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“They want to be City Boys in their 30s 40s 50s and 60s” 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣

So basically these men want a woman’s body but a man to be in it 😆

What these men don't understand, just on a shallow level, is that they want to work their women to the bone yet expect them to look high-maintenance and well-rested. Many men are not realistic.

Out of wedlock culture has tragic consequences.

My mom is a pick me I’m glad I’m learning this early!!

That’s because those women family members didn’t have men provide for them. My son doesn’t see it yet either but he’s 13 and I’m telling him now he’s needs to be able to provide for his family.

I can confirm what you are saying .. I’m a nurse and I’ve worked in nursing homes for years and what I’ve noticed is most of the men are left to die... it’s really sad when you see it. Some have no families whatsoever who come and visit them .. This is especially common with black men....

As a single mom myself I cannot understand why these mothers raise their son’s to be whimpy men that their girlfriend is supposed to take care of. My son is 11 and I drill in his head about being getting a good paying job, taking care of his family and being a provider. Making good money. I also surround him with male family and roles models that are that way. For me as a single mom it is an opportunity to actually raise a good man not bring another man child into the world.

"He'd rather jump off a cliff and break EVERY bone in his body than provide." That's true they do exist.

Yes, the mothers and sisters sometimes are the ones to help to promote the deadbeat behavior because they want to come first, not the girlfriend/wife.

If you pay your bills and your mans bill you don't have a man..you have a son,and that's problematic and detrimental to any relationship and creates a spoiled and entitled man

In the words of Ali Wong, “The word two income household makes me want to vomit “.🤮

When you said "MEN HIT THE WALL" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 that's what I've been saying. They think they immortal or something..lol we all age.

My mother was wit a dusty man: my father. She fell for him because he looked good. My ex was a dusty. He didn’t have shit to offer me, but I got with him anyway because I thought he looked good. Never again will a date a dusty. I’m breaking the cycle forever.

A guy I went on a date with 2 weeks ago asked me if I noticed any common threads with the men I've been interacting with. One of my observations were men that want an independent submissive woman. . We both chuckled.

Another problem is the influence of popular (unfortunately black) culture/ pimp culture . A lot of boys are watching men from a young age treat women like they are so disposable. Meanwhile news flash Jerome YOU ARE NOT A MILLIONAIRE. You better find you a good woman and settle down or you’re gonna end up old, depressed, and without any legacy to speak of. It will be like your whole life was a waste. I see it all the time.

EVEN FLORIDA WAS A STAY AT HOME MOM IN THE PROJECTS !!!

Ladies, NEVER deal with a man who proudly declares himself a "mamas boy" and she is chronically single. If I hear a man say that I always ask about the mom and if that's the case he ain't gonna hear from me again...I say nothing and run away

I broke up an engagement years ago because he wanted fiffty

Men today are much different from 50 years ago.

Wow, you hit the nail on the head sis....they will die alone, sick and bitter. I'm in the medical profession and man let me tell you, when you see these men with an aide instead of family and people who love and care for them it's a sad sight indeed.

Wow...Chloe, you have blown up in these streets of KZfaq and I am not surprised because you’re dope....! Thank you for this wonderful commentary!

It took me to be left alone Mother’s Day weekend while my bd went out of town and didn’t answer his phone. I was so confused on how i got in that situation. I took responsibility for my own actions, and forgave myself and the men i ALLOWED to treat me like trash. I leveled up mentally and my daughter has seen nothing but luxery lifetstyle by quality men. And even asked me why she never SEEN me have a boyfriend,(been on plenty of dates) she’s 5 and i couldn’t be more happier

My ex called me a gold digger. I told him if I am a gold digger I picked the wrong mark. This 56 year old MAN had nothing. Couldn’t even pay for the date most of the time. My lesson is learned. Never will I do that again.

Serena Williams said in a interview "black men needs and wants to feel like they are the woman in the relationship" I think the reason for this is: Black women after slaveru had to work as nanny for white folks leaving their kids alone at home thus lots of black men have an avoidante emotional attachment style where as adults they punish women by ghosting/ignoring becoming emotionally cold (unconsciously punishing his mother) because they did not had the emotional nurturing every child needs to form healthier secure emotional attachments as adults.

