Our Friend Died by Suicide After Being Abused by Her Ex

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5 жыл бұрын

Meera Dalal, 25, from Leicester, UK, was a woman with a promising future: She had a great circle of friends, a close-knit family, and a good career. In 2013, Dalal was on a night out with her friends when she bumped into a man she’d dated briefly as a teenager. (He cannot be named for legal reasons.) They reconnected and began dating, and Dalal’s demeanor began to change.
She stopped hanging out with her friends and appeared preoccupied even when she did see them. Dalal often sent him photographs of where she was, and she was constantly speaking to him on her phone or on Skype. He attempted to physically assault her best friend after she counseled Dalal to leave him. Once he even obtained the CCTV footage from a restaurant Dalal had visited with her friends to check her whereabouts. It became clear to Dalal’s close friends and family that she was in an abusive relationship, but they struggled to know how to help her.
When Dalal ended the relationship, her ex began stalking her. He would turn up uninvited at the house where she lived with her parents. Her family says that he withheld her passport so that she couldn’t go on holiday with them. Dalal even began transferring large sums of money to his bank account.
On 15 February 2016, Dalal was found dead at her family home. She had died by suicide at the age of just 25. After her death, an investigation conducted by police watchdog Independent Police Complaints Commission (now known as the Independent Office for Police Conduct) found that Dalal had spoken to police multiple about the abuse, but refused to cooperate with officers investigating the allegations.
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@f1mcl 5 жыл бұрын

That guy should be in jail.

@bijees8866 5 жыл бұрын

Some men just don't understand that women are not toys that they can play with, take apart and throw away once they have lost interest in them.

@barrymanilow605 5 жыл бұрын

That guy needs to rot in jail

@nicoleloves9483 5 жыл бұрын

Please bring that guy down! Chances are he will do it to another girl. 😡

@lemonzest1492 5 жыл бұрын

Please take him to the court.

@Meg13Crossheart 5 жыл бұрын

This could have been me. I'm glad I have strong support systems and I'm glad I was strong enough to run away that night. I'm glad I'm here. Meera's family and friends are in my thoughts.

@misssu5311 5 жыл бұрын

my friend was in a toxic relationship with a gril, he changed and wasn't allowed to talk to anyone including his family. she emotionally abused to the point that they were arguing on the highway in the car and he jumped out .. he was brain dead and passed away a week later. So please when you see an emotionally abuse relationship with your friends or family, confront them and help them .

@maellescorner 5 жыл бұрын

Language is important when discussing suicide. Thank you for pointing out that she died by suicide as opposed to committing suicide. The former gives respect to her choices, the latter equates it to a crime.

@its_aduuhlene8828 5 жыл бұрын

Ladies, just put his name out there for the whole world to know. He'll get his.

@katie3449 5 жыл бұрын

Suicide?? Or Murder made to look like suicide?!?!

@Vianeigh863 5 жыл бұрын

I’m pissed for them. I’m pissed for Meera. They deserved better. Meera deserves better. Be there for your friends!!!

@maryrk0904 5 жыл бұрын

I resonate with this story so much. This was me.. I was her. I didn't see any other way of escaping him and I thought that death was my only release. I was lucky enough that my family was there at the right minute at the right time to stop me, and I was able to seek the help I needed. I am so sorry for these girls and for her family, and for Meera.

@dct4lif 5 жыл бұрын

Who's he ? where is his photo and what's his name ? So the public know who he is

@ARS-fn6px 5 жыл бұрын

And that kids, is called narcissistic abuse.

@harundaniel7705 5 жыл бұрын

what happened to Meera nearly happened to my sister, thankfully we got her out of the toxic relationship before something bad could've happened. In a conservative culture like mine (middle east / Asian), domestic violence is almost seen as something that comes with a relationship, everyone knows its happening but no one really dares to speak one on one with the abuser. Most of the blame goes towards the women in the relationship, I hope this really changes especially now that my family is one that stood up to jerks like my brother in law

@pennyt2777 5 жыл бұрын

I was abused when I was younger by a boyfriend, it wasn't physical but I remember the mind games being eerily similar to what these girls described. When you're with someone whos that controlling you start to believe that they will find out if you speak out, my ex had my passwords to all my social media, my phone, you name it and he was there. His reasoning was always "if you've got nothing to hide why should it be a problem" I still to this day feel that eerie feeling in the back of my mind when I talk about him. Like he's going to be so angry with me, hes going to see this, I think thats also why she told on her friend. Because he would probably not hurt her friend but he will most certainly hurt her. Also how they described that he made her believe things is also just very typical (in my experience, I am ofc not a medical pro), I know that feeling too. You no longer believe in your own mind because if you listen to yourself he will be mad, you will only be safe if you do exactly what he tells you. The level of control he needs over you makes you not want to go out because then you KNOW he will be mad. It is easier to comply, if you ever do get away you don't get away from the power he holds over your mind. I can't speak for all abused women, but for me it was never that I actually wanted to stay, whenever I felt a moment of freedom from him and was certain he wouldn't hear me I wouldn't think twice about sharing how much I despised him. I stayed because he gaslighted me (made me think I was mentally ill) to the point where he would manipulate me into thinking I made all of the abuse up in my mind and that he was actually just so nice and I was the poisonous one, but he loved me nonetheless because he was just so selfless. It sounds almost impossible if you haven't felt it yourself, but it is truly brainwashing, like a parasite taking over your body and theres no escape. Its mindcontrol, I have PTSD from it, it changes you as a person when you're in it, your whole life suddenly revolves around your abuser and making sure he doesn't have reason to harm you. But then again, even if you don't give a reason, he will find a reason, it is a miserable existence.

@talkindurinthemovie 5 жыл бұрын

Yikes...he is gonna do that to another woman

@pflynn623 5 жыл бұрын

This tragic issue is all too common. Thank you to Meera's friends for speaking on this. It is really important to have conversations about this and to protect one another. RIP Meera

@redwoods7370 5 жыл бұрын

He sucked the life out of her. God bless her soul. There are many people like him in the world who want to slowly destroy others and we all need to avoid those people as much as we can. They are murderers indirectly. God bless her beautiful soul.