What I wish I learned in my 20's - Privacy Over Secrecy

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2 ай бұрын

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@CinnamonSanctuary Ай бұрын

Good on you for wanting to keep things private. But I feel like influencers decide to stop sharing things right after a breakup. The pattern goes: oversharing then breakup then intense bouts of self-love, cue lots of posts about how we need to take care of number one then a YT post announcing that people are nosy, never sharing anything again etc. It’s a formula at this point, I’m seeing this everywhere for some reason!

@Rebel_Leader7 Ай бұрын

Spot on! Clearly, the lifestyle influencers private life is their CAREER/BUSINESS - nine and a half times out of ten. They put it all out there, milk it for every penny they can get then jump on the privacy bandwagon when they divorce or break up because the wonderful life and illusion of authenticity they were selling and making bank from is all collapsed.

@CinnamonSanctuary Ай бұрын

@@Rebel_Leader7 You put it much more eloquently than me, absolutely agree!

@cillae8119 Ай бұрын

Has she said she broke up?

@NeneBlessing Ай бұрын

Beautiful makeup looks 😍

@AJ-jw6yp 2 ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more. Limit what you share of your private life. Not everyone wishes you well, and the more people know about you, the more entitled the feel to opinions about your life.

@beatricedevarenne2621 2 ай бұрын

Even in our own family

@marilynfarley9213 2 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@RocknRollDina Ай бұрын

sharing was how influencers were making their money back then. Now they can just do ad and pnly make videos with paid sponsorship. but 10 yrs ago if you werent sharing real life, no one was watching. Even today, a lot of people are trying to come up on social media by oversharing. It's jsut the game. You play it for a few yrs then shut it down and only post when paid to. The TY ad revenue isnt enough anyhow, sponsored content is what really pays

@leilariley936 Ай бұрын

It's the price you pay for fame...don't put your business out there,where nobody ask/push you;then when something happens...you suddenly start to 'drop words at the people who've stood by you,all these years,most of the vlogs currently are ads...and people are still committed .Attack the people coming directly for YOU!!

@tendaihatoongo4433 2 ай бұрын

The Chicnatural is one influencer who strikes the perfect balance between sharing her life and privacy.

@Banzai026 2 ай бұрын

I agree!! I love her content!!

@leocadiabaptista9516 Ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree more, love her as well

@providenceluyiga4488 Ай бұрын

Yessss

@Flourish_today Ай бұрын

I think Jenny Jenkins is also a private one. She has been private from the get go.

@suziesmith9076 Ай бұрын

@@Flourish_todayshe also lost her following. You can’t start sharing all your business then suddenly stop, your audience was built on knowing what goes on with you.

@therealmykag 2 ай бұрын

I know people are really excited to share their kids, but please don’t post their full government name and DOB online. Identity theft can ruin their whole life. Even private accounts, never forget that 90% of victims know the perpetrator.

@marthal8862 2 ай бұрын

Money Mel really has learned from the mistakes of the OGs and it’s lovely. You guys were trailblazers and you didn’t have instructions! You wrote the rule book and have now made this industry easier to navigate for the girls that came behind you and are still to come ❤

@crestarose Ай бұрын

This!!

@cillae8119 Ай бұрын

Facts

@kemiesther2971 2 ай бұрын

This definitely applies to life outside of socials, especially because I've been getting questions from family members recently about when am I going to get married and I'm just thinking I don't talk to you like that so its none of your business smh

@moniqueclarke-w2747 2 ай бұрын

I always knew when my time came to be a mother, I didn’t ever want to share the most precious, transformative journey of my life so far online.

@leiajack638 Ай бұрын

I feel like it works for Mel as her brand was never about her personal life, her hubby or kids. It’s about HER style! And she has never shared anything so people don’t expect that of her. She got her following without it.

