On being young, unmarried, and female in Pakistan | Yusra Amjad

On being young, unmarried, and female in Pakistan | Yusra Amjad | TEDxLahore

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6 жыл бұрын

Through a combination of poetry and narrative, Pakistani poet Yusra Amjad talks about our perception of the institution of marriage. Yusra Amjad is a poet, writer and stand-up comedian from Lahore. She organises and performs with the Auratnaak Lahore troupe and has been published at Crossed Genres, The Rising Phoenix Press, Mongrel Books, The Missing Slate and others.
Yusra is also involved with Girls at Dhabas, a collective aiming to reclaim public space for women. She believes in cultivating creative communities, in spoken word poetry, and in using both the written word and performing arts to subvert social hierarchies. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@sanyfin 6 жыл бұрын

and once you are married, every relative keeps on poking by asking, when are you expecting a baby.

@sl7805 5 жыл бұрын

And once you have the baby another million questions and judgements about your parenting

@kimanhoanthi117 4 жыл бұрын

V thanks for the tip! 😂

@shahzaibkiani9606 4 жыл бұрын

What's wrong with having a baby. I really agree that sometimes people significantly your relatives going to ask you these absurd questions but now a days, unfortunately it is becoming common that not to have babies at the time when you are enjoying a charismatic and perfect figure and you don't want to be get annoyed and frustated by taking this responsibility just for the sake of material gains. That's why obscenity and vulgarity is becoming common and a matter of great concern and proving to be the devastating and lethal tool by staining their soul and bodies as well and make them deprived of the true, pure and sacred essence of their life. Thats why we are obnoxious, perplexed, wandering, lost, hollow, bewildered, spiritless and lost the true and strong connection with our God

@shahzaibkiani9606 4 жыл бұрын

I have neither judged nor said something that is sacrilegous, blasphemous or against odds. I just gave my perspective and I don't think being opinionative and having a perspective makes you judgy. Yeah i looked every fibre of my being and each time when i looked into the mirror, the replied came you are phenomenal. Yeah, i am planning to take reading and comprehension lessons from you. Good to you. May you will be blessed with the best. Atleast happy to know you have spared some time to go through what i wrote

@uesugikenshin386 4 жыл бұрын

V great reply, thanks for the idea.

@garimapandey3385 6 жыл бұрын

I am older than this beautiful girl and I blown by her intelligence her clarity of her thought's, you are going a long way girl hats off to you.

@sbegum29 6 жыл бұрын

Garima Pandey agree !!

@aleempervaiz8789 4 жыл бұрын

Garima Pandey : It's a research-based speech. Before delivering her speech on this forum she made exercise so many times. .

@asreekhan7372 4 жыл бұрын

How you say this

@aleempervaiz8789 4 жыл бұрын

@@asreekhan7372 : Actions speak louder than the words.

@insideurgirl Жыл бұрын

she would make a good second wife... sure

@sallaaami 5 жыл бұрын

Shes my teacher and I find shes a public speaker/poet and comedian. . . . Wow, I have the best teacher

@soniakanwal9608 5 жыл бұрын

you are lucky to have her as mentor..

@supritiphani1282 5 жыл бұрын

You do

@sallaaami 5 жыл бұрын

@it's O.K english

@MuskanMuskan-xd6cz 4 жыл бұрын

Kitni age hogi inki

@lostsoulfadedbeing 4 жыл бұрын

hey does she teach in private school or govt. school ?

@nancykhandelwal7156 5 жыл бұрын

27, Indian unmarried and its been a while I haven't watched such relatable video. It's like someone has listen to my everyday thoughts and conveyed them in the most brave brilliant and beautiful way! Damn I wish I could this video thousands like in just one go! Sending you love blessings from India! Thanks a lot Yusra for this video. The words hit me when you said about your mother and sister it's like someone just narrated my story! "My friend isn't afraid I will end up alone she's afraid I won't at all" Gold 😍😍😍

@aerofxunme 6 жыл бұрын

Divided by borders, united by mentality. That's India and Pakistan for you.

@christinasharon7687 6 жыл бұрын

Quick question: do you mean the mentality of the positive intelligent thinking of this woman like numerous others or that of the society around us?

@royaljot8062 6 жыл бұрын

aerofxunme no way

@zoeetabeatz 6 жыл бұрын

aerofxunme ditto in India.

@hz0029 6 жыл бұрын

This is ❤❤

@isnotarat 6 жыл бұрын

& Bangladesh

@richabhardwaj2929 6 жыл бұрын

Hats off to her confidence... God bless her.

@sbegum29 6 жыл бұрын

Richa Bhardwaj ikr!!

@rahulentertainment2112 5 жыл бұрын

@jaykhan9557 4 жыл бұрын

In the later years to come ..we"ll see where her confidence takes her..

@stuarthastie6374 4 жыл бұрын

jay khan PM I hope !

@georgeholmes1490 4 жыл бұрын

Best wishes, i wish you, God bless.

