I grew up with a mother who had week-long migranes almost every month, and i certainly never felt like i was missing out. That's just mom as i know and love her. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for what's out of your control

For as long as I can remember, my mum would lock herself in a dark room whenever she had a migraine. It just felt normal, just was told my mum was “ill” and to be quiet around her. I never felt like I was missing out, I just wanted her to feel better. It never effected our relationship negatively. So, mothers out there with migraines please don’t worry!

Parenting with chronic illness, teaching with chronic illness, working with chronic illness... LIVING with chronic illness. I love that you don't only show the good days and the perfect clips. You show what it's like AND that we find creative ways *usually* to still do what we want and need to be do, including sometimes just putting things off or asking for help. It's okay to be real. I tell my students when I have a migraine or when I feel one starting, they see me struggle over the playing field in my manual wheelchair, and they see me do my best "in the moment" even as I acknowledge it's not my personal best or what I had hoped for. Thank you for all your representation, advice, and just plain letting us know we are not alone.

Duuuuuuude.... "Do I feel left out?" yes! IBS of all things kept me in the house close to my toilet for eight days and my family tried to help by going to the library for me to get some fun reading. There was an interactive Beekeeping exhibit happening at the library that day, and it was also the same weekend as the arts festival, which they had to navigate through to get to the books. it sounded like so much fun and I was just ...at home... on the loo. Hugs.

I remember when you were devasted because your laptop broke and you didn't know how to afford to replace it. It is so nice to see you being able to support yourself and your family from this job now :)

Why do we, as disabled people feel like we have something to prove?? I felt like I just had something to PROVE--to show that I was USEFUL and vital to myself and to those I loved. So . . . instead of taking GOOD care of myself, I would push myself to the point of almost dropping to the floor. I would bake numerous loaves of bread, can fruit into the night and couldn't figure our WHY my head hurt SO bad and I couldn't move for days!! It has taken years to learn how to pace myself, recognize my short-comings and take better care of ME! Yes, I still get my "killer migraines" and THINGS still get done. But, in the meantime I rest through them. Yes, I can understand a 12 DAY migraine, and I can only say that I can relate!! Take care, Jessica; take good care. 👍💖😎

Ngl i was very curious about Claudia's profession as time went on, I thought does she have THAT much maternity leave?? Because it was never brought up, so wow! Its nice to hear she'll be working for/with you and amazing to think KZfaq could support your family! Its wonderful, so happy for you all!

The mental image of Jessica lying on the floor while Rupert plays around her just warms my heart ❤ Sounds like a really cute and chill family time

Watching a "Jessica in Bed" episode while having a "Rebecca in Bed" week makes me feel so seen.

I smiled so big when you said your thoughts were in a blender. Having chronic conditions I know exactly what you mean as I am going through that mind blender thing right now too.

I clicked this so fast as I'm a fellow mama with chronic illness that deals with migraines often. It's such a difficult balance that I've had to process a lot emotionally re my 2 year old little man. Hard to not feel guilt some days but having such a supportive partner with good communication has been integral. We had similar conversations too💗 Looking forward to this video and I send so much understanding and support your way.

I had a 8 day migraine during uni midterms week. I was really thinking about chopping my head off by the end. 😭 I had to commute for 3hrs (6total a day) with extra car sickness on top. Worst week ever, truly.

Migraines are an EVIL thing. My daughter has a migraine disorder plus epilepsy. She truely suffers so badly. I dont wish it on the worst person. You have my sympathy.

are there any fellow migraine sufferers who feel judged because you’re still capable of doing many things even during a migraine episode because you’re more tolerant to the pain than an average person? i sometimes just call my migraines “bad headaches” around other people simply because i’m capable of moving and doing some activities even though i feel like i have a screwdriver in my eye

Great video. I’m a long migraine too. In fact, just taken a trip tan as getting twinges. Between all phases of migraine they last anywhere from a week to a month. I’m currently using Botox too. It has helped somewhat. As I’m blind, and highly photophobia, light is one of my biggest triggers, along with stress, eye strain and my periods. Couldn’t have just had a normal trigger like cheese. Had to be things I have no control over. My husband and I tried for many years to become parents, 18 in total. After an IVF cycle where zero of my 10 eggs fertilised, we just couldn’t handle the stress any more. Giving myself that permission to grieve what we couldn’t have certainly helped for a while with migraine as a major cause of stress was the baby making. I’m now content watching a few channels in here through their parenting journey. I shall content myself to be a parent to our two lovely guide dogs in the house. This is a very long way of saying that your video resonated even though I don’t have children. If none if this makes sense, blame the painkillers!

