I know!! Like I feel like it is sketchy for me to be writing an essay!

Oh wow

Very typical!

Same, but when my roommate passes by. Or anyone else.

im 23 and same

Good. You'll learn something!

Yes but hopefully one day some of us will be parents

At least that means If you decide to become a parent you can parent in the best way possible.

@Dante Toshiro64 Sure, can't show this to my parents directly but will share the link in the extended family group which will bring it to their notice.

@@CommanderCodey Hopefully, I do think about stuff like that and I want to be one as I've been thinking what could be a better solution to a problem than what my parents told me.

@akplmn unless they’re mentally messed up from a bad childhood like mines

Feels that way, doesn't it? To some extent adults do forget what being a kid is like, especially when they aren't around kids enough in their adult life (until they have kids of their own). But more often, I think, it's that their own parents did that to them, therefore they now feel entitled to make their kids feel like crap.

I think it's cause of generation, if we were teens of our parents generation we might have different type of experience because of external factors of that times *:)*

I think it’s because of time. They do remember how THEIR experience was, but now that they’re in their 40s, they see time back then as passing fast, as “it won’t hurt forever, shut up”, they di remember what it was like, but can’t translate that empathetically. And also, we have a tendency to remember the good things and try to forget the bad ones.

@@ashsummermakaio4756 its more like how different the current world is than than the world when they were teenagers and they are scared of that new environment that their kids are in that’s why some parents are the way they are, they are uncertain of how their kids will turn out so they do what they think is best for their kids.

Nothing more true!!

I guess you're talking about me.

Either sneaky or the ones who demonstrate the equal & opposite reaction when they finally get a little freedom.

Yup can't agree with this more!

Yup. I'm a sneaky kid

yea they said it in a way not to offend gender-obsessed clowns (pronouns idiots)

I say the “kids will be kids” in general is not something you should apply.

You could have said that brain development during adolescence is definitely different between sexes. I think it's pretty important to be truthful when talking about stuff like that.

@@hussainalharbi9026 It sounds like you are the one who's obsessed with enforcing the binary model.

@@Nersius how hypocritical. I am not the one running around crying and begging people to call me what I am not and then proceed to make suicide threats. if you have a problem with who you are, go to a therapist.

Personally I think people should only be allowed to be parents if they have passed parenting lessons first.

@@SevCaswell I hate to get political but I feel like there’re a lot of political undertones in this comment section/video. I totally get what you mean, but I think allocating reproduction rights to the government is extremely dangerous. This is why I think it’s important to teach comprehensive sex education to decrease the rate of unwanted pregnancy, have easy access to family planning services, and having more community parenting.

@@SevCaswell agreed!!!

Sorry to read this. Hope you are doing better now.

@@GabrielRaskind Agree 100%

Sounds like you could use some drugs

@@wordsmith451 say nothinggg gimme them edibles 😩😩😩

@@NinjaArmyGaming do ALL THE DRUGS 🤪🎉

Naw, take it from someone who’s watched drugs screw over the lives of far too many people I know-drugs are the last thing you or anyone needs! You wanna kiss those dreams of home design goodbye? Getting into drugs is the best way to do that!

Parents are probably projecting

Wow you are so lucky. If I was visibly sick I was still forced to go

same thing for me, ive always had and still have trouble going to school sometimes because i was bullied for 7 years of my life, this including beatings every day at school I was so messed up mentally that i started to feel physically ill from it, like almost having to throw up each time my brain realized i was about to go to school Glad my mom realized that i wasnt faking it, i was really scared of that happening since i knew telling her wasnt gonna be an option with my anxiety Still went to the highest ''level'' of middleschool for the netherlands tho, (VWO) Altho after half a year and some small things going wrong, my anxiety spiraled out of control again, which led to 1.5 years of basically not going to school (this including almost committing suicide) Now in a special needs school doing HAVO level, and so far its going alr And all of that happened before i was even 14.. damn i just vented a lot

@@Dap740 awwh thanks

I have missed my university yesterday and today... bc I didn't feel like attending lectures, since I've mid sems next month...and my mom is actually supportive of it. so, yea! pretty lucky there

@@amalkardaly1652 aww, that's so not cool🥺

I'm really sorry to hear that your parents never showed you the love and attention that you guys deserved as kids. I hope you're doing better now and maybe seeing a therapist about your internal issues

I wish my parents could admit that what they did was wrong. I envy you. The previous generation's parents raised a generation of narcissists and sociopaths.

