The pressure we put on girls is honestly sickening. Most girls grow up and think that they've failed in life as women, if they aren't married or have kids. I teach my daughter to be okay with whatever life has for her and whatever she chooses.

I practiced abstinence for 5 years and it was the best decision. I built a better relationship with myself and became discerned about sharing my body and soul tying.

I got married at 29 and had our first child at 31 and 2nd at 32. I saw friends get married and I thought "when is mine coming?" But like you said "there is beauty in the waiting." I was celibate for 3 years before I met my husband...celibacy is the key. No one deserves to have your body but the person you're married to. It's never too late to start your celibacy journey. New sub here. Great video. #God1st

I hate when people say 30 is old when it comes to getting married, having kids, starting a career, etc. But God forbid a person dies at 30 now they’re too young to die, gone too soon, etc. People got to realize it’s ignorant to attach age to important milestones in life, better you do things at the right time vs doing it wrongfully and hating it‼️

I love how you guys don't interrupt each other, I'm working on active listening and letting someone speak out their complete thoughts and you guys are amazing examples of this ! New fave podcast 😊

I like the way Jonathan lets her finishes her sentences before he starts his. That's a man who respects his girl. Love that

Since Jessica is uncomfortable with calling it a podcast. Just call it Conversations with Jon and Jess😊

I got married at 25 and I would definitely say the person I was at 25 and the person I am now at 34 are sooooo different. We had to grow up together which caused a lot of unnecessary heartbreak and drama. Even though we dated for four years prior to getting married, I definitely wish we waited a little longer.

i am in my waiting season, and omg its not for the weak, waiting requires a lot of special GRACE . i enjoyed every bits of this video thank you guys

I totally was feeling the same way you were feeling Jess. I was like, God, are you hearing my prayers, I want my husband. I finally understand he was molding me for his perfect timing. I did get married at the age of 32, and I have been married for 13 years. I am glad God did it in his timing.

Girl haha I understand! I should’ve been abstinent. I tried after being in a relationship with my husband for years I moved back home with my parents for like 4 months because living together while trying to abstain??? IMPOSSIBLE! The Lord dang near took my whole lust problem away! It was awesome lol, then I backslid but y’all the Lord will NEVER forsake you! Keep leaning on Him and His living word and He will PROVIDE!

Every abstinence video I’ve watched in the past was very cliche and/or cringy to listen to. However, this was raw and refreshing. Thanks for y’all transparency and realness.

Jess, I love how you mentioned that you didn’t wait well during your waiting period. I appreciate honesty and transparency because folks be out here lying and shaming folks knowing they didn’t have patience either. This is why I love your content

I have literally typed black married christian podcast into KZfaq lately and the options are few and far between. Thank you for deciding to start a podcast.

Ngl, I needed this video. As a young person trying to be a good Christian and trying to wait on God but also being anxious about finding love and getting married and buying a house and having my life together. I’m only 22 and saving myself for marriage and am in the process of purchasing my first home BUT ITS SO HARDDDDD. To trust God and to wait on him when sometimes I feel like I’m so far from him I need him to come thru for me NOW. You guys inspire me so much and your union is blessed and beautiful, thank you guys so much for being honest and vulnerable and for sharing your experiences with us ❤

There is too much desperation around getting married which is freighting because people aren’t rushing to compromise and sacrifice as fast as they want to get married which is 1,000,000% what marriage is about. I’m married… I didn’t get married until I was 33 and I didn’t feel anyway about it. When I was younger I cared more but as I got older, I truly worried about it less and less. Age is just a number. The culture of rushing people into such huge life changing decision which inevitably lead to children has to stop. Too many people are creating their lives around what people say is ideal when God should be the only entity we care about regarding how our lives should go!!

Crucial statement! “ I am what God says about me. So, when I’m not acting like HIM, I am not acting like myself” 👏🏾

I'm glad you mentioned that there is purpose in singleness. There are tons of things I've done during this time that I wouldn't have been able to do. I've traveled a lot, lived in different states, and pursued some dreams I've had without having to be accountable to another person. Plus, I think it can help you to understand that you are not defined by marriage. It gives you more of a sense of self if you do the work.

Im virgin and 26, i feel happy that way.

29 mins in, sitting on my bedroom floor, with my journal, and my Bible. Feeling everything you are saying about the beginning of the wait 😩. This blessed me 🙏🏽 Thank you

Thank you so much for being real about how it feels when we’re waiting!! I loved this!