@quratulain7172 5 жыл бұрын

That's my English teacher right there. Love you💕

@umairumar8205 5 жыл бұрын

Which institute is she teaching in?

@shreyaranjan1963 6 жыл бұрын

Soo beautiful.. being a girl most of us are taught to be an ideal wife and mother instead of being a strong individual responsible women... marriage is not a necessity.. u are a whole happy person missing no part dont try to complete yourself with somebody else ❤❤ earn ur own diamonds nd gold. Girls rock

@thewitcher9839 3 жыл бұрын

You do know that boys rock just as much and neither arerthey taught to be career oriented.

@rasbijalpatel310 5 жыл бұрын

Such fluency and spirited speech. Your students are really lucky to have a determined you. Courage in language,we can hear it.

@ridaaftab2630 5 жыл бұрын

Well I am 24 graduated in dental surgery And the next thing for me is my house job and for my family is my wedding That is so unfair to my parents who first give up their money for my education and now for my wedding because if they dont do so they will be blamed as parents who are dependent on their daughter's earning... Hope someday this silence breaks.

@fatimanaz1431 5 жыл бұрын

💔💔💔💔💔

@kalyanmitra4996 5 жыл бұрын

The best part is you care about your parents... Very good

@gulabsinghsingh7248 4 жыл бұрын

You want to do house job Why only job in house while you have really worked hard to work in hospital or any clinic Please stop thinking about house job and get out of your house And build your career

@ridaaftab2630 4 жыл бұрын

@@gulabsinghsingh7248 House job is done in hospitals after graduation to gain experience.

@adhipmukherjee5723 4 жыл бұрын

@@ridaaftab2630 In India it's called House Surgeon/Junior Doctor after completing medical graduation

@Smiiile356 6 жыл бұрын

I am Bengali, I am 24 and I am unmarried... Thank you for this beautiful video - you are intelligent and your video has touched me.

@shoyebakhter2637 3 жыл бұрын

I am also from West Bengal

@srashtiahuja370 5 жыл бұрын

I don't want to get married before 30! I have alot to do before getting married. Marriage includes taking a lot of responsibilities and one shouldn't get married untill he or she is ready for it.

@saveforestanimal2490 5 жыл бұрын

I don't know why people think they cannot make their career after marriage ..if you see the all precious era success person they all married before time and got succeed in their life ....this is scientific that men women can marriage at right time if they need to marry so they can do their all valuable things on time ...some how I m not agreed on this do marriage bafter career or 30 ..

@supritiphani1282 5 жыл бұрын

You are right sister

@sowhat2873 5 жыл бұрын

@@saveforestanimal2490 she never said anything about career and there are things that can happen only before marriage due to time and health issues. And people get married at the ages of 50 or 60 and are happy with their partners. And its only her personal choice its alright if you wanna get married earlier

@shurik3nz346 4 жыл бұрын

Either you marry before 30 or you don’t marry. After 30-35, your value (to other guys) goes down.

@srashtiahuja370 4 жыл бұрын

@@shurik3nz346 I think not everyone thinks the same way. And who said no to dating?

@garysahi100 6 жыл бұрын

If I was in the audience, I would give her a standing ovation

@ayechatkori 4 жыл бұрын

Me too.. I would also wanted to meat her personally, what an inspiration she have.

@shahzadaslam384 5 жыл бұрын

She pointed out a universal issue in subcontinent

@ravidasnayak5433 4 жыл бұрын

no she is saying about her community

@uesugikenshin386 4 жыл бұрын

Shahzad Aslam yeah

@chatoicchaos1470 4 жыл бұрын

Ravidas Nayak if you dig deeper it’s get universal due to misinterpretation. Misinterpretation Again misinterpretation of the common religion in that community which would prevent them from doing this yet they indulge. Other than that they are the architects of their own destruction

@sabaripaulmajumder5196 4 жыл бұрын

True

@rational0 4 жыл бұрын

Cousin marriage happens in all islamic communities, in pakistan in india, in Saudi and UK France ...

@rachnakhanduja1651 5 жыл бұрын

Yusra, you are the voice of thousands of others.... and not just of those living in Pakistan. I am 36, unmarried, Indian. And i have heard every word of 'advice' from my elders that you have told here... from going on vacations with my husband after marriage to not buying a house as i am not married. I am proud of the way you have presented your thoughts so beautifully... especially at such young age. Perhaps will bring a change to the mindset regarding women... although my personal efforts have all failed miserably. God bless you.

@supritiphani1282 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Rachna - keep seeking with God's Guidance if you wish to get married. I am 2 years more in age than you and I have been seeking for a long time. One more thing I hope you marry whom and when you want to, not just because the world wants you to....

@supritiphani1282 5 жыл бұрын

@B Z - Hello. I understand what you wrote. I am just going to add to what you mentioned. There is a big difference between meeting males for friendship, dating, etc and quite a lot will be available. When it comes to a male settling down the things they consider is very different from dating. I am single as I am yet to find the man I would like to marry and vice versa :)

@captainkaizo3824 2 жыл бұрын

@@supritiphani1282 are you a Muslim? Why you need to bring religion?

