Navigating a "Private Not Hidden" Relationship (with Becca Tilley)

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2 ай бұрын

Becca Tilley joins Mal this week to discuss her relationship with "Lesbian Jesus" Hayley Kiyoko - how it started, the conversations that led to keeping it private for years (but don't worry, Taylor Swift knew the whole time), and the challenges that came with being two public figures in a private relationship.
Becca chronicles her journey from her southern, Christian upbringing, going on The Bachelor (twice!) and finally falling in love for the first time... with a woman.
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@Critic115 Ай бұрын

Fell in love instantly but took 6 years to move in, that's like a reverse uhaul

@Empressco Ай бұрын

Uhaul reverse 😂

@beccabeccabecca222 Ай бұрын

I’ve so been looking forward to this one!!! Becca is such a ray of light. I would love if she wrote a book one day because her story (and her sisters’ stories) is soo interesting to me, and I think could speak to a lot of other queer Southern and/or religious people. Yay!

@FutureXXD Ай бұрын

I just love Becca's energy and how cute her story with Hayley is hahaha

@uscitizen3252 Ай бұрын

As a queer woman, I really relate to Becca's Christian background and upbringing. Hearing her experience is so helpful and encouraging.

@Raddiebaddie Ай бұрын

7 husbands of Evelyn Hugo is SUCH a good book 📚 💚

@bruadarach9758 Ай бұрын

Adore that this was part of her story ❤ I read it at a similar point in coming out journey and the last line genuinely hits you like an epiphany

@PNWTheresa Ай бұрын

One of my favorite interviews of them all. Watched to the last second.

@MadeItOutPodcast Ай бұрын

so happy!! i loved this conversation 🥹

@kinglear7 Ай бұрын

Becca is a great conversationalist

@Cascadianwa Ай бұрын

I want to know how you end up with 3 gay sisters in one family, what a dream lol

@blueski3412 Ай бұрын

A conservative family too lol the irony.

@MadeItOutPodcast Ай бұрын

literally my dream!!!

@kalancosta7650 Ай бұрын

@@blueski3412yeah I hope the parents treat them well

@BenDover-dd4vg Ай бұрын

That’s how my family is 😂 My parents have 4 kids, the only 2 daughters are both gay. Then the only female cousin we have is gay, and the only aunt we have is gay too. It’s crazy

@Tonehurtt Ай бұрын

When I met my girlfriend now my wife. She had three sets of friends that were twins and they’re all gay.

@carouselleosoteo4836 Ай бұрын

Fantastic interview! Becca is still an amazing role model! Would love to see Hayley on at some point ❤

@kileybatchelor Ай бұрын

I love the story telling element of these interviews. Don’t get me wrong, the advice interviews are nice, but there’s just something about hearing gay stories. I didn’t know Becca before this and I knew of Hayley but not much. The cute stories in this interview made me so giddy and could visually see them play out in my head. I literally gasped out loud at the pulling in for the kiss at the apartment

@random_stranger2584 Ай бұрын

What a ridiculously enjoyable 42 minutes of my life lol. Thanks for making it happen!

@mimicolapietro2086 Ай бұрын

Becca is just delightful to listen to! Loved this episode! Thank you Mal for this wonderful podcast! It’s the best! I so look forward to Tuesday’s!! 👍🙌❤️

@dianlizeth7021 Ай бұрын

OMGGGGGGGG, I love Hayley and Becca !

@benedictevi5007 Ай бұрын

Didn't want this conversation to end

@madelinealleman3730 Ай бұрын

Did not realize she was from Louisiana! Represent 🏳️‍🌈 The Southern Gay Experience is real 😂

@naturenut7695 Ай бұрын

That was hilarious yet deep in parts of it. The jug being your support system. 😂. I laughed so hard. But I'm sure a lot of us can relate with this conversation. I will forever look at The Simpsons now as the yellow people 🤣.

@hiportugal Ай бұрын

the yellow people!! 😇

@3Oh3metrostation Ай бұрын

Been here since the beginning of the "Scrubbing In Podcast" days and watching becca and hayley drop hints of them dating to then finally come out. It's been a crazy and fun journey to follow. So cool to see her now on podcasts in queer spaces talking about everything. Could not have imagined this outcome 6 years ago 🤯❤

@user-pd2zm3vj8p Ай бұрын

Becca, you should write a book one day! You and Mal have the best podcast rhythm & flow. Becca you inspired me that there is true love and hope out there. I loved also how supportive your sisters were/are. I am so glad you met and fell in love with Hayley. Becca, you are right life is so so short it's important to be grateful in life. Whoever reads this message and may be going through tough times...keep your head up....be yourself...create a support system...there's so much to look forward to....this world needs who you are.

