only contact when necessary (we have 3 dogs together). What should my next move be?
@jw7075
@jw7075 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks coach! Very enlightening!
@cootrecords9321
@cootrecords9321 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Coach !
@user-jv8sd8zq3l
@user-jv8sd8zq3l 4 ай бұрын
Good morning,I know this video is 4 years old but I just want to save my marriage it's been so hard and I'm trying the NC but still my wife left mind February this year I miss her and I don't want to lose her haven't seen her nor Tex neither call I really want to work things out for us and my stepdaughter of 14 years old.what can I do still.
@drkmoondrkmoon9244
@drkmoondrkmoon9244 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee how can i get advice from you directly in saving my marriage during seperation especially if he doesn't want to talk or even see me...please help me
@pycefinai3571
@pycefinai3571 3 жыл бұрын
Man thanks for this. Super helpful.
@sandymaldonado2192
@sandymaldonado2192 3 жыл бұрын
How to do limited contact if you still live together?
@cLL1234
@cLL1234 11 ай бұрын
I think I have found your videos a bit late. My husband of 18 years told me he wasn’t happy in our relationship. He said he would work at it and after a few weeks he told me he just seen me as a friend and isn’t in love anymore. 3 months on we still have contact due to have 2 young children. We keep the contact about the kids but on pick up of the children we always begin bickering about him leaving and me not understanding the reasons. Is it too late now? It’s hard to have no context with small kid. Our work is also together
@Zfaith_fitness_detox
@Zfaith_fitness_detox 6 ай бұрын
Thanks!
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 6 ай бұрын
Thank you Zein!!
@sameichang3928
@sameichang3928 4 жыл бұрын
hope you can teach about how to deal with a commitment phobic man
@cinecobafi8640
@cinecobafi8640 4 жыл бұрын
waiting for that Emergency Mariage KIt
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
Almost there!
@benb6631
@benb6631 4 жыл бұрын
But what about the no contact rule actually pushing them further away into their limerant affair partner? Wouldn’t it be a bad idea to do that if you wanted to save your marriage?
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@mariealicea2281
@mariealicea2281 3 жыл бұрын
What to do if you half is going through midlife crisis in a marriage of 34 years...
@seansegel3951
@seansegel3951 4 жыл бұрын
@ Coach Lee I see that the Marriage Breakup Kit is now available. Is there any discounts currently for previous purchasers of the Emergency Breakup Kit?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
There’s not. It’s way cheaper than the other courses out there that are $200-$400 so I feel like it’s already discounted.
@seansegel3951
@seansegel3951 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee I understand. Your content is invaluable to me and appreciate your hard work. I just purchased the Marriage Breakup Kit, but was experiencing a problem accessing content. I just emailed you.
@seansegel3951
@seansegel3951 4 жыл бұрын
@ Coach Lee I'm already on the notification list for the Emergency Marriage Breakup Kit, but would be nice if you have an ETA?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
November 1 at latest.
@seansegel3951
@seansegel3951 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee Glad to see you now have the Emergency Marriage Kit available. Will there be any discount for those that had already bought the Emergency Breakup Kit?
@cherish.o.m4453
@cherish.o.m4453 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee can one talk to u one on one 🙏
@kathrynmicho2953
@kathrynmicho2953 4 жыл бұрын
My ex cheated on me and i got out but hes in a relationship with the older women he cheated with and told me that, i wouldnt get anything out of the divorce.....
@annamj4153
@annamj4153 4 жыл бұрын
I know how you feel now
@happyqueen6957
@happyqueen6957 4 жыл бұрын
👏👏exactly
@Gorboduc
@Gorboduc 2 жыл бұрын
Upvoted at 1:07 lol
@farmville69
@farmville69 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, what do I do? My ex broke up with me and I reacted terribly. I decided to go no contact, which was good. But, my friend told him I was going no contact to make him miss me. He saw right through me and does not trust me. So, after I got his forgiveness, I went no contact again. However, it got ruined by something else. Somebody told him that I was trying to break him up with his new girlfriend. I feel like nothing will make him want me now.
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
So the lesson is not to tell people what you are doing. Humans are notoriously bad at keeping secrets - especially if they believe they can help you by telling your ex how you feel. Their ignorance about all of this is too much of a risk to take. Going forward, all you can do now is no contact since he has a new girlfriend. Watch this video all the way through: m.kzfaq.info/get/bejne/g66XfNikna63f2Q.html
@farmville69
@farmville69 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee I did learn that lesson. That is the one benefit of this situation... learning something. I am never trusting anybody with a secret this serious again. Wouldn’t he be forever okay if I went no contact since he sees me in a toxic and possessive light and likely does not want me in his life? I mean, it’s all I can do at this point.
