We need to normalize divorcing these type of men instead of shaming women who are trying to protect themselves. I know plenty of women who are married to very toxic men but refuse to leave in fear of being ostracized by their family.

I feel like the reason why there are a lot of men with narcissist trait in the muslim community is because their particular culture allows it.

But sis, some of these men hide their true character until you marry them. And for some women once they are in it’s so hard for them to come out of the marriage.

The problem is we raise our daughters and love our sons, and this huge issue in our community, and when they grow up they have issues, and things I have seen men get away with things are very alarming, and if a woman talks in forbidden things or says her opinion its end of the world in the society.

My Ex literally ticked off every single thing from the Narcissist characteristics list 🥴 and he would often weaponise Islam to justify a lot of it, even though that is NOT what Islam is or intends to advocate. I just wish I stopped giving him so many chances and left sooner. Wasted a good portion of my life, academics, emotional energy, health and more, BUT learned an incredibly important lesson. I cannot control others; my peace and safety starts with me and it comes with drawing healthy boundaries AND STICKING TO THEM.

Nothing terrifies narcissistic then a intelligent Empthath Fact .....

Subhanallah this is exactly one of the problem many Muslims are going through and you are really shaking the table. That's why its good for muslimah to learn their Deen and to stop waiting for men to tell them always about their Deen and make them feel they are still better than women no matter what. SubhanAllah am just trying to see if I don't have any or ounce of these narcissist qualities. Ya Allah adorn us with beautiful character and preserve us from bad and terrible akhlas. Jazakillahu khayran sister.

Subhanallah! My ex husband has all these qualities, Alhamdulillah am out for good, May Allah provide me with better spouse. Amin

''they stand up for their lies so strongly.'' You hit the nail right on the head there sister

This is so sad. Because it's exactly the story of my father and mother. It breaks my heart every day and I pray for my parents every day.

Subhanallah I really needed to watch this video. May Allah grant us spouses that will be the coolness of our eyes

Please do a video on dealing with narcissistic mothers. All I see is "be patient" and "paradise is at her feet". She's ruining my life!

Please feel free to respectfully add your own experiences in the comment section so that other sisters can learn what to avoid. We love our brothers in Islam but too often some have been allowed to get away with nonsense. They are ones to avoid. To all my Muslim brothers treating their ladies right; We love you all for the sake of Allah and may we have more of your kind, ameen!

Very informative sister, I'm seeing so much narcissism online. So glad I have a humble husband, who does good deeds for the sake of Allah, rather than the power tripping we see today.

Also want to say alot of the reason that narcissistic traits are so common in our men and community as a whole is that the men are never made accountable from a young age for bad behaviour. My ex mother in law has never seen her grandchildren and my ex husband has just gone on to get remarried and has no contact with his children. Zero accountability from his own mother and family. Very common in Middle Eastern and Asian men…as sons they can do no wrong…This is where it starts.

Omg sis I can't believe you've done a video on this! Thank you so much, I look forward to watching it in shaa Allah as I'm currently in the process of divorcing a narcissistic husband!

It’s like you were reading my mind. You touched every aspect of it. This is what made the western world believe that “ Muslim women have no rights, they only have duties “. While, those women are under the influence of a narcissistic partner or relative. Thanks for creating awareness about this topic.

I've watched hundreds of videos on narcissism and narc abuse over the past 2 years, and I've not come across one from a Muslim mental health coach which defines it from an Islamic realm, so sis Nafisa, thank you so much for creating this awareness for the Muslim community particularly Muslim women who are confused and who are suffering tremendously under the hands of abusive husbands, not even realizing that this is a form of abuse. It's very unfortunate for people in authority especially men to use religion to justify their abuse by using that power/knowledge to put people they govern in their "place". Dear sisters, you have every right to walk away from an abusive marriage, you don't need to be physically bleeding or have your limbs broken as evidence. Knowledge is power!! Educate yourselves and make a wise choice. Truly appreciate your work, sis Nafisa!