@yokoohellno Ай бұрын

Yay been looking forward to this one since you teased it ❤

@BananaRunt Ай бұрын

Let’s do this. Now I have what I’m listening to on the way to work today. Yay 🎉

@zeesangs_SA Ай бұрын

I’m literally listening to it on my way home from work 😅

@KathleenMint Ай бұрын

The laugh in the intro is life

@zanellenokuphila4640 Ай бұрын

This is my favourite podcast forever love it,from when it starts it has grown a lot,Hi Mal and Becca.

@someonesomehow379 Ай бұрын

omg I love how your story played out!! it's so wholesome 😭

@Koah1111 Ай бұрын

I appreciate the encouragement of mediation and therapy to support building communication with folks(not just romantic ships, this can be applied to any relationship you are invested in).

@Raddiebaddie Ай бұрын

9:51 omg so jealous that would be so nice to have siblings to go through everything with

@adelphipanthers Ай бұрын

I love Becca and Hayley relationship, they are so loving to each other . This is like the best interview on your podcast. I know they had past lives together.

@user-gk7ik2rk7c Ай бұрын

This was a great interview! Would love to hear you interview Hayley get her side of some of the same topics discussed! They seemed to start their relationship with very polarizing views but made it work despite their differences on really big topics.

@ellouisebadger849 Ай бұрын

I love Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko together. I'm so happy for them that they have each other ❤🏳️‍🌈

@arianed6121 Ай бұрын

LOVED this episode ❤ thank you girls for making this happen xxxxx

@DevourKeLenyora Ай бұрын

SO good! The dope energy just jumps out the screen yk? Thank you ladies.

@KayBassie Ай бұрын

Wait Becca was a fan of #Calzona (Callie and Arizona fr Greys Anatomy)...love her even more. I love when Becca tells the story of how she met Hayley with some added layers. 20:01 has me CACKLING😂 That's interesting, this Christian woman dating a woman for the 1st time. A woman who is affectionately referred to as lesb!an jesus by her fans🤣 Finally moving in after 6 years, such a reverse for a queer rel. This is why coming out is an individual journey. Becca's story is a reminder to not out sum1 until they are ready. There's a lot of ducks to get in row for the people in ur life. OMG the end with Becca processing The Simpsons predicting the future...is HI-larious🤣

@MadeItOutPodcast Ай бұрын

#calzona is SO funny

@KayBassie Ай бұрын

@@MadeItOutPodcast One of the actors that portrayed this couple said that #Calzona sounded like a folded up pizza, like a calzone😄 But you know what, that's what the fans of this couple had decided on their ship name. It's probably one of the fun sounding sapphic ship names😄

@carolineharrhy8796 Ай бұрын

What a great episode! So funny! She’s lovely

@FlyMeToWonderland Ай бұрын

What a wonderful episode! Thank you! ❤

@MadeItOutPodcast Ай бұрын

thank you for listening 🫶🏼

@rush_amanda Ай бұрын

Wow this was so good! What an awesome, positive, open minded person 🙌🏼

@annette0715 Ай бұрын

Loved this conversation and Becca! ❤

@Reed5016 Ай бұрын

Honestly, I can understand why a queer couple would want to have a discreet relationship. Whether they be in the public eye or not. Being out of the closet is scary, especially when it comes to family (and especially when that family is conservative).

@miznikki2u Ай бұрын

Awww, great convo!

@brinabridget Ай бұрын

🤭🤭🤭🤭 the introduction for me

@FM-tx5es Ай бұрын

That was a very entertaining and insightful interview. Wonderful!!! Well done to all

@julzamidala2865 Ай бұрын

Such a great ep! 🤩

@Happy-your1 Ай бұрын

Mal .. what a awesome interview

@jacee877 Ай бұрын

Loved it ❤✌🏾

@moniquepieterse8729 Ай бұрын

I listened to this episode 4 times!!!!!

@typicaltori_ Ай бұрын

I love this podcast so much !!! Another great episode, I watched the bachelor the seasons she was on there -I just love Becca!

@MadeItOutPodcast Ай бұрын

thank you for listening!! we definitely watched becca’s seasons too

@neddyfernandez1875 Ай бұрын

Great conversation!

@tinalunati5086 Ай бұрын

I think it is a really healthy choice prioritize yourself and your relationship before social media and public eye because FIRST you "don't have to" post anything if you don't want to and SECOND I will always have Becca in my heart because she never hide Hailey or herself, just keep it private. And I admire that ❤

@kokoschultz Ай бұрын

I just did a 3 hour car ride and binging episodes like this that I missed, helped the time flyyyy 🕊️

@Iaukea-yw7dq Ай бұрын

Awesome love story of the beautiful Becca on an awesome podcast with the beautiful Mal that shares truths of love.

@3Oh3metrostation Ай бұрын

40:34 "wingstop mostly" lmao

@Fire.and.Knives88 Ай бұрын

That was a lovely story. I don't watch The Bachelor, so I didn't even know who she was, but she's lovely.