@sandyt7225
@sandyt7225 4 жыл бұрын
I understand what ur saying. But we have dated again. We have spent evening together. We have worked thry a lot of stuff. He calls me and tells me he loves me and misses me. Send me love songs. But then part way through the conversation he will just start showing angry. And start disrespecting me.when calls back he apologized. But again just disrespect. Why say and do all that.
@WTBucs04
@WTBucs04 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, on a previous video you instructed us to not block our ex's on social media because it makes us appear immature. I blocked my ex before seeing your video explaining that and my reason was because I seen her flirting with a guy and it bothered me. She can still contact me via texting but should I remove the block or keep it as is for the time being?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
I would just keep it as is for the time being.
@WTBucs04
@WTBucs04 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee Thank you for the advice!
@AdnanAhmed-ht8ey
@AdnanAhmed-ht8ey 4 жыл бұрын
Should one send gifts on Valentines or Birthdays?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
No. Not in no contact.
@AAmed1980
@AAmed1980 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee Thanks
@leepop123
@leepop123 4 жыл бұрын
I need to save mine,
@gregbarney7522
@gregbarney7522 4 жыл бұрын
My wife wanted to end our marriage, but I convinced her of doing a three-month no contact break where I move out, and then we can reassess. I know this isn't really too different from a break up, but it seems to acknowledge that there is a slight possibility that it *could* work out. After seeing your videos, Coach Lee, I'm wondering if I made a mistake because now she is purposely going to try and not contact me for three months. I was considering calling you for consultation, but it looks like you're not taking them at the moment.
@remyd1984
@remyd1984 2 жыл бұрын
How did it work for you?
@robaby1984
@robaby1984 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee should we encourage them to come to a marriage workshop? Or is it against limited contact
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
That’s a different kind of strategy. It seems best to ask when you are interacting with them about something else. Then you want to basically say, “We’ve been together for xyz years, would you just give me 3 days to go to this workshop?” Keep it simple and once they agree, go back into limited contact. You don’t want to buy it back. A good one is Marriage Rescue Associates. If you can’t get them to go, get my Emergency Marriage Kit at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/
@robaby1984
@robaby1984 4 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee thanks, I really appreciate your help, I have also heard of marriage helper's workshop. One thing though is that she already told me that she will only do marriage counseling or marriage workshops if I agree to the divorce if they don't work. So she is kind of putting an ultimatum on me and it makes me feel lack I have no control.
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
A good workshop like the one I recommended, is probably a good bet if she is demanding divorce in return. At least you’ll have some outside help and that particular workshop I mentioned is good at getting through to the person in her shoes.
@seansegel3951
@seansegel3951 4 жыл бұрын
@ Coach Lee I'm not seeing the Emergency Marriage Kit available and its past November 1st the original date quoted. Any idea when the kit will be available and if Emergency Breakup Kit purchasers will get a discount?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
Any day now. Putting the finishing touches on it.
@lazzoyup2809
@lazzoyup2809 4 жыл бұрын
Ex is like a completly different person after 4 months of no contact..she thinks there was cheating involved but actually that was not the case..the other girl was just my friend..ex got jealous and broke up...what to do coach lee
@bdafaholmes
@bdafaholmes 4 жыл бұрын
Do nothing focus on yourself focus on making yourself happy physically mentally spiritually. And when she sees how well you’re doing should become attracted to you and start pursuing you. Most likely during that. You may be getting pursued by multiple girls I have other options and it may be even tougher decision for you to choose to go back with her once You’ve recovered from her breaking up with you and becoming a better new person
@mattd8876
@mattd8876 Жыл бұрын
Well… what do I do if we still live together?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Watch this video all the way through: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e8lxZ5p-0q60j30.html
@samlev5997
@samlev5997 2 жыл бұрын
Does no contact work on someone with Aspergers?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 2 жыл бұрын
Even if it doesn’t, it’s still best to teach people that you won’t chase them down if they leave or else they see leaving as a tool of manipulation.
@benmckeen7060
@benmckeen7060 4 жыл бұрын
The day after we broke up i posted a story on my snapchat of me and my friends shortly after she blocked me on that and then blocked me on instagram. When we talked for the last time i ask her why she did this and all she said was "its just to hard". What does this really mean???
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@comedychestha2778
@comedychestha2778 3 жыл бұрын
Coach lee ❤️ u from India. Thank u so much for your efforts really appreciate but I do have one doubt, if she blocks me in whatsapp can I block her back
@debrapaul1552
@debrapaul1552 4 жыл бұрын
It’s been 3 years separation wants a divorce 40 years together. Still waiting. I moved out got on with my life. My own flat good professional job. Still waiting for a response .??