@@madpoetsociety2917 😔😔

Haha, I'm actually planning on not making kids because I dont want them to experience the pain I had when I was a kid

Yeah, I suppose... I'm a 14 (almost 15) year old boy and I live with my grandma. She shelters me and my sister quite greatly, I mean she doesn't even like us taking a step outside if she's gone, she has cameras watching the front yard and driveway, we are not allowed to visit friends (I asked many times when I was younger, like in middle school, and she always turned it down) and she literally believed that we will get murdered if we go outside. I should mention that we live in a mostly calm area of the suburbs, but I think her main concern is us getting onto drugs like the 4/7 of her kids did, and apparently she was strict with them but is more strict with us. I live in Portland, the city of bikes, and I don't know how to ride a bike! Its because I have quite literally not been allowed to learn, and to be honest, I don't think she's gonna loosen up any time soon. I believe that I'm gonna miss out on a lot of things, and I'm afriad that I'll have no stories to tell about 'when I was a youth'. I have tried to talk to her about it but she just doesn't listen. I mean, it'd be basically impossible for me to even get into an intimate relationship because I would be unable to be with them, but my grandma doesn't realize that. It has taken a serious toll on my mental health, I have chronically low self esteem and confidence, and although I know it will probably get better, I can't help but think that I won't get to do so many things...

Facts

The whole as long as you're 18 you're on your own thing is ridiculous, right? Like a month ago they still need to raise their hand in order to use the toilet, then just one month later and it's all "you're gonna make all the major decisions that will affect the rest of your lives on your own!" Pretty ridiculous.

Tell me you don't know what you're talking about without telling me you don't know what you're talking about:

The brain is never done growing. There are things where the brain is best as a Teenager, and there are things where the brain is best at, at age 50. But learning how to be a good afult takes some time, and learning in life, is brain changing and growing in the body. :)

Not actual brain cell reproduction, so not physical growth. That's called emotional development and maturity.

That almost always backfires. The only time "do as I say, not as I do" really works is when parents own up to their mistakes, and are honest about the consequences. I know some really, really great parents who say, "Look, I did these things as a kid. They were poor choices. This is what happened as a result. I expect better from you. I made mistakes so you don't have to." The key though is really brutal honesty.

Bunny I call that “do as I say, not as I did.” My dad was great at it. He was never shy about explaining about how he started drinking young and how alcoholism messed up a lot in his life and nearly killed him. He quit drinking when my brother and I were very little, so he knew we wouldn’t remember it. So he was honest about drunk driving, almost dying in a crash when he was drunk (no one else was affected. He hit a tree.), how he almost died from liver issues, how it affected relationships, etc. He also talked about alcoholic family members and how that affected him. How it continues to affect them. It meant that I pretty much don’t drink at all and my brother only ever drinks at his house because then he won’t have to drive. It was damn effective.

Ikr

It's justification for being a hypocrite. Now, if they were to say something like "I'm struggling with X and I don't want you to fall into the same patterns that I did because that would be better for you." But even in that, the parent has to be taking steps to rectify whatever they're doing wrong in their lives to show their kids that it's okay to not be perfect. That they can make bad decisions or do things without thinking but that they will face consequences and they will try to change for the better because it's the responsible thing to do. Being an adult doesn't mean you don't make mistakes. Being an adult just means you have to learn from your mistakes a lot faster and take appropriate steps to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Yep, you're not alone. I too wished KZfaq and this video had existed back then. I'm a millennial (born in 1987) and I appreciate the technology we have today, but my inner teen/child self wished KZfaq (and other technologies we have today like social media, Spotify, smartphones) had existed back in 1995/1996. This could've been handy for me (and for my mom) to help me transition from elementary to middle and high school.

You’re not alone ❤️‍🩹

Same. I’m 23 and this video is definitely a big help for new parents and teenagers

YUP 20 year old girl here, felt this!

I'm 23, you make me feel old. Back then lol

so trueeeee and it's sad that most of the viewers here are kids and not adults who need to see it

You too will forget

@@uwuluvmewaifu0029 that's quite a negative outlook watch the little prince my dude

It's hard on us. I was thrown in foster care and was abused in several homes. I now have my own kid and wouldn't throw him in foster care

Dismantle the Corrupt DSM Psychiatrists Bible///CPS social workers gets big bucks by taking children away from biological parents and putting them with foster parents and adoptive parents !!!