Dr. Ramani has a great channel on Narcissism. and there are different types of narcissistic personalities. if you are with someone like that run away as fast as possible.

i am not lowering my standards, you can never change a person. The person may crush your soul, choose wisely. Naricissistic men are abusive.

This needs to go viral no one talks about this

Sis mashallah you are a good example of a muslim women may Allah keep u steadfast on your deen and may he grant you the highest level of jannah

I have faith in Allah swt. Everything He does, He does for our betterment alhamdulilah. Great to see you active on YT again :)

Sis since most diseases have cure I think we need that video of resolving this issue. Thanks 🙏

Until the end of 2020, I was a big people pleaser and almost all my life a very giving person, but I fell victim to a narcissist boss, who did all of those things damaging my self esteem, gaslighting, expressing emotional behavior when I reminded him of boundaries.. Alhamdulillah due to circumstances I was able to dodge him. Thank you so much for making these educational videos. God bless you

Also when ur in a toxic marriage... It effects ur Emaan.. Its best to cut ur losses and leave...

Subhanallah, as a brother, this needs to be said! We need these voices!!!

I'm not Muslim but what you said is true. What you mentioned happens across all religions, cultures and traditions. This video speaks to everyone not just Muslims. Thank you. You are a very wise woman. Stay blessed

This is a powerful video which deserves so many views and I would say should even be played at halaqas (sister's circles). Unfortunately narcissistic Muslim men are very common in our community and so many women are in toxic marriages but are not aware of it.

Its seems so hard in todays time to find a good spouse

Ya Rabb, this video is such a blessing and matches very much with my "still husband". At the beginning he seemed to be so pious and good mannered, I really felt he is my other half I was always looking for. What an idiot I was🤣🙈 "Gaslighting"... never knew about that until I married him. As every human being I'm not perfect and of course I have mistakes, but one thing for sure: I lower my eyes in front of men. But EXACTLY this is what he is ALWAYS telling me: You're looking at men with lust! You are looking at their private area, you're searching for some attractive men!" and so on. Oh God, how it made me tired and at the end almost questioning myself because I indeed do not look or search for men. 🤨 He is such a big liar, I never met someone lying that much like he does! Plus changing his stories after some days into other stories. Changing facts into different facts and making me believe I didn't listen well enough and or I was trying to change his spoken words. 😐 Alhamdulillah that I have kids who also made their experiences with him and told me that he is changing every few days from a "nice" person to an evil person. Sisters, it's IMPOSSIBLE to have an objective discussion with someone with narcissistic characteristics! You will nothing than LOOSE! Because he is always right, he is always the one who tried his best and you are the unthankful wife who is inpatient. He swears and lies right into your face and into the face of others. He has such a big phantasy, he is creating stories that you will think "what the **** is wrong that he meets always bad persons who are hurting him?!" 🤔 It's ALWAYS him who is the poor victim, ALWAYS! And it's always YOU and the others who carry the fault. Even if others witnessed what really happened he will swear by Allah and change the facts until the story fits to his "imagination". He is too lazy to work and prefers to live on my costs. Although he is an Arab, he doesn't hesitate to behave like a tick and suck on my money! He isn't and wasn't ever responsible for me, it is me who paid for everything. And still he ordered me to ask him for permission before I leave the house! 😅 If he doesn't get the attention he wants, he provoces argues to get a reason to scream, insult, belittle and slap me. Then he takes all of his stuff out of my flat and won't be seen for several days. During this time he is waiting for me to call him and apologize for my bad behavior. 🤣 He never gave me my rights, he has no right over me at all! I now got divorced alhamdulillah, FINALLY! And I prayed a lot to Allah and was patient. Because when I fought for my rights, nothing happened. Then in this Ramadan I decided to leave it completely to Allah and He helped me out now. Allahu akbar.🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻 Sisters, I could write a book about what I went through. Please STAY FAR AWAY from this mad sort of men! May Allah protect us all Allahumma amin. 🤲🏻

Gaslighting is very painful and mind bending, around children it is very dangerous as it is a tool to manipulate. Unfortunately I knew nothing about this disorder in people until I was knee deep. The youth are lucky to have information like this available.