@robynpowell7366
@robynpowell7366 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, I know this is old but I’m going through this now. I’ve already unfortunately done a couple of these things… over talked, talked in anger (no threats but just overall anger). we live together too which makes it so much harder to not talk, touch etc. Is there still time to fix it if I just stop pushing? It’s only been 1 full week and he’s agreed to couples counseling. I’m just heartbroken.
@kathyglass2922
@kathyglass2922 Жыл бұрын
I know you want to hear from coach, and I hope he will respond, but based on his videos, I would say he would encourage you. Best of luck. I hope this works out for you. Good therapy to support you may help to manage all the strong feelings.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 8 ай бұрын
robynpowell7 There is a free mini course that Coach Lee has introduced, and this could help you MyExBackCoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis Just click on to the link, and see if it can help you. Best if luck to you. ❤
@ambergray1939
@ambergray1939 Жыл бұрын
@Coach Lee and what do you do when they want sex all the time and then go distant
@aishaazizi5507
@aishaazizi5507 4 жыл бұрын
I'm in pain so much my husband live me
@aishaazizi5507
@aishaazizi5507 4 жыл бұрын
@@mariacooker1792 Thanks honey
@clairelees6718
@clairelees6718 4 жыл бұрын
Aisha Aziz hope you’re in a better place now. Listen to these videos it will help a lot and keep you calm
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
@@aishaazizi5507 Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
@@aishaazizi5507 A man helped me out He can help you too
@donmoran1
@donmoran1 2 жыл бұрын
Hey, coach I talked too my wife today and she says she has no interest in dating she heard I may have gone on a date and ask me about it like she was concerned. She then said she wants to keep in contact with me and wants too know I’m okay, we are currently separated for a month and a half and I’m starting the no contact, I have made a lot of mistakes during the initial separation. She said I’m still her family and she says she wants to get her head focused before thinking about us… what’s your opinion on the outcome based on the information… what should I do
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 2 жыл бұрын
I’m not doing individual coaching at the moment but a coach on my staff DOES. He is Coach Rex and you can book a call with him at myexbackcoach.com/coach-rex-breakup-coaching. He is OUTSTANDING at helping people get an ex back. He was a mentor to me when I was younger. I suggest you copy and paste what you said here when you book your call. -Coach Lee
@CiluhStyle1
@CiluhStyle1 Жыл бұрын
Same situation
@efthimios
@efthimios 4 жыл бұрын
My wife of 20 years who we have. Beautiful daughter with has had affair - I have done it all wrong so far begging pleading etc that coach lee talked about- she still living home so hoping to turn it around - she seems to be leaning towards leaving for Ap Weird thing she had affair and she acts like she hates me - I just been home loving her and being here. I spent a fortune all summer taking my family on vacation but didn’t work when bacn she’s been confused by ap I have the great career , take care of myself, workout, I messed up arguing with her letting her get to me and saying things to hurt her like bringing up dovorve - she says that what drive her to affair. So now I’m trying to leave her alone and not her and plead We did say terrible things over arguments and built over years as coach said
@tomg2946
@tomg2946 4 жыл бұрын
@Herakles That was basically my situation, though 26 yr marriage. She eventually left. I went to rockbottom depression, eventually went full no contact. About 7 month of NC now, 3 month since I last saw her (I left to go to UK because of my mothers illness), she texted once 'how I was going/mom going', but nothing since my appropriate reply. I have just dated a woman here, and that can help (at some stage but dont aim for a new relationship, just enjoy female prescence). What you are looking at is probably the worst period of your life right now. Yes, I had the 'hate coldness callousness' too, its the wall they built around them to help them fulfill their decision. Dont frontal attack it, they are in a castle well made. In time they might just lower the drawbridge and come out, but not yet. Know your daughter will always be your daughter. Accept the company and closeness of good friends (be careful of their advice-use Coach Lees), and start to increasingly realise there is light at the end of the tunnel (your peace your happiness). 'In time, this too shall pass" whether you are back together in a new relationship with her, or she is no more in your life as your lover.