@RavenRaeRaeAlexis 2 ай бұрын

Girl I’ve missed you! Haven’t seen a video in years, You were my favorite back like 5-6yrs ago. I’d watch your hauls everyday

@stylebykatb.5661 2 ай бұрын

Although I have watched KZfaq for years and have consumed a lot of videos regarding folks private lives I did kinda cringe at times when I would see folks exposing very intimate details of their lives on the internet to thousands of people. It’s just not wise to expose your life to strangers in such detail - something has to be sacred, especially folks kids. I would never expose my children on the internet too many creeps out there - this video is giving some good advice more video content creators should take heed

@LoreBrown 2 ай бұрын

the skin match is rude! LOL! loved that!

@peachypie3442 2 ай бұрын

Patricia, Patricia, Patricia! This was right on time and a true confirmation. Girl you’re successful. I’ve been with you since Day One( under another channel). Not everybody wishes you well and I have been a victim of situations like this. Now I move in silence. To hell with how people feel about it and what they have to say. I’m proud of you sis. Proud of all the Patty fam👏❤️‍🩹🙏💪

@jacquelineruple8339 2 ай бұрын

Yes, keep your family protected with privacy. Enjoy your PEACE. You are the influencer . You are doing wonderful enjoy Yes the chicnatural has never shown her husband etc Just be happy

@muk9463 2 ай бұрын

I love this Patricia, way to go.

@ChavonJWright 2 ай бұрын

Me, DEEP in these thirties, smashing the download button: Omg I need to hear this!!! 😅

@crestarose Ай бұрын

Totally agree with this and love how private I’ve always been … it’s hard to grow a creative career though! Everyone wants to feel like they know you before they invest in you!

@candisweets8627 2 ай бұрын

That skin match is insane ❤

@veesvoyages Ай бұрын

Really great topic! It's so true nowadays we need to get the balance right of what is shared online. Love this video format and concept!

@Ayaayaayag 2 ай бұрын

Girl what happened to Mike ??

@lb1367 3 күн бұрын

Patricia is out here living life like she’s a single women. Secrecy and viewer manipulation gets views and likes. However, Its not ever our business. But Pulling back now is sus tho 🤷🏾‍♀️

@brendatajik6150 Ай бұрын

Excellent points, Patricia. I've been watching you for over 8 years, and you've made quite a life for you and your family. Well done!😊

@tailsoftoulouse9458 2 ай бұрын

I love your videos and makeup!!

@adoremilliana 2 ай бұрын

I know am going to love this 🥰

@Bells2141 2 ай бұрын

Never been those early!! Love this ❤

@SloantheBeast 21 күн бұрын

3/4 of my pregnancies were "secret" not just on socials but irl. I believe in "mal de ojo" people's intentions aren't always what they seem and protecting the peace of myself and my family is a non negotiable for me.

@zona_davani Ай бұрын

I’m so proud to see you in this place in your life. You started on this so young and social media influencing was untapped ground. You are one of the pioneer of this space so surely you will have gotten burnt for the ones after you to learn and for you to learn. You’re amazing Patricia. In my head you’re my bestie 😅❤

@Ruby-kr6fh 2 ай бұрын

In case you don't know, all of your social media links in the bio are dead, they don't go to your profiles. I tried visiting them and thought you wiped yourself off the face of the earth lol but when I googled your correct accounts came up

@CocoFrankie 2 ай бұрын

Perfect timing ❤

@cynthiaetty3549 2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much,was singing Tyla Jump the other day.🥰🥰😁😁😘😘

@FopsyTheGreat Ай бұрын

Needed this! Thank you 🎉

@RocknRollDina Ай бұрын

Patti was definitely an over-sharer. That delivery vlog of Nova was wild. But we love the openness. I think the nosiness comes from people not seeing Mike and wondering if you're together. Can't be surprised when you share your hubby then dont and people wonder where has he been. part of being an influencer is being personable (to a certain degree). But I get where you're coming from. I dont even share my kids on social media thats only my friends...nope. privacy always..but im also not an influencer. But lets be real, you only make sponsored content and all your instagram content is you flexing or promoting a product. I get it, its your job, no critique..just saying

@rsmith1820 Ай бұрын

And that's why I only look for Patricia every now & then. She's like a friend who you've drifted apart from but you still care. Like she said, she went from sharing EVERY aspect of her life to trying to guide us to the path of investment & wealth to material things that some of us simply can't (or don't want to) afford As a viewer from WAY back, I am happy for her growth & hope she's happy But she just told us all - as tactfully as she could... TO MIND OUR BUSINESS ABOUT HER LIFE OUTSIDE OF WHAT SHE POSTS as long as the sponsors continue to roll in funding trips & gifting items, gotta respect her gangsta.