My mom has had migraines until her menopause. Growing up, that meant sometimes, friends couldn't come over and we had to take care of our meals/stuff ourselves and be generally quiet. Sometimes it would suck, but you know, you see your mom being in pain and you don't take it against her 🙈. I don't know for my siblings, but i never felt like something was missing or that it was a problem, it was just this thing where sometimes mom can't help us out or tolerate noise and that's it. If we wanted to see our friends, we didn't HAVE to see them only at our house, we could go to their place or to the park, and we didn't HAVE to blast our music or the tv either, we could put on our headphones 😂. And now I have migraines too and I get it.

This was a great video, Jessica. And such great news we will get more Claudia content. Do you think she’d be interested in talking about the decision to cease working in favor of caring for your family in a video?

Rupert is an incredibly lucky child. And now he's going to have two parents at home all of the time!!! That's so great for all of you. Excited to see more of Claud and of the back of Rupert's head! I love it when you read to him. I don't understand a word, but it's beautiful.

Honestly, my mother having a chronic illness helped me to better understand others who have a chronic illness. She finds her illness to be very embarrassing in public, but I don't find it that way at all. I understand that she isn't able to do things, and I still love her.

I couldn't imagine having 12 day migraines. I get them but the longest I've had was three days. Oh Jessica I hope the migraine goes away soon. And that your jaw does eventually get stronger. Best of wishes to you and your family.

As someone who had "normal" migraines since my 6th birthday, which turned into "painless" migraines over the last couple years... It's still not better, even with "just" the neurological symptoms. I'm sorry darling 💜💜💜

My mother also had frequent, lengthy migraines. She was still a good mother and took good care of me. Dad was never resentful about it, and neither were any of us kids. It was just part of life with my mom. 💜 You're doing great.

I have dealt with depression and axiety much of my motherhood. It has been hard but like you said there are some bits that are hard but they pass. My son is now 20 and thriving and my daughter is 14 and they are good people who love their mum even when I am having hard days.

For someone not feeling their best & brightest, you are fabulous ❤

I think it's amazing that there's a way for disabled people to be the main earner in a family now. I wish you both the best ❤️

I feel for you. My brother has migraines and they aren't fun. Gentle hugs. I hope you get better Jessica.

I'm not a parent but I also have EDS and have just started employing a part time assistant/carer, which I am still dealing with some guilt about. But hearing you talk about Page is really helpful! I'm glad you have her. I love hearing you talk about disabled parenting.

What an cute story about Rupert going for rides with you on your electric wheel chair. I love hearing how you sign to him when you read, and he signs back. What a beautiful family you all (Including Tilly and Walter) all have!

i dont have a child but caring for myself feels like being a parent a bit too often. Your videos are amazing

Jessica, could you do a video on fomo and disabilities? I am really curious to your perspective

I'm so so glad for this channel, Jessica. I've followed you for a long time but it was some months ago that I got diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and CFS. It's been, brutal. I work in the development sector, in a very demanding job and I'm going to grad school in a month for again, a rigourous programme and I'm scared stiff about how to do it all, especially when my body feels on fire most times. I'm also a teacher, and teaching a class of rowdy adolescents with severe brain fog is Not Fun TM. I struggled a lot mentally for months after I got diagnosed and I still do sometimes, mostly with the grief for a life that I had earlier and this channel has helped me so much to just accept and live myself. To see you this happy, sorted, living your best and also managing your health gives me so much hope for myself, in a society that just repeatedly tells me that we don't get happy endings. I think I took notes during your pacing video because it gave me a lot of first hand knowledge that I wasn't getting from anywhere else and also made me feel that it's okay to ask for help. So thank you, Jessica, truly, for just being you.

That’s great news that Claudia will be able to stay home and work with Jessica! Rupert is a lucky kid!

I wondered if Claudia was going back to dentistry or not, I'm glad to know now :) I love that she can work for you and you all get that much more time as a family! I'm curious, if she's getting a paycheck herself or if all the funds from (the job? work? KF company?) just go into the household (only if you want to share). I had shared finances with my first husband and very separate finances with my second, and am always interested in how things work out especially when it's not two people getting totally separate paychecks from different companies/sources.

