When we love a narcissist, the narcissist thinks: *_"FOOL."_*

Danish! You’re saving people’s lives and helping us heal from such wicked and treacherous behaviors by people who are trying to destroy us in the name of love. Thank you so much for so much insight and healing. God bless you and keep you safe and healthy!❤

Man, as a survivor of npd abuse this brought tears to my eyes bro. ❤ So true, they see our empathy as a weakness, when in fact it is our biggest strength 💪💪💪 thank you for the message

I agree with everything you stated. As a recovering surviver of 8 years (30 years of abuse) I can assure anyone reading this, life is so good on the other side! 🙏🏻

As one who considers herself (finally!) healed - this message is refreshingly uplifting and fills me with renewed hope for this New Year. Thank you, Danish.

When you go through the healing phase and see all truth. You will never go back. You won’t want to. Be honest and forgiving with yourself. Learn to be truly independent and happy. Then you won’t be lured into bad peoples web. Let your freedom ring. Look within for your happiness.

Thank you for the reminder of all the positive qualities we have & that narcissists are never satisfied within.. they never will be.

I was married to my narcissistic partner for 38 years before he was diagnosed. Knowing what was wrong truely empowered me and gave me strength to grieve and learn to set boundaries and not put up with his nonsense. I now state things very clearly back to him that he is a narcissist and what he is doing in plain language. He admits he hates the word which I throw at him when he is out of line. I deal with him with fast and hard consequences and now I see the fear in his eyes when he backs down. They are basically bullying cowards and must be strongly called out on it.

Growing every day while they sit stagnant in they’re own muck 🙏🏼👍🏼

Let the healing begin and continue ❤

This has been my story. My inner strength is beyond their comprehension or imagination. We come from different worlds.

Danish Bashir you should know that there are signs on KZfaq that you are being catfished. Thanks you for encouragement being offered to us here. While following your channel my self-esteem and self-worth is improving while I am practising better self-care by preparing for a healthier old age for both me and my adult now children too. Thanks for reminding us about the kind of solidarity which is being supported by the devine when doing god's will which is loving and kind. His justice always will prevail.

Danish, this really resonated with me. My sister once told me that I always take the hard road while she takes the easy one. That was years ago and now I understand it, after giving her many more chances…to hurt me. I went no contact in 2020…It still hurts, but I’m better off now…

Well I was an idiot but it will NEVER happen again.

Thank you Danish they dont want to see that growth in person ,they always try to destroy that or spread fear

You are the absolute best at explaining narcissism and the abuse. You make my day better and for that many thanks and may you be blessed highly for this.😊

This is some of my closest family members textbook. I have been thought of by some of them as naive and "having dust on his head" just like the way you described it. These people were unaware of what was going inside home and what was I going through. I have no contact with most of them and minimal contact is maintained with some others, it just died with time as I also started to withdraw. They know they can't go on with their BS for long.

I feel like you understand every wound in my heart. You describe my exact experience with a narcissistic father in every single video. I thought it was just me, that something was wrong with me. But I’m the sane one, and I was abused for 40 years. I went no contact 7 years ago. Life is better without him, and I have been slowly healing. But I have made the biggest strides in the last few months since finding your channel. Thank you so much for helping me heal.

After five years of separation I signed final papers for divorce on last day of year. Weirdly, it was a sad day for me.??? I can't stand him 70 percent of the time. Then something even weirder is happening. I feel different in a good way. Am I the little boat that was discarded and left adrift to my doom or am I the little boat that is now on an adventure and have hope of safe harbors. I am on an adventure and I can feel the ropes falling away!! Freedom.

Every episode of you Danish is so authentic & awesome .you every episode answer questions that every survivor have in his/her mind.thabk you from bottom of heart for sharing awareness & giving us strength to develop from survivor to thriver ❤

I'm really free now! It's finally sinking in a year after he died from a heart attack 💔! It's still takes a long time. What made it worse was for 3 years after the divorce, he lived across the street from my house 🏠 😢. He was stalking me and my son, who is profoundly autistic! I was afraid to leave my house! I love your videos, and have a happy New Year 😊!

You absolutely right. I’ve been targeted for all these things.

