Narcissistic Mothers Train Sons to SHED Self Power Which Attracts Female Narcissists In Adulthood

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Narcissistic Mothers Train Sons Self Power SHEDDING Which Attracts Female Narcissists In Adulthood
Hello thrivers! Today I'm talking about how narcissistic mothers or fathers but mainly in this video how narcissistic mothers teach their sons self empowerment shedding or self power shedding. And I want to explain how they do this because adult men of narcissistic mothers can then understand why you may be continuing to create or find yourself in relationships with the same kind of person which is probably either a female narcissist, a female borderline or a woman that's both a narcissist and sociopath. Ok so if you find yourself in these relationships where woman are super disrespectful to you where they don't respect your boundaries where you're treated as if you are beneath and worthless and it just seems like you're attracting women that are constantly trying to hurt and break you then you are going to want to watch this video. For those that don't know me my name is Michele Lee Nieves I'm a life and relationship coach specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, cptsd recovery and childhood trauma. I'm also the founder of the Thrivers School of Transformation which is a monthly membership where we meet live weekly on zoom and we work through the side effects of narcissistic relationships together!!!
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@rodvan-zeller6360 2 жыл бұрын

The only thing worse than a narcissistic mother is a malignant narcissist mother.

@rodvan-zeller6360 2 жыл бұрын

This also transfers to employer employee relationships.

@Akcd11r2002 2 жыл бұрын

I think there’s more to this… narcissists have a way of marking the perfect employee when you think about it. Perfect for the company… and by extension, perfect for the govt as a whole. A hollowed out husk of a human that will never rebel and never think for themselves… I’m willing to bet some ‘think tank’ came up with a “parenting guide” long ago and we are still experiencing the echos of that today…

@rodvan-zeller6360 2 жыл бұрын

@@Akcd11r2002 The great resignation is due to people waking up to exactly what you are talking about.

@roberts7363 2 жыл бұрын

When I was younger, it was really difficult for me seeing all my friends with their girls, and I was barely able to keep up a relationship even for a few weeks because I was already so torn apart by my mother and sister, that the narc-women I attracted quickly realized that there's not much supply to squeeze out anymore. But today, seeing my old friends that ended up literally everyone with a narcissistic woman is almost frightening. Once you have a child with them, it's game over. It sounds harsh, but you can either give up on your kid, or become an alcoholic. The problem is, society doesn't know such a thing as a bad mother.

@wadeparker8695 Ай бұрын

Empower yourselves! Stay away from toxic people and situations. Don’t waste anymore time in the dark, embrace the light. Embrace yourself and to hell with the rest of them ❤

@kirbyaugustine761 2 жыл бұрын

The last few years I’ve been guarding my youngest son, now 14 yoa, from his mother, grandmother and his sisters disempowering behaviors towards him. I let my son know that my job is not to control his behavior but to teach him how to control his OWN behavior. He’s becoming a young man and is beginning to blossom but they want him to hold onto old narratives that no longer apply as he’s evolving. My brother in law is 45 years old and is in essence a man-child. He’s a great guy but has no self confidence and my wife and mother-in-law enable his apathetic attitude towards his life. Realistically his fathers a malignant narc and he was the oldest child so he received the brunt of the abuse out of the 3 siblings. His sister, my wife, is attempting to recreate the same abusive environment in our household so I realized that protecting my children is paramount.

@katjo71367 2 жыл бұрын

If you are still in that, he's learning what they do, not what you say. I have a narc mother and I had to keep my son far from her. He still has tendencies.

@EsotericOccultist 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for giving me my confidence and my life back with this information and validation. I'm not over exaggerating when I say you saved me from going down a really dark path in life. I still have tons of work to do on myself but I see light at the end of the tunnel thanks to you.

@MaestroMaxim 2 жыл бұрын

This shedding power is what has never been talked about and profound to reclaiming personal power.

