One of your best videos! I am also doing the workbooks and can’t tell your how much they are helping right now. Thank you both so much! 🙏💕

Trust the process. Walk away, let things go. If they value you, you’ll hear from them. In the meantime, personal growth and abundance in your life is key. I had an ex come back 6 times, thanks to no contact and growth. It works.

These two people keep me sane during no contact. God bless them to no end.

After a 5 month separation of my girlfriend of four years, she contacted me one day about “our cat”. During this time I had really just focused on myself, gotten sober, changed jobs, and worked on my mental health. I learned to be comfortable with being alone. Now we have been together since December of 2022 again. We have a better relationship than we ever have, but I know if things were to not work out I will survive just as I did when we were separated.

I am writing this to the people that are hurting, waiting for their ex, a girl/guy their talking to to reach out during no contact. I want you all to know that some day it will be okay. Even if they don’t contact, they don’t necessarily want to get back together sometimes. But the fact that they reached out to you after God knows how long is a BIG win for you! Celebrate the wins. I pray that your relationship with your person rekindles back. If had some type of connection with this person and you do no contact VERY WELL, I guarantee you, you’ll feel so much better! Not only will it allow your ex to reach out but it will allow to you to grow and become an even stronger person than before. I’m saying this through personal experience and I’ve grown a lot and working things out. God bless you guys

As someone with an undergrad degree in Psychology, with a core focus in Social Psychology, I have to say that everything Coaches Craig and Margaret say is dead on. When a breakup occurs and a strong attachment exists the person doing the dumping is experiencing the negative arousal of Cognitive Dissonance. To overcome this they use the phenomenon of Confirmation Bias. Initially they only look to confirm they did the right thing in breaking up ignoring all else. This protects them from facing the negative feeling associated with their decision. But, because negative memories fade faster than positive ones, that they start to remember the good times more than then bad. This leads them to swing the other way, grieving what they have lost. But this is just my 2 cents.

No contact allows you to slowly feel comfortable by yourself again. Once you know that you can go on without them, you're set for life. If they contact you again, give it a shot, if you want to. If they don't reach out, who cares, you're over that lifestyle and there are plenty more people in this world to find happiness with.

Guys don't listen to people commenting "nope, if they left you they were never yours", they're just telling their stories indirectly. You follow YOUR heart, not theirs

Boy, he's not lying about the physical pain. OMG This shit is awful!

I applied the no contact rule for 7 weeks and did everything according to your videos. I did not beg or plead, I used social media to show him my new and improved self. He went from cutting all contact with me for WEEKS to chasing me (he literally stood outside my house crying begging me to come out). We met and now he's obsessed with me, he can't even ben without me one hour without texting. He even asked me to move in with him again! Thank you for everything. Stay strong everybody!

This is so true. It took my ex 3.5 months to reach a point where she wanted to reconcile. You just need to give it enough time. Because if they don’t reconsider their decision you will reach a place where it does not matter as much anymore. Use this time to grow on your own because you will never be as motivated or dedicated to selfwork as you are at this time. Stay strong and love yourself.

A moment of silence for who got dumped 😂 Just ignore the ex and keep dancing👊

Our society puts so much emphasis on relationships but not many young people know how to be healthy single

These videos always help with my anxiety. I woke up from a very vivid dream of reconciliation and it stung to know it wasn’t real.

The best part of the entire video was when both y'all said in unison, "DUMPERS DO REGRET THEIR DECISION!". 😀😄😂

That's what I really needed to hear "dumper is gonna regret and go through those same emotions". This session really helped me without any bullshit tactics and not damaging my thoughts of moving on. Understanding the actual power of time.

If you walk away & don't look back it shakes them to know they're not worth a backwards glance. When you realize that it's actually true? That's when that person no longer seems at all appealing to you no matter how much you once loved them✌️✌️

Well Craig and Margaret are speaking exactly the truth. I did the dumping once and then after five months I felt a strong regret and was reaching out to that person like crazy. So guys believe it, the dumper is going to give themselves a second thought of what they have done eventually.

In many cases it’s good that they are not coming back!