@@marypoole6064 yeah agreed

as an arab same

Pakistani parents too, like our parents totally didn’t do IT to bring us into this world 🙄

@@stcrrynght984 Yeah bro the bird came with the egg and you hatched you didn't know?

Are you saying you were a mistake? If your parents say sex doesn't exist then how did you come into the world.

@@f8keuser it's not literal

There’s a few of us parents. ;)

@@Annie_Annie__ that feels so refreshing to know!

Yeah, we're here.....just lurking in the shadows.

Ikr bro

Yea lol

I'm pretty sure it would've actually happened if a few big movements happened. It's just the fact that to change the the school schedule, they would also have to change the work start times for most of the jobs in the world

It's about after-school sports. They already run into the evening, could you imagine how late they would go if school started 2 hours later. The lack of elementary sports is why elementary schools start later even though little kids are up early.

You guys have it good. I'm from South Africa and school starts at 06h00 till 17h00

@@joyvanessandlovu5098 That's not the case for most South Africans, though

When I was in high school, it started for most students at 9am. It’s crazy hot where I live, so the athletics met before school a lot of the time to avoid having students running in 100°+/40°+C temps. It was great. Especially since there was an optional “0 Period” for geeks like me before 1st Period. I was able to take extra classes 9th-11th grade and thus take only 4 classes my senior year.

Me too. My parents aren't perfect but I feel so lucky and spending time with them is probably one of the best things ever. Instead of moving away from my parents as a teen I saw them more on a similar level than I did before. I love them both so much

my mom does this but i don't rlly play video games that often or watch movies that often either but she does allow me to have more freedom bc i'm responsible around the house and i have good grades

one thing you realize when you grow up is that not everything in fanfic is, uh, accurate, mostly cus a lot of it is written by 15 year olds who learned everything from fanfic written by 15 year olds who learned everything from fanfic written by 15 year olds

I never let my parents give me the talk. I'd just walk out of the room or otherwise go like "Nope". Besides, we learn in school so I didn't need to hear it from parents.

@@shadowess2614 haha. School. "So,today we're gonna learn chapter 8. I know you guys know everything..just go home and read...you will understand." Straight to baby in the womb

@@Kelly_C yeah!

Idk where I found about my period and sex🤣I just felt like it was just always there in my mind.

Sad... Be strong

@YooMee Bruh

@YooMee not true

@YooMee you do realise that boys too get eating disorders right... They are just humans like girls

I’m 20 and working out of unintentional disordered eating. A lot of things caused my issues, thankfully for me it wasn’t my parents. But school and peers and my mental health all put together was too much, I went down to 96 lbs earlier this year and it was honestly scary enough being sick all the time that I didn’t want to die. Even after the main events that caused my mental health to deteriorate went away, the effects of not eating enough for years was there. The only thing that got me to push through my body telling me to stop eating because “i should be full”, was reminding myself that I am worthy of sustaining myself and enjoying what I’m consuming too.

that's so nice, good luck with the kid!

Watch episodes of Supernanny and World's Strictest Parents

Just don't snap and tell them to do something bad, my parent did that and I broke

Don’t yell at them, for doing mistakes, like tripping or misplacing, my parents did that and I grew up paranoid because of that

Maybe check out stuff from the Mt Sinai Parenting Center, that these doctors put together

and even if u show this to them , they will play the victim role , and say " huh ? so u think i am a bad parent ?" and i wonder if they will even take effort to try and understand it .

Let's think positive. Many of these teenagers today are tomorrow's parents, so probably it will at least help the next generation.

@ambassador yeah right ?

This one

Ah, I'm so glad physical punishment on children is illegal in Sweden, here, any sort of it, is recognised as child abuse. I'm sorry you were subjected to bad parenting. I've had pretty strict parents too, and I feel you often don't realize how bad they've been until you notice a change or compare with others. After a lot of therapy on both my and their parts, our relationship is changing for the better, it's still not amazing, but we're trying. I feel you hard in the invading privacy and lack of trust, there's still so much anxiety and trauma within me that lingers from there. I hope you're able to talk with them and slowly improve your relationship.

Yes! It's what pacaderms ,like hippos, do

And that's why I refer myself as a 'Night Owl's :-D

@@aq6447 same

My friend told me at age 7, she had a book that explained it. I was horrified, ran to my parents, asked them if it wasn't true and they said it was. Then I cried, 😭😅 because I could never get a husband or children now. There was not a way in the world I would ever do such a thing! Well... let's just say "past me" never talked to "present me". 😂

I always thought it was strange how people waited to tell their kids until they’re older, I think it’d be interesting to know which age is the best to tell. Is it best to keep kids in the dark until they’re older, or make it common knowledge from the get go?