Also in the "Lockdown didn't change my life much" club 💜

year 12 student here^ whilst i don’t have any chronic illnesses i’ve been really struggling with several chronic conditions that worsened over my senior years and they’ve had such a negative impact on my mental health and self worth especially with my grades drastically falling and quite frequently not being able to do anything but lie there. not oNly does watching your videos bring me a sense of comfort in telling me that i’m not alone and not worthless, but i aLso feel so incredibly amazing to have “my lesbian mums” and a beautiful representation of lgbtq+ love and parenting with disabilities as someone who very well may end up in a similar situation down the road. thank you for everything, jessie and claud (and rupert, tilly and walter) for filling the previously gaping hole in me and being the most amazing role models, i love you all ♡

Thank you for the reminder: don't be scared! Sometimes I psych myself out and worry that I won't be able to cut it as a mother with all my disabilities and health issues, my wife does as well.

Jessica, I cannot thank you enough for your channel. It helps me so, so much. Tips on energy conservation, and your explanations of your symptoms are very comforting. Your video about "you are not useless" is my go to video when I get very depressed about my limitations. Queer History 101 is my favorite. As an older lesbian, I am often worried about our LGBTQ youth. They are living in a world I could not have imagined as a youngster. But, they need to know what it took to get here. They do not usually know about Dr. Hirshfeld and the institute of the library he had collected from the scraps of our early history. There was a vibrant community of queer and gender non conforming people who were living openly in Berlin. And, how many of the community were murdered and experimented on. Or how they were tortured before they died. Please feel better. You are a superstar ✨️ for me.

As a fellow migrainer, I highly recommend getting custom earplugs! My quality of life has immensely improved since I got mine

as someone who is disabled, these videos always bring me so much comfort. I don't always have the most understanding people in my life, and can often be made to feel like I'm not doing enough when I'm trying my best. thank you so much for your videos. just by living your life, you prove that you can make accommodations for most things. I don't mean this in an inspo porn kind of way, just that it means so much to see someone being frank and honest about their capabilities and disabilities and still able to have a full, wonderful life.

Thank you Jessica for all this parenting content. Honestly it feels like a breath of fresh air with all the parenting noise on the internet. We're on our TTC journey and having your videos to fall back on or come back to for advice and positive parenting mental health is incredible (as in reminders to take care of yourself and such) and not in a toxic positivity way. All your advice and wisdom is based in practicality and reality and it's so great, so thank you. Feel better and thank you again 💖

Thankyou so much for this. My partner and I are both disabled in different ways and we are trying for our first, and the thought of how to manage bad days has been haunting me. I am so grateful for what you put out into the world. There's little enough representation of disabled parents as it is, and your work is wonderful.

i also grew up with a mother that had frequent migraines - and i can assure you that it wasn't something that traumatized us. sometimes mom just has a migraine and needs to lay down quietly for a bit and dad has to take over

As a fellow chronic mom, you’re doing a great job! Every parent is different.

I’ve dealt with chronic migraines to the extent that I didn’t even really notice the migraine until it was gone.

Thank you for making these videos where you have to stay in bed because you aren't feeling well. They make me feel better about the days when I have to stay in bed because of my disabilities, and that means a lot to me.

I'm in bed with a migraine right now, I am/was scared to have kids but man your video made me feel seen and that maybe it can be done. You make me feel less alone and empowered even when my mind betrays me.

my favourite part of the video is definitely at 3:10 when jessica waving her arms around and then goes ‘oh no shouldn’t do that’ lol, like it’s so relatable!! i do things like that really often, i just make a simple movement and go oops shouldn’t do that. it’s such a small thing but i’m glad it was left in :]

My partner has a chronic illness (Rheumatoid arthritis) she was diagnosed with at 4, and suspected neurodivergence. I myself have chronic mental illness which I've been learning to manage for over 10 years now. Similarly to Claudia, when we got more serious I had a bit of a crisis like, "omg will we be able to give our future children the childhood they deserve?!" Seeing you two overcome obstacles together is really reassuring that we can do this. You two are fantastic mums and Rupert is so lucky to be in such a loving and nurturing home!