Chloé, I love your no BS policy and have much admiration for saying it like it is. I used to be one of those women to settle for a fifty fiftier was made to believe that’s how “normal” is. The saddest part is too many females fall for this bs specially in their younger years. At 32 single mother with a child i decided to shift my focus into a prosperous direction. Remember money matters, money buys comfort and piece of mind. It’s time we women of colour see ourselves in much higher regards, it’s time to break the cycle.

Can Men Flourish if they don't Provide and Protect? #Leggo

Went on a date with this very handsome Indian guy who’s ex was a whites woman. The entire date he kept asking me about law school, when I’ll be done and basically what I was bring to the table. Then this man proceeded to tell me his white ex wife die nothing, brought nothing to the table then proceeded to tell me he built her a house from the ground up. Unbelievable. We as Black women have to bring everything to the table not as soon as they meet a yt woman she can chill and be provided for

New Subbie! Please keep waking up the people! I was screaming yes! During the whole video! I am a stay at home mom. I agree with EVERYTHING you said. When I first got married my husband told me he pays all of the bills. I can work if I want to, but that money doesn’t go into the budget. His mom had a problem with that. Luckily, she got over it.

See, this is what confuses me. I have dated men who wanted to have a traditional relationship with traditional male-female dynamics. But then....I hear, I don't want to always pay for our dates, it's unfair. But I thought in a traditional relationship, the guy picks up the bills? You established that you want a traditional relationship from the beginning and now, you feel like you're spending too much money for our $5 Tuesday nights, and our Dennys and Chili's Saturday afternoons, and you want me to start picking up the tab sometimes. So what is it. Do you want this to be a a 50/50 relationship, which is cool, or do you want us to be Ricky and Lucy? Which is it? Like, this stuff genuinely got me confused.

“They want to be City Boyz” 🤣🤣🤣 sis I’m hollering

Girl you done did the damn thing on this video, you did not hold back! So many BM really do expect to have it bot ways and BW need to stop coddling TF outta their sons. Break the damn cycle!

Black women particularly compete with their daughters for their daughter’s partners, and friends.

I love your channel I only wish I knew this in my 20s , I’m saving everyone one of your videos so I can teach my daughter. Well done 💕

OMG!!! I dealt with that in my last relationship. His mom and sister felt he should spend all of his money on them. He always tried giving me the crumbs and said he needed to take care of the "family" I thought I was alone, but now I know I'm not.

Excellent video as usual. I forward these to my daughter whose ex is a dusty-which is the father of my wonderful grandson and he sadly believes he doesn’t need to provide financially for his son. She supported him financially for a LONG TIME. She finally give him the boot. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Whew That part about sisters & moms. My last EX took me to meet 1 of his 5 sisters once. She had just had a baby and bought a new house with her husband. Anyway she was talking about how a (female) friend of theirs was so disgusting and selfish for also just buying a new house with her husband after ALSO just having a baby but NOT contributing financially (like she was) to the home and not helping out the husband, smh. I was so disgusted at how she was even comfortable saying that. I just KNEW that wasn’t what I wanted to get myself into. Moms and sisters who are masculine pick mes’ will be the downfall of the brothers and sons sometimes!

I really wish more men could here this.

This is one of the few women that I hear telling us how it is for both men and women who don't have themselves together. If both men and women can accept some of the hard truths that we are hearing, we can have a better society. Masculine energy for men and feminine energy for women.

That T-shirt tho 🤪🤪🤪 #BlackWokeBrokeButStillDope 😒😒😒 is Wild & completely true about most of the mentality these days.... smh

Thank you..I'm really changing my thinking.

What do you say about men who use being a provider/breadwinner to control, belittle, and abuse women?

Boy I’m going through it😢 I’ve been watching all your videos to get me through... broke up with my DUSTY and I’m 7 months pregnant with his 2nd child and now he’s not doing s*

I appreciate this 100% and wish more women knew their worth.

I learnt the hard way thank you for the message.