This is all very true. I think the biggest one is that the narcissist doesn't understand your ability to grow and heal, and leave them in the dust. Eventually, largely by interacting with others who perceive your true worth, you begin to understand that the narcissist was merely an outlier--a strange, random person who was unable to "get" your awesomeness, something that is readily apparent to others

Thank you SO much for this encouraging message. I am so glad I found it.

My empathetic response to the narcissists in my life has been some of the greatest pain I have ever felt. Finally realizing that they could never realize or accept that empathy helped to heal me. They honestly are incapable of any love.

Danish one of the best revealing the Narcs. as common thieves, scary how criminal they are!

Pray for your inner healing: ask God to deliver you from trauma bonds! Once you come to terms with the toxicity of the situation you are in, close the door and move onto freedom🙏 Thank you Danish

We as codependent or just compassionate people or slightly broken ,some would say, we see ourselves as forgiving when we make mistakes, lash out or just come short. We believe, as I did that all human beings have the same ingredients, compassion,forgiveness love charity etc... I never knew there were people out there that would say wonderful words, periodically display affection and charity and be the most self absorbed, hateful, money grabbing people. People who are as deep as a sheet of paper. Took 30 years!!!!!of my life my youth my weekly paychecks to come to the awful realization of just what I have been married to. I feel foolish,stupid and lost. But I am awake, hallelujah!!!

Thank God I've found this channel Danish every word you say is so accurate even down to letting the housework slip not looking after myself not wanting to go out and meet people Slipping out at night just to get bare household essentials so I won't meet anyone and if anyone tells me to pull myself together they better run very fast and of course our main star of the show the very ex narc is telling anyone that will listen that I'm lazy dirty and almost cracking up Well I suppose after years of being told he would get the men in white coats out for me I'm such a disappointment to him I wouldn't give him the satisfaction I have survived 😀

This man is phenomenal. Brilliant, he's so hearted. Most of he validates me. It really important cuz i know I'm not crazy , worthless, socially undesirable and vile.... And she is a huge financial parasite!!!!! Thank you so much for helping me, your amazing 🙏

Thank you this was great! What you said had depth. We are often underestimated and sometimes we are forced to play that role lest we lose that friendship. Also Not to mention we are highly intuitive. We see thru them but think they will change...and also think we will hurt them by telling them the truth. We are empaths and being unkind and hurtful is generally speaking, not in our DNA .

You know your stuff Danish, this is a lovely video for our healing.

Saving this one, sharing this one. The one so good I'm watching it again!!

Onward and upward for 2024 💪

{2} Your Awareness. They take over your affairs from "right under your nose."

Thank you, Danish. You are truly incredible! Some of your videos have reduced me to tears. Everything you say is so spot on. God bless you

Thank you sooooo much for all your wisdom and so accurate - I never tire of hearing each of your videos , you are such a blessing - I find myself saying / omg , yes , soooooi true / it’s been two years now since my horror ended - I know I’m not where I need to be , but thank you Lord I’m not where I used to be , and I’m OK and I’m on my way each and Every day . 🙏

""Your ultimate strength"" .... your empathy.""🌹

You are a genius. Thanks for making this difficult matter understandable to the normal folks. 🙏🏻

Is video ne heart ko touch kar liya, rula diya😭 really how strong we are ❤ survival ke baad pata chala, shayad kabhi soch bhi nahi pata ki itna strong hu mai andar se. Feeling proud ❤

My therapist LOVES that I found you. Through you, I have been learning and coming into my own self. Evolving into an uncrushable survivor. Thank you so much Danish. 💯🙏🔥

Very well worded Danish. It is good that you remind us, the victims of narcissistic abuse, that we do still have our qualities even though we are not allowed to use any of them by the narcissist. We are just temporarily stunted. Great work.

Someone is finally telling me I am NOT a sap! I feel smarter already. I am intelligent in love and I tried to teach him and he started calling me names. I do not accept this anymore. I am intelligent when it comes to emotions! 🎓I claim this now, as today is graduation day.

