Not many decent lefts, no matter what race. Whites are abandoning their families, children and run for warmer climates and cheaper living and young girls.

How many children do you have?

@@O_Monopoly Why do you assume she has children?

@arijones9564 I saw her profile picture so thought Its best to confirm. If she has kids that's probably a key reason she is struggling to find 'a decent man' to marry. If she has kids, I also want to know why she didn't marry her kid's father.

@@O_Monopoly Are you interested in dating her? Her past should concern you only if you see her as a potential wife. She could ask you about your past. What would you say as to why you aren't married?

Beautiful. Congratulations. Are you both Afro-Caribbean? African?Or an inter-ethnic couple of Afro-Caribbean and African?

Congratulations. The context 30 years back is different from now. Very different. I agree with your basics.

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My folks are Black British aswell married since 1985 and have raised me and my sis. They get the same reaction but its such a rarity with the generations after (There boomers). I still get humbled when i see them together moaning about TV or politics lol

God bless you

What if your not religious

That’s a Caribbean thing to be honest

Those are weasel words No sex before marriage will weed people out and motivate others to show proper love and respect to themselves and others.

WHY?? been married changes nothing !!!! let that sink in.

@@savinggift158 I disagree completely. Marriage doesn't change how you value yourself,others or a relationship. The fact that most marriages end in divorce proves that

That's the way, we just need to work out how to do it consistently!

@@elywanandathanks to feminism, Andrew Tate and other red pill activists they discourage people not to get married to some degree.

The new so called Black British couple are Africans and Afro-Caribbeans inter-marrying. Fewer Afro-Caribbean people are marrying each other. More cohabit.

British Afro-Caribbean and African marriage unions are still an inter-ethnic marriage as both are completely two different ethnicities. A lot of ole skool Afro-Caribbeans/West Indians historically didn't claim Africans as Afro-Caribbeans. Black was a label for Caribbeans. Africans were seen as other.

Good luck with that. The dating market is no joke and hits even harder for the BC

LOL!! 😂 It’s kinda the same here in America. In fact the Black community is facing an almost mirror like situation. If you haven’t I’d suggest looking up the marriage statistics of Blacks in America. This can’t be a coincidence and speaks for how racism is not only local but global. Be Blessed!

@@Beyt_El Yes, the U.S. is approaching UK stats. This is not a scientific study, just an observation. I think my husband and I and one other couple were the only Black couples we saw in the UK.

I think it depends what area of the UK you visit. I see many black couples in my area as it's close to Birmingham city centre. Statistically in the UK, most black people date other black people. The issue is a lack of commitment to one person and not enough commitment to marry.

Exactly this is what it is their beating around the bush, but that’s what it is & this presenter doesn’t have a black wife. Black men weren’t looking for black wives until recently when they got their wake up call.

Omgggg. I'm from nyc and I've heardthis too 😂. I'm visiting London soon so I'm actually curious to see it for myself 😅

Black men aren't natural leaders. You only have to look at black majority countries, mostly led by black men, to know that.

Black men are not natural leaders.

A key and a lock, which one has the most control?!

Are BM natural leaders?

A stamp on what?

50 years ago the poor married.

😂😂😂 all the black middle class girls i grew up around are all baby mothers for road men, all the middle class black men are with white or Asian women.

@@g.p616cost of living was different then 👀

What a load of rubbish

​@matgamer5916 , people were different, too. They had better values. Society has gone down the drain.

Ye cause you don't need a goverment stamped document to be told ur real husband and wife. It's just a legal benefit.

@@befree9579so maybe the marriage rate for asian, Arab and especially black african/other would be much higher

They are still making a commitment before God.

@@befree9579 That legal document is very important, without it you are not married in this country. You can't even be next of kin if something happens to your spouse.

​@@FF-by6ciyou can if you arrange it with your lawyer

Absolutely. Weirdly, my parents (married for over half a century now) never said anything to us about marriage!