@XThirdEyeX 2 жыл бұрын

Yet again, this is so depressing...every single video I watch on these topics continue to completely ignore and forget about those of us who've never even been in a romantic relationship before...they always just assume everybody has friends to turn to. I'm 38 now, grew up extremely socially isolated, never had any friends to turn to for anything my entire life, never had a girlfriend, never even been out on a damn date yet. All my life my so called "mother" has basically done, and still does now, everything in her power to cripple and sabotage my independence from her...I feel like I am truly alone here in my situation. 😖

@NinaSofia_ 10 ай бұрын

Hang in there sweetheart, I have a nephew like this and pray for him every day, will pray for you too, keep watching Michele she is very wise 💞🤗

@siepka2 4 ай бұрын

If you're 38 already and still suffer... I ask you, isn't it you yourself that chooses that suffering? Unless you're actually bed bound and cannot physically leave your home while your mother is your primary caregiver, aren't you the one to blame for it? Being 38 is nearly mid-age. In that time you could've easily moved far away from your mother and just cut contact without telling her your location. Get a job in a bar or any other more social place and find those friends. Even if you're some sort of math genius, you could still do that. Right now you still can. It doesn't have to be forever, it just needs to break that ice. Please don't take this as a criticism, instead ask yourself, didn't this self-loathing just become your comfort zone that you yourself just don't want to leave. What is you mother going to do? Threaten to kill herself? Call an ambulance and tell them that, that she's unstable and you're worried. I know it's hard, I've lived through my own share of narcissistic mother's shenanigans. But what you do is you keep your spine intact by not giving up. You start with telling yourself that you're capable, and soon you will believe it. You can't just say that someone else is doing this to you when you're grown up. Otherwise you're become just like your abuser, except you abuse, well... you.

@jacobm617 4 ай бұрын

@@siepka2 As someone in a similar situation I know where they are coming from. It's very possible this person didn't understand what their mother was doing or why she was doing what she was doing. Maybe they only figured it out recently by watching videos like this. We are taught that family is supposed to be there to love and support each other. To come to the realization that this person is sabotaging and destroying your life is almost unfathomable.

@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry 4 ай бұрын

I'm 62, and only came to understand dysfunctional family dynamics during the pandemic lockdown, when I had time to watch videos such as Michelle's. "Escaping" won't help if you don't do the necessary work on yourself. I married a woman with BPD, in many ways similar to my mother.

@ascension4444 Ай бұрын

True Story. My Dad was never in the picture because my mother manipulated him enough to hit her when i was a boy. They divorced. Yet my Dad is a drifter and selfish. These days ive had nothing but relationships with Narcissists, And lately my Mother trying to get me to react has been getting worse and worse just a bit ago she threw her phone at me and then kicked my leg. And shes 73. What a damn child. I never react really so shes trying harder. And we all here know why they do this. Would be to make me look bad and also so she gets attn.

@keniasharpe1610 6 ай бұрын

The goal is to have a healthy relationship with your children when they’re GROWN

@kevinslyter 2 жыл бұрын

for me non reciprocal relationships are friendships

@FromSurvivingToThriving 2 жыл бұрын

I hope you raise your standards =D

@jeffreysherman8224 2 жыл бұрын

😭 Thank you so much, Michelle! 😢 We need this information, validation and the compassion you hold for male victims of narcissism. When we understand the patterns, we can start to change the way we see ourselves, relationships, and the way real love is expressed. In the narcissistic dynamic, boundaries were punished and prohibited and thus they feel unsafe to assert or even have in adulthood in many different situations. We are learning to not constantly sacrifice self just to exist in the presence of another person. And a major part of that is being safe with and accepted by the opposite sex _while_ being assertive, boundaried, and authentic. If we muster the courage to be vulnerable or authentic, but we're still attacked, disrespected and degraded, then we will not be able to heal properly. This is several steps in the right direction. Thank you, Michelle. Bless you, beautiful soul. ❤❤❤

@happygoesalwayslucky5966 2 жыл бұрын

What a superb logic.. I m literally starting to watch ur video and i already know what u r going to tell because all of it happened to me and when i resist to continue giving away my powers and living in the illusion as taught to me by my mother who is a malignant narc, my siblings who are her enabler and one of them a narc tells me that i am an unfaithful and unloyal pig who is just like a traitor.. I have decided whatever may be the outcomes i will do as per my wish and wont give them the power to decide how my life should be in every perspective.. I have stopped being a clown in their circus world..