Nafisa sis please make it a full series.

Girrrl!!! You are literally describing my father 😭. I feel so bad for my mother everyday and I pray that she will find a better spouse who will treat her properly ❤️ Ameen

I think another important point, is that before marriage they are pretending to be wonderful and understanding and they make you feel like a princess. But once they have you, they change and you don’t feel appreciated or respected anymore.

It has been known that Mother-in-laws can be poisonous!

Salaam All reading this. I am a Muslim Fella and just wanted to reassure the Sisters reading this that there are good men out there. I'm not saying im one of them, especially after seeing the list Sister Nafisa present. I think us brothers need to be exposed more about this bad trait. I now acknowledge I have a lot to change and work on before seeking a spouse let alone tying the knot. I ask Allah to bless you all with amazing spouses. Please keep your head up high and don't let past experiences put you down. Allah has saved you all and taught you and strengthened you too.

Sisterrrrr yesssssss. Please can you make a video on how to get over a narcissistic relationship after divorce. What can a sister do to heal from that previous relationship?

God will give you a few signs along the way in the form of red flags and intuition. If you dont listen, He will expose the truth in a way that hurts you so you realise and leave the relationship. Never question "why me" because there was something for you to learn from this experience. Remember God saw things you didnt, heard conversations you didnt and knew of plans you wernt aware of. Just do shukr and do your best to heal and level up, you won't regret it.

Obedience from a wife means I have to agree with everything he says, even my emotions have to know that he is right and I am wrong. Every advice is an insult is so right, he can justify everything he does and never apologises for a single thing.

Married to a covert narcissists for 40years. They just get worse with age. Will never change.