By the time they contact you, chances are, you don't want the relationship as it was when it ended. The first couple weeks is the hardest, but it is the most important part. That starts the ball of doubt rolling every so slightly. Every week it starts gaining momentum.

Be careful with the "not ignoring them" if they're texting you. They could still be texting you because they want to hold onto you even after you guys aren't together anymore, not because they want to/are ready to get back together. I had a mutual breakup with my bf and he kept texting me everyday like normal, not because he wanted to get back together but because he wanted to feel like he still had me somehow. Let them feel the loss, let them miss you and use this time to heal and move on.

I need a hug from the both of you . I don't want you to stop talking in this video.

You guys are amazing. Married 28 years wife left for another. I did all the wrong things. She didn't come back, I would have done anything for her to come back. Now after many years I am glad she didn't.

The secret is you have to stay strong & firm. Prayers is the key to endure it, then if he comes back he is yours, if he’s not he never was. I’m telling this to myself 😁 Thanks Coach Margaret & Coach Craig❤️

I’ve been on both sides of this. For anyone who maybe made some mistakes after the breakup here’s a story that might give you hope. I can say no contact absolutely had an effect on me. I broke up with someone I had reconciled with (after being broken up for around two years w zero contact) because they had become controlling and manipulative because of their insecurities and it was overwhelming, I couldn’t even have a nap or hang out with friends because of their need for me to respond to texts, and it drove me back to someone else. The breakup was awful, we had been together officially for about five months but very close for way longer. They begged and pleaded and spammed me for weeks, harmed themselves, I had to reach out to one of their friends at one point because I was concerned for their safety. I tried to stay in their life because I cared but it was an outburst every other day because they were hurting and it caused me a lot of stress and was clearly not helping them heal. After two months of this one day they asked me straight up if I was seeing someone else and I told them the truth, they were very upset and ended up saying they couldn’t talk anymore and had to stop all contact. I agreed and did feel guilty, but was also relieved it was over. I was sad but it didn’t last long as I was excited and happy about being with the other person. Then after around three months it just started to hit me. I forgot the negative feelings and just missed them, I couldn’t see what they were doing on social media at all, I thought about them every day and started feeling just awful. At four months I was crying over it often, even being with someone else. The tables turned completely. Then they texted me one day (right after I had been crying over it lol) looking for closure, but we ended up reconnecting. We didn’t date again, we were close for awhile and were intimate occasionally (both being single at this time) but neither of us had really worked on ourselves so it didn’t last. The friendship fizzled out and they removed me from their socials a few weeks ago with no explanation and I’ve just accepted we outgrew each other. Now I’m on the other end with someone else, going no contact and working on myself while they’re in a rebound hoping they’ll go through what I went through and reach out someday. Almost feels like karma. But I’ve made so much progress with my mental health I’m almost glad the breakup happened, I’ve realized the mistakes I made and I’m working on fixing my unhealthy and toxic tendencies. And I do believe he’ll come back eventually, he always does as soon as I move on. :-) Good luck to everyone going through this, it’ll all work out in the end no matter the outcome!!

Craig and Margaret and everyone here I just wanted to post that I have a good friend of mine [ who called me with this news]who broke up with the "love of her life" 26 years ago. Recently she put her profile on facebook and guess what the love of her life contacted her and they started seeing each other again. They have been in no contact with each other for almost three decades. So guys you never know.? Believe me Margaret and Craig know what they are talking about so work on yourself and be happy with your self and your life . Remember you had a life before them!!!!! Wonderful, insightful video as usual.... you both are amazing!

They’re right ... but also be prepared, because even if you follow this advice, which is great advice, it doesn’t guarantee anything, sometimes people will move on regardless, so accept that could happen... Have hope but also be realistic and work on yourself...

I cried for almost 4 months and cried today as well. Been in no contact for almost 2 months now. I felt every single things that they described. Whenever I felt like I am too overwhelmed with feelings and starting to feel anxious in regard to my ex, I listen to these twos and walk for an hour in my neighbourhood until I feel ok. It’s so painful.

