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In my experience, the scariest thing about a narcissist is their ability to play the VICTIM so well, so convincingly! Their ability to play the victim is why their smear campaigns are so successful! That's wickedness and malice at its extreme!

The scariest thing about a narcissist is that they just don't care what their behaviour does to you, it's all about them. There's no telling what they can or will do when they lack empathy and THAT is scary.

The scariest thing about the narcissist is being nice to everyone else right in front of you and in the home they treat you like garbage. That's scary

They have no soul and always feel empty even after getting what they wanted...

The scariest thing about the narcs is that they never stop bullying, abusing, harassing you. After many decades they can still try to harm you! The anger, envy never diminishes with time. It's scary to know that you are never safe, they hold grudges forever.

It's when their eyes turn black and you watch the evil smirk come across their face where you see the extent of the sadistic pleasure they get from hurting you.

I’m a homeschool Mom, 19 years of marriage. My husband has always had Narc traits but as he’s aging he’s getting worse. No matter how clean I keep our home he uses that as a way to put me down. Cleanliness is used as control, finances is his power. He needs help and if I don’t see change I’m leaving. Life is too short to live as an employee instead of a wife, mother, and human being ❤ Thank you Danish for always bringing the truth to the secret life of Narcissists, no one wants to admit they are being emotionally abused.

The quick temper that erupts out of no where.

You just described my evil mother. She’s becoming more demonic and deluded by the day as she nears the last years of her life. What a life she’s lived

The complete disregard that narcissistic individuals show towards the potential dangers they put others in is truly disturbing, regardless of the circumstances. I've had the unfortunate experience of dealing with a narcissistic mother and spouse, and their utter indifference is truly chilling.

Oh wow, did you NAIL IT!!!! This is probably best video I have ever seen on this topic. That is for sure what makes them dangerous and all the reason to cut all contact. They are so delusional and they do believe their own lies and can therefore harm you or even murder you and feel you deserve it. They can never own their behavior. These are the most dangerous people walking on this earth. Their delusional thinking can make you crazy. I struggled for a long time to understand how they could do such horrific things to children and you perfectly explained it here.

The rage

Danish I'm sure I can say that you sir are appreciated everyday ... You put words to our feelings and give us strength....thank you 🙏

That he knows how to push all my buttons.

Their temper

Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. The lies are second nature to these individuals. Truly the scariest thing is the long line of devastation that leads to their feet.

Can you address a thing known a “narcissistic rage?” Cheating husbands , in mid-life, go through it and reject their wives. Sometimes no “ rage” is exhibited , but their decisions and choices toward a long-term marriage makes the husband turn against the wife. The husband uses a lot of “ projection .”

At 48 years old I discovered the reason behind all the madness I have experienced s;ince childhood. Father, grandiose narcissist, mother, covert malignant narcissist, brother, garden variety narcissist (golden child), sister textbook covert, first relationship, psychopathic narcissist, second relationship-husband, covert narcissist (professional victim). Grandma, grandiose narcissistis, Grandpa, the most humble and giving person I have ever met (empath). The world is filled with narcs!!! Danish, you are one of the few that explain narcissism as aaccurately as I have experienced it.

That describes my cousins My other cousin says they were never held accountable as children It kinda makes sense; they live in an alternate reality and don't comprehend the irrationality

Wow! Narsists believe their own lies and think they are reality and their feelings are facts. They lack empathy and accountability for their actions and feel entitled to do whatever they accept as appropriate in the spur of the moment. This is really the scariest things about the narcisists. Thank you for This brilliant observation Danish.

Thank you for this video. I have a current situation where I presented actual 3rd party emails about the narcs scheme against me. Still I was told they would not "waste one minute of their time discussing the situation" because I was the crazy one! Then a complete discard even though I presented their own emails to them as proof! Of course the next step was to tell everyone what a liar, nut job etc I was. There is no way to adequately express the severity of what these people will do to try to ruin you. It is absolute abuse.

The scariest part is that they tell lies about you and people believe them.

Angry for no reason. Along with utter delusions of grandeur

Believing their own lies is a super valid point. No matter how much you love them and are trying to help them they don’t see the truth. No argument can win them over they only believe their lie.

