Our Final IVF Update

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3 ай бұрын

We share the final results of our IVF journey. To hear more about the entire process, start with this video: • Our First IVF Appointm...
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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 1,000,000 subscribers on KZfaq. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over seven years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.

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@nbesio 3 ай бұрын

C4/C5 spinal cord injury here. My wife and I tried IVF for 3 sessions, but my fishy swimmers just would not cooperate. After taking a little time and doing some soul-searching we decided to have a child through a frozen donor. My wife is perfectly healthy and able to get pregnant and it was mainly my pride causing the delay in deciding to go this route. We went to the donor company in Seattle and found a donor who looked somewhat like me and met some of my personality types. We now have a beautiful and crazy 3-year-old boy. The irony is that most people say he looks and acts more like me than my wife! The main thing is turning taught me is that you do not need to be the biological sperm source to be a child’s father. He is the total world to me and it melts my heart every time he screams “daddy” when he comes into a room and climbs my chair like a jungle gym. Whether you decide to have a child through IVF, donor or adoption, that child will be the pride of your life (until they become teenagers.) You both will be incredible parents no matter what you decide!

@kristenbalkenhol7884 3 ай бұрын

Maybe it’s my pregnancy hormones or maybe not but this was so sweet to read it almost made me emotional! I’m so happy you and your wife were able To have the family that you wanted. You are right, blood does not make you a parent but being a good father does. I’m very happy for you and your family 😊❤

@essexitagermeng5504 2 ай бұрын

Respectfully, what about the baby’s rights to know the biological father? Why not adoption instead?

@mommak8342 2 ай бұрын

There are 1-2 MILLION on the adoption waiting list.

@bonsaibaby8257 2 ай бұрын

@@mommak8342not everyone wants or can deal with a child with mental health issues due to being in foster care. I’m not saying these kids aren’t worthy but just that not all people that want kids are worthy to parent them. I hope you understand what I’m saying. Also, I’m not saying all foster kids have issues but a very high percentage of them do and if you don’t want to take that risk you shouldn’t be guilted into it.

@MarianneMedlin-dz4dz 2 ай бұрын

This is BEAUTIFUL! I got chills. Thank you for sharing ❤

@JaneRumes-xc3ns 3 ай бұрын

I too had three IVF procedures back in the early 90s. None of them took but looking back almost 40 years, I’m so happy because otherwise I would’ve never had been able to adopt two children that were meant to be mine. I adopted privately in my area from birth and kept a relationship with the birth mother for 36 years. The second fell into my lap as a friend had gone to Ukraine and visited the orphanage is there an arranged for me to adopt this little girl. She’s 33 now. My son unfortunately passed away. I am so blessed to have them and be their mom. I’ve always said to myself, whatever will be ,will be. God brings you the right children when the time is right. Keep shining and keep up your spirits although I know it is hard as I’ve been there like I said. From a 67-year-old mom❤

@toomuchiridium 3 ай бұрын

What a lovely story you’ve shared! Your family sounds really wonderful and lively. ❤️

@SJC49 3 ай бұрын

Me, too! My Chinese daughter is now 28 and gave me 2 beautiful grandsons who are my life! Take care, Jane. 😍🇨🇦

@laurajackson2429 3 ай бұрын

@JaneRumes- xc3ns Iam so very sorry for your deep loss of your precious son.

@AyeYoTay84 3 ай бұрын

Wow you are my hero!! 💗 I want to adopt so bad 1 day!! I'm 40!!

@Wuv2000 3 ай бұрын

I absolutely agree. We always told our two adopted children that they were meant to be ours but had to come through another vessel. They are grown now but have never doubted our love for them and no difference was made between them and the one we finally were blessed with naturally. My adopted son has given us two wonderful grandchildren and the blessings just keep coming!

@maydaj1 3 ай бұрын

Infertility is so hard. We did 8 IVF's in 5 years and I'm finally holding our 2 month old miracle baby at 48. Wishing y'all the best and don't give up ❤️

@MrMo-bl5pq Ай бұрын

Congrats!

@tomalex349 Ай бұрын

Is it because man can't get a woman pregnant?