Hello Craig, just drop by to say thank you for creating this channel, it’s my most recommended KZfaqr channel for sure. Thanks to you, Marguerite and Victoria for all the mental supports to thousands of broken hearts out there. For countless sleepless nights, your videos helped ppl to get over the darkest time in their life, giving great motivation and hope in believing oneself again. After a long long period of time, I’ve finally reached the point that I don’t want anyone back and I don’t care if they are living their best or worst life without me. I got myself back. Thank you! God bless you all!

"We live in an age of instant everything." Word!!!

worked for me with the most stubborn woman in the world.. Took 3 months of no contact , I mean no contact.. Its hard as hell but it works

I went no contact, man it was hard but, I was good. 5 months later, just when I was just getting over him he showed up at my place at midnight yelling my name outside my window. I let him in because he was a little tipsy and loud. He was shaking like a leaf so, I let him sleep on my couch. We conversed and he said being lonely sucks. It’s a longer story but, we’ve been back together for six months now. He’s an avoidant and is getting better everyday. He still can’t say I love you but, his actions say otherwise. I’m doing my best to be a good partner but, I’m still a little scared but, not like before. My anxiety has gone way down. I am open with him but, not super needy. I try and do the things I’ve learned from Craig and Margaret and am constantly working on bettering myself but, for me. It’s gotta be for yourself not for them. You’ll be stronger, happier and healthier! Thanks Craig and Margaret for making me a better person and partner. You got me through a really long and tough time.

Coach Margaret is like the grandma I never had: warm and nurturing. Mine was more like: domineering and loud. No wonder our family is full of neurotic people.

in 2020 I had the worst heartbreak ever. I wanted that girl back so badly, you couldn't imagine. Now she texted me 2 1/2 years later, how she's missing me and wants me back and would like to start all over again. 2 years ago I would've been so happy to read that message. But meanwhile I know that the breakup was a blessing in disguise. She was a toxic person but my love blinded me. I declined politely and wished her all the best. I just wanted to let you guys know, exes come back, even years later. But sometimes you don't even want them back at that point. :)

A woman leaves mentally before she leaves physically. I do not like to let go of people, I try to keep trying even though they kept being so mean. It took him to really hurt me for me to let go.

I’m glad to know I’m not the only one with physical symptoms..it was so scary

"Dumpers do regret their decision"

Wow I felt like I just had an actual session with you two! Thank you!! My husband of 7 yrs lost his job due to covid, left me & our 4 children & says we are over. We have been playing this back and forth game and just when I feel like things are doing better he shuts off his emotions blocks me I don’t hear from him for days. I’m going to stop the begging do the no contact and let him feel what life is truelly going to be like when he can’t come running back when he feels like it. You two are awesome!!! And thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of us❤️

I had a phone consult with Margaret couple years ago. She's great. Was very helpful. Great listener too. You're both great! Hi Craig and Margaret:)

I am dealing with this now. I have taken him back 7 times now and just went NO contact again today. This NEEDS to end!! You are SO correct on ZERO appetite, diarrhea, exhaustion. I used to be so very happy-go-lucky and positive! I feel like a completely different person now, its awful!

It really hurts to hear that he might have been thinking about this for quite a while and I was thinking about our future together 😞

NC is the hardest thing to do, BUT it get easier AND my ex reached out. He even asked about the cats!!!! (Indirect/direct approach) Thank you coach Craig & coach Margaret!! I continue to learn so much from your content. FOREVER GRATEFUL

I got back with my ex and mother of my child 2 days ago after she left me 6 months ago. I took all your advice Craig and it worked. Thank you

I’m always coming back to the no contact videos because my anxiety causes me to think no contact won’t work on my ex (he’s the one exception) but these videos always help to bring me back to reality.

When you are trying to let go of something, it really helps so much faster when you don't get anything to do with it anymore every single day. That is also true with letting go of someone. And it surely takes time. Great content, Craig!

Currently got a girl going cold on me. For the first time ever, I’m gonna just let her go instead of chasing her. Already got it in my head she’s gone so it’s either her putting more effort in or me remaining the fun confident guy she originally fell for. Win win.