This is really helpful! I can better understand why it is pointless to argue with the narcissist. Thank you.

Dealing with it today ... Sadness .... Getting called name's Days now .. Pray please I have been dealing with this for 30 year's I'm dying from heart issues and yes everything is my fault. Pray please 😢😢😢😢😢😢

I’m not an expert, but this is the scariest thing I have seen at work. My boss had a female narcissist boss that specifically targeted him. He kept getting into fender benders and then an outright near death crash on his motorcycle. I suspected he was subconsciously doing anything to avoid coming to work. Years later, a similar woman became my boss and suddenly I was extremely uncoordinated, falling down stairs, breaking my toe on a bed post, etc.

Their rage!

So spot on. Lived with that exact same behavior for way too many years. They are truly broken and eff’ed up people.

The most dangerous thing is they will DESTROY thier own children in the name of revenge against the other parent. They hate but cannot truly love, and the children suffer in ways that ruin lives.

1 like 1 comment. Danish ur encyclopedia father of narcissism study thanks for bring this

The smirk of their vindictive pleasure is not scary but infuriating.

The diabolical devil brain. 😐

So yes I told my x Narc wife stop speaking Down at me that I’m not going to put up with it anymore. She tried to choke me when I pushed her off she waits a day and then calls the police and tells them I attacked her. I get a call from the sheriffs office telling me she called but the sheriff asked her questions and he realizes it was her who attacked me. And he asked me if his findings was true I told him yes it was a few days later she calls me and says “ we’ll it took you a full week to come up with that lie that I attacked you. This is the delusion I didn’t respond at all and haven’t seen her or my child in over a year. And I’m sooo happy to have my life back I’ll never ever let her back into my life they just suck the life out of you. And they will kill you given the chance.

Lacking ability to introspect lends itself to also lacking a key personality trait assisting one to empathize. That is key & necessary for one to place themselves "in the shoes" of others.

Their manipulative lies

they don't see you as a person with feelings

This IS scary. I notice this. My mom & sister justify their abuse of me. They act like they're justified. I enjoy your videos. For many years my mother and sister had double teamed and bullied me. They do this because people compliment me in front of my mother & sister. My mom & sister were often overlooked. They are hostile towards me. My dad and me were pals. This bothered my mom because I got along well with my dad. People usually told me in front of my sister that I am prettier. I know that would bother anyone. But she & mom became angry. They plotted, schemed, lied to anyone who would listen. It got back to me that they were telling people they were the victims. They lied and actually BELIEVED their own lies. They told people I was the one bullying THEM. They told people I am jealous of them. This is not true. But I think the reason they still double up against me is because they believe I deserve their abuse. They will never change.

I am married with a narcissist and I have 2 children who are financially dependent on him, I have to protect myself and my children. Emotionally I’m strong and I have a lot of faith 🙏 I try not to talk to him to much. When my children’s situation is different, maybe then things will change… They have a personality disorder that is difficult to treat, medically speaking. Thanks for your videos. 🙏God bless you for your amazing work you do.

The scariest part is they have NO SOUL.

The scariest thing about all of them is when they're mad they look like Lucifer himself but too scared to face the 🪞.

For me it's the gaslighting

YES!! Their mental gymnastics to justify and get away with what they do is MADDENING! It kept me trapped for so long that I am still reeling and trying to make sense of everything. And I feel SO much anger. It is not fair, and there should be retribution for this! I know there never will be. But that doesn't stop me from wishing or searching for it.

For me, after finally successfully divorcing my narcissist husband 15 years ago, the scariest thing is never knowing when he'll come burn my house down.

Hi Danish, thank you for another great video. I did dare to challenge his nonsense, and it has left me crushed and broken. Even though I feel that I've come a long way with it all, I've got so much further to go. I've been unable to leave the house for 5 years and I'm starting to worry that I'll never heal enough to live well again. Much love and prayers to everyone 🙏 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

Wow, you have described the narcissist truthfully and succinctly, the workings of their mind and how deranged they are. Thank you for this amazing video. 👏

Danish, thank you for translating the abracadabra of the narcisist. You can do it very good! ❤

"They are cowerds" Absolutely the truth!