@BeautyByDaisie5899 Ай бұрын

My mum had problems getting me here. She had 5 rounds of IVF and fifth time lucky I was conceived. Its difficult having kids but adoption is a great thing to do

@thisnaturalgirlislocd Ай бұрын

Blessings!

@erikaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 3 ай бұрын

I have done IVF and had the heartbreak of a cycle with no fertilization and then another with no embryos making it. I know you all are putting on a cheery face for this video, but I know its an incredibly difficult and emotional process. Wishing you all the luck in the world on whatever you choose to do next!

@anitaallen4143 28 күн бұрын

I’m proud of you guys.

@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic 3 ай бұрын

I only had one IVF attempt back in 1984 and it was truly one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. I had 17 eggs, 9 embryos and 7 implanted, but…none “stuck.” Back then it was our life savings…around $30g. I’ll be sending the energy of comfort your way. No matter what, if anything more, you decide on the journey, my heart and I’m sure many others, are with you.

@angelasmith3332 3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. I did a couple of rounds of IVF 20 years ago and none resulted in a live birth. My (now ex) went on to impregnate our neighbour, promptly kicked me out of my home, married her and now they have a child together. Life is pretty shitty sometimes.

@kellylogsdon 3 ай бұрын

@angelasmith3332, that's terrible. I am so sorry that happened to you.

@angelasmith3332 3 ай бұрын

@@kellylogsdon thanks x

@TropicalParadisebyLisaLisa 3 ай бұрын

Sending hugs n love your way

@WendyH10 3 ай бұрын

@@angelasmith3332f him Angela! ❤

@heathergosse 3 ай бұрын

I'm an embryologist, from Minnesota but currently live/work in Houston, TX, and omg I'm so sorry to hear about your journey! Working in the IVF lab, it's so heartbreaking when embryos die or a pregnancy doesn't "stick". Wishing you guys all the positive energy presently and in the future if you try IVF again.

@galaxymel18 3 ай бұрын

Thank goodness for embryologists! We go to NY for treatment and they are amazing. Which clinic are you with in Houston?

@Bronskibeatfan 3 ай бұрын

It’s great that you have time to comment you should call them maybe.

@TechP 2 ай бұрын

@heathergosse can 7 million per mL successfully fertilise egg without any complications?

@irishlydia 2 ай бұрын

I would not have had my children without embyrologists or ivf. I suffered with recurrent miscarriages for over 10 years until I had my little miracle and currently pregnant with my 2nd after few more losses.

@WrenPadget 2 ай бұрын

It is equally heartbreaking they are destroyed if not used . Your logic makes no sense. Be happy only when the embryo is wanted. I am a lab tech also, 30 years

@razzygirl91 3 ай бұрын

Sending you both lots of love. I have definitely come across people who did several cycles of IVF and one embryo suddenly “stuck” and all was well, but obviously the whole process sounds extra exhausting for the two of you, and it’s not exactly a small amount of money I imagine! Keep doing you, enjoy this time to rest and reset and who knows what other avenues you might want to explore in future ❤

@sandramendoza6297 2 ай бұрын

I have not watched you for awhile - but came across this video this morning- I was so sad to hear this and now I’m sitting on the sofa with a heavy heart for you. I hope an unexpected blessing comes your way today that lifts you up. Kindest regards

@lysa64 3 ай бұрын

my husband never had any fishy swimmers! But we have kids from Peru, Guatemala and Korea! Wishing you the best in the future!

@glindagoodwitchofnorthview8287 3 ай бұрын

Congratulations on your family.

@CATNAPREAL1188 3 ай бұрын

Oh Thank Both of YOU ! To give a child a home, a mom and dad, siblings, a family and LOVE is what honest to GOD parents do. The skin color doesn't matter, the country doesn't matter they are helpless little humans that NEED A LOVE AND A FAMILY ! So SINCERELY THANK YOU for being Those People!!!

@SJC49 3 ай бұрын

You are blessed. My Chinese daughter is now 28 and has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. 😍🇨🇦

@dancer20617 3 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@ravenc4912 3 ай бұрын

Why couldn't they adopt from America? MANY kids in America need homes and to be adopted.

