“Boys are supposed to ruin your lipstick not your mascara”- Marilyn Monroe

I agree. You have to go through the pain in order to heal. It hurts like crazy at first but you will get through it

Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

Going through it right now... just happened a couple of hours ago. I ve been with him since I was 14 I am now 27 and this feels like the biggest rip out of my chest because he's my best friend and I don't know how to heal from this I am stuck..

Heavy on the cutting ALL mutual ties!

I totally agree, do not pretend to be okay when your not okay, allow yourself to feel everything and I mean everything, the pain, the crying, the anxiety , the wish you could go back and everything and ever yday it gets easier and it starts to fade

And know that this too shall pass and you’ll be a better stronger person because of it

There's nothing worse than being with the wrong man. I got counseling after my breakup, and he triggered abandonment issues. Counseling helped me see it really wasn't him I was hurting behind. He sold me a dream. It was over two years ago and he was my next-door neighbor. He got evicted five months ago and had to move, thankfully. Don't settle for any man who doesn't bring peace and joy into your life. ❤🙏

15 months. Still think about him everyday knowing he doesn't give a damn! Miss his family too. I feel like I'll never be vulnerable again. Regret it so much

she’s like the big sister i never had 🥹❤️

exactly, distracting yourself and pretending you don't feel is just going to make it worse. at least for me it did make it worse. so I chose to be mature and let my emotions go free. I acknowledged the heart break, and I honestly healed pretty fast after that. trying unhealthy ways to cope, especially pretending something never happened made the situation worse for me.

I'm really really happy you brought up cutting ties. SO many women I know will continue to contact them and will either get back together with them and start a vicious cycle, or hold on to feelings for them way too long. This is especially important if you were in a relationship where your partner was manipulative. The best thing for you AND them is to leave and have no contact. I know it's easier said than done though. I've been there.

Got cheated multiple times. Had a child with him. I keep forgiving him without him asking for forgiveness. Verbally abused me, my family, and my relatives. Still, I stayed with him. I was bonded to this guy. I couldn't think right. I told myself I would never find any man like him. Finally, I had to call off two days ago. I am currently hurting. I don't know what to do. I have been calling God to take the pain out.

Thank you. I was the one wrong in the relationship causing her to break up and completely distance. It is hard waking up everyday. Existing breathing thinking without my bestfriend. I have some codependency and trauma, addictions that damaged her and I’m learning to heal and let her go. I wish I had treated her better and I pray for forgiveness from her and god. I wish her the best and I regret it everyday that I wake up. Her father passed recently and I just wish I knew she’s okay. And to talk to her again. The feeling felt almost unbearable just getting sober today and not drinking the pain away. I wish all of you Love, peace and happiness 💛

And going to God about it also helped me. God loves you and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties onto God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️

Saving this as I’m currently going through a breakup as a uni student. Even though we were together for nearly 2 years we drifted apart when I started university. At first I didn’t know if I made the right choice to break it off and I did it in person which looking back at it was the right choice and both my side and his family’s side respected it. Seeing him cry broke my heart but I know now it was the right choice. I’m saving this video in case I feel low or doubt myself throughout this time. Thank you for the massive big sister advice!! 💜💜💜

The heart always gets us in trouble... definitely listen to the brain (logic) more. It 🧠 helps us perceive reality vs ♥️ what we wished the relationship was but isn't.

I'm in the middle of one too. It's complicated and nasty, because he literally can't wrap his mind around the idea that I'm actually leaving. We had been together for almost 6 years now. And I feel so lost rn, almost like someone ripped out a huge part of me, and now It's just void and loneliness. To make things worse, I have no friends and my only source of support is my lil sis. I wish all of us in the comment section could come together and be each other's support systems because I would really appreciate having one in my life especially now

Just experienced the worst breakup ever, man it hurts so bad, it’s like my internal organs are burning 😢 but one step at a time, I’m not gonna lie I’m in serious pain.

This helps so much thank you I had a boyfriend that was dating for 5 months and today you broke up with me and on the 28th of this month it was in our six-month anniversary today is the the 11th of August 2023 I poured my heart and soul into that relationship and he ripped my heart part and stomped on it like it didn't matter so this helps very much thank you

3. Is what I’m here for. Cutting off all ties to that person is hard. But it has to be done.

Excellent advice and a humble reminder that time does heal and that it always gets better ❤

Best advice I heard, especially when you said the logic behind the breakup. Thank you!