The scariest thing for me is I wasn't important enough to not be sought out to be abused. I was just there to be a professional forever target for however she felt like lacing into me.

As always, well done, Danish Bashir. I've always thought the narcissists in my life knew they were lying, but your version makes better sense. I've recently had enough, and have cut them both out of my life. And, you know what... I feel as free as a bird.

Offended by everything, ashamed of nothing.

It's so unfair that they say you're unstable and need meds when I have been placed on anti-anxiety meds because of the abuse I went through.

The scariest thing is they don’t respect boundaries and they never respect you when you try to tell them no. They only care about thier wants and needs. And whenever you express what you want and need they don’t truly hear you. Your words will go out the other ear to them. Narcissists people don’t truly know you to the core that is how you will know. They mainly know/care about superficial things about you and what they can gain from you. They are also energy vampires!!!

If you tell this to a narcissist , they will say the same thing about you , that you are the one with delusional belief

I watched this video several times and saved it. It amazes me that as I'm almost out of a 20 year hell hole, how much abuse I have suffered from this evil creature. Two more months and it's my turn to live my life at 66 years old in peace, health and quiet. Thank you so much for your videos. They have been a Godsend.. 😊

I think the scariest thing about them is unpredictability. I never know what's going to trigger violence. And it's escalated to a broken neck. I have another plan to leave but he says I wont make it out alive. That it's not a matter of if he'll kill me, it's when. And he finds that statement funny and laughs when he says it. And if anyone were to approach him concerned , he would either tell them I'm lying or he was joking. Your videos are totally blowing me away. In 14 yrs, I've never heard anyone understand him like you do. I've been out before but never for too long. I know ppl think I'm crazy for feeling sorry for him, but there are enough glimpses somewhere that make me feel like this time will be different. He's a child in an old man's body. I don't usually discuss this out loud but I want to say thank you and I'm both scared and glad I found your videos. I only wish there was a formula I could follow to achieve complete freedom. It's all I've ever known though. I grew up in a home with conditional love. So it's always been that way. Parents don't grow out of it either. I've always been the black sheep. Anyways, thank you for your honesty and opening up and telling your own story. It gives me hope knowing if you exist, then people actually get out and stay out.

They push you to do things then let you alone ...

Danish. This explains a whole lot. Thank you so much for this message. ALL Praises to the Heavenly Father!

This week has been really cathartic for me. A lot of things that have been nagging at me for decades have finally become clear. So thanks for that. I almost feel not exactly scrubbed clean,but the dirty washing has been layed out for my inspection and appraisal in an almost clinical mindset. I feel like I am carrying out an autopsy on the relationship with my dad that I have decided to bring to an end.

The way that they think when they are in their thoughts it was probably the most scariest for me because you never know what they're thinking even when they're looking at you smiling y thinking and conjuring up something EVIL N WICKED

💯💯💯 Before I understood any of this, the first major argument I ever had confronting my covert narc parent about my abuse (I know, big mistake!) was about her insulting my hair after this cute little girl said something nice about it after we had a meal at a restaurant and were on our way home. My abuser hates my hair, is jealous/envious of me, and hates that I love it and take pride in it. HUGE trigger. I was so upset I confronted her about it. This resulted in 3-HOUR long argument. I was so angry, humiliated, and upset knowing she had brainwashed and shamed me into chemically straightening my hair for twenty years for her convenience and now she insulted me once again after I had finally found my confidence, did the big chop, and went natural. I was standing several feet from her the whole time, but she was so angry, delusional, and confused about her own guilt and shame that she accused me of being overly sensitive, said she never abused me, she "whooped us because we were bad", then shouted in a rage at me to stop "attacking her" or she was going to call the police. The police! On her daughter, for demanding accountability for her lifelong abuse me and my siblings. All she had to do was apologize for insulting me, my physical appearance, and part of my racial identity. Instead, she threatened to have her own daughter arrested. THAT'S THE DISGUSTING, UNMASKED TRUTH OF NARC DELUSION, MY FRIENDS! I cried while writing this. This is the thing I remember about that evening. Not my hairstyle. Not the little girl's face or what else she said to me. Not what my parent looked like or what she talked about at the restaurant. This is the night I learned that narcs cant be reasoned with because they are truly evil and willfully unaccountable for their the horrific things they do. Would have been better off talking to a wall.