Thank you so very much ❤❤❤ My son is walking away from this and has a great deal of healing to do. I felt compelled to send this to him in hopes that it will be Validating for him. 😊❤. Something that has been sadly lacking in his life for a very long time. Validation. Thank you so much ❤❤❤❤

Thank you, Danish, for another insightful and wisdom-laced episode! You make us all stronger and we appreciate you very much 🙏

This so true. Every bit of it. And your description of the narcissist and the victim is spot on too. Thank you for putting all this in perspective and easy to understand terms for everyone.

We can heal ourselves and fuel ourselves from the inside. We can love ourselves and others. They can't do any of that. This is why they are the prisoner and not us. My last ex knew that I was very aware of narc abuse but he still tried to manipulate and crush me. I am 18months out, healing childhood wounds, chasing my dreams and passions and learning from the hell he put me through. Whereas I have a chance of a very happy future they are empty and are made up of a dark void. That's something that cannot be healed. My ex will fail alone and pass away by himself never having known love. I will fulfill my dreams. He will only ever suffer alone and in darkness. Nothing more.

True NPDs are quite rare, although we can ALL exhibit such narcy traits. I believe the point of all of these videos is to show us what unacceptable/intolerable "assholery" looks like... whether it be in ourselves, or in others.

You are Amazing Danish..N the way you speak is a music to ears.., your terminology, understanding..facts..all....you really made me think so powerful today in this vid...my worth..my quality as blessings from God.....Thanks Dear. Keep up the good work..

Danish, this is just INCREDIBLE. YOU are incredible, and are adding value to the world. Thank you. Love from Croatia.

Wonderfully put! from the moment your eyes are open to them. They look so pathetic as it dawn's on them that you are not stupid any more. Thankyou Danish for putting it into words in such an easy to understand way. 👍♥️♥️

This person saving so many lives…big heart to u danish❤… I’m healing very rapidly.. by watching ur videos… Now I’m understanding everything… Right now..I’m in a no contact mode.. Thank you for saving me danish…

0:16 They think you are dumb and don't know what they are doing, just because I'm compassionate doesn't mean I don't see what through the smoke...

Thank you Danish! I have been watching your videos, and have finally got rid of my narcissistic partner. Long awaited, the relief, I thought I will grieve this lost relationship that I held onto for years. But, no I am much happier without them and so are my kids. 😊Thank you

I recommend reading a book called "The Indoctrinated Mind" by Michael Nehls. It goes into great detail the effect of PTSD and C-PTSD on the brain. It has helped me to reverse engineer what the narcs did to my psyche. He focuses a lot on the hippocampus and hippocampi. He teaches how memories are formed and stored and what happens when your hippocampus can't properly rebuild new neurons on a daily basis. He also goes into how narcs use trauma to erase you and replace you with the version they want. It's a very insightful book that'll help connect some dots for you.

Thank you, Danish. You make me feel better about myself as I have had trouble forgiving myself for giving my narcissist husband almost 2 decades of chances to be a nice partner, coming back and forth ....this is the last time I leave him. It is so much easier to stay on track if I watch you and others' videos every day. It will soon be 3 months since I told him to leave and 2 since he left. Let the healing begin!

Thank-you for this channel, it has been a life saver and you are truly wise. God Bless you❤

Strong people don't need to prove it.

Really such a beautiful message about how we are angels in their miserable lives.

This is true!!! My Ex used to call all honest people “dumb”!!!! Every word in this video is true!! Truly, thank you for this!!!! ❤️❤️

You just give the answer I’ve been wondering.

Bruh, you said EFFed up, str8 up! That's so bomb. 💯🙏🔥

Listen to Linkin Park's "Numb" I love it. It makes me feel great when I hear it lol "all I want to do is be more like me and be less like you."

This makes so much sense! Since they are unable to build a connection to gain deeper insight in your true character, all the narcissist can do is project their own traits on you. So yes, bound to underestimate you. This is because they’re actually never as intelligent as they would like you to believe 😂

Encouragement has a middle word: courage, and that's what it takes to leave a narcissist.

Never a truer word was spoken Danish, thank you, thank you. We will have the last laugh😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Excellent content. Empowering.

Your last part is so true. At the end of the relationship I completely forgot who I was, missing my true self. But 3 years after leaving that toxic marriage I am 5x better version of myself.

The biggest shock would be, I suspect, when a non-narcissist walks away for good, it really is final. Non-narcissists are not discarding with the intent of having the option to re-connect or hoover again. That discovery will come as an absolute shock.