Thanks for this. Today was a bad pain day with my chronic illness and just lifting my 18 month old left me nauseated with pain. Watching this video made me feel less alone. Reading the comments from children of parents with chronic illnesses helped me to enforce the idea in my own head that I'll be more to her than someone who has to rest a lot. I appreciate all of you.

Congratulations on Claudia working for you! You make a great team.

I am on the verge of tears -- thank you for this video. I also have EDS and it causes me no end of pain and exhaustion, and I'm in a bad stretch right now. I feel rotten, my head is pounding, everything hurts and most major joints want to dislocate, and I'm bringing home my service dog puppy in a few weeks, which I have to drive five hours myself to fetch, and I've been so ill that I have been horribly anxious about whether I really should do this because I have to train him myself (I can't afford a program-trained one). The first few months are remarkably like the first few months with a baby, and I've already had to go through the agony of deciding not to have my own children because of the location of some ligament damage in my lumbar spine and a horrible allergy to progesterone that make the endeavor unadvisable; in that I know what the overlap with a new puppy is, I have been feeling so inadequate and broken. Forgive my rambling, but this hit home today, and I needed to hear it.

That comment about childcare is my life. Ever since my first kid was born, I've gotten comments about why we don't just put them in daycare and I get a job. Because in order for us to put them in daycare, everything I'd be making at said job would just be going to pay for that, so why am I working just to pay for someone else to raise my child?

Watching this months later, but so relieved you didn’t have cauda equina, Jessica!! I had it in 2017 and thankfully had surgery within about 18 hours so I’ve recovered quite well (I’ve got some lingering issues with my “fun” nerves that are a bit too talkative and some muscle pain, but all the scary stuff resolved!) Sorry for the life story, it’s just that whenever I hear cauda equina syndrome somewhere, I try to leave a comment . Because it’s so rare, people can feel very alone, and I hope that by commenting I can maybe help someone reading. Thanks for all the lovely videos! This one has been particularly helpful as I’m navigating some of the same concerns. ❤

Love your honesty and perspective on these incredibly important issues and how graceful and vulnerable you are when talking about yourself and your life! I think you are such a wonderful person and I hope you get some relief and rest soon and quality family time

Jessica, I really feel for you having pain as you do, especially the migraines. I am proud of you and Claudia (I'm OLD so I can be proud lol) for giving Rupert such tools and skills to be a more independent, capable child, and his ability to communicate his needs, wants etc.. I'm thinking that will help ya'll as parents as he grows, with less frustration from Rupert or extra work as parents. That is massive ! All because ya'll incorporated your skills and the proven Montessori methods. Changing routines, activities for him is being addressed well because you find "a work around" (your saying !) any conflicts. While you have your own unique issues, other parents with or without disabilities, will have to do some adjusting as well and the child is still being cared for very well. Rupert's got your back Jessica/Claude !! 👶🏻

These videos remind me of when my boys were little... I'm so glad to see/hear that neither of you had ppd... I did, and I have a lot of regrets from things I missed out on because I was nursing and couldn't take medication but felt numb a lot of the time. Even with the numbness and sadness, it was still a magical time, babies teach us so much about ourselves, and it doesn't seem to cost them anything to do it.

My mom and I both suffer from chronic migraines. As a little kid mine weren’t as often but my memory of my moms migraines was that sometimes she would go ‘nap’ on migraine days, and she made me feel tough and cool for being able to swallow pain meds when I had one. When I was around 11, she was single parenting my older sister and I and still made it work. I have a very distinct memory of coming home from school to see “migraine upstairs” scrawled in wonky handwriting on a white board. It looked like something out of a horror movie lol. For the most part her migraines did not significantly impact her parenting, and we are weirdly closer because of it because she understands and knows what to do. However, my mom does push herself too hard to avoid worrying others about how bad it is by asking for them help. That day when I was 11 I remember feeling very worried because I knew that my mom drove herself home when she couldn’t even write straight. I was so scared she was going to get into an accident driving with a migraine. After I expressed this she reassured me that she understood and would ask for help next time. Being chronically ill with an unjust medical system helped give her a certain habit of problematic independence that she passed onto me. It’s something we are both individually working through after realizing how much of an issue it can be. This doesn’t seem to be much of an issue for Jessica which is fantastic, but I mention it for anyone in the comments who might relate, or need to hear to prevent passing on the same habit to their kids.

Omg I’m so excited for Claudia!!! Could you do a video about how you came to that decision and how her family reacted to it? I’m so excited for you two and Rupert!!!!