@@maggier4806 i think if you keep them in the dark until they're older, there's pretty much no way they haven't looked it up on their own by then, so what's the point in waiting?

Yeah, learning from a very young age is really the way to go, imo. I was 8 when my mom told me about sex and the general mechanics of it, why people do it and the possible results. All in an easy to understand and not gross way, of course. I didn't even have the maturity to understand the implications, nor the interest to test it, but I was sure glad to know everything going into my teens; I was always very clear on the fact I'd only want to start having sex if I was with someone I loved, and I made sure to go to the ob/gyn as soon as I became sexually active to make sure I was covering all my bases.

I have memories when I was still very young (something like 2-3) reading a book (a textbook) with my mom about reproduction. She made it all very understandable to me and didn't make it weird at all. I grew up more confused that people found sex disgusting- it seemed natural to me. Learning about it early destigmatized sex for me and made it easier to have conversations later about safe sex and how to treat partners.

My ma always told me "I'm your parent first and then your friend".

yeah, good for you mate..

Yes!! I create emphasis on this all the time I am a teen and THIS IS the key to parenting BE THEIR BEST FRIEND, having an understanding and open relationship will lead to trust and compliance

teen here , I suffer but my kids ain't gonna

@@markpereira3931 that's great! i really feel like gen z is gonna stop the 'im my day i suffered and you should too', i really hate it when old people get mad at us for living in a time more advanced than theirs

It's so heartwarming that despite this generation being messed up, we still collectively decided to say "the suffering ends with me."

@@angellivasco4063 how dare you use the technology your parents let you buy!?

Well done!

You are a great mom 👍

I wish my mom was like this

Your a great parent! your daughter will probably grow up with great mental health :)

as a person who grew up with manipulative, abusive and neglectful parents, while also still being stuck in said family, can I quickly express my gratitude, my current situation has left me with suicidal thoughts, anxiety, fatigue, trauma and many MANY more issues I am still pushing forward, but trying to hold in a rising breakdown all day is not fun I do NOT want more children/teens to experience this

ahhhh that sucks dude, i hope things improve

well... I think you should - but I'm not sure on what kind of a person your mom exactly is, so I can't say much regardless, stay safe

I have a similar mother, so please, PLEASE persevere It's difficult and the damage to your psyche is already done, but there's a whole life ahead of you that you can manage once you're free I will do the same. No matter how many times my brain fantasizes about death I will stay strong until I get out of this hellhole

@@spaghetti5914 I have the same mother. But the thing is, I feel like I'll NEVER get free. I'm stuck in these stereotypes that my mom keeps telling me "since your a girl youll only leave this house when youll get married". The problem is the thought about getting married literally DISGUSTS me. But there is also NO WAY that I live with her til I die.... Omg I don't know what to do

@@zyzzenjoyer6620 If you are an adult she has NO right to keep you like that, if you have another place to go you shouldn't worry about her, unless you live in a place where ideologies like that are common, if they are, I honestly don't know how to help. Maybe you could find work to live on your own, go to college or something or live with a friend or a partner (unless you don't want relationships in general). I can't help much here because I don't know how the adult life is much but one thing I am certain of is that if you are an adult you can dip outta that house and give no fucks about her opinion. If I were in a similar situation myself I'd ask to live with a friend for a while and maybe work shifts to help with rent till I get independent enough

Chances are people, who let video games and other forms of media like movies influence them to that degree, have other underlying issues.

Just because it's not turning you into a serial killer doesn't mean there is no effect at all. Like most things, moderation is an important concept.

I don't think video game violence translates to real life violence but it's also not very helpful in dealing with the stress and aggression we all naturally have. In a way violent games foster that kind of behavior because they reward it but at the same time don't provide much relief from your negative emotions. Teenagers generally have pretty strong emotions that often overwhelm them and it's good for them to develop healthy ways of dealing with them e.g. exercise or venting to a friend. Nothing wrong with playing video games occasionally even the violent ones but it should be done in moderation and never the sole method for dealing with feelings of aggression

As long as a person knows right from wrong before video games then they're good. If they're learning right from wrong from video games then they're either stupid, don't have parents or have a mental disorder.