From your name, I know that you are Nigerian. In Nigeria/Africa the culture is family orientated. Traditionally in Nigeria and most of Africa a bride price is paid before a wedding is allowed. If that marriage experiences challenges, as all marriages do, the extended families become involved, sometimes the local religious leader gets involved too. If no resolution is reached, the bride price has to be repaid before that marriage can be dissolved. This puts a considerable amount of pressure on the couple to make their marriage work. However in the West people of African descent and Africans have to contend with the influence of Western culture and the state imposing its self into the traditional family dynamic. Unlike in Africa, its lawyers and the court system, who often have a vested interest in breaking up the family for monetary gain, who influence the outcome of marriage challenges. As a consequence there are many single parent families who are usually black mothers who bought into the lie that they are strong independent women and that there is nothing that they can't do. What we are seeing today is the multi generational consequences of this type of Western influence which started in the 70s as a trickle and today we are seeing a flood of maladjusted individuals in Western black society. These individuals were not nurtured on the traditional dynamic of family life with the balance that can only be acquired from the traditional family of a man and his wife. Sadly, from today's trajectory we can predict that things are only going to get worse. SMDH.

​@@blackmagic6I have African female friends who paint a very different picture of married life to African men. Yes African men tend to marry, more so than Caribbean men, but an African friend of mine, from Namibia, said, African men behave badly in their marriages, and that women are taught to pray and stay.

@@Coco-uk9tv: Whilst I believe what you say is true, I think that it is important that we acknowledge that a traditionally raised African who operates either in Africa or in the West has a different mindset to an African who was raised in the West. We also need to take into perspective of the lens that we are using to judge others when we say that they behave badly. Could we be judging them by Western standards, traditional standards or human standards. I believe that there is a chance that what we see as bad chauvinistic behaviour in the west is what might be regarded as manly traditional behaviour which is necessary to bring order and set standards within the traditional African family. Secondly, what is regarded as philanderous behaviour in the West and intolerable may not be seen in the same way by an African society in which the man wants to establish a polygamous family set up. When a man goes from one with to two wives, especially if the husband hasn't gained prior permission from his first wife, I can understand her being upset. However these transitions from one wife to many wives do take place all the time. The first wife is not told to pack her things and leave the family household, she is told to be accommodating and accepting of the new dynamic in the family. In the polygamous household it is expected that the love between the man and all of his wives is not diminished by the addition of another wife. The man has a duty to take care of all of his wives equally with love and resources. In the West, if a married European is seen talking to another female he is more than not seen as a "scoundrel" and the courts will be after him for what ever they can get.

@@blackmagic6 You seem to be a traditional African man. That's fine, as long as the women you have in your harem are genuinely happy with the arrangement. Obviously such an arrangement would not work in the west. So if that's what you and other African men aspire to, then you know where to go. Go back home and find a loyal, submissive, house trained wife, and leave us westernised black women alone.

@8888zada Indeed yet I wish love was enough. Sometimes the feeling of love fades and its left with character and the commitment made before God and man. For some of us, faith, love for Jesus sustains and motives us more than our feelings to continue to give our best.

Myth. The black community have abandoned the true message of God and decided to follow the desires of the West. A deteriorating society that only cares about fun and riches. Black people (most) care about money, sex and relationships. They’re not trying to hear anything of uplifting the community, just look around. We pray though.

Yeah because most Africans marry traditionally and so don't do the western marriage with paperwork. Also don't forget that some immigrants are here illegally and so might not register their marriages

Exactly

Exactly. Traditional marriages are not recognised

African males have the highest number of children outside of wedlock which would affect the statistics. Having a string of children you've never taken care of or never seen then getting married does affect the average🤷🏾‍♂️

@@frompyramid5twoprojects925 What kind of shady comment is this? Please, if you're going to say nonsense own it -ok! Don't throw stones and hide your hand - it makes you look like a coward.

And in the USA. I believe black people have harmed themselves and blame white people..

Thank you. And that's not at all surprising to hear that. We're all in very similar situations even though we're in different countries.

@@elywananda The other aspect is. Black people, due to slavery etc. are years behind most other racial groups. And are really only now coming into their own. Moving from one country to another, starting fresh. Than add the fact that. Black men will marry out of the race in a heartbeat. If u visit the US, u can see the damage black men have done to the race laid out bare. It's really awful...

Are you aware of the conclusions to the 2009 (I think) population census that predicted that the Uk Afro Caribbean community would likely be extinct in approximately 50 years time due to that community's propensity to interracially marry and procreate? Long story short it predicted that because Afro Caribbeans tend to procreate with other non black communities and the fact that the Uk is not allowing the pool of Afro Caribbeans to be replenished due to tightened immigration restrictions that this phenomenon will come to pass.