@teejaylecapois9741 4 ай бұрын

You are describing many men's situations.

@rodvan-zeller6360 2 жыл бұрын

You are a life saver

@seandavid8060 2 жыл бұрын

I'm in tears watching this one. My ex is a Narc in every way! My 13 yr old son lives w my ex & used to see me a lot until this last year.his mom has lied to him & my 11 yr old son & manipulated them so badly!! He's being groomed as I'm typing this, being her Golden child, while his brother is the scapegoat. I'm begging for help!! PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO SAVE MY BOYS FROM HER??🙏🙏 I LOVE ur channel, I can tell u really care abt us all out here, struggling w these EVIL narcs! Thank u & pray for blessings for u & ur family for being here for us! Ive tried talking to him, he wont listen. I try to get him to watch ur vids, he won't. She's manipulated him & his brother so bad for years, I've fought her narcissism for 10 yrs. They r getn worse each year. Please please help save my boys??

@Alsatiagent 2 жыл бұрын

I'd ask a specialist if there is any way to minimize the destructive behaviour that you are forced to witness or at least maintain your own sanity while it occurs.

@goodenoughgirl8102 2 жыл бұрын

They do this to their daughters also. My mother has same gender envy with me and the step father is a cruel brute despot dictator who seems to think I ought to have been male instead of female. So effed up it all was. And she also married an alcoholic before that. SMDH. 🙄 I got it on both ends tho (male and female narcs). I have met a lot of women I thought were my friends or mentor mother figures, and about 80% of them were envious little competing backstabbers to me. Also had bad male and female bully bosses as well. Too many to count, tho a lot of it with the women narcs was covert social bullying type of stuff. My mother also tried to make my son her Golden child. (Before I became aware of what all was going on). I thank God every day he didn’t wind up being all that much affected by her (OR his grandfather) and that we had seasons of moving out of state away from them. Esp when he was so little.

@ladennayoung2939 2 жыл бұрын

WOW. THE LORD LED ME TO SHARE THIS WITH SOMEONE RECENTLY. A LOT OF THIS INFORMATION ANYWAY. I HAD ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA THAT YOU UPLOADED A VIDEO WITH THIS MESSAGE. THIS IS FURTHER CONFIRMATION TO ME FROM THE LORD THAT IT WAS HIM SPEAKING TO ME, AND THAT I AM UNDERSTANDING WHAT I HAVE LEARNED ACCURATELY.

@keithstewart7514 7 ай бұрын

Amen & ditto @ age 59 for me!

@izawaniek2568 2 жыл бұрын

This message is so very helpful and eye-opening. Thank you So much.

@innerworkshealing22 2 жыл бұрын

Many narc mothers create narc sons that grow into master narc men. It is quite common. I’m not disagreeing w Michelle, this is just another very strong outcome for a male w a narc mom. Either way you are being shortchanged and set back. Sad.

@mikehinson5935 2 жыл бұрын

Wish someone could help my son with this. His mother did it to his sister until she was old enough to choose to live with me full time. I sick of the line “just wait till he is older” yea and he will have issues just like his sister. 😡😡

@sonaliparida1044 2 жыл бұрын

Is it same with their daughters??

@Hafsa_Siddiqui_789 2 жыл бұрын

Yes..