Hi Jessica! I just wanted to let you know that last week I was at the rheumatologist to check for psoriatic arthritis and ended up getting diagnosed with hEDS. My doctor was so surprised when I told her I had heard of it but its because I watch your videos! I first subscribed to you to learn more about being deaf because I had quite a few deaf members of a discord server I am the admin for. I've learned so much about myself and people with other disabilities from watching your videos. I just wanted to say thank you

Gentle reminder, we love you & your beautiful family! Thank you for being such a light to all of us. I hope your migraine calms down, I have hEDS and tend to get them often too, they are lovely.

This came just as I was having high disability day. It's just what I needed! 🥰🥰🥰

You do a lot of the same I did/do. I've actually made my livingroom my bedroom too now. We have a small house, kids all need their own rooms, and I actually don't. It allows me much more time and space with my children, and if we need time out, it's everyone to their own rooms to cool down, or go play out the back, in the toy room (enclosed patio), to the park, etc, either on their own or with a support worker and/or siblings. I can do time out with others in the room by popping my "soundproof" headphones on, playing something through them, and wrapping myself up in my weighted blanket. No one else is allowed on my bed when I'm having time out. Right now, I don't need time out and have my Daughter asleep on my bed next to me. It has been so much better this way and I do not regret it. My kids are 8, 10 and 14 now, so their needs are different now, and so are mine as I have become increasingly bedridden. This way ensures all our needs are better able to be met and I don't feel overwhelmed in a small room with everyone in there, or forgotten in a room that can be ignored, both which happened previously.

That last part is very interesting, it really puts it in perspective to hear someone with a chronic condition talking about how comforting it is that the hardships of parenting are temporary, I never thought about it that way

Thank you Jessica for sharing so much! As a chronically up and down ill person myself it is soooo validating to see and hear someone else going through this and how to deal. I appreciate you and Claudia sooo much. I just thanked my husband for being as awesome as Claudia is, and for all his help and understanding. Also i think Rupert has amazing moms and is adorable!

I don't have a chronic physical illness, but I have OCD and depression. I REALLY relate to what you said about how other people come to university to have fun, but you've come to university with this baby to take care of. That was me too. 💔

Just woke up from a migraine that started at 5 AM and caused me to throw up until 7:30 AM...Jessica, I literally feel your pain :,)

I bow my head to you. You impress me a lot. I have migraines too sometimes. Those last three days though, pretty bang on the dot. I find the idea of 12 days a little bit scary. I don't really cope well when I get sick. I just sit in a dark room with the duvet on top of my head hissing at anybody who dare turn on the light. Not only am I impressed with how you cope with these migraines, but I am impressed with how well you are with Rupert. Everything about you just emanate love. And I find it so cute to see him sign. I am not a mother, or anyone experienced with a child, so this might not mean anything to you, but from my point of view you are a great mother, and Claudia is a great mother.

As someone who has had to go to the er/urgent care three times this year because my migraines simply Do Not Stop without medical intervention sometimes, I always feel a little less alone with mine whenever Jessica talks about hers. It’s always isolating to think about because I don’t know anyone else who deals with migraines as often as I do who ALSO has to deal with them just…. Not stopping after three days and the sheer and utter pain in the ass that can be.

You help me immensely, when I find a wife in the future and we have kids, I will be a mum with EDS, a chronically ill parent, the non birthing mum, and it is very reassuring to see you and see how you are an amazing mum and just as valued as Claudia is to your son. Thank you!! Xx

One of my best friends growing up had a mom with Lupus. She was great! Even though sometimes she couldn't drive us places or make us food because she was feeling ill, it sort of taught us to do things on our own while still knowing if we messed something up really badly we still had a parent there for backup. My friend and I learned how to properly cook pasta together as two twelve year olds, lol. We went out and played in the yard or did quiet indoor activities while her mom was resting and it wasn't a big deal. And at least for me as just a friend and not someone who lived there full time, I can say I didn't resent her for being ill at all. She was a lovely, funny, playful woman. She passed away a few years ago and I think about her sometimes, always fondly.

