SUPER glad to read this Melanie! Happy I could help! It is so true that sometimes it feels like you need to control every aspect of the problem but when we learn that we all get enough sleep anyway, we can trust our bodies more and let things be :)

Hi! How are you doing?

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Hi Laetitia! Thank you for your questions. Let me add them to my next Q&A episode where I will share my thoughts on this :)

Hi Raju, I think first step is to admit to yourself that awakening has happened and we can’t force falling back asleep. It is physically impossible to directly affect and initiate the process of falling asleep. That happens only when we don’t feel pressured to sleep, when any our action is not about “getting back to sleep” but about doing something meaningful or something that you feel like doing. And here you are absolutely free to choose :) you can stay in bed if it feels nice, you can watch tv, play video games, drink water, listen to podcasts - use it as time for yourself. Maybe if it makes sense you can even start your day after 4-5 h of sleep. So check internally what feels natural and non-pressuring! Hope this makes sense

@@FearlessSleep but i feel really sleepy when i wake up in the middle of nite but my mind wouldn’t just sleep just hyper sleep

Good question! I think I briefly touched this in the video about Structure vs flexibility: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/h7GPjbWCp7Dbdps.html In general, I think sleep restriction is just a tool that we can use on the path, just like many other approaches. I've seen some people doing great on sleep window, others didn't but then they found other tools that worked better for them than the restriction. So there is no universal tool that will work for everyone, that's why I don't focus much on techniques but on the general principles how this insomnia paradox works. I believe that once you understand how it works you can choose better your own path. But that's a good topic, I will probably make a video about it once. Thanks for the tip!

@@FearlessSleep yes, thank you Your videos and Daniel's where the most suitable aproach for me

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging time, especially during your pregnancy. Insomnia can be rough and it's completely understandable that this would bring a lot of distress. First and foremost, please know that you're not alone in this struggle. Many women during pregnancy go through increased anxiety which interferes with their sleep and creates a self-perpetuating pattern. I spoke to those who recovered from insomnia during their pregnancy and of course they had the same concerns. What happens is that we essentially are afraid of our emotions that happen in the connection to wakefulness (fear of fear). Learning that our emotions are safe to experience (even if they are very uncomfortable, they are not our enemies) and starting to change the way we respond to wakefulness is key. It’s a gradual process but it’s possible to get to the place of peace. Creating a supportive environment during this time can assist in this learning, you don’t have to do it alone - e.g. working with a local therapist who can teach to feel safe when the fear comes. For peace of mind it's also okay to get support from the doctor who can help navigate through pregnancy addressing any health concerns you might be having. Additionally, I know of a sleep coach - Brittany, who specializes in prenatal and postpartum insomnia, she also has a support group on Facebook as well as Instagram page. You can find her through her website mamasleepcoach.com.

@@FearlessSleep i think today i started to accept this condition. i cant breathe byt the end of the day after a sleepless night honestly i dont know how you do it .... Beside no sleep efforts, no anxiety and fear , should i do something else?