The moment I stopped backing out of conflicts and started standing my ground, my own life experience turned way better.

If Jordan Peterson choose not to confront Bill C-16, we may never have discovered his lectures. Meaning that millions of people who were helped by the lectures wouldn’t have found motivation to reorganize their lives

Not having an appetite for conflict is OK, Not standing your ground IS NOT OK, I have found that taking on a Good Fight is generally a worthy thing. 1 of the most powerful things is a person that is humble,kind and UNDER no circumstance will walk away from a Just Fight!

I'm not saying to throw assertiveness out the window when you're being bullied, but use discernment; especially when dealing with your spouse. The problem with conflict is when you enter into it, you are fighting to be right instead of being open to the fact that you may be in the wrong. When two people are preoccupied with their need to be right, the only thing that results is a war of attrition with words as ammunition. You're verbally recreating the western front, which is a good way to destroy a marriage or other intimate relationship. Reserve conflict to keep you from being walked over, but think in terms of using negotiation as the first resort.

Find it funny how compose Greene stays in all his interviews, he always waits to speak rather shoving facts down your throat like every other interview or conversation there is

Embracing conflict helps build your endurance for what you may have to endure in this lifetime. Simply embrace it. My life changed after I stopped running from conflict.

I credit The 33 Strategies Of War with helping me deal with 'bullies' in my own life. I learned how to use language in the third person but also to use language suitable for a 'non-alpha' towards another 'non alpha' or even an 'omega male' in potential conflict. A 'non-alpha' coworker was chastising me once in front of others for not 'asserting' myself in a physical work activity. Usually the 'bullies' and the timid ones often end up swirling around together at the 'bottom' of the hierarchy. I was the 'timid' one. And the 'bully' has to show the others that he's not the 'last in line.' In this situation I basically made sure I was out of view of physical retaliation (especially non-eye contact) and I shouted to him in a monotone, almost submissive manner, 'you give me orders and I'll do what you tell me to do!' Because he knew instinctively he was 'low' on the work totem pole hierarchy, he immediately felt 'shame' in front of the others and kind of dwindled away, swearing to himself. And because my comments were purely 'tribal' in verbiage, there was a lot less fear of retaliation.

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Conflict avoidance has caused most of my biggest issues as an adult

Can both of them write a book together 😔

I grew up being told that teasing was unkind. Later in life I learned that I can tease back, nothing feels like hurty words, and I can make people laugh which is the best part. Getting into an awkward situation and making light of it with a mild joke eases the tension and often I make a good friend with the person I’m having a difficult conversation with.

I like the concept of ratios and proportions. It sounds like authentic communication,boundaries & needs being test and met. The problem of conflict avoidance stems from childhood. We saw in our brains our primary caregivers being abused or abusive and we were hardwired to not want to repeat that. Shadow work is basically trauma processing work. You dont just suddenly decide to be assertive you become that person through transformation whether small or big.

Great clip. Love the point about conflict not being fun or enjoyable, but that you have to stand up for yourself and not be run over by mini tyrant in your significant other. I saw this happen alot with my parents and saw the importance of the good that happened because of opposing forces both got to see the good and the evil didn't win. I'm fighting with addiction and being in treatment with people that are total opposites and mentalities that would never be able to live next to the other, and yet we are all growing and finding good in our own individual lives. This life is short and painful, finding peace and being a light in the world. Trying to better everyday

I would say dont avoid

Wow 😃 glad I stumbled across this.

i've listened the audiobook of 50th law and it is a true gem. and the real power standing for yourself first. then everything comes along with it. thank you for sharing this

Yeeeess!!!! Been learning to fix this lately and it's amazing!

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