That last one people can sometimes have trouble with. I deleted his whole family and him off of socials asap even grandma🗣️

I've been distracting myself by getting back into the things I used to enjoy doing.. making myself a routine and sometimes adding new things when I'm ready

It’s #1 for me I’m 26 and I feel like I won’t find anyone else I already have self doubt and confidence issues and that’s what hurts the most I feel like I won’t have the family I’ve always wanted or someone that will love me for me and fight for the relationship 😩😩

God come first all time

Maybe this is just me I had 6 relationships in my whole 32 years on this earth and every time I break it off it become easier and easier. It goes from 1yr of heart break, 6m, 1m, 2wks, 5days. The older I get the more I know my worth and what I tell myself is y am I crying for someone who didn't deserve me.?And I tell my husband u are lucky number 7 I love u deeply but u betray me just walk away I'll b fine it'll take a day to get over u because I will not cry for someone who didn't value me enough to not disrespect me.. he don't believe me but trust me I mean every word. I love hard but when I'm done I'm done forever, u don't exist in my world, maybe it's the Taurus in me but I do not play games when it's my heart and life involved.

I am about to divorce my husband. he gaslights me and is an emotional rollercoaster. I am so scared I'll regret it after, feel alone or don't find a new partner.

#3. It’s only hard because we go to church together and his dad is the pastor. I am keeping my distance as much as I can because I only see those people on the weekend.

Thank you. I’m trying to go around the pain but maybe I need to go through it.

You need to here these: Those powerful words that helped me a lot.." time shall heal you my child". Till then focus on yourself. Afterall dignity is your future brahmastra. Experience is your weapon. And always remind yourself to move on and make progress, no matter how hard the pain it is showering , shower your progress and success into the pain , which will eventually nullify it.

Thank you so much!❤❤ so sorry for your tragic break up! Glad you got better!

I agree with the video and a few comments saying to block them, I also agree. However, these things can get a little tricky when it’s kids involved. There’s still constant communication, interaction with his family(because of the kids), you still have to see this person because of co-parenting because you don’t want the kids to see it’s a weird vibe between the parents. It’s all about setting boundaries for myself and knowing what works for my mental health. I’m also going to add to the list: cutting off sex, this should be #1 IMO..

I knew a family who refused to let go. You just have to seek healing regardless

Thank you!!! People please cut ties!!!!

No one talks about the hair loss that comes from a breakup that really hurt you. I lost allot of hair

Number 3 is what did it fa me! 💯

These were really helpful !! Thank you so much for the tips .

I cut off all contacts and within 2 months, I was stable, not healed but stable! It is now 6 months I can go through busy days without thinking about him once!

“If love keeps giving me lemons, I’ll just mix them in my drink” -Miranda Lambert

Girl i needed this so so so bad.

I needed this, my heart needs to catch up 😔 thank you

I needed this right now. Thank you!

The mutal friends getting the axe 😂 so true though. I do know a women that stayed in contact with his mother. He got married no kids then they broke up and then he got back with the women, as she was still in contact with the mother. 😂 but I don't want to give hope to clingers on.

how u so wise, girl. but fr we should all strive to be like that

I really needed this rn ty..

I just needed to hear this. The breakup was horrible for us both, yet he got into another relationship a month after. It’s been 2 years. I’m just now at a happy place in my life. No dating, no side person, just pure growth. Today I can finally say I’m proud of myself!

I’m old enough to be her Mammy’s older sister, but Nicole is the Big Sister we all need! ❤️

Thank you some much I’m going through a bad break up at the moment and this really helped thank you so much ❤

Glad my story of break up was me finding my self , healing , being with my family and friends and happy .

you can do so much for a persons and they still leave you in the end 💔💔💔😢 it makes me not wanna help anyone ever again my girl is trying to leave me at this very moment It’s 5 am and I have work at 3 I wrote a long paragraph and still haven’t heard anything back what is life ??

This was gold!!! I’ve definitely been going through the motions. But I know it’s best for me 😢😔

I wish I could go back and tell myself this in college… or just told myself to not date in college. My college bf broke up with me 7times because I kept in contact with him between the breakups, I was following “my heart” and I couldn’t deal with the emotional distress of a relationship. I would always find myself back with him and unhappy. I wasted my college years fr 😩