“oH BuT RpG gamES” *hey isnt undertale an rpg *and undertale is about how your small action have permanent consequences *I think undertale taught the thing some parents didn’t

Maybe, through a more understanting adult relative or close family friend?

@@paolagrando5079 unfortunately I don't have any. But, I guess I will just handle the pressure.

@selenite. thanks for the idea. But that is too much work. Hahahahahaha

oh well

Ya never know.

Better to learn this stuff now, rather than learn it too late

Now have fun with an imaginary teen pregnancy!

samee

Dorohedoro pfp?? Shin.??

@@LL-oq5sf of course

@@rodolfoo3015 have you read the manga Waiting for season 2

@@LL-oq5sf I really want to read it. we've been waiting for the new season for too long

@@rodolfoo3015 the manga is one of the best The artwork is even one of the best in the world Art is on a whole another level for doroehdoro

That is where they lost me

The specific phrasing is a bit off though. Female and male refer to sex, which is genetic. It is the idea of gender that is assigned. Bio sex will still be medically relevant after full transition.

@@beth8775 science has evolved beyond this

Beth Most people don’t know their “genetic sex” for certain. They assume. But unless they’ve had an accurate DNA test, they could be genetically intersex (XO, XXY, XXX) and never know. So using “genetic sex” is just unhelpful if the vast majority of the population doesn’t even know definitively what theirs is.

Ikr

If you can translate it, maybe, you can send the traslation to the channel.

@@paolagrando5079 Can you? I though KZfaq shut down that option

@@miguelsalas4852 I don't know what option you are talking about. I'm just saying to write to the people who put up this video. There is, usually, an email address in the info of the channel.

Let me translate: Madre chingas miren que su puto hijo es depresivo, hagan algo por ello

@@romeo4764 oh thank god KZfaq added the translate comment option lmao

always awesome to see dads taking an active interest in being a better parent!!! I wish you and your child luck :)

it’s so nice for you to watch those! I’m sure you and your kid the best!

thats funny

I am not surprised if you say your mother 'make the first move'. She must be the 'dominant' in the relationship.

@@phazimahphazimah5542 i'd bet on that

oh you had to *teach* him about it? you sure that's your father bro?

My friend was once asked what would happen if he was insulted, and said he'd shoot back a nastier roast The adult gave a disapproving look and then asked me. I said, Honestly, same. She was not amused

On the bright side, she explained sex and all of its inner workings as soon as she thought I was old enough. (Around 10) And said that when I find the person I want to do the deed with, she wants me to go to her so she can get me a reliable IUD. I was absolutely shocked when I learned that none of my friends knew what an IUD was.

That doesn’t sound very feminist of her! I’m sorry you’re treated this way, from what you’ve said here it doesn’t sound like you’ve ever given her a reason not to trust you. ❤️

@@dissonantdreams This might be too much to share, tell me if it is, but I just want her to be proud of me. I just want her to hug me, to say she loves me without it being initiated by me every time. I don't want to somewhat "remind" her to say that she loves me. Every time I have a college deadline with writing involved and she makes me let her edit, and go over my work. And sometimes I cry because she is harsh. I cried when I was 14 and taking adult college classes. And she just.. she would interrogate me with questions. Asking if that was how I acted at the college, asking me if I act like that with teachers, why couldn't I take any criticism, why did I have to do my writing assignments over and over with no improvement. It hurt. Because I wasn't crying in front of my professor. I was crying in front of my mother, and I felt ashamed. I still don't know how to work through that..

@@madelinebogle7475 I’m so sorry, wish I could give you a hug ❤️ I’m probably closer to your mum’s age than yours, but I was a high-achieving teenager with a lot of unaddressed emotional issues going on and I often felt invisible in my family, so I can empathise with how you’re feeling. I actually ended up running away from home at 16. But my relationship with my family improved when I became an adult and now my mum and I are closer than ever. I hope things get better for you too Madeline, hang in there and please don’t worry about oversharing 🤗 x

@@dissonantdreams You have no idea how much your nice words mean to me. I’ll accept a virtual hug, I love any kind of hug. I’m a big hugger. I did start therapy kind of recently, I’m starting to work through being able to cry again. Thank you for being so nice, even when it’s just virtual

Sorry to dump this on whoever reads this.

Bro this

Why don’t u make a new password and don’t tell ur mom it?