BarakAllahu feeki sis!!! I’m so glad I came across your video and it’s SPOT ON!!!! For the past few months I’ve been reading a lot about Narcs and the hardcore perverted/manipulative ones since this year i met two of them one after the other( imagine the trauma I’ve been through but Alhamdulilah I detected the signs early on and rannnnnn for my lifeee as hard as it was bc I was finding them excuses since they are ‘practicing’ SubhanAllah). The perfect religious image got me big time and I just couldn’t grasp the fact that men in this ummah could use Allah’s words and peach about our deen and be this EVIL and toxic at the same time!!!). It baffles me that sheikhs and imaams don’t talk about this, US sisters are not safe at the hands of those monsters!! This is so sooo informative and I feel all sisters who are in the phase of talking to brothers before marriage, need to watch this!! Sisters look for signs and red flags, analyse their characters, observe and do not disclose too many info about your personal lives, do background research, stalk their socials ( they give off a lot of red flags- talking to multiple other women at the same time in their private messages, they need different preys! They also show a perfect image on their socials you’d definitely think they are the dream men! They are also intelligent and they know how to use their intellect and words to manipulate and gaslight). Ive know 2 narcs and the first was very much under the spotlight since he was a famous person, he loved the praises from his audience, always with a ton of selfies of himself, self centered and perverted in his mind( Narcs objectify women and they want to possess you, they think they’re the absolute BEST in intimacy etc). And this one had ANGER, would insult me, curse me but I’d just brush it off each time bc I thought that was appreciation until he got sick of me being clingy mind you I’m an empath( perfect prey!!) and eventually blocked me everywhere when I confronted him and told him he’s a psychopath and needs help!!!( they usually ghost you when you find out about the REAL them/ the evil psychopath that hides behind the ‘kind/ generous gentlemen’ mask) Second narc I came across was slightly different in the sense that he was more low key on his socials, you would never find out about his personal stuff but still similar to the first one when it came to using his intellect and wisdom to show the ‘perfect picture’ of a kind and humble man. This one I guess was the hardcore perv I’ve ever met, would tell me stuff like he’d hurt me, force me to do things , rape me and laugh it off like it was some kind of jokes( I became weary ofc after those episodes).. in the beginning he would call every single timeeee and I thought he was actually investing in me so didn’t see the red flag but that is actually them being impatient to ‘possess’ you! He would cut me off when I talked and insult me in subtle ways or make me feel small and I was again the perfect prey to him since I would be submissive and not fight him when he was being disrespectful. Anyways long story short while we were talking I also found out that he was talking to other women on his Instagram and it seemed like he was actually harassing them for replies, he commented on their pics saying their gorgeous etc and when I confronted him he said it’s no big deal it’s not like he’s in a relationship with them! Lol I lost my sanity at some point, thought I was crazy! He even said if he’s to get married he will still go around complimenting or flirting with women outside( like hello are you sure you’re a man who claims to pray 5 times a day??? Do you even fear GOD??). I forgot to add , one major sign that can give it off is their traumatic /horrible childhood!!! They both had abusive fathers who beat them up and lived in extreme poverty( When I came to the realization that they were perverted NArcs I asked about their childhood bc at this point I had already read about it and wanted to connect the dots so I could walk out). But it’s hard when you’re an empath bc you want to save the world and you just feel bad for them so you still try to help! But the best thing to do is Runnnnnn, Narcs don’t EVER CHANGE!! You cannot save them!! They also always have those perverted or unreal look( cold stares or psycho subtle smiles in their pictures) and most of them are loners, have zero friends( in case they have it’s usually 1/2 friends they can benefit from). Sorry Nafisa, that was super long but I just wanted to share my side of the story so someone could benefit from it in cha Allah. I’m heartbroken and scarred from those experiences, I don’t think I would be able to trust any men anytime soon.( at this point I feel like 80% of the worlds population are narcs🤔). No one should have to be in contact with NARCS, it’s living hell!! They’re demons! SubhanAllah May Allah ta’ala protect us all from those toxic and dangerous people Ameen 🤲🏽

I definitely agree with you on all these points since I have seen men like this around me. The thing is some men may be born like this, but many Muslim men develop these traits because of the way they are raised by their parents. It's so unfortunate that parents make it a complex issue where their sons can sit down and control their sisters and even mothers, yet the mother still doesn't change her way of raising her son. Then they grow up with these narcissistic traits and if things go wrong it is their wife's fault. But for real we as a society need to raise our sons right so all these issues won't arise in the first place.

God bless you so much for this comprehensive list! I experienced all of these signs with my ex husband. At the time, I was a new Muslim who strongly desired to learn my Deen, and he isolated me from my family and abused me emotionally using hadiths exactly as you described. I wish I had the benefit of your wise advice many years ago so I could have escaped much sooner and myself and my children wouldn't have sustained such lasting damage. Jezak Allah kheir!

Partly, that's why I'm not married.

I’m married to one! Everything you listed and described in this videos describes my husband in detail!

Also if he abuses you mentally or physically he'll make you believe it's your fault that he abused you

Absolutely fantastic video. You really have addressed an issue that has been ignored and disregarded. How enlightening and needed was this everyone? 🤗🤗