What we call waiting, God calls it patience… and He's very big on it. This is an amazing podcast! Thanks Jessijon

Y’all I NEEDED this today Tysm😭🙏🏾

Jess thank God for you and you husband. Your approach to this conversation is absolutely the most relatable way I have heard this conversation and it’s really encouraging me. Thank you so much!!

This has been so powerful on so many levels. Not only as it relates to relationships but life in general. Thanks for being open. You guys are a blessing🙏🏾🥰

This blessed my soul! Y’all should continue to do this. Thank you for your vulnerability 🙏🏽

This popped up just when I needed it . I stared watching yesterday and got busy but I’m back to finish. I don’t think y’all are crazy I believe these boundaries need to be set as well, no car , nor spending night alone , people have to always be there… dates have to be in public places 😆 I love it !! Been watching you since 2016 💛

That message. And that set up!! Here for it

I’m 43 and I just learned a lot but it’s on time. I wish I had this kind of talk when I was younger, it’s never to late. Thank you for sharing 😊

Honestly this was needed, we can not have too much of this topic cause really WAITING is hard it doesn't matter on what you're waiting for the human in us just doesn't like it

I love these vlogcast Jess!! Keep them coming the conversation is so good. Thanks for this talk, cause I’m here waiting for him to send this husband and whew😅 I’m getting tiyadddd

Come On and Jess and Johnathan 🎉🎉🎉. This is needed, especially for Christians. I love how yall always ask God and he is ordering y’all steps. ❤❤

I'm so grateful that you both decided to start this podcast during this time in my life where I've really been looking for advice from a Godly couple on relationships

This is very timely. I'm so glad that you guys are sharing your experience to help other young Christians like myself. Thanks Jess and Jonathan.

Ok backdrop! This looks so good. Sis call it the podcast it is. It's gonna flourish once you start believing in it more 🌱

I really thoroughly enjoyed this podcast! Please keep them coming. I picked up some awesome advice and tips from you and Jonathan. Thanks for sharing and may God continue to bless your union 😊

Love the PODCAST(yes you can call it that lol) The microwave analogy was spot on!!!!!!! It literally made so much sense and explained everything you guys were talking about in a way that was easy to understand and relate to.

Mr. and Mrs. Wallace...thank you very much for these words of wisdom....there is always someone who can benefit from encouragement during the wait and this time the encouragement was for me. I appreciate you guys and I declare God's continued blessings and favor upon you both and upon your union, as you use this platform to edify His people. ❤

Jess and Jonathan I LOVE THIS topic. I am one who waited on marriage before having sex and ppl around me thought I was lying and couldn't understand why my husband through with it. It is amazing how society has turned waiting to be such taboo and impossible. Honestly, as hard as it was I am glad we waited even though for me I always said "I can't miss what i never had". But you said something about getting tired of waiting and tried to "help" God and that is something I struggle with daily. My struggle is because I never know whether I am trying to help God or I am doing what the scripture says when it says "faith without works is dead". How can one know the difference? How do we know when we are overstepping and when we are just working our faith??

Great example of waiting at the end Jess, you definitely snapped on that one. ❤

Going to rewatch this a couple times. Great vid!

the microwave analogy >>>> "dont stop short in the waiting!!!" this was a blessing!!! God bless you both

Girrrrl!!! God truly blessed you with Johnathan. He is so in tuned to his faith and he has so much insight on life. When he said that you wouldn't have been able to do the things that God prepared you to do unless you waited, girl, it made me shiver. He is more saved than he thinks he is and God truly speaks through him. God bless the both of you and your marriage. Yeah and start the podcast. Call it what it is. You two can inspire a lot of young folks.

Oooh i felt that “glance at the bible app” 😂 yall got me. Im gonna start being intentional and setting quiet time. Jess, That microwave food analogy was 🔥

This whole messaging was received, just when I thought God couldn’t hear me this word came . Thank you both may God continue to keep you in His hands

Thank you guys so much for this! Definitely right on time for me!!!!

Hey Jessica, thank you soo much for Being so honest about how you dealt with your singleness, I felt like I was going crazy at one point in this single life. I felt like no one understands. However even though I am not married, yet, the storm has calmed down. It's good to know that someone else struggled in the same way I do, when I feel like God is in fulfilling his promise to me.