@@Anthh07 last time i did that she threw my phone away

@@tamecountess let her know that when your older she wont be able to control you anymore

Pretty much every Asian parent summarised lol

This is purely a curious question, I don’t mean to offend you or anyone else, but could you explain to me the meaning of “fruity” other than gay? With all the (relatively) new attention to LGBTQIA+ and inclusion, I’d like to make sure I know about this, where I’d prefer to learn about it from a person rather than what was said somewhere on the internet. I’m also slightly confused about my sexuality, and I think it would be a good idea for me to be well informed but multiple sources

@@origamiorc467 the words “fruity/fruit/fruitcake” used to be a slur against gay men and other members of the lgbtq+ community, but has since then been reclaimed by the lgbtq+ community and has basically become slang when referring to someone who is acting or doing something that could be considered gay (although they don’t necessarily have to be gay)

@@origamiorc467 also, it’s not offensive at all! you’re welcome to ask and it’s great to experiment.

@@origamiorc467 The term "fruity" used to be a slur for gay or feminine men. It was believed that if you ordered a fruity/girly drink rather than liquor or beer, then you were seen as girly. It's been reclaimed so gay people might say it in a more lighthearted way because fruity sounds fun and colorful, but yeah, thats where it originally came from.

@@mizzie8304 I see, much thanks!

That's why they said "more likely"

@@saviitrius you are correct

Well sex education is necessary though? Just because u turned out fine doesn't mean the majority do

@@huhh6969 exactly, that's the point of my comment

Maybe not always parents, but someone needs to educate them about it. I believe it's a fundamental right--they deserve to understand every single aspect of how it all works and how everyone's bodies works. No point in making any of it a secret or awkward.

My parents never gave me the talk, and schools over here don't teach sex ed, yet I know everything about it. If parents aren't too strict teens are probably going to learn that without any help. Personal opinion of course

@hello bruh Their talk of gender is more scientific.

@YooMee Say "I" don't care, Jy's n pos. Voetsek.

@YooMee drink some water. Makes you better. Be better yoomee.

@YooMee Have a KitKat anyways

@YooMee lol bundle of sticks get a life

i love when the "boys will be boys" thing is used for lighthearted, wholesome, and weird fun, and not bad behaviors

@@ilemraz like me telling my friends to worship Marcus Laramie

Same here, I was born in 1987 (yes, I'm a millennial BTW), and I wish KZfaq and this video had existed way earlier like if YT had existed in 1995/1996 (went to Middle School in 1999), this video would've been useful to help me when I entered Middle & High school. Imagine my 12 year old me discovering this video back in 1999/2000 had KZfaq existed back then and I showed this to my mom and we watched it together. Imagine my mom telling me "Michael, if there's any issue or trouble in school or anything in your life. I'm there for you, I will always love and support you no matter what".

@@mdo7 I get where you're coming from. All my sex education and other forms of education I had to learn from first hand experience due to the lack of information I was given. It was especially hard for me since I come from a more conservative based family, meaning talking about sex or even dating was not in the cards for me. So I had to awkwardly stumble through it all on my own. It was tough. I'm just glad newer generations have this and other videos of its kind. I feel happier knowing resources like this are out there for others.