​@@blackmagic6It's Caribbean men that largely date non black and procreate with non blacks. Caribbean women invariably mate with the few men who are into bw and tend to end up single mothers.

Yeah, I think a lot of it comes down to people's perceptions and expectations around male female relations, childbirth and child rearing, etc. It starts from young, e.g. adult relatives will ask my six year old son "have you got a girlfriend?" There's this rush to put this stuff in children's heads, instead of talking to them about the future, about what marriage is, how men and women should treat each other with respect, etc.

What are you trying to say?

Love only is not enough for marriage, unfortunately. It has always been the case.

@@loudandproud18 Marriage was created by God and has nothing to do with a wedding celebration, nor a ring, nor vows in front of a religious leader, nor the signing of a government certificate. As long as a man and woman agree to LOVE each other for the rest of their lives then they are married.

@@lllBADMANlll It would be different if that actually happened. There are very few long term non married couples that stay together a long time and raise a family together.

@@lllBADMANlllcompletely agree, marriage is a mentality shared by two loving people imo. Many married couples these days don’t share a mentality and care more for the superficial side hence the high divorce rates

That come straight from slavery where in British colonies marriage was not allowed.. we living on the same programming in our hard drive or subconscious mind.. That means we living unconscious just going along as we have always done without asking ourselves is this beneficial for us

​@@thatbusdriverguy4182I think it'd much more complex than that, towards the ending of slavery and post slavery the marriage rate for black families were very high. One factor for the break up of black families is capitalism.

​@@thatbusdriverguy4182Excuses and lack of accountability 101

​@@thatbusdriverguy4182- and why do West Indian men allow this?

@@thatbusdriverguy4182Thats just not true! After slavery Caribbean people we’re married at a 90% rate before the 1960s

Yep the only Caribbean Boss that I had with 2 degrees was married to a white woman. Two of the ladies who were Caribbeans who I worked with in Bristol and Birmingham were pushing 30/40 and were unmarried. One had a child very young. The other one not and when I asked both said that they simply stop looking and have other things to do.

I can only agree with your post, it’s so sad, I have worked in London for years, the few black men I have worked with in that time bar 3 were all married to non-blacks, the usual trope black women are too masculine🙄. Our daughter is a doctor, when out she has often been told by black men that she sounds too educated for them, only for those same men to turn around and date/marry non-black women in the same field, make it make sense, the self hate is real.

​@HT-vx7ux And the worst part is .most of those men date and marry the least educated white women. Black men are in a crisis state the UK.

@KunitaMirage-pk3qj The number of black men coupling with non-black women is incredibly low, negligible at best, contrary to popular opinion. The fundamental point is that black folks aren't marrying anyone, black or otherwise. And therein lies the problem.

What % of BM are rich?

You will get it stay blessed

Yep this is why i distance from other blks i have quickly learned we aren't brothers and sisters and just a self destructive community. Care more about hoochie daddys and hot gurl summers instead of building empires and breaking generational curses

Lets not forget the amount of kids Caribbean men love making with multiple women. Especially the Jamaican ones.

@@db6881 because they probably did not grow up in a two-parent household, where the father was faithful and a provider; therefore they lack any role models.

@franskmouthpiece8487 Very cute fantasy world you live in. 2 parent households aren't the be all and end all. They produce plenty f'd up individuals, loads of people stay together who have no business being together in the first place.

​@@franskmouthpiece8487- the real problem is that they have no desire to change.

@@djlivvy46 why would they, when the Jamaican or black community promotes the behaviour as good. Our music praises the men for having nuff women and children. Look at hip hop cultures as well. Also, our women keep dating them even though they have 10 pickney.

Best Comment made.💯

I agree

That's not really the point though. The fact is that most West Indian people aren't getting married at all.

Well said Dre, its all in the statistics and i even see it in my own social circles

There is a divorce issue amongst the wider multinational Muslim communities I will admit it, whether you’re Asian, African, Arab or European. However, at least we are trying to do things the right way, and God can only reward that. Whereas amongst Christian blacks though, especially Caribbeans, they are too busy living a “I’m just doing me” life and most prioritise kids and put very little to zero importance on marriage, hence, why kids are being popped left right centre. Poor women are only going to follow the men that approach and blindly lead them. The fascination of creating baby moms or baby father is shameful. Blame yourselves.