They are so miserable in the end...they put themselves in a sort a of hell and struggle to drag you down...unable to feel learn and grow...their Absolute pride doesn't allow them to ask for help...and the problem is they are so many nowadays and always growing in number...so much of our preciuos humanity is being wasted in such a stupid way...and in general a narcissist believes ha is so very much intelligent

0:21 you completely hit the hammer on the nail. Spot on! If you’re thinking this, you’ve gotten a slither of what hell feels like.

so spot on!!

When the narcissistic perish, they perish terrified, for they will go into another self centred object, a black hole, hell. It’s real. I am sad for the narcissistic hypocrites.

I agree with everything you said because I have been living with one for 32 years. He had me believing it was my and others fault for a lot of negative things that happened to us I even started pulling away from some persons which I realize later was what he wanted. I eventually walked out and even now I cannot process some of the things he has said to make me look bad to others. Many persons have spoken to him BUT I am the one who is wrong and I need to APOLOGIZE. I realize that I am still fearful of him and I pray God to give me the Spirit of a sound mind.

Their projection ability is the scariest thing in my opinion.

Thank you Danish, for this video. I appreciate your explanations and agree that the scariest is their delusional thinking and disorder of thoughts and feelings. That has been the most bizarre thing I've ever had to get my little head around. I've listened to it twice, and saved it for a refresher.

This was spot on. Thank you very much. My workplace has been destroyed by narcissistic leader ship. I’m getting near retirement. All I can do is laugh at these people. They are insane. Imagine my workplace is a ship that sank five years ago. These jokers are driving the ship on the bottom. And they think everything is fine.😅

Excellent presentation - Let the healing begin !

I agree with you 100 prc. They actually beleive their own lies it is really unpleasant and scary. They do not live in reality, they make up the reality to fit their own purpose.

They're capable of anything as they have no shame, remorse, or conscience. And when they hate you above and beyond their other prey, it's a game for life to make you pay.

Yes, this is very true. The narcissist gives no effort to seeing anything without their blinders on, and unfortunately, it can be a lifelong disorder. Without treatment, narcissism is debilitating to the individual and others.🫥

Do you ever really heal from extremely narc parents? I left at 15, but still tried for years to get my needs met and have a relationship with them. Over and over, especially my mother, tried to literally destroy me in every manner possible. My other brothers and sisters are narcs also. Had a massive breakdown at 23. I'm now 58 and there have been SO many. Do you ever really heal? I keep to myself...so much trauma, so much damage, so little time left......and NO one has EVER given a shit about me. I've been just a punching bag. I'm collecting dogs now and hiding and doing art. I'm just so tired.

The scariest part for me was when they contacted me again after three years. They 'apologized' and said they were diagnosed with bipolar disorder. They went on to say they went to a doctor for diagnoses, and now is taking medication. They wanted me to give them another chance. So I moved back and it seemed like we could have a normal life again. The Joke was on me though because it was all another lie. They needed someone to help pay rent. When the raging started up again, I delicately asked if they wanted help going to see their doctor. They looked at me like I was crazy, and tried to argue that it was me who was bipolar and was on medication... That week I left but saw that they targeted people I worked with. They posted pictures of their new friendship with people they couldn't have even bothered to get to know while I was around. Even half naked pics with the new victims. They are sick sick sick people who don't even deserve sympathy for their condition.

Useful information. Thank you Danish.

Thank you again.