@@lucky2bucky187 Well I'm lucky, I come from a progressive environment, and my mom is more liberal/progressive so yeah. But still, I wish KZfaq had existed back then along with this video. So you're right, the newer generation are going to find it easier to show this video to their parent, and have a big talk about teen issues & myth. But to be honest as much as I appreciate the technology we have today like Iphones/smartphones, social media, Spotify, streaming media like Netflix, Disney+, Amazon Prime Video. I wish these technologies we have today had existed back when I was a little kid. My character and my trait could've improved and increase a lot had these technology today existed back then. I'll explain: -I'm a 2nd-gen Vietnamese-American, and I was embarrassed that I couldn't learn my parent/relatives native language because there was no class for it back then. That and my favorite Disney films I grew up didn't have Vietnamese dub (unlike today where Frozen, and Disney/Pixar's Brave are able to have them). If Disney back then had Vietnamese dub made for The Lion King, Aladdin, Beauty & The Beast, Mulan, and The Little Mermaid. Could that have made a big difference for me? It's possible. Also it doesn't help that Netflix has Vietnamese subtitles for TV shows and films. So had Netflix existed back then with Vietnamese subtitles support like today, it could've helped me a lot if that had existed back then. Could KZfaq's online Vietnamese language class could help me back then? Maybe, who knows. But now you see what kind of benefit KZfaq, and other tech we have today could've helped me if these existed back then. -I'm a hell of a dancer, I mean I dance like a natural and I didn't have any formal training. But when K-pop came in with their magnificent mind-blowing dance choreography and I became a fan of the K-pop genre in 2013 because of it, and looking at it today. I really wish K-pop group like BTS, Blackpink, Girls Generation (they were the one that got me into K-pop, so I credit them), Super Junior, Infinite, Stray Kids, ITZY, etc.... had existed if I was in elementary school. If Girls Generation, and BTS were a group that existed when I was in 4th grade back in 1997, I could've have maxed out/maximize my dancing talent in school. -Also I'm a big 80's music fan, but it was hard to find knowledge and even a way to listen about the artists or the music because there was no Wikipedia, no Spotify, no KZfaq back then. So I had to relied on compilation/collection CDs (or even an artists' CD copy I could borrow or burn), radio airplay, word of mouths, and random stumbling (like from an 80's movies, or any movies using 80's music as soundtrack), there was no way back in the 90's or early 2000's of watching a 80's music video because there was no KZfaq back then. So I couldn't find way to watch any choreographed dance from Janet Jackson, Debbie Gibson, Paula Abdul from that time. Again, I could've maxed out my dancing skill had KZfaq existed back when I was in elementary and middle school. You understand where I'm coming from, this generation and next gen kids (including my future kids) are so lucky with these technologies we have today. But for me and you, I wish these technologies had existed back then. It could've helped me a lot back then increasing and improving my character trait.

what do you mean inclusive?

@@perry750 accepting of gender diverse ppl, like saying "sex assignment at birth", doesnt necessarily mean they are/identify as a boy/girl/ gender non-comforming individual (i.e trans ppl have different gender assignments are birth then their actual gender, and phasing it that way doesnt exclude anyone including non-binary ppl). And how they talked abt periods as, "children who experience periods", instead of "girls" thereby including and not invalidating transgender ppl, and cisgender girls who can't have periods.

@@nyxlawal9105 ...

@@perry750 basically means the terms they used arent very gendered. like instead of girls and boys they just say teens.

@@ilemraz k

If at all possible, working with a professional is a good idea. You might be interested in a book called Intuitive Eating. Abbey Sharp (registered dietician) talks about it over on her channel.

Oh, I feel that. I remember telling my mom that I wanted to go to a therapist as a teen. She brushed it off, saying that I don't need it because "there's no reason for you to need therapy". I did go to therapy years later and it turned out that she didn't want to appear like a bad mom for having troubled children. The facade was more important than actually being a good mom. I can only recommend you to go to therapy once you're of age and your mom can't do anything about it.

Some of the parents who did this had horrible therapy experiences when they were younger. There were also prominent (now-debunked) studies influencing this mentality.

Yikes. I know she didn't mean it literally, but she's already off to a terrible start because they say 90% of therapy is listening & it sound like she's not doing that. Actually, on a strictly legal basis, you cannot be a therapist to anyone that you know in your personal life; family, friends anything like that. It violates ethical guidelines and people can lose their jobs and their licenses over it. The biggest issue is that there's no possible way for her to be objective about any of it. I'm sorry she's not listening. I'm sorry she doesn't seem to take it seriously or care enough. You don't deserve that. You deserve to have real help. Maybe you'll have to wait, but when you're a little older you can have a real therapist and start to work on what you need to work on then. Good luck ❤️

Almost the opposite for me, my mother once found out that I was writing angsty poetry and in a way threatened to bring me to therapy if I didn’t stop (I have social anxiety and am very scared of telling adults about my mental health because I know they have to tell my mother about it.) So yeah, rn I’m just lying to everyone that I’m totally okay 100% of the time :)

My mom was the opposite, she FORCED me to go to therapy. I had gone through a toxic friendship that was damaging for my mental health and she ignored it for so long. Then two years after I got over it (mostly, I still have trust issues) then she started making me go to it even though I explained to her I did not want to, I hope that you get to go to therapy soon. Sending my prayers ❤️

This is probably the best comment I've read so far. You make so many good points and I'm really glad that you learned what you learned and that they let you learn whatever you wanted. Learning is never a bad thing and I'm glad they did such a good job! ☺️

Yes!!

Was just thinking that.