The heartbreaking part is that, no matter how much logic you lay out, no matter how softly you speak about how he makes you feel, he will most likely not even understand that what he's doing is gaslighting, manipulating and hurting you. He will always feel like the victim. He will probably feel like YOU are the narcissistic one. Your feelings are never valued over his own. You will always be the one who started it first. "I became this way because back when we got married you disrespected/disobeyed me." And things like "you deserve to be treated this way" are some of the things you might hear at every argument. Name calling, yelling over you, not letting you finish your thoughts, making you in return say hurtful things even though this is not how you ever wanted to have disagreements with your spouse, all because you feel unheard, unloved, un respected and overlooked. By the end of the argument you'll end up doubting yourself because yes, you did say something mean once or twice because you truly were triggered by all of his accusations and horrible name calling. You start to think you were at fault, that you truly probably drove him that far, because he storms out of the house with some belongings, says everything that's wrong in the marriage is because of you and then gives you the silent treatment. Everything he has said and done are forgotten by him and only your reaction is recorded. You start feeling like a bad wife, start forgetting what he has done and said up to this point, for years, that have made you lose love for him little by little. Am I at fault you wonder. It makes you want to reach out to him to show him he's still respected. Maybe if you are exactly how he wants you to be, the opposite of everything he accused you of, he will be happy with you and your marriage will be free of pain. You will give and give and give some more, but the abuse will never stop. He will always find something to be dissatisfied about, to put you down and make you feel like you're the reason for ruining his life. When all along, all you wanted was a sweet husband who loves you, who you love, respectful towards each other even in argument (especially in argument), who communicates and talks things through, who can be your rock and you his, who will help each other in your Deen. But you'll find that with the years, he has broken you. You are not that sweet naive girl from the beginning anymore. Too much has happened and too little of you has been respected. You feel guilty when he accuses you because, you know deep down, you are disappointed in him and your life with him, so you assume he's picking up on that. But because he's so selfish and puts his own emotional needs before yours, he doesn't recognize his fault in that. In his eyes, you are everything that is wrong in his life. You're the reason that he feels like less of a man because you've been battered (emotionally or physically) to the point where, the desire to praise him, or agree with him when he's wrong, has vanished. The narcissist in him can't put himself in your shoes so he blames you for everything. In the meantime, you are killing yourself jumping back and forth from your own shoes to his, feeling guilt ( because you think he must be really hurting if he's acting this way towards you), anger, sadness and emptiness all at the same time and feeling empathetic to his pain while trying to deal with your own.

I’m glad you’re discussing this issue because I feel like most people in our communities shy away from these kind of topics unfortunately. Jazakillah khair sister.

Wouldn't this be amazing to be talked during a khutba? We women know what narcissism is and so many of us have put up with it/are continuing to out up with narcissists, whatever their reasons may be, but I believe it's far more important that men among themselves raise this topic and help each other. Talk about it openly to better their Muslim characteristics. I believe that narcissists have been moulded through their own childhoods and through seeing their own fathers with their mothers. So I feel, more importantly that women understand what narcissist characteristics are, men need to be educated on this matter openly and through religious institutions to better marriages and family life.

Jazakumulah for this Sis, we keep learning everyday and I pray May Almighty Allah continue to bless and protect and our marriage, Love you loads sis ❤️❤️

Alhamdulillah. You have done a community service! It is not a strange discussion. I have seen the development of such a relationship and the hurt to the wife over and over while she would try to take the blame. She even said that Muslims are not supposed to be happy in this worldly life! More indignities are still coming to this young Muslimah and some of the husband's warped Islamic "knowledge" is piling on. Even though she has discovered the narcissism and the concept of 'gaslighting' she feels that her love will suffice. I will send this video to her as I have done with others. Allahu akbar. I've gotten accused of fomenting divorce, but I am too old to care about what they say, Allah knows the truth of all our hearts!

MashAllah a great video as this needs to be discussed more and more. I was married to a narcissistic Muslim man and it was hell. Unfortunately I had very little help from people within the community as nobody really understood. I was able to get my divorce and now a single mother am still recovering from this traumatic experience so am so glad this is being confronted as it is so prevalent in our community and also with our women as sister friends, mothers and also wives so a great topic! Please Keep it up dear sister.

Thank you so much for this sister. So many of us sisters will benefit from this video moving forward, InshaAllah. May Allah protect us from these kinds of men. Amiin.