We were very young, but the first BM I had a real relationship with said that stay at home mothers were gold diggers! Lol. I did love him…but when we broke up, I moved to an apartment….he moved home to his mother’s house. Lol…he have a good heart, but he was a boy. No understanding of what I learned from my mother and father. My dad was a provider…bought my mother the home she wanted, cars, boat, we vacationed several times a year….cabins at Christmas, etc. They set the bar very high for me, and now I am married to a provider who is the best lover I’ve ever had, my best friend, my teacher, and my hope for humanity. If half the world was as good a man as he is, this world would be a much better place. I wish I could stress enough to women how important it is to marry a provider. But he is also not American, he is British. My mother is not American, she is Jamaican. We have different expectations and standards than Americans, especially the men, who are supposed to be the leaders of a family unit. But they continue to argue that marriage is a scan…50/50 this and that…and it makes me sad to see my girlfriends struggling with these dusties. These women need to get passports and never look back! I speak the truth, here!

I've been there. Tried holding a 50 year old man down. He was a so called manager in training at McDonald's when I met him. I don't know if he was fired or quit. Every job every after that, he quit. He would come up with the lamest excuses. "You won't braid my hair". 1st of all...a 50 year old man should not b trying to still wear braids.. ESPECIALLY when he's starting to go bald at the top of his head. I told him, I shouldn't have to worry about his hair. He should've been making sure MINE stayed done!. I put up with it for a while, but I got away from that bum!

REAL TALK Sis!! 💯💯 Such truth and all I can say is Thank You!!!!!! Please stay on YOUR purpose Lady!❤️

I'm binge watching all your videos and I appreciate all this information. I feel like I have found my community. No one around me has this mindset and want to "build with a man"

They wanna know what that mouth do😭😂🤣😂🤣 I absolutely love your energy! Thank you for uplifting black women & making your videos fun at the same time 🙌🏿🤗💜

yes ! thankyou chloe, why aren't more women talking about this?

I came across your channel yesterday and I was subscribed within minutes...I absolutely love your inputs on the hypergamy topic. I’ve been tuned in all day at work...keep it up lady. ❤️ 💜

I really wish I had learned all this much earlier in life 😩🤦🏾‍♀️ Thank you for posting 💞

I admit that I WAS a dust bunny mule. Now single and happy at 48 andddd financially stable and all the things and behaviors from the past have been disected and no longer practiced. If a man were to be invited in (they are like vampires so I am cautious ⚠️ af) he will have no choice but to be a GOOD thing in my life.

the And I- oop! had me screaming!

Yes Sis!!! You beat THIS topic down!!! Can't be any confusion left!!

This video is spot on. I'm soooo glad I've SUBSCRIBED to this channel

You’re always dead on with your messages ❤️❤️

I so appreciate you...continue to bring awesome content..

I have 3 sons, 18, 10 and 8. My 18 year old has been working since he was 12 in my husband's lawn care business, volunteered at the community library, and found his own job at 17 working in a grocery store, his school also has a work study program where he learned how to work in a bank office and do technical support at a hospital. My oldest also has a 1st degree black belt in martial arts and is on his way to college on an almost full academic scholarship and wants to major in computer engineering. And my youngest sons stay on honor roll and have their blue belts in martial arts and help their dad in the summer time with his lawn care business. All children must be cultivated by being kept busy learning productive skills and boys need to be around men to show them how to be masculine.Men need to be strong defenders, they need to know the pride and joy of having your own money and budgeting it for yourself and your family. They need wisdom,respect for all women, good manners, self love and a God centered morality. The parents now are going to need to raise the future generation and teach the current generation how to be men for our righteous daughters, feminine righteous women, and our nations suvival.

Chloe you are soooo on point. Young women, middle aged women, and older women will learn something listening to this video. Your work is very much appreciated, thank you ❤

Chloe, thk you for this channel it is helping me have a greater understanding of myself and role.I am your target market. Blessings from Trinidad.

You are 100% correct my dear.

Chloe, thank you. U needed to hear this!

I love perspective, Thank you Chloe.

New subscriber from London. Your content is on fire x

That part Chloe said about bum men being found rotting in the basement alone is true. My former coworker whose deadbeat son's father passed away from Covid in 2021 in his apartment alone. No one knew until maintenance came 1 week later and his son found him. That man had put her through hell in her younger years. She is now married to a Provider husband though for 20 years. But this just proves true that the bum men that have the 50/50 mindset or reject their responsibility of providing & protecting for their offsprings really do end up having bad luck!!