@Koriikoh 3 ай бұрын

I have SMA too, and with my ex-girlfriend we tried to freeze some of my fishy-swimmers while I stopped my medication for several months. Unfortunately, there wasn't one to be found. I guess there are plenty of ways to become a parent. If my swimmers aren't here in the future, it's fine, I don't need them to become a loving parent. Thank you guys for keeping us updated, what you do is so important.

@WendyH10 3 ай бұрын

@Koriikoh you’ll be a great dad no matter how you get your children.

@Koriikoh 3 ай бұрын

@@WendyH10 Thank you so much, means a lot! Of course, growing up as a disabled person without any reference was hard, so I used to reject my parenting wishes. I'm 28 years old now, and I have not a single doubt in my mind: I'm going to be an incredible father one day.

@ThatTaRaGiRL 3 ай бұрын

Exactly. That's why I don't understand why they don't just use a donor's sperm... or maybe even his brothers if he was cool with it? Then at least there wouldn't be a risk of an innocent child brought into the world with the same disease as Shane 😕

@Jabroni2U 3 ай бұрын

@@WendyH10 great dad? how? can't even hug them or hold them. Kids need to be held and loved in the arms of both parents, not virtually held. A dad holds them, cleans them, hugs them, feeds them, takes them to school, carries them plays with them, protects them and more. A healthy person and a disabled person is not a good match. Too much work for the healthy person, especially if you start a marraige that way.

@Jabroni2U 3 ай бұрын

@@ThatTaRaGiRL why not the seed of a strapping black guy? Whats her name might enjoy it

@landracriswell437 3 ай бұрын

I went through AIs and IVFs for several years! Many tests, bloodwork, surgeries, pills & injections! It was very emotional and stressful to go through, without much support 🥺. I did have good news January 14, 2002, I conceived my beautiful daughter. I wish everyone good luck be strong and patience.. Endocrinologist in Louisville, Ky were wonderful to work with!!

@justinfernandes2506 3 ай бұрын

Thank you both for being so honest. Do not give up hope. I appreciate you both sharing your lives.

@tcconnection 3 ай бұрын

You guys have been through so much. Your sharing will help others. Glad you're at a point to just enjoy your life together now.

@awoken9151 3 ай бұрын

Quite the rollercoaster life has been for you these past few months. I'm so sorry the IVF did not work out for you. It is so nice to see your strong support for each other. Much love to you both.

@lisatague305 3 ай бұрын

IVF is such a roller coaster of emotions and it’s so personal ! I will share that I was 41 did 3 cycles and have a beautiful 23 yr old son . So it can happen if you decide to try again . Love to you both .

@letigre5822 3 ай бұрын

I love this story ❤

@sylvynwye 3 ай бұрын

I have watched you both since before you were married. I have never communicated. Thanks for sharing your lives together with us. You are both beautiful human beings.❤

@bernice4599 3 ай бұрын

❤🙂❤️

@DavesRange 2 ай бұрын

Sheep

@jakebiomask 2 ай бұрын

They are a fake couple.

@sylvynwye 2 ай бұрын

@@jakebiomask I don't believe they are a fake couple.

@sylvynwye 2 ай бұрын

@@DavesRange Sheep?

@jordannnndable 3 ай бұрын

Love to y'all as I go through IVF I know how EXHAUSTING the process is and the fact that y'all did all you could I know was so tough and you're so tough

@natalieharkins4161 3 ай бұрын

Hiya I know this is a totally random request. Could you read my comments above TY

@thompsoncindy42 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your IVF journey with your audience. Your resilience in the face of disappointing results will no doubt be helpful to others experiencing issues. Much love to you both❣

@user-ko2qt2md4z 3 ай бұрын

so well done for being so very open,i am disabled .married 25 years ,my wife is..not..disabled.we was told we could not have children,..we have 1,girl and 3 boys .so amazing .i am from,england.mark

@extremebrah 2 ай бұрын

I dont want to BE rude but are you sure you are the father?

@MrMo-bl5pq Ай бұрын

He is the father, as long as he shows the purest love to the kids..

@extremebrah Ай бұрын

@@MrMo-bl5pq nah man...He needs to do a paternaty test unless he wants to keep being in doubt.

@samuraijosh1595 Ай бұрын

@@extremebrah I think he won't have the courage to ask for a paternity test since he already feels he's over compensated because his woman has stopped down to date a disabled man.