This is such an important topic to talk about. I'm not Muslim but I was in a relationship with a highly narcissistic man who showed many of these traits, and at the time I was not aware of warning signs to look for. Things that you say here that would apply more to a Muslim man (threatening to take another wife) were just a bit different for him (threatening to cheat on me because I wasn't good enough for him- his words). Fortunately I was able to leave, but I only did so after becoming more aware of what a narcissist is and how they behave.

Growing up with narcissists I know exactly what to look for but hearing you list it out ugh thanks for this video, so important for us to know the warning signs!!

So refreshing to listen to this. Just wish we had this kind of advice 30 years ago.

Jazakallahu Kyran for this educative video. You made this video for sisters but coincidentally for me, you practically mentioned 90% of my ex-wife's characteristics. So I guess it's safe to say this goes both ways. May Allah guide us all, aamin.

Thank you so much for sharing this. Could you perhaps also have a video on the vulnerable narcissist? I find that harder to identify, especially in the context of Islam. The psychological suffering from their "silent treatment" is so difficult to deal with, as is the feeling of constant guilt that are insinuated. It is a more subtle form of narcissism, but no less destructive because it sometimes takes years to figure it out. As a highly empathic person, one easily get caught up in the vulnerable narcissist's 'suffering'. Sometimes this is cloaked in the romantic notion that there is nobody in the world besides the two of us. It seems like closeness, but in fact, it isolates.

I have not finished watching but commenting already sis. Let’s help share this video out there because many women already married need to watch this😔🥰🙏🙏🙏

Not a Muslim but was prepared to convert due to the promises and love I received in the beginning and his love for Allah was very beautiful but wow how he hid his true self. I won’t go in depth but nearly everything she said I experienced and most women who are in this type of relationship (Muslim or not) have already been praying for things to change or just to get out of it. Please spend time with your family and friends and get rid of that horrible ungrateful man.

SubhanaAllah I truly needed to hear this reminder I'm too valuable to men, I have no father in my life to support me in a marriage. My life as a muslim are even before coming into the fold of Islam. No mother to go too no one except Allah subhana wa ta ala in spirit. I'm too afraid to enter into another marriage. May Allah continue to help me heal from the abusive marriage I was in and protect other sisters from such abuse.

Hi Nafisa! Thank you for this video. Can you please create the video about how to deal with a narcissistic husband? And the mothers!

Alhamdulillah. I ended a 3 year long courtship with the help of Allah. He made me realize that I deserve better. My dear sisters, this is my experience. I am a convert/revert. My family isn't Muslim (so they basically don't have the same standard as we do). When I was in my teens, Astagfirullah, I lived a very haram lifestyle. I was an open book to him and I never hid my past. He accepted me. Overtime, whenever we have arguments, he would remind me of the things I did in the past. He would call me disgusting, a who** who ****ed men. He would even insult my mother who was innocent. He would insult my family. He would say racist remarks, how my ethnicity is literally below his (I'm Filipino, he's Arab). I don't know how I did it but for 3 YEARS YA'ALLAH. 3 YEARS I put up with this. For 3 years I hid this to my mother because I I don't want her to think badly of Arabs (Arabs have a bad reputation in my country). It was only when his mother and I had an argument about our nikkah plans that I really realized this ain't it. He never defended me, he even blamed me even when I had nothing but respect to his mother. I deserve better. We deserve better sisters. Allah swt love us deeply. Don't let a man like that just disrespect you and strip you off of our rights and confidence.

Wow, this is so important to hear. Needs to be spoken about more so jazakallahkhair! May Allah SWT protect and guide us all. Ameen.

Whew Sis, you out here saving WHOLE lives!

Hot topic!! 👏 Well done sis, amazing points you've delivered here. So much needed for this community! It is so rife!

السلام عليكم My dear beloved sister Nafisa جزاك اللهُ خيرًا deeply for addressing this issue. Only ALLAH عز و جل knows how many Muslims are in this situation unknowingly. May ALLAH عز و جل bless your effort Ameen.