You're African, so you can't speak for Caribbeans.

Huge topic indeed, and these are brilliant insights. Thank you for sharing.

@@elywananda you're welcome

But even the mixed side was low marriage rate as well and they are supposed to be deemed as more feminine and attractive

Another thing is there are plenty of black couples in longterm strong relationship with children but don't see the point of being legally married. Furthermore I think your considered married under common law if you live together for over 3 years. I've come across 2 white men who have had the courts take things from them based on a common law marriage

That's why you have to pick the right one

​@@Jennyxx-ie5jw Exactly if he isn't interest in settling down and prefers to cohabit. Find someone who wants marriage. Marry before one carries. Why have a bottle of milk, when he can have the whole cow?

Spot on. Where are the black Caribbean male doctors, engineers, scientists, architects etc. Black Caribbean girls and women are ambitious and are entertaining the professions but the choice of Caribbean men of similar economic status and education is limited. To me the option is stark, open our options or struggle life as a baby mama. No late millennial or gen z black Caribbean women living in the UK today should be choosing struggle life baby mama life. It's a form of self harm.

@@Coco-uk9tvfacts.

​@@Coco-uk9tv- to be honest, most Caribbean mothers allow both their male partners and their sons to run up and down & do what they like. They don't have the guts to set the standards that other races of women do.

​@@Coco-uk9tvYou looking for educated carribean men? They're smoking weed and swear it's very good for you despite the contrary.

@@user-pw7pb5wf6g Sad but true. We need to start honest and frank conversations about the lack of progress and development of the UK Caribbean population, especially when it comes to the men. Also need to discuss how we reverse the trend. Two parent households and monogamy seem like good places to start.

Will do! Thank you!

29, Are you married tho?

For a guy legal marriage has no benefit. Cause with no fault divorce, the person who brought no money into the relationship gets to walk out with your hard earned money. Which is usually the woman since she 'looked after' the kids bla bla.

@@befree9579Which money Uk is 50:50

@@savinggift158 No. It's not 50:50 if kids are involved. Its easily 70:30 for the woman with the kids

​@@befree9579- your theory means nothing in this context, since most blk women work.

​@@befree9579 I agree

It's sooo beautiful to see, lose the sick loyalty to struggle love and a struggle life.

They likely have no choice if they actually want to be married.

@@db6881Black women we’re never race loyal! Other races of men just have no interest in marrying you and the stats don’t lie

@@newtrollaccount384who’s picking them most stable non black men I know date their own races or Asian women looool they better start looking at their communities stupid women

@@newtrollaccount384they not getting married blk women don’t get married everywhere they are

Pretty much died with my generation 😂😂😂

It's to do with high proximity to white working class communities. They took the intermingling too far to the point of erasing themselves.

Are you aware of the conclusions to the 2009 (I think) population census that predicted that the Uk Afro Caribbean community would likely be extinct in approximately 50 years time due to that community's propensity to interracially marry and procreate? Long story short it predicted that because Afro Caribbeans tend to procreate with other non black communities and the fact that the Uk is not allowing the pool of Afro Caribbeans to be replenished due to tightened immigration restrictions that this phenomenon will come to pass.

​​@@user-dv3kq3rm4hGo to Nottingham and Leeds. The Afro-Caribbean man's seed is looking like an English man over there.

Most of the men are useless. Too many Afro-Caribbean women who are baby mothers due to irresponsible men and women making irresponsible choices. The Afro-Caribbean community is broken...

Louder! 🗣️

Most definitely. They have just merged the identity as the Powers That Be see that these groups are merging together especially due to inter-marrying.

@@trueblessings3210 we barely inter marry though ? Caribbean hardly get married at all, let alone to others .

@@d4v1do Afro-Caribbean community have a huge problem... A type of generational curse...

@@d4v1do The Afro-Caribbean community is a broken and a matriarchal community... Coming like a curse... Not good.

@@d4v1do A lot more Caribbeans are marrying Africans. So they are inter-marrying in this manor.

are the stats not relative percentages of the population sizes?