Bruh

@@MushroomEternal bruh

wtf is happening with this world

If your parents can't be any good for you find someone else in your life who can treat you well, make you feel heard and help you find a sense of self-worth. Family is what you make it ❤️

@@pixiebells Thanks for the advice. 💙 But it is so hard to find and stay in contact with good people online. I did make a close friend through a Twitch chat of all places, we had so many deep conversations and light-hearted discussions, that I had never had with anyone else. It was a breath of fresh air. Then, we started to have a weird dynamic, feelings were caught and I don't think it was the same strength for both sides. I got very busy and didn't respond to a message for a while. And I started to see his true character which was extremely pessimistic and flat. His responses started to be short and without a heart. Now, I do have this knack for somehow killing all online relationships eventually. Anyway, he ended up sending a short message and I could think of nothing to say back so I just didn't respond and haven't talked since.

I contemplating if I sh0uld even say anything cuz im not sure I can help. I do have one thing that may help. You need to try and communicate how you feel to your parents and if they refuse to listen then try maybe try one more time. If that fails then cut them off as soon as possible. Don't feel sorry either cuz that's on them.

@@Xturnia Honestly one of the best things you can do for yourself is find a therapist. Nowadays there are lots of therapists that you can actually talk to fully online, so I don't think your parents would even know. I don't know all the details with paying or anything, but I think that would be the most helpful for you ❤️ even after you're out on your own, you're definitely going to want to get professional help. I've been seeing a therapist pretty much continually since I was 18 and now I'm in my thirties. It's worth it. Finding people to connect to is very hard especially if you don't have interaction with other people in your daily life. I'm sorry he disappointed you in the end. I would keep trying to reach out and find people with common interests; that's the best way to meet new people and doing that online now is a lot easier than it was 20 years ago, trust me. And yes, get out as soon as you can. If they're not going to take care of you and love you the way that you're supposed to be taken care of and loved, you owe them literally, absolutely nothing. Not any of your time, not any of your affection, not any of your money, your hard work, nothing. As soon as you can get on your own, walk away and ignore them. It's going to be hard because you're probably not going to have a whole lot of money right away. You might be sleeping on friends couches, might be living on ramen, might have the cheapest phone you can buy, but you'll have some semblance of peace & self-respect. Never work for your families' business ever again. They're obviously using it to control you, keep tabs on you and use it to tear you down. They clearly don't appreciate the work you do, so it's not worth it. I hope I'm helping. 🤗

@@pixiebells So, I do get basically everything I need/want within reason (internet, food, clothes, electronics, etc.) and I am reminded of this quite often. I def feel like I owe it to them to help with the business to repay what they have done for me financially. I don't want to seem materialistic but yes, it would be very hard giving it all up. But if I want my mental health to be in a good state, I am going to have to eventually. Also, I would love to see a therapist, but I know they can be quite expensive. I've joined a discord server for mental health and it is a nice supportive community. I want to talk to people over a voice call, but my room is right next to my parents so I feel like I am always being listened to :( I just feel trapped between a rock and hard place right now, and I honestly don't know where I could go. I do enjoy photography and want to make it a career but it is so hard to stand out with over 120k employed in the US and lots more freelance. When I look at the future all I see is a black wall.

Yes, this can be delayed too. It can take longer to develope in some. I couldn't take morning classes during University without burning-out from stress. Or also, you can look into getting screened for other things. Like adhd or High Functioning Autism. Alot of the medicine used to treat those, also are used for narcolepsy. Of course this highly likely won't apply to you. It did for me though, when I realized I had adhd and some how my sleep/wake cycle worked out better after the treatments. I wake up feeling like I get more benefit from the same amount or even less sleep than before.

Hello fellow bee!

@@SirFigBar Hello!

@@CantStopLee I should probably rephrase that. *Ahem* hello fellow nonBEEnary

@@CantStopLee fellow enBEE

@ambassador Really? I've never heard this before the vid.

And I'm glad I'm not you.

I'm the female version of you 🙃

That means 0% chance of having an unplanned baby and contracting STI by your own doing.

@@Dimitris_Balf Onii-chan, you can ditch the drunken bar sex and just get an onahole ^3^

I'm you, but with no girlfriend 😳

I had some negative coping mechanisms with self-harm too and while I did eventually get help at first my parents didn't take it very seriously. My behavior kept getting more unusual and erratic until I finally had a complete breakdown and went to the hospital. Turns out I had undiagnosed bipolar disorder. I'm not saying anything like that is necessarily the case for you, but if your parents won't listen find someone else to talk to because I can tell you from experience it is a dangerous road to go down and it is extremely lonely. Finding help is the most important thing you need. ❤️

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