Craig, your videos really help me when I feel anxiety about my breakup and honestly just put me at peace and know that everything will be okay regardless of what happens. I can honestly say after finding these videos they have saved me from own thoughts and feelings. It has been a little over a month since the breakup, I am finally going to truthfully begin no reaching out. It is a little difficult because we do go to the same church together. but right now I have hope and I am going to work on myself. I just found out he had thrown out the things (gifts) I have given him.. which hurt and I'm not so sure what that means but if I can have some clarity on that.. that would be great. Hang in there everybody.

I was feeling down and sad. Thank you! I needed to hear this. I feel so much better and will continue with no contact, haven’t heard from him for about 1 month. This message was so helpful and helped me stay strong .. love you guy’s.❤️

20 yrs together and he doesn’t even talk to me anymore. And now he’s “ building with the woman he left me for”.. devastated.. I did nothing wrong . I feel like I was bad or something was wrong with me . This is so hard. He don’t even seem like he’s affected at all. All I can see is them being happy together and bonding. I feel Like I’m grieving and I can’t get out of this self sabotaging and having no zest for life anymore while he seems so happy. This broke my spirit

hey craig, i just got dumped by someone who i never thought could hurt me. I came across this video at the right time .I am grateful that i came across your video. I do firmly believe if you were honest in a relationships , they are going to realise someday but you can not beg them to see it. TIME, UNIVERSE, FAITH, GOD ,PATIENCE and SELF ESTEEM is something that will open their eyes to look out for you. Thanks

I got Dumped last on December 2019. I was needy I begged and pleaded so bad but guess what I did No contact for 3 months and she called me today, so far everything is flowing through nicely now and we gonna have dinner together next weekend. We both so happy no contact is the only way to go goodbuddies

Margaret at her finest! My favorite video with her. I miss her. She was a wonderful attachment guide and educator. I’m so grateful i had the opportunity to council with her. ❤

In week 6 of NC. Been running, biking, lifting some dumbbells, watchin rocky training montages, and doing a decent job stayin off social media. If what i provided for her was truly something she loved, (which i do believe she did love) then maybe someday, ill hear from her. Stay busy!

I'm the dumpee and my mind is running like a jet plane taking off.. it hurts to feel the emotionless reaction 😢😢

I’ve watched this video a hundred times on repeat. Gives me some hope. I miss her so much. She said she needs space and her birthday is next week. She is also an FA and I am an AP. Trying to keep my shit together and staying no contact. This sucks but you guys nailed it. Please send me out good vibes…my heart is breaking

When they both say “dumpers do regret their decisions”. 🙌. It ain’t gonna be the same without coach Margaret. I’ve never missed someone I never met so much before

My heart is transmitting and radiating so much love for you both and all that you do, honestly, forever grateful

9:50 just gave me the most confidence to stay strong it's almost like it's a sickness to feel like this everyday.

nice shirt, margaret!

I couldn't agree more. When the coaches with the real deal speak you just know they know their stuff. This is one of the best videos on these issues I've watched. 👍👍👍

Have faith in God

I'd genuinely like to hear stories about people who went no contact, was contacted by their ex and then went on to have a long term relationship. Anyone?

Don't wait for an ex to come back. Live your life and go on dates.

The power of love has the power to render us helpless,even kill us literally!! Songs, stories,books have been written about this emotion, God bless all the broken hearted 🙏💔

7 days here guys. The most beautiful girl in the universe. Trying to gather the pieces of my broken heart. This videos help a lot to get through this

They will be loosing their "SELF-RESPECT" or "INTEGRITY" if they reach back again.😪😪😪

He reached out yesterday...after one year and four months of no contact. (I thought this stuff only happened to other people 🤭). "No contact" works, if used as directed. Worst case scenario, if they don't come back, you've regained your dignity and respect.

My ex left me just over a month ago, yes I begged and reached out for about 2 weeks, I then went straight in no contact, I haven’t reached out or heard from him, it’s now been 3 weeks, We were only together for 7 months so I really don’t see us getting back together. But I’m getting stronger now and don’t even feel like I want him back now. Thanks to you guys I feel stronger and happier now 🥰🥰🙏

Hi coaches, your videos are the most detailed ones on youtube and also these keeps me still sane amid anxiety and loneliness due to breakup. Keep up the good work!