@julianacristina9060 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Khaduja, I am 36 as well, brazilian, unmarried and everything is ok! Is very common here! 🙂

@sheikhanasaftab6949 Жыл бұрын

Oye chutiye sir kha lya yusra khusra ne hamara

@shivshakti1454 5 жыл бұрын

I am 33 years old girl unmarried living alone...No family, no friends, no bf, no work whatelse left...m frm India

@hushhush2378 5 жыл бұрын

U r like me...☺

@VijayPatil-vm9re 5 жыл бұрын

Where are you located. Do you want to marry someone or like to live alone. What do you do?

@hushhush2378 5 жыл бұрын

@@VijayPatil-vm9re Pakistan. If u r asking me.

@soniakanwal9608 5 жыл бұрын

I like your confidence may God bless you

@shivshakti1454 5 жыл бұрын

@Uym O its hard to go out and I am not looking for Fun or anything just for MARRIAGE... Many astrologers said I will never get married... Its ok I have learnt to live with this curse

@dishabhatia3769 6 жыл бұрын

I love her voice and her talk!❤

@rahulentertainment2112 5 жыл бұрын

hii

@aamnahere6250 6 жыл бұрын

As a Pakistani woman, I can completely relate with her and I'll say it's not exactly the same for men. Yes, men are also asked when they would be getting married but not the way girls are harassed. Their own parents believe that if they don't get married their lives would be miserable that they need protectors because how else can women survive. Men aren't told that they can't have hobbies because if they do what will their wives think? Women, however are told not to sit a certain way, talk a certain way, laugh a certain way, dance a certain way, cook a certain way and even exist a certain way so that their husbands and in laws can find them tolerable. She isn't saying that marriage in itself is oppressive she's saying it might not be for everybody. Not everyone wants to get married and let's be honest with ourselves an unmarried man has a much easier life living among his family than a woman. A woman would be forced to get married after a certain age no matter how progressive her parents might be either through physical coercion or emotional blackmail. If you're a man and you don't understand what she's saying it's because you don't go through that stuff every single day of your life the way we do. If you're a man who believes it's just as bad for men then you are a typical man who doesn't acknowledge that in our society women have it a lot worse simply because your insecure self can't acknowledge that patriarchy is oppressive.

@PhysicsHubPK 5 жыл бұрын

@@Imrankhan-jt2kn she didn't say that Islam is a curse she only said that our society forces women to get married which is not compulsory in Islam it is a Sunnat so it is the women's choice to get married or not .

@ummekulsum8097 5 жыл бұрын

Our society should change for good. So that we women also get married happily by our will...like the Islamic way. Our society made it like this....our parents house is company which mend women for men which is unislamic. Society should should teach both men and women to be good like Islamic way. Understand y we women are backing out from marriage...then u LL know the real problem and then u LL get the solution. We are not products we are human...if we adjust in life, men should also adjust. Women's are only made to adjust which is unIslamic. If man start living Islamic life then life will be easy for women also and she can also be religious.

@zarailly 4 жыл бұрын

@The first part- totally true - Pakistani myself, sharing these same feelings but just never seen them in words and also have never had a real serious discussion about this - thank you

@stuarthastie6374 4 жыл бұрын

Aamna Here women as property.

@shahzaibkiani9606 4 жыл бұрын

So this is what your religion has taught you. Dear there is always a difference between the world of fantasy and the realistic one. In novels it looks so amazing to read that you have to be bold, you have to be courageous. You have to take stand for yourself. You really don't need to compromise. you don't need to sacrifices your dreams, desires for someone. Honsetly, I do believe in this and an ardent beiever of don't need to sit at the table where respect is no longer served. But there is a smooth difference between western culture and islamic perspective and both are great contrast of each other. If being sitting, wearing or talking in a certain way makes you feel annoyed and frustated then you really need to consult God for this discrimination. May be you query will be solved and honorable men are just implementing the rules and regulations imposed by the creator. if you have some personal issues with your God then extremely sorry for your impuissance and helplessness

@sehamsaleh3634 5 жыл бұрын

“Language is not right or wrong.... it is simply spoken” 👏

@rmkatkarkatkar866 4 жыл бұрын

999989llppppppooi0 555 ........ .

@ektagupta5120 5 жыл бұрын

Indian ,28 yrs old, will NOT get married, loving family, well educated and successful. n EXTREMELY HAPPY.

@saritapaul1869 5 жыл бұрын

Ekta Gupta i am also an Indian 34 years old unmarried ,wish NOT to marry ever , not successful but independent. Success to me is to build my own house one day but till now just managed to buy the land.

@ektagupta5120 5 жыл бұрын

@@saritapaul1869 Right...Happiness comes from within...not from any other person...It's all about being happy in life after all...lots of love.

@eldergod4817 5 жыл бұрын

It's your choice though. but marriage is fulfillment of life

@zibycp2008 5 жыл бұрын

Sarita Paul Why invest in a house and land if you are not raising a family? Is it for investment sakes? Perhaps, the sale of assets will help during retirement ? Aren’t you bothered about support during old age?