@donnamckinley9807 Ай бұрын

"stopped" down to date a disabled man. What does that even mean? They are husband and wife and she didnt stop down or step down to be with the man she fell in love with. The problem isnt with them, its with poor souls that cant imagine disabled people having so much more to offer than their disability.

@NipoteZia 3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry things haven't worked out SO FAR, but I have great hope for you. I know it couldn't have been easy to make this video, and I also understand that there's nothing cavalier or easy about the message you delivered. So appreciate you sharing your lives, and I'm glad you're here in the city of LA. We love you.

@Suprachiasmatic 3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry this didn’t turn out how you’d hoped. 💙 thank you for being vulnerable enough to talk about it though!

@perfectdisabledparent6949 3 ай бұрын

Shane - I've been there/done that only to have multiple blanks most of which I never shared w my wife bc it worsened her heartbreak. Just have to live life and something may change down the road - it did for us! Lead on, ride on, fly on in solidarity!

@kellylogsdon 3 ай бұрын

Hannah and Shane, thank you for sharing your journey with this. So many people need to hear this. I am sure it's very very hard to share.

@CelticRover42 2 ай бұрын

Love and solidarity to you both. Appreciate you continuing to share your story and ways to help and encourage others.

@tammysantana7200 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for the update but I’m glad you took the time to yourselves. I love you guys I’m so sorry I didn’t work out as you’d hoped.

@annavallentin4662 3 ай бұрын

You 2 are so generous and brave to share your challenging journey and difficult results. Sending you very best wishes for peace and ultimate happiness.

@sadiehelen 2 ай бұрын

I’ve followed you guys for awhile. My parents got pregnant at 36 after 2 years of trying via IVF. My mom had a bad pregnancy many years prior to me being born and lost the baby, had major complications, hence the IVF strategy because she couldn’t go another route due to the previous complications. I was in the last batch and they had basically no hope, but here I am. I was one of the first 30 babies in MN to be successfully conceived through IVF in MN (according to my parents). I’m 31. They went through a lot of heartbreak before their last attempt (me). I am sending you a lot of hugs because this is such a crazy journey that not many people understand. My parents have explained it to me, and I actually have issues conceiving myself, now that I’ve gotten to adulthood - so I have a lot of empathy surrounding this topic. I am considering adoption if I continue to have issues. It may not be for everyone but may be an option. Anyways, thank you for the update even though it was a tough one. I am sending yall the best. Don’t lose hope. Or if you do, make sure it’s on your own terms. I’m not there yet myself - still trying. Hugs.

@susaninpgh 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for the update! You two are so brave to share your journey.

@Sketcher93 3 ай бұрын

I just love your relationship with each other. I'm 65 and happily single since I never found anything close to what u 2 have. I wouldn't settle for less so I fell in love with my independence. Cheers 🥂. Your admirer and lover of happiness, no matter how we get there ❣️.

@thefilipinojoe 3 ай бұрын

I agree 🎉 that single life is way UNDERRATED. I’ve enjoyed a GREAT life and am very happy. Part of the reason I am single is because I love my freedom, independence, and ability to do WTF I wanna do! Life is good and I plan to keep it that way. ❤

@kortneykennedy7303 3 ай бұрын

Do you want to be friends with me on tex I'm a girl I'm 38 old I'm in a wheel chair my body hurts me every day so if I ask you too play with your body on tex

@kortneykennedy7303 3 ай бұрын

Take a shower 🚿 for me then I will tell you what to do to your body on tex

@JulieIreland 2 ай бұрын

Saaame! Just turned 43. I live for my 3 daughters (ages 20, 18, and 14) and MYSELF. I'm 1000000% content!

@bobbyt2012 3 ай бұрын

Y'all are champs for putting this out there. It's such a tough thing that lots of people go through, but not that many people hear about. So happy you have a strong relationship and can get through the hardship. Much love to you both.

@toesinthesea1829 3 ай бұрын

IVF can be all consuming, it gives hope to so many but the void can be devastating & long lasting if unsuccessful. To remain focused on each other is so important & like many couples, this journey can take you to those unexpected chapters in your story. Thank you for sharing, your honesty and courage will help others in so many ways.