It is hard and I've broken my own no contact rule before. But that said, at some point you get to the point you realize that why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? You have to have some self-respect. I've learned the really hard way that my definition of love (spending time together, talking, laughing, playing...) is not everyone else's definition of love. I've learned that I have a need to HELP whenever I sense a need and that I get taken advantage of. I've come to realize that I am SICK to DEATH of apologizing for being who I am. Smothering? I just care. Your idea of a good time is laying in your bed and spending hours on FB. I'm wrong for wanting attention and affection? I have to ask you if you love me because it is pulling teeth to get you to say it on your own? Thank you Craig and Margaret for stating the truth that we tend to not want to hear. For saying what I've known in my heart always. Hope always sprang eternal within me. I still love this man but it has to cut both ways. He told me he couldn't give me what I need. I guess he knew what he was talking about. I should have believed and listened. Outcome? No hope left in me whatsoever that there is anyone who is right for me. I'm apparently some weirdo. 60 is too old for belief in fairy tales. And sorry for what devolved into my situation. I did not mean to go there but its only been two days. Going through all the stages. Disbelief, sadness, anger, back to sadness...but I'm ok. Truly.

no contact forever 😎👌🏻

If she doesn't come back, I have ZERO desire to ever do this again. I'm done with dating.

14 days of NC and he sent me a text today. Even if it is small talk it's something. Yayyyy 😊

This was sooooo helpful, Craig and Margaret!!! Thank you! PS - Applebee's should be paying you for all of the exposure you provide them! 🤭

Success story here! After two weeks of No Contact, she finally messaged me and within that short period of time, she realized how much worse her life had gotten without me. She was amazed by my newfound emotional intelligence and is falling in love with me all over again. DO THE WORK! TIME WILL WORK IN YOUR FAVOR IF ITS MEANT TO BE. BUT ITS ESSENTIAL THAT YOU DO THE WORK! Coach Craig is right!

Success story here!! My ex bf and I are back together. We were broken up for a little over a month. He said he still loves me and everyday he thought of me and everything made him think of me. I was in NC for about 25 days until I reached out about money I needed from him for concert tickets I still had. He sent over the money and we had very sporadic and random chill conversations every other day for about a week. I really felt like he only replied to my texts to be polite because we didn’t really end on bad terms. His replies were casual and seemed apathetic. So finally I asked an open ended question and asked how he was doing. Then we had a whole day of good conversation then that same day he asked me out to get boba. That same night but he said he was scared that I was going to move on and had to tell me he still loves me and missed everything about me. We both agreed to work on ourselves and push each other to be our best and be a strong couple. I said we can take it slowly and I’m open to it. But ultimately I told him I loved him still too! Update: we broke up 3 months later

Anxiety kicks in, watch one of thease and its all good again, at keast for a bit

NC works. While watching this video now. My Ex reaches out asking me while I’m not calling her.

Every time I feel like contacting my ex..I watch these videos😊 and I then drop the idea of reaching out. These videos give me inspiration to stick to NC. 😊

First time seeing these guys! They are so great together! OMG, what a different experience & wisdom brings to the table! It's crazy because when I caught my husband talking to an X fiance, I felt like someone broke up with me but I couldnt understand it. Been married 22 yrs. I did all of the things u guys mentioned even though I'm still in the house with our grown kids. He never apologized sincerely but blamed it on me! It's been 7 years and nothing ever got better but only worse. We have no connection what's so ever. About 6 months ago I brought that up, and he basically agreed in a rude, nasty way and then walked away from me. I'm so done. I'm finally making an exit plan cause he will never leave this house. When I threatened to leave (about 3 mo. ago) he told me, and I quote "Go for it!". Apparently I'm a joke now. I stopped chasing him little by little over the last few years. In the last few weeks, I stopped chasing him at all. I dont think I want him anymore, whether or not he changes after he has treated me so worthless for so long.

Wow, you answered what exactly I was wondering. Their birthday is coming up and I'm a huge fan of birthdays. I will not be reaching out.

After 2 months of no contact, he reached out to me, but he didn’t feel regret, he didn’t want to make the relationship work. So reaching out does not mean they are into us.

9 months of no contact did a world of good. I needed space and time to figure out how to move on in my life. I broke up with my ex and I got the shock of my life when he reached out wanting to sort things out.