Thank you so much for your insight. I find a lot of the things you say pertain to me and my relationship personally. I feel grateful that I’m not alone in this. This is my second marriage I found myself completely dumbfounded, with something was always itching at me, but I could not ever place my finger on it, but something was wrong, if wasn’t for your videos..to let me know that whatever I think about my relationship is not what the other person thinks. And they never will. I watch your videos on a daily basis, sometimes two or three times because they make so much sense and I’m trying to reprogram my brain. I am trying to save my two children through this divorce process and your videos have helped me immensely you speak my language.

Awesome video!!! Thank you for your work. This resonates with me & I’m beginning to talk to my son regarding his father. A man I chose to be in relationship with although he had a substance abuse problem. I knew I could love him so much so, that he’d give up drugs. Well he didn’t and 30years later our son struggles with a relationship with his father. Here’s to praying my son will accept what I’ve learned so he can become healthy and protect himself. Time will tell.

This was so encouraging, comforting, and affirming. Thank you, Danish.

Happy New Yeaaar 🎉❤🎉 And Danish, keep educating you lighten my heart ❤ P.S.: 3 Months in No Contact from my abusive Expartner. No shared houses, apartments, finances, kids or pets. Single as a Pringle, loving to go on night outs alone and even more enjoying wholeheartedly saying "NO" to any approach. Oh well and my Boxing training is thriving yaaaallll byeeee😚😚😚

I left my narcissistic father nearly a decade ago, but it still feels like I'm so foolish. I learned a lot through being around him, but I feel so stupid for letting myself fall for his "wanting to see me" over and over. I'm having a bad day about it

THE POWER TO MOVE ON. A narc, in any relationship with an empath - be it a parent, partner, friend, spouse - can never believe that an empath has the ability to move on from them. In their sick mind, they are so charming that nobody can dream of leaving the narc.

I am going to watch your video again just before I go to bed Your words are so empowering! Thank you

Amen, Danish! Thank you 👍

Thanks so much for all you do. I really needed to hear this. Taking back power 💥👊

Thank you Danish! Excellent information!

Very inspiring! Thank you very much Danish!!

Awesome info! So healing! Thank u!

This channel is amazing!

Excellent video, thank You!

Thank you for your comforting words.

Very Insightful indeed. All Correct.

An excellent video Danish. Thank you.

Man this is really really good, very clearly explained what would narcissistic think about them .thank you.

💕Very helpful. Thank you🌸

Truly insightful... on the way...Wounds ..into ..Wisdom

I really appreciate this video Danish. Thank you 🙏

This is sooo encouraging!!! Thank you! I needed to hwar this😊❤

Thank you so very much for this ❤️

Thank you for giving us hope.

Fantastic, Danish!! Another wonderful video!! 😇🙏🏼🌟

Great video Danish.

Thank you so much ❤️‍🔥

I am the type who keeps the friend cycle small but more valued. My ex narc friend thought because of that, that shes the only one I had so she was making herself look good how much time shes sacrificing for me... but you know how that looks when shes bread crumbling... Yet she would smirk and dismiss when I told her that I had a problem with us barely communicating to the point I may as well just move on. She thought she could continue writing me her fake friendship novel to keep me around but I already have seen through her bs for a long time... the only thing that was still keeping me was the bond and time to process everything that bothered me about her recent behavior. Naturally I left after processing the situation and slowly tearing apart the bond I had build with her over the 16 years, piece by piece. It helped me look at it reasonably, she made her choices that did not work out for me at all and I respect that, but then I have the right to make the choice to leave this mess and look for something more worth my time and energy, because this artificial friendship wasn't going to be any better or like it used to be anymore. She became a waste of my time while I have much better things to do. I recently finally bounced back from being a mental wreck and are more active, more successful with what I am working on and even got more in contact with other people who bring more value into my life... and I am not even asking for much! Just basic communication between friends, even once a week to catch up would have been perfectly fine for me. So what ever she does now, good luck to her. What ever shes going through, that's someone else's problem now.

Love your videos, they're very educational and eye opening.

You always gives me words to my inner feelings

God bless you abundantly! 🙏 Such a reassuring lesson!