@kelliedaeges4449 3 ай бұрын

All support in your journey, it will come 🙏 ❤

@brittanyt33f 3 ай бұрын

Sending you both so much love from the Carolinas. Thank you for feeling safe to share that and for being vulnerable. I’m certain this video will help others who may be currently or have been down a similar path. I love seeing you two and admire your fairytale together. ❤

@maryrentscher2316 3 ай бұрын

That entire process can be exhausting and full of very high highs and very low lows. Lean on each other. The Serenity Prayer helped us a lot to keep on going. Wishing you both all the best

@oliviar.4416 2 ай бұрын

Oh wow, sooo emotionally intense! Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Wishing you happiness in whatever form it takes.

@DesireeStiles 3 ай бұрын

I did IVF with my disabled hubby and they did a surgical retrieval including tissue as they weren’t optimistic about the quality due to him being in a chair 25 years. I only had 5 eggs retrieved. We did ICSI and had 4 successful day 5 blast. 2 which are now our girls (ages 10&7.5) I’m so sorry you went through this loss, it’s so hard to process it all. I did have to do 2 rounds before I could do retrieval too. I hope you try again in the future and that you find success in creating a family.

@pamcakes1 3 ай бұрын

You gave it a good shot. My heart goes out to you. IVF is so emotionally and physically taxing. I didn't read any comments and hoped for a happy ending (sans fishy swimmers), but I'm glad you two took some time and are feeling a bit recovered. Maybe one day you'll feel up to trying again, but if not, that's OK too.

@mrsoph28 3 ай бұрын

Aw man, I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you. Glad you took time to yourselves to “get over it” as you say, who knows what the future holds for you two!

@TheCassierra908 3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for all the IVF struggles. It is so difficult. In 2005, my husband and i went through an unsuccessful IVF attempt. It was so extremely hard. For us the next year, we were blessed with our daughter amazingly naturally after 6 years of infertility. Thinking of you both. Wishing you all the best.

@sarahwilliams5376 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this rough news guys. So glad you can support one another through this tough time. Be kind to yourselves xxx

@jessicasmith307 3 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear about how your IVF journey ended this time. Thank you for sharing with us. Heartbreaking how hard it can be to conceive sometimes and how IVF is definitely not a guarantee of a baby 😢 I cried listening to this. It’s clear you both have been healing and getting through the heartache together. I had to do IVF too and it is incredibly emotional and overwhelming with so much pressure. Prayers for you both 💛

@kenbales9837 3 ай бұрын

You guys are the best, you can see the love between you two. Don't give up.

@ericherman5413 3 ай бұрын

God bless you both. We're all rooting for you. Keep your chins up and maybe you will see better luck with it in the future. ❤

@user-mf6qx1hn2r 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for telling your story! I can't imagine how that felt! Praying things work out for you in whatever way that may be!🙏🏻💞

@jennifernewell2530 3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry for what you've gone through and the unfortunate result. I'm glad you're relaxing, enjoying each other...and you'll figure out what's next when you do. Love from St. Louis.

@user-ff2wk6hf7m 3 ай бұрын

I love you both. Sending big hugs & just knowing you have each other is amazing. ❤

@dearestdrew 2 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear the emotional rollercoaster you guys have been through. We were all rooting for the “fishy-swimmers” along with you. 💔 Whatever path leads you two to parenthood will be well worth these trials. It’s easy to see how much love you have to give your future child(ren), and each other. Thank you for being so open & honest - I’m sure your transparency is comforting to many. 🫂❤️

@Winterstonecalling 3 ай бұрын

Right, my mother had me in her 40's and Dad was nearly 50. He too was disabled. U all have time and new advances can come around in the mean time as you continue to recover from the stress of it all.

@kathynewport4732 3 ай бұрын

I just started watching you both, hugs and enjoy each-other ❤️❤️

@davidgiancoli2106 3 ай бұрын

Best of luck to both of you. I and your many viewers care!