@abhi565b 5 жыл бұрын

@@ektagupta5120 dont be a feminazi..Marriage is the most beautiful moment in ones life..

@mehakjaved3219 6 жыл бұрын

im 23 and unmarried and u speak my heart out....

@Mohds-ou2jp 5 жыл бұрын

Why still unm?

@attariaattaria4342 4 жыл бұрын

Same

@Kis603 4 жыл бұрын

I am 30 .... unmarried.... and living very happy with myself....

@rajab4187 4 жыл бұрын

hi we are of same age just 2 year difference can we talk?I'm 23 now

@rajab4187 4 жыл бұрын

@gabru 20+ is considered older here and should have been married even before reaching 20

@riddhimanna8437 3 жыл бұрын

She is the kind of person I have in mind when I say I love and respect Pakistanis. There are millions of others like her I believe and I wish the rest of the people in our beautiful neighbouring country becomes as thoughtful, responsible and progressive as she is.

@imaginativegirl126 5 жыл бұрын

She is so delightful. I wish she had been my English teacher throughout my school life.

@IndianGirlGermany 6 жыл бұрын

The series beginning from "Are you married?'" to ...."why isn't she married"?.. Incredible!

@asreekhan7372 4 жыл бұрын

What is incredible

@LetsHangOutWithAmna 6 жыл бұрын

If this talk is from Kinnaird college then those red paper aeroplanes behind the girl on the curtain are made by me and my team. I made 200 of those. Sadly I was not able to attend Ted.

@laibatariq3671 4 жыл бұрын

Aamenaa Tanveer yes ,it is from Kinnaird college

@ramshilli2989 4 жыл бұрын

Sorry for you. :-(

@md.farhadmia1148 4 жыл бұрын

Bvrxxx

@surajsathyarthi816 6 жыл бұрын

pakistan strictly need these type of independt girl. just wowwwww,look at her confident.lots of love and support fron INDIA

@afanali6248 6 жыл бұрын

This was in Lahore, one of the biggest and most modernized cities in Pakistan, it is very common for girls to be liberal and independent in the city.

@TheMraaqib 5 жыл бұрын

We do have.

@miliaurora1038 5 жыл бұрын

@Uym O Hi, I have seen you in so many comments section. How are you? Are you from India too like me?

@samwaqar2450 5 жыл бұрын

suraj sathyarthi Pakistani girls are undoubtedly confident but with dignity Alhumdulillah

@zoyasaeed8383 5 жыл бұрын

We have many.. thanks for your concern

@joyeetadutta1415 6 жыл бұрын

I m 26.... Single... Indian... Usually gets to hear kb hogi shaadi.. Ab toh karlo.. N most important line is jahan Jana h shaadi k bd husband k sath Jana... In short India is no different in dis issue..

@ummefarwashorts 6 жыл бұрын

Same here dear i m 25 i m women n i m Pakistani 😂😂😂

@rahulentertainment2112 5 жыл бұрын

hii

@maxlaguna9712 5 жыл бұрын

Lets get marry.

@user-rg6uq6uy6i 5 жыл бұрын

@@Imrankhan-jt2kn خداراهیچ وقت فراموش نکن

@jeaniek4980 5 жыл бұрын

I'm 25 and single lol

@theliterati3961 5 жыл бұрын

"You are half of a whole." wow! That really hit me.

@hopenotout5559 4 жыл бұрын

I guess it had hit you a bit more hard... Painkiller suggested

@hopenotout5559 4 жыл бұрын

@@imadyounis199 میری انگریزی اچھی نہیں ھے آپ ذرا خلاصہ کر دیں محترمہ کی باتوں کا؟

@hopenotout5559 4 жыл бұрын

@@imadyounis199 سمجھ میں نہ آ جائے؟

@fatmaahmad8874 6 жыл бұрын

Remarkable young woman. Keep inspiring and keep rocking.

@zenchango 4 жыл бұрын

The way she speaks. It's priceless. How she put her minds and thoughts into words are inspiring and her voice is being heard. Loved it.❤️

@sudhirsingh9128 4 жыл бұрын

I am from India and I liked the way u talked about women's rights. Love ❤️ from India 🇮🇳🇮🇳

@lpsuganthi394 6 жыл бұрын

why I clicked this video is because she told that she is unmarried in Pakistan. I am a Indian girl,who always wanted to change world and one of goal is I will not marry.I saw myself in her .Everyone here in this world has a real existence in planet.Our duty is to find what it is?..

@haiqarizwan9981 6 жыл бұрын

Lp Suganthi Its so true. I totally relate to you. I am a Pakistani and facing the same problem but no one understands me. Everyone thinks i am talking nonsense when i say i want to follow my dreams. 😢

@pooja350 5 жыл бұрын

@@haiqarizwan9981 keep living your truth sister.