People do not understand statistics at all. Same argument People state when they find out divorce rate is decreasing they say that's because marriage rate is down 🤦🏾‍♀️

No these black men want white women to destroy thier white race .

Some do, some don’t. Ultimately, until most do and want to do so before having children (and doing so with only one woman), things won’t change much. Then the matter of loving and respecting blackness and seeking it in your partner is the second step before ultimately making a conscious choice to build black generational wealth while specifically investing in the black community to keep money in the community, which will be the final step. The Jewish community has done this well.

I don't know that specific report but that's what will inevitably happen unless immigration from the Caribbean is increased.

That will be the 2nd time it happens then.

Thank you fam!

@@FinanceDee Totally agree. Glad to find your channel by the way. A friend of mine is obsessed with Monzo so I had to chuckle when I saw your videos. I'll be digging-in to your channel's back catalogue.

It's important if you want to breed. Otherwise even Paul said it's better to be single.

@@nightwishisthegreatestband6355 how many can do what he did.am sure their is a reason why he done that. The most high said we must multiply if everyone did what Paul done then there wouldn't be any human on earth.

@@lewinwickes9882 I see. Yeah a lot of these issues are not rocket science. Life outcomes are largely determined by our environment - and the environment includes family make up.

Oh, I didn't even notice that had happened. I'll have to look into that. Thanks for alerting me to it.

​@@elywanandaHow could you not know something so basic?

​@@Coco-uk9tv what an excellent opportunity for you to prepare an informative video on that topic from your wealth of knowledge.

I doubt the passage of the no-fault divorce law would have any impact on divorce rate amongst blacks particularly brothers from the Caribbean group.

@@travisfreccia1420 Too busy gardening my love, but a YT Channel is in the pipeline. Blessings to you🙏🏿.

@@SamOween Good shout Sam! Cheers.

Excellent points. Mental health is an area that really needs to be better understood. You're right, the impressions given is that there's something about the genetics that makes us prone to becoming mentally ill.

Yes there’s always an underlying unaddressed issue

Thank you. Most of my audience for these videos are male, and between the ages of 25 to 45, split roughly half between 25 to 34, and 35 to 44. Good question about the younger ones. My hunch is that reaching younger folks would probably require utilising a platform like TikTok or Instagram possibly - and doing shorter form.

​@@elywanandasays a lot about attention spans huh. This is disturbing, as any vital information has to be digested long form. That's the reason many of the youngsters tend to be more Liberal leaning...much easier.

@@funkmasterjay Yeah I know. Though to be fair, I think the shorter lengths force us to be more concise with our teaching. I am learning this lesson with my children all the time. I start teaching them something and I know I've got to be super-clear and persuasive as quickly as possible. They say if you can't explain something to a five year old, then you probably don't really understand the thing yourself!

@@elywananda you have a very strong point also, sir.

This is a very fair comment.

People learn what they want to learn. Google and KZfaq are free.

@@djlivvy46 Google and KZfaq can’t imitate what a healthy marriage looks like. Also there is so much misinformation on Google and KZfaq since a lot of people share opinions and aren’t experts on topics.

@@Peter-mj6lz - blk men have all the time in the world to talk about weave and participate in silly balloon popping humiliation rituals, but can't seem to find the time to seek out information which would teach them how to be decent husbands and fathers? It is quite clear where their priorities lie.

Even if you grow up in a 2 parent household seeing the reality of marriage can be discouraging. Especially with a cheating or abusive parent.

Ik many caribbeans over africans who are in care homes especially the older generations who moved here in Windrush

I agree with this. This is only true because Black people fail to develop a strong sense of community and togetherness within their communities. They’ve allowed the subtlety of racism steeped in colorism to teach them that Blackness is a thing to hate or avoid.

Yes! And the husbands still have a whole mistress and family on the side 😂😂😂

Did you see the whole video? The groups of Black people were broken down into more specific sub-groups.