I keep thinking about the couple Will and Jasmine on the show Married at First Sight. Jasmine wanted a provider, and Will wanted 50/50. Needless to say, their relationship didn't work out.

I can't thank you enough for this work of Art Just A Blessing to My Upgrade 💞💕

I was in a long distance relationship with a 52 years old Guy who is living with his daddy to save money... A stingy and 50/50 Guy , I was so blinded

"Territorial pushback" you are spot on.

I don't do no 50/50! If he can't run it, I will shut it down, and do me!

😂😂😂Chloe you are right on point

I never heard so much facts in one video 😩🙌🏽

My favorite video so far. Thank you

Perfect example of this is youtuber “Cooking with Strongmommy chrissie”- her video My marriage is over is a perfect example of this- she has 9 kids with 7 baby daddies . Sad just sad🤦🏾‍♀️

Lord!!..those sisters and mother-in-laws...smh..I love way you make this mess make sense...while youre talking, its like I'm seeing my life flash before my eyes...wow.

Thank you Chloe!

I wish that I had this wisdom growing up!

You speak so much truth and have answered many questions I had about why I attract the wrong guys. Thank you!!

I love this woman..I have been listening to her for just a day or so and I have learned so much and I will be applying her info to my life.. but I must say..she is too funny...😅 #Subscribed

👏👏👏👏👏You said it all, Chloe!

I love this Chloe you are so smart!

Hi Chloe, I’m a new subbie and I love your content. I would love to see videos on plastic surgery/injectibles/fillers (as far as improving/maintaining appearance if hypergamy is a woman’s goal) and also Black women dating outside of their race in the journey to hypergamy. Thanks! ❤️

Girl where u come from where u been at my whole life why am I just now finding you ????? Edit: about the thing about men’s sisters and mothers feeling entitled to his money , my child’s father mother has always harbored hatred for me because of the way her son has always provided for me and his daughter no matter what🤦🏾‍♀️ I feel as though it’s toxic and unhealthy to feel like this toward your own child

So true. Florida Evan's was a stay at home wife in the project's !

My natural father was a misogynistic dusty and I had zero respect for him. My mother left him so he found the next lady to be a workhorse. I was engaged to a dusty man myself and left him because his mother saw him as her surrogate boyfriend. I was so good to her but all she tried to do was to compete for his attention. After I left him, she introduced him to a new woman and apparently quite a downgrade. Those dusties do that once we realize they’re getting over on us and we’re smart enough to leave.

You are speaking the truth.

All praises to TMH sis ...

Yup! I had a weak man tell me that he doesn't take females out to seafood restaurants because his sister and female cousin told him he spends too much money on dates. Wow. Then he proceeded to tell me about his 2 kids by 2 babymothers and how 1 of them just want the child support even when their kid lived with him. Smdh. But of course he still wanted to see me.

yes i understand this so much

Can you please make a video about how to act with your little brother (do's and don'ts) or how to raise a child to be a masculine man. I am so grateful to discover your channel, thank you for the precious advice.

I don't know any mother who wants to pay everything...including me....what I say is that men just want to take advantage of women, I don't respect any man who don't provide, let them stay w their mothers

This was really good Chloe

I love your content. It is very appropriate.

I love your videos. You cover a lot of the word games and titles that are used by men to attempt to manipulate a women’s mind and behavior. It’s a psychological land mine of boxes women are suppose to fit in. It’s a joke. I’m glad I’ve learned to not be the people pleaser, clean up woman, doormat and Barbara the Builder I use to be. Lol! Wasted time...

Thank you for your video! First hand experience, young African in his 30s wants everything !! MONEY , IPADS , LAPTOPS , IN ALL I SPENT OVER €2.000 On this guy! I was in love with him ! He took advantage!

3:00 I just inquired about a video about this last night and here it is on my feed today.

I so wish i had your videos in ny life in my twenties...or before i had children. I find it so interesting that men get so mad when woman have standards especially when she doesn't believe in the 50/50. And its always the dustiest men that want the most from women.