@mrs.k6169 2 ай бұрын

You two are awesome. Take all the time you need... it was but a stepping stone for future blessing. You're still young, and you never know what the future holds. ❤

@colsewell1512 3 ай бұрын

Totally there with you both. We are only just starting our IVF journey but everything in the UK takes SO long. Not sure how it is in the US, but here in England the communication is awful especially when it comes to giving bad news/bad results. I think it's really sensible to pause and reflect and give yourselves time to heal. At the end of the day, children are a blessing but they aren't the be all and end all of happiness. True happiness can be found all around us as long as we look for it. Sending you both lots of positive vibes ❤

@Bexar2204 3 ай бұрын

Talk about an emotional rollercoaster, I´m so sorry for you that it didn´t happen. Hope you´re doing well in LA.

@keidwyn 3 ай бұрын

So new to the lives of Squirmy and Grubs ,sounds like an exhausting rollercoaster ,Im sure you both had some pretty tough days but I love how you are both still able to smile and kid around ,laughter can be the best balm ,sending good vibes from Melbourne Australia .PS you guys give me hope regarding having a relationship I've kissed sooooo many toads that I lost hope ,but your love is beautiful and yeah I get it nothing is perfect ect but it feels to me so healthy and respectful ,guess what Im trying to say is ... I'd love to have what you guys have

@dianedavidson5283 3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry, honeys. That's a super, super rough thing. Thank you for being willing to share this very deep low. Best to you both.

@TaylorHaselton 2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Thank you for sharing with us all.

@heatherbrien5250 3 ай бұрын

So much empathy for you both. 💕

@barbaraoertli5947 3 ай бұрын

So sorry, hugs from Minnesota ❤

@erikshappywife 2 ай бұрын

I am so, so very sorry. Please consider adoption. My youngest son is adopted. His birth mother was one of our foster children and she came back and gave us her son because, she said, living with us was the only time she ever felt like a part of a family and she wanted that for her son. He was only 3 weeks old and weighed just 5 pounds when we got him. He is now 26 😊❤

@youthecat 2 ай бұрын

That is a TRULY special story! Very happy for you. :)

@amberhall1288 2 ай бұрын

Beautiful!!! ❤

@user-ij1ts9fe2o 2 ай бұрын

Love this. Thanks for sharing.

@marljusweety 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like she made a really good decision. ❤ You did good, in many ways.

@brightpurpleviking 2 ай бұрын

Your youngest son WAS adopted 😉 it’s a one time event, not a permanent state of being🥰. My kids were adopted at birth and I’ve always told them it was how they came into our lives, but it didn’t change their dna ❤ adoption is pretty cool, isn’t it? Just another way to build a family 😊 Someone told me that adoption is like…some people take a plane to Australia…others take a boat!

@jeffreycormier5754 3 ай бұрын

My heart just sunk for you 2. You have been on this for quite some time now. You both so deserve each other right now and always. Sending big hugs.

@lexipace6928 3 ай бұрын

Been a watched for years! Love you guys so much!

@chelseahealingtoheal 3 ай бұрын

Love your intro song!!! You guys are loved and supported ❤ thank you for being so open and brave going through this! I am so glad you have each other

@AnnaBaas 2 ай бұрын

Seeing my friends go through IVF, I’m pretty sure this is about the most you can ask of people. So hard. Glad to see you’re in a good place now and whatever will happen in the kids department, you will leave a beautiful mark on the world.

@llshamp1424 3 ай бұрын

Sending you both SO much love...❤

@bamfam9285 3 ай бұрын

I thought I was not fertil myself. I got pregnant at 41. I couldn't believe it. You 2 are young. If you want to have a baby take time and try again later. You will be great parents ❤❤

@CourtneyLynne0513 3 ай бұрын

41 wow! Did your pregnancy go smooth? If you feel comfortable answering of course but I was just curious because I know as you get older it’s more high risk. My mom was pregnant at 38 with her 8th (and last) baby she needed a c-section I forget why, but my sister turned out perfectly healthy and she is pretty advanced. I’m 26 but I still feel as if I’m running out of time to have kids. Someday I want to be a mom! Your family is beautiful btw!

@whatever8243 3 ай бұрын

@@CourtneyLynne0513I was 39 when I had my third. It was 17years after I had my first. It was a smooth pregnancy other than super tired. 37 weeks my blood pressure shot up so they induced me at 37 weeks. He was born perfect and I recovered well. He is 13and I’m now 52.