@MustacheKat16 Ай бұрын

The beginning is so accurate

@user-rh7cp4ns5x 21 күн бұрын

Becca continue being you & your positive energy 💐

@LunarticDiaries Ай бұрын

I feel so happy that Hayley have such a great girlfriend, Hayley is really important for me, she really save my life, her work and her true make me feel like it was okay to be me, I love Hayley very much

@religiondoesntpaytaxes7861 23 күн бұрын

Been a fan of Hayley for years but this is the first time I'm watching Becca. She sounds really smooth and overall just mature. Hayley hit a jackpot with her.

@ROCKONplaceboforever Ай бұрын

Becca is so down to earth smart and beautiful so happy for her and Hayley another amazing episode love this podcast so much so happy to hear the experience and stories of different queer humans truly inspiring and meaningful ❤ 🌈

@dilaurentis8744 Ай бұрын

loved it

@sarahbenmusic Ай бұрын

What a great personality!

@pottertardis9706 Ай бұрын

that was so good

@BluesyHearts Ай бұрын

Wow ❤beautiful story

@brinabridget Ай бұрын

Last part go me crack my jaws you need to protect the retinas 🤭jug of water we need to hydrate thank you 😂😂😂😂 It's a great story and some lessons to learn from it thank you #BECCA and #Made it out team ✌️✌️ peace and love wuhu wuhu ✌🏿✌🏿

@korribier-lo3nm 24 күн бұрын

I love this interview. Love Becca and JoJos relationship

@akanchharai8194 Ай бұрын

Becca is so elegant 🫶🏻

@janieyacca Ай бұрын

This made me genuinely laugh. Thank you both. Now going to research The Simpsons conspiracy..

@korribier-lo3nm 24 күн бұрын

Love Becca

@darla510 Ай бұрын

I adore her

@LaLaLaLaLa8237 Ай бұрын

Awww loved this.... Becca's amazing! I'm glad her coming out was so positive, reminds me of Chrishell's which seemed much more 50/50 unfortunately, I wonder if it would've been different if Gflip didn't identify as non binary, just because that's such а new thing and not as understood. Who knows anyways. I'm happy for the positive and I'll go toe to toe against any negativity! Wish you all the best!

@patriciag6030 Ай бұрын

I think the difference is that Becca waited 4 years so even the potential haters understood that it was a serious relationship so they couldn’t really question it. Chrishell came out straight away and I remember a lot of the hate was calling it a publicity stunt or a midlife crisis. If Becca had come out soon after meeting Hayley I think she would have had a similar reaction.

@SVega-v3w 5 күн бұрын

Super likeable personality

@zanellenokuphila4640 Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌈

@lyssasletters3232 Ай бұрын

❤

@Empressco Ай бұрын

I can’t imagine coming out as queer I’m a queer relationship when you’re famous with a conservative following and everyone knows you because you were on a show about DATING MEN AS A CHRISTIAN VIRGIN. It was hard for me to not judge her hiding Haley but truly she was out in every way except for the public eye which consists of potentially MILLIONS of JUDGMENTAL STRANGERS. Holy cow. I never thought about that. Also My Benadryl is kicking in. Cheers!

@egla8099 Ай бұрын

Not sure who’s the other girl but her laugh tho so cute🥰

@spider-woman9482 Ай бұрын

Never watched the simpsons but I would say that show has been on the ball for a decade lmao.

@bastetowl3258 10 күн бұрын

how do you only know about the coach on glee when there was a whole lesbian couple on that show? lol

@CandiCEOk33 Ай бұрын

I just saw that Gabby Windey is also bi now after the Bachelor 😮😅

@MadeItOutPodcast Ай бұрын

🙌🏼

@Empressco Ай бұрын

Also I am mind blown by Becca having at least two gay siblings! I hope it’s not offensive to say I have always suspected that there is a “gay gene.” Growing up my mom said people turn gay because of all the plastic in our water and it never sat right with me 🙃

@stephencoulter9464 Ай бұрын

How beautiful u go girl 👧

@makestank4800 Ай бұрын

This just proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that sexuality is fluid.

@AngelaSara-taylor Ай бұрын

Bro can’t wait for amber lawes 😢 and Christina Ottrando

@savingJobutupaki Ай бұрын

Becca is so hot!

@personone8415 Ай бұрын

Wow, sibling are gay too! Same thing with me and my sibling. Both our parents very devoted Christians. So growing up in the Church is great, but yes. Once I was exposed to gays at my work place totally changed my perception. Especially the dont hate the person hate the sin. Everyone sins stop being so judgmental on this community.

@Andie08101 Ай бұрын

24:50

@stephenfiore9960 3 күн бұрын

1x(7/8/24)……..21:00…..

@alexsolo5092 Ай бұрын

sue sylvester was not a lesbian 😭😭

@deborahcoatsworthtingley-yn8bu Ай бұрын

I don't relate to the word queer because it doesn't spell love. My feeling show respect for the one that I love and made my life whole. She is no longer with me the cancer She in heaven God Bless everone.