However Nigerian men seem to make life hell for other African women who aren't Nigerian. And this is about black british in general not Nigerians and Ghanaians Jamaicans are the dominant black ethnicity in the uk who are never married

Clearly didn't watch video

100%. I just dropped this comment before I read yours. "In Africa the culture is family orientated. It is traditional in most of Africa for a bride price to be paid before a wedding is allowed. If that marriage experiences challenges, as all marriages do, the extended families become involved, sometimes the local religious leader gets involved too. If no resolution is reached, the bride price has to be repaid before that marriage can be dissolved. This puts a considerable amount of pressure on the couple to make their marriage work. However in the West blacks and Africans have to contend with the influence of Western culture and the state imposing its self into the traditional family dynamic. Unlike in Africa, its lawyers and the court system, who often have a vested interest in breaking up the family for monetary gain, who influence the outcome of marriage challenges. As a consequence there are many single parent families who are usually black mothers, who bought into the lie that they are strong independent women and that there is nothing that they can't do. What we are seeing today is the multi generational consequences of this type of Western influence which started in the 70s as a trickle and today we are seeing a flood of maladjusted individuals in Western black society. These individuals were not nurtured on the traditional dynamic of family life with the balance that can only be acquired from the traditional family of a man and his wife. Sadly, from today's trajectory we can predict that things are only going to get worse. SMDH."

Most african men have lost it period, they just dont want to do something in the house, when the women do they start talking respect etc. They just are intimidated useless bunch

​@@blackmagic6Sadly though, when marriage issues happen in the situations you describe e.g domestic abuse from the man, family and religious leaders focus on telling the woman that she has to endure, so as not to break up their family. A lot of it is to do with keeping things looking a certain way externally, whilst the woman (or man) is suffering. It may be a slight to say Western Black women are too strong and independent - but if that means not enduring abuse to keep up appearances, then I think it's a good thing. People also forget that the strong independent women were created by the same mothers and grandmothers who endured abuse. My mother, a married woman who stayed in an unhappy marriage for various reasons - specifically taught me to be highly educated woman who does not need a man to survive, so that if things turn sour, I don't have to stay in abuse. She also didn't teach me that marriage is everything, or that I haven't achieved in life without a husband. Not all of the lessons I learnt were good ones, and I do think that marriage is valuable. But just staying in a marriage to say that you're married really isn't worth it.

​@@blackmagic6I am not saying that parental or religious involvement is always a bad thing either. I think in the right contexts, it can provide a great structure for the basis of marriage, and guidance in terms of selecting a good marriage partner, and support.

I totally agree with your comment. Before I read it I dropped these two comments about what you've said; 1). Are you aware of the conclusions to the 2009 (I think) population census that predicted that the Uk Afro Caribbean community would likely be extinct in approximately 50 years time due to that community's propensity to interracially marry and procreate? Long story short it predicted that because Afro Caribbeans tend to procreate with other non black communities and the fact that the Uk is not allowing the pool of Afro Caribbeans to be replenished due to tightened immigration restrictions that this phenomenon will come to pass. 2). In Africa the culture is family orientated. It is traditional in most of Africa for a bride price to be paid before a wedding is allowed. If that marriage experiences challenges, as all marriages do, the extended families become involved, sometimes the local religious leader gets involved too. If no resolution is reached, the bride price has to be repaid before that marriage can be dissolved. This puts a considerable amount of pressure on the couple to make their marriage work. However in the West blacks and Africans have to contend with the influence of Western culture and the state imposing its self into the traditional family dynamic. Unlike in Africa, its lawyers and the court system, who often have a vested interest in breaking up the family for monetary gain, who influence the outcome of marriage challenges. As a consequence there are many single parent families who are usually black mothers, who bought into the lie that they are strong independent women and that there is nothing that they can't do. What we are seeing today is the multi generational consequences of this type of Western influence which started in the 70s as a trickle and today we are seeing a flood of maladjusted individuals in Western black society. These individuals were not nurtured on the traditional dynamic of family life with the balance that can only be acquired from the traditional family of a man and his wife. Sadly, from today's trajectory we can predict that things are only going to get worse. SMDH.

Unyet it's Caribbeans who mainly have children as teenagers compared to Africans and grown Caribbean men prey on Teen girls so that past 30 bs is moot.

Marriage is primarily a religious institution so people who are religious value it. Blacks and white people aren't particular religious hence choose to have live in relationships than marriage.