My mum has chron's, she's had it for a long time, so I grew up with a chronically ill mum. I never felt like I missed out. Mum was sick, sometimes she couldn't do things that other mum's could. That was just my mum. She let me know that she loved me, and that is what I most strongly remember from my childhood. Yes I remember her going ino hospital, and passing out, and being ill, of course I do. But that was such a small part because, much like you, she did what she could around that to make sure that that wasn't all there was. I'm glad that your earlier fears turned out to be less of a thing. Hope that you are feeling less migrain-y.

I'm the 2nd of 3 kids in a family where my mom had chronic migraines all through my childhood for at least half the month (and still does but has thankfully found some relief in the past couple years). I'm also adopted. It's interesting seeing this from a parent perspective. I never thought of my mom as less than or different than any other parent she's just my mom. I've also realized how she built rest into her life, I have vivid memories of being in our living room for "quiet time" with my younger brother and how we knew this was our rest time and hers, and we got to watch Berenstain bears episodes during that time which thought was awesome because TV was a novelty at our house 😂. It was our time to wind down and relax and my mom got to rest also. Then went back to our day.

"I don't care" best answer for judgment

Just want to say again, I'm personally thrilled we get more content with Claudia and Claudia's artistic eye cast over it. I'm also thrilled you are raising a proper British gentleman who is obsessed with the weather! Xxxx

I have had migraines since I was 12. I learned later I inherited them from my father, my mother never got headaches - at least until she developed a steroid allergy, even then they weren't bad. 12 is also, apparently, when I developed my food allergies, one of which gave me inflammations, including migraines. Lovely... So, after university - during which I totaled a car and received an head injury... yes, more headaches... my mother suggested I go to an allergist. That was 1976. I followed his advice, did my best to avoid my food allergies until 1984 when I got into my worst food allergy and had such a reaction that I'd rather have a migraine! I knew how to cope with those! So, flash forward a few more years and a friend, who also had some interesting food allergies, decided to have a baby. Well, I figure, correctly, that babies and seeing friends a lot, did not go hand and hand. She told me, after she had her second child, that I was the reason she decided to have a baby. (Me? I don't even LIKE babies!) She said that if I could cope, work full time and still enjoy life, she figured she could do what she had always wanted, to have a child, or two. Oh, and when she was pregnant with her first baby, at 6 months, they discovered breast cancer. They took the breast, but didn't put her on chemo because of the baby. She wanted to breast feed, they said they'd let her have a month, then revisit it. She breast feed both kids. Still, that was surprising, but there was another time too. There was a lady across the street with two kids and a husband who was molesting the daughter. She said she looked across the street, saw two single ladies - former roommate, not a partner - living without needing a man and kicked him out. If you had ever asked me before those events if anyone would see me as something to base any part of their lives on, I would've thought you were crazy. You never know...

I too am stuck in bed, and have been for a few days. I’m not physically disabled, but I caught some bug of some sort which is really taking the energy out of me. Watching this channel has really helped me feel good, learn some sign and things about babies, and I feel really seen in that I want to be able to do more than I’m currently capable of. I really love you guys, thank you for sharing this with the internet ❤️

Some of my fondest memories are being snuggled with my parents in their bed while they had a migraine. It was so much fun for my sister and I. We'd pretend we were the Swiss Family Robinson in the tree house. My parents would put on a movie while lying with a cool cloth over their eyes. As a kid it was more the thrill of being with them and getting hours of cuddles.

My mother was disabled and so am I and I think we both did pretty great. Watching you really helps especially on a sick day for me. Stay lovely

My grandma had chronic migraines throughout her life and was bed-ridden for days on end when my mom was growing up, and I guess I got her genes because I get them too! They suck SO much and the feeling of being left out and missing important things is the worst! I feel you and It’s so comforting to see a fellow lesbian with chronic migraines and other health issues. You have given me hope that I can start a little gay family and do what I love despite my health problems. Thank you Jessica!

I don't know how in the world you can talk with a migraine (not discrediting you just honestly amazed by your strength!). I get sinus migraines due to allergies/pressure change in the air. I describe them as someone squeezing my temples a hard as they can, hitting me on the back of the head with a baseball bat, and punching me in the face. All while feeling like I'm going to throw up any medications that may help me. I end up curled in a ball until the pain dies down enough to take medication... I'm just so impressed that you are able to make a video like this, it is really encouraging that I too can try and overcome my migraine as allergy season approaches.

Hope you feel better soon - you’re doing a great job!