@imjustsayin34 2 жыл бұрын

They’re also in competition with their daughters

@johnjohnstone9805 2 жыл бұрын

Learn And Learn And Learn But Still Stuck. Echo. I Feel Like I Got No Power Or Agency In Reationships. Like A Small Child Mindset I'm Subject To Others Will. I Might Grumble Or Pout Or Try To Wriggle Away, But What Can You Do You Can't Fight City Hall Right? Not Sure Who Put The Headlock On Me.

@corporaterobotslave400 2 жыл бұрын

Lesson starts @2:20

@imperator4973 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@ladennayoung2939 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. God bless.

@user-pb8ec9gy2x 2 жыл бұрын

You're a true queen Michele, thanks for all the info.

@uponcripplecreek1 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Michele!

@rodvan-zeller6360 2 жыл бұрын

You are 100% correct on the "template" (I call it script, same thing)

@DoloDohlee 2 жыл бұрын

Thank You

@_Trakman 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤️

@chickenbiscuit4525 2 жыл бұрын

The dynamic caused by this 'conditional love/self power shedding' often will generate an everlasting effect for even how money in proprietary is valued and becomes a compensatory gain for from the treatment of the self abandonment they had instilled in the child. Nearly every controlling narcissistic/psychopathic parent overtly or covertly has conditions made with for keeping their hands in the pie. Regretably this causes even the notion of gifting to be automatically received as a demand/entitlement/reward on offer. Thus defensively they (the controlling parent) have sought to gain protection self-servingly to the matter over your (the affected child) own means of autonomy in this world through the scope of conquest into adulthood success. If you happen to bust out and fail on the financial forefront side then the failure is theirs in denial and the disappointment this might generate will be shifted in regard to create an imposed feeling of shame that must be worn. They regard it as the happiness but use it further more to occlude 'you' as you from your own true meaning. This victim status impression (running down/minimization) of the individual must learn to create a better regulation for themselves in awareness not only to this by foundation in the dynamics for building awareness but what are the solitary solutions findings yet also for their own true gains/genuine appreciations/happiness and deeper sense of fulfillment. The best business practitioners build themselves up better than before and shed their powers in alignment quite magnificently. Something we all need to do carefully for emotions sake and our own vestiture for common survival in the ruthless or perilous schemes especially by way of narcissistic ventures, entraining and entrapment. Support you boss, mentor, provider in the simplest of ways, none more the power struggle.

@teejaylecapois9741 4 ай бұрын

Excellent news

@elizabethhouser3357 2 жыл бұрын

Cute puppy! Dogs are the best for healing.

@seandavid8060 2 жыл бұрын

I know ur so busy & hav thousands of people that nd help. I praying u read this bc my son has gone thru ALL u said. Ive been in tears, screaming for revenge on her. I've batld her 14 yrs. PLEASE PLEASE tell me how can I get him to watch ur vidsm see wut his mom is doing to him and many. I'm losing, my son is gone mentally. I only see him ev othr wkend, while she has the rest of the time. My time is limited. I luv mUu t boys unconditionally, they used to feel that way to until a year ago, I HAVE to save their future. But i

@Neferkida 7 ай бұрын

Wow. This was so eye opening. Thank you ❤

@teejaylecapois9741 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for the information

@ladennayoung2939 2 жыл бұрын

Very beautiful and on time video for me. It's just further confirmation for me. Many blessings upon, blessings upon, blessings upon, blessings to you and yours, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen.

@kilpel2 2 жыл бұрын

Nice video as usual

@ladennayoung2939 2 жыл бұрын

AMEN. THANK YOU SO MUCH. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS, IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN AND AMEN AND AMEN AND AMEN AND AMEN AND AMEN.

@TomHuckACAB 2 жыл бұрын

Story of my entire life.

@shubhimainalli 2 жыл бұрын

Mine too

@vandit6354 2 жыл бұрын

and me

@MinifigNewsguy Жыл бұрын

9:00 - Please don't paint us guys who appear to dislike women as if they are all bad as if we choose it. It's too simple. It's hard to find someone whose positive these days. I don't want to wake up and dislike women.