Thank you for this, its absolutely emotional/spiritual abuse, this is one of the things that put me off of practicing Islam in the traditional way. I just try to cover the basics now to stay away from this type of cult thinking in the community. Very well done video

Thank you so much for speaking about this within the specific context of Muslim men. I am so thankful that Allāh protected me from marrying a narcissist, even though he had hundreds of people to vouch for his piety and "beautiful" public character. Exactly what you are describing was his private character that nobody else seemed to see except for me. I was the "crazy" one, and he made sure everyone knew it.

This is a very important talk, much needed and overdue. Thank you for touching and exposing a taboo topic. I think it's important to highlight both men and women share a wide spectrum of negative characteristics. That get camouflaged with loos, status, job role etc. I think a series on such characteristics, real life examples and solutions would be very helpful. Often negative characteristics get blurred with Islam. Where does empathic Islam start and naraccisum end? Often one finds out a person's true colours when the horse has bolted. Thank You and considering doing a series. Impartial, academic, astute, easy to listen to and relatable, sharp to the point. JazakAllah.

you are such a boss sister! I made a video on narcissism in the community a while back but yours is 10x better :D

Salam sister, you're an inspiration. I am planning to study psychology & counseling too. This is much needed in our society currently. Jazakallah khayr. Yes, please needed a video on narcissistic muslim mother, it's very relevant to me & others who's experiencing the same test. 😢 May Allah SWT bless you always & keep you in good health. Ameen 🤲🏽

10 minutes in Sis and it's a sermon! I wish I had this information when I was younger. I just recently started to learn....Thank you for sharing

Ma sha Allah, a sister on KZfaq NOT wearing makeup, and fully covered. Jazak Allahu khairen.

This is too accurate and true. Abuse really traumatizes people.

Good luck I stay single as a Muslim Man because I have to get more Closer to Allah even if I never Marry! All I know is their is this Dunyah and then there is Ahkira may we all reach Jannah InshaAllah Awafi Salam Alaikum keep it up Sister may Allah Grant you Peace!☝🏾💯

Alhamdulillah for this video. I am sharing to my Facebook. May Allah swt reward you for this very important work. Newly subscribed and looking forward to every topic you mentioned covering. They ALL need to be discussed.

Jazakillahu Khair sister for shedding floodlights on this sinister problem. As a Muslim man, it's so important for us men to recognize this issue and rectify it through checking and re-checking our inflated egos. Unfortunately it is all to common to be raised by fathers like this wihich only furthers the issues through generational trauma. We inherit these traits sometimes knowingly or unknowingly and it really takes a toll on the people closest to us. Narcissitic men can initiate a vicious cycle of abuse to not only their wives, but also their children. These children grow up without learning what it means to be healthy individuals and end up repeating the same behavioural patterns...the following generation then inherits these issues and only worsens. This is why it's EXTREMELY important for all Muslim men to have taqwa. Be concious of Allah! Yes, you have been given a responsibility over women, but don't abuse it! Do you think Allah doesn't see your sick hearts and the pain you inflict on his creation?! You will be held accountable and your womenfolk and children will testify against you on that inevitable Day. You can fool the whole community and everyone around you, but you cannot deceive Allah swa.

These men are usually the ones who appear extremely 'pious' and charitable in society......literally what do they pray for 5 times and turn to God for when they're so deliberately cruel with a conscience that's non existent. Really sad how many of us are dealing with this thanks to the 'enablers' in the form of friends relatives etc who never call out on their bad behavior. Sister, thanks for bringing this up.

This is such an eye opener, thanks so much for this, may Almighty Allah continue to increase you in beneficial knowledge. But, a wife too could be Narcissistic. I walked out of a Narcissistic marriage about seven months ago, it was such a traumatic experience for me, after spending over four years with him. Though, I do love him but I love myself enough to get out of the marriage cause he was becoming a monster. I had to cut all ties of communications with him, didn't want to give him the room to manipulate and crush my heart again. I hope to find someone better someday.