@efthimios
@efthimios 4 жыл бұрын
Tom G thanks Tom yes it’s worst feeling of my life my wife seems to turned against me with another man the betrayal as he talks her o to divorcing me and hating me is insane. All she does is repeat all the negative things that happened and erased all the good things She doesn’t care about our family she said what fsmily we only have one kid ... that hurt , as we are still a family and she’s just bitter we didn’t have more kids
@tomg2946
@tomg2946 4 жыл бұрын
Herakles. I know that stuff, they call it 'rewriting history'. They have to convince themselves they aren't the one to blame. I had exactly that, still have, she told me she 'thinks shes in love' with this man she met, (and because they aren't 'in love' with you, they feel they must be with the other man, who is currently 'exciting' them). See Coach Lees other videos, on limerance, and on related links. Id also recommend Dating Guy and Love Chat channels advice. Having some of this knowledge actually *does help* as a buffer to the intense emotional pain (I actually got an enlarged heart left ventricle it turned out from the shock of her revelation she wasnt in love with me anymore, plus spent time in clinical depression, I was suicidal at one point). Im still in pain, nearly 1 year after her declared breakup, and still have 'grief attacks' but seem to be able to control them more, they come when I dont expect them. Go get some help man, if you get too low. It wont stop the pain, but it might eventually get you out of 'rock bottom' so you can *start* to reclaim your life. Youre still your kids Dad. Actually, because of that, a bond exists there she might *never* have with the other man, especially if its limerance mainly at play just now in your wifes new 'love'.
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@snowqtee
@snowqtee 4 жыл бұрын
My 48 year old husband cheated on me during a “midlife crisis “ with his 22 year old assistant and I confronted him about it and he finally admitted it after he kept denying it so he left me and our boys..He did tell his cousin that it would be way easier if I was a bitch and a mean person lol!
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@queenparker4240
@queenparker4240 Жыл бұрын
@@emmywayne7477 help
@DanielHernandez-cx3vh
@DanielHernandez-cx3vh Жыл бұрын
I’m not married my girlfriend has been with me for 12 or 13 years she recently broke up with me and saying she needs space we’ve been in contact since even so we have been having sex we have a don together and she still lives in my house how could I approach this situation it’s sort of hard idk if no contact would work here
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Daniel, watch this video all the way through kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e8lxZ5p-0q60j30.html
@jmstrn8263
@jmstrn8263 4 жыл бұрын
Hello coach lee. I need some help. My ex girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months and a few days ago. We were together for nearly 10 months. We had a amazing relationship full of love and affection. I'm in no contact for about 8 weeks now. At first i begged and pleaded. She told me to leave her alone and to not Text her or she'll block me. Since that day i'm in no contact. Recently i found out that she is stalking me with her best friend on instagram. They made an fake account and are always one of the firsts to watch my stories. About 2 weeks ago she posted a sad love quote on her instagram story. Last week on saturday was my birthday. Sadly she didnt reach out to say happy birthday. But i saw her that day outside with a friend. I was driving with my bike. She heard me and immediatly turned around to look at me. We were looking eachother in the eyes for about 4 seconds. She looked so sad and heartbroken. The second time i drove past her she had her arms crossed, looking at the ground sad and kinda angry a bit. And i saw that she is liking some sad relationship stuff on instagram. Do you have any advice?? Is she missing me?
@azazel3944
@azazel3944 4 жыл бұрын
She is missing you
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@thequantumvacuum
@thequantumvacuum 2 жыл бұрын
The Hippocratic Oath
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 2 жыл бұрын
I know 🤦🏼
@edwardecrespo6418
@edwardecrespo6418 3 жыл бұрын
Is it ok to post on facebook, like your living your normal life, but you know she will see it?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 3 жыл бұрын
Yes just don’t at all look like you are trying to make a point to her or get her to notice something. And don’t look like you’re showing off.
@edwardecrespo6418
@edwardecrespo6418 3 жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee thank you so much, I have a few more questions
@biggiebeil5118
@biggiebeil5118 4 жыл бұрын
How we can book a call?
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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@mycatstella33
@mycatstella33 4 жыл бұрын
Coach lee please help. I watch ur videos nonstop and will get ur break up kit. My younger bf of five years (living together) recently moved out. Ever since he left he stays in contact. Even when I try no contact he doesn’t let more than two days pass without contacting me. I know you say don’t ignore them but In my case he’s never really lost me. He’s been over twice since he left and we were intimate. He’s affectionate in messages often. Saying I’m precious. Shouldn’t I not respond shouldn’t I let him really feel my absence ? He won’t give me no contact and I’m broken hearted to the core. I wish I had the answer to this unique situation. We’ve both had horrible fights since he left too but never blocks never really leaves. :(
@mycatstella33
@mycatstella33 4 жыл бұрын
Also I’m so grateful you’re back.
@Bulldognm
@Bulldognm 4 жыл бұрын
How do you get your ex wife back after a divorce?
@flonar1
@flonar1 4 жыл бұрын
Bulldognm ex husband in my case
@Bulldognm
@Bulldognm 4 жыл бұрын
@@flonar1 did your husband cheat on you?
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
A man helped me out He can help you too
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
Text him via WhatsApp...
@emmywayne7477
@emmywayne7477 3 жыл бұрын
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