This brings me a lot of comfort about my future, thank you! Hope your migraine goes away soon and sending supportive hugs and love to you all💜

As someone who has a genetic condition and mental health issues the way you bash dissolve stigma and break down mothering with a disability is so relieving i just cried happy tears at this video, my biggest dream is to be a good mother like you and this makes me feel like I can thank you Jessica for absolutely everything 💕

That video was a pleasure to watch! 10.06: You only sign with Rupert💡this signing seem to be a treasure trove of insights! Please continue with this subject! I have a feeling we can learn a lot from that! Claudia your videographer THAT explains a lot! The quality of the camera work had been very noticeable to say the least and notwithstanding that Claudia is a fully fledged presenter in front of the camera! Moreover in parts where she is "the subject" in her role as wife and mother, she has a natural presence that doesn't let show her awareness of the camera but is able to use it to her advantage! She is able to show her "best side" without acting. That is something even not every seasoned KZfaqr is able to pull off! I hope you get better soon!

I'm not surprised to hear that Claudia is going to be giving up her profession, given you both have other options now. I hope she will talk about it in the future because this is something potential parents should think about when childcare costs are so high!

Thank you for this. As I’ve gotten older, I’m more and more terrified about what having children will look like. I feel like you do or did, that taking care of my body is like caring for another human (or at least 3/4s of one). It’s made me so scared that I just won’t be able to be the parent I want to be. It’s so encouraging and relieving to see that it can happen. And that it’s not just all struggle or forced pain. Wishing you a better day! Thanks for being a stage ahead and showing it to me. ❤️☺️

Oh man, my longest migrane was 3 days! (But I have on again off again migranes. When its bad its 1 day migrane one day off. 3 day migrane 1 day off. Etc.) My husband and I are considering TTC again. I can carry, my condition isn't likely genetic (they don't know for sure though). Luckily we got a puppy first so we got baby arguments out of the way and I think a baby will be easier because of it. Also I remember during lock down yall said how you wish you could be together 24/7 but you can't because Claudia does dentistry, im happy you found a way back to that! Hope your symptoms subside soon, and have a great day. Even if a great day is baby cuddles in a dark room 💜

I am so sorry that you were feeling ill. You uplifted me today so maybe I can return the favor. Without going into details, I had a couple of experiences at work today that made me feel like the 'poor useless little cripple girl". After hours of being grinding my teeth and hiding my tears, I disabled husband told me " give yourself a treat and go watch! Jessica." Listening to you didn't just help calm me down, but it made me feel a lot less alone. Knowing that you would do a video like this even though you don't feel well just for people like myself made me feel a little more loved and a lot more special than my job did today. I think that's your gift. There are times when your simplest gesture or gentlest voice makes us feel like we belong. Thank you for that. I know I really needed it, and I am sure other people do as well.

I think it's really nice that you were able to be honest with yourself about a feeling of missing out. I'm trying to do that more myself.

Watched this as I'm recovering from a migraine...I also have scoliosis, TMJ, and migraines that can last for two weeks or more. One of the biggest things that's helped me during my struggle with chronic illness is a grateful, positive mindset. Sounds like b.s. until your body breaks down and you realize the one thing you have control over is your mindset! Sending love to Jessica and anyone else who's also having a rough day. 💜

Thank you for sharing your story so openly. My sister is chronically ill. Children adjust and they know when they are loved.

Thank you for your videos. They never fail to touch my heart. It is thanks to you that I have been able to come to a point of relative peace with my body and my health issues for the first time in 25 years. I am so grateful for everything you share. It has changed my life and made me find patience with myself. Also, congrats to all of you on Claudia's new career path! It is so exciting that you will all be able to share a life working from home together. :)

Thank you for being the role model we all need in the world!

Thank you so much for this! It's so amazing that you can be so vulnerable and honest.

Beautifully honest video! Thank you for sharing!

Thank you so much! You are such a gloriously beautiful human being ♥️

thank you for taking the time to address this. I have worried about this very topic myself, and after hearing from you i feel comforted

As someone struggling with alot of chronic illness, your are an inspiration for me (not in a bad, pedestal way). It is good to see someone who struggles in ways that are similar to me succeed, and it helps me believe that I can find ways to make my bad days less bad (at least in terms of morale). I hope that makes sense.

I think it’s wonderful that Claudia is going to stay home. I’m so sorry about your headache I’m on day four and I’m miserable. You’re a fantastic Mom.