Jazakallahu Khayran Nafisa for this detailed, insightful and educating video! I know some and I’ve learnt more. Barakallahu feekum sis 🙏🏾

Alhamdulillah, I am so glad to have 'stumbled upon' this video. I have spent the last 2 years learning about narcissism after going through the most emotionally and financial manipulative behaviour from.....my late mother's relatives. This is so refreshing to watch, but please make a matching video about narcissistic behaviour in our Muslim communities and families.

My ex husband was on the surface a learned daiee. He persuaded me to marry him for the sake of Allah and told me parental consent was not required as I was divorced. He didn't allow me to know him better as it was haram. Within 6 weeks all went to hell. His mask dropped. He had 2 other wives and refused to render me any financial support. I had to be the breadwinner while he was traipsing around on holidays with the other wives. Whenever i objected to the arrangement the standard hadith Quranic and me being a bad materialistic Muslim argument. Everything else, the gaslighting, abuse etc, exactly how the video describes. Spot on even though it sounds too horrible to be true. I finally stopped giving him his narcissistic supply and he thankfully divorced me with ease. It was 8 years of hell and I had to go for therapy after for PTSD and emotional burnout.

So true sis, I can relate to most of your highlighted points. Narrcis is a term , I was unaware but when I was in relationship few yr back, I came to know about all these phycological terms like compulsive lier, gaslighting etc. but as I am strong enough, I thrown that garbage back to dustbin from where he came.

May Allah continue to endow you with useful knowledge Nafisa. You've said it so aptly. It's great thing information is easy to get these days. Most women in marriages older than 10 years didn't have most of this info at their disposal. Without mincing words, it is a very much needed lesson and culture undeniably plays a huge role in NPD amongst men.

Sister Nafisa you are amazing and so eloquent. You have stated every point that my ex husband had. Each and every point he possessed however he also had the trait of controlling my money also and took everything from me. This is one of the best narcisstic talks I have ever heard. May Allah bless you tenfolds and May Allah give women who are suffering the strength to leave. AAMEEN

This video is so important. Beautifully done. My prayers to Allah helped me. Making salat. Though I would have loved listening to this video also.

Such discussions filled with such hiqmqh are so very much needed. Jazaakillah khairan Sister. I, like so many, have a story. Allah(swt)'s kept me. I am still here. AlhamduliLah..., we, are still here by the mercy of Allah(swt). InshaAllah please pray for my children and I. The emotional and mental torment are indescribable. He continues. He seemingly won't stop. InshaAllah be blessed sister.

Great topic. Thank you. I just hope narcissists don’t use this to turn the tables on empaths when empaths start to stand up for themselves. May Allah swt guide us on His straight path Ameen

May Allah reward you sis for the advice you have shared because this is a real problem many young women are going through. May Allah make it easy on all of us and those seeking a way out of it

Salam sister, thank you soo much for making this video as I am currently in this situation. All the points you raised are so true. May Allah swt bless you and grant you jannah ameen

Such a good video. I really enjoyed this content and I will definitely watch it again, because this is some of the issues we hear about in the Muslim community and nobody is talking about it they way you do. Thank you so much for this beautiful and beneficial video. May Allah swt reward you and give you all what you want in this life and in the hearafter. Jzj

Jazakallah khairun Nafisa excellent and useful advice, please continue with these informative topics.

Jazakallahi kheyran jazaa sis, we all needed this advice married or looking. Very beneficial video, I've noted some of these points 👌❤😍😍

It's so sad that this is so common, I had to leave when I needed the most support.if you are raised by narcissistic culture, you don't even know the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships.

The information in this video is thought provoking.

As salam alaykoum. Everyting you described, I went through!!! Subhan Allah! Awareness needs to be raised! Barak Allahu fiki!

Yes sis, Do your best and leave the rest to Allah 👌🏻