@halaahmed3412 5 жыл бұрын

Yes u and I are citizens , individuals , adults ... we have existence ...only if people could understand ... I am 18 but I have huge plans ahead ...wish me luck ..Love from Pak💚

@AshishPanthee62 4 жыл бұрын

@@halaahmed3412 I wish u good luck

@africanbeautifulgirl 5 жыл бұрын

30 and unmarried. I will be fine. We need to ease pressure from women and marriage. Nigeria.

@Knowyourdestiny222 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, i agree with uh Love from India ❤️

@Flowerpower-h7q 4 жыл бұрын

I agree completely. We have a beautiful continent to fix, and the men haven't exactly done a great job at trying. The women of Africa will rise. We don't have time to be told that all we can be are wives or baby factories.

@EzequielMartin55vf 3 жыл бұрын

All the best stay strong, Nigerian ladies! ❤💪🏻💪🏾 l agree 100% we will be ok and can survive anything.

@doityourselfpakistan6535 4 жыл бұрын

I am 90 year old man and still unmarried and happy and enjoying my youth .

@gulabsinghsingh7248 4 жыл бұрын

Have you ever done any intimate relations with any female or woman

@nishobit.1293 4 жыл бұрын

@@gulabsinghsingh7248 Look who his revealing pervertness.. 🤔

@anaayana2632 4 жыл бұрын

@@nishobit.1293 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😁😁😁😁

@aurboda 4 жыл бұрын

that seems a little hard to believe, do you have social media i can follow you on?

@doityourselfpakistan6535 4 жыл бұрын

@@aurboda that was a sarcism

@paramjeetsingh926 5 жыл бұрын

Wow!!!!!! Incredible speech brilliant poems every word this young lady speaks comes from bottom of her heart. Maybe after sometime we all will forget her name but not her thoughts. I SALUTE U YOUNG LADY & AM A PROUD OF TWO YOUNG & BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS LIKE U. 😊😊😊

@namratad2836 4 жыл бұрын

She's one of the best i have seen. confident and such clarity of thoughts, not to mention choice of words! Love from India!

@naqshburhan 6 жыл бұрын

Damn! I like the way she questions authority.

@gowthamkumar2534 6 жыл бұрын

I just can't stop myself from seeing this video

@SanaKhan-nt9yu 4 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate to what she is saying. I am 27 years old, Indian. I met a Pakistani women in america who asked me, "kis pagal kutte ne bol Diya tumhe america aane ko, apne walid walidein k sath nahi reh sakti Kya?" This is an incident that happened with me and I will remember it for life. We often remember how people made us feel so i guess yeah, i will never forget those lines coming out of her mouth. I chose not to tell her anything bcz she was a mother of 2 and if that's what she had to say to someone younger than her, then I have nothing to tell her. This incident also made me realise how society thinks about women and how small and insignificant our dreams our in front of their eyes. This is how society is, perhaps I would have had a similar response if I were in my hometown. I bet atleast one of my relative would have asked me the same question. So guys, this is not a problem of India or Pakistan. It's much bigger and it's everywhere. I guess this is something that we all must realise. I am successful today and not dependant on any man. So my dear sister's, wherever you are, India or Pakistan or any other country, follow your heart and nothing is more important than your own life, career and dreams.

@Rayyan420z_ Жыл бұрын

0/5 “Incomplete” YEAH RIGHT NO OFFENSE BUT THATS ALL THAT YOUVE TAUGHT US “INCOMPLETE”

@philmccraken7126 Жыл бұрын

May God help u

@rajnaik9 6 жыл бұрын

Amazing 👌🏼 Your thoughts reflected out here in India as well...

@Anish7777 6 жыл бұрын

konse gao se h bhai..?

@rajnaik9 6 жыл бұрын

Anish Kumar good question🐷

@mhsolutionz 6 жыл бұрын

well! to some extent we can say it's the dilemma of Asian countries.

@klawtawar 6 жыл бұрын

Raj Naik agree with you

@faatimahfarhad1523 6 жыл бұрын

True insights, can totally relate. And loved "red and gold". WOW. WOW. Love her play on words. ❤

@yasinmuhammed7242 4 жыл бұрын

I live in India, and I’m older than you, I teach English literature to young girls in college, and I’m still unmarried. What you have just described is my life and I can relate to you very much. Thanks for putting it so beautifully.

@uma20012 6 жыл бұрын

I am so proud to see a Pakistani girl so strong and determined in standing up and talking about this issue. Please keep it up and make our women strong in just being their own self! THANKYOU!

@abdulhannan5256 6 жыл бұрын

I dont think this issue is with girls only, there are boys who are facing that too, including me "Bhai agar kuch karay ga nahi to koi apni beti kasay dega?" "Bhai apna haal dekh gym ja varna koi apni beti nahi dega" i mean seriously? Why does everyone care about marriage more than that person? Its just the backwardness of this era

@96muslimgirl 6 жыл бұрын

Hannan Faisal its not like nobody ever cared about the person though.. i see it like this; when we are kids we are cared for, prepared for the future, we learn how to live life the best we can etc. Then the time comes where we have to take on the place of the previous generation and start a new generation, passing down our values like this. And that is how life continues. And yes, men definitely have their issues too, it is not just women that experience difficult times.