I absolutely agree with you 💜 need to heal 💔

Thank you so much!!!!! I had my first relationship some months ago and it was going pretty great, I wasn't naive or anything. I just wasn't giving any guy the chance simply because I just had my reasons plus standards. Everything was going on well till I realized he wasn't giving me the attention I needed. He would ghost me for days and come back and pretend it wasn't a big deal and always told me to understand him because he was going through a lot. I soon realized where this was going so I called it quits and funny enough, I was the one struggling to move on. One time he texted and I was really happy. He told me how much he missed me and how much I looked good and all that. He then went ahead to ask me the shocking thing ever. He wanted sexy pictures of me and by that I mean nudes I was so mad I just kept on questioning if he always saw me as a sexual relief. Yo make matters worse, he posted on his status celebrating a two freaking year anniversary and we had been together for barely 5months. I've never felt so appreciative to see your video because tbh, this is really what I needed. I've deleted everything about him and now, im just willing to love myself more

I love this. Thank you girl! So glad you made it through that. I know how you felt

I’m glad you said cut off until you heal from the situation

Thank you for being honest

Thank you. My heart already feel like its about to stop & he thinks we can still communicate and transition to two people that seemed totally in love to simply friends. It was my choice to end it but, I don't want to be friends while I heal. I need total solitude away to mourn the loss.

When you have a child with that person, it even harder 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Great advice doll. You’re so right. Pretty gal. I love your way of doing your make up too. Very simple. Stunning.

Thank you for letting us share your pearls of wisdom ❤

before the break up occurs im already gone mentally i tend to leave on a silent note. therefore i dont really have to heal and take time away from meeting other great men

Thanks. God bless you ❤

Everytime I go on deleting everything my fingers stumble and I can't. I have loved him more than I could ever imagined of

I’m going through it. 😢 but agree on going through the pain to heal.

Good advice & I agree you have to sever all ties🤗🤗🤗

Thank you.... I'm trying to learn good and healthy ways to continue moving on, I just went through my first break up and we didn't even last long :( Thank you for sharing these tips

Can’t cut ties when you have a child together

I like how you said 'Your Head and Heart Are Having a Disagreement'...

Thank you girl 🙏🏽💚✨

Great advice.

That last one is the hard part considering he’s my husband and we share a child. I’m not really even sad, just angry, and having to see his face every day doesn’t make it any better.

Ma'am I love your skin tone.Also drop the skincare routine! !!!

It would be so beneficial if I spoke with you right now about my breakup cause honey listen…

bro i was talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. has a lot in common. we were both God fearing. i made a deep connection with her in those 3 weeks. we hungout once and i gave her my energy. long story short her ex was still in the picture. she wasn’t fully healed yet over him. and he was very obsessive. she didn’t tell me. but she also had a kid. i felt like i was lead on bro. like i was catching feelings for someone who wasn’t meant for me in the first place. but everything felt so real talking otp and about deep topics. i think that’s why it stings so bad. i ended things with her yesterday. she asked to be friends still i replied “idk” she seemed a little upset by it. but i can’t have that in my life. someone who isn’t fully over their ex. i feel very safe and vulnerable here and it’s like a family on this channel it’s all love. if anyone could give me some feedback i would appreciate that ❤️

You should stay busy! Pain??Go out with your friends.

Breakup hack: If you fall out of love make the other person fall out of love and initate the break up that way the hurting would be less, do not CHEAT it's not gonna be easy but take this route, you can't leave someone still Loving you it would kill them. I prefer to be hurt than hurt someone i think i can handle myself better.

I remember watching this video a year ago thinking I don’t think I’ll ever need this advice😂😂well well well here I am, in need of it

I love this!!! Great tips.

Spot on...break ties. It's for the best

really appreciate this

Thank you it helped me a lot

Big facts. Thank you!!!

Totally!!! Focus on the logic behind the breakup. Cutting off all ties though is not always possible. Some people gave kids or are directly or indirectly in touch because of work... It can be a setback but it is doable when you focus on the reasons you break up without idealizing the situation...

Listen to her young ladies 💪🙏🌍❤️

You are really pretty even without makeup ❤ God bless

Unless you get the best chosen family from the break up. Well chosen love is thicker than blood. Truth.

I wish I could cut all ties with him but our parents are best friends so I see him every weekend😭

Needed to hear this. Thnx sis

This was good. The comments even better.

I would just like to say that u have been like a mom or even best friend figure to me ever since I started to watch it videos 😁💗

Really great advice thank you

Can we just really fast appreciate that your so pretty

What lip product is this? You are so pretty. I love your videos, and the advice you give.

We have the same lip gloss! But I don’t think my lips look as pink as yours do, so beautiful!!!

Number 3 resonated with me the most

You are so right!

Sometimes the hurt is the first thing you wake up to. It’s awful trying to get the day started if you have to go to work. For me it hurts worse at night 😢