What a load of drivel from a confused waffler. I’m not Asian but can tell you Asians don’t get married to preserve their wealth, they get married because they are a very religious group of people! They put God first. Whether they’re Bengali, Pakistani or Indians. They all marry because it’s the first or second thing their parents educate them after their religion growing up; religion, family, career, marriage. Whether they’re rich or broke it is in that order. I’m a Londoner and most of my Asian friends are married. Black peoples problem is they have abandoned their faith and God in such a short space of time that they’ve been here in the UK, and rather allow the selfish western self-destruction culture that is liberalism and westernisation to dictate to them what life should be like! Fooling nobody.

Lol, so marriage is expensive but children are not?

@@kaylemkerr6989 My focus is very much on building legacies and passing them to the next generation. I respect people who think differently - heterosexual marriage and/or raising children isn't for everyone. That's fine by me. But if a significant number of people aren't marrying and raising families, that group is going to die out. It's partly why this country keeps ramping up immigration despite all the rhetoric.

@elywananda Thank you for responding, I've only just read it now. How do you feel about antinatalism? And perhaps why a black person/people could ever be antinatalist in relation to the negatives of the 'black' human experience? It might make for an interesting but high controversial discussion/video. I've seen/ listened to black antinatalists on KZfaq before. Personally as a black man in my late twenties. I've never really cared and in fact have outright rejected a few individuals concepts of legacy when it was explained to me. Belief wise I'm not exactly childfree or antinatalist but I lean more towards them, having many agreements with many of the people I perceive as decent and well meaning within those communities.

@TTT-su3ri the reason why that happens in the community is because when majority of brothers is down he dates sisters uses them for a come up when hes rich he dates and marrys out of his race , other races of men don't do that

@TTT-su3ri I agree bw have high standards for men in the community but other men they have lower standards

@charlie_remi From my experience, I don't know any guys that do that date BW use them to get rich and get up and move to another race. I do know guys that have grafted hard whilst in a relationship with BW, and when the relationship ended, they have dated interracially. However I theory as to why our women are different to others

@@TTT-su3ri i understand that's what you have seen most people have realised this about the men in the community the women are messed up too

Bw have learned our lesson well. Bm will long you out for decades under the guise of 'building' if you let them. That's exactly why there is so little wealth in the blk community. And they have never even bothered to build any kind of business infrastructure in the UK. Also, why would a woman stand in a shop for hours when she doesn't have a wedding ring and is never likely to get one?

Care to elaborate?

@@Coco-uk9tv if I wamted to go into details I would have said it. They are not wife material

​@GiZeeGis what do you mean not wife material? Most Afro- Caribbean women would like to get marry, but the culture of not getting married in particular men has meant a lot of single mothers - not the choice of the women.

​@@Missylife-t7mthey'd like to get married but they don't know (or want) to be a wife. How can you know, when you never saw it in your household. Every Caribbean girl i dated never had a dad in her life and mum was a single mother. Too much trauma, issues and lack of knowledge of self. Why would you marry that?

@sikakuo This is true regarding Caribbean women not having fathers in their lives, but it was the men who did not make having children within marriage a priority. It could also be argued that men do not know how to be husbands and fathers. This has been happening since the 1970s and has gotten worse over the decades. In general, the black community and black culture do not promote marriage and it is benefits.

In the West Indian community, the men were already leaving the house long before benefits were even a thing. This also happened in America, by the way. Certain people love to twist the narrative to suit their purposes.

No one forced men out of the home. There were and are too many men commuted to fathering children only to abandon them and play single when they’re committed or should be committed. Let’s stop the false narrative. The welfare came AFTER the abandonment not before. Why would any government spend more when they don’t have to? It’s because it was a problem that would lead to more economic and social problems if they didn’t step in to fill the gaps irresponsible men were creating by abandoning their children and creating multiple broken homes unashamedly.

That's true. And increasingly women too.

​@@elywanandaIt's still largely black men who date and marry interracially. Black women have years to catch up, as black women tend to be race loyal.

@@elywananda this is unfortunately specifically to do with Afrikan heritage men who are colourist and demonise Afrikan heritage women

this is Afrikan heritage men who do this

​@Coco-uk9tv this fact is always ignored. Just go where you're wanted. Millenials and gen z know this. BM celebrities in the UK nearly always marry white women.

Those 'conservative values' are very much performative in the Caribbean community.

Interesting! I'd love to hear more about this idea of performative values. I think that's a huge issue we need to deal with. It's far too easy to talk the talk without walking the walk.