@user-vg9ns9fz6u 6 жыл бұрын

thats because ... they try to tell u ... learn to take care of urself first to take responsibility of someone else. its not wrong. its like advice about reality of life.

@neverghost4507 6 жыл бұрын

I agree with you. But most of the time it's asked from the girls why isn't she married? How does she look? Bandi Sundar nahi hai! What's that?

@beawadood5504 6 жыл бұрын

Just what I was thinking. It's the same with boys in our society. I see it happen to my brother a lot more than it happens to me. And he's 4 years younger than me. I guess he just needs it more than me. Lol

@pyaarnirvair1487 6 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right. Even the fact that men are given a burden from birth, saying that they should study and stay strong, no one hears them when they're sad. Dear men, I lost 2 dear brothers due to depression, talk about your problems, you matter. Turn yourself off if you're sad because you cannot jump without going down.

@nurulainmohd3198 6 жыл бұрын

27 and unmarried. Well i guess this situation happen mostly everywhere. And im from Malaysia.

@feddiefeddie3085 5 жыл бұрын

Agreed!! Um malaysian too!! Hi!! Which part of malaysia?

@ahsnsb 4 жыл бұрын

yeah but oppression in pakistan isnt comparable to that in most other countries.

@mdjilu8184 4 жыл бұрын

Hggyyyyyyyyyyy

@lishalopez1017 6 жыл бұрын

Blown away! This has to be my new most favourite video on KZfaq, hats of to such an inspiring women.

@zareengulabi9569 6 жыл бұрын

Woman don't have to get married in order to get the respect they deserve After girl complete her education she could do many things in life like travel have her business buy her own car n house.Not just get marrued at 1 .Otherwise wats the use of education if u end up sitting in kitchen or with kids.

@wajihaali7538 6 жыл бұрын

Zareen GULABI what an amazing thought....

@munibaafzal570 5 жыл бұрын

How exactly you plan to raise your kids without having education. I guess we have quite alot unmarried educated women out there but what we really need is EDUCATED MARRIED WOMEN who can raise further more generations who’ll be educated because she was. Shaadi is not just for unparh, man!! Kitchen me sirf unparh khana ni banatey!

@sowhat2873 5 жыл бұрын

I agree with one part but one can be a stay at home parent and be educated. I think such decisions should be made by individuals and their partners. Not be society that how should a couple play their role to be part of a place.

@hammadhussain3082 4 жыл бұрын

@@munibaafzal570 Agar parh likh kr bhi kitchen mein khana banati hein, without being paid the due diligence, tw matlab parhayi ne degree tw de di aqal nai di.

@yogesh9175 4 жыл бұрын

wajiha Ali I think, we would be better off if we adopt children. Why produce more children when we can put the existing human resource to use?

@touseef_akhtar 6 жыл бұрын

I was in the Audience :D Had a wonderful time. Thanks TEDx Lahore

@anjalimujumdar4555 6 жыл бұрын

Wow.. is there an option to double like it

@3DSnips 6 жыл бұрын

Anji created another account.

@shuchitashuchita8282 4 жыл бұрын

"Language is not right or wrong. It is just spoken." Wow... Inspiring young woman... Hats off

@zahraajaz1277 4 жыл бұрын

As an overseas Pakistani in the UK , it makes me really happy to see Pakistan moving towards modernisation, and she spoke English so beautifully, for sure breaking the stereotypes that people have against Pakistani education❤️

@thewitcher9839 3 жыл бұрын

You mean breaking Islam. Forced marriages happen in village

@zahraajaz1277 3 жыл бұрын

@@thewitcher9839 Not breaking Islam but forced marriages do happen the most in villages

@novelamurmu8954 5 жыл бұрын

U thrilled me and fill me with hopes. God Bless you. Keep Strong and blesses.

@shikhasahu9100 6 жыл бұрын

love her you are amazing! you are a lady, A full time lady. 😊

@zaaz4046 6 жыл бұрын

I think she meant equal rights in a conservative male dominant society, which shouldn't mean she would spend all life single and last as a spinster lady. She wants a partner of her own choice and a liberal life. On the contrary, in a conservative society, I may choose to spend lifetime as single and last as a bachelor. But I am not sure, what she exactly meant, as opinions may depend or differ person to person.

@shikhasahu9100 6 жыл бұрын

yes opinion differs what she said i got it in a different manner in which i wanted to get you must be having different as simple as that.

@MuzikAficionado 6 жыл бұрын

Wonderful Yusra! You have beautifully given voice to the thoughts and struggles of hundreds and thousands of girls and even women. Hats off to you!

@snjvnijoshi7144 4 жыл бұрын

Thinking of marriage gives me depression I really want to be single in my entire life We got only 1 life mannnn commonnn

@sadiahaidermasud771 4 жыл бұрын

If it gives you 'depression' then that means something is seriously 'wrong' with you.