@celinuchis90 3 ай бұрын

@@CourtneyLynne0513 I feel the same way. I'm 33. 😬 I feel like I need to make my final decision when I'm 34 (I'm still not 100% sure if this is what I want).

@Beans_Autistic_Adventures 3 ай бұрын

I was 47. Truly thought I was done. I am now 52 with a 5 year old son a 32 and 29 year old daughter and 2 grandkids. Don’t get discouraged

@carmenrivers9674 3 ай бұрын

I have to say- I was saying the same thing you all are when this happened to friends/family....until my daughter in law & my son went thru infertility....she found the courage to tell us to just hug them, allow them to grieve, & that often we say " she's infertil" when alot of times, we don't know. I wish for nothing but the best for you both! Xo

@woundedwarriorartist6315 3 ай бұрын

Sending prayers for you guys. May God bless you two. ❤

@InsaneAng 3 ай бұрын

This was similar to my story. We only tried once. Too many people will say things to you that hurt but are intended to help! I don’t know how many times someone told me, “You’ll see, it’ll happen when you’re not expecting it!” “Just relax, it will happen eventually.” We had our kids through foster adoption and I am at a place where I am happy in many ways that it happened that way.

@jdaasa2011 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs to you both.

@donnalaughlinhogan3819 3 ай бұрын

Aw so sorry to hear your news ……glad you took time to adsorb this ….its so difficult to go through …take care both of you .enjoy your videos ♥️🇨🇦

@Karissa.Bendel 2 ай бұрын

The journey of infertility is so difficult! my husband and I have been on it for over a year now! We are starting our first IVF cycle in the next few months! Sending you both love in this challenging season🫶🏻

@maryannsalvatore7207 3 ай бұрын

Thinking of you both and I’m so sorry you have gone through this emotional roller coaster. 💗

@DirlingSwervish 3 ай бұрын

I'm glad you didn't talk about this until you were ready. ❤It's such a difficult rollercoaster. Thinking of you and just wanted you to know I understand.

@esmemendez3391 3 ай бұрын

The way I clicked on this video so quick! Aha love you guys!!

@Mosiebaby Ай бұрын

You are such beautiful people. Thank you for sharing your story and journey. It can be such a process and we are sending you all hugs!

@courtneyrichwine9235 2 ай бұрын

You both share so much, I hope people appreciate your willingness to share such personal experiences. I’m incredibly sorry for the difficulties. With how hard I’m sure things have been, you both seem so strong! Praying for the best in your future journey 💕🙏🏻

@dagmar9230 3 ай бұрын

Wishing you both the very best❤❤❤

@catwmn14 3 ай бұрын

Embryo adoption might be an option for you! We struggled with infertility and loss for the past five years before we moved onto embryo adoption. I got pregnant on the first try and it has been such a blessing for us! We love this little boy so much even though he’s not genetically related to us. Being pregnant with him makes me just as much his mom and it’s created a special bond. You can even adopt whole batches of embryos so that you can have genetic siblings! I know it’s not everyone’s first choice but it’s a beautiful option to consider.

@mekol3627 3 ай бұрын

What the... Playing with life. This is not natural at all

@phantasma616 3 ай бұрын

@@mekol3627 so rude. IVF and IUI aren't natural either but MANY people are here because their parents did them. how children are brought into this world is none of your business.

@Katee_and_Lincoln 3 ай бұрын

Genes make people, but People make families 🥰🥰🥰

@catwmn14 3 ай бұрын

@@mekol3627 the embryos are already created when another couple goes through IVF, whether you agree with it or not. People often have remaining embryos that they’re not able to carry or they made so many that they are done growing their family and can’t possibly use them all. I think it’s amazing that we’re able to give those babies life that they wouldn’t otherwise have.

@mekol3627 3 ай бұрын

@@catwmn14 so. Adress the cause of these "remaining embryos". Sounds like you talk about shoes or something. What is the limit in this playing with lives topic?

@fadumohussein9519 3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry! I pray you’re blessed with many babies together sooner than later .. healthy and happy!!