As an African in Europe they don’t do divorce, their marriage are usually very miserable in the long run as they split themselves in such fixed roles and they struggle to build connections over time. So not everything is okay and shining.

This is very true, and I’m proud of my fellow Africans that still hold on to their values of religion and culture.

@@fa_abdi3001brother nobody said marriage will be easy. A relationship isn’t easy let alone marriage in a European country where there is so much trials and tribulations but if people prioritised God first and God fearing first then they’d be able to fight challenges together. Everyone has a choice.

@@messimess9985 so it’s okay to be miserable, got it. Are you saying this because you are a man? Men get a lot of advantages in marriage.

Yeah, in my (Ugandan) family here, inter-ethnic is the norm. We've partnered/procreated with Nigerians, Togolese, Ghanaians... There aren't a huge amount of Ugandans in the UK so this isn't surprising I guess!

@@elywananda That is really interesting African tribes mixing. You are going to get a lot of Bi-ethnic African mixing especially in Britain. I'm aware there are differences in being West African, South African, Central African, East African and North African ethnicities and tribes. I don't ignorantly believe all Africans are the same, considering the beautiful diversity and varying phenotypes of the beautiful continent. How do you feel as a British Ugandan man being married to a British Afro-Jamaican woman, and raising bi-ethnic children from two amazing beautiful backgrounds? Were your family accepting of you marrying an Afro- Caribbean woman? How were your wife's family about marrying a Ugandan man? Were they accepting of you? I see you and your family are living in Bedfordshire. Outside of London, East of England. Are you and your family enjoying the country life ? Have a good weekend with your family.😊

@@user-ch7ri7sm7h I do think people spend way too much on weddings. For me, the wedding is the least important part of marriage.

@@elywananda Weddings are a contract that only benefit the woman on every count no wonder black men don't want to get get married

Afro Caribbeans are still relatively conservative. My St Lucian grandparents were married for 40+ years, and attended Catholic church every Sunday. These issues seem to happen after immigration. As Akala tweeted back in 2018, "Many of these kids out here being referred to as *Caribbean* in public language have never even visited the region. Don't nyam no hard food, would't recognise a picture of Garvey. They are quintessentially and culturally English, but for their blackness."

​@@samyoe- lol, Afro Caribbeans have never been 'conservative' when it comes to marriage & reproduction. The out of wedlock rate in Jamaica is 90% and it already stood at 85% back in 1986.

​@@samyoe- also marriage in the Caribbean does not preclude the existence of out of wedlock children on either side, both before marriage and after divorce. There is also a high incidence of infidelity and 'outside children' on the part of the men.

@@djlivvy46You have no clue what your talking about! The Caribbean before the 1960s was married at 90%

@@visiow2691 - I highly doubt that, to be honest. Do you have a source for this stat?

@@iamsophiapeart Interesting! I'll look for some of her stuff. Thanks for the recommendation 🙏🏿

There are many different islands in the Caribbean just like there are many different countries in Africa. So no Caribbeans did not invent baby mama culture.

That is a blanket statement not back up with facts. When Caribbean people first arrived in the 1950's and 1960's, there was a very high percentage of married intact families. Unfortunately, some of the men decided white women were more easily available and that's when the disintegrated of the traditional married families. Let's start with facts not stereotypes please!

Exactly the term came from them and the more kids a man has with multiple women is a badge of honour to them. Mainly Jamaicans.

​@@Coco-uk9tvJamaicans did invent it in Britain. Especially going back in the War times. Watch Mixed Britain. The amount of white women they used and abandoned with children. In the UK the majority of mixed kids are Caribbean and white Especially Jamaican father white mother. Nigerians are coming up quick now though. Back in the early 2000s if you saw a Jamaican man with a white woman and they had a kid or kids 9 times out of 10 you knew he was with her for papers.

They did not invent baby mother culture, slavery has done a lot of damage, hence the need for the community to break the cycle

Have you considered 80% of the Caribbean identifies as Christian( good basis for family).

​@GetOut_Ofthe_Comments_SectNoion

That is a load of rubbish full of projection

@@visiow2691 It’s not, the OP is spot on

Projection. A Carribean man that is a doctor is not producing children with GloRilla/SexyRedd type of women, but we know a Carribean women that is a nurse will have a child with a rude boy.