@crochetcharms 4 жыл бұрын

Dexter Dex just because she doesn't want to get married, doesn't mean anything is wrong with her. And marriage *is* a complicated thing.

@snjvnijoshi7144 4 жыл бұрын

@@crochetcharms thanku so much☺️

@crochetcharms 4 жыл бұрын

jiminee pabo no worries, dude. You do you! It's your life, people don't get a say in this, *you do!*

@snjvnijoshi7144 4 жыл бұрын

@@crochetcharms I agree😊😊

@balavignesh4469 6 жыл бұрын

Love you sweetheart 😍 from INDIA..

@tenny6246 5 жыл бұрын

PAKISTAN NEEDS MORE BRAVE AND EDUCATED PEOPLE LIKE HER. LOTS OF RESPECT FOR HER AND HER WAY OF LIBERAL THINKING THAT MOST PAKISTANIS DON'T UNDERSTAND OR SIMPLY IGNORE IT.

@envirooh9274 5 жыл бұрын

What an incredible speech from a fellow Pakistani woman

@kimhanuel5615 4 жыл бұрын

"Language is not right or wrong it is simply spoken" this girl is amazing

@vibhusingh9152 5 жыл бұрын

I am young, unmarried single boy, why has TEDX not contacted me yet😠😠

@komalzeb8124 5 жыл бұрын

Lol cause u have written "has" twice 😉😂

@truptisagar9397 5 жыл бұрын

Hahahah

@vibhusingh9152 5 жыл бұрын

@@komalzeb8124 oops🤐

@komalzeb8124 5 жыл бұрын

@@vibhusingh9152 now it's double space between "TEDX and not", i guess😝

@dipak1978 5 жыл бұрын

I had been an Indian student of Eng Lit. Aging now 41, but wish I were your classmate or a student at least... Best luck as an unmarried beautiful girl.

@AshwaniKumar-dm7ef 4 жыл бұрын

"Language is not right or wrong, it is just how you speak it." One value added to my life. Thanks💕

@ZaharahFitness 4 жыл бұрын

This is society, NOT Islam. Islam is very simple and peaceful

@suhassreehari876 4 жыл бұрын

What a joke lol 😂😂😂

@justiceforstudents2733 Жыл бұрын

Sorry but I don't like her she's our literature teacher now she is really proud of herself and she gave me 0/5 for helping a student in just a practice question

@Rayyan420z_ Жыл бұрын

Justice for our students ✊🏻 THIS BOY AND MANY OTHER HOPELESS CHILDREN DO NOT DESERVE THIS

@philmccraken7126 Жыл бұрын

May God help u very BAD teacher

@justiceforstudents2733 Жыл бұрын

@@Rayyan420z_ yes thanxxxxxxxx

@justiceforstudents2733 Жыл бұрын

I will talk in the head office about her, she's not innocent as she looks

@hassantariq765 Жыл бұрын

u can just give her lil push from the 2 floor in your school

@naqialvi679 6 жыл бұрын

Probably one of the most worth listening things! You go girl 👍

@sameenakhan6096 4 жыл бұрын

Love her style of talking and off course her creativity and analysis as well...amazing.. Fabulous😍😍

@sarahrome885 5 жыл бұрын

You inspired me May Allah grant barakah in all your efforts and may you shine like a star InshaAllah Much love and respect , A fellow single ,unmarried ,Pakistani girl 💞❤

@anupamaroy5523 6 жыл бұрын

lovely inspiration you are sis.. lots of love from India...

@SR-mv2mf 6 жыл бұрын

Repeat listening.. amazing girl.. made me tear up.. powerful words sister.

@archanaasatkar 4 жыл бұрын

Love from India...! Very nice yusra..! Wether it is India or Pak.. situation is same dear..!

@saum61096 5 жыл бұрын

I just love her tone while she's reciting poems ❤️

@ahadkhankhattak9936 5 жыл бұрын

I am Pakistani I am man Respect womens👏

@moonstruckrevera6861 4 жыл бұрын

I got married at 32 years age, while my friends had high school going children.

@saira_6151 5 жыл бұрын

Positively amazing to hear such an intelligent and independent young lady. She will scare many. Because truth often does. Go far. Aim high.

@dreinhard52 4 жыл бұрын

This woman is a prize , seeing this gives me confidence in the future of Pakistan.

@tanishamarko9251 4 жыл бұрын

She's is praised with beauty elegance and intelligence indeed♥️🌼

@AtharvaBhamburkar7420 6 жыл бұрын

My first reaction," YOU GUYS HAVE HARRY POTTER???" From a highly stereotyped view to a mainstream thinking country. May the bond be restored with humanity and peace shinning bright over all of us! GodSpeed

@saadawan5502 6 жыл бұрын

Not only do we have Harry Potter, we have Harry Potter inspired cafe.

@AtharvaBhamburkar7420 6 жыл бұрын

Erum Malik 😅😅

@AtharvaBhamburkar7420 6 жыл бұрын

Saad Awan woahhhh😃

@AtharvaBhamburkar7420 6 жыл бұрын

themidsummerdream well,lets not get into what we have and you don't... Cause that list would stretch till eternity! Lets appreciate the fact that someone stood up for a whole generation and pray that things get better there!