Much needed covo!! Thank you both ❤❤✌🏾

Love that. “When we think God is holding back from us it’s because in the waiting he wants to do something in us! Trusting his character that he has good gifts for his people. Great word 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you for this you guys. I needed this so much! ❤😊

Just beginning the video, I’m 35 & it’ll be 10 years in February of me walking with JESUS and also abstaining until marriage. Thankful for this season of purification and wisdom, while growing in Christ.💎🙌🏽 Just coming across you all from the clip of y’all’s video from the wedding of the Flower Bros🌹(😆🔥💃🏽). May GOD continue to bless you both!♥️

Omg Jess not you shouting me out!! Love this video & could relate to it so much. Really needed!

You all have NO IDEA...NO IDEA how this has blessed and encouraged me! I'm speechless God IS faithful ❤🙏🏾

Gods timing is always so perfect. I truly needed to hear this conversation 💛❤

I adore this series and the two of you!

I’m praying for you two that God give you everything you need to share with us……I appreciate you two as a young married couple……I’ve been married 24 years and it definitely wasn’t peaches and cream but keeping God ahead was the most important….thank you Jonathan and Jess I hope and pray that you keep this going love you two 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

This is an awesome ministry you guys are building here, for the future generation especially. Keep it up!

Such a powerfully encouraging and vulnerable video. This will bless many. Blessings in the waiting, God bless you both🙏🏽

I have been abstaining all my life and i am in my 30s, it hasn't't been easy. With peer pressure and being told my standards are too high😂 Funny thing is every time i tried to lower my standards it didn't end well. I've been in relationships that didn't work out cuz I didn't want to have sex and you see them married to the person that chose to have sex I guess. I've heard lots of things growing up like cuddling and making out kinda makes up for sex. Did that and it messed up my head and relationship with God and the guys would always want more after that so, I'm at the point where I'm done. I'm sticking to my principles on abstinence and I'm not lowering my standards for anybody.🙌🏻🙌🏻 I believe the right person is on his way and I'm willing to wait because I know God's plans for my life are sure. He said to me "Don't worry I'm going to make a name for myself through your life and I believe Him. Everyone has a choice. Premarital sex clouds your judgment and can ruin your life.

@OnlyOneJess This is awesome From young adults! Just know the process that you and Jonathan went through was not only for you but to be used as testimony to be able to help others! God calls you blessed beyond measure! Keep Up the Good work and Continue to pray for one another and the hedge of Gods protection of your marriage!

Jess and Jonathan-this was such a good topic. I loved that the gems y’all gave could apply to an individual or couple in a waiting season for any particular thing. I think it’s so important to remind ourselves of Philippians 4:11 and LEARN to be content in whatsoever state we are in. And I feel like the learning happens during the waiting season. My everyday prayer is “Lord if it is for me, bless it and if it is not for me, block it.” And I definitely feel like God has a sense of humor because I feel like I’ve been at a never ending block party, lol. But in all seriousness, I don’t want to be like the children of Israel and turn a 4 year journey into 40 years. Lawd knows I ain’t got that kind of time. Great job on this topic and I’m anxiously awaiting the next one!

This podcast came at just the right time. Love the points you both gave and thanks for sharing your journey. I appreciate it. I love your channel ❤

It’s very commendable the way in which you approach this topic. People will gravitate toward you more because you both have given such good advice, encouragement and hope for the future. Thank you for sharing and can hardly wait for the next one.

This was so on point and very timely. Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏽

I practice abstinence been doing it for 10+ years now. I will keep it up until I find the one

Ok consistency 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Love this series y'all have started 👌🏾

I truly believe we should be waiters for God as we wait on Him. Not only in the word, but in ministry. Being active for God while your waiting on Him makes the wait less painful.... not sure I'm articulating my point effectively lol. Thank you for these conversations. Much needed and appreciated!

Yoooo, hold on, Jonathan is preaching !! this is blessing me !!!

Thank you Jess. The LORD knows I needed this message at this time. Wow. God is so AWESOME! It was like you were reading what’s inside my head girl. Thank you both for being Open and Transparent. God bless y’all. 😇

Come through WISDOM....YAAAASSS.... I LOVE This!!! Look at you and Jonathan walking in your PURPOSE. Praise THE MOST HIGH...I am SO PROUD OF YOU TWO!!!!