@liveyourbestlife1513 2 жыл бұрын

This was very good, Michele. Thank you. I'll hopefully be able to join your school soon.

@greyman1104 Жыл бұрын

This is exactly my problem and I try to fix this but don't know how.

@metatechnologist 2 жыл бұрын

This has bothered me and I was thinking of this very thing this morning. Coincidence?

@iNoThings 2 жыл бұрын

Ah, now I see the pattern.

@etphonehome4511 2 жыл бұрын

Love ur video on this topic.....there's not much on it out there

@PROLKR 2 жыл бұрын

This video was definitely for me. I really want to enroll in your program, but I'm being so skeptical ..

@spoonspoon3826 2 жыл бұрын

It should be a Felony, however learned ng the steps you had provided will help.

@nicholashuff4198 6 ай бұрын

It's not just what i learned in childhood, and not just my own stories. Look around! Talk to younger women and they'll admit they want a man's money and status; talk to older women and they'll admit they're just waiting for their benefactors to die and bequeath their wealth to them. Women are desperate to find a man who will feed and hold them and help provide for the bastards she made with a different rando, and they don't truly care which man it is. In the end, he'll be hated for not making her happy, and be the patsy for her own self-loathing and disappointments. Sure, that doesn't make them narcissists, but idk what self-respecting man wants to save a woman from her poor choices by adopting her and her offspring from other men. Make better choices, maybe even wait for the right person, and you won't spend your life hopping from random bed to random bed hoping to find a savior in another. Just a thought.

@thelamb21 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing

@jasonstein5559 2 ай бұрын

I love you Michelle....Thank you for bringing in the light,into such a dark place.....Will you Marry me???? Lol haha

@tehilagracie6466 Жыл бұрын

Still having zoom?

@pcihazer20 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the good info!! Can I have your dog? 🐶

@Hafsa_Siddiqui_789 2 жыл бұрын

No 😄

@mariaolsrud7346 2 жыл бұрын

What kind of dog is it that you have?

@FromSurvivingToThriving 2 жыл бұрын

She's a mini golden doodle =D It's my daughters dog but I spoil her!!

@mariaolsrud7346 2 жыл бұрын

@@FromSurvivingToThriving 💖

@arniehanson8629 2 жыл бұрын

I can see that pattern in my relationships How would you explain given up at 3 to foster care bounce around in system till 5 Bio mother was alcoholic and step father malignant narc feel the damage psychological happened at my toddler years and now followed my through covert narc with psycho traits Finally divorced but want to define different attraction characteristics

@kristenmarie9248 2 жыл бұрын

This is so vague.

@sikiescordova1826 11 ай бұрын

I rejected so many women they cry 😭 when I said no!! I started to feel pity for them some would follow me everywhere others would cuss me out.I don’t want to be seen by women.i don’t want them to look 👀 into my eyes and fall In love.😍.I try so hard to be invincible.they call me glamour boy or sancho they even sing 🎶 hear comes Sancho.I’n Spanish .I just felt women are maninizers if I would of friends zone them I have over 300 female friends.right now I rather be invisible.😌 drama free 99

@kevinslyter 2 жыл бұрын

*feeling targeted by this video*

@drivethruabortion280 2 ай бұрын

And while I was listening to this in bed this morning, my malignant narc mom stormed in and assaulted me with a dry marker board, cutting my face. She is a terrible caregiver for her mother whom I used to care for before she became invalid. Stephen Kings Misery. I'm stuck here, but she is pushing me out with her tirades and abuse. How I wish I had an older sister or daughter to fulfill my male mother need, I'm no longer interested in romance. That always ends. I just wish I was loved on this Earth by somebody.

@drivethruabortion280 2 ай бұрын

Wrong. I am not attracted to any woman similiar to my mother or sisters. This is a cliche.

@spoonspoon3826 2 жыл бұрын

It should be a Felony, however learned ng the steps you had provided will help.