@jekyll7110 6 жыл бұрын

It's actually very popular here.

@sureshkothari8329 5 жыл бұрын

You have touched my soul, I like your courage and demeanor. God bless you.

@gonnermleggies4813 4 жыл бұрын

What an amazing poet. I couldnt agree more with everything shes fighting for. Being a woman is hard enough without all the pressures put on us by society. I am 29 and unmarried. I also had to have my uterus removed because of endometriosis so no children are in my future. I dont mind because I am happy with myself and my freedom of movement. It breaks my heart that so many women all over the world are shackled. I hope that I see some real change in my lifetime. It's going to take so much work but I believe people standing up and breaking the silence will make it so.

@pragya8637 4 жыл бұрын

Such a profound speech. Loved it from the beginning to the end. Also, love Harry Potter too :)

@zainabfarhan5823 4 жыл бұрын

I love how girls are starting to stand up for themselves. I honestly couldn't be prouder! This is so beautifully worded, I couldn't have said it better myself.

@belogical2396 4 жыл бұрын

Zaynab Farhan cause the end is near

@goldi1018 Жыл бұрын

@@belogical2396 it's sick how submissive women, wo endure bad treatment are a good sign but women fighting for themself is a sign for qayamit. Seems like your religion hates women

@arselamallick3248 4 жыл бұрын

Her poems were sooo beautiful, this whole talk was amazing.

@gamerwitch6676 6 жыл бұрын

And that u forgot to add if somehow you are not married even after you have a job.....u must b having a secret relationship

@kavitakurani1652 5 жыл бұрын

Hmmmm Islam khatre me he ladies chilla rhi he 😔

@kindnesshappiness9715 4 жыл бұрын

😂

@Morningstarintheroses 4 жыл бұрын

@@kavitakurani1652 😂😂😂

@khizarhayat1387 3 жыл бұрын

Or somehow you have bad charcter so no one is asking your hand like seriously

@zainabhaji5764 6 жыл бұрын

With all my heart i wish you all the luck in world because its not a choice here its a fight here.

@SXHQQSSS 6 жыл бұрын

Congratulations! ! Fabulous Speech there. Great Attitude! ! BRAVO!

@sa22g10 4 жыл бұрын

We need more female poets ..it is..good the way she expresses her views on society in Pakistan..

@shahiprodhan7011 4 жыл бұрын

I was pleased to hear 'THE SPEAKING' of Teacher YUSRA AMJAD, who had the special poetic ability to focus her thought by her beautiful English. I would be longing to attend to her (Yusra) more lecture in VIDEO.

@ankitanandy6076 5 жыл бұрын

I completely agree with you. I too had to gulp down comments like why are you so picky about food your mother in law wont like it, why do you have so many shoes after all your husband will not allow these. I still unmarried and I am happy.

@nikitajain2274 4 жыл бұрын

"It is pronounced however you choose to say it"

@saad_mahmood741 3 жыл бұрын

Best Ted talk I ever heard. Really u impressed me beyond a limit young girl.May u keep inspiring every woman.God bless you 💐💐👍

@khadijanaseer1445 3 жыл бұрын

Her words are so strong... so meaningful and powerful

@thinkingaloud7925 4 жыл бұрын

There can only be one thing worse, Being a young Hindu unmarried female in Pakistan.

@dilsere1775 4 жыл бұрын

😭

@guy73 4 жыл бұрын

There is one thing that is worst. Being a muslim in India, male or female.

@aditimuke7819 4 жыл бұрын

There aren't any hindus left in Pakistan

@guy73 4 жыл бұрын

@lulu see my answer above

@ms-zo3zb 5 жыл бұрын

So true what she just said,,,misogyny is has always been part of pakistani culture and so much talent could have been discovered if women were allowed to think beyond marriage

@saira_6151 5 жыл бұрын

Right? When I say that we'll I don't want to say what happens but you get the idea. It's a fact. Misogyny is the culture of Pakistan.

@anumcodes 5 жыл бұрын

That doesn't only happen in Pakistan but also amongst Pakistani born people living abroad. Fantastic and insightful speech.

@Bluebirdisfreenow 5 жыл бұрын

She is really very intelligent.... salute to you..... beauty with brain...

@unchiudaantv 6 жыл бұрын

beautiful thoughts expressed through beautiful words

@MuhammadNouman 6 жыл бұрын

brilliant poem

@aarzoosharma3925 4 жыл бұрын

Love u dear..the way u spoke...inspiring....ur confidence..awesome...lots of love to u... May kanha bless u😘😘😘😘

@munirahusein6979 4 жыл бұрын

The well spoken girl you have proved, cannot be generalized, everyone makes choices and at the end of it , one has to be able to face the consequences too, I am married, working as a lecturer in a PG Dept. and have 2 girls- decisions can be based either on circumstances good or bad.