I really, really appreciate the both of you. Of all the channels that touch on no contact and letting go, honestly this is the most in-depth, insightful and respective of both the process and turmoil of the breakup

Your videos really help me, Craig and Margaret Thank you! Im in 1 month and 3 weeks of no contact. My ex has anxiety and depression-- I have been with my ex for 3 years and she was having an emotional affair with this other guy at her school. I tried working it out and going to couples therapy (4 sessions) I thought she could see how she was behaving. However, she never put a boundary to tell the guy that she has a bf. So I walked away and here I am. Shes probably with the guy now, but watching your videos and continuing to go to my therapist helps me relax and confirm my own self worth and respect. Thank you!!

I am focusing on myself, and I have improved so much. Hopefully my ex decides to try us once more. I know she will be floored by the improvements I have made.

I came across that channel after Margaret passed away, but oh my she looked like an amazing woman, truly the grandmother full of wisdom I've never known.

This is the best video on youtube about someone who left

One year on... Back to watching your videos... Ups and downs. Lot of self growth though... Still no contact.

Should've watched this before i delivered her stuff with a handwritten letter today but it's fine, i did what i thought was right for me :)

Much Thanks Craig Kenneth and Margaret (RIP) for such an informative and detailed video! Happy Blessed Christmas! 🙏💕😇

I tried to move on from a partner who betrayed me for 6 months before dumping me in the cold way described here. She had plenty of time to try out her new man and I didn’t stand a chance. That was nearly 40 years ago and I’ve suffered trauma ever since. Life can deal some of us a cruel hand and that’s all there is to it.

Thank you Craig and Margaret for these amazing videos. I learned many things from your videos that changed my life and put me on a positive path. 😊🙏🏼😊🙏🏼 your help is greatly appreciated.

My situation is tragic. My boyfriend broke up with me because of threats from his adult children. We had a very nice, easy going relationship and loved each other. Your videos help me understand what’s happening and what to do next.

Bro. I’m gonna keep it real. Every time I smile. I see my ex. I invited my ex girlfriend out one day, and the people that know me asked us both if we were related. They told us that we look like brother and sister, but we were dating at the time. And when I used to look at photos of us two side by side. I can actually see what people were talking about. She broke up with me, but for some reason she would call me nonstop after the breakup, she would drive by my house, she would email me, she would call me off different numbers. I don’t know if she still thinks of me, or has she moved on, but I’ve been working on myself, I’ve improved financially, and mentally. Physically fit now. I do miss her touch, and the way she tasted. If she reached out to me now. I would take my time, and answer. But I would talk to her. We were together for 9 month’s.

I feel like you’re both my guardian angels ❤️ thank you Margaret and Craig

I never felt this type of pain before I truly loved the girl I never believed and heartbreak until she broke up with me I couldn’t sleep I couldn’t eat I had very bad panic attacks it’s tuff but I’m gonna stick through with the no contact and stay strong thank you guys I know I’m not alone❤️

In my experience with no contact, I have had 5 out of 6 of my exes come back, I completely disappear, remove them from all social media, the average time has always been about the 3 month mark when they reach out, but others were 6 months, some I've had even 5 years later they are still looking for me, saying they can't forget me. It's disappointing though because usually by then I've moved on and don't wish to have them back. Can u do a complete video of the Applebee's girl situation? We only get tid-bits of the story LOL

Got a heartwarming success story for you guys Highschool sweethearts, started dating at 14/15. Dated for 3 1/2 years, she broke up because of many personal issues and communication errors (many my fault). We went no contact for 3 weeks because i trusted in craig kenneth and what people told me. I took a trip to jamaica with my family. We talked in jamaica and agreed to talk in person once we got back (we play sports together so when the season started again contact was unavoidable). She wanted nothing but friends and I respected that. Fast forward a month she cracked and told me she saw a future for us together, we've been talking through our errors and improving as people. We're casually dating right now but keeping thing spontaneous to experience the high school/university life while being exclusive. Trust me, trust Craig. Work on yourself and become a better person and she/he will see that. If they don't want you once you improve then they aren't worth it.

I needed this! You guys give me strength. And the comments on here made me smile. Thank you!