@homodeus8713 Ай бұрын

So good to see you again. Algorithms are full of mischief!

@annalisemodeste9390 2 ай бұрын

This is for me🙌🏾 lords know I talk to much😅

@Jazeerakiko Ай бұрын

So lovely And loved the makeup ❤❤❤❤❤

@marissathomas9327 2 ай бұрын

Here super early ! Where tf you been lol 😂 waitttt KZfaq has not been notifying me 😭 I got a lot of catching up to do

@RocknRollDina Ай бұрын

But all that being said, the question is: Are you and Mike still married??...is that secret or private?

@LILIBOSSY 14 күн бұрын

She is wearing her wedding ring

@cloudhi Ай бұрын

Can you please elaborate on the differences of secrecy vs privacy?

@theetravelhippie 2 ай бұрын

spot on

@Nourishwithdevin 2 ай бұрын

I so appreciate this perspective ❤️TY

@QueenOyinkan Ай бұрын

Peakmill is also great at keeping her personal life private

@Mayan144 2 ай бұрын

Hi Patricia!!!!!

@reginadmahabirfmworldperfu211 2 ай бұрын

Hi Patricia how can one purchase the eyebrows pencil that you used?

@mrsroseyp109 2 ай бұрын

Look what y’all done did…I’ve realized that creators that I grew with have all rebranded to being more private about their lives…I understand but I’m not sure how I personally feel about it…I’m personally super private…which is why while I thought being a creator was awesome, and I wanted to do it…I also don’t think I could…but that’s why I admired your bravery which is also why you’re also more successful

@leylac3856 Ай бұрын

Shes not with her husband anymore?

@coffeewednesday553 2 ай бұрын

Mel was going through a very difficult time and she needed privacy, until the birth of the baby

@micalexandria 2 ай бұрын

I think they do it for views, and to become in the circle of being an influencer. It's really sad! Do it for fun, to educate.

@naomeshylineTv Ай бұрын

Hey Lady Patricia, may I have the name/link of your Rode microphone that you are using? Thank you

@Mabonga8 Ай бұрын

She is talking about the KZfaq GOAT Peakmill 🙌🏾🙌🏾

@TaylorTnava 2 ай бұрын

You do your makeup so fast 😭

@bonsaikitchen Ай бұрын

Big love from Bonsai Kitchen team. 🍴🔥🧑‍🍳

@Jointhebluezonefam Ай бұрын

It's obvious that her and her husband are not together because, as a wife myself, i would have hushed the rumor that my husband and i are no longer married. It's a quick come one guy me and Mike are locked in, and we have just decided to no longer document or post marriage on social media.

@getuphereletsdance 17 күн бұрын

Definitely talking about melissaswardrobe in the beginning

@cooky75015 26 күн бұрын

You may actually need some time off social media. It is ok to do it. We tend to forget it as we got acustomed to share everything online. It is indeed important to live in the moment off camera

@ndoe1200 Ай бұрын

I havent watched her vlogs since pre covid. At the start of video she mentioned breakup. Did she split up with her husband ?

@JulianAlbino Ай бұрын

gorge!

@cillae8119 Ай бұрын

The influencer your referring to isn’t the same kind of creator are you tho Pb. She also didn’t share her wedding or her show her home…

@coreysbaby3691 2 ай бұрын

❤❤❤😊😊 it's been a while

@balance0212 2 ай бұрын

Hi Sister's ❤ what is the name of the serum please? I have replayed the video multiple times and still cannot catch the name 😂😂

@anitadhm_ 2 ай бұрын

eclair parfumeries

@theohsospontaneous Ай бұрын

The brand is called cle de peau, if you screenshot the image you should be able to find it on the website :)

@awhi3765 Ай бұрын

I’m a nobody and when I was pregnant I didn’t tell a soul but family and close friends. If someone asked on social media because they heard from someone else, I would tell them. I was in my final few weeks before I ever made any comments relating to pregnancy and when I gave birth I shared a picture when my baby was christened. I’m just saying if me a nobody can value my privacy I don’t understand how public figures don’t. Fans don’t need to know your whole life. When you let them in too far it’s hard to keep them out later. Nothing wrong with holding the precious and emotional close to home.