@yuriorozco9016 3 ай бұрын

Currently going through a similar procedure. I feel this to the core. Sending you guys prayers and strength ❤

@DoctorJoanieTool 3 ай бұрын

Sending you all love and peace. You are a beautiful couple and I hope there is a way - any kind of way - adoption or IVF or surprise - for you to be parents. Only because I know you’d like to be parents and you’d be wonderful ones! But your life is already filled with love and respect and adventure. I am glad you have each other and your beautiful family together. ☮️

@surfboard396 3 ай бұрын

I think that someday you guys will get the good news you’ve been looking for. I wish the very best for you. Much love.

@Jabroni2U 3 ай бұрын

Hope not for the kids sake

@surfboard396 3 ай бұрын

@@Jabroni2U Have a great day!

@karinjohnson6649 3 ай бұрын

Thank you both for sharing your journeys. We are honored to be a part of your lives!

@lourdessdarveniza3207 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing - you did your best and you should be proud of it .... what is inspirational about you two is that you love each other .... enjoy your freedom and continued opportunities to expand your professional creativity. You are so young and smart - rest for a while enjoy basking in the sun so to speak until you decide to tackle the next challenge ..... God bless you

@RianShafer 3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry it didn't work out this time. It's good that you've given yourself time to be able to talk about it. You didn't have to. Hugzzzz to you both.

@samanthamitchell269 3 ай бұрын

Sending hugs from North Carolina!!🙏🙏

@almaritagaleone8130 3 ай бұрын

So sorry, wishing the VERY best for you !! Keeping good thoughts for you!!

@caroncheatwood2566 2 ай бұрын

Y'all are such great people, I'm so sorry it hasn't worked for you... yet. Sending prayers and good vibes your way❤❤❤❤

@Wuv2000 3 ай бұрын

My husband had very low sperm and we did several rounds of ivf. Finally we went the adoption route and had a beautiful baby girl and boy. Totally happy but after 10 years I suddenly got pregnant all on our own! A precious son was born. They are all grown now but we have been blessed with 3 children who are all ours. Keep doing what you can for a child but there are precious babies out there that need good parents!

@SJC49 3 ай бұрын

My 28 year old Chinese daughter has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. Aren’t we lucky?😍🇨🇦

@JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate 3 ай бұрын

You're husband needs enclomiphene. His testosterone is probably flat lined

@Wuv2000 3 ай бұрын

@@SJC49 we absolutely are!

@FreeMare1042 3 ай бұрын

Such precious blessings.

@Koreleine 3 ай бұрын

I hear this so often, that people are told they will not get pregnant naturally and when they give up, suddenly the miracle happen. Nature goes weird ways sometimes.

@sgough83 3 ай бұрын

As an adoptive mom to 2, don't give up. Take your time to process. Sending love and peace ❤

@keoinabrown5893 3 ай бұрын

There are so many things I love about you guys. Thank you for being wise with what you share. I really respect that.! It sucks so bad that this IVF journey has been so difficult. So sorry you have not gotten the results you wanted. Love you guys! ❤️

@GTBD00_GuMMuG_JoJack 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts on your family planning journey. Wishing all the very best for you. Blessings and prayers Shane, Hannah, Chlo3, and peeps around the world.

@diamondj3869 3 ай бұрын

Hugs from Pennsylvania ❤️

@vdovii 3 ай бұрын

Whatever you choose in the future I hope it goes how you want. ❤

@Cindy-es4ob 3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that, I will say a prayer for you both. I know whatever comes your way, together you will find the path that's meant for you. Your attitude and humility is a reflection of the love and respect you have for one another and it is a beautiful blessing. Best wishes!

@Cullenore 3 ай бұрын

It’s such an Everest journey. Your attitudes frankly amaze me. Way to be. Live your lives and don’t dwell on what hasn’t happened in the family building arena yet. There are numerous other options. Take time. Breathe. And let next steps come if and when they will. Youth, love, and experience are on your side. Take good care of yourselves and each other. Wishing you the best in all things. ❤❤❤

@victoriadunnett4745 3 ай бұрын

So so sorry it didn't work for you both, IVF is often hailed as an answer and for some it is,the rest of us,a different story. Definitely take time to yourselves whenever you need,it's such a tough thing to go through

@lacyshoenfelt1620 2 ай бұрын

Infertility is just this side of emotional hell. Making the decision to discontinue treatment is so hard but the best one we ever made. Sending you love and peace in this chapter.