It's how candid she is🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣girl, you're literally encourage me, coz society, especially Africa!!!!it's crazy the pressure they put on women

Wooowwww Jess!! God is using you lol this has been me and I feel like God said who yet, I’ve been over here like well when You’re ready I’ll “slide over there” 😂 so this is confirmation to chill out and properly give it to God 😅 thank you both for sharing your experiences yet again lol Jonathan came through with that “strength for the next step” 🫰🏾🫰🏾

I love these talks you guys have especially from a christian standpoint. Thanks for starting the podcast. I can also relate with you Jess on what you were saying even if im alittle younger than you are (27), but i try to think about the positive side to it that probably i wasnt ready mentally or the person God had in mind for me wasnt ready mentally. So in the mean time i kept working on myself mentally, emotionally and spiritually and then i finally met the person i believe God meant for me. We're not married yet but i do see it happening in the near future and abstaining all through practicing that self control.

I can definitely agree with Jess and Johnathan. After letting it go and enjoy life with God. Traveling and spending time with friends is one of the things I enjoyed the most😊

I love that you guys continued these conversations because I think having your perspectives on life and Christianity is so necessary because both of you are very relatable. Even from the prior videos, Jonathan was the first person I’ve heard articulate being the partner with no peace and deciding to leave even when you love them. And you look beautiful as always Jess❤

This is timely and really blessed my soul!!! Through you, God is giving me strength to continue to hope and trust in him because I can relate to everything you shared and I am actually going through it now. Thank you so so so much and may God bless you abundantly. 😊

I rewinded Jonathan saying “going through a tough time “ 9 times already 😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭crying ! Y’all are hilarious 😂

Jess, I see why you love Jonathan so much...he is so solid and transparent. You are blessed.

Lean in! I’ve got it!! Thank you both and God bless!

I love this…I can listen to you guys for hours. Make this a thing please 😊

Its a podcast sis and I am here for it. 😂 Love you guys advice.

🗣️🗣️ COME ON WALLACES ! This was right on time 😭🙏🏾

I really love this couple( i loved Jess 1st though) and their content is so real…. I smiled, i cried, i laughed… i love this podcast, keep them coming❤🙌🏾🔥

Oh let me get my tea and blanket ☺️. Perfect way to unwind for this already long week 🫶🏾

Yall better PREACH!!!! JESS !!! the hot chicken and rice analogy was clutch!!!

Thank you for this… I am receiving strength for the next step I will wait for God!!

❤❤❤❤❤ this was soooooo in time!!!!

I was waiting on this because we all know how wise jonathan is and love his wisdom so much Uts about time Jess stops playing and give the ppl what they want.. we Wang the podcast mam please drop a new à episode weekly ❤this was right on time cuz this was ye another confirmation this week that God is speaking to me about a specific promise

❤❤❤❤❤ loving the consistency

Wow i loved hearing his perspective about not hearing from God initally .. and waiting , johnathon really had to go out on faith . It was really refreshing to hear it isnt always a straight answer 🙏 and waiting helped him grow . Going through this myself needed to hear that

This is resignating with me so hard. I feel like I'm at a stage where I should have already been married and I can't understand why God hasn't unite me with my partner just yet. The waiting period definitely can be disheartening but having seeing that you made it through and how happy you are definitely is confirming to just wait on his timing....But it's harrrdddd

This podcast blessed me! The anointing that the Lord has placed on you two is powerful. It’s the transparency and encouragement for me. Jess go on and buy your First Lady hat. Your husband, is a minister! So much wisdom.😂 Great job, Mr. & Mrs. Wallace. Keep the pod-vlogs flowing!❤❤❤

I watched till the end . Well, I always 😂 love it. Keep them coming. Can definitely relate.

I agree Johnathan. There's beauty in singleness.

Jess looking so pretty like usual🙌🏾😍

This was absolutely beautiful podcast and I absolutely love this channel many Blessings to You Guys❤❤❤❤❤

❤ I appreciate u guys so much! bc I'm married, but what I'm waiting for is my BA. I've been playing school so long, I just feel like sometimes maybe that's not what I'm supposed 2 do. but this encouraged me. It is hard I have a family and dogs n they drive me crazy...but I gotta keep waiting

I love this! I actually needed this ! Can y’all share how you think waiting made your relationship better?

I actually loved you calling it a “vlogcast”.

Thank you so much for this. God bless you richly