@Flourish_today Ай бұрын

Peakmill is one private woman on this youtube. No one even knew she was expecting. We saw her baby when she was about 2 years old. Even her marriage was private. In fact, she made a video saying, "i got married and had a baby"😂😂😂. People were shocked because they expected to see a 2 day old baby. The baby was 2 years old.

@nickojunior2 2 ай бұрын

We back after a month 😂

@lucindawise5090 Ай бұрын

💯❤️❤️

@memeeemm 2 ай бұрын

every time you upload now it’s an ad :(

@adams8830 2 ай бұрын

So?

@chelsaamie4664 2 ай бұрын

Referring to Melissa

@suziesmith9076 Ай бұрын

Which Melissa?

@getuphereletsdance 17 күн бұрын

That’s what I was thinking

@getuphereletsdance 17 күн бұрын

@@suziesmith9076melissaswardrobe

@beverlynadom1109 2 ай бұрын

She’s from Nigeria😂

@maxinemuhammad5979 2 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿😍😍😍💯💯💯💯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿well said

@JANIQUEism 2 ай бұрын

cool video

@Natasha_StyleZ Ай бұрын

Better Help is so good if you are looking for a therapist, really love using them. Balance is key and sharing things that you are comfortable with 🌸

@katerinapavlou1586 Ай бұрын

Cute video

@user-rl8qn1nx5s Ай бұрын

She's not her authentic self any more 😊😄

@egems6088 2 ай бұрын

But you made money from the over sharing??? No

@theromadziba 2 ай бұрын

She said privacy over secrecy.she didn't overshare. She showed parts of her life now and then but she made money from being a youtube sensation and investing in property.

@Nixed_66 2 ай бұрын

Live and learn! Yeah she made money back then, but she was younger, the Internet has changed & she has adjusted her boundaries to what keeps her real life healthy & thriving. Oversharing comes at a cost & this info is out there forever. It's kinda like sharing a nude, in the moment it was good, you liked and trusted that person, but when the relationship ends, you might have some regrets, you might not want that person having that personal photo & you can't always control what they do with it.

@oni2278 2 ай бұрын

@theromadziba and the "sensation" was due to her "oversharing"

@theromadziba 2 ай бұрын

@oni2278 you mean shopping has and GRWM and product reviews

@tb22k 2 ай бұрын

Cover ur self up 😂❤😅

@NennaLena 2 ай бұрын

Who didn’t we know was pregnant?👀

@juliajulia1835 2 ай бұрын

I'm curious to know..

@Penguinpenguin23480 2 ай бұрын

Melissa’s wardrobe

@derrickomo8507 2 ай бұрын

You talk too much

@ChavonJWright 2 ай бұрын

It's giving stalker 😮😅

@aaaangeee 2 ай бұрын

What did you think she was gonna do instead?

@adams8830 2 ай бұрын

You complain too much.

@theromadziba 2 ай бұрын

You commented with this same comment some time ago.chill

@jackiedelvalle 2 ай бұрын

What else was she gonna do on a vlog? Dance?

@dominique2o06 2 ай бұрын

Good to see you even us who watched for years don't feel like we need to know all your business you've given us enough just good to see you focusing on mental and physical at the same time 🤎

@rawkid2345 2 ай бұрын

As an old time subbie I can’t lie I miss seeing you and model Mike lol but I definitely understand that the internet is just not the same as before 🩵🩵🩵

@princesstc987 Ай бұрын

After watching a few episodes about people being stalked...the internet is definitely not the same anymore. There's people out there who get unhealthily obsessed with people they see online and they don't fear the police