They make up a lie, then I think once they have said the words it sets in concrete in their mind, so when their lie is challenged they are greatly offended

The most dangerous thing for the narc, is ME

Everything you said in this video explains my mother. I am so grateful that i came across your videos. Thank you

All of my parents are narcissists. How might one escape silently? I need to heal my codependency so I never go back. I'm saving $3,200 so I'm secure

For me, the scariest thing about the narcissist is the love bombing. Getting love bombed by my ex was the greatest experience of my life. I miss her as a result. I miss a cold, cruel, sadistic, selfish person because of an act she played on me when I was getting to know her. I know it was fake, but it will inevitably influence my future prospective relationships. Even though the person I fell for never truly existed. I believe my father is also a narcissist, so walking on eggshells with my ex and avoiding confronting her so I wouldn’t hurt her ego was very familiar to me.

Narcissists actually summon demons. The demons dont leave them. And they know what they did.

(Oh my god..) Everything you said here is absolutely 100% true. My father often said, "I 'imagine' ("imagine" being the KEY word coming right before an *alternative universe made-up STORY* blah, blah, blah...he just conveniently pulled out of "somewhere".... When I told my father that I was shocked that he would molest my daughter (his Granddaughter); he turned it all around and said, "Well, how do You think that I FEEL (being accused by my granddaughter....)??" To which I had a very weak response. (He "won" this verbal battle, I felt). Thank you for this episode. It's very hard work to hear it & process it. But/And I'm ready now. My father's dead. These memories still hurt so much. Still I'm glad I can feel them though. I think it's part of my healing.

Their demon is the scariest part.

They can turn people against you !!

I watch a couple of psychologists on the same subject, not one of them can match your wisdom and life experiences to teach us. Thank u

Narcissist tie the souls of their victims to a demon (familiar spirit) to control them. That's why it's difficult for people to separate and go no contact from them. In fact very difficult to move on in life.

Danish, your videos are so insightful! Could you please make one that deals in depth with the correlation (I say, cause and effect) between the stress of narcissistic abuse and things like high blood pressure, cancer, etc. And maybe about how those conditions improve post relationship? You did one about breathing, which I found very interesting! For many years, I would develop acute bronchitis every January and it lasted 4-6 weeks! In another situation, my whole mouth was suddenly full of canker sores...every surface of my mouth! My doctor looked into my mouth and he was shocked! He'd never seen anything like it! I moved away from my covert narcissistic husband 7 months ago, but after only 3 months into my healing journey, I discovered I had breast cancer. It's not in my family's genetic makeup so I'm quite certain that stress played a significant role!

it is not them it is YOU. Always

The scariest thing is actually, that only we can give them power. After I figured out to read the signs, learned recognise my triggers and made plans what to answer or how to react on certain typical manipulation technics, suddenly I had the power! They got so bored about me, that I was left in peace. I didn’t fight back, didn’t argue anything, was so relaxed since ever and then I left after them braking up! 😂😂😂

I’m afraid? Grateful? My daughter is with him? I had never heard of narcissism until 3 weeks after Offering an uncontested divorce to my very successful lawyer husband of 20 years We have a little girl She is 12 The divorce is not final as he filed for 100% physical and legal custody Please lmk if you can refer to me any advocates To help me have custody I was 44 when I had my only child she us 12 and I am deeply wounded as I lived my life waiting to have a baby to nurture and create a family Thank you DANISH 😢😢❤

This is why we need you

Hi Danish, I was wondering if you may be able to do a video on How to fully recover from Narcissistic Abuse? Also, in your opinion, is it ever possible to stop thinking about the abuse? I was raised by a Malignant Narcissistic Mother and a Covert Narcissistic Father. Both of my siblings are Golden children and they are both Narcissists. I was the scapegoat. I stayed in this role my entire life. I knew they were all sick and evil. I experienced the biggest betrayal and it was the straw that broke the camel's back. This was 5 years ago and I have not seen them since. I work on my healing every day but I really do not want this horrible upbringing and abusive family to haunt me forever. Is there a way to completely move on? Thank you so much for your videos.

And that results in behaviors that are totally opposite to what they say

Thankyou Danishji for clearing so many concussions of my life,I used to always think what I did wrong as other person acted a victim and suppressed me... After 25 years being with that person I realized this was personality disorder

Noone explains narcissism lik u from this kind of deep perspective… this shows how much u have undergone bcs of narcissists around u and how much u really want to help educate others…

Perfectly said. My mom is one and i am